I just filed about a month ago for divorce from my wife (sorry I don't know all your acronyms). I would have been married 14 years this Oct to someone who has never been diagnosed with BPD, but is spot-on for all of the symptoms. In addition to dealing with deep depression and having severe OCD and anxiety, she has extreme anger issues, alcoholism, and a spending problem. All of that with two kids (girls, 7 & 12). It's been real fun. A few years ago she was arrested for assaulting me, and was hospitalized for several days after a suicide attempt. She hops off her meds without medical advisement, shops therapists when forced to go, and is a very emotional and persuasive blamer who has driven everyone out of my life. I could go on. Sound familiar?
I filed on her about 2.5 years ago when her drinking and anger was at an all-time high. She behaved while that was looming, and convinced me she'd seen the error of her ways, so I lifted it. It was soon after that happened that she quit therapy and started drinking again. It was manageable for that first year, but that second year was difficult. It came to a head again this past fall when I finally started standing up to her control - especially to her frequently berating our kids for little stuff.
This time when I filed, she abruptly went from trying to convince me within a week that she had turned her life around 200% and there was a bright rosy future for all of us. But I wasn't buying it. For two weeks she went back and forth between "give us a chance" and "I hate you and wish we'd never met". Then I think she finally accepted it. And this time, she really worked over our oldest daughter and has her hating on me now too. And she's telling anyone who will listen, the "horrible" things I'm doing to her, and conveniently leaving out key details. For example: my moving most of our joint account money to a private account was a direct result of her repeatedly threatening to drain our accounts and drown me in debt. But she only tells the part where she's a victim. And there are lots of stories like that.
So I'm working this through the system, but my question is this: how can I get her out of the house sooner? We have a six month minimum waiting period here, but I know these things can drag out when the BPD gets nasty (and they usually do, right?). But what incentives work with them? She's not entitled to my retirement (pre-marital) but I'm thinking I could offer her something to make this quick. She also wants 75% of the kids, whereas I want 50/50 (but that's non-neg). Right now she basically bullies me around the house - patrolling the core areas and making a scene in front of the kids when I "intrude". If I speak up, she says she feels "threatened" and that she'll call 911. So I keep to myself upstairs, but I can't live like this - watching her rule the roost and claw away at my relationship with the kids... how can I bring a swifter end to all this?
Your first post was in 2006 and you spoke of divorce back then just after your daughter was born. You certainly stuck through a lot of what was going on back then. Did the communication tools help at all? My ex wasn't nearly as dramatic, and we only had a 1 and 3 year old, but I let her live with me for four months until she found a place. I made it like two ships passing in the night, ate separately.
Is she really abling amping up the things you've had to deal with all this time?
I honestly don't remember the tools you're referring to - could you point me to them again?
It's kind of like ships in the night now, except for her horn blaring at me as she passes, and her shooing the little tugs away.
She's always been angry, always drank - always been pretty much the same way, in fact. But yes, the anger and control has ratcheted up and up and the OCD is a lot worse (diminished quality of life). I've just learned through therapy that I've been playing along as a care-taker and co-dependent this whole time and making it ok for her. When I stopped doing that, that's when she started her insidious campaign against me.
I would still love some ideas on accelerating her timeline. Does anything work? I will probably offer her a bit of the retirement, and maybe a higher initial spousal, but our lawyers have yet to talk.
You probably don't want to offer her what you think is reasonable first thing out the gate. Start with what you want ideally and leave yourself some room to gift things away.
My ex needed to feel that he was winning (even at the expense of what was best for him, if that makes sense). I had to strategize everything so that he would feel like he was in a one-up position.
As for the battle over the hearts and minds of your kids, I recommend reading Divorce Poison by Richard Warshak and Don't Alienate the Kids by Bill Eddy. Anything by Dr. Craig Childress is also good. Learn the specific relationship and communication skills that will help your kids feel emotionally safe. They may not understand immediately but on some level they will recognize what emotional safety feels like, and it happens with you.
The skills are not intuitive and must be learned.
From what I've learned in the last few months: Negotiating with a BPD is like negotiating with a terrorist. my soon to be ex-wife wants the moon and feels entitled to everything so I guess she has some narcissistic traits in addition to BPD. It's a frigging nightmare to deal with and of course everything is my fault and that's what she tells everyone.
"Thankfully" she assaulted me so she cannot come back home and there is a no contact order but it makes things way more difficult. Court paperwork will be filed shortly, there's no way mediation would lead anywhere.
In your case, with kids, you may want to look into filing for exclusive possession of the matrimonial home if there's any risk to the kids. You could try to buy her out depending on what "flavour" of BPD she has..
Are you sure about 50-50 custody? is this really in the best interest of the kids? I used to think so but friends, family and lawyer made me realize in my case that it's not and I should get them more than 50. Think of the kids first.
Hang in there. it's really difficult. And remember one thing: she wouldn't hesitate to throw you under the bus so try not to feel too guilty.
And remember one thing: she wouldn't hesitate to throw you under the bus so try not to feel too guilty.
Well said. It's divorce, after all. And usually their attorney wants to shaft you, and usually your attorney wants to shaft them. Different personalities and approaches of course. A friend who is a retired family law attorney warned me about that. She told me to grow a thick skin and get good legal representation.
I'm by nature an accommodating person, and sometimes over-the-line that way. I have to watch myself.
"You could try to buy her out depending on what "flavour" of BPD she has.. "
Where can I find the list of BPD flavors and what motivates them?
Divorce by definition is adversarial. You are, however, co-habitating. A few of us here are there or have been there. In order to reduce conflict, it would be good to get familiar with the communication tools in the Lessons at the top of the Bettering Board.
Not only do you have to live together, you also will have to parent with her apart in the near and distant future. The tools can help reduce conflict. Think of them not as a panacea (nothing is), but rather as tools to help you cope and do what's best for not only your kids, but you.
Far from official but from what I've seen and read: Some have narcissism added to the BPD and feel entitled to the moon (that's what I have to deal with), others mainly fear abandonment so as long as they see kids frequently they may reasonable. Others turn violent. See the book "splitting", and various BPD books.
She does not want to submit to you or anyone. She's fighting to survive. She has to win. You're witnessing more openly how she feels inside. It's not a place of reason.
She's experiencing chronic emotional and psychological chaos and the things that have helped her cope in the past have also hurt her, and she's losing one of them (you, money, married status). The more control she loses, the tighter she will cling to what she does have (the kids, the house).
Instead of focusing on appeasing her, focus on what is best for you and the kids. The more you own those pieces, the more she may escalate. Last time that led to a stark truth for her. That she is ill and needs help, and possibly another round of inpatient treatment.
You have to focus on you, and look at past behaviors (for both of you). Has giving into her worst impulses ever worked out for you?
Is there alcohol in the house?
Instead of focusing on appeasing her, focus on what is best for you and the kids. The more you own those pieces, the more she may escalate.
Well said. The way I see it, it's like "negotiating with a terrorist". It doesn't lead anywhere.
I tried to help for months, did all I could (beside taking her back). That included spending lots of my time for hospital visits with the kids, finding her a place to live, helping her get settled, trying to calm her down during crisis, answering messages, this, that, .. and what did I get in return? death threats because I did not answer a text message within 30 minutes, bunch of personal items stolen, and I was assaulted in front of people. That's when I realized that there's no point in trying to help. I need to think about myself and the kids. It's a sad reality.
"Is there alcohol in the house?"
No, she stopped drinking after her first couple of consults with attorneys. She is now taking CBD oil, as she says that helps with anxiety.
I kind of wish she was still drinking, as she'd be more apt to do dumb things that would not look good for her. I get the downside though.
She is likely thinking exactly the same thing as you: How do I get this guy to move out?
She has already threatened to call 911. It's an effective way to get you out of the house. While focusing on incentives for her to move out, maybe also focus on how to protect yourself.
How do things work where you live if she calls 911? Different states have different rules. If 911 is called and she falsely accuses you of violence, do they arrest both adults? Or do they arrest the largest person (considered most capable of harm)? What happens next if they take you away and do you need a criminal lawyer? If so, probably a good idea to find one now and keep his or her card on you.
More along the lines of protecting yourself...some states allow one-party consent recording. Meaning, you don't legally need the other person's consent to record. That's helpful to know for legal reasons, but you may also need something in the heat of the moment to show a cop if it comes to that. Good questions to ask your attorney.
I had a BPD partner. We were living in my own house.
I told her that I wanted to split. After two months of negotiations, my lawyers recommended me to leave the house. Her lawyer was making threats to make me removed out of the house by calling the police. The consequences were quite serious: having 5 minutes to get some personal stuff and leave, a restricted order to keep me off the house, losing contact of my kids until a judge resolve the issue (months/years), etc.
My recommendations are: take most of your personal stuff out of the house, record conversations, use the video camera of your cell phone and tell her that your videotaping (In my location, it make it legal), analyze if you should leave the house (this is unfair but might be your best option), no verbal talking, send text messages with no emotions in a very formal style.
Are you able to get your kids into counseling? Most kids, even those without a parent with BPD, have a tough time adjusting to divorce. It's even harder when the parents are still living together, so that everything "looks normal" when it really isn't. For those kids whose parent has BPD, it can be even more critical to get the kids into counseling to help them learn to deal with the behaviors.
If you can't convince your wife to allow it now, make sure this is something that your L insists goes into the final agreement.
"Are you able to get your kids into counseling?"
Yes, the oldest one is there now, and we are on the cusp of a consent order to have it maintained until the therapist is happy with things. Our youngest will have a chat with the therapist this week or next, so that door is open.
It was something I pushed for the first time I filed, but the wife was dead against it (she was afraid it would make her look bad). This time around she's got the oldest alienated to the point of telling me to F-off, so I'm betting she didn't oppose it because she thinks it will go the other way.
I don't know what my custody evaluator's final report contained — I strongly suspect it added the details of my then-spouse's rage at pediatrician's staff and their subsequent "withdrawal of services" — but I did see the preliminary report that was discussed by the main judge and both lawyers. "Mother cannot share 'her' child but Father can... Mother should immediately lose her temporary custody... If Shared Parenting is attempted and fails then Father should get custody."
The final report was sealed because we did settle on Trial Day. Yes, the CE did lean toward 50/50 but, as with most professionals, he had hope that would work out. Of course it didn't, a couple years later I went back for custody and majority time, walking out with custody. It still left her too entitled, a couple years later I again went back for majority time, walking out with majority time during the school year. Evidently that finally burst her entitlement bubble, or at least she realized she had lost her credibility with officials. It's been 5 years and we haven't been back to court since then.
So be aware that court, lawyers and many of the other associated professionals will default toward "typical" outcomes and be inclined to slow walk fixes to an order that doesn't work. But it's your life, your kids, so you have a right to advocate for yourself and for them.


Have you or a loved one suffered from loneliness or social isolation during the aging process? What, in your opinion, is the most helpful intervention for reducing isolation? Join the discussion in the comments below.
May I suggest you contact your County's 'Adult Protective Services' (APS), explain the situation, and ask them what they can do to help…and what they can suggest you should do. I'm concerned your father may be experiencing serious cognitive decline and he will require an assessment. Please take this basic action to begin the rescue of your mother from this abuse. I hope your parents live in a county where are people and programs to help them/you.
In my county, APS will take your report and keep your name confidential. They will visit your parents' home and act from there. I hope your mother will be honest and forthcoming with APS regarding her situation.
My grandmother ended up in a nursing home when her Alzheimer's became so advanced that she could not walk any more, and my grandfather and I could no longer care for her at home.
It actually turned out well. She was prescribed medication to calm her agitation, which I believe was caused by the fact that she could not communicate what she wanted to a lot of the time (difficulty remembering words). She enjoyed having the other residents for company. It was a very small home, and the residents who were more astute mentally tended to look out for those like my Grammy.
One thing made me both sad and angry, though: the fact that the families of many of the residents NEVER VISITED THEM.
My Grampa and I saw my Grammy every day. My Mom visited at least 3 times a week. Other family members visited at least once every month. My son flew in from North Carolina to Massachusetts to visit. Several times.
My brother only went to see Grammy once. "Oh I can't take it seeing her in that awful place" yada yada. I told him he was a selfish SOB, slapped him across the face, and informed him that I would be taking his 2 young sons with me to visit.
My nephews loved going to see their great-grammy. All the residents fussed over them. They organized wheelchair races in the hall, helped do puzzles, and informed the residents that "it's not hard to cheat at Bingo". It was great.
I have absolutely NO patience with people who don't visit elderly family members in nursing homes. Oh, you can't stand it – like my brother- well, guess what, IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU.
It's about honoring and loving the person who loved you from the day you were born.
This is all interesting. I have a very difficult 80yo mother. We had a very disfunction family growing up. My stepfather was 12 years older than my mom. He's gone and she's very lonely and depressed. We do not live far away, but neither my sister and I want to deal with our mother because of how difficult she is. When she wants something, or wants us to help her with her computer or anything, she wants us there NOW! And if we don't come immediately she gets angry at us. Tells us how rotten we are, how lonely she is. All my life my mother has gotten on me because of my depression and loneliness. No sympathy, nothing. "Get over it" she said. Do something. I tell her the same thing. There are senior centers. You can get free computer tutorials. She doesn't want to do any of it. She says she doesn't need anyone and is happy on her own. But she complains because she has no "family". Nothing us kids do is right so what's the point of helping? I call her every day and get the list of what my sister and I do wrong, or not enough of or, whatever. It makes it hard to want to do anything.
Here, Here! I am 62 and I have nobody.
Seema Vijayi have thrown light on the very crucial aspect which a major crowd of senior age group are suffering from as isolation is a very complex social issue..
I have read this article regarding senior isolation on the hubpages.
This is a problem that most social agencies and senior activists don't want to address. Many seniors are isolated because their communities and neighborhoods changed very rapidly around them. This is especially true in places like the SF Bay Area. My elderly parents are still in their home of 40 years, but of the dozen homes immediately around them, only one is English-speaking. My mother has attempted to het to know her neighbors, but it is not reciprocated. People are afraid of being labeled for expressing their feelings of isolation and depression that result.
Why are you not getting her out of there? For heaven sakes, how long are you going to watch her being tortured? Are you and your sister not capable of helping her? And why hasn't she seeked help on her own? No matter what the reasons are that he is acting the say he is, they are NOT excuses. He could have gotten help years ago concerning his childhood and his own issues, instead of making it an excuse to be abusive to others. Yes, I know the pattern, abuse begets abuse, begets, abuse, and on and on…Believe me, I know what it's like to be tortured as a child, but you go get help for all the anger. Nothing is going to change for your mother until see leaves.
A question? Are any of you old and alone? Unless you are in the situation, and living it, it's pretty hard to understand. It's like everything else……"walk a mile in my shoes".
You know, I do get out on trips. I walk more than any other resident here, and I am more active than most. I keep myself busy just because of this reason, but how does that make up for being totally isolated whenever there is a holiday and everyone is sitting with their families except me? No matter how you cut it, if you have nobody, you are basically alone. I speak to people, I do things with people, but we don't go out together on "special" luncheons and dinners like you would your family. It's just hard, no matter how you slice it. I have had some people tell me that I can be "their family", but I hate to hear those words because in the long run, you just end up getting hurt as you realize you really are not family. I had a companion dog, I have had dogs my entire life just because of this, and it helps with the depression. But my little one passed away just two months ago, and now, living in this assisted living place, and especially where I live (Brighton), there are NO low cost vets here. So I find myself not being able to get the ONE THING that helped me more than anything else (I'm an avid animal lover) because I can no longer afford the entire vet bills. When I lived in Denver, they have low cost vet clinics all over the place, but there are none here. And the other problem is, I can't go to Denver to take a pet to the vets because the facility I live in will only take us in the surrounding areas, and there is no way I could afford a cab. So, along with basically having no family, I also lost the best friend in the world and I am at a time in my life where I am not in a position to replace her. I have put my feelers out (I used to do rescue work) that if anyone has a small dog that they HAVE to get rid of but don't really want to, and wants to continue to visit them, I would take them if the person or people would help pay the vets bills for the life of the pet. But this is a pretty far fetched wish, we'll see.
Not necessarily! Keep an open mind and heart! In any event, whatever happens – you won't be alone! There are a whole bunch of us boomers out here!!!
I'm 65 and live in an assisted living community, yet I am now lonelier than ever. I have no family, and I had to move from the area I'm used to living where my friends were. Even though I'm in a community, it has become worse and I am isolating more and more. The problem is, when I lived alone, I didn't have to be exposed to all these people greeting their families for dinners and holidays, and just to visit. It becomes unbearable at times. I get to where I don't even want to leave my room because all the family members of the other residents seem to like me so they say "hi" and speak to me, yet I know they are not here for me, they are here for their own families. It hurts, and it's getting worse. And yes, my health, since living here, does seem to be declining.
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I wish I had a senior like myself that is lonely we could share expenses in the house and keep company ….if we want to be alone we. Can just watch TV in our room or Dont talk I'm very easy to get long with ….
Are you talking to me …..to move to the next life nogattaca?????
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Yea, I am on the same track as you when it comes to senior groups. I stay active with music and sports and they do not line up with all my interests. I am very independent like you and do my own thing, which has been working great for 9 years now.
That is a tough question. I guess that is what Medicaid is for. You just will not get your choice of where you will end up. We are all in the same boat. Very few people can last very long at $9000 a month.
Yea, when you retire you need to have several interests to keep you busy mentally and physically. Maria, you have it all going. Music and sports is what keeps me very active mentally and physically. Sitting on a coach and watching TV 14 hours a day is not for me. I know many that is all they do.
As a man who has been married 3 times and now single at 69, I would say I enjoy my own company and would rather do my own thing than be with a person that you are not happy with. Nothing worse than being married and you come to find out, down the road, you can not stand each other. I am an outgoing person and I take trips by myself and meet people. Play a lot of golf and ski. I also sing for senior citizens in Nursing homes and have many good friends. I would never marry again for fear it could be another mistake. We all have to learn to love ourselves and do special things for ourselves. I do have a lady friend that lives 50 miles away, but, we are just friends and neither one of us wants to get totally involved with the other because we enjoy our own lifestyles the way they are. I have had enough drama in my life to last a lifetime. Stay positive all you single people and try and find a hobby and connect with someone on the outside, to be friends with.
I have nobody I am alone I will be alone for Christmas I wsd alone for Thanksgiving my daughter curzzed at me and deserted me …I have no one ….
Suicide is a possible solution. If you're alone, ill, running out of money, can't take care of your dwellings or yourself, what is there to live for? The nursing home with instant potatoes and bingo?
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I am 65, divorced 9 years ago, have three adult children, I see two of my children once a week . The youngest lives out of state and married with children so for them, only about twice a year….. I have severe COPD , 38 percent lung useage and on oxygen…..feels at time my COPD controls my life where I find myself going on self pity trips. I have no car now and live in a small town where buses only run Mon to Friday, 8:30am to 4pm, going only to the medical center and stores. I read, do some art, watch tv. and have become an expert in the field of napping..most times, not even trying…..my cat is my company on a daily basis, People where I live (Senior Citizen apartments) are not social….everyone pretty much sticks to themselves with the exception of a hi how are you in the hall….except for two busy bodies who I swear are conjoined at the hip, as they navigate the halls and lobby side by side near 24/7……I look out the windows at the cars passing by…snow, rain…..wondering how I got to where I am today? Do I have regrets? A few…but only that i wish I had known who I was at an early age….so I would of known who not to marry. and expected better for myself…I never realized one day I would feel the way I do…when young, my mind seemed to believe 30 was forever….never was I prepared for this….and much of the time I sit and think about my demise…..when, how and where? But I am "here" and that's what is important now….so I so what I can, when I can….and try to accept this only a part of living…..which am surely is better then the end.
Time to make peace with it and move on to the next life.
There is but one dark cloud in the life of those who live alone.
There will come a time when one will become immobile and therefore unable to take care of oneself.
Mixing with the wrong company can easily mess up your life!
Perhaps that's why so many people nowadays prefer to go it alone!
Thank you for sharing, Zack.
Linda, did you write, "…who … is a worthless druggy"? What is it that makes one human being "worthless"? And who among us is qualified to judge the worth of another's life? It's ironic to read in a therapeutic setting catering to a community that's very often alienated and devalued … the devaluation and ostracization of others.
Interesting article/list. I would have very much appreciated the citations from the professional literature for each of the above points.
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didn't quite finish the last sentence .. .the point being choice is the defining characteristic of Quality of life Perception .. . . to the person affected.
I am a 73 yr old artist and i live on a farm which I still semi manage. my daughter and her family moved back 3 years ago and live in the main house . My husband has been dead for 16 years and I have always been comfortable in solitude . .. just my nature I guess. Several years ago, after running a bed and breakfast and wedding venue to pay off bills after my husband's death, I decided to focus on getting my studio into a permanent status. Its in an old corncrib and was my husbands woodworking shop. Initially I shoved a few big pieces of equipment aside and set up my easels, bought a shop heater to replace woodstove (2nd floor space) and puttered on happily for 2 -3 years . As I approached a point where I had paid off all the bills that showed up and that I incurred opening up a business .. . I thought more seriously about my living arrangements and realized that I didn't want to knock around a big old farm house. I stayed with the B & B/wedding venue 11 years and that got me free and clear financially. Now, I could use the house to rent out to a farmer who could do the work around the farm and that meant I needed to think creatively about where I was going to live. It seemed a natural step to me to fix up the studio. The barn was full of 2nd hand projects that were "meant to be" refurbished, fixed, used, etc" and it never happened so I had my pick of furnishings, antiques, etc. for my space which is a whopping 24 X 40. I picked out what I needed (not much) and sold the rest. I have found that the desire for "stuff" fades quickly as you age so nothing I put up here in my "apartment/studio" was purchased new except a small refrigerator, an AC unit, and a toaster oven. My space is 960 sq ft. OF that, 18 X 24 (432 SF) is my studio and that leaves me 525 SF of living space. i have kept everything I can off the floor so that its easy to clean and not much to trip over.
My farmer Idea never materialized because my daughter is now living in the house with her kids and is in the middle of divorce. My studio life I find has to be guarded carefully or else I fall into the "mom" and "gram" roles and that easily can turn into a full time position.. . . which I don't want. Love them all but want and need my life too. . .I'm the one who's running out of time. So can be tiring if I don't keep my boundaries and parameters straight. I think in some instances "socializing" is Assumed to be necessary and sometimes forced on people. Older traditions around the world acknowledge and support a different perspective that the last decades need to be about introspection, self fulfilment and contemplation. The business of the world is and never has been my cup of tea. I haven't had a TV set for past 40 years and am none the worse off for it. Indeed I feel I spare myself the stress of all the fear mongering and anxiousness that seems to dog the general population who are daily given a diet of things to worry about. If something occurs "out there" that is of a concern to me or interests me the computer can connect me to the ideas of issues of my choosing. The days are far too short to accomplish all that I do and want to do.
I am fortunate in that respect because i know that is not the case for many seniors who live in places not of their choosing, in company not of their choosing and who are financially distressed and experiencing serious health and physical well being issues.
While I live simply I am certainly not poor. I have limited resources but I also have my family to fall back on if circumstances change or deteriorate for me. Its like college kids who kick around South America or go in the peace corp after graduating. They live like people who are ACTUALLY poor and they experience and become familiar with the problems which attend poverty but they themselves are not actually haunted by the reality of poverty. Its a temporary circumstance which they have chosen and from which they can extract themselves at any moment. Big Difference. Same for me .. . . The defining issue is choice. .. .. for all the issues that confront the elderly population . . . .health, finances, living situation, etc. And the choices needn't be huge to increase or improve quality of life. Think of the last time you spent time in a hospital or a restricted situation of any kind. Not being able to walk over to a refrigerator and open the door ….
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Nice post. I live in a community with a diverse span of generations – lots of ruthlessly independent folks older than 65. Many are widowed, do not work, but are highly educated and active all of the time. They are active in community charities, theater, taking care of their homes and yards, engaged in the beauty outdoors all around them, and have routine dinners/social events that keep up a healthy exchange of interactions, opportunities to meet new people, etc. They also go on annual cruses all over the world (lucky of course that they can afford to do that) I am glad my wife and I have been exposed to these wonderful people as they have set an example of who we want to be as we age.
I am 75, surviving deadly diagnosis for the 14h year now. my mobility and need for Oxygen therapy only diminished in the last 3-4 years. I am probably the exception to what happens to most elderly who live alone. I would not have it any other way. I entertain myself, I read, I am an activist (for Bernie Sanders), I am on FaceBook and Twitter. Poetry is my favorite, but I also play music. There are not enough hours in the day for me to either be bored, or lonely, or isolated. But then it comes in handy that I speak many languages and communicate with friends and family all over the world. It comes in handy that I am a physics teacher and know about leverage, electronics and computer-savvy. Now that I look at what I wrote, I can confidently say to you, that it matters that I am well educated and have a lot of skills. This is what I would add to your write-up: Do not forget the role education plays even in this sorry setting.
I interact with my mother as a matter of formality, not because she's a great person to be around. I block out all the negativity and do what I have to do, the only other recourse being to ignore her completely. She is not yet 60, is fully mobile but how you describe x–mom-in-law more or less captures what my mom is like now. Don't waste time explaining yourself, you'll only attract more haranguing. She doesn't have to appreciate you. You do what you must do (groceries et cetera) and push-off at the earliest convenience till the next time. Unless she sics authorities on you, you're all right. It's not being cruel, it's being practical in an impractical situation.
On the number 4, reporting doesn't help because nothing is done. This will be the 2nd Christmas that has passed where I have not been allowed to talk to my mom during the holidays. My sister has her sequestered and will not allow contact.
PLease go through this piece as well sir.
Look at this article which may answer many of your questions.
Loneliness is unfortunately such a common problem for the older generation. I've been helping my father adapt to mobility issues that have contributed to his loneliness and depression. Fortunately, through – http://www.gloe.uk.com – I was able to find walking sticks and The Silver Line Helpline to help him cope. It's very important that the elderly feel part of the community, and helping my dad move around more easily and talk to people more easily seems to have helped him.
At 67, my children have their own lives, and I don't expect them to give up their time for me. I live alone and I enjoy the independence. I'm a pro quality sports photographer at my local high school. This is my way of keeping active whether they like it or not, jk. The community appreciates my work, and some of my photos have been highlighted by the school and public, which is welcomed. I volunteer for popular high traffic events, and I travel to Europe one month at a time where I go out of my way to meet my old exchange students I have hosted. I use my camera to document the trips so that I and others can enjoy the trips later. I will not sit around and be isolated as that is a death sentence. Keeping active and feeling part of the community give me the reason to be alive.
LGBT…As a lesbian at 61, living a lifetime as a lesbian in Northern California, LGBT came from San Francisco in 78′ @ the Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Transgender Parade. Prior to that time it was called the "Gay Day Parade". In 78′ Prop. 6 was on the Ballot, "the firing of Homosexual school teachers, and/or anyone who advocates, solicits or promotes Homosexuality in their public or private life" brought to us by a bigot, Senator Briggs. We had Anita Bryant and "Save Our Children" champaign ! "Come Out Come Out where ever you are"…….and we did !!! It has been LGBT ever since.
This is why I think groups like Friendly Conversations LLC are so important. We are listening when needed most. 1(888)251-1634 http://www.friendlyconversationsllc.com. In case you havent heard of us, we provide that human interaction that people are missing. We provide appointments scheduled or unscheduled just to talk about whatever, afterwards we send a wellness update to a friend or relative no details on conversation its only to address safety concerns.
identify issues around caregiving and to provide solutions.
The point is, whether people are along but there are no chronic issues or people have chornic issues, it does not preclude you from living your life. What we all need is "a little help from our friends." (from the Beatles song).
I notice, all the time when I am shopping, traveling, or at get togethers that there are people who are accompanied by someone who helps them or they are in canes, walkers, wheel chairs. Whatever the issue, most people are able to be with other people if they have assistance.
there will be people who are crumdegeons and I believe nothing will assist them. People who love other people, people who have interests in life, people who have people who care about them will figure out how to keep them involved in their lives.
I advise myself and others: if you are having symptoms of depression, not sleeping well, or you feel that that you are overwhelmed with life issues…..talk to a mental health professonial. Families should contact geratric care professionals to help them with how to sort through issues when a person is not able to make informed decisions.
If people own a long term care plan, they or family should contact the carrier who will provide care support with no fee. Or for a fee conact an independent geriatric care advisor.
People tell me that getting old isn't easy. I comment, yes it is — I became 65 with no problem. The challenge is that my body needs more maintenance and life brings disappointments. When this occurs, I get help and work to make my body and mind as functional as possible.
I may seem a little angry based on my comment below. I am angry. I spent the last 6 months dealing with a corrupt system. My mother had Long Term Health care insurance with Mutual of Omaha. It was a policy that she used her hard earned money to pay for so that she could be taken care of by "professionals". Everything seemed to be going fine in August of 2014. The rep at MOA said "no problem, she sounds like a good candidate" Then we found an assisted living (Brookdale) and the sales rep said "no problem" most of the elderly in our assisted living don't need to be there but they have insurance for it so we make it work for them! Lie, lie, lie, lie. Everyone is a liar! Like a fool my sister and I believed all of these people. I moved her 4 times since August believing what everyone told me. spent over $25,000 of her money thinking that her long term care insurance would kick in.
I could have taken care of her myself and spent most of the time doing just that!!(Assisted living centers don't do anything and don't care anyway. they just bring pills and call the ambulance when things get too tough to handle. ALL ASSISTED LIVING CENTERS ARE A WASTE OF TIME AND MONEY!!! ALL LONG TERM HEALTH CARE IS A WASTE OF MONEY!!! THE Only Organization that helped my Mother was "Vitas" a Hospice based organization that travels and took care of her 2 weeks before she passed away. You can take care of your own parents and have people come in to help you. Be very careful and get an attorney if you can find one who knows the difference between the truth and a lie.
This doesn't surprise me at all. Since this country removed the Bible from our schools over 70 years ago, we are now living in a post Judeo/Christian Barbaric Nation. The Media puts down our men showing them to be stupid or womanizing; Women are portrayed as emasculating gossiping whores, we tell our children to do what ever they want without disciplining them. And why should we care since we hate children.(57,000,000 abortions since roe v wade) A society that isn't accountable to the true Living God(not the mediocre, tolerant God that the majority have invented in their pathetic finite minds), doesn't care about anyone but themselves; why should they care about the elderly? If you are just a cosmic accident then eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow you die!!


Mladen Miljanovic is an artist from Banja Luka who has based his art upon his own life experience of growing up during the war and then, after the war, living in what he calls "the destroyed, impoverished, ethnically and territorially divided, and externally isolated country of Bosnia Herzegovina".
Having attended the Officer Reserve School of the Army of Republika Srpska in Banja Luka, he was exposed to first hand insights into the consequences of the war and direct knowledge of what he calls "the senseless military image vocabulary".
The Academy of Arts is located in one of the buildings of the former Vrbas military barracks that have all been turned into buildings with civil purpose, like the university.
Miljanovic, who had served in these barracks, later worked there as an artist. From October 2006 until July 2007, he retreated for nine months of isolation to the former barracks as part of an artistic project to "decontaminate spaces". For Mladen Miljanovic "art is not a goal, but a means of confrontation with the negative past and practical affirmation of the attitude make art, not war".
Miljanovic won several prices, including from the Museum of Contemporary Art of the Republika Srpska. He has exhibited abroad, including in Graz, Utrecht, and Amsterdam.
Mladen Miljanovic also addresses the social and therapeutic aspects of art; he runs painting and sculpting workshops and seminars for disabled people. Many of the participants are war victims.


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It has been said that there is nothing certain in this world but death and taxes. Rarely do the two get paired up except in a discussion of estate taxes. However, this month we will go on an excursion of longevity and the current state of affairs on tax policy and what you should do about both.
While performing financial planning services, we have observed that people tend to underestimate how long they will live, even in the face of strong evidence to the contrary. I am sure that you, dear reader, are doing what you can to help and are hopefully witness to the positive outcome. There are many sides to the story however. One is to deny the possibility, let alone the probability, of a very long life.
When we present the projections of income, expenses, and net worth to age 100, the most common response is along the lines of "I hope I don't live that long." The rather typical inclination is to think that a person of 90+ must be incapacitated or that life will surely be so miserable at that age as to be not worth living. You and I know that's not true for a lot of people.
The alternative is to begin now, whatever your current age, to plan for the probability of life to 100 or even beyond and to take an objective look at what that life will be.
The insurance industry doesn't help. While selling life insurance, they routinely remind us that we might not live very long and they flash actuarial tables at us to prove the point. One major problem is that the actuarial tables express longevity at a 50% probability of life expectancy for a very large population. Ah, the flaw of averages. Do we really have to be reminded that we are a population of one?
Furthermore, the actuarial tables hinge on only two factors: gender and age. Like most things, we encourage the use of a more robust tool for serious planning. One that looks at more risk factors would help. We also like to use a tool that offers suggestions for improving current wellbeing as well as longevity. We prefer the one constructed by the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School and it can be found using the QR code on this page.
That brings us to taxes. Right NOW is the time to check in on your 2012 tax projection. The Mayan calendar aside, as taxpayers we face enormous uncertainty as the end of the year approaches. Tax rates are scheduled to go up on January 1, along with the elimination of many credits and deductions and other incentives (commonly referred to as the "Bush tax cuts"). Concurrent with this will be sequestration which imposes across-the-board spending cuts at the Federal level, leading someone to call it taxmageddon.
Some think that the changes in the tax code will only affect the wealthy. Not so. The 10% bracket goes away entirely. The so-called marriage penalty will return. Itemized deductions and personal exemptions will once again be limited. The child tax credit will be halved. Substantially more taxpayers will be subject to the alternative minimum tax (AMT). So what to do now?
From an investment perspective, it may be good time to harvest losses (if you have any). Even if you cannot take the full capital loss deduction this year, the losses could be carried forward and used to offset future gains, which are likely to be taxed at a higher rate. Be aware that if you are selling securities at a loss there is a little known provision called the "wash sale rule" that generally prohibits you from taking the loss on a security if you have repurchased the same or substantially identical asset 30 days before or after the sale.
Two new taxes kick in for 2013. The Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act imposes an additional 0.9% Medicare tax on wages and self employment income and a 3.8% Medicare contribution tax will apply after 2012 to single individuals with a modified AGI of over $200,000 and married couples with more than $250,000 of MAGI.
Interestingly enough, both chambers passed bills this summer that would forestall the drastic changes that are about to appear. The two could not find agreement however, so the proverbial can has likely been kicked down the road to a lame duck Congress sitting after the November elections. It's possible that Congress will wait until 2013 to act, if they act at all. Traditional yearend planning is essential. However, this year more than most, the planning should consider both 2012 and 2013. Multi-scenario, multi-year planning is the only prudent play of the hand we are dealt.


The mighty production wizard Oozhe, drops his latest beat tape, Homework for the masses. Inspired by the soundtracks of old American high school films, this 10 track beat tape hits the spot for all those Lo Fi seeking junkies.
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Hi! I saw this on Hacker News and I thought it would be nice to discuss. What do you think about this? Do you like the bussiness model? (the price seems to increase with each sale, which doesn't make sense to me...).
That's actually the fun part of it. It make this project different. It reminds me highscore.money.
Yeah, for the designer is fun, but is it for the buyer? In the end, you're buying a logo for using in a project, and the people who will see it doesn't care how you bought it.
But my true question, since we're designers is: is it good to a business to buy a logo that wasn't specifically made for it?
I see it's increasingly at a slower rate at each sale than before. Was $40, I believe, now $20.


From NASA: Apollo 11 Onboard Audio Highlights – These are not necessarily major milestones of the mission but are some of the more interesting and clearly recorded conversations the crew members had among themselves as the mission progressed.
As the crew members complete their first orbit of Earth after launch, they talk about the beauty of the planet below.
The crew members debate the color of the moon before, and after, they fire Columbia's engines to enter lunar orbit.
After entering lunar orbit, the crew members are amazed at the lunar terrain as they fly 60 miles above the back side of the moon and await Earthrise and to resume communications with Mission Control.
As Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin prepare to depart for the lunar surface in the lunar module Eagle, Mike Collins, in the command module Columbia, bids them farewell … and tells them to take it easy.
Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin lift off from the moon to rejoin Mike Collins in lunar orbit.


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Telling Hamilton's story: Remember the forgotten Founding Father through hip hop
By Editor on July 19, 2018 • ( Leave a comment )
When I was in New York last year and stopped at Trinity Church – just a stone's throw from Wall Street – most visitors only seemed to have one thing they wanted to see. It wasn't inside the building itself, but a grave at side of the churchyard where one Alexander Hamilton is buried.
Since Hamilton the musical opened in New York in 2015, people have been going mad for anything to do with this lesser known Founding Father. Hamilton mania has now of course crossed the Atlantic following the production arriving in the West End in December. Tickets are difficult, if not impossible to come by.
For years Hamilton (the man, not the musical) had what seemed like a side part in American Revolution history – the other Founding Fathers like George Washington – got much more attention. But after Ron Chernow published an 800 page biography on Hamilton in 2004, which Lin-Manuel Miranda subsequently turned into a hip hop musical (with a few ballads and other songs thrown in for good measure) that has rightly changed.
Hamilton's story is a remarkable one. An orphaned son of a single mother, he left his native Nevis, in the Caribbean, for New York in 1772 after securing a scholarship. George Washington, spotted the distinguished soldier and he became his Right Hand Man.
But it was what happened after the war was won for the Patriots where Hamilton really deserves his place in history. Founding US president Washington appointed him the country's first Treasury Secretary where he pushed his Federalist agenda (writing the highly influential Federalist Papers in the process). Hamilton argued that individual states must join together as one and that revolutionary debts should be amalgamated.
Not being able to get tickets for Hamilton in London, I managed to pick up one for the Chicago production with just a day's notice (it features one of four casts currently performing the musical in the US and UK). I found it a fast-paced, energetic show that managed to condense many important points from the Revolution story into the space of just a few hours.
King George III got the most laughs from the audience. Presented as an over-the-top pompous pantomime character, he warned the separatists (who, pre Revolution, were depicted as constantly out boozing, always enjoying one more round) through songs like 'You'll Be Back'. His message was that he was in charge – and that they would regret leaving the Motherland.
But then came the final siege of Yorktown ('The World Turned Upside Down'), which secured America's independence. Even though by that stage Hamilton was the pen of the Revolution, he fought to return to the battlefield itself and played a prominent role in the victory.
It was however Hamilton's clashes with Thomas Jefferson in Cabinet that filled much of the action in the musical. The two couldn't have had more different ideas on fundamental constitutional issues. Jefferson, who became Secretary of State and was amusingly depicted in the musical with an entourage carrying his many suitcases, was from the slave state of Virginia and opposed his rival's capitalist ideas.
Jefferson favoured a collection of sovereign states, but the Hamilton the Federalist won the argument thanks to a deal struck in a closed door meeting. The 'Room Where It Happened' was probably my favourite song of the whole evening, a catchy number depicting the agreement whereby the Federalist model would be adopted in exchange for the capital being in the south. Jefferson later regretted the decisions of that meeting, which shaped the course of US history.
And then came their disagreements over France. Jefferson wanted to ally with the country, but Hamilton favoured neutrality – he wanted America to be a trading nation and worried about mob rule crossing the Atlantic. Hamilton won that argument as well.
After Washington decided not to run for a third term as president (Hamilton wrote his farewell address – 'One Last Time'), Hamilton's political career nose-dived. He was sacked by president John Adams (even though they were both Federalists) over an inflammatory critique of the new administration.
Hamilton also got caught up in a sex scandal after admitting to an affair with a women called Maria Reynolds. To expose the fact that he was blackmailed by her husband, he wrote a 100 page document detailing what had happened to him.
But it was the decision to switch his allegiances to Jefferson in the presidential election that would bring about his end. Vice-president Aaron Butt – Hamilton's one-time friend and an excellent narrator in the musical – shot him dead. Aged just 47 when he was murdered, Hamilton had so much left to do with his life.
Ultimately Hamilton is about legacy and how someone is remembered. "Who lives, who dies," the cast sing. "Who tells your story?" Thanks to Lin-Manuel's musical, Hamilton's story has now been revealed to the masses. And judging by the whooping throughout and standing ovation at the end when I saw it, it's something that today's America wants to hear.
Alexander Hamilton's grave at Trinity Church, New York
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Minister for Trade, Tourism and Investment Simon Birmingham said Australia's free trade agreements had opened up new market access for Australian exporters, but they were still being hampered by non-tariff barriers such as excessive regulation and red tape.
"Our trading partners have the right to set trade rules that protect their citizens and the environment just as we do in Australia. But sometimes unnecessary rules are imposed that can put our exporters at a disadvantage and restrict the flow of goods," Minister Birmingham said.
"Our government has had more success removing tariff barriers on Australian exports to other nations than any other, helping the exports from our farmers and businesses to boom. However, the rise of non-tariff barriers is evidence that we cannot declare mission accomplished and must be vigilant in our continued efforts to protect and enhance market access for our exporters.
Minister for Industry, Science and Technology Karen Andrews said the Liberal-National Government was standing-up for Australian industry and businesses by taking on trade barriers in overseas markets and making it easier for them to access the help they need.
"This Action Plan means a more coordinated approach to remove non-tariff barriers so exporters can have more clarity on the range of government support services available to them - both here and overseas," Minister Andrews said.
Minister for Agriculture and Water Resources David Littleproud said the Action Plan would complement the 22 Agricultural Counsellors employed overseas, who work with importing countries to remove technical barriers to trade.
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The Complainant made a claim under their home insurance policy for damage caused to the home due to a water leak from a kitchen sink feed pipe.
The Insurance company issued a settlement offer to the complainant for the sum of €3,961.16 for the water leak. The Insurance company didn't receive a response and issued a reminder letter on 26 September 2011 which advised that the Complainant had 14 days to respond otherwise the file will be closed and the complainant did not respond.
The complainant accepted the offer after 3 years and stated he had signed the acceptance form and returned it 3 years ago however the Insurance company had no record of this acceptance. A new acceptance form was sent to the Complainant which was signed an returned to insurer. A cheque of €2,368.98 as a portion of the claim and settlement letter was issued to Complainant. The Cheque wasn't cashed and the Insurance company increased its settlement offer to €4,761. The Complainant was not happy and stated that the insurer has failed to pay the full amount of the loss suffered from the water leak.
The Complainant's Case
The Complainant wrote to the Insurance company claiming an additional €2,580 for loss of rental income as a result of the water leak. The Insurance company requested a copy of the lease agreement, name of the property agent and the reason for the late request. The complainant sent the rent book and requested for this to be included in his claim.
The Complainant raised an issue with the settlement offer in terms of failure to pay for additional loss of rent and the Insurance company home repairer not being able to undertake the work. The Complainant stated that he had paid his own contractor €7,934 to complete the works as a result of the water leak.
The Complainant states a letter from insurer agent (repairer) states that the home repairer would complete the work. The complaint states that the delay in settling this claim was due to the repairer not showing up to do the required work and the Complainant sent numerous reminders to the repairer and eventually had to a hire a different contractor to do the work.
The Complainant sent a letter to the Insurance company stating that he sent numerous letters to Insurer's requesting for an update on the claim and had heard nothing back.
The Complainant wants the Insurer to accept his claim for €19,677.07 which included €9,671.82 for building repair work, €5.25 for registered post and €10,000 compensation for all the delays, neglect and breach of contract.
The Insurer's Case
The Insurance company state it wrote to the complainant pointing out that he had accepted the settlement offer. The letter also requested tenants contact details, how long it took the contractor to complete the work, the invoice from contractor and VAT number, a complete copy of rent book as the one previously sent was incomplete and an explanation as to why the loss of rent issue arose 3 years after the date of loss.
In relation to the settlement offer the insurer reviewed the settlement figures taking into consideration the contractors quotation and then offered a revised settlement offer of €4,761 net of policy excess of €1,000 for the damage caused by the water leak.
In relation to the home repairer issue the insurer states that in order for the home repairer to undertake the works the repairer would complete a scope of works required and submit this to the loss adjuster for approval, which would then be submitted to the complainant as an option to settle the claim. The insurer states that this didn't happen and the repairer confirms this.
In terms of loss of rent issue the insurer states that the Complainant claimed for this 3 years after the date of loss. The insurer requested relevant documentation and information to support this. The Insurer states that the Complainant provided a rent book which was incomplete. The Insurer also states it was willing loss of rent aspect of the claim, once it received required and completed information.
The FSPO are satisfied that the submissions and evidence were sufficient to enable a Legal Binding Decision to be made in this complaint without the necessity for holding an Oral Hearing.
A Preliminary Decision was issued to the parties. The parties were advised that certain limited submission could be made within a period of 15 working days, and if no submissions are made from either or both of the parties, a Legally Binding Decision would be issued to the parties, on the same terms as the Preliminary Decision, in order to conclude the matter.
There was a delay of three years where the Complainant appears not to have contacted the Insurer. The Complainant states he sent numerous letters to Insurer and requested for an update but was not able to provide evidence of these letters. The insurer was entitled to have closed the file. This is not a situation where The Complainant had health issues and was unwell or that there were other issues that would delay from progressing the claim.
In relation to the Home Repair specialist the complainant submitted a quote from his own contractor insinuating that the Complainant intended to use his own contractor. A cash settlement was agreed therefore a cash settlement wouldn't have been made if the Home Repair specialist was being engaged. The Complainant never confirmed that he was using the home repairer specialist and evidence suggests that the Complainant didn't engage the Home Repair specialist. The Complainant provided a quote from his own contractor and the contractor confirms that works commenced and when it was finished. The FSPO does not accept the confusion about the Home Repair specialist caused the delay. Accordingly, on the basis of the evidence available, the FSPO does not accept that Insurer's are responsible for these delays.
In relation to the loss of rent Insurer is entitled to seek information and documentation to support the claim which includes full rent books with completed information and proof of tenancy rather than an incomplete photocopy as supplied. The FSPO points out if the loss of rent claim had been made in 2011 and not 3 years later the proof of tenancy would have been much easier to establish and these delays were not the Insurer's fault.
The Insurer made an offer of €6,051 including loss of rental income to the complaint which the FSPO consider to be a very reasonable settlement.
The FSPO state on the basis of the evidence they do not believe that the Insurer acted wrongfully. Rather dealt with this at all times in a reasonable fashion. On the basis that Insurer made the settlement offer available, and remains open to him to accept. The FSPO does not believe that it is necessary or appropriate to uphold this complaint.
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Morgen beginnt das Leben, deutscher Verleihtitel Verdammt die jungen Sünder nicht, ist ein österreichischer Problemfilm aus dem Jahr 1961. Unter der Regie von Hermann Leitner spielen Cordula Trantow, Corny Collins, Magda Schneider, Werner Hinz, Walter Wilz und Rainer Brandt die Hauptrollen. Das Filmplakat titelte seinerzeit: "In aller Offenheit: Ein Thema, das alt und jung gleichermaßen angeht."

Handlung
Die Geschichte spielt unter jungen Leuten der frühen 1960er Jahre und soll, wie seit dem Film Die Halbstarken häufig zu sehen, die Jugend vor den Gefahren der Amoral und des Lasters warnen. Im Mittelpunkt des Geschehens steht die 17-jährige Sylvia Reimers, die sich von dem etwas älteren Walter Dobel, einem einfachen Arbeiter, hat schwängern lassen. Sie wird Mutter und steht nun allein mit ihren Problemen da, zumal der Vater ihres Kindes selbst ziemlich haltlos ist und in die Fänge eines skrupellosen Gleichaltrigen namens Pitt geraten ist. Walter verdankt es Sylvias Einsatz, dass Pitt keine Bedrohung mehr für ihn sein kann. Schließlich hilft die Jugendfürsorge der jungen Mutter, auch ihr Leben in den Griff zu bekommen. Und auch Walter besinnt sich und ist bereit, sich der Verantwortung für sein Kind zu stellen und ihm zusammen mit Sylvia ein Heim zu bieten.

Parallel dazu wird die Geschichte der etwas älteren Ruth Jüttner erzählt, einer Tochter aus gutem Hause. Ruths Eltern sind vermögende Leute, der Vater streng, die Mutter nachsichtig und gütig und bemüht, bei all den Differenzen, die zwischen Eltern und Tochter herrschen, den Kontakt zu der jungen Frau nicht vollkommen abreißen zu lassen. Bald gerät Ruth in kriminelle Kreise, ein Zeichen der Rebellion gegen den erdrückenden Vater und seine patriarchalische Auffassung von Erziehung. Nachdem Ruth wiederholt in schwierige Situationen geraten ist und betrunken einen Unfall verursacht hat, kommt sie in ein Fürsorgeheim. Ganz unschuldig daran ist Fred, ein vermögender junger Verehrer, der sie immer wieder in brenzlige Situationen bringt, nicht. Der Abstieg des jungen Mädchens scheint unvermeidbar. Nachdem Ruth mit Freds Hilfe aus dem Heim geflohen ist, verursacht sie erneut einen Verkehrsunfall, diesmal allerdings mit Verletzten. Weinend sitzt sie am Straßenrand und stammelt, sie wolle nach Hause, ohne zu wissen, dass ihre Eltern in einem nächtlichen Gespräch beschlossen haben, ihre Tochter wieder nach Hause zu holen und sich mehr in sie hineinzufühlen und vieles anders zu machen als bisher.

Produktionsnotizen, Hintergrund, Veröffentlichung
Bei Morgen beginnt das Leben handelt es sich um eine Produktion von Schönbrunn-Film Ernest Müller, Wien, die im Sommer 1961 in den Ateliers der Wien-Film Ges. m.b.H., Rosenhügel, entstand. Der Weltvertrieb wurde von Export Film Bischoff übernommen.

Theo Harisch entwarf die Filmbauten.

Magda Schneider, ein 30er- und 40er-Jahre-Filmstar, spielte hier ihre letzte Kinofilmrolle. Einem Regieeinfall Leitners ist es zu verdanken, dass Schneiders Charakter, Mutter Jüttner, in einer Frauenzeitschrift blättert, auf deren Titelblatt Magdas Tochter Romy Schneider abgebildet ist.

Hauptdarstellerin Cordula Trantow und Filmkomponist Herbert Trantow waren Tochter und Vater.

Der Film wurde am 24. Oktober 1961 in Deutschland uraufgeführt. Die österreichische Erstaufführung erfolgte am 22. November 1961. In Griechenland wurde der Film unter dem Titel Den ftaine ta neiata veröffentlicht.

Kritiken
In einer Kritik, die seinerzeit beim Erscheinen des Films verfasst wurde, heißt es: "Wenn es von der guten Absicht bis zur entsprechenden künstlerischen Gestaltung nicht ein so weiter Weg wäre, hätten wir hierzulande bessere Filme. Auch Regisseur Hermann Leitner, der diesen neuen Jugend-Problem-Film nach einer eigenen Idee gedreht hat, liefert ein Musterbeispiel dieser fast tragischen Diskrepanz. Dabei kommt es gar nicht so sehr auf die neue Story, als viel mehr auf die Echtheit des Milieus und seiner Menschen an. Die handelnden Personen sind hier mehr oder weniger Klischée-Figuren, denen auch die besten darstellerischen Bemühungen kaum Leben einzuhauchen vermögen. Dass der Film 2 exemplarische Mädchenschicksale lediglich nebeneinander herlaufen lässt, führt außerdem zu einer mehr als harten Schnitt-Technik, die das Gesamtbild empfindlich stört."

Paimann's Filmlisten resümierte: "Eine Handlung, die trotz Problemen schematisch, von Nachwuchs neben Bewährten gespielt; trotz Wiener Außenaufnahmen sprachlich im norddeutschen Raum angesiedelt."

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 Verdammt die jungen Sünder nicht Abb. Titelblatt Illustrierte Film-Bühne Nr. 05878(im Bild: Corny Collins, Cordula Trantow, Chris van Loosen)
 Morgen beginnt das Leben Abb. Titelblatt Neues Film-Programm Nr. 2527 (im Bild: Walter Wilz, Cordula Trantow)
 Verdammt die jungen Sünder nicht (1961) vollständiger Film

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How many ways can you display posters? With the easy availability of thousands of inexpensive posters online, you can turn any house or apartment into a unique art gallery!
Sure, a poster can be hung on a wall, or attached to it with tacks or tape. But often a more interesting look comes from placing a grouping of posters on the same wall. They don't have to be in the same colors or about the same subject. Just let them reflect what you like. Then get a balance among them, by arranging them in different ways and with different amounts of spaces between them. Paying attention to the blank spaces helps get that sense of balance. Soon you will find an arrangement that makes you say, "Aha! That's it!" Once a grouping is up on the wall, you can still change it any time you get a feeling that you want to add another poster or to rearrange the ones you have.
Any wall, so long as you can see it. If you can't get far back from it, choose a poster that looks good up close.
Doors, both going into a room and inside the room.
The bathroom. If you like to take baths or have a hot tub, how about an interesting poster on the ceiling over your tub? It may not last as long, due to the humidity, but it can be fun for however long it lasts.
A poster can be placed over the kitchen table and covered with clear plastic. This can give an interesting look, especially with white or other simple dishes on the table.
These are just a few of the ways that you can display posters. Let your imagination take you further!
Rosana Hart writes about many popular poster categories at her website http://www.infoandhelp.com/posters/.


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Surviving grandchildren are Denver, Austin, Harper, Jessie Anne, Weston and Mary Margaret. Great-grandchildren are Bryn, Blakely, Maddie and Hudson.
He is survived by one sister, Shirley Terry of Decatur, Alabama, one brother-in-law and five sisters-in-law: Joseph and Dottie Adams of Savannah, Georgia, Helen Compton of Decatur, Alabama, Joyce Hornaday of Dacula, Georgia, Mary Hankins of Atkins, Arkansas, and Doris Compton of Decatur, Alabama. He is also survived by many beloved nieces and nephews.


Vietnamese foods are popular in Vietnam and other parts of the world. The popularity is because of their health benefits. Besides being tasty and finger-licking good, these meals are low in fat and calories. They are the best diet for diabetic people. Vietnamese foods also help in regulating blood sugar as they are low in sugar.
There are different types of Vietnamese foods. Just like any other traditional foods, these foods are prepared based on customs and traditions. It is also important to note that rice is the staple food in Vietnam. Each bowl of Vietnamese food will either include rice or rice noodles. Here are tips to help you decide the best Vietnamese food to eat.
Is it street food or restaurant food?
Vietnamese food can be found on the streets or in restaurants. There are various people preparing food in various places in London. However, it is wise to consider the hygiene of where you buy food. There are famous Vietnamese restaurants like vieteat.co.uk where you can choose to buy quality Vietnamese meals.
Is it roasted, fried or steamed?
Vietnamese foods are different. The choice of food will depend on your preference and taste. You can order Pho, for instance, with fried or steamed fish. These dishes are carefully cooked to meet Vietnamese traditional standards.
Rice – Rice can be found anywhere in Vietnam. However, you can cook it in different ways and with various tastes including Pho, Banh Trang, Xoi and Bun.
Vegetables and herbs – These are also a must when serving Vietnamese food. They are essential in improving digestion, providing vitamin C, B6 and B3. The herbs also contain folate and iron that are beneficial to your body. They include basil, coriander, turmeric, red onions, spring onions, black pepper, and lemongrass.
Fish sauce – It is a common ingredient as it's not only nutritious but also brings a unique flavour. This sauce contains fresh anchovies and sea salt. You serve it alongside vegetables, meat or any other Vietnamese meal.
Meat – You also need to include protein in Vietnamese food. These foods can contain chicken, pork or beef or duck meat. You can choose it fried, boiled, grilled or roasted.
When you visit a Vietnamese restaurant, make sure that you check the menu. Some of the foods you will find are Pho, Gui Cuon, Bahn Mi, Bahn Xeo and Banh Nam. If you are not sure of the meal, you can search online or ask one of the waiters.
Finally, order a meal you can afford. The food prices differ depending on ingredients and portions. Fortunately, Vietnamese foods are relatively affordable. They are an excellent choice to treat your loved ones.
Live healthy by eating healthy foods. Vietnamese foods are an excellent choice for a balanced diet. These foods are highly recommendable for their ability to regulate blood sugar, body weight and improve digestion. As you prepare your diet meal plan, make sure that you consider these foods. They are a great source of energy and help to keep you young.


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The Golden Boy: Jared Goff, a potential dark horse Heisman candidate, has a lot riding on his shoulders
By byshannoncarroll in Features, Sports on September 4, 2015 March 23, 2019
On the football field there's just about no one smoother than Cal quarterback Jared Goff. In the shotgun, he's poised and confident, and he makes threading pin-point passes to his receivers in double coverage look easy — almost too easy. He stays cool and collected as 300-pound defensive linemen rush at him, and he easily evades them with his quick footwork while still managing to find a target downfield for a touchdown.
On the field, he's "the Golden Boy." He's the guy who carries the weight of Cal fans' hopes and expectations on his skinny shoulders. But off the field, he's just Jared, the 20-year-old kid who is deathly afraid of roller coasters and loves to tell jokes to make his teammates laugh — although they say they're often laughing at his goofiness, not with him.
Goff is pretty reserved and keeps to himself off the field — almost an anti-Johnny Manziel figure — and he doesn't seem to be the typical college quarterback with the cult of personality and legions of female followers. He has never seemed all that comfortable being in the limelight. But now, as a legitimate dark horse Heisman candidate, the spotlight on him is about to get brighter. A whole lot brighter.
Will he be ready?
A true technician with a phenomenal combination of arm strength, size and vision, Goff has drawn national attention and acclaim in the lead-up to his junior season with the Bears. It's fun to watch Goff tear apart opposing defenses with Cal's fast-paced offense, one of the best offenses in the country. ESPN's draft guys are high on Goff — Todd McShay listed Goff as the top quarterback prospect in the 2016 draft, and Mel Kiper listed Goff as the best non-senior quarterback in college football.
But Goff says he isn't worrying about any of that. When asked about the Heisman possibility, he just offers up a wry smile. Instead, he says, he's just worrying about taking the season one game, one year at a time.
"We just need to win our first game and then our second game, and so forth," Goff says. "In a league like the Pac-12, where every game is going to be difficult and every team is really tough, you have to just go week by week, day by day.
"I want to win. I want to win a Bowl Game — I want to win the Pac-12. I just want to win."
His confidence has grown tremendously since he came to campus his freshman year at 6-foot-4, 205 pounds and went 1-11 (winless in the Pac-12). Now, as a junior, he's put on 10 pounds of muscle and says he's made the biggest jump yet in his playing ability. It's not that he wasn't confident before, but as a true freshman starter, he didn't know as much as he does now.
"Freshman year, I'd force some things trying to make plays," Goff says. Now he's more comfortable going with what's working.
Goff's dad, Jerry, says he has seen his son go from a boy to a man in the past couple of years — a man who looks comfortable directing the offense and is ready to lead the team into the national spotlight.
"He's gone from, two years ago, not knowing what's up and what's down to now teaching the younger guys," Jerry Goff says. "He's really comfortable with his surroundings. … You're going to see some really special things from this kid."
And while Jared Goff won't talk about the potential accolades and the hype surrounding him, his father says that it has been the biggest compliment to his son and that it has been amazing to watch his son grow as a person as well as a player. Jerry Goff says the hype is probably more than what his son is comfortable with, because he's a "pretty low-key kid."
"He's not about all the attention," Jerry Goff says. "Gosh, he'd probably leave it more than take it."
Jared Goff first started getting attention when he was 7 years old and played Pop Warner football. Because he was taller than all the other kids, he was stuck on the offensive line. Jerry Goff, a former major leaguer who spent one year on the Cal football team as a punter, recognized that playing on the offensive line wasn't a fit for his son. The father and son had played catch in the backyard, so Jerry Goff knew his son had a strong arm. Jerry Goff told his son to go back and tell the coaches he wanted to play quarterback. Although the team already had one, the coaches agreed to try him out.
The next game, the team had a new quarterback: Jared Goff.
There was also a lot of attention surrounding Goff throughout high school, and his play drew interest from colleges such as Stanford, UCLA, the USC and Northwestern. For the longest time, it seemed as if there weren't much interest from Cal, but on Goff's junior day, he was given an offer from the Bears and a chance to go to the school that both of his parents attended.
Obviously, he accepted it.
Even after being in the public eye for such a long time, Goff still seems a bit uncomfortable with all the attention centered on him. He likes the fact that the national publicity means the team is getting the attention he thinks it deserves — he's especially proud of his wide receivers and wants others to recognize how talented a group they are — but he doesn't really like to talk about himself.
His dad says Goff is a "stoic" and "simple" guy with whom "what you see on Saturdays is what you get every other day." Goff does love to laugh and have fun, but, his dad says, Goff can be quiet enough that sometimes "you don't even know he's there."
The guys on the team seem to enjoy giving him a hard time, with wide receivers Bryce Treggs and Ray Hudson razzing Goff for his taste in pregame music: a combination of Taylor Swift and Katy Perry in the locker room.
"There's a time for that, and it's not when guys are getting ready in the locker room," Hudson says, smiling.
Hudson laughs and says Goff has the worst taste in music — Goff's favorite song is "Promiscuous" by Nelly Furtado, a song that reached the height of its popularity in 2006 — but Goff is allowed to pick the music at parties after the team does well. The problem with him picking the music is that he then starts dancing, and that's something both Treggs and Hudson joke that people really don't want to see.
The Cal quarterback, one of the only widely recognized faces across campus, is apparently also slightly awkward around the ladies. According to Treggs, if there's a girl Goff wants to talk to, instead of him going over there and talking to her himself, he'll ask his friends to go over to the woman and tell her that Goff wants to talk to her.
"Man, he's so going to kill us for saying this," Treggs laughs.
As much as his teammates love Goff off the field, they couldn't ask for a better quarterback on it. Both Treggs and Hudson have benefited from Goff's arm, and both think that this is the year Goff will really blow people away.
Hudson says Goff has been watching a lot more film — first one in, last one out — has more composure and is more comfortable with learning coverages and reading opposing defenses. He also has more belief in his ability to change the call at the line of scrimmage.
Cal offensive coordinator Tony Franklin says Goff now deeply understands every facet of the offense. And with the 10,000 hours he has probably spent working with the Bears, Goff's hard work is about to pay off.
"His body has changed," Franklin says. "He's bigger, he's stronger, he's faster, he's got a stronger arm … he's got great feet. He's really good at what we call Peyton Manning feet, typewriter feet. He finds throwing lanes. … He's become a leader. He was a good leader last year, but he's become an even more dynamic leader this year."
Goff has also really worked with Franklin on his touch throws, learning when to take something off the ball, when to put something on it, when to throw the ball a little early and when to anticipate.
The improvements should be enough to continue last year's offensive success, but that won't mean anything without the wins to back up the huge offensive numbers. Goff has big plans for the team this year — including scoring on every drive and trying to win the Rose Bowl — and from a public perspective, the pressure is resting almost solely on him.
Now, it's game time. The lights are on. The blue-and-gold-wearing crowd is filing in. Goff is sitting in the locker room listening to some Taylor Swift. Or maybe some Beyonce. Who knows? Across the country, scouts and football enthusiasts are turning on their TVs to watch the nationally hyped prospect play.
Goff steps onto the field. The confetti cannons go off. Everyone starts cheering and chanting his name. The lights zero in on him. He takes a deep breath and looks up. He knows there's a lot riding on him this season.
He's ready.
This article originally appeared here.
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In this tutorial we'll be looking at the various types of primitives you can use with SceneKit. We'll look at how we can position objects in 3D space and ways of animating the positions of objects via actions.
Here's a SceneKit starter project with an empty scene to help you follow along.
Geometries in SceneKit are instances of the SCNGeometry class. Geometries provide the data necessary to draw the 3D objects they represent. Among other things this data is made up of vertices, normals, texture coordinates and indices. We also plan on releasing a series of tutorials on custom geometries which will explain all these concepts in detail.
If you want more information on geometry data in SceneKit have a look at this great tutorial this great tutorial which explains how to create custom geometries.
Note that all of these classes subclass SCNGeometry.
Primitives are useful among other things for creating some basic shapes in your apps without importing 3D models designed in external programs. For example cylinder can represent barrels, boxes can represent crates, spheres can represent balls, etc.
Most primitives are positioned relative to their center unless noted otherwise. Let's look at each primitive in part.
SCNSphere objects let you create 3D spheres. Spheres are defined using a radius, the distance from the center of the sphere to any point on the sphere.
Width is the length of the box along the x-axis.
Height is the length of the box along the y-axis.
Length is the length of the box along the z-axis.
The chamferRadius determines the amount by which the boxe's corners should be rounded.
SCNPyramid objects let you create pyramids by specifying the width and length of the base and the height of the pyramid.
Note that the pyramid is positioned relative to the center of it's base instead of the center of the geometries like the other primitives.
SCNCylinder objects let you create cylinders by specifying the cylinder's height and the radius of it's base. You can use cylinders to draw lines by specifying a small radius.
SCNCone objects let you create cones and conical frustums(cones with their top cut off). You create cones by specifying a bottom radius, top radius and height.
Notice that setting the topRadius property to 0.0 results in a cone. If topRadius is equal to bottomRadius the resulting geometry is a cylinder.
Torus objects let you create donut like shapes by specifying a ring radius and a pipe radius (the actual radius of the donut). Have a look at the image below to see how these work.
Tube objects let you create cylinders with a hole going through their middle. You create cones by specifying the outerRadius (radius of the cylinder), innerRadius(radius of the hole going through it's middle) and a height.
Capsule objects let you create cylinders that are capped with hemispheres at both ends. You create capsules by specifying their height and the radius of the hemispheres at the ends.
Let's draw all the primitives mentioned above in a straight line along the x axis. First of all we'll create an array to hold our geometries.
We'll then iterate through our array of geometries with an index. Create a new node with each geometry and add it to our root node in our scene.
We'll keep track of the x position of our geometries incrementing it by 2.5 at each iteration of the loop.
We can get a cool coloring by creating colors with hue, saturation, brightness and varying the hue based on the index.
The UIColor initWithHue:saturation:brightness:alpha: constructor creates a new color instance by specifying it's hue, saturation, brightness and alpha values. All these values have to be floating point numbers between 0 and 1.
To get a feeling for how these numbers affect the resulting color open up a color picker and play with the sliders.
Let's say we wanted to position our primitives in a circle. The gist of doing this is working in polar coordinates. Polar coordinates are the natural choice when dealing with coordinates that are along a circle and can be naturally expressed via a distance and an angle.
Polar coordinates are used to represent 2D points via a radius and an angle.
The radius represents the distance from (0,0) to the point.
The angle represents the angle that the line connecting the point to (0,0) makes with the horizontal axis.
In the below image we have a point in polar coordinates with radius of 4 and an angle of 60°.
We can convert a point in polar coordinates to cartesian(x,y) coordinates by noticing that we can draw right triangle with vertices (0,0), our point and the projection of our point along the x-axis. (triangle OBC in the above figure). We know that the hypotenuse of the triangle is equal to the radius and that one of its angles is equal to our polar angle.
Using some basic trigonometry we can deduce the x and y coordinates by knowing the points radius and angle in polar coordinates.
Note that when using the sin and cos functions in swift we have to specify the angle in radians. If you're not familliar with radians have a look at this great explanation.
We'll be using polar coordinates to arrange our primitives in the XZ plane.
A radius of 4 is great for nicely arranging the primitives.
We'll be starting the angle off at 0 and incrementing it by 2π / geometries.count so that the primitives are positioned uniform along the circle. We have to convert from polar coordinates to x,z coordinates when actually setting the position of the primitive.
Let's give our scene some life by animating the movement of our objects.
SceneKit provides a really convenient way of creating animations via the SCNAction class. It's similar to the way animations in Cocos2D and SpriteKit work. You create an action and then you can run it on a node.
To animate the position of a node we have to create a new SCNAction via the class constructor moveByX(_:y:z:duration:) or moveTo(_:duration:).
moveTo(_:duration:) takes a SCNVector which represents the position where the node will end up at the end of the animation.
Both methods also take the duration of the animation as a parameter.
Actions can be composed by creating a sequence. For example if we wanted to move the sphere up and then down again we would create two animations and composite them into a sequence animation then run the sequence animation on the sphere node.
Sequence animations are created via the constructor sequence(actions) were actions is an array of actions that will be played in a sequence.
Let's also have a look at how we can animate our circle of primitives. We can create a SCNAction instance and run it inside the loop where we create our node.
The animation we're creating here is similar to the one above. Only we alternate the movement between up/down and down/up based on the index.
Check out the documentation for a complete list of actions available in SceneKit.
Next time we'll look at at making a 3D simulation of the Towers of Hanoi problem.
1) Add a new node to the scene with a geometry of type SCNFloor, position it below the primitives. The floor is an infinite plane that reflects the geometries above it. Try tweaking the intensity of the reflection via the floor's reflectivity property.
3) Draw a flight of stairs 20 stairs.
4) Draw a fir tree by stacking N cones on top of each other. Make the base a cylinder. Make the topmost cone have a topRadius of 0.
5) Draw a toy by stacking N tori on top of each other with a cone in the middle Note: Tori are transparent for reference.
The unit square is the square in the XZ planewith corners of coordinates (-1,0,1), (1,0,1), (1,0,-1), (-1,0,-1).
Loved the tutorial! Please do some more for SceneKit. Could you tell me how I could make a 3D Rectangular grid?
Have a look at that shows you how to draw a wireframe cube.
Thank you so much for the great tutorial. This is very helpful.