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Anatomy of a Scene – The Dream
"In his 30+ years as a police officer, he means well but he has noticed an increasingly brutal fact that is inescapable. The world has become more unforgiving, violent, and it is hard for him to make an impact whereas at the beginning of his career, he sought to make it a better place."
Tommy Lee Jones is an elderly police officer overmatched in the excellent 'No Country for Old Men' (2017). He is overmatched for a number of reasons including not being able to keep up with the actions of violent men who show no compassion or no remorse. Throughout the film, he is always just a step behind the sociopathic Anton Chigurh and fails to either apprehend him or to prevent him from killing innocent people. In his 30+ years as a police officer, he means well but he has noticed an increasingly brutal fact that is inescapable. The world has become more unforgiving, violent, and it is hard for him to make an impact whereas at the beginning of his career, he sought to make it a better place.
Ed Tom Bell is your average protagonist who means well, wants to do right in his work, and believes he can do good but finds himself overmatched and overwhelmed by what he is asked to do. When he thinks of his future, he wonders what is left for him and if retirement will bring him peace or have him think back on what could be.
The dream scene begins with Ed Tom, now retiring, looking out of his window at his farm's seemingly barren landscape with a sole tree to his left through the window behind him. A man of seemingly few hobbies and fewer words, he thinks about his day ahead and thinks about the possibility of riding around on his horse. Not too enthused about it, he also asks his wife if he should help around the house. Seemingly because he is less than skilled at this work, his wife believes it's better that "he not." He asks if his wife will join him riding but she is still working and a member of society actively.
Resigned to his fate as a retiree instead of being an active police officer, he reflects to his wife that he's had dreams and he wants to share them. She says that he has time for them now and that she'll be polite while he remembers them. He goes ahead and states that there were 'two dreams', they were 'peculiar' and both of them involved his father who has long passed away. Ed Tom is an older man than his father ever was indicating his father passed away at a younger age that of which Ed Tom will live to be longer.
The first dream is almost like a flash as most of our dreams tend to be with the details muddled and hard to recall. Ed Tom only states that he meets up with his young father in town and he leaves him some money perhaps as a way of his father being there for him even if he wasn't present physically in his life. Similar to losing his father early in life, Ed Tom believes he lost his money in the dream as well leaving him without help as his father's early death may have inadvertently done.
The second dream is much more imaginative and involve Ed Tom and his father living in 'older times' perhaps when the West was not settled and was lawless. He is no longer a police officer maintaining law and order but rather a horse rider having adventures with his father as he wishes they perhaps would have had time for had he lived longer.
This second dream is much more vivid as Ed Tom recalls how it is cold, they are going through a mountain pass together. They ride together in the snow among the mountains of the night until his father rides past him with no explanation and his blanket wrapped tight against him. This is confusing to Ed Tom at first knowing how hard it is to be without his father who he loves and must face the cold world without him as if he has been abandoned again. Though he may have lost his father, Ed Tom recalls how his father was carrying ahead a fire and a horn of a golden moon color, which gave him comfort despite the fact that he was not with him riding together.
"He was going on ahead, fixing to make a fire." Ed Tom believes his father in the dream is out there doing this noble act in the middle of all the dark and cold, which is brutal to handle. "I knew whenever I got there, he'd be there…then I woke up." The hope that Ed Tom haves is that his father even though it seems like he abandoned him as the son is that he really is instead looking out for him and paving the road ahead with light so he would not abandon his hope.
He believes that his father even though he may not be there with him wants him to keep going ahead and to meet him eventually instead of becoming deterred. He paves the way for his son to chase the flame of his absence and to resolve to not let the dark encapsulate him fully. Ed Tom's expression about the dream is one of resigned sadness that his father is no longer around but also one of lingering strength to believe his death was not in vain and that he will reunite with him one day. His father, like him later, use their lives to keep the flame and the light moving forward even when surrounded by the darkest aspects of human nature.
Like any dream scene in a movie, this one has a deeper meaning behind it related to one man's grief involving the loss of not only his livelihood but of his hope for a brighter future for humanity. Having seen the horrors that people inflict on one another, he may be resigned to that fact but he also believes his father would have wanted him to keep the flame 'alive' and to keep carrying it forward throughout his life even if things looked bleak. His death did not stop Ed Tom from keeping the flame moving in his own life and to carrying it forward in the hopes that he would bring it to his father someday when they would eventually be reunited in another lifetime or in another dream that seemed real.
Author Ben W.Posted on June 2, 2020 September 10, 2020 Categories 2000's, 2007, 21st century, adversity, anton chigurh, doubt, drama, dreams, ed tom bell, emotions, entertainment, fathers and sons, feelings, film, films, metaphors, movies, no country for old men, retirement, themes, thoughts, time, tommy lee jones, violenceTags 2000's, 2007, anton chigurh, classics, drama, dreams, ed tom bell, father and son, films, good and evil, human nature, humanity, metaphors, movie scenes, movies, reflections, retirement, scenes, themes, thoughtsLeave a comment on Anatomy of a Scene – The Dream
The Need to Have a Social Conscience
Keeping with what's been going on in the world lately, I believe it's important to reinforce just how important it is now and into the future the need to have a social conscience. What do I mean by a social conscience? Boiling down the formal definition to even simpler terms, it is the feeling derived from caring for others more than yourself. You feel the urge to put others' needs before your own. It does not mean to stop caring for yourself and taking care of your daily needs but to think of others who rely on you and to put them first especially for family members and friends.
However, having a social conscience goes beyond just our family and our friends. It goes for our immediate society as a whole whether it is the community you live in, the nation you reside in, or the world you inhabit. You feel responsible for what goes on outside of your own life and those of family and friends to think of a larger picture. To have a social conscience is to see beyond your own problems and to see the injustices that continue to plague our world.
You also have to realize that your problems while difficult or not unique and others are going through the same tribulations as you are and sometimes worse. Having a social conscience involves putting yourselves into the shoes of other people and to realize how they could possibly be helped and how you personally can be involved in assisting them. Showing concern for others is the right way to have a social conscience and also to think about how these injustices can be resolved. Any individual can make a difference by having a social conscience and by taking it upon themselves to change their behavior to reflect their new attitude.
How do you show your social conscience? There are numerous ways to do so and you could even put them on a scale from small actions to large movements designed to change the foundations of the society. In the case of a social conscience, I find that it's like exercising your body. You don't want to take on too much weight or distance at first for weightlifting or running. You should rather want to start small and build up your actions over time and to be more ambitious.
For some examples, starting off small with your social conscience can include environmental stewardship, collecting donations, or getting involved in your local community. Any of these actions can create a ripple effect and can cause a shift in societal behavior for others to follow your lead or for the actions to spread to other people and even communities based on how consistent and courteous you are with these goodwill efforts. For environmental stewardship, it could be recycling your own bottles and cans each day and getting your neighborhood to do so as well.
You can also plant trees and install solar panels on your house if able to gather momentum from smaller actions. Donating your own clothes or extra food can lead to organizing food drives or even creating your own organizations to help collect donations in your town or city. Leading a local trash pickup event can lead to other future leadership roles for yourself such as running for your child's PTA (parent – teacher association) board to running for the town / city council board seat. Social consciousness does not have to encompass all of humanity but rather as the popular saying goes, "think globally, act locally."
As long as you are having a positive impact on the life of another person, you are exercising your social consciousness. The more you do it, the more natural it is, and it becomes your routine or habit. Your first time donating your old clothes to the Salvation Army becomes a monthly habit. Your first-time volunteering at the local food bank becomes a weekly occurrence. Helping others feels good and it can lead to you doing it more often so why not give it a try? A social consciousness does not have to extend to everybody in the world all at once but the actions you do locally can definitely ripple out and stand as a positive example for others to implement in their own communities.
If you would like to get involved globally, there are an almost infinite number of opportunities to study, teach, work, and volunteer in non-governmental organizations and local non-for-profits in important areas such as education, health care, infrastructure and the environment. Spending time to educate yourself on the culture, history, politics, and the society of other places around the world will help better inform you of the injustices and problems of your own. No human society is perfect but there are small improvements that each day we can choose to perform to make it a little bit better than it was before.
Even when you are not in a position of local, national, or even global leadership, you can elect to pay attention to the problems that must be solved, form your position on the issues by being educated and choosing your sources of information carefully and then choose to vote and elect those leaders who have a social conscience. You will know if they have one or not by not only of what they advocate for but how they have advocated for these issues and who they have surrounded themselves with. A person with no social conscience cares for no one but himself and his own brood. Their friends are disposable to them and they care nothing for others beyond what they can do for him or her and how their own prospects can be improved. A person without a social conscience deserves to lead nobody and not be followed by anyone.
A socially conscious leader cares for the least among them and feels their pain as his or her own. While they have not experienced pain or misery as those whom he or she advocates for, he can listen to them, see what they say based on those experiences, and come to an educated decision on how to best fix the problem and work with those who are experts in that field to solve the issue as best as humanly possible. Social conscious behavior is so key to have when it comes to be a leader of a community or a nation and it is unfortunately neglected as of late when it comes to judging the men and the women we put into positions of influence and power.
As long as people err in their own behavior and judgment, there will be manmade problems and injustices. What someone with a social conscience can do is to do their best to continue to fight for justice and solve those problems in any way they can. Rather than focus on 100 problems at one time, it is best to focus one's attention at 1 or 2 big problems that can be solved in time and that can gain popular support from the community after receiving the facts of why and how the injustice exists. Keep educating yourself on the injustices and the problems that exist in your world and decide how you want to push our world back towards the 'arc of justice' that our conscience and actions should bend to as Martin Luther King Jr. so eloquently put it. We only have a finite amount of time on this planet and if we can right some wrongs and create justice where there was little or none before then we are doing our small part to make this world a better and fairer place.
Author Ben W.Posted on April 7, 2020 April 14, 2020 Categories 2020, 2020's, actions, adversity, advice, charity, civic participation, community action, dedication, democratic, donations, environmental stewardship, humanity, influence, injustice, inspirational, leaders, leadership, local, problems, recycling, ripple effect, social conscience, solutions, UncategorizedTags 2020, 2020's, action, caring, charity, community, donations, environmental stewardship, injustice, involvement, justice, leadership, local, movements, organization, positive impact, problem solving, problems, progress, responsibility, scale, social conscience, society, solutions, volunteeringLeave a comment on The Need to Have a Social Conscience
Steady As We Go
As we all know by now, the world is going through a very tough time right now. Instead of speculating about when will things be back to some sense of normalcy, it would not be right to do guesswork about that as of today. Instead, I think it would be best to remind ourselves of a few things we can do over the next few weeks or months to prepare ourselves both mentally and physically for these challenging times. I would like to give my readers out there some advice which has helped me so far in terms of moving forward with my day-to-day activities and also the larger goals that I have for myself.
Take Care of Your Friends and Family: Now is the time to be there for your family and close friends in any way that you can. Even if you are not in the same city or in the same country, take some time out of your day to call or message them to see how they are doing. If you can do so, try to help around the apartment or house with cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc. This is a time to be close to the ones you love and to be there for them.
Remote work and schooling are important and should be a priority, but you should not forget to make time for those around you and to check in on them. Given how much running around you could be doing, you will likely have more time to reach out to loved ones and really take the time to engage in conversation or have dinner together or just to FaceTime every night before bed. I think it is the #1 priority right now to have during this difficult time.
Look for New Opportunities: Obviously, this is a hard time both employment wise and financially. If you have to find a new job or a new opportunity, do your best to be prepared to find those jobs and work opportunities even if they are not ideal for your long-term career pursuits. In a time like this, it would be best to swallow your pride and expand your availability for jobs that will be coming down the pipeline. You have to do what you have to do within reason to keep the lights on and feed your family. It may be working to stock shelves to delivering groceries or to work as a receptionist but if it comes with health insurance and a decent wage, it may be in your best interest to take that opportunity at least for a few months.
Nothing is permanent and even if it is not a job you want to be doing, consider it a way to build up your resilience and to be helping others especially if the job calls for it. The wider you broaden the search, the better off you will be. You just want to make sure you polish off your resume and your cover letter to update it after a gap of some time.
Be Kind to Others: People are stressed out and worried. You have to act like that is currently the situation and give others the benefit of the doubt. You don't know what is going on in their lives during this crisis and it's not something you should be asking about. Be respectful, patient, and kind. Don't be demanding, rude, or just overall a bad person to others. There is such a thing as karma, and it can accrue in both good and bad ways especially now. I do believe that you should treat others the way you would want to be treated and that is how you should approach life under quarantine.
Tempers can flare with ease and things can get out of control so just be aware of your emotions, realize that nothing is worth a verbal or physical confrontation over (especially toilet paper), and always remember to say please and thank you. It does not cost anything to be nice and you should always leave the house if you have to now with that in mind. Good manners will always help you get through a crisis like that.
Volunteer and Donate If You Can: This is only a suggestion but this is the time to give blood if you are eligible, donate extra food and clothes to those organizations who need it and can vouch as to where the money is going, and also see if you can deliver groceries if you have free time. It should go without saying that you should only be volunteering in public if you have a clean bill of health and have not been traveling overseas in the past two weeks. I have seen numerous remote volunteering opportunities pop up in the past week include video conferencing with senior citizens and asking as a pen-pal for them as they stay secluded at home and could use a friend.
Get together with some friends and put together a spreadsheet of organizations / places in your local town or city that are asking for monetary donations or for food/clothing/supplies, etc. It is a misconception that you need to leave the house to donate or to volunteer. In a time like this, sometimes, people especially the elderly or the solitary just could use someone to talk to or listen to them. I have heard stories of mental health professionals volunteering their time for free to help those people in need and that warms my heart quite a bit. If you are not completely healthy and/or free of symptoms, you should not be volunteering outside of the house!
Stay Home and Wash Your Hands: This advice should go without saying by now, but it should be repeated that you should not be leaving your home unless your job requires it or if you need to pick up groceries or go to the pharmacy. I try not to compulsively wash my hands but it's better to overdo it than under-do it so make sure you sing the 'happy birthday' song twice and use enough soap for the 20 seconds it takes to wash your hands.
If you can go for a walk on your own, it is great to get some fresh air even if it is just around the block. You will need some sunlight (vitamin D) and as long as you maintain your social distancing of 2 meters (six feet), there's nothing wrong with walking for 10-15 minutes to clear your head and shake off the inevitable cabin fever.
Cleaning, Cooking, and Organizing: A good way to avoid being lethargic during this time is to occupy yourself away from work and/or school by keeping things neat, tidy, or clean in the house or apartment where you reside. Daily tasks like cooking meals, cleaning your room, or organizing your papers will definitely keep you busy. Currently, it's 'Spring cleaning' season so you will have your work cut out for you these next few quarantined weeks if you have not cleaned your place since the beginning of the wintertime.
Who knows? If you found extra items or clothes around during cleanup time, you could perhaps donate them when you're finished collecting all those things you may not need but may help out somebody else during this tough time. With restaurants closed for the time being and delivery every day an expensive proposition, now is the best time to crack open your old recipe book and take your cooking more seriously.
You may be able to eat healthier now more than ever with the added time to cook and prepare your meals in advance and it is a good way to bond if you have a family or a loved one with you. Organizing extends to your personal computer and devices as well to make sure your files, bills, and documents are in order. Don't forget to take the time to give your phone, tablet, or laptop a good cleaning too because it is a germ magnet and it would be wise to keep it clean as much as possible.
Get Some Exercise In: Gyms and fitness centers are closed. No more pools, saunas, or even Yoga classes. So, what do you do now? Well, it can be easy to give up on your fitness goals but luckily, we have the Internet and delivery services are still working. You can utilize both to keep working out as there are hundreds of home workout exercises and guides out there now. Most of the information is free to use and easily accessible especially with YouTube videos showing you exactly how to do these exercises.
I believe you don't need much to do these workouts as most of them can be done just with your bodyweight when it comes to pull-ups, sit-ups, pushups, squats, crunches, etc. If you can spend the money, it doesn't hurt to get some free weights or some barbells in order to add some weight to your exercises. You can also get creative by doing some Yoga and Meditation with just a simple mat.
Due to the Internet, you can look up practically anything fitness related to create a good 30 to 45-minute workout. As if that wasn't enough, you can always use your body to move quickly with sprints, hill runs, jogs, or a brisk walk if you can get out of the house for a bit. It won't be the same as going to a physical gym, which has a ton of equipment and a sauna or other great amenities but it's better than nothing and it is relatively easy to make the most of it.
Flex Your Creative Muscle: If you have some extra time on your hands now, put it to good use by being creative. Sit down and figure out how best you want to pass the time in a productive way. Perhaps you can learn an instrument, pick up a new language, or even write an eBook or an entire book. Harness that energy into action to make the most of your time spent indoors and without most of the distractions that we have in our normal daily lives.
In the next weeks and months, I am positive that there will be an absolute growth in creative pursuits, both online and offline. There are a number of skills and traits that you can work on almost always for free or if you spend money, it is likely be a worthwhile investment from the right teacher. It is also a great time to develop that business idea or side hustle you have been thinking about but never actually committed to. You can always bounce these ideas off your family and friends or if you are able to do so, try to find like-minded people through your network or your organizations to see what they think of your idea and if it has some potential.
Isaac Newton, for example, worked day and night, when a great plague was spreading around the world and due to the time he had to just sit, learn, and experiment, he was able to come up with the brilliant equations and inventions that helped invent the modern life that we have today. Even if you fail, it is better to have tried and done your best than to have wondered later on, what if?
We will all get through this difficult time. It will be a tragic time in human history, but you will be a stronger and more compassionate person at the other end of this pandemic. There are often things in life that happen that are out of our control. It sucks and it is demoralizing but you have to move on, move forward, and keep on moving. We have no choice but to move on and to make the most of the time that we are given. We owe it to ourselves, our family, and our community to be the best that we can be especially now. I hope you take this difficult time to be caring, be kind, and be productive. I wish you well and hope you are well.
Author Ben W.Posted on April 1, 2020 April 7, 2020 Categories 2020, 21st century, action, adversity, advice, community, conscience, cooking, coronavirus, exercise, family, friends, health, homestay, hygiene, kindness, leadership, life, opportunities, pandemic, resilience, social distancing, the world, thoughts, volunteeringTags 2020, 21st century, advice, cleaning, cooking, coronavirus, creative pursuits, donating, exercise, family, friends, health, hope, hygiene, life, maturity, pandemic, resilience, response, school, social distancing, stay at home, the world, volunteering, workLeave a comment on Steady As We Go
Crave Discomfort
The mountain looks intimidating. You're chilled to the bone as you make the final ascent. You didn't think you were prepared for this moment but you wanted to push yourself to the physical limit. You made this hike not because it was easy but because it was hard. In order to understand your mentality and physicality better, you had to put yourself to the test.
There's no other way to know what you are capable of than to test yourself and to do it often. It does not matter if you are cold, you are tired, you are hungry, you are sweaty, or you are sleepy, there are times in life when you must simply crave discomfort because you know deep down that you will be more fulfilled from pushing yourself than from having played it safe.
Imagine being on the side of that same mountain and you are rock climbing to get your way to the top. Each move that you make must be analyzed quickly so you don't make a mistake. It's likely that you will have a harness or some kind of restraint to catch you if you fall but that's not always the case. You're under a large amount of emotional stress and personal discomfort but you feel invigorated when you successfully climb or hike your way to the top. You'll never regret those times when you put yourself out of your comfort zone especially when you are able to push yourself past those previously held limits that you thought you had.
There is no such thing as a challenge-free life. Putting yourself out there is going to be uncomfortable and you are going to be vulnerable. However, you may find that you will be the most fulfilled emotionally and physically when you challenge yourself. Discomfort as a concept may seem unappealing but it is in those moments or those times of discomfort where we advance the most.
Having the means of comfort may give short-term happiness but it is definitely unlikely to lead to long-term fulfillment. The only way to achieve satisfaction or fulfillment is to acclimate yourself to dealing with discomfort and being able to overcome it again and again. Being able to handle uncertainty will set you apart from other people and give you a level of maturity that will make you a stronger and more resilient person.
Discomfort does not only show up in the form of physical challenges but also in the realm of mental obstacles. Keeping your mind active by putting it to the test will improve you in numerous ways. Whether it's reading a 400-page book, writing a research paper, or studying a foreign language, these mental challenges will definitely cause some discomfort and that's a good thing. These personal projects will be very uncomfortable at first, but you will notice results when you stick with them, little bit by bit, and you'll realize that the discomfort was worth it because of how far you have advanced with your mental development.
Living a life of ease and pleasure is not going to lead you to be the best person that you can become. Only by overcoming obstacles and meeting challenges will you be able to develop yourself fully. It's good to kick back every now and then to relax and enjoy life yet that kind of pleasure is temporary. True personal growth lies in craving discomfort in whatever form it may yield the highest rewards for you. Whether it's running a marathon or climbing a mountain to reach new physical capabilities or to writing a thesis paper for your doctorate or solving a complex physics equation, both our body and our mind need these challenges.
If you are ever feeling lethargic or lost, you should evaluate whether or not you are challenging yourself enough. Giving yourself personal goals to work towards will make you uncomfortable but you will also be able to greater fulfillment and longer lasting happiness. Being able to put yourself out there, use your physical and/or mental abilities, and logically think through and solve problems will get you out of your self-imposed funk.
Having a deeper purpose in life that is fulfilling and meaningful is necessary for everyone to pursue. Everybody will struggle at first to find out what exactly they were meant to do. Instead of doing nothing about it, I think it is best to try out different things that are uncomfortable to find out which challenges make you feel the most engaged and willing to overcome. Doing a bunch of different things to keep yourself active is better than to do nothing at all. Time is limited so it's best to challenge yourself in a variety of ways first before you settle on the one or two major challenges in life that you want to succeed at.
Craving that discomfort is a necessary part of this part of self-development. Failure is possible and you may not ultimately succeed. However, if you fail, you will learn from having tried your hand at it and you will be the better person for it. Once you try at something, even without ultimate success, you know that you have the ability to take on challenges and eventually you'll meet them without unease and with greater confidence. It is far better to have failed one hundred times and to have succeeded on your 101st try, then to have failed only once and then give up entirely without trying again.
Many people today shy away from being uncomfortable at all, even for a minute, but this is much to their detriment. Being in discomfort and going through painful times is part of being human. Without experiencing that pain and that discomfort, you won't be able to become a stronger person. The person who has been through several trials by fire is the person you want around in times of discomfort and distress. You don't want to be around a person who only indulges in pleasures and shies away from any pain.
Having physical toughness and mental fortitude to meet challenges head on are traits that you should want to make part of yourself for the rest of your life. Putting your fear and your doubts aside to climb that mountain, write that book, learn that language, or solve that Math problem will give you an advantage over others who deny themselves discomfort. You have to want to engage in the discomforts in life because in today's day and age, it is easier than ever to avoid discomfort. Those who pursue discomfort will be rewarded long after the challenge(s) you set for yourself have been overcome.
Author Ben W.Posted on February 5, 2019 February 12, 2019 Categories 2019, adulthood, adversity, beliefs, challenges, deep thoughts, development, discomfort, fortitude, hiking, life, limits, maturity, mental, mental strength, pain, perseverance, personal development, physical strength, pleasureTags 2019, adversity, challenges, discomfort, fortitude, fulfillment, happiness, life, limits, maturity, mental capacity, personal development, physical strength, purpose, strengthLeave a comment on Crave Discomfort
"Get Action"
"Get action. Do things; be sane; don't fritter away your time; create, act, take a place wherever you are and be somebody; get action."
Theodore Roosevelt, the 26th President of the United States, was unlike many of the men who came before him or who came after him who served as President. He was a truly unique individual in how much he was able to do during his life. While Roosevelt only lived to the age of 60 years old, looking at how much he was able to accomplish and what he was able to do with his life, you could easily make the argument that he lived the lives of five men put together. To put it simply, he was a man of action regardless of how strenuous and difficult that action may be.
When you look at Teddy Roosevelt, he wasn't just President of the United States which is a massive accomplishment in its own right, but he was also Vice President, Governor of New York, Assistant Secretary of the U.S. Navy, Leader of the Rough Riders during the Spanish-American war, and a Harvard College graduate. On top of all of that, he was a noteworthy explorer who spent over two years in the Amazonian basin of Brazil, a hunter who herded cattle out in the Dakotas, and a historian who wrote several books including a military history titled, 'The Naval History of 1812.' On top of everything that he did, while he was boisterous and a bit cocky to a fault, he backed up his words with actions, and he did his best to maintain his integrity in everything that he did. Roosevelt was not a man who cut corners or looked for shortcuts. Once he committed himself to something, he made sure to give it his best effort.
While Teddy Roosevelt was a member of a wealthy family from Oyster Bay, New York, he struggled with adversity throughout his life. He had severe bouts of asthma and would suffer from attacks that were debilitating. Instead of staying still and not exerting himself, he found that being active, physically and mentally, would actually help to minimize his asthma and improve his spirits. Roosevelt was not a man who would go about and pity for himself ever.
He was home-schooled, naturally curious about the world, and self-educated himself in a number of subjects including taxidermy, geography, French, German, history, etc. Roosevelt to make himself physically stronger would take it upon himself to learn boxing and then rowing in his desire to keep himself fit and active. Roosevelt lost his father at a young age, which was an almost unbearable loss for him, but he used his father as an example of who he should strive to be in life in terms of his father's morals, career, and his overall character. Also, when he was only 22 years old, Theodore Roosevelt lost both his mother and his first wife within a few hours of each other.
Losing your mother and wife in such a terrible manner would break a lesser man but while Roosevelt grieved in a manner that was natural, he knew that he must go on and that he must live up to the memory of those family members who passed before him. Theodore was not one to sit around and grieve forever but a man who desired to make the most of his life and commit himself to action. Even when he was almost assassinated in 1912 when he was campaigning for the Presidency a second time, he would read his speech and refused medical attention for over ninety minutes before seeking assistance with a bullet lodged in his chest.
What lessons can we draw in our own lives from the energetic and boisterous life of Theodore Roosevelt? There are many lessons to draw upon but the most important one that can just be summed up in two words is to "get action." Roosevelt believed that man is most content in the pursuit of action whether its' in the form of academia, physical exertion, public service, and military duty. Roosevelt's life was made up of numerous actions that fit his various interests and he committed himself to these actions over a long period of time. When we read about Teddy, we admire how much he was able to accomplish and how possibly he could have done of all that. My take on it is that Roosevelt made the most of his time and committed himself to pursuits instead of lazing about and being distracted by idle pleasures.
How many of us can say that we would be able to do ½ or 1/5 of what Theodore Roosevelt was able to do during his life? Not many. In this day and age of Netflix, smartphone, video games, and virtual reality, it's easier now than ever to not get action but to be lazy. You have to put blinders on and prevent yourself from being distracted from the technologies of today. While Roosevelt may have had a harder time accomplishing everything he did in the early 20th century compared to what he may have done in the early 21st century, his core personality, his priorities, and his spirit would not have changed. Roosevelt's life is a testament to the power of taking actions in various pursuits and to push both your body and your mind to the limit.
He did not let his setbacks, failures, and limitations hold him back from becoming the great man that we recognize him as being today. He fundamentally knew that he was at his happiest and his most vibrant when he was putting himself to work. His hobbies, interests, and his professional career were his number one priority and he still managed to re-marry, raise six children, and explore the world from Brazil to Egypt. Did he have a leg up in life due to his family name and his wealthy background? Yes, you could argue that fact, but he made the most of the deck of cards he was dealt but still had the common decency and integrity to commit himself to public service and helping out his countrymen and women as well.
Roosevelt could have enjoyed his wealth, spent opulently on material goods and hedonistic pursuits, and sat back for the rest of his days but he was not that kind of man. Not only was he aware that he had one life to live but he knew fundamentally that every day counts and that every day matters. Luckily, he used his mental and physical prowess in the service of others whether that was in the United States Army, the Governorship of New York, or Office of President of the United States. Theodore Roosevelt put his energies and his time into productive matters and was able to do amazing things in his life. If Roosevelt were to give anybody a piece of advice today, it would be to simply 'get action.' Without action, there is stagnation and with stagnation, there is no future. Even if you are not successful in your actions, don't ever be so discouraged that you do not try again or try something new.
Whether it was reading, writing, making speeches, hunting, traveling, Roosevelt was a man who embodied the human spirit when it is fully unleashed. He made the most out of this thing we call 'life.' If you are feeling down in the dumps and aren't sure what to do next, just 'do something.' By doing something and sticking to it as a routine, you'll get better at it and it may take you places in life that you never thought was possible to begin with. Taking any kind of action in your day to day life is the natural and healthy thing to do. Sitting in bed, lazing around, letting your mind and body wither away is no way to go through life.
When you commit yourself to getting out in the world in whatever way appeals to you, you move forward as a person and you develop yourself in various ways. You'll fail, you may get hurt, and you will learn a lesson or two but at least you got yourself out into the arena as Theodore Roosevelt did. 'Get Action' are two words that can make a world of difference in one's life. Make sure you make the most of the time for which you have been given.
Author Ben W.Posted on October 21, 2018 November 4, 2018 Categories 20th century, 26th president, action, actions, adversity, advice, choices, dedication, habits, historical, history, hobbies, interests, motivation, personal development, presidents, rough riders, theodore roosevelt, united states, willpowerTags 26th president, action, adventure, beliefs, dedication, get action, habits, historical, history, hobbies, interests, life, motivation, personal development, personal growth, presidents, public service, rough riders, theodore roosevelt, united statesLeave a comment on "Get Action"
Frederick Douglass National Historic Site
Location: Frederick Douglass National Historic Site; Washington, District of Columbia, USA
Author Ben W.Posted on September 16, 2018 September 29, 2018 Categories 2018, abraham lincoln, adversity, america, american history, challenges, civil war, frederick douglass, history, slavery, struggles, the abolitionist movement, united states, washington dc, william lloyd garrisonTags 19th century, abolitionists, adversity, american history, civil rights, civil war, frederick douglass, historical figures, history, human rights, orator, photography, slavery, struggles, writerLeave a comment on Frederick Douglass National Historic Site
'Good Will Hunting' – Film Review and Analysis
What happens when you bring together two of the best actors of the modern age who meet at just the right time in their careers? The short answer is that you get some old-fashioned movie making magic. Both men have made their mark on Hollywood and this film that they carry together is one of the reasons for that happening. While a generation sets them apart, their commitment to the craft of acting shines through in this classic film that takes place in the city of Boston where I currently reside titled 'Good Will Hunting.'
'Good Will Hunting', released in 1997, over twenty years ago is a film that I have gone back to again and again throughout the years since I grew up with it in a way. As I have gotten older, the themes of the film stick with me more and more. This film is a timeless piece that a lot of people, especially young men, can relate to. While it's not a blockbuster and isn't a mainstream favorite, it carries deep messages regarding relationships, dealing with the future, and learning to love and trust other people.
The two actors that I was referring to earlier are Robin Williams and Matt Damon. Both men are known for their more popular roles in movies like 'Mrs. Doubtfire' and 'Good Morning, Vietnam for Mr. Williams and 'The Bourne Trilogy' movies and 'The Departed' for Mr. Damon. Unlike those other movies, I believe that this movie really shows off the talent of these two men and how they're able to push each other in emotionally trying roles. On top of those two performances, Gus Van Sant is an excellent director who does a great job of filming this movie set in late 1990s Boston.
As if that weren't enough, you have a great cast of supporting actors including Ben Affleck, Minnie Driver (has she been in any major movies since?), Stellan Skarsgard, and Casey Affleck of Manchester-by-the-Sea fame who really add depth and substance to this movie. These character-driven movies such as 'Good Will Hunting' are usually the hardest to make but if done right, they really stay with the viewer long after the film is over. They really capture different moods, emotions, and feelings and this one in particular captures the struggles inherent in being a brilliant mind in a troubled world.
The title of this film 'Good Will Hunting' is based off the name of its main character, Will Hunting (played by Matt Damon) a 20-year old, born and raised in South Boston. You would think from this description that he's just a regular guy but Mr. Hunting was born with the innate gift of having genius level intellect. He has few possessions except for hundreds of books from Foucault to Shakespeare. He's an avid book reader but has a specialty in solving advanced mathematical equations that few others in the world can figure out. You would think that this college-aged guy would be working on advanced mathematics at MIT or CalTech but he's not an enrolled student there or anywhere for that matter.
Will Hunting has had a rough upbringing in that his parents abandoned him when he was a baby and he grew up in foster homes where his foster father abused him physically multiple times. Abandoned by those people who were supposed to love and cherish him, Will, for good reason has a fear of abandonment and does not trust other people. His social interactions are limited because of the abusive childhood he endured but he is happy with his group of three friends: Billy, Morgan, and his best friend Chuckie. While Will does not have many friends, he would do anything for his three neighborhood buddies who he grew up with and he literally considers them to be his family.
While Will's friends are loyal, they are not the best influence on him and they can be crass, crude, and spend too much time drinking. The group's antics lead Will into a fight against some neighborhood miscreants, which draws the attention of the local police. Will, acting out his aggression violently, ends up assaulting a police officer causing him to do mandatory community service and therapy sessions. Will, a janitor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, works after hours to help clean the bathrooms and empty the waste paper baskets. Unbeknownst to both students and professors alike, Will in his spare time has been going around solving advanced Math equations that the regular MIT graduate students can't even begin to conceive a solution for. One night, Will is caught in the act as he gets caught doing an extremely difficult problem that no one else has solved yet. Professor Lambeau of the Mathematics department discovers Will solving this problem and calls after him to no avail but with a four-letter crude response from Mr. Hunting.
Professor Lambeau does Will a huge favor and gets him out of some serious jail time for assaulting the police officer. In exchange for his favor, Will has to sit and work with Professor Lambeau on advanced mathematics in a mutual exchange. Professor Lambeau is fascinated by Will's brilliance but it appears to the audience that he cares more just about Will's brain than who he is as a person. Professor Lambeau tries to get Will to open up to different psychiatrists but Will messes with all of them and doesn't take his therapy sessions seriously. Lambeau, out of options, goes to an old friend from his college days at MIT, Sean Maguire (played by Robin Williams), who now teaches psychology at Bunker Hill Community College and is also a licensed therapist.
Despite a few sessions where Will is argumentative and closed off, Sean is able to break down Will's defensive mechanisms partly by talking about his own rough upbringing. Sean was beat by his alcoholic father while he was a child. In an effort to protect his mother and little brother, Sean would endure the brunt of his father's anger and vitriol. The two men bond over the fact that they have a high intellect, have both grown up in Boston, share a love of the Red Sox, have had rough upbringings, and can be a bit closed off from their loved ones.
Will is going through a transition period in his young life where he is starting to think about a future beyond just getting drunk with his buddies and hiding his talents from the world. He is also trying his best to form healthy relationships with not only his friends but in his love life too. Instead of endlessly pursuing casual one-night stands, Will finds a girl one night at a Harvard bar whom peaks his interest named Skylar (played by Minnie Driver). Despite them coming from very different family backgrounds as well as her being born into wealth, they share a love for learning and have the same sense of humor. Most important to Will in all of this courting is that she likes his friends and that means a lot to him since they have essentially been his family his whole life.
The problem that Will struggles with in terms of his relationships whether its romantic with Skylar or personal with Sean is that he can't open up to them about his being abused as a child due to a mixture of shame, guilt, and anger. He turns his emotional pain outward and directs that anger at society, the past therapists, Professor Lambeau, and even at Will and Skylar. Will is self-conscious about his genius and is not sure he wants to have a prestigious office job or even to leave his home city of Boston. He says to his best friend, Chuckie, at one point that he doesn't "feel like doing long division in a room for the rest of my life."
However, what Will realizes is that he's not the center of the world. With the help of Sean and Skylar, he learns eventually that while his life has been tragic, that should not prevent him from reaching his true potential and that he is literally "bound by nothing." He's a genius of great intellectual capacity who can change the world in a number of ways. Will has a great gift that a lot of people would kill to have including his best friend, Chuckie. As Chuckie puts to Will bluntly towards the end of the movie, "You're sitting on a winning lottery ticket and you're too chicken to cash in on it." Chuckie tells Will that he'll essentially be working construction until he retires which is fine because he doesn't have Will has and that Will owes it not only to himself but to him and his other buddies to do more with his life.
Sean also is the father figure that Will never had and is able to give him tough life. Sean was also abused as a child and knows where Will is coming from. However, he has to learn how to put the past behind him and to not blame himself for what had happened because it simply wasn't his fault. Will was an innocent child and can't be blamed for such a horrific event. Will has to learn again how to be emotionally open and vulnerable with the people who care about him like Sean and Skylar. Will had lost the inability to love and be loved but it's never too late to get that back.
The mentorship of Sean throughout the film helps to bring Will around and the time they share together in the therapy sessions make them true friends. Sean is able to tell Will that he is not so special in the fact that his life has been extraordinarily difficult. Sean, himself, fought in the Vietnam War as a young man and had his best friend there die in his arms. He also lost his wife, the one true love of his to a long battle with cancer years ago and hasn't been able to become romantically involved with anyone since then. However, he implores Will to also see the beauty in life such as in the form of a woman who can 'level you with her eyes' and be your own angel.
There are also the wonders of the world that Will can experience such as how it smells in the Sistine Chapel in Italy. Will may be an intellectual genius but he still has a lot to learn about the beauty and ugliness of life. Sean's experiences help to enlighten Will about what life is all about and how to persevere through the struggles and setbacks that are inevitable. Both men have their inner demons to battle but they encourage each other to become better, to strive for more, and to live good lives. With Will's urging, Sean is also ready to put his tragic past behind him to begin anew. He sets out to travel the world, meet a special someone like Will has with Skylar, and truly live life again.
The positive mentorship between Will and Sean is a beautiful thing to see develop over the course of the film. To see true friendship between the two and the chemistry that Damon and Williams have in their scenes together makes 'Good Will Hunting' a really special movie. Similar to 'Lost In Translation', it's also nice to see a true romance between Will and Skylar develop as well that starts out very inconspicuously. It's a young, innocent kind of love that is beautiful to watch and it's both real and raw to see with how much they truly care for each other and want to best for one another. One of the best lines in the film that Will and Sean both use for courting the special women in their lives is "Sorry, I had to go see about a girl." Is there anything in modern cinema that can compare to this phrase so simple yet so full of meaning? I don't think so.
Author Ben W.Posted on May 24, 2018 May 30, 2018 Categories 1990's, 20th century, academy awards, acting, adulthood, adversity, challenges, characters, elliott smith, genius, good will hunting, growth, intelligence, matt damon, mentorship, minnie driver, personal development, psychiatry, relationships, robin williamsTags 1990's, academy awards, acting, boston, film, genius, good will hunting, gus van sant, intelligence, matt damon, mentorship, minnie driver, movies, personal growth, robin williamsLeave a comment on 'Good Will Hunting' – Film Review and Analysis
'Children of Men' – Film Review and Analysis
What would happen to our world if women were no longer able to have babies? How would human society, nations, and the globe as a whole react to such a consequential event to humanity? A dystopian take on the state of a world without children is the focus of the 2006 critically acclaimed film titled, 'Children of Men', directed by Alfonso Cuaron. This film stars Clive Owen, Julianne Moore, Michael Caine, and Chiwetel Ejiofor in its leading roles. The film is based off of a novel of the same name, 'Children of Men', which was written by author P.D. James in 1992.
The screenplay and the story have both been adapted from the novel but the striking visuals and the memorable cinematography make it fit for the big screen treatment. Despite a limited release and low profit earnings when it first came out, Children of Men has stayed in the public consciousness due to its timely socio-political themes on immigration, the environment, terrorism, and political violence. With the election of Donald Trump as U.S. President and the unlikely occurrence of Brexit, the message and themes of the film have turned out to be quite relevant. Although this film is set in the United Kingdom in the future year of 2027, despite the non-issue with the infertility of women, the issues that humanity is dealing with in 2017 are tied directly to different issues that the film brings up in its' plotline.
Theo Faron, a civil servant for the British government and former activist, seems to have given up his fight for a better future. With humanity on the brink of extinction and with most of the countries' governments having collapsed, there doesn't seem to be any hope left. As one of the characters, Miriam, explains to Theo in the film, "As the sound of the playgrounds faded, despair set in. Very odd, what happens in a world without children's voices." Theo and his ex-wife, Julian, estranged for years after the death of their infant child, Dylan, are reunited due to a refugee named Kee. Julian and the Fishes, an anti-government and pro-refugee group involved in an uprising, would like to take Kee to the Human Project.
She is known to be the only woman in the world who is pregnant with the world's first child in eighteen years, and is very valuable. However, things are not as they seem with the Fishes and their motives for helping Kee. Theo, in this film, is a lone character who promises to help Julian to bring Kee to the Human Project to ensure the future of humanity against all odds. Instead of using Kee as a political prop to help their cause against the government, Theo decides to help her escape from the Fishes, bring her to the British coast, and protect the future of humanity. Along the way, the viewer of the film sees the consequences of a world without babies. Where once there was no hope, Theo gains his sense of purpose and faith again as he hopes to redeem himself by getting Kee to safety and away from both the British government and the Fishes group.
Starting from the opening scene where the main character, Theo, is taken aback from a suicide bomb blast in the heart of London after just having left the café where the attack happened, you get a sense of what you're in for with this movie. There's a sense of hopelessness, dread, and despair as the audience is thrust into the focus of the movie as it's made clear that the youngest person on Earth was eighteen years old meaning that something seriously has gone wrong to make that a reality. Although it's never directly addressed in the movie, a few of the characters speculate that the reasons women can't have babies anymore vary from environmental degradation to genetic experiments to too much pollution / radiation. The reason for women's infertility is never addressed but the film makes it clear that the world is without hope because of the fact that there are no children to carry on the future of the human race.
Humanity faces certain extinction and the United Kingdom where the film's setting is, instead of maintaining its' parliamentary form of democracy has regressed into a totalitarian police state. Because it is one of the few surviving nations left on Earth, the country has developed a strict anti-immigration and anti-refugee policy. Any refugees or immigrants from outside the U.K. are rounded up and sent to detention camps, which have very poor and inhospitable conditions. The situation is so dire that the Fishes, labeled as a terrorist group, are fighting a guerrilla war campaign against the government to fight for immigrant rights.
The Fishes, with Julian, Theo's ex-wife as their leader seem like the good guys but they have nefarious intentions in mind when it comes to the righteousness of their cause especially after they discover the first pregnant woman, Kee, in eighteen years. Throughout the movie, Theo is shown to be caught in the middle between the tyrannical government and the nefarious freedom fighter groups who are both trying to get hold of Kee for their own political gain.
The Human Project, believed to be a group of the world's leading scientists, are thought to be the best people to help Kee with the baby and to perhaps study why she out of all the women on the planet was able to give birth to a child. Theo, having seemingly lost all hope and reason for living after the death of his baby, Dylan, believes again in the cause of getting Kee to be in the safe hands of the Human Project and to keep her from falling into the hands of either the Fishes group or the government. One of the main themes in this film is Theo's regaining of hope and his quest for redemption after losing his only son years ago with his ex-wife, Julian.
The director, Alfonso Cuaron, does a great job of setting the scene of a dystopian future where humanity has lost all hope. A pill that allows people to commit suicide peacefully called 'Quietus' is mass advertised, terrorist attacks are an almost daily occurrence, and the immigrants, refugees who come to Britain are kept in detention camps separate from the rest of the population because the borders of the country have been closed down. In a plot and setting so dark, the only light to hold on to is Kee and her newborn to be. In a particular moving moment, Kee decides to name her baby girl after Theo's deceased child, Dylan, showing just how much she really cares for the man who is getting her to the Human Project. It's no coincidence that Kee herself is a refugee from a West African nation where the first humans emerged.
One of the best scenes in the film occurs when Kee, Theo, and the newborn baby are trying to leave a bombed out building where the rebels and the government are fighting each other in an urban war. The only thing that stops the bombs from falling and the bullets from firing are the sounds of a newborn baby echoing throughout the building and the street. This particular scene is a reminder of how special the sounds of a children's cries are to the vitality of the world and how without them, it's likely that humanity would descend into a downward spiral of chaos and violence. When all of the soldiers stopped for a few minutes to stop fighting, they realized that there was still hope in the world and that life can continue. It's a very special scene for a special movie.
In addition to great directing, and great acting, Children of Men has some of the best cinematography of any movie in modern history. The single tracking shots, and there are quite a few throughout the film are ridiculously well done and help the viewer feel the tension and suspense in every scene. The soundtrack, the setting, and the messages of the film are extremely powerful and relevant to today's world. I believe the director does a great job of asking the audience about how susceptible we are to either the rule of a totalitarian government or to the whims of absolutist extremist groups when societal collapse is imminent.
When there are no children or future generations, what is there worth fighting for? How also do we prevent ourselves from scapegoating other groups when things go bad? Maybe the issue is not infertility per say but rather climate change, the rise of artificial intelligence, or war between nations, how do we prevent ourselves from losing hope when things look bleak? The film, Children of Men, makes the argument that we should never lose hope especially in dire times. The future must be protected however especially as shown by the role the character, Theo, plays in helping Kee in her quest to meet members of The Human Project.
Ironically, there have been news stories out about the precipitous drop in men's sperm counts over the past forty years in countries such as the United States. While this may not lead to total infertility, researchers labeled it as a cause for concern due to the overall trend of less fertility in men. In addition, birth rates are down below replacement level rates in multiple Western countries causing concern among scientists. Similar to the theories laid out in 'Children of Men', it is unclear why male infertility may be on the rise but it may be due to a number of factors, both environmental and otherwise. Where as Children of Men focused on women being infertile and not being able to have babies, the possibility of men being infertile in the future should be a cause for concern. (Source: http://www.newsweek.com/2017/09/22/male-infertility-crisis-experts-663074.html)
It is difficult to see why Children of Men did not win any of the Academy awards that it was nominated for. It's an excellent, thought-provoking film that raises questions to the audience that are difficult to answer. If you have the chance to rent or buy this movie, please do so because it is widely regarded as one of the best movies of the 21st century.
Author Ben W.Posted on December 23, 2017 January 4, 2018 Categories 2000's, 21st century, academy awards, acting, adversity, alfonso cuaron, children of men, cinematography, clive owen, current events, entertainment, fiction, film, genres, hope, humanity, infertility, morality, redemption, thrillersTags 2000's, alfonso cuaron, children of men, cinematography, clive owen, current events, entertainment, fiction, film, future, genres, hope, humanity, infertility, thrillerLeave a comment on 'Children of Men' – Film Review and Analysis
Since the days of ancient Greece, the concept of mentoring or mentorship has been apart of human recordkeeping and history. The naming of the word itself 'mentor' is said to have come from Homer's 'Odyssey' where the main character, Odysseus, while getting ready to leave for his famous voyage, decided to leave his infant son behind. Because he didn't want to leave his son alone considering how long his 'odyssey' could be, His infant son, Telemachos, was left in the care and companionship of Odysseus's friend named 'Mentor.' From this allegorical story from Homer, we get a sense of how longstanding the idea of mentorship has been around and why it has lasted throughout the centuries.
Why exactly is mentorship so powerful? Well, there are a number of reasons why it can be such a helpful and important part of a person's success. People very rarely can do everything by themselves and to have the ability to seek out someone who gives them both their time and expertise without asking for anything in exchange is what makes having a mentor so powerful. Now, not everybody starts out being the best mentor. It's a skill like any other skill that takes time to develop. It's also impossible to mentor somebody in every aspect of his or her life.
It would be better to focus on an area where you think you can be a good mentor and lend help to another person. For example, if you're good at writing and consider yourself to be a writer, you should want to mentor someone else who's aspiring to be a writer and not someone who wants to become a mechanical engineer. Your mentoring has to line up with the mentee's aspirations and what they hope to do in the future. Mentorship doesn't only have to be professional advice but it can also involve be personal advice as well. Mentorship can range from how to learn a new skill set in order to make more money to being able to manage your personal relationships better.
Before mentorship can begin though, a level of trust has to be built up over time between the mentor and the mentee. When you've taken upon the role of the mentor, it's important to make sure that you think that the mentee can be successful and that they can put in the work and effort to reach their goals. If somebody is mentoring you, it's important to make sure that you know them well already, you respect them, and you find that they have good expertise and knowledge in the field or area that you need mentoring in.
A mentor doesn't have to be a boss or a co-worker. It could also be a friend or family member who you have a close relationship to and is able to give you sound advice based off of their personal and/or professional experiences. When it comes to mentorship, it has to be a consistent and long-standing relationship between two people. The mentor and the mentee should be meeting on a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly basis together in order to make actual real and sustained progress on both their short-term and long-term goals. If you're only meeting with a mentor once every month or every three months, it's not going to work out and you'll be lucky to make any lasting progress. If mentorship is done right, the mentee will see themselves go far in the area, skillset, or field that they're focusing on especially if the mentor is giving out real, practical advice that they themselves have proven to work.
For mentorship to be successful, it's important that this kind of relationship between two people be a two-way street and not just a one-sided affair. The mentee should not be getting 100% of the benefits out of the mentorship because respect and appreciation has to be paid from the mentee to the mentor. Time, as we all know, is quite valuable and for a mentor to be giving his time freely to the mentee especially on a weekly or monthly basis is a very selfless thing to be doing. While the mentor should not expect anything in return right away, a healthy mentorship would involve the mentee taking it upon himself to show his appreciation and thanks through small gestures. It could be buying your mentor a gift for the holidays or buying them a ticket to a baseball game or a concert but it's important to show that you care about the mentorship and that you realize it's nice to give back every now and then.
If you've built up a strong personal friendship with your mentor, it would be nice for the mentee to spend time with the mentor outside of their formal meetings / sit-downs, etc. For example, if you two have shared interests outside of business, you can go out together for dinner, or do an activity together. Mentorships don't have to be strictly business all of the time and the best mentorships are when both parties like each other and would consider themselves to be good friends. One of the key powers of mentorship is its' sustainability and longevity when it's done right. A fruitful mentorship of months and even years can definitely change the course of a person's life. While not the easiest thing in life to take upon oneself, being a mentor to someone is one of the most rewarding things a person can do and it's an easy way to make the world a bit better than before.
Unfortunately, true mentorship today isn't as prevalent as it used to be and is a far cry from what it was like just a generation or two ago. Most people today do not have a mentor in their lives to help them who can they rely on for good advice without paying money. If you're able to be a mentor to someone who needs your help or advice, it is something that should be seriously considered especially if that person has a lot of potential. Mentorships shouldn't always be thought of in terms of the mentor being older the mentee in terms of age.
That's a fallacy in that there are ways in which older people can learn from younger people especially in this current digital age of technology. The power of mentorships lies in the inherent decency of one person helping another person to get ahead in life in any way that they can. The mentee can then take the advice to heart and work hard to improve themselves in professional and/or personal ways. The mentee should show gratitude and appreciation to the mentor because having a good mentor who is generous with his time is not easy to find these days. While mentorships and apprenticeships were more common a generation or two ago, they are exceedingly rare nowadays. If you're able to have a good mentor in your life, remember to be grateful for it and pay it back in the future by mentoring another person who is growing through the same struggles and setbacks that you once conquered yourself.
If there were more active mentoring going on between people, not only would their own individual lives improve over time but also that of the local community and society as a whole. When more and more folks are willing to give back to others in their community and help them out consistently, that helps out the society in general. The power of mentorship is also a reminder that we're all in this together and we should try to spur on success of others rather than kick them down a notch. You'll feel happier and more engaged in the world to when you give mentorship a shot so I encourage those of you reading this article to go out there, think about why mentorship is important, and figure out if that is a calling that you personally would like to take upon in the future in an effort to help other people help themselves.
Author Ben W.Posted on November 19, 2017 November 24, 2017 Categories 2017, adulthood, adversity, advice, articles, challenges, changes, life, mentee, mentor, mentorship, personal development, professional development, purpose, societyTags 2017, adulthood, advice, expertise, focus, goals, mentee, mentor, mentorship, personal development, professional development, progress, purpose, relationships, society2 Comments on The Power of Mentorship
'Batman Begins' – Film Review and Analysis
I know what you may be thinking as you read out loud the title of this blog post. You're probably wondering why I would choose to review and analyze a movie based off a super hero from a comic book series. It may appear to be juvenile but I made this creative choice for a couple of good reasons.
Batman is not just any super hero. He is often ranked as being the most popular and well-known super hero worldwide up there with Superman or the 'Man of Steel.'
Batman isn't your traditional super hero to make a movie about due to the fact that he has no super powers, and is an ordinary man who strives to be extraordinary.
A superhero who has been around since the early days of comic books in the early 1930's, Batman is a popular cultural figure who until the 2000's came around was never done justice on the silver screen. I remember as a kid watching the overly cartoonish and god-awful early film adaptations such as 'Batman Forever' and 'Batman and Robin.' The best film up until 'Batman Begins' was Tim Burton's 'Batman', released in 1989, and even that movie was a bit goofy and contrived at times. Luckily, Batman on film earned a well-needed revival due to the masterful directing, screenwriting, and casting for Batman Begins, which was released over a decade ago in 2005.
Christopher Nolan, who directed Batman Begins, and helped to write the screenplay, did an amazing job in bringing Batman to life again as a superhero that comes from a realistic setting. Compared to The Avengers or X-Men, this is as close to reality as a superhero film can get. Compared to all of the comic book movies I've seen, and I've seen a good amount, 'Batman Begins' is the most realistic. It never gets too fanciful, and it takes itself seriously as a film that falls under the 'drama' genre.
For those readers who are unfamiliar with the origins of Batman, 'Batman Begins' does a great job of setting up the rise of this super hero from his childhood to his 30th birthday. You can see how much Bruce Wayne evolves into the role of the masked dark knight due to the painful tragedy that befalls him at an early age.
Bruce Wayne is a boy who grew up with everything a child could ask for: a loving family, a safe home, and a bright future. He has it all taken away from him when his parents are gunned down in front of him by one of the people they were trying to help. The Wayne family comes from immense wealth and they are tied to Gotham City through the generations. The Wayne's are great benefactors to the city and try to help it out financially so that citizens can gain economic opportunities even during hard times.
The death of Bruce Wayne's parents is the true beginning of his path to becoming Batman. This film does a great job in showing the phases that Bruce goes through after suffering a trauma such as the loss of his closest family members: his mother and his father. For many years, Bruce turns his deep-seated emotions onto blaming himself to feel the full guilt, the relentless anger, and the deep sadness fully. He is unable to use those powerful emotions, and turn them into constructive action.
An ever-present theme throughout 'Batman Begins' is Fear. As a young child, Bruce fell into a deep well near his parents' mansion, and was unable to get himself out after experiencing a wave of bats surrounding him as they flew away into the sunlight. During an opera performance one night, young Bruce asks his father if they can leave the theater for a little while because he is frightened by the performers pretending to be bats in one of the play's acts. Because of this fateful decision, for many years, Bruce blames himself completely for his parents' death because they ended up being shot and killed by the mugger, Joe Chill, after Bruce asked them to leave the theater, and head into the nearby alley.
Bruce seeks out vengeance against the man who killed his parents and wishes to kill Mr. Chill as he leaves the courthouse. He buys a gun one day and wants to take justice into his own hands like a vigilante. Before he is able to do the grisly deed, Joe Chill is killed by one of Carmine Falcone's men, a Gotham City mob boss. Although Mr. Falcone didn't kill Bruce's parents, the corruption befalling the city's institutions, the unrelenting crime wave, and the lack of a respectable police force have led to more injustice than ever that has left Gotham City a shell of what it used to be.
One of the best scenes of 'Batman Begins' highlights the fact that Bruce has more to lose than he knows and should protect the people he cares about. He decides to use Batman as more than just a man flying around in a cape, but more as a symbol to be feared by criminals everywhere, and that anybody can become Batman if they have the will to act. Bruce is wise to use his fear of Bats and turn that fear into a powerful symbol, which criminals will one day fear themselves.
Despite the personal tragedy that befell him, men like Carmine Falcone lecture the young Bruce Wayne regarding his naivety about the world. "You always fear what you don't understand", and "people from your world have so much to lose." Before becoming Batman, Bruce decides to travel the world, learn about the psychology of criminals, train himself in various martial arts, and harness the power of stealth to strike fear into the hearts of Gotham's underbelly.
In order to learn fully about the evils of the world, Bruce has to go out there himself to experience what actually drives criminals to do what they do. He has to push himself physically and mentally in order to be able to stop them. In order to become Batman, he has to develop a strong moral code so that he can be incorruptible, and more than just a vigilante taking justice into his own hands. In this film, Batman doesn't kill and he desires to make sure that all criminals face true justice to prove that it's more than just vengeance for him.
In order to fully develop into Batman, he must complete his training under the tutelage of Henri Ducard (played brilliantly by Liam Neeson). Henri and Bruce have both suffered personal tragedies at the hands of ruthless criminals, but they decide to use their anger and pain to motivate them to strengthen, develop, and confront their adversaries whomever they may be. Bruce becomes Ducard's best student and excels in different areas of physical and mental training. As Ducard imparts on Wayne, "Your training is nothing, the will is everything. The will to act."
Batman Begins does an excellent job of showing the physical dexterity and the mental will needed to become a hero like Batman. In addition to that, the training scenes are spectacular in highlighting how Bruce must use deception, theatricality, and stealth in order to overcome his enemies with fear. Most similarly, he must play the role of an actual ninja. "In order to manipulate the fear in others, you must first master the fear within yourself."
Batman is a symbol that cannot be bought off, corrupted, or killed. Ducard reminds Bruce Wayne of the fact, "If you make yourself more than just a man, if you devote yourself to an ideal, and if they can't stop you…you become something else entirely…A legend, Mr. Wayne." However, Ducard and Wayne have a fundamental difference of belief regarding the nature of criminals that puts them on an adversarial footing with each other, which leads to an inevitable confrontation later on. Bruce desires to bring criminals to justice but with the support of the police and the criminal justice system. On a fundamental level, he wants to uphold the institutions of Gotham City to be free of corruption in all of its' forms.
We find out that Mr. Ducard is no fan of granting any leniency to criminals and wants them to be punished without any hesitation or limits. For Ra's al-Ghul, Henri Ducard, and the rest of the League of Shadows, an organization that helped train Bruce Wayne to become Batman, crime cannot be tolerated and that criminals thrive when societies indulge themselves by not having them pay the ultimate price of death. Even if the criminal is a despicable murderer, Bruce still believes in the rule of law, wants them to be tried in a fair court, and does not desire to become a singular executioner.
Batman wants to save Gotham City in the right way even though he finds it to be an almost insurmountable task given the lack of allies he has. However, he discovers that he has help with the incorruptible Officer James Gordon of the Gotham City Police Department and his friend, Rachel Dawes, a district attorney who won't be bought off.
Batman comes up against another villain who desires to strike fear into the heart of Gotham's citizenry: The Scarecrow (played by Cillian Murphy) who uses fear toxin gas to poison people, and make them do horrible things to each other out of their fear of each other. Bruce Wayne must lead a double life, keep his secret safe, weed out corruption, and be able to combat two villains who use fear to prey on the fearful (Scarecrow and Ra's al-Ghul).
Instead of using fear against the citizens of Gotham, Batman uses his terrifying appearance to strike fear into the hearts of criminals and villains everywhere. While he understands that justice is never ensured for all criminals, he does not want to be a murderer himself who decides the fate of all those enemies he fights and stops.
'Batman Begins' is a deep superhero movie that asks some philosophical and psychological questions regarding the nature of true justice, and how far individuals and a collective society should go in order to stop crime. The film also probes the feeling of 'fear' and how a person can master their own fear in order to become mentally and physically stronger.
Christopher Nolan asks the question of how do we control our own fear and keep it from controlling us. Batman is a flawed superhero, but he is able to control his fear to become a legend. His symbolism helps Gotham City to rise up against corruption, crime, and to fight injustice. While he is only just a man without any real superpowers, he is able to inspire others to fight the good fight with his moral example.
In a movie where there's not much hope, the Batman inspires others to believe in themselves and their city again. He is a regular man, driven into action after going through a terrible tragedy. Instead of being broken by what happened to him at a young age, he uses his pain and sorrow to motivate himself so that others don't suffer the same kind of tragedy in life of losing a loved one. As a superhero and as a film character, Batman sets himself up as an example to follow for the audience even if it is a fictional story.
Making a super hero film is an extremely difficult process, which is why director Christopher Nolan should be given a lot of credit. Mr. Nolan has directed a lot of great films including Inception and Interstellar. Batman Begins is the first of three movies in the Dark Knight film series, and it may be the most underrated of them all. He and his team did a great job of bringing this character back onto the big screen in a big way.
It's a realistic take on the Batman, and its' a film franchise that has produced three excellent, unique films. For myself and many other fans, Batman Begins is more than just a simple superhero movie. It is a morality tale about hope overcoming fear, how to overcome adversity to become a stronger person, and how to set an example for others to follow in your footsteps.
Batman has survived in our popular culture for so long because you get the sense that he is a relatable character for many people despite the fiction behind it. Ultimately, he is a man who has his strengths, his weaknesses, yet he is ultimately fallible. Still though, he is a powerful individual that strives to fight for justice, hope, and wants to bring the best out of others. It's important to remember that you don't have to become a superhero like Batman to emulate those characteristics. You just have to do the right thing and be a good person.
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Q: How can I add a new attribute to a RestKit-mapped object after object creation from JSON? Here's my scenario:

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*I get a JSON list from an API call, and use a RestKit mapping to generate the associated objects, with Core Data backing.

*I then use a property on one of these objects (= parent) to generate a new (and separate) API call to get a different JSON list from which I map different (= child) objects.

*Each of these children needs a reference (e.g. ID) to the parent object, but this reference is not included in the JSON payload.

So my question is: how do I access these child objects post-mapping, to make sure the field referencing their parent is specified? I'm sure the answer is staring me in the face somewhere in the RestKit documentation, but that's an enormous haystack and I'm not sure where to start looking. Thanks!

A: If the identity of the parent is part of the URL used to obtain the children then you can use RestKits routing mechanism, together with path patterns, to obtain all of the required data and connect the objects automatically during mapping. This uses the RKRouter and RKRelationshipMapping classes.
Check the section on 'Routing' here for a good description and several examples.
Alternatively, every method that loads a URL and performs a mapping has a completion block which gives access to the mapped objects. This is usually an instance of RKMappingResult, from which you can get a dictionary, or array, of the mapped objects.
Once you get the objects you can modify them and then simply save the managed object context.

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Mike Beta
Date of Birth: December 14, 2000
Mother: Fatima
Father: Deceased, March 29 2013
Mother's Profession: Maid
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Mike's sponsor is JR Boos and Family
Lusaka, Zambia
Family Background:
Mike lives with his mother and his grandma and grandpa. His mom works as a maid ('for a white woman,' states Mike.) Maids typically work 5 or 6 days per week, 8-10 hours per day and make from 500 kwatcha ($100) to 800 kwatcha ($160) per month. Mike's grandmother sells vegetables on the street. This is not at all lucrative, and his grandfather is too sick to work. Mike says, "He has the sugar disease." Diabetes is very prevalent here.
Mike attended Bauleni Basic Primary School, a government school, since grade one. Last summer, Mike became friends with some of our RHO Appleseed sixth graders. He hung out around the school frequently, and one day asked if he could attend Appleseed. We told him to talk to his mom and if it was okay with her, we would be happy to have him. Upon enrolling at Appleseed, Mike asked if he could be placed in grade 5 instead of grade 6 where he was at Bauleni Basic. When asked why he said, because his 6th grade friends at Appleseed knew much more than he did. They could read he said, and he could not. Recently, he put it this way, "They were far and I can not reach their position. They will be taking their exams soon." By 'their exams' he means the government required 7th grade exam that must be passed in order to go on to grade 8. Mike wants to do well on his exams when he takes them in October of 2015
Extra Curricular Interests:
Mike loves to play football. He plays during PE at school but he is also a part of a local football league. He has been playing with the Bauleni United Academy Sport since he was about 8 years old. In addition to playing football he likes to go to church on Sundays. He and his family attend the United Pentecostal Church of Zambia.
Thoughts about his Future:
Like so many boys his age, Mike's dream is to become a professional football player. He wants to play for the Zambian National Team, Chipolopolo. He is a bright and realistic young man though and does have a backup plan. He says, " If God is not prepared for me to play football, then I will be a soldier."
In Zambia, a soldier is a prized job. One must receive very high scores on their grade 12 exams in order to even have a chance. When asked why he wants to be a soldier, he says, " Because my grandpa was a soldier."

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Q: Question about the right inverse method in a GLM of order 2 I have taken a course in regression analysis. I learned that the equation $\beta =(X'X)^{-1}X'y$ can be used to find the weights in a linear model.
When learning about GLMs, I came across this formula that can be used when $(X'X)$ is not invertible while $XX'$ is.
$$\beta = X'(XX')^{-1}y$$
For example, if the generalized linear model is $y(x_1,x_2) = b_0 +b_1x_1+b_2x_2+b_3x_1x_2+b_4x_1^2+b_5x_2^2$, and there are, say, four data points, then there would be correlation between the columns and so we have to use the "right inverse method".
My question is, where did the equation $\beta = X'(XX')^{-1}y$ come from? I tried searching up the derivation, but could not find anything (which is why I could not come up with a nice title for this post; I don't know what keywords to use). I suspect it would be by performing partial derivatives, as in the usual $\beta =(X'X)^{-1}X'y$ equation, but I cannot see how it works.

A: Your question is a bit unclear to me. However, as far I can understand...

if the generalized linear model is
$y(x_1,x_2)=b_0+b_1x_1+b_2x_2+b_3x_1x_2+b_4x^2_1+b_5x^2_2$, and there
are, say, four data points, then

...then your model matrix $X$ is a $4\times 6$ matrix:
$$\begin{bmatrix}
1 & x_{11} & x_{21} & x_{11}x_{21} & x_{11}^2 & x_{21}^2 \\
1 & x_{12} & x_{22} & x_{12}x_{22} & x_{12}^2 & x_{22}^2 \\
1 & x_{13} & x_{23} & x_{13}x_{23} & x_{13}^2 & x_{23}^2 \\
1 & x_{14} & x_{24} & x_{14}x_{24} & x_{14}^2 & x_{24}^2
\end{bmatrix}$$
If $\text{rank}(X)=4$, then $X^TX$ is a $6\times 6$ singular matrix, while $XX^T$ is a $4\times 4$ non singular matrix.
You should need $(X^TX)^{-1}$ to estimate $\beta$, but since $X^TX$ is singular you have to use a right inverse, i.e. a matrix $X_R$ such that $XX_R=I$:
$$ X\beta=y,\qquad X\beta=XX_Ry,\qquad \beta=X_Ry$$
A right inverse that always guarantees a solution is: $X_R=X^T(XX^T)^{-1}$.
See Wikipedia and Cherkassky & Mulier, Learning From Data: Concepts, Theory, and Methods, John Wiley & Sons, 2007, Appendix B.