I have from time to time, I kid you not, threatened to punish our oldest son for punishing himself.
And here, right at the start, I have to confess something. I don't know what I'm talking about.
Generally when I write something to share with you good readers, I like to come from a position of some knowledge, personal experience, and understanding. But I simply don't comprehend where my son's behavior comes from, and I'm writing this in the hope that by discussing it here (and hopefully eliciting your comments) I can penetrate the murky waters of this – to me -most unfathomable phenomenon.
He does, however, deny himself pleasure when he feels that he's done something wrong, and is inappropriately hard on himself for minor, even accidental, behavioral infractions.
Me: You ate almost all of it, go ahead and get yourself something.
D: But there's still a lot left on my plate.
Me: No, D, there's not. You had a good dinner. You can have a treat.
D: I didn't eat all of the potatoes.
Me: Oh, fachrissakes, just get yourself a treat you whimpering, sniveling little sod! [No, no, that's just what I'm thinking. I actually say something more along the lines of…] Well, it's up to you. I'm telling you that it's okay for you to have a treat, but if you don't feel good about it, I'll leave that decision to you.
All right, so this is a petty bit of self-inflicted atonement for a crime uncommitted. Perhaps it's nothing more than him fishing for approval and affirmation. A minor martyr complex underpinned by shaky self-esteem.
For example. While sword-fighting with his little brother, he accidentally cracks the midget on the cranium. Little brother begins to cry. Now here's the thing. When I was a kid, my mind would have immediately begun spinning out stories, extenuating circumstances, justifications – the sun was in my eyes, I had a muscle spasm and the stick flew from my hand, high winds, planetary convergences, and he started it, anyway.
D, on the other hand, will begin to berate himself and even, on occasion, smack his own head in a febrile fit of self-reproach.
For example. The classic case of spilled milk. D knocks over a full glass at the dining room table, and we all jump up to grab towels and clear the mess.
He's disconsolate, reviling himself for his stupidity and slobbering abject apologies over and over as though his mother and I are going to burn him with cigars and toss him down a well, when what we're actually doing is telling him not to worry, accidents happen, it's no big deal.
Aha, you say. I think I've got it. The boy suffers from low self-esteem. Well yes, I've thought this before and this composition confirms in me that yes, of course he does. That's not the question. The question is why. And the follow-up question, of course, is: How do we fix this?
So if I can't really get a grasp on the why, how can I hope to help him? I've come up with three specific strategies that I plan to implement.
I'm going to give him more responsibilities around the house. We've assigned daily and weekly chores before, but they often slip by the wayside and are forgotten. I think that when kids are given tasks and are able to carry them out, they feel responsible, confident, and accomplished.
I'm going to sit down with him at least a few nights a week to study Spanish together. Not only will studying together provide us with a shared goal, but as his skills improve he will feel good about his few-found abilities.
I'm going to get him into martial arts lessons. While I have a certain antipathy towards pushing kids into doing a million extra-curricular activities and believe that it's actually detrimental to spread them too thinly, learning a skill thoroughly and performing it at a high level is a great way to feel good about yourself.
Well, I think this little exercise has been useful. If not for you, then certainly for me. Sometimes just laying something out on the page is all it takes to clarify it for you.
So what do you think? Does this seem reasonable and rational or am I missing something here? Do any of your kids ever punish themselves unnecessarily? If so, what did you do? I'd love to hear your stories and, please, your advice.
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I use to put myself in time out when I was little.
I'd say around 2-9 years old.
I'd do it even if I had a bad thought in my head like call my mum a bad word, even though no one had heard me say it.
I actually use to enjoy the time out. It was my little solitude and it was always on the kitchen corner floor.
If kids want to do it then let them, if they do this they are analysing and processing their thoughts.
It's not a bad thing and is actually really good for their personal development because we learn how to problem solve and think out the box.
Okay, I stumbled upon this site while looking to the answer to my own issue, which is that my two year old LOVES to put herself in time-out….. only, not when she's done anything wrong, just in general. She knows that when she's done something bad and doesn't stop, Mommy brings a chair to the corner, and she has to sit there until time up is over. To be clear, she does not enjoy time-out. She cries and tries to wriggle her way out and eventually calms herself down and then it's over. She does not usually play when we put her into time out, and we never ever give her toys when she is in the time out chair. Nonetheless, lately, she loves pushing her chair to the time out corner an sitting in it when she is NOT in trouble. She will sit there and talk and sing to herself quite happily without any toys or books or reinforceement from us for an hour if we let her. I usually try to make her go do something else, but this is liable to trigger a genuine temper tantrum. She absolutely refuses to leave the time-out chair, and I'm not sure what to do.
But, back to your problem. I was very much like your son, and hearing you talk about him concerns me because I have struggled with anxiety (and depression to a lesser extent) since i was a child.. I had a hard time because I worried about a lot of things; I was not only concerned with doing the right thing, but I was also concerned about OTHERS doing the right thing as well….. which meant I tended to get into a lot of fights with teachers. For example, one day my kindergarten teacher had just had it with everything and decided to put everyone's name on the board. I was deeply upset by this because I did not believe I had done anything wrong and saw this as unjjust punishment. So, I went to my cubby, got my coat and my backpack and walked out of the building. Apparently, the police were out looking for me for the better part of two hours. I worried about everything as a kid: I worried about world hunger, I worried about people who used drugs, I worried about my grandparents dying (just because they were old, I guess). And I thought about things that most kids don't think about when they are young. My mother remembers me asking the pastor of our church why God lets people get into wars if he loves everyone when I was four years old. I was in elementary during the first war in Iraq, and I remember watching missiles being dropped on Iraq on the tv and crying in my room at night because, while we sang "God Bless the U.S.A" in music class, innocent people were dying. I was deeply troubled by a lot of things. Add to that, the fact that I was academically miles ahead of most of my peers, it's probably not a big surprise that I had a hard time making friends with kids my own age. As I got older, my loneliness and my concern with doing the "right" thing morphed into a sort of existential depression as I gradually came to realize that moral perfection was impossible to achieve. If we can not be "good", I wondered, then what use are people at all? Is goodness a made up construct simply designed to control society? Does God exist and does He care what we do at all? What makes something good, anyway? I began playing the piano at age three and competition piano at age five, so music was a big part of my life growing up. And, while I never had much of a gift for visual art, I often found myself deeply affected by it. I still wondered, what makes art good?. Does it have to do with technical skill? Does it have to do with correct expression? Does it have to do with profitability of whatever one produces? At one point, I was practicing the piano six hours a day outside school, and I was exhausted. In elementary, I had panic attacks if I missed a word on my spelling test. In 9th grade, I got a B+ in geometry and stopped caring about school entirely since my chances of getting a perfect high school GPA were already ruined. I dropped out of high school and back in again eleven times. In college, I faced real depression, and though I eventually made it through my darkest days and came to a better understanding of what makes life truly meaningful, I still struggle with anxiety and perfectionism even today. So, I don't know if your son is anything like me, but for me, the guilt and self flagellation was part of a much larger problem that has plagued me through my entire life to various extents, and it may be something you need to watch out for with your son.
As for your suggestions: #1 flatly would not have worked for me. At all. My sense of what needed to be done came from my own sense of practicality. I would clean the wash the dishes if there were no clean bowls to use. Being told to clean the dishes without being told WHY would have frustrated me. Being told to clean the dishes, "because I said so", would have made me downright angry and oppositional. #1 COULD have worked if someone had ASKED me to help out, say, because it makes life easier for Mom and Dad. If they had just explained that they work hard and are sometimes tired at the end of the day and that they would really appreciate it if I could help out with a few things around the house, I probably would felt a sense of responsiblity… no, more like obligation.. to help my parents because I loved them. My family was important to me. #2 is a good idea if you have the right goal in mind. First of all, spending time with your kid is never a bad thing. But, as you already know, going out of your way to boost a child's self-esteem can sometimes backfire. If you want to learn Spanish and he wants to learn Spanish (this is something he's expressed interest in, right?), then great, do it. But, don't lavish him with praise every time he does something well. Some kids have a pretty fine tuned bulls**t meter. Actually, I would say, make it as difficult for him as possible so that he gets frustrated, and then use it as an opportunity to learn frustration tolerance, patience, and coping skills. If you are going too fast, for example, teach him to ask questions and to advocate for himself. Show him how to break the problem down into smaller parts. Teach him persistence – If you make a mistake, try again. It's okay, etc. Be cautious with #3. Let him choose the activity, and focus on having fun. The absolute WORST thing you can do is to push the importance of mastery and technical skill. If your self-esteem is predicated on being able to do something at a very high skill level, you could be setting yourself up for failure down the road because there is almost certainly going to be someone who is better at ______ (eg; martial arts, etc.) out there somewhere. If you are one of the gifted few to truly excel in your chosen area, outside pressure and criticism can be intense, which may be really difficult for an already sensitive child to handle. Instead, give him as much security and unconditional love as you can (you probably already do this, but just keep on doing it). Help him find his passion. Teach him to pursue the things he loves for reasons OTHER than trying to be the best, never making mistakes, worrying about what other people think, etc. Try to figure out what he truly cares about, other than being "good". Does he care about his brother? Ask him to think of ways he can help his little brother. Maybe he can teach him a new skill. Does he care about animals? Maybe you can help him volunteer at an animal shelter. These are just a few examples. The point is, self-esteem comes from doing something meaningful and knowing that one has the power to make a difference, not just from doing things well.
You have no idea how much insight this has given me! As a parent, I remember the shyness, introverted personality I coped with. I do not remember anxiety until I was a bit older.
However, I have a child with signs of anxiety, and I had a brother with anxiety, (and I would say I do now).
What else can I do for her? What did you need to hear from your parents? What would have made it apparent that they understand, and love you no matter what, that life isn't about perfectionism, and that just finding joy is enough? She is very hard on herself, I find myself praising her a lot because she does a lot-crochet, art, violin, journaling, reading books beyond her level-all things she loves but brings to show me. How can I respond that doesn't make her feel like I'm BSing her, but gives her a real response?
From time to time over the past year, my now 5 year old son has been "telling on himself " for any and everything he does. Whether it be "I put my hand by my mouth, a little", or "I bumped my pee pee when I buckled my seatbelt". It is all day, every day. I dont know if it's a nervous thing or not. I try to remember if it happened before anything big is about to happen in his life. He just started kindergarten this month, and it had started up again maybe a month ago. I am one who gets easily annoyed, and feel awful that I feel that way. I just wish I knew what is causing it, or why he is doing it.
Hmm… "I put my hand by my mouth a little," or "I bumped my pee pee," seem odd things to confess. Are there any injunctions in your family about touching you mouth with your hands, for example? I know it seems strange to ask, but I'm wondering where he gets these particular ideas from. Do you think he's doing it for attention?
I'm no expert, to say the very, very least, but these seem like confessions of incredibly minor – pretty much non-existent- 'infractions' to me. Internalized stress, as you mention, could be a major factor, but who knows? We're going through some really rough times here right now – my wife has terminal cancer and we're taking a temporary (?) separation – and the other day our oldest lost his eyeglasses at the beach. I shouted at him (briefly), then discovered him a few minutes later in an upstairs bathroom hitting himself. Needless to say I felt really guilty about this, and had a long talk with him about it. It devastated me that he was abusing himself, and I told him that that was not ok. But you don't want to punish them for punishing themselves for being punished, if you see what I mean.
I wish I had an answer for you, Holly. The only thing I can say is that you wait a bit and see how things develop. He's only 5, so it may be something that he grows out of. We've considered the possibility of getting our oldest some counselling. He'd hate it – I mean, really, truly hate it – but it might help him in the long run. I wish I had more to offer, but we're pretty much flailing here too.
Anyway, thanks for reading, and for sharing your own thoughts and situation. Keep in touch to let me know how it goes.
In that example, it's pretty clear your child just manipulated you into allowing them to have a treat, despite not finishing their food. No offence, but that one seems obvious.
I was the same way, when I was a kid, still am now. But I quickly learned that trying that more than once was a great GREAT way to get people to start ignoring you, and allowing you to punish yourself.
Make sure he does it when nobody else is around, before youi make sure he's punishing himself, and not grabbing for sympathy first. I speak from my own personal experience, because I was that way as a child.
Yes, I have Asperger's, but eventually I spent some time with someone who wouldn't put up with that crap just because I was "special", and it changed my life.
I will wait and confront them when I am calm, I can be violent when necessary and I have no time for diplomacy. As a child I was not allowed to make mistakes but if I did I had to repeat whatever I had been doing until I could do it 5 or 6 times perfectly. Beware of putting your son into martial arts, he may begin to enjoy fighting with others and damaging them.
I find your post very interesting because I am now 25 and remember being as young as 4 and punishing myself by not allowing myself dessert, or I would break things I made/ tear things I wrote when they weren't exactly how I wanted them to be. My parents just laughed about it, particularly the not letting myself have dessert. My mum improved my habit of breaking things by letting me do it and showing me how much it hurt after when I was left without the thing and had to start again.
In my teens, when I got angry at myself for failing, I began a habit of hitting my head, and now when I'm in relationships and get very stressed during arguments (for example, I can get depressed and then lash out at the person closest to me and feel angry at myself for doing this and for being useless for not being able to control my mood), I sometimes hit my head or other parts of my body or punch the wall until my hands are bruised.
I'm not saying this to worry you but I feel that, for me personally, the behaviours are linked, since it is about me not being good enough and hating myself for this. When other people try to be nice to me it is almost worse and sometimes I say cruel things just so they will shout at me. Anyway, the idea that this is just a phase, as one person suggested, should be treated with caution. I'm in the process of seeking help but have not yet had the chance to be diagnosed with anything and don't know if I just struggle with the world and this is part of the effect of being ambitious and an over-achiever, or if I have a mental illness.
I think the only thing that my parents could have done (and they did try to, I think) was to teach me to love myself a bit more and maybe make me feel good just for being me, rather than that to be a good person I had to achieve something amazing, but that being average and just happy was also ok.
I also wish that they hadn't just seen me try to punish myself as some silly childhood thing. They don't know that I still self-harm and so laugh about it sometimes.
So, I guess my advice is to take it seriously (but don't over-worry). Don't be afraid to talk to your kid about it and be aware that such behaviours might develop into other negative habits when he is older and has to deal with more stress and so to create an environment in which your children feel able to talk to you about these things – be that sexuality to mental illness. But, as a parent, you can't fix everything. Some of these things we're born with and so much of our environment is outside of the home (school can be a breeding ground for negative coping mechanisms!).
Wow, balooinblue, thanks for sharing that with us. Yours is a really interesting story – I don't even know where to start. It's disheartening to hear that this has continued into adulthood for you, and I hope that you get some help if you need it. I think it's difficult for everyone – but particularly for perfectionists – to ask for help, and that's something we all struggle with. Thanks so much for your advice and for leaving your thoughts. I really appreciate it. Best of luck, and please report back if you find any coping mechanisms that you could share. Cheers!
Sounds to me like your son has a very rigid and dogmatic interpretation of your generally good intention that it is not healthy to receive reward without doing something first.
I do not know how many three year olds can read between a parent's lines, but I would not be surprised if it were less than 100%. So, you may need to explain gently and constructively that you do not literally mean everything you say.
One wacky possibility is that your son lies somewhere on the autistic spectrum, most likely Aspergers. There was a book written 50 odd years ago by parents of a more severely autistic child who actually responded really well to being spanked hard. The parents were terrified the first time they did it, but found that it stopped the yelling in ways that silence or reasoning never did. And their daughter started opening up much more. So maybe your wacky idea might have legs, in moderation, if your son were Aspergers?
Thanks for reading and leaving your thoughts. My son still has this tendency, but it's certainly not as strong as it once was. I think he's learning to ease up on himself. I'm pretty sure he's not on the autistic spectrum, and I definitely have no intention of spanking him. Ever. I appreciate you taking the time to leave your ideas, though!
Hi Mmtread, I was just reading this post and wondering how your son is going now?
my three year old daughter puts herself in timeout to avoid having to pick up her toys. We ask her to pick them up, try and make it a game but nothing works. She hates picking up her toys, knows that it will eventually end up in time out, so heads us off by putting herself in timeout. HELP!
My daughter is very similar to how you describe. I found the book "Mindset" by Carol Dweck to be very helpful in reinforcing a growth mindset rather than the fixed mindset that my daughter naturally gravitates towards. I highly recommend the book. It has a lot of great advice, such as avoiding telling her she is "smart" and instead applauding her efforts. We also try to emphasize that failure/mistakes are an important part of learning, and ask her every day to try to think of a mistake she made that allowed her to learn something. It's an ongoing process for all of us, but the ideas in the book have been tremendously helpful.
My son has been doing this for a couple of years. He started at 4 and in the beginning he would say terrible things like he wanted to die and even went to the extent of wrapping a sweatshirt around his neck and pulling tight. I was am very scared of what, why and how this all came to be I have learned that he would ride the bus home with his sister and some of the kids picked on him and threatened to throw him off the bus. I talked to the driver and stopped any further bullying there. And then we had a boy at the babysitters that was being mean and picking on him. I put a stop to that. He now only punished himself and there is not much talk of harming himself. But his behavior now is to throw his favorite in the garbage. I have tried so many things and still trying. I am going to go see a child psychiatrist now. I am at my wits end.
Someone he can talk openly with is probably a good thing if you've run out of options and ideas on your own. It's always a good idea to get help if you're at a loss. Sounds like he's headed in the right direction, though. I suppose the best thing to do is give him loads of love and support, from as many sources as possible.
Best of luck to you and your boy. I'm sure everything will turn out fine. It almost always does.
1) She needs more one on one attention. Thankfully she is outwardly expressing it … which is most likely a cry for help/attention… My husband and I are taking turns giving her at least 10 minutes a day of uninterrupted time… meaning no phones, no laptop.. (this goes for us as well as her) nada. 2) We are teaching and explaining the benefits and need to be "impeccable with your word"… If you have ever read The Four Agreements, I believe it is agreement number 2… this is a quick cliff notes – ish page to the agreement.
So far it is working… we had a little breakthrough tonight actually where she even talked about why she was feeling the way she was 🙂 Best Luck!!!
Hi, thanks for visiting and leaving your own experiences. It's great to see that you have a plan, and that it seems to be working! Spending time with the kids definitely helps – during the summer I'm with them all day long, and they clearly appreciate it. Our oldest is getting better about dealing with his perfectionism and allowing himself to make mistakes, but it's a process.
I'd never heard of the Four Agreements – interesting stuff. I'll have to give it a more careful read a bit later. Anyway, best of luck to you too, and thanks again for visiting!
Thank you for writing about this. I see a lot of the same thing in my oldest, too. Definitely explore the perfectionist angle. I think your action steps to build his self esteem is spot on, too. And it sounds like you're appropriately modeling how to deal with your own mistakes, too, from what I've read in this post. Thanks for sharing. I look forward to hearing more of the journey!
Thanks, Meghan. Our boy seems to be getting more adept at handling failure and frustration, and I think just spending a lot of time together helps. Best of luck with your oldest!
Perhaps I can say that I understand your son's behaviour, more because I see it as a reflection of my own old self growing up. Now a dad of a beautiful 1 year old baby girl, I promised that I'll let her be the way she wants to be, without ever undermining or restricting any of her choices. Not that I wasn't lucky in my age with any of these, but may be I was late in introspection. I also realised that I was a natural in camouflaging this to avoid parent detection. But you already know and that might be the biggest help your son has received, already. I think all that is required here is some good buddy talks (better than dad-son talks), drives, camping. Anything that he likes doing in particular? Well that's what he needs to do. And nothing beats when you are with him while he does it.
I too have a similar issue with my son, now nine years old. Before his two sisters were born it wasn't much of an issue. Now that he has two little sisters he seems to blow everything he does wrong out of proportion. I really beat myself up at the end of the day and wonder if i am too rough on my son when he does do wrong.
We also signed up my son for soccer this upcoming fall and hope that maybe he just needs a place to express himself a little more.
Please update us on how the steps you have taken work out.
This is a tough one. Perhaps participating in an activity where mistakes can be made and unmade – I was thinking pottery might be useful, because you get multiple attempts to make it just the way you want, and each attempt is a learning experience. I know I was very sensitive as a child, and would break down in tears if I even thought I had disappointed my parents, and then people would ask me why I was crying and then I would cry even harder because they said I was sensitive and I shouldn't cry.
I have a 2.5 year old son. I have found that bed time is the most calm and serene time for us. We have long chats before he drifts off to sleep. So I kind of blend the message I want to convey into a story, night after night. (So he knows what "Bruno" did when he was in the mall etc) And then one day I find him reminding himself of the moral of the story when opportunity comes..
I think you must try weaving a story when you have a peaceful one on one time and reiterate that it is ok to fail and that all great people have failed more than once..
I don't know how I missed this post until now. I'm sorry to hear you're have a difficult time with your son. Seems that you're already moving in the right direction with him, to help in through this stage of his development in the best way possible. As parents, most of us blame ourselves. Of course we must have done something to screw up our kid at some point without realizing it, resulting in the current challenge at hand.
In my own experience with our son (almost 8 yrs old), we've struggled since he was about 3. He's extremely willful and inflexible. Everything is a HUGE deal at certain moments and my husband and I sort of just blink at each other as if to say What the HELL is happening here? Why is he freaking out? After having him evaluated professionally just to make sure we weren't missing something important, we came up with this: This is his personality. I do think it's important to consider that much of a child's behavior is hard-wired.
We found the book – Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley, very helpful when we adhere to the recommendations. It's a decent amount of reading but well worth it.
Also, do you find that he's behaving this way in school? I often found myself hoping that my son's teacher would say that he had a meltdown in class and then guide me on how to respond, but in a school setting and amongst his friends he's as good as you'd hope your kid would be. Sometimes I think kids save certain aspects of their personalities for their parents, which is good bc it means they know how to – and more importantly, how not to – behave. Maybe you'd like to see what his teachers have to say about it?
Best of luck. It's not always easy. Either way, all your effort to help him along reinforces how much you love him.
Hello MM. This is intimate stuff and a great conversation you have opened up here.
Could D be punishing himself to prevent you from doing so? It's evident from reading you for a while that you have a relaxed, loving parental style and perhaps D values this so much he doesn't want to have to face the spectre of disapproval from you…or indeed, anyone. He may be one of the legion who don't like conflict or disapproval.
I was thinking about an incident in my childhood just a few days ago where I made myself more upset than I was after I accidentally damaged something so that my much-loved mother would not scold me (I realised when I was older that of course she wowuldn't have anyway). It is a slightly different situation but I throw it into the mix here in case it has some bearing. I like what Amy said about how he is probably much more forgiving of others than of himself. Would it be worth asking him, when he wants to punish himself, how he would respond if a good friend had done what he'd done? Or how that friend would respond.
Hmm, that's an interesting idea, Charu. I may have to give it a try if all else fails. Thanks for sharing!
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I suspect that someone outside of your immediate unit is or has given him cause to have low self esteem. I think he is telling you by way of third person when speaking out loud to himself or pointing it out to you. Eg soup.
None of my kids exhibit this behavior – although both my boys frequently bopped themselves on the head for no apparent reason – but I grew up pretty much doing just as your son does. I felt an internal need to be perfect at all times. That didn't seem to come from anything my parents did, or didn't do, it came from inside. I was the best at punishing myself for what I saw as failure. I was terrified of failure and the embarrassment I thought it would bring. Heaven forbid anyone figure out I wasn't perfect. Teaching him, though the activities you have planned, it's okay to fail, it's okay to be wrong, it's okay to not be perfect, is a great route to take. I think you handled the dinner and treat situation perfectly with that in mind.
Thanks, rgemom! Our son is, indeed, absolutely terrified of failure, which makes him avoid activities that are new or difficult. I guess we'll just keep trying to teach him that we all fail at times, and he's no different. Thanks for reading the post and sharing your thoughts!
I reckon it is a bit of a phase he is going through and certainly nothing to worry about. I have seen similar behaviour with two of my daughters at various times at a similar age. As a secondary (high school) teacher l do come across this behaviour in older kids – but they tend to be on the autistic spectrum. Your son aint autistic,Mat.At their age, understanding where they are coming from is bloody hard!
Autism has never even been a consideration, cravenology, so no worries there. It's not that I'm so concerned about this, it's just that I'd like to understand it better and do what I can to ease his obvious distress.
I would consider it a phase if he hadn't always been like this. Pensive and purgatorial. Wound tightly and tense. I suppose it's just his personality, but it just seems a boy of eight should be more easygoing and light-of-heart. But really, he's a great kid, and my concerns are probably unnecessarily exaggerated.
Thanks for taking the time to give it a read and share your thoughts – I appreciate it!
I just love the pictures of him, especially the one by the water! My father the child psychologist would probably say he has an "overdeveloped Id", (I think it's the Id that makes us feel like we don't deserve good things etc, may be the ego?) anyway, it does sound like you're doing the right things – are there any good counselors you could talk to who may have some more concrete advice? It's hard when we see our kids being so hard on themselves – I am sure he is much more forgiving of others and maybe if you continue to also point that out to him. You seem like a great Dad and I'm very impressed with your willingness so share and seek advice!
Hey Amy! Thanks for appreciating the pictures – it was late at night and I didn't spend too much time choosing them, but I went for ones that more or less showed him as a brooding, introspective loner. Which, I suppose, he largely is.
I hate to see D being hard on himself (that's my job and it steals my thunder), but I don't think we're quite ready for professional help or Prozac. The fact is, he's a sweet, sensitive, intelligent boy who just happens to beat himself up more than is strictly necessary. I feel he'll grow out of it. If not, I can probably just beat it out of him. A great dad? I aspire to be one. Am I succeeding? Only time will tell. In the meantime, I'll just keep plugging along, groping my way through this whole parenting thing, and teaching my kids anything and everything I know about the world. Which isn't much. But it's a start.
My son is 2 and is already starting to put himself in timeout if he sees Im unhappy about something that has happened, even if I don't chastise him.. I may have a perfectionist on my hands or a child who needs to make mom proud at all times…I am a big believer in a balance between nature&nurture and I think personality is mostly nature…I will just continue to let him know that time out is not always necessary and that I will always be proud of him & love him…it will be easier for me (I hope) once he becomes more verbal. We will see!
Two seems pretty early to be putting himself in timeout, but no need to worry, I should think. Worrying too much about your kids appears to be a common illness these days, but I think your attitude is perfect (for what it's worth), and from what you've written you sound a level-headed and sensible mom.
Thanks for the read and for leaving your thoughts, Ashly. Two is a great age, but it only gets better!
Loved the article! I will have to wait until my kids are a little older but as of my current situation my 2-year old and 10-m old are very different personalities. My oldest having always been mild tempered, never crying or fussing and my youngest is ready (at a moments notice) to scream&cry…my oldest will ask "What's wrong, sissy?" But if she keeps on he simply leaves the room without any fuss. Lol. I love them both but I can already see I have polar opposites on my hands. Please keep us informed on your journey with your boy..I'm very interested as it looks like I will be dealing with a similar situation!
Is like my children to show some remorse. They are on the other end of the spectrum.
Well, Tiefsa, there's nothing like a good whooping to put kids in a remorseful frame of mind. I'm kidding of course. No, really.
It's hard when kids are at the red or violet ends of the spectrum. Hey, I'm all for rainbows, but I always aim for yellow, green, or blue. It's all about balance in all things, I think.
Yeah. We had to have a talk with one about how we love them unconditionally, but that doesn't mean we love what you do or say.
Thanks for sharing this piece of your life. Our 7 year old will berate himself over his writing. His handwriting is poor at best, and we've been working on it with him. Backwards letters, no spacing or punctuation, and sloppy as the day is long. We gently direct him as he is writing. But when he realizes his own mistakes he'll hit himself on the head a few times, growl about, gets visibly frustrated, angry or upset. He's currently learning to ice skate and he's the same way. Every time he falls he growls and pounds the ice like it was the ice's fault he fell. Though I guess that's a bit different because he's taking it out on the ice instead of himself. The only thing I can think to do is keep gently reminding him how to do it. Have patience with him. Whenever I read the word "Perfectionist" I read OCD. I have taught many a student who were OCD and if things weren't exactly so they would be upset. Some would get angry and yell. Some would sit and cry. Some would scold themselves. As their teacher, the only thing I could do would be talk to them and try to help them fix the "problem" or at least calm them down and talk them through fixing it. How does D react when he gets it right? Does he get as excited about doing "perfect" as he gets down about not? (I'm guessing not because "perfect" is his standard so in his mind he's simply doing what he's supposed to be doing… but I'm speculating here). Our 7 year old won't punish himself when he actually does do something wrong, but he will try to punish his 3 year old brother. I have to remind him that he's not the dad, I'm the dad, he's not allowed to punish. Sorry for the long comment…. I can relate to your dilemma and I hope you find your way through it together successfully.
Hey, Stomperdad. Well, first of all, let me thank you for leaving such thorough and thoughtful comments. Secondly, what the hell is this whole hitting yourself thing? Both of our kids do it – when he was a toddler, our youngest would bang his head on the floor or furniture when he was angry. It was both harrowing and hilarious.
I don't imagine D is OCD – he doesn't exhibit any of the signs, really, but he does get upset when he tries and fails. D is very blase about getting things right – as you say, he's only doing what he feels he's supposed to be doing. That is an excellent point I'd not considered. D also bosses his younger brother around – not exactly trying to punish him, but acting as a proxy for what he thinks I would say or do in a given situation.
No doubt we'll be fine. It's not really a big problem, just something I find very curious. I'd like to see him lighten up a bit.
That's excellent advice, Greti. We're a pretty laid back household – I'm a fairly easygoing person as I'm sure you remember, but also prone to getting really stressed out, as I'm sure you also remember. 😉 You make an excellent point that he puts enough pressure on himself. Thanks for the reminder!
Feel your frustration! Matthew (11) goes in spurts with this sort of behavior. Puts me in a RAGE! His "go to" behavior is calling himself stupid. He has, in extream bouts if frustration, been self injurious! Clawing his face and punching his head! I can usually stay calm an discuss rationally…other times not so much! I think for Matt its anxiety!
Everything you've said in order to address this sounds great. I think you're doing all the right things. I have 5 year-old twins. The girl is fun-loving and takes everything in her stride. Her twin brother is much more intense and can be hard on himself… I think he had two 'accidents' while potty-training and he cried with disappointment. I don't know where it came from. Whenever they break something (even something expensive). I stipulate it was accident, let it go. It feels quite unusual to raise a child with a personality type different to your own. My son is more like my husband. I just try to respect what makes him tick and what's important to him.
It sounds like your little boy is just unsure about whether he deserves these things right now and I think its great that he can be so open with you.
Hugs are standard issue in this family, but while he'll let himself he hugged, he's not much of a hugger-backer. Anyway, hopefully we can boost his confidence a bit and get him to lighten up. He's the most serious-minded kid I think I've ever met.
Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment, Olivia!
I think your strategies sound perfect, particularly sitting down with him to learn Spanish if this something he's going to enjoy. A bit of reassurance and quality parent time can work wonders.
Thanx for sharing. To me, he is a perfectionist and although this might seem good, sometimes it is not; as he has to learn that it is good the way it is. Sorry for my English. I am from Madrid, Spain. And by the way, if you need help when learning spanish, here I am.
I think you're absolutely right – he's a complete perfectionist. We tell him all the time not to let perfect be the enemy of good, but he gets upset when something isn't perfect.
By they way, we live in Sitges, and please do not apologize for your English – It's far better than my Spanish. But I'm working on it!
Thank you for sharing. I have no answers or advice, only a sense of gratitude that you are willing to share. This is not easy. Different kids under the same parenting develop different habitual behaviour patterns. Becoming an adult human is a messy process.
I used to punish myself as a child… But I wouldn't tell anyone what I did wrong….
My daughter sounds a lot like your son. She is constantly seeking approval and berates herself if she doesn't feel she has met "expectations." I am trying to start a meditation practice with her to help her detach from these negative emotions.
Meditation. Now that's a thought. I'll have to look into it. Thanks for sharing, Anita.
Sounds to me like he might be a perfectionist. Not just in terms of doing tasks the way they are in his head (drawing, building etc) but also in how he views his actions. As if he should be perfect all the time. Maybe do some reading about the perfectionist child amongst the other resources you're tapping?
Oh man, FMNZ, he's a complete perfectionist. Homework time is fraught – he has to do everything perfectly and is reduced to tears if he makes a mistake. I can't believe I didn't investigate this line. But that's what I'm going to do right now. Thanks for the suggestion (and the comments)!


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Diary, notes, photographs, postcards, clippings, and memorabilia relating to American Red Cross activities in Siberia, and the Russian Civil War and Allied intervention in Siberia.
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A retired U.S. general has apologized for saying that Dutch troops failed to prevent the Srebrenica massacre because openly gay soldiers were included in their UN peace-keeping force.
In testimony at a Senate hearing on March 18 on the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy, Ret. Gen. John J. Sheehan said that the liberalization of the Dutch military and subsequent enlistment of openly gay soldiers combined with poor military leadership contributed to its failure to hold off Serb forces in Srebrenica.
In a letter sent Monday to a Dutch military general, Ret. Gen. John J. Sheehan apologized for inaccurately reflecting their conversations.
"I am sorry that my recent public recollection of those discussions 15 years ago inaccurately reflected your thinking on some specific social issues in the military," Sheehan wrote.
Sheehan was referring to the 1995 attack on Srebrenica by Bosnian Serbs, who killed approximately 8,000 people while Srebrenica was under protection from Dutch forces.


When it comes to the upcoming smartphone offerings from Huawei, we have been hearing (and being teased) of three handsets to come, namely the P20, P20 Pro and P20 Lite. While the first two are currently scheduled to be formally launched on March 27 through an event in Paris, the youngest sibling of the pack has just been revealed in China and it is known in the Chinese market as the Nova 3e.
And yes, it has the notch up its screen which holds only the 24MP front facing camera, earpiece, and a sensor. By numbers, it packs a 5.84-inch Full HD+ display with 2280 x 1080 resolution and a 2.5D curved glass panel to give it more premium look on the front side.
Inside the Nova 3e is a Huawei-made octa-core Kirin 659 processor partnered with 4GB of RAM. As for its storage option, it will be offered in two variants - 64GB and 128GB. It can still support microSD card for additional storage space of up to 256GB.
On the back panel, this will hold dual camera set up. The main shooter is pegged at 16MP with f/2.2 aperture and phase detection autofocus, it is paired with a 2MP camera for more depth of field and blurred background effects.
And one of the nicest things about this phone is it will come pre-installed with Android 8.0 Oreo with EMUI 8.0 right out of the box.
Right now, the Huawei Nova 3e is now up for pre-order in China with price tags of CNY 1,999 for the 64GB variant and CNY 2,199 for the bigger 128GB version. The handset will be available as early as March 27.


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Plea to CJI seeks pre-ponement of hearing on eco reservation in NEET-PG course
IANS | December 29, 2021 02:36 PM
NEW DELHI: A city-based lawyer on Wednesday wrote a letter petition to Chief Justice of India (CJI) NV Ramana seeking preponement of the hearing in matters related to the economic reservation in NEET-PG course in the apex court and initiate day to day hearing.
Highlighting the ongoing protests of the resident doctors for the last several days led by the Federation of Resident Doctors Association of India (FORDA) and threat for mass resignation, the letter petition by Adv Vineet Jindal stated that the mass protest has resulted because the Union Health Ministry has not taken any concrete steps to expedite NEET-PG counselling.
The plea also sought directions to the Centre to form a committee to address the issues related to doctors concerned and the Delhi Police Commissioner to initiate an enquiry and take stern action on culprits into the incident of physical assault on the protesting doctors by the cops.
"With doctors as our frontline warriors against this war with Covid, it is imperative to address the issues of resident doctors at the earliest to resolve their demands and to call off the strike as soon as possible, " Jindal pointed out.
"Already, the second wave of Covid-19 has left an indelible impact on lives of people due to the massive death toll, and now we are again facing a crisis of the third wave and are in extreme need of best health care services owing to the current situation of the outbreak of omicron virus, " he added.
Abiding by the constitution of India under Article 19 and 21, the responsibility of securing the life and liberty of the protesting doctors and every citizen of this country, lies in the hand of the apex court, the plea read said.
Recently, the protest against delayed NEET PG counselling has been supported by doctors from five states -Rajasthan, Uttar Pradesh, Punjab, Haryana and Madhya Pradesh.
The doctors have been striking work over delays in NEET-2021 PG counselling, which is now pending the outcome of a batch of petitions over economic reservations, being heard in the Supreme Court will take up on January 6, 2022 by the apex court.
The strike started with doctors boycotting work in out-patient clinics, which was later escalated to boycotting of all routine work such as care of admitted patients and routine surgeries when they didn't receive any assurances from the Union health minister.
Initially, the delay of NEET-2021 PG examinations was due to the second wave of Covid-19 and it was further delayed due to the petitions filed and pending for hearing before this court over reservation issue, it said.
The FORDA has pointed out the "acute shortage" of resident doctors across the country as the counselling of NEET-PG 2021 batch has already been delayed by eight months. On December 9, the agitation was suspended by the resident doctors called by the FORDA for a week following the health ministry's assurance to expedite court hearing and subsequently fast-track the counselling process.
However, FORDA wrote to Union Health Minister Mansukh Mandaviya, informing him that it was resuming the strike from December 17, the plea added.

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Connecting Threads flannel, wash or no wash?
What color of thread would you use?
How many chances do you give a LA before saying no more?
What is it called when.........?
What is the best brand of washable lint roller?
how do you press the back of this star?
Just finished a baby quilt. . .send it or donate it?
Does anyone know the name of the center block in the top row?
New to Quilting. Legit Heritage Quilt (30+ years in the making) Help please!
Book suggestions on learning to free-motion quilt?
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Don't try to explain Frixion pens use for quilting.
anybody had issuses with this?
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The Netherlands and Belgium have much to offer, but it's their shared maritime heritage on the North Sea that gives these neighboring "Low Countries" a special place among European nations. This is evident at UNESCO World Heritage sites like Kinderdijk, where 19 iconic Dutch windmills dating back to the 18th century preserve a vanished way of life... Amsterdam's 17th-century grachten (canals) fanning out in crescent-shaped rings... the medieval center of beautiful Bruges (Brugge) in Flanders, sporting its own canals... or La Grand-Place in Brussels, one of Europe's oldest and most significant market squares. But it is in springtime when the true gems of Holland and Belgium really shine – tulips, daffodils and hyacinths abloom along the inland waterways, in cities like Antwerp or Maastricht, or in grand gardens like Keukenhof.
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Tauck's Budapest to Amsterdam river cruise takes you on an amazing journey past ancient castles and soaring cathedrals, taking in great cities including Vienna, Köln, Nürnberg and Bratislava – and revered UNESCO World Heritage Sites like Schönbrunn Palace and Kölner Dom (Cologne Cathedral).
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I don't know about you, but a place called 'Shake Shack,' conjures up images of a Love Shack with food, in other words, lots of fun — although maybe not so much for keto eaters. Don't sweat it; they serve burgers, and getting to enjoy a juicy burger guilt-free is one of the best things about following the keto diet.
The Shake Shack had a humble beginning. It started out as a simple vendor cart in Madison Square Park, selling hot dogs and shakes to support an art installation. It lost money for the first three years of operation, but still managed to stick it out and the first permanent stall opened in 2004.
Shake Shack is all about quality ingredients. It cares about humane faming methods and the environment generally, and so it shuns things like hormones and antibiotics. Shake Shack's nutrition information is listed online, but it is not customizable. In order to calculate your macros, you will have to do some math, or just read on for your best bets.
Shake Shack doesn't fool around: 100% Angus beef, no hormones, no antibiotics. The burger itself has 0 net carbs. Order yours "protein-style" and you won't have to waste — or be tempted by — the bun.
The 'Shroom Burger comes in a little high at 10 net carbs.
Their chicken is 100% all-natural, cage-free, no hormones or antibiotics, but at the time of this writing, all of the items on the menu are breaded, so unless you can find one that offers a grilled option, this one is a pass.
100% all-natural Vienna beef, hormone and antibiotic-free, split, griddled and crispy, these dogs are hot in more ways than one. They're also the way Shake Shack got its start.
Breakfast food is super easy for keto eaters. eggs, bacon, sausage, cheese, just pass on the bun and you're golden. Eggs are cage-free and the pork sausage is all-natural.
Water (a percentage of their Shack20 bottled water supports clean water initiatives around the world), hot or iced coffee (unsweetened), iced tea (unsweetened), or diet soda if you can't resist. Some Shake Shacks also serves alcohol. A glass of white wine is 3 net carbs; red will run you about 4. These are your best bet for alcoholic beverages.
Keto eaters can dine pretty much anywhere and enjoy themselves. Keep in mind that despite all the care places like Shake Shack takes to provide fresh, quality ingredients, fast food is still high in things like calories and sodium, and therefore should not be eaten on a regular basis.


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package org.innovateuk.ifs.category.builder;

import org.innovateuk.ifs.category.domain.InnovationArea;
import org.innovateuk.ifs.category.domain.InnovationSector;

import java.util.List;
import java.util.function.BiConsumer;

import static java.util.Collections.emptyList;
import static org.innovateuk.ifs.base.amend.BaseBuilderAmendFunctions.uniqueIds;

public class InnovationAreaBuilder extends CategoryBuilder<InnovationArea, InnovationAreaBuilder> {

    protected InnovationAreaBuilder(List<BiConsumer<Integer, InnovationArea>> multiActions) {
        super(multiActions);
    }

    public static InnovationAreaBuilder newInnovationArea() {
        return new InnovationAreaBuilder(emptyList()).with(uniqueIds());
    }

    @Override
    protected InnovationAreaBuilder createNewBuilderWithActions(List<BiConsumer<Integer, InnovationArea>> actions) {
        return new InnovationAreaBuilder(actions);
    }

    @Override
    protected InnovationArea createInitial() {
        return new InnovationArea();
    }

    public InnovationAreaBuilder withSector(InnovationSector... innovationSectors) {
        return withArraySetFieldByReflection("sector", innovationSectors);
    }
}

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Out of all exciting features that Floating App offers, one is the Document Viewer. It allows you to view your Document files without minimizing the active application on your device. In this way, the aim to achieve multitasking is fulfilled.
Consider that you are having a chat with someone, filling an online form or doing some activity that requires you to view your document. Normally, you will have to switch your apps, again and again, to do your task and view the document at a time. Now, this Document Viewer of the Floating App here proves to be saving your efforts and time. You document can be kept floating at some side of your screen, while you can concentrate on your work and take help from the document immediately whenever required.
It is very simple to use but requires two additional modules to be installed on your device. When you will open it from the Floating App, you will be offered to download those modules by pressing the button that will redirect you to the module page at the Google Play Store. The point which has to be noted here is that both the modules should be installed in the internal storage of the phone, not the external storage.
These modules (Floating PDF and Floating Documents) are basically the apps that are responsible to open the document files for you. Once these are installed on your phone, you can use the document viewer option in the Floating app to float your documents. You just have to tap the document viewer option in the Floating App and browse your intended document file.
The PDF module supports PDF file format while Documents module supports the Microsoft Word's Doc, Docx, RTF and OpenOffice's (LibreOffice) ODT file format.
You have the option of changing the appearance of this floating document viewer window, by taping the settings icon at the right of the Document Viewer option in the menu. You are allowed to change or remove the borders, the theme color, and the icon color. Apart from this, you can also change the back button functionality when the document viewer window is active. The shortcuts to this feature can also be added to the notification bar, floating icon menu, the app side menu, and the home screen.
Now you can float your documents on the screen of your smartphone with this amazing feature by Floating Apps. The best part is that it is a very simple and convenient feature. Multitasking becomes easy while using the document viewer along with any of your running application.


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WWE and 2K extend partnership with "multi-year" deal
Star Wars: The Force Awakens director gets questioned by celebrities
Costumes and Consumers
Sentence Wars review
Game Cafe Ep. 27 (Part 1): PC Gaming
Minecraft: Story Mode episode 3 gets a trailer and release date
Sean Timm
Hot on the heels of episode 2 just last month, Telltale is already ready to serve up the next piece of Minecraft: Story Mode. Episode 3, "The Last Place You Look," will be available for download on whatever device you like your Telltale games, starting next week, November 24th.
"Trapped and running out of time, Jesse and crew must discover a means to locate Soren, the final member of the Order of the Stone," the episode's description reads. "They'll see sights and wonders beyond belief, including the horrors lurking beneath the starless sky of The End. Only Soren's knowledge can help push back the all-consuming Witherstorm, but will it be enough to save the world?"
Minecraft: Story Mode is a distinctly more family friendly outing than Telltale's recent works like The Walking Dead and The Game of Thrones.
Haven't jumped into the Minecraft-styles narrative yet? Check out our reviews for the first and second episodes.
For more on Minecraft: Story Mode keep checking back right here on Gamespresso.
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Young physicists, mathematicians and philosophers shall meet for a one-week expedition lost between earth and sky at the boundary of the thinkable world. The goal of this summer-school is to share deep discussions about physics and its foundations in an open and creative way for an intense time of learning, reflection and enlightenment – and all in a joyful atmosphere. With up to 18 participants, l'Agape will see a partition between more in-depth courses given in the morning and creative activities in the afternoon.


This lotion was made with eczema and dry skin in mind and is very concentrated. The beautiful blend of Local Beeswax, Unrefined Coconut Oil, and Lavender make a unique scent that changes with every batch as nature intended. The most important thing to remember is a little goes a LONG way!
It smells so fresh. You can tell its high quality ingredients. Love the local beeswax used!


First rate product that finishes off my bathroom a treat. I think the only way you could improve the cabinet I purchased is the price. That said it's compatable or better value than others on the market but their not cheap.
The changing colour cabinet has added a touch of luxury to our bathing experience. The family bathroom can be transformed into a "spa" escape!


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World Of Tanks Aimbot
World of tanks aimbot is a program that allows players to control their tanks without having to use the keyboard.
As the name suggests, an aimbot is a cheating program, that allows you – even without any knowledge of the tanks – to target tank weakspots. It works essentially as a normal auto-aim, only using different reference points for each tank. Basically, you can select to target specifical armor weakspots, such as commander's cupola, or for example the driver's hatch on frontal armor. Alternatively, you can make the aimbot target specific modules, such as ammo rack, engine, fuel tanks and such. This selection happens (or can happen) using a single button, that "cycles" the target modules/areas.
Auto aiming technology is pretty new in mobile games. While it has been used in games on PC and consoles for decades, the World of Tanks Blitz aimbot is now more than just a possibility. It is the most powerful cheat for the game at this time in fact. Auto aiming apps in general allow you to bind a button (usually a new custom touch-button on your screen) to the auto aiming and shooting (triggerbot) function. Once you hold down the button, the script will lick on to the closest target, aim for areas with highest chance for penetration and trigger your shot. The aimbot is especially powerful in World of Tanks Blitz, since it is not just about shooting the enemy, but hitting them where it hurts, considering angles of the armor, avoiding ricochet / bounces, finding spots with thin armor, hitting the ammo rack ect. For a player it is very hard to keep track of all the tanks, their armor, their weak points and then reacting quickly to hit the right spot to do max DMG in the heat of a fight and using the very clunky mobile controls for movement and aiming. However, for a script that is not a problem at all. Games like first and third-person shooters are some of the most popular video games and are sometimes associated with the use of aimbots. An aimbot is a cheat that enhances precision in aiming in video games. Familiarizing yourself with how aimbots work will ensure that you hit every target and come out on top of your match rankings. It's not aimbot, but the type where they afk and mindlessly follow their nearest ally and proceed to shoot regardless of position when red tanks are within their view range. It's hard to give you an example, but I believe that some of you who play at HK server around midnight (UTC +8) will witness one or two tanks behave this way every five or six games. Typically, they have impossible Win Rate of 39-41% and when they move in game, they look like a confused tier 1 playing their first game, even if they are using non premium mid-high tier tank. Aimbots are basically game bots that automatically lock a player's cursor to their opponents in order to improve their target accuracy and speed. An aimbot gives players superhuman reflexes and abilities that match or exceed those of the best pro players. Aimbots use game memory to access and detect information such as the position and visibility of other players, and this makes them function more effectively.
The use of "VANGA AimBOT" brings comfort and a tangible advantage in combat to a dishonest player and causes justifiable irritation in his opponents. Indeed, in fact, World of Tanks, as a team tactical multiplayer shooter, is built primarily on shooting and skill in this area. "VANGA AimBOT" allows you to play without thinking about aiming, taking on the entire complex part of the gameplay - it is focused on the enemy's tank, targets the most vulnerable zones of the enemy's tank and even takes a lead when shooting at moving vehicles! The player literally does not need to think about the game or keep in mind the characteristics of the enemy's tanks - the sight does everything for him. All that is required of the player is only to direct the weapon into the area nearby from enemy tanks, and then the sight will capture it and take all the work on itself. Hacks are pieces of software that injects code into the game client in order to add functionality that would not otherwise be available in the stock version of the game. One of the most overpowered cheats in WoT is the ESPcheat (ESP= Extrasensory Perception). This kind of cheat allows you to display enemy positions at all time (spotted or not) and will make outmaneuvering them and shooting them a lot easyer. ESPcheats will show you the enemy through walls, show their distance and their health if configured correctly. Aimbots are another very effective kind of cheat in World of Tanks. Aim bots is software that will automatically aim and in some cases even shoot for you at the press of one single button. Aimbots can be set to shoot for weak points in the enemy armor and and avoid shooting surfaces that are likely to ricochet or fail to penetrate. Aimbots are fairly popular among pro WoT players, since shooting the right weak points and the points with the highest chance to penetrate is fairly important in higher tier matches. And as you might imagine using gold ammo (premium ammo) along with an aimbot is quite overpowered. However, you will do very well using normal penetrating and explosive ammo as well. Plus it's not like it's hard to make an aimbot, WG practically made out for players to use. All the modders had to do was tweak it to aim at specific spots and tweak it to have lead using the speed and spatial coordinates of the target to calculate it properly. You don't even need very complicated behavior predicting algorithms, just a basic instantaneous lead calculator. The limited tank reaction time and RNG makes it even easier for modders. World of Tanks bots are programs that will take control of your account and perform automated tasks. Bots can be quite effective at farming silver and experience and will let you unlock higher-tier tanks a lot faster if used right. Especially at the lower levels of play (low tier battles) bots can be quite effective, since the repair costs are not as high. While the best scripts are pretty proficient at fighting, most automated farming software will use scout and light tanks in order to spot enemies and earn experience and silver that way. But even the scripts that are able to fight will get less effective, as you progress through the tiers. Also bots will require you to either have huge piles of silver or gold, since the silver earned will not always exceed the repair costs and ammo consumption. This is probably the biggest difference between WoT bots and other game bots: WoT bots can actually make you lose money if they are not configured correctly. Bots will generally allow you to skip most of the grind involved in playing WoT is a serious manner. However, configuring them correctly might take some time.
World of tanks aimbot can be used to cheating in the game.
I do believe the infamous Warpack cheat collection contains an aimbot. Warpack is not for free, but it has many users. Cheats are pretty good business.
another one (for free) is Lportii's aimbot. Yesterday, one player tested that particular one in a training room, it works. First time I hear of such a thing… I used to play CS 1.6 extensively, and there I could tell after 2 rounds if the enemy player use wall cheat/aimbot or other widespread cheats. In this game I can tell you if it is a bot or not… but this aimbot crap… come on people… what is the point? Players using cheats are simply just fooling themselves… Of course that doesnt change the fact its a cheat and illegal but (thx wargaming for making one good decision with server side calculations) its not as big of a problem as in other games, where an aimbot can basically make u hit(and headshot an enemy) every single time. Even though aimbots undoubtedly offer you godlike aim and accuracy, it is essential to take precautions if you decide to use them. There is a high chance that your account could get banned if you are caught using them in an online game; therefore, it is crucial to beware of the risks. For instance, several large games have banned hundreds of thousands of accounts for using cheats and cheats, and there is no sign of them stopping. To learn how to reverse, cheat & code properly check out Guided Hacking video tutorials and guides. However, there are some aimbots that have built-in flaws in order to make the cheating a little less obvious to players who decide to stick around and spectate. They might introduce slower aiming, few intentional misses, or less precise movement and speed. In addition, multiple aimbots have the option of being turned off and on at the player's will, and this can help make it hard to identify their use. In Overwatch, an aimbot can help many in achieving a higher amount of DPS. The way we make this Aimbot makes it safe and hard to spot for anti-cheats as well as other players spectating you.All of our overwatch products come with an integrated aimbot that can be customized for your needs and setting so that it matches your level of gameplay. Battlelog.co makes sure that the Aimbot is precise but also safe at the same time! You can cheat World of Tanks Blitz using a modded APK (Android) or IPA (iOS) file to manipulate cheats within the game. They make it easier to target or auto-aim, improve turret traverse, see past walls, increase your tank's speed, and other excellent functionalities beyond the game's scope. Anyone that has played the game for longer than a few hours, or even considers themselves a pro, knows that knowledge of enemy positions ans tanks is more than half the battle in any Tanks simulator. Enter the WoTB Wallcheat that allows you to see all enemy tanks through walls and any other terrain or map object, see their distance, their type of tank, the ammo they are loading, player name, rating ect. Essentially this kind of cheat allows you to keep track of all enemies on the map and outplay, flank and ambush them without any difficulty. While statistically this cheat is not quite as powerful in farming credits, EXP and gold as an auto aiming app, it is a lot ore fun, as it retains that sense of outplay and achievement that will keep you playing and enjoying PvP in World of Tanks Blitz. Highly recommended cheat and it is a lot more respectful toward other players as well with reduced risk of reports, since it is almost impossible for enemy players to tell if you can see them through walls.


What's your Dog's Aussie Nickname?
Strewth Cobbers!! Happy 'Straya Day! Cast your peepers across this and give it a go ya mug!
~ Translation ~ Wow guys! Happy Australia Day! Have a look at this and let us know your dog's Aussie nickname!
As we celebrate Australia Day here in Puppy Tales HQ, Keiko will be known as "Little Ripper Dundee", Summer as "Strewth Lamington", Rosie as "Too Right Swagman" and Mr Magoo (our honorary pack member!) as Cooee Kangaroo!
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Qantas plans to live stream cricket on flights
Chris Pash
Australian cricketer George Bailey. Photo: Ishara S. Kodikara/AFP/Getty Images)
Qantas, which at the end of this year starts a trial of free WiFi on domestic flights, is looking at live streaming cricket.
CEO Alan Joyce, announcing a record underlying profit of $1.5 billion, says Qantas is exploring a partnership with Cricket Australia.
"A flight from Sydney to Perth should be enough time to catch an entire match of 20/20, which is fitting when you're flying on the Spirit of Australia," Joyce says.
"Live cricket is just one of the content partnerships we're looking at. And it's in addition to the streaming services you'll be able to access just as you do on the ground."
Qantas expects a full roll out of WiFi on domestic 737 and A330 aircraft in 2017.
"The technology we've chosen delivers speeds up to 10 times faster than conventional on-board WiFi and that will give our passengers a lot of options in how they spend their time on a flight," says Joyce.
Qantas is also scoping WiFi for its QantasLink fleet of 717s, F100s and turboprops as well as its international fleet.
"There are over 200 Qantas aircraft and some complex technical issues to work through, so it's a big job," says Joyce.
"But our plan is to provide WiFi to all our customers as soon as we can, and we'll be providing more detail after the domestic trial."
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Do you remember the last great day you experienced? Maybe it was the birth of a child, a wedding, the first time you met our significant other. Yesterday was one of those days. My son and daughter both run cross-country. My son is a senior and my daughter a sophomore. Both excel at this sport, which is funny because when I was a kid I could not image anyone running on purpose.
We've had a good season, but yesterday we ran to go to semi state. To qualify, the top 15 runners to individually and the top 5 teams go as well. My son was expected to be in the top ten, but there was a question as to if the team could qualify. The boy's team based their entire season on this as a goal. The girls knew this would be their last race with only one qualifying for semi state, but next year, they should go as well.
Before the race I was speaking to my son and noticed he had something written on his fingers. I took a quick picture and he had the numbers 1 6 5 9 written. When I asked him what that was for, he replied, that's going to be my time today. Tanner's best time ever was 17 minutes and 20 seconds for the 3.2-mile course, so that was quite a prediction.
At the end of the girl's race our lead runner placed 8th and thus qualified for semi state. Quincy scored a personal best time of 21 minutes and 30 seconds. Another parent approached me and told me the doctors office called them yesterday and advised their daughter who had been our number 2 runner, but had slipped to 4th the last 2 races had been diagnosed with MONO. They let her run and only after the race told her the reason for her "slower pace'. The girl's team will be cocked and ready to go next year in that no player is leaving, all are returning.
The boy's race started and I thought, this might be my son's last race ever. I'm not an emotional person, I never cry, but that thought did get me a little emotional. The boys ran a great race with my son's friend coming in 3rd with a personal best time of 16 minutes and 52 seconds. Tanner of course crossed the finish line at 16 minutes and 59 seconds placing him 7th out of 100 of East Central Indiana's better runners.
After the race there were smiles and congratulations. Every boy ran his personal best. The only unknown was if we qualified as a team or if Chase and Tanner would be going to semi state alone. As the results were read, our team placed 5th earning our boy's team their 2nd trip to Semi State in school history.
My partner and I had purchased a higher end camera the day before the race and thus I was taking photos like a mad man. Last night I cropped the photos and posted them online. You can see the collection here.
When the race was over, we all connected at the local BW 3's for some wings and beverages. After that, we drove to our small town where the fire engine was waiting and the kids all jumped on top for the ride of their life. Sirens, horns, and a parade of proud parents followed these 20 kids around town letting the world know they did "something".
As I sit here today, I am pretty confident that yesterday was one of the top 5 days of my life. I'll never forget the day my son ran 16:59.


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Here's the scoop on the mayor's wedding
Georgette Braun
Rockford Mayor Larry Morrissey's August wedding to Stacy Hedrick will take place in town, but the couple will celebrate their marriage at a reception in Galena, and they'll leave the state for their honeymoon.
Morrissey and Hedrick, who have been dating 3-
1/2years, will tie the knot at St. James Catholic Church in a traditional ceremony. Each will have two attendants, and Hedrick's daughter, Seanna, will be part of the wedding party. A rehearsal reception will be at the Irish Rose in Rockford.
Morrissey has asked that to protect the couple's privacy, the dates of the ceremony and reception not be published, nor the name of the place where the reception will be held.
But he said in an interview with the Rockford Register Star this week that the couple is expecting about 300 guests for the reception. He would not comment on whether the couple had invited City Council members.
"It's not a political affair, it's an intimate one for family" and close friends, he said.
The reception will be in banquet rooms with floor-to-ceiling windows that overlook a secluded setting. A group that plays big-band-style music will perform. Cheap Trick guitarist Rick Nielsen, a longtime friend of Morrissey's, has been invited, but it's unclear whether he'll attend.
The couple wanted the reception to be out of town so it wouldn't feel like a political event for Morrissey, he said. And they like Galena, a city with gently rolling hills where they got engaged. The couple will honeymoon out-of-state in a "fairly remote location to gain some peace and quiet," Morrissey said.
Morrissey said he's "lucky," "fortunate" and "honored" to be marrying Hedrick. Hedrick couldn't be reached in time for deadline for this story to comment about the pending marriage or her bridal dress.
It's the first marriage for both, and the first time in at least 50 years that a Rockford mayor has married while in office.
Hedrick of Rockford attends Northern Illinois University in DeKalb and is studying to become a speech and language pathologist. The couple met through a cousin of Morrissey's when Hedrick worked at Lino's in Rockford.
So, what was the bachelor party like? Morrissey said he and a few friends golfed and hung around a campfire one day and went to a Chicago Cubs game the next, but they didn't go crazy. "You could say I did nothing that would be uncharacteristic of the mayor's demeanor," he said.
In other words, there were no strippers.