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Mickey Martin
Todd Kent
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Gerry Sellner
Joe Guerino
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Hopewell Council #7103
5th Annual Tony Muscente Memorial Golf Outing
The fifth annual Council #7103 Tony Muscente Memorial Golf Tournament will be held on Wednesday, May 22, 2013 at Mountain View Golf Course in West Trenton, N.J. Participant and Sponsorship information is hightlighted below. Registration and sponsorships forms are attached at the bottom of this page.
We would like to thank our 2013 Sponsors:
A Better Look Outdoors; Pennington, N.J. 609-414-3633
A Hibbs Auto Repair; 81 East Afton Avenue, Yardley, Pa. 215-494-3655
A to Z Mustang Classics; Tullytown, Pa. http://www.atozmustang.com/
Amish Sheth, DMD; Washington Crossing, Pa. http://shethdental.com/
Annie's Frozen Yogurt & Water Ice; Lawrenceville, N.J. www.facebook.com/anniesfroyo
Anthony Muscente Jr. , Attorney; Allentown, N.J. www.muscentelawoffice.com
Anthony Petto Insurance; P.O. Box 37, Neshanic Station, N.J. 908-371-0824 (B); 908-625-4021(C)
Antimo's Italian Kitchen; Hopewell, N.J. http://www.antimositaliankitchen.com
Bill Marsh Ford; Newtown, Pa. http://www.billmarshford.com
Bryan Electric; Trenton,N.J. http://www.bryanelectricco.com
Cafe 72; Ewing, N.J. http://www.nickscafe72.com/
Cifelli's Fuels; 1543 Parway Avenue; Ewing, N.J. 609-882-5151
Clear Vision Auto Glass; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.windshieldrepairtrentonnewjersey.com
Coleman Buick GMC Cadillac; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.colemanbuickgmc.com
Colonial Farms; Washington Crossing, Pa. http://www.colonialfarms.com/index.htm
Credit Union of New Jersey; Ewing, N.J. https://www.cunj.org
Deacon Mike & Terry Riley; St. George Church; Titusville, N.J.
Diana Vincent, Inc.; Washington Crossing, Pa. http://www.dianavincent.com/store.shtml
Dominick's Pizza; Washington Crossing, Pa. http://www.trentonstyle.com/
Dutch's Meats; Trenton, N.J. http://www.dutchsmeats.com
East Coast Catholic Conference
Fancy Threads; Hopewell, N.J. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Fancy-Threads/117148111679537
First National Bank & Trust of Newtown; Newtown, Pa. https://secure.fnbn.com/index.html
Fran and Stan Denman
Friends Landscaping and Lawn Care; Pennington, N.J. 609-393-4800 or 609-647-1971
Gabriel's II Pizza; 1118 Taylorsville Road, Washington Crossing, Pa. 215-493-2226
Heritage Pharmacy; Washington Crossing, Pa. http://www.heritagepharmacyrx.com/
Hopewell Auto Parts (NAPA); Hopewell, N.J. http://local.yahoo.com/info-10945434-napa-auto-parts-hopewell
Hopewell Columbiettes Council #7103, Hopewell, N.J.
Hopewell Pharmacy; Hopewell, N.J. http://www.hopewellrx.com/
HVC Bank; Pennington, NJ https://www.hvcbonline.com/
Ice-Man; Hopewell, N.J. http://www.the-ice-man.com
JC Strings LLC; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.jcstrings.com/index.html
Just Subs; Lawrenceville, N.J. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Just-Subs-VI/174950539269186
Kees J. Geurds Plumbing; 415 Robbins Avenue; Ewing, N.J. 609-883-9485
Knights of Columbus - Trenton Council #355 http://www.trentonkofc355.org/
Lawrence Toyota; Lawrenceville, N.J. www.lawrencetoyota.com
Martial Arts Plus; Hopewell, NJ http://www.martialartsplusinc.com/
Montgomery News; Belle Meade, N.J. http://www.montynews.com
Nowak & Gehan, CPA, P.C.; Hamilton Square, N.J. http://www.nowakgehan.com/
OSK Design Partners; Collingswood & Stone Harbor, N.J. http://oskdesignpartners.com/
PBA Local #342; Hopewell Township, N.J.
Pennington Bagel; Pennington, N.J. http://www.penningtonbagel.org
Pennington Market; Pennington, N.J. http://pqmonline.com
PNC Bank; various locations throughout Mercer County, N.J. www.pnc.com
Road Runners Cleaners; Pennington & Flemington, N.J. http://centzy.com/place/road-runner-cleaners-pennington-nj
Sal DeForte's Ristorante; Ewing, N.J. http://www.saldefortesristorante.com/index.html
Security Dynamics; Trenton, N.J. http://securitydynamicsnj.com
Sid Harvey; Trenton, N.J. www.sidharvey.com
Skerdlant's Shell; Pa 532 & Taylorsville Road, Washington Crossing, Pa. 18977 215-493-4347
SZS Inc. (McGrath Pharmacy, Princeton Pharmacy, Monument Pharmacy, Lawrenceville Rx Service) Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.mcgrathpharmacy.com
Superior Officers PBA #342; Titusville, N.J.
Tractor Joe's Service & Repairs; Pennington, N.J. http://www.tractor-joes.com/
Trim Specialties; 13 Lynnbrook Drive, Lambertville, N.J. 08530 609-737-1224
Vurgason Family
Walt's Outdoor Center; Ringoes, N.J. http://waltsoutdoorcenter.com/
Wilson-Apple Funeral Home; Pennington, N.J. http://wilsonapple.com/default.aspx
WFJS Catholic Radio 1260AM / 89.3FM; Trenton, N.J. http://www.domesticchurchmedia.org/
and our gift sponsors:
Chuckles Pizza & Pasta Restaurant; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.chucklesrestaurant.com
Patriot's Crossing; Titusville, N.J. www.patriots-crossing.com
Pennington Golf Center; Pennington, N.J. www.penningtongolfcenter.com
Piccolo Trattoria; Pennington, N.J. http://www.piccolotrattoria.com
Revere Ristorante Italiano; West Trenton, N.J. http://www.revereristorante.com
Saker Shop Rite; Ewing, N.J. http://www.shoprite.com/member_saker
Vidalia Restaurant; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.eatatvidalia.com
and to Mistretta Design & Photography and Fast Signs for their support
Mistretta Design & Photography; Skillman, N.J. http://mistrettadesign.photoreflect.com
Fast Signs; Lawrenceville, N.J. http://www.fastsigns.com/346-lawrenceville-nj
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Downloadable Registration Form at bottom of this page
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We would like to thank our past sponsors and participants who helped us raise money for Special Olympics, Persons with Intellectual Disabilities, Food for the Hungry Good Baskets and our Annual Shield Award Dinner (honoring Firefighters, Police, and EMT of Hopewell Valley), and other worthwhile causes.
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Are you a slow reader? Does it take ages to get through the first few articles on the first pages of the newspaper? Being fast at reading can help you save a lot of time and energy. It will also make you want to read more. Why do you think it's important to be a fast reader nowadays?


My husband and I are lucky to have many good friends in and around Denver: some we have known over 40 years. On a recent visit our much loved friends Dean and Jo treated us to dinner at Carrabba's Restaurant in the Lakewood area of Denver. What a lovely evening!
Carrabba's is a chain restaurant with a difference. It was set up in Texas by two brothers of Sicilian heritage and has maintained the standards they established. The veal and steak dishes are renowned and the pizzas individually prepared. It offers wines sourced from across the world. Each is individually chosen to pair with one of their dishes. Dean is knowledgeable about wine and chose a delicious full-bodied red wine for the table. They also serve a house wine, TerraMare that is well received.
The group of six of us were shown to our table in the bustling, Italian restaurant. The service was friendly and chatty but as efficient as you would expect in the USA. When our own conversations paused for a few moments, we chose our meals. Choices of starters varied from salads and soups to a phili-cheese steak sandwich. Portions were generous and the dishes very tasty. The dressing on my salad was light but very good.
For our main courses our groups choices varied from veal and steak to pizza, pasta and fish. Each of the dishes were excellent and the servers were solicitous without interfering with our conversation.
It was amazing that any of us had any space for desert, and perhaps we did not, however, some of us did choose a sweet. The ice cream and desert dishes were varied and very good. The meal ended with coffees and teas.
We had a lovely evening and a delicious meal at Carrabba's. Restaurant Access is good for disabled people too and I highly recommend Carrabba's Restaurant.


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Q: Using tail -f together with sed and xargs Suppose I have the following process to write a number + single quote to the file /tmp/test every second:
for i in {1..1000} ; do echo $i\' ; sleep 1 ; done > /tmp/test

I then want to use tail -f and run this through another function. For testing purposes, I'm using echo:
tail -f /tmp/test | xargs echo

This give me the following error (running this without a quote in the input works fine):
xargs: unmatched single quote; by default quotes are special to xargs unless you use the -0 option
If I add sed to the equation, I don't get any output at all:
tail -f /tmp/test | sed "s/['\"]//g" | xargs echo

Any ideas why I get no output after adding sed, or another way how I can strip the quotes from the input before it gets to xargs?

A: Maybe
tail -f /tmp/test | sed "s/['\"]//g" | while read line; do
  do_something "$line"
done

And check this: https://stackoverflow.com/questions/199266/make-xargs-execute-the-command-once-for-each-line-of-input

A: There's a number of things.
First: "tail -f" will never finish, so "xargs" will likewise remain running indefinitely. You can open a second window to "kill -HUP" the "tail -f" process to make both the "tail -f" and "xargs" finish, and thus produce output.
Second: "xargs" is buffering the input, and not getting what it considers to be a "full buffer", so by the time the 1000 second marks have been output, it hasn't yet run the echo command even once. If you'd like "xargs" to run the echo separately for each input row, you'd need to add "-n 1" option to xargs.
As for "xargs" not liking the single quote marks, you could use option "-d '\n'" to disable the quote processing and only separate the input arguments by a newline.

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Pair of earphones supplied in a matching coloured plastic case which can also be used as a tablet or mobile phone holder.


Immerse yourself in the splendour of the sunset as the ocean glistens below. A walk through the boreal forest reveals this panoramic view, often graced by bald eagles, whales and moose. Here, the mountains truly meet the sea.
This guided hike takes place on the famous Skyline Trail and begins 2 hours before sunset. 7.5 km (4.7 m) return. The main trail is suitable for most fitness levels. The Skyline Trail is a 10 minute drive from Cheticamp Campground.
Call the Parks Canada Visitor Information Centres at (902) 224-4227 (Chéticamp) or (902) 285-2535 (Ingonish) to book your tour. Tours are offered daily.


In 1955, the USSR Council of Ministers was spurred by the thread from the U.S. XB-70 bomber which was designed for Mach-3, but this was considered an impossible objective for the Soviet Union at that time. As the Myasishchev OKB was striving to develop the huge 3M subsonic bomber, this design bureau was assigned the additional and much more difficult task of creating a strategic bomber able to reach at supersonic speed. Myasishchev analyzed more than 30 possible configurations and the result was the "50" series, starting with the M-50. The M-50 made its maiden flight in 1959 and performed well. In 1961, the USSR Air Force was convinced that manned bombers were obsolescent following the development of ballistic missiles. The M-50 project was cancelled but it was decided that the M-50 should be displayed at that year's Tushino show. The M-50 made its final flight over Tushino and this never-seen-before aircraft received considerable attention from Western observers, even received codename Bounder by NATO.
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His Music and Life
Carl Woideck
A fresh take on Charlie Parker's artistic evolution and major achievements as a jazz improviser, in time for his centennial
The Michigan American Music Series
Saxophonist Charlie Parker (1920-1955) was one of the most innovative and influential jazz musicians of any era. As one of the architects of modern jazz (often called "bebop"), Charlie Parker has had a profound effect on American music. His music reached such a high level of melodic, rhythmic, and harmonic sophistication that saxophonists and other instrumentalists continue to study it as both a technical challenge and an aesthetic inspiration. This revised edition of Charlie Parker: His Music and Life has been revised throughout to account for new Charlie Parker scholarship and previously unknown Parker recordings that have emerged since the book's initial publication. The volume opens by considering current research on Parker's biography, laying out some of the contradictory accounts of his life, and setting the chronology straight where possible. It then focuses on Parker's music, tracing his artistic evolution and major achievements as a jazz improviser. The musical discussions and transcribed musical examples include timecodes for easy location in recordings—a unique feature to this book.
Carl Woideck is a retired Senior Instructor who teaches part-time at the University of Oregon School of Music and Dance.
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". . . a valuable work. . . . Music students will find Woideck's informed analysis of much interest; and the general reader will benefit from a greater appreciation of the skill and creativity of this highly influential artist."
—Daily News/L.A. Life
"Even readers who cannot play readers who cannot play [the passages featured in the text] or follow them while listening to a recording will find that Woideck's commentaries, enriched by pertinent anecdotes and a wealth of other historical material, deepen their understanding of the many qualities that made Parker a musical giant--his inventiveness, humor, virtuosity and swing-ability."
—Michigan Today
"Woideck has done an excellent job at piecing together bits of information provided through interviews and recorded oral histories, which effectively lay to rest several earlier tall tales or misinformed statements about Bird. . . . [T]his book makes a valuable contribution to the archive of Parker scholarship."
"In Charlie Parker: His Music and Life, Carl Woideck addresses Parker's achievements in meticulous detail. In doing so, he makes a much-needed case for jazz as an art equally as worthy of serious inquiry as classical music. Although the book is mostly devoted to analyzing Parker's music, it begins with a biographical sketch that seeks to dispel some of the myths that have bedeviled the musician since his death in 1955 at the age of 34. Through well-researched anecdotes as well as musical analysis, Woideck, a saxophonist who teaches jazz history at the University of Oregon, illustrates how Parker's genius sprang from a fortuitous confluence of talent and circumstance. . . .If the book does nothing else, it debunks the stereotype that jazz musicians are unschooled and unsophisticated when it comes to music as art rather than entertainment. As Woideck makes clear, Parker's art was the product of a fertile mind that set challenges for itself, and met those challenges in the studio and on the bandstand. As surely as the saxophonist was an entertainer, he was also an artist. Parker's contribution to American music was as great as that of Louis Armstrong—another genius and innovator who has been similarly underappreciated and misrepresented. . . . Woideck is to be commended for getting past the trap of presenting Parker as a tragic artist in favor of concentrating on his art—and on the meaning of that art for the nation and the world. Charlie Parker is not the last word on Bird. But it is certainly an insightful and informative addition to the literature of jazz."
—Calvin Wilson, "Another Good Riff on Charlie Parker", Kansas City Star
". . . the musical analysis is brilliant, particularly of the pre-1945 fragments."
". . . Woideck meticulously analyzes the various ways in which Bird grew from a talented young disciple to the most influential musician of his time and, ultimately, one who relied increasingly on reiteration of earlier licks instead of further innovation."
"Carl Woideck, himself a saxophonist and professor of jazz history, has opened up to us some of the inner workings of the improvisational art of Charlie Parker. He takes us to the music itself, painstakingly transcribed from recordings. He walks us through the melodies and harmonies of Bird's characteristic works. . . . Woideck identifies 13 qualities and traits found in Parker's music, including poetic depth, the range of tempos, and the melodic building blocks. . . . [T]he book is superbly competent in its musical analysis. . . ."
—William Edgar, Books & Culture
"Music students will find Woideck's informed analysis of much interest; and the general reader will benefit from a greater appreciation of the skill and creativity of this highly influential artist."
—L.A. Life
"Carl Woideck's Charlie Parker: His Music and Life is a useful addition to the Parker literature, building on the work of earlier writers and musicologists like Robert Reisner, Gary Giddins and Thomas Owens. Woideck is a saxophonist and Jazz educator, and the book is an outgrowth of his Master's thesis on Parker's earliest work. There's a brief life of Parker (pgs. 3-50), with illuminating concentration on his musical apprenticeship, but the heart of the book (pgs. 53-221) is the detailed analysis of some key passages from Parker's recordings, divided into four chronological phases. In all, Woideck examines 90 short transcribed passages, and an appendix includes a complete solo transcriptions from each of the four periods. . . . One highly useful feature of the book is that musical examples are keyed to the times at which they appear on CDs, making it much faster (and certainly easier) to find them. It's a small step toward making musicology user-friendly . . . In general, he [Woideck] does a fine job of balancing analysis, verbal description of music, and biography. Those who read music and have some knowledge of harmony will get the most out of it, but Woideck has gone to some lengths to make his book accessible to others with an interest in the musical structures of Jazz. Whatever background you bring to it, the book will likely enrich your understanding of Parker's music, and that's as much as one can ask of any book on the subject."
—Stuart Broomer, "Book Look", Cadence
"Woideck . . . devotes the majority of this book to a well-written and accessible analysis of Parker's music, illustrating points with transcriptions from various recordings . . . . While the untrained reader will likely find it rather rough going, Woideck has worked hard to keep his analysis accessible to anyone with a basic understanding of music . . . . students of jazz will welcome this text; strongly recommended for all jazz collections."
News, Reviews, Interviews
Read: A mention of the book in journalist John Edward Hasse's Medium.com article | 8/21/2020
Read: A mention of the book on the JazzWax blog | 8/21/2020
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And, yes, some of the worst too. From the I've-never-felt-this-consistently-tired-in-my-life fatigue; to transitioning to one income; to (not) figuring out sleep routines; to anxiety and feelings of inadequacy; we've had our share of marital strife since becoming parents.
Our daughter is only two, so cultivating a healthy marriage as new parents is something we're still stumbling our way through. But a few key things have greatly helped.
Read the rest of this post at the Risen Motherhood blog.


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The Lord willing, I will start leading music in the summer at CCS's after school program/ summer camp. I'm up to the challenge but also wondering where to start.
I have two friends who write songs for children. When I was still a youth pastor and Googled "Catechism" I found a website for a woman who wrote songs for WSC questions. Then, in 2012 I had remembered that someone at Refuge had told me that she went to a Reformed Presbyterian church in Covington. Years after she told me that, I remembered, looked it up online, and started going to the Sunday evening service. Turns out the same woman who writes the WSC songs is the pastor's wife and a now good friend of mine. Judy gave me some of her albums and some of those songs may come into play.
I also grew up listening to this song called "Simeon's Lullaby" by the woman duo, Wendy and Mary. One time my parents played it for a church we went to, and the bulletin said that they were friends of us. That would be like saying we were friends with Simon and Garfunkel. But thanks to facebook, Mary is a friend of mine these days. Between her and Judy, there are plenty of plans I can follow in leading children in music.
My favorite growing up, however, is still Psalty the Blue Song Book. A blue book with a face who sings songs with kids about Jesus. I still sing "Amen, Praise the Lord," and the "Butterfly Song" from time to time. He has so many catchy Scripture songs that have motions and dances and pictures.
I mentioned some of my ideas and heard that last year when someone lead music, the favorite song was "Locomotion." So now I'm also listening to old songs like "Five Little Monkeys Jumping on a Bed." How can I get a good mix of songs with good theology and just for fun songs and be fun but informative? If any people I mention in this post read this, what would you recommend? At least I have until after Memorial Day to figure it out.
Lady Huntingdon and the Lost Man
I'm posting an excerpt from Charles Spurgeon's sermon "The Blood-Shedding."
Let me tell a story to show how Christ saves souls. Mr. Whitefield had a brother, who had been like him an earnest Christian, but he had backslidden; he went far from the ways of godliness; and one afternoon, after he had been recovered from his backsliding, he was sitting in a room in a chapel-house. He had heard his brother preach the day before, and his poor conscience had been cut to the very quick. Said Whitefield's brother, when he was at tea, "I am a lost man," and he groaned and cried, and could neither eat nor drink. Said Lady Huntingdon, who sat opposite, "What did you say, Mr. Whitefield?" "Madam," said he, "I said I am a lost man." "I'm glad of it," said she; "I'm glad of it." "Your ladyship, how can you say so? It is cruel to say you are glad that I am a lost man." "I repeat it, sir," said she; "I am heartily glad of it." He looked at her, more and more astonished at her barbarity. "I am glad of it," said she, "because it is written, 'The Son of man came to seek and to save that which was lost.'" With tears rolling down his cheeks, he said, "What a precious Scripture; and how is it that it comes with such force to me? O! madam," said he, "madam, I bless God for that; then he will save me; I trust my soul in his hands; he has forgiven me." He went outside the house, felt ill, fell upon the ground, and expired. I may have a lost man here this morning. As I cannot say much, I will leave you, good people; you do not want any thing.
Read the rest of the sermon. You will see why I wear a shirt with this guy's face on it.
Interpreter's House
I don't plan on blogging much about Pilgrim's Progress, but I had more trouble with chapter 2, so I will write it out for clarification.
Christian has passed the Wicket Gate and has been sent to Interpreter's House. He sees seven different rooms and without commentary, I was much confused.
Commentary from Derek Thomas's teaching series: every preacher of the Gospel is an interpreter. Every church is an interpreter's house. So here are 6 of the rooms and then I will consider the one room that disturbs me.
1. Christian sees a picture of a serious man looking toward heaven, holding a book in his hand and having a crown on his head. This is a preacher, a man blessed with ability to lead other people to God's Truth.
2. Here, a man sweeps a room, but he only makes it more dusty. A woman comes in and pours water on everything, then it is finally clean. This is a picture of someone trying to find salvation by works and good deeds. He only makes things worse. Only Jesus, the Gospel, makes him clean.
3. Two children named Passion and Patience. Passion is a worldly guy who must have everything now. Patience gets to have everything for eternity because he was willing to wait for it, to trust God's promises no matter how slow.
4. A fireplace with a fire that grows despite someone throwing water on it. Behind the place, Christian sees someone pouring oil on the fire to keep it going. As a Christian, the world will do its best to douse your fire. The Holy Spirit pours oil on it and keeps it going.
5. A man in armor with a sword. The Christian life is a constant battle until we reach heaven.
7. A man rising out of bed trembling because he had a dream where God's judgment came and he got left behind. This is not the Left Behind series. This is simply a man coming to two roads: the popular one that leads to futility or the smaller, narrower road that leads to Eternal life. What will he take?
6. The disturbing one. Christian talks to a man in an iron cage. This man used to be a pilgrim too, but he turned away from his faith and now he cannot repent due to his hardened heart. This scene comes from Hebrews 6, the passage that for me both confirms eternal predestination for me, but also challenges it. People do come and lead the Christian faith and cause good. But we also see people become more enamored with the world's values who then turn their back on Jesus. This is a very serious warning to the true believers that even though salvation is a gift that can never be lost, they still are responsible for continuing in holiness. The good news is that the Holy Spirit will fan this flame. The bad news is that people still try to keep it going by their own efforts which never worked.
An example is Judas. He was Jesus's disciple and worked with the 11 ministering and spreading the Gospel through Judea. He betrayed Jesus, sold him to be arrested by the Jews, had Jesus crucified, and then hanged himself, never coming to a true release of trusting in Jesus's grace. This was not the way with all of them. Peter denied Jesus three times, but Jesus did bring him back. Paul put people to death because he was against Christianity, but Jesus brought him back. The thing is, there are people that God passes by in salvation. They may look like savory ministers for a while but they are not and they fall away never to return.
I saw a meme on facebook recently. It asked what religion the person was, and that person replied, whatever leads to the light. Sadly, unless your faith is in Jesus, that light will only be the fires of hell and eternal gloom. Jesus really is the only way to salvation. God did not have to send any way to salvation, but he sent Jesus. We must strive to continue following him with abandon and stop trying to contribute anything to our salvation or decide that what we think is better. Nothing is better than Jesus and following his will.


We recently switched CVS providers and with the new CVS provider we can't seem to get ssh to work properly using gzip compression. Using gzip is critical because for a typical update IntelliJ sends upto 135k to the server, without gzip compression turned on it transmits at about 1k per second, with gzip its totally fast.
I'm running v 4.5.3. Under the old CVS provider it worked.
Is there any way to get the exact command that IntelliJ sends to the server, even with the Show CVS output setting I'm getting nothing in the consol but the error.
The gzip issue turned out to be a red herring. We had some permission issues on CVSROOT/config and CVSROOT/loginfo. After setting the right permissions we're able to use ssh.


ANAHEIM DUCKS-Recalled G Justin Pogge from Bakersfield (ECHL). Assigned D Luca Sbisa to Lethbridge (WHL).
CHICAGO BLACKHAWKS-Recalled C Jake Dowell from Rockford (AHL).
COLORADO AVALANCHE-Placed RW Darcy Tucker on the injured list. Recalled F Chris Durno from Lake Erie (AHL).
FLORIDA PANTHERS-Recalled LW Kenndal McArdle and RW Michal Repik.
NASHVILLE PREDATORS-Recalled F Mike Santorelli from Milwaukee (AHL). Reassigned F Ryan Jones to Milwaukee.
PROVIDENCE BRUINS-Assigned D Jared Ross to Reading (ECHL). Released F Ben Gordon and returned him to Reading.
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Christina Luberto is a doctoral candidate in psychology at the University of Cincinnati. She is in D.C. today to present research on a concept called relaxation-induced anxiety (RIA). It is precisely what it sounds like: being relaxed, itself, actually triggers anxiety.
RIA has been mentioned sporadically in medical literature since the 1980s, but never as a diagnosis in itself. Luberto looks at it as a disposition; a maladaptive process. She says about 15 percent of people have experienced it, and it's not outside the realm of benefiting from treatment. So she developed an index to identify exactly what part of relaxation is causing a person's anxiety, which should help inform targeted therapy.
RIA is different from just being the sort of person who doesn't find traditionally relaxing things to be relaxing. If those things (doing yoga, playing harp, brunching with Yanni, etc.) actually make you feel anxious -- but you then feel at ease, say, organizing socks -- that's not RIA. Because you are able to relax, albeit by atypical means. In this model, anything that elicits relaxed physiology (slow heart rate, decreased muscle tone, deep breathing) counts as relaxing.
It's also different from being straight-up unable to ever relax, as in severe chronic anxiety.
In RIA, you are able to relax (by whatever does it for you -- cooking, chilling, vacuuming), but it's not long before the relaxation triggers anxiety. You briefly enter a parasympathetic (chill) state, but then your heart rate spikes, and your respiratory rate increases, and you feel anxious.
So why does this happen? It varies, widely, but that's where Luberto's work comes in. She developed a 21-item self-examination that is supposed to help people with RIA identify exactly what part of relaxation triggers their anxiety. She calls it the Relaxation Sensitivity Index.
Luberto tested it on a group of undergrads, and it seemed to work. I asker her if we could publish the full version of the test, but she prefers to wait until her academic article is published, which will also include the dense rubric for interpreting and managing the results. She did release a few examples, though.
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The prompts are broken down into three subsections, and each would be rated by the patient on a five point scale.
"I worry that when I let my body relax, I look unattractive."
"I worry that if I relax, other people will think I'm lazy."
"I don't like to relax because I don't like it when my thoughts slow down."
"I don't like to relax because it makes me feel out of control."
"It scares me when my breathing becomes deeper."
"I hate getting massages because of the feeling it creates when my muscles relax."
Treatment could then be tailored based on the responses.
And then, what do you mean by treatment? Luberto made the point that relaxation is often the prescription for anxiety. In this case, it can't be. At least not in the traditional sense.
She believes people with RIA will benefit from exposure procedures ("facing their fears," in a therapeutic context), which, yes, will involve controlled, supervised relaxation sessions. It's like when you take people who are afraid of commitment and force them to get married. Just kidding, that's not a thing. But there is a real TV show called Fear Factor where we make other humans do scary things. A relaxation-themed episode would be mildly interesting.


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One thing that helped a lot is the fact that my scripts would accept (as input) a SQL query (text file - something business analysts could easily and quickly produce with Brio or Toad and then export to the Unix station) and produced as output the results of the query (tab-separated text file) and another file about the success/failure of the query (with explanations as why the query failed, if it did, to help fix bugs in the SQL code). This made the life of the business analyst very easy. I also taught them about 20 important Unix/FTP commands that could solve all their Unix needs.
Would this be of use in Teradata?
Yes, you just need to use the right database driver in your Perl environment.


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About Grieving, About Friendship… About My Friend Bob Calsyn
When you lose someone you care about, for a while you walk around in a daze. Of course, there is the sadness. But less often mentioned are the sense of disorientation and the random memories; the moments your eyes fill with tears and the fatigue you can't seem to shake. For a while you are scattered and off-balance until, finally, the jumble of things settles down and life returns to "normal."
I am writing this in the midst of the jumble. My friend Bob Calsyn died on Friday, September 21st. His wife Maria called from St. Louis with the news. I let a couple of my old friends know. They are Bob's old friends too, from our days in grad school at Northwestern. And I heard independently from Dave Kenny, another NU alum. If Dave isn't — I should say wasn't — Bob's best friend, then surely he was tied with the other contenders for first place.
I told Dave I was thinking of writing something about Bob and asked if he might offer some of his own thoughts. His remarks below are adapted from those he read at the memorial he attended in St. Louis on September 25th. (In each case that I quote him, his comments are set off from the rest of the text and begin with his name in BOLD CAPITAL LETTERS).
What I'd like to do here is to tell you why Bob mattered to all of us. But the truth is, I need to tell you. I need to get this out to honor Bob — to honor the loss suffered by Maria and Bob's children and siblings and all those who were closest to Bob. And, not least, to help myself with the jumble I mentioned at the start.
What follows is a series of recollections of a wonderful man and great friend, much of it in Dave Kenny's voice; along with some of my own memories, a little of my own philosophizing about the nature of friendship and loss, and some things just about me. Someday, you too will be in the midst of the jumble. Maybe it will help.
DAVE KENNY:
I knew Bob for 44 years. When we met at Northwestern we had a lot in common: both oldest child of a large family, both lapsed Catholics, both of us had mothers who wanted us to be priests, and both of us had a strong commitment to social justice. We very quickly became friends. What Bob accomplished in four years at Northwestern was truly remarkable: earning his Ph.D., serving two years as a Conscientious Objector to the Vietnam War, doing a one year clinical psychology internship, and becoming a father, much of the time commuting 14 miles from Hyde Park to Evanston. The later incredible academic success of his sons Dylan and Chris was foreshadowed by Bob's.
Bob, unlike me, continued in his commitment to social justice throughout his entire lifetime. He was passionate about ending homelessness and he worked diligently in this effort. I never told Bob how grateful I was that he let me play a small role in his work.
For the record, Robert Joseph Calsyn was a product of Rock Island, Illinois and Alleman High School; the child of working class parents. He graduated from Loyola University in Chicago before attending grad school. Bob served as the Chairman of the Psychology Department at the University of Missouri, St. Louis, as well as being Director of its Gerontology Program.
There is something about schoolmates. At Northwestern, our group of graduate students was more than usually close. The Psychology Department was small, so we had lots of classes together, the way you do when you are 10 years old. We ate together, socialized together, went on double-dates; some of us roomed together. We passed through the same moment in history and the same stage in our lives in the same place. It was hard not to bond.
The men in the group played lots of softball and football and basketball against other Northwestern departmental conscripts. Bob usually played second base for our softball enterprise, which we called the Psyclones — a play on words since we were all studying to be psychologists. He played hard, but that particular game was tough for Bob, especially making accurate throws to first base. Still, Bob was an essential part of a pretty good team. Even if we'd have been slightly more perfect without him, we wouldn't have had nearly as much fun or had the benefit of his "heart."
In sports like touch-football Bob was fierce, taking particular pride in the devastating, bone-rattling blocks he delivered to opponents who couldn't imagine them coming from a man who was no more than 5'8″ (173 cm) on a good day. Bob was no plaster saint. He knew the full range of four letter words and used them when necessary, as they tend to be in sports, especially in games played with the sweaty tenacity that Bob brought to them.
Our friendship endured and we saw each other in eight different states. Many of those visits were near water which Bob loved: the coast of Maine, Cape Cod, Long Island Sound, and of course, his beloved Anna Maria Island (where Bob and Maria had a vacation home). Bob was strange about water. He loved to watch and hear it, but he was not a fan of being in it. However, don't forget that Bob grew up and spent most of his adult life near the Mississippi River. Maybe not going in the water made good sense.
I didn't see Bob a lot after grad school. We'd visit occasionally, at first when I was teaching in New Jersey and he came to nearby New York City, later in Chicago, and a few times in St. Louis. Our relationship took the form of letters, then email and occasional phone calls. I got to read and critique some of his short stories; he helped with career issues for one of my children.
And yet, for me at least, a person like Bob lives inside of you in a continuous way even when there is no continuity in actual contact. He was always on an imaginary list of people who I thought of as my friends. Bob was someone who you were sure would be dependable, helpful, and unfailingly honest. He told you what he thought, not what he believed he "should" say or what he thought you wanted to hear.
We "knew" each other, could talk about anything. We knew where each of us was coming from — came from — in both a literal and figurative sense. He didn't keep score. Bob was always there when you needed him, someone who was compassionate, gave sound advice, and was incredibly funny.
Bob had his own view of nutrition. He introduced me to Dairy Queen Blizzards. I remember him cooking donuts and beignets in his kitchen. We always had a 3PM cookie break when working together. For breakfast he would ignore his wife Maria — his Argentine bombshell — and sneak off to eat at Waffle House or Denny's, not the healthy breakfast she suggested.
Bob and Maria (ca. 1994)
My friend retired from his faculty position in 2009. Not long after he was diagnosed with cancer. This made our contacts more frequent. Somehow Bob remained optimistic in spite of multiple tumor sites that never fully disappeared.
Bob continued to play tennis, the game he loved best, even though the treatment compromised his breathing. Singles were now out, so he played doubles. I didn't see the down moments and I'm sure that there were more than a few. But his resilience, his ability to live life and to keep really "living it" and enjoying himself was astonishing. And he could still be there for me, as when I had a long conversation with him about retirement: whether to do it, when to do it, what it was like for him, and what it might be like for me. We had plans to see each other on the first weekend in October in St. Louis.
People find it difficult to talk with someone who is battling "Death," a bigger than "Life" opponent with an undefeated record. It is, indeed, hard to know what to say. Mostly you listen, even if most of us think we must have some sort of magic words to deliver when, in fact, no such words exist. Bob made it as easy as possible.
The day after Bob died I heard John Adams's musical composition, On the Transmigration of Souls, presented by the Milwaukee Symphony and Chorus. Bob liked classical music, so it seemed a nice coincidence; more than that, the composition is a commemoration of those lives lost in the terrorist attack on the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. An interview with the composer on the New York Philharmonic website includes the following:
… I'd probably call the piece a 'memory space.' It's a place where you can go and be alone with your thoughts and emotions. The link to a particular historical place — in this case 9/11 — is there if you want to contemplate it. But I hope that the piece will summon human experience that goes well beyond this particular event.
'Transmigration' means 'the movement from one place to another' or 'the transition from one state of being to another.' … And I don't just mean the transition from living to dead, but also the change that takes place within the souls of those that stay behind, of those who suffer pain and loss and then themselves come away from an experience transformed.
I guess you hear what you want to, what you need to, what you can't escape. Of course, I couldn't help but think about Bob during the performance…
Bob managed to write a novel, all the while dealing with his illness. It is called Primal Man and you can buy it on Amazon. You won't be disappointed. The story is a murder mystery that takes place in a university setting. This comes from a brief interview of Bob in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch on September 4, 2011:
Q: Had you written fiction before?
Bob: No. but I've always read mysteries.
Q: This primal man is apparently an exhibitionist?
Bob: Primal man exposes himself to female students and throws them an index card that says, 'Men are hunters, women are gatherers. Gather yourself home.'
Q: How does psychology figure in?
Bob: It helps you explore character. I was an administrator for many years. I thought writing a mystery was a more socially acceptable outlet than strangling my colleagues.
Bob was a confident man, but not arrogant. For all the scholarly articles he produced and all his advocacy for homeless, mentally ill people, he told me one day at the St. Louis Zoo that he thought of himself as a "journeyman." Indeed, he considered each one of us who got Northwestern psychology doctorates in 1972 in the same light, with one exception. Dave Kenny was and is that exception, an internationally known academic who has changed the way people think about social psychology research, its design, and its analysis. But, I don't believe Bob meant to disparage any of us, and certainly not himself. He simply knew that there was a pretty big difference between being Bob Calsyn or Gerry Stein and being Beethoven.
Bob didn't care about or aim to be a great man. He was too busy living his life, loving his wife, doing his work. He was too busy delighting in his kids and grandchildren, playing tennis, and having a beer (but not at the same time)! The irony, of course, is that the way that Bob lived was a kind of un-self-conscious, rough-hewn work of art, something to be admired and emulated. As Marc Anthony said over the body of Julius Caesar in the Shakespeare play, "When comes such another?"
In thinking over my friendship with Bob, it occurred to me that Bob and I never argued and Bob never got mad at me. We disagreed all the time, but our disagreements did not result in arguments. Bob regularly told me that I was wrong, but he never did so in a way that said, "I'm better than you" or "You are a bad person." He sincerely wished, as I did, that I was a better person. Bob did have lots of reasons to be angry at me: missing deadlines, drinking too much, not staying in contact… Bob would get angry at Republicans, at demagogues, and perhaps even his colleagues. But he channeled his anger against his colleagues by writing short stories and killing them off there.
Bob always was one step ahead of me. He left a high-powered college to go to a more low-key institution. He got married and had children, ended his difficult marriage, and remarried; he had grandchildren and retired — all before me. Now Bob, you have done it again and you have died before me.
Upon reflection, Bob was more of an older brother to me than a friend. He was doing things before me and giving me advice on how to do them. My big brother Bob helped me cope with all of the major transitions in my life, especially my divorce. We know that Bob faced a terminal disease and death courageously and remarkably. Again I will be following Bob, and I hope I can muster 10% of his courage, but I hope that mustering does not happen too soon.
Dave Kenny
We cannot know what others are feeling except by analogy to our own emotions. Those of us who have lost a friend may think we are hurting and we are, but surely the intensity and nature of the feelings experienced by those closest to Bob can't be known, at least not by me. Everyone's grief is different, formed by the tapestry of experiences they had with the departed — all the memories and struggles, the laughter, the kindness, and the human imperfections that are inevitable on both sides of any relationship.
For those closest, their lives will now be marked with the idea of "before and after;" before and after Bob died and how much that difference made. To all those who were closest to Dr. Calsyn, and to those (like me) who were a step or two back, my condolences.
That said, from the outside and some distance, it looks to me like Bob had a wonderful life. Too short, for sure, but wonderful. Not without pain or disappointment or hard times, but full of compensating joy, success, and love. He gave life and the people in his life everything he had. He traveled, competed, and he knew when to rest and take a walk on the beach. Bob didn't "phone it in." He lived more in 66 years than most of us would do in twice that time. Like the ballplayer who tries to stretch a triple into a home run and is thrown out at the plate, he was a thing to behold.
On the subject of baseball, I'm reminded of an old story about Babe Ruth, the most famous baseball player ever. Actually, it is about the Babe's funeral, which happened on a particularly hot day in New York City. It seems that two of his old teammates, Joe Dugan and Waite Hoyt, couldn't help but comment on the weather, especially since they'd served as their friend's pallbearers and the heat hadn't made that easier:
Joe Dugan: I'd give a hundred dollars for a beer.
Waite Hoyt: So would the Babe.
Here's to you, Bob. How lucky I was to know you.
The top image is the Calsyn Family (ca. 2001). From left to right: Bob's son Dylan and Dylan's wife Beth and their daughter Zoe; Maria, Bob, Soledad Van Emden (Maria's daughter and Bob's stepdaughter), Bob's son Chris, Margaret van Emden; and John van Emden, Soledad's husband. Since this picture was taken, three more grandchildren have arrived: Abigail, Ella, and Max.
The photos are courtesy of Dave Kenny. My very special thanks to Dave for his contribution to this essay, especially given the enormous difficulty he had returning home to Connecticut from Bob's memorial in St. Louis. Thanks, also, to Judy Goodman, Steve Hanan, Angela Shancer, and Diane Tyrell for their helpful and speedy comments about an earlier draft; and for their friendship.
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13 thoughts on "About Grieving, About Friendship… About My Friend Bob Calsyn"
What a lovely tribute to your friend Dr. Stein! My deepest sympathies on your loss.
Thank you, Eva. He was something special.
Jack Hungerford
Thank you, Gerry, for introducing me to your good friend. You have done a great job in your tribute to him. Through your wonderful writing/editing I feel like I know him. Bob and I actually had a lot in common. I am sure I would have enjoyed knowing him.
I am truly sorry for your terrible loss.
Theresa (Terry) Stimpson
What a visual and thoughtful reflection on the life of my high school classmate. For those of us who knew Bob at the beginning of his personal, academic and professional journey, we now know morea about how his future evolved. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for your kind words. You are very welcome.
Lois Klayman
What a beautiful tribute — I know he made Maria so happy. . .
Thanks for the essay, an excecllent tribute.
Bob and I were High School buddies. On the varsity football team we were two 150-pounders surrounded by much bigger people. I muddled around on defense, but Bob was our starting right guard on the offensive line, and he was actually pretty good despite the size disadvantage he faced every week. The epitome of true grit.
I went voluntarily to Viet Nam, so I found it interesting that Bob had served 2 years as a Conscientous Objector. I wish we could sit and talk about our differences from that era, how we came from the same place in the early sixties, how our paths diverged and then merged again later in life. We would still be buddies.
Thank you, John. I've learned more about Bob's very early life from what his oldest friends, like you, have written. I will send you something separately that you might find interesting. All the best.
Tom Lawler
Thank you. I'm sorry you lost your friend.
Thank you, Tom. Hope you are doing well. All the best.
Carol Swingle
Thanks for posting the link to this on Bob's obituary site. He was my supervisor and mentor in grad school from 1976-87. I wouldn't have graduated without his help. And I wouldn't have ended up doing what I wanted without his encouragement. I'm sorry we lost touch when I moved about 10 years ago, altho of course I could have reached him thru UMSL. Thanks so much for your insights as well as the tribute.
Thanks, Carol. Bob was something special.


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Has anyone taken this? Is the Globe of Invulnerability at all useful? It seems to me like it'd stop fireball/lightning/flamestrike/magic missile, which is a lot of what casters like to use even at higher levels. I know it's static, so that's an issue but has anyone played with this? I imagine it's a rare build that takes this mark but I'm curious!
I believe people use it against mindflayers too.
2) In the beholder/mind flayer room in PoP.
3) When soloing vs casters.
I completely scrapped that guy due to him sucking, so I can't really say if it's worth it or not. If the middle one was resist energy instead of protection I would definitely try and work that dragonmark into a character, but as it stands...eh.
Works excellent in runnning with the devils (searing light attack) and against any beholders as it the stops enervate level dain. other than that havent found much use for it. It has a very limited radius and a short duration as i couldnt afford extend as a feat. Also it is limited to here you are at when you cast it so you can not "target" an enemy and cast it on them. Probably going to swap it out soon.
I took this only to the second feat and won't be going for the full mark. I had a buddy that loved to cast Globe of Invulnerability but it was never really a benefit to any fight that we were in. Great spell in PnP but not so much in DDO.
Swapped out some time ago and havent looked back!
I still make use out of the Protections and SoF when there is no cleric around. Maybe one day I will swap it out, but right now I am happy with two out of three.
Don't the extra dragonmarks also allow you to take more Deneith Intimidate enhancements, at the rate of +1 per extra level of the mark?
I think the protection vs. energy are great when combined with an energy resist from another player. The globe is situational, but in those instances where it's useful, it's a real lifesaver.
Speaking of the SoF dragonmark... I confused the heck out of a guy I was duoing with once on my pally. Right before a nasty room I hit his fighter with it, and he started asking where the cleric was.


I am a FIITJEE student.
The website [reg.fiitjee.com] is not accessible by me to download the AITS Part 3 Test papers, even though my credentials are correct.
You had provided the link for the combined PDF which is a little difficult to comprehend.
If possible can you provide a link for the individual papers of mains adv 1,2 along with solutions as you had posted for PART1 and PART 2 Tests.
Also, could you provide with the link from where you downloaded ai2ts - 6 paper .
I had missed a few ai2ts this year and would like to attempt them.
Your help will be greatly valued.
May I know from where did you get the test paper of AIITS 6 exam.
I had missed a few of them earlier this year and would like to practice them.
In the site reg.fiitjee.com you may download the question paper of recent tests only. The papers are removed in a week or so.
Try both by typing and not by online applet.
All previous aiits were offline. Only from aiits6 they are now online too wgich was on 18 dec. You can download part test 3 and aiits 6 paper now from reg.fiitjee.com and full test 1 paper from aitspapers.fiitjee.com.
As per as your request though i am uploading papers individually below in zip file.
I don't generally reply because i don't have that much time, see now doing all this(downloading then uploading and replying) took 40-45 minutes.
And to be clear i don't have any third party links from where i download them. I myself am a fiitee student at Ranchi centre.
If you are a fiitjee student and if you are facing some issues regarding logging in, downloading or such things please contact your centre to save mine and your time.
But there are no aiits 6 papers on the site.
Go to reg.fiitjee.com and choose 18 December test. Its there.
Hi Sourav I am a student of FIITJEE EAST DELHI Centre. Can you tell me or share the link to find and download all the Ai^2TS papers.(because you only uploaded the recent 6th one). It will be very thankful.
All previous aiits were offline. Only from aiits6 they are now online too which was on 18 dec.
So previous papers can't be downloaded from anywhere.
please keep uploading the ai2ts thanks for ur help.how many more ai2ts will be held?
Dude do you have any idea when we should register for Fiitjee Open Test?
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In 1962 members Society of Medical Psychoanalysts lead by Irving Bieber published the results of a comprehensive study of 106 male homosexuals and 100 heterosexuals controls, both groups drawn from the patients in psychoanalysis clinics. This was not a one shot questionnaire, but one of the most in depth and authoritative studies of its kind ever done. The study involved over seventy therapists, 10 years of work, multiple evaluations and follows-ups. The questionnaires were filled out by the analysts with information gained in hours of patient sessions. The report provided numerous case histories and sought in every case to answer the question: Why did this man become homosexual? The report also included a careful analysis of why some men in the control group with apparently similar backgrounds did not become homosexual. Since 27% of the homosexual men had in the course of analysis become heterosexual, the differences between the 27% and those who did not become heterosexual were also analyzed.
Bieber, et al., found a pattern of detached and/or hostile-detached fathers. They concluded that: "Profound interpersonal disturbance is unremitting in the homosexual father-son relationship. Not one of the fathers (of homosexual sons)... could be regarded as reasonably 'normal' parents'."(Bieber 1962, p.114)
For example, in one case a patient reported that he always felt uneasy with his father who was like a boarder in the house. The father not only did not touch his son, but did not permit the son to touch his possessions. The son was not even permitted to wear his father's discarded ties. The patient had a vivid memory how at age three and a half he was given a new tricycle, but was not tall enough to reach the pedals:
I got on to ride it, but I started to roll down the hill. My father was standing there--tall, still, dressed very correctly. He watched but did nothing to try to stop me. I was terrified. I went racing down the hill and fell off. My father just continued to stand there." (Bieber 1962, p.94)
Bieber found that the fathers of the homosexual patients were not just lazy or too-busy; these detached fathers exhibited severe male-rivalry problems which they took out on their sons. Not one of these detached fathers favored the patient over his brothers or sisters. Some of the relationships were totally barren, but in a larger number of cases the fathers actively rejected, minimized or otherwise crushed their sons' masculinity. These boys not only feared their fathers, they hated them for abandoning them to their mothers smothering influences.
Bieber found 13 cases where the fathers were not detached. In 6 of these the fathers spent time with the son, but also showed contempt for him or humiliated him. In 4 cases the fathers were hostile, and in 3 cases overprotective. In addition, none of these 13 had a normal relationship with their mothers. In not one case was the not-detached father also classified as warmly related. However even a negative father influence may make of difference since 7 of these 13 became heterosexual during therapy.
In one case reported by Bieber, the father was mildly affectionate, however:
. . .when the mother sent the boy to a girls' private day school the father did nothing to protect the patient against this decision. The boy had no male playmates. When the patient was about five years old, his father gave him a glove and a bat. The equipment was of excellent quality and had probably been chosen with care. When the gift was handed to the child, the father said, "Now you can play baseball." But he knew no other boys with whom he could play. (Bieber 1962, p. 101)
Given the careful analysis of each case, Bieber's oft quoted conclusion appears justified:
We have come to the conclusion that a constructive, supportive, warmly related father precludes the possibility of a homosexual son; he acts as a neutralizing protective agent should the mother make seductive or close-binding attempts." (Bieber 1962, p.311)
The men in Bieber's study had sought help because they were dissatisfied with their lives or unable to function. They were able to afford the cost of analysis. The select nature of the sample allowed critics to challenge the conclusions on the grounds that these findings could not be applied to all homosexuals.
However, a number of studies have confirmed the findings of Bieber. Bene (1965) found that male homosexuals were hostile toward their fathers and saw their fathers as weak. Chang and Block (1960) concluded that homosexual males were more likely than the controls to "disidentify with their fathers."
In part to test the Bieber conclusions, Apperson and McAdoo compared 23 non-patient homosexuals and 22 members of the US army. Their conclusion:
The results of this study strongly support the theoretical formations of Bieber et al., in considering homosexuality as primarily related to specific experiential factors. The importance of the relationship -- or lack of it --with the father is again emphasized with the homosexual S[ubject]s showing marked difference from the controls in perceiving the father more as critical, impatient, and rejecting, and less as the socializing agent. (Apperson, 1968)
Snortum, et al., conducted tests on 46 males being evaluated for separation from the military because of homosexual incidents and 89 controls. Their conclusion: "It appears that the family dynamics for homosexual patients described by Bieber, et al. were confirmed in toto." (Snortum, 1969)
Thompson, et al.,(1973) queried 127 white homosexual males and 123 matched heterosexual controls and found that the homosexuals were more likely to report that they spent very little time with their fathers. The authors concluded that weak and/or hostile fathers played a prominent role in the etiology of homosexuality.
A study by Stephan, et al., compared 88 activist male homosexuals with 105 male heterosexuals and found that: "On no variable did the homosexuals evaluate their fathers favorably." Stephan concluded:
The majority of the homosexuals did not appear to have positive male models to identify with as children, and as a consequences they may have identified with females. This process was probably facilitated by the fact that normative masculine role behavior was not encouraged strongly by either parent. (Stephan, 1973)
In a 1979 article Irving and Toby Bieber reported that in their evaluations of over 1,000 male homosexuals, they did not find one "whose father openly loved and respected him." (Bieber, 1979)
Other studies reported similar findings. Sherman (1985) found that homosexual sons "perceived their relationship with their fathers as distant, negative, and conflicted." Saghir and Robins conducted extensive interviews with 86 homosexual men and 35 single heterosexual controls, the results of which they published in a book length report Male and Female Homosexuality: A Comprehensive Investigation (1973).Men with a history of psychiatric problems or incarceration were eliminated from the sample. According to their report:
In over one-half of the homosexuals the parental home during their childhood is marked by intense discord and fighting. The role of the father at home seems to be conspicuous by its absence. In a surprising 84% of the homosexuals, the father is described as indifferent and uninvolved at home, particularly with the homosexual son, and in a similar proportion the homosexuals describe their childhood relationship with their fathers as unsatisfactory. (Saghir, p.152)
Only 13% of the homosexuals (vs 66% of the controls) reported identifying with their fathers in childhood and only 18% of the homosexual men felt that their overall relationship with their fathers in childhood was a satisfactory one in contrast to 82% of the heterosexuals. (Saghir, pp.144, 145) The personal comments by the homosexual respondents confirmed the negative father/son relationship:
There was no closeness between us... I don't remember any moves toward friendship.
He used to pick at me all the time. I did not meet up to the standards of the kids. He called me sissy, and girls' names. He would give my brother money but not me. He just ignored me.
My stepfather was very cruel... I despised him is mild thing to say and resented the fact that he married my mother. (Saghir, pp.146, 147)
Bell, Weinberg, and Hammersmith of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research surveyed homosexual men and women and heterosexual controls. In their book Sexual Preferences: Its Development in Men and Women, they reported that homosexual men had "less favorable childhood and adolescent relationships" with their fathers," but did not see this factor alone as predicting a homosexual outcome. (Bell 1981, p.62)
Sipova and Brzek compared 27 transsexual men, 100 effeminate homosexual men and 70 noneffeminate men with 41 heterosexual controls. They found that "fathers of homosexuals and transsexuals were more hostile and less dominant than the fathers of the control group and hence less desirable identification models" and that "the average father of the effeminate homosexual is reported to be harsh and selfish." The study concluded that:
a boy who strongly identifies with a father and especially a father who has marked male characteristics, does not suffer from anxiety. Our control group has reported kind, caring and at the same time vigorous fathers endowed with authority. They appear to represent desirable identification models for their sons also in relation to women. It was found that our control group of heterosexual men strongly identified with their fathers... the development of selfesteem in boys is directly dependent on the degree to which the father was committed to their rearing and the strength of the emotional bond with him. The homosexuals and transsexuals in our study manifested selfesteem disorders. (Sipova, 1983)
Fisher and Greenberg reviewed 22 studies on the relationship between male homosexuals and their parents. They concluded:
With only a few exceptions, the male homosexual declares that father has been a negative influence in his life. He refers to him with such adjectives as cold, unfriendly, punishing, brutal, distant, detached. There is no a single even moderately well controlled study that we have been able to locate in which male homosexuals refer to father positively or affectionately. On the contrary, the consistently regard him as an antagonist. (Fisher, p.136)
Friedman who also reviewed the literature pointed out that while in Bieber's study 87% of the homosexual men reported an absent father or spending little or no time with their fathers, so did 60% of the heterosexuals.(Friedman, 1988) This suggests that, while it is highly unlikely that a boy will become homosexual if his father lovingly supports his son's masculine development, the lack of a positive father/son relationship does not of itself predestine a boy to become homosexual as an adult.
Therapists who work with boys with Gender Identity Disorder and are therefore able to observe the father/son relationship first hand rather than through the memories of the son report similar problems. Kenneth Zucker, who heads the Child and Adolescent Gender Identity Clinic in Ontario, Canada and his colleague Dr. Susan Bradley, authors of Gender Identity Disorder and Psychosexual Problems in Children and Adolescents, have observed that the fathers of GID boys are often plagued by feelings of inadequacy, and tend to withdraw from a needy son rather. (Zucker 1995, p.263)
Green found that 17 of the 38 boys in his study of feminine boys experienced an absence of their biological father for at least three consecutive months. (Green 1974, p.231)
Dr. Lawrence Newman, who has successfully treated effeminate boys, found that: "The fathers generally resent and avoid their feminine sons." (Newman, 1976)
Stoller found that when GID boys were referred to treatment, "the fathers usually failed to come in for evaluation interviews" and not one of the fathers was able to cooperate in the treatment.(Stoller, 1979, p.844) Wolfe (1990) reported high levels of substance abuse and depression on a structured clinic interview of 12 fathers of boys with GID.
REJECTING FATHERS OR DETACHING SONS
Therapists who are themselves homosexual also report father/son difficulties among their clients. Dr. Richard Isay, author of Being Homosexual: Gay Men and their Development, reports that "The majority of gay men, unlike heterosexual men who come for treatment, report that their fathers were distant during their childhood and that they lacked any attachment to them." According to Isay, some of his patients report that their fathers were too busy, while others complain that their fathers were victimized by their mother "who was always the boss in the family." Others reported abusive, unapproachable fathers.(Isay, p.32) Isay offers a different interpretation of father/son problem:
On the basis of my clinical work, I have come to believe that at ages three, four, five, and six some homosexual children assume opposite gender characteristics in order to attract and sustain the attention of the father. These are usually such attributes as sensitivity, gentleness, and a lack of interest in aggressive sports. Some homosexual children may also seem noticeably feminine in manner, dress, and behavior. These identifications in homosexual children appear to follow the manifestation of sexual orientation and the erotic attachment to the father and not to preceded them. (Isay, p.19)
Isay characterizes love as "a longing for a lost attachment" which in homosexual men takes the form of "a longing for the father." According to Isay, the unsatisfactory relationship between homosexual men and their fathers effects the homosexual man's adult relationships:
A gay man whose father rejected him, whether out of anxiety or because of his son's atypically, may find that his relations with other men are disturbed. He may be inhibited by a fear of rejection and by rage at the partner, who, he believes, will inevitably injure him emotionally. (Isay, p.22)
While the unsatisfactory relationships between homosexual men and their fathers are documented by every study, Isay criticizes analysts who accept their clients' perceptions of their fathers as true. He blames the detachment or hostility during the son's early years on the son's preexistent homosexuality.(Isay, p.34).
Moberly's described the disruption in the father/son relationship as a "defensive detachment" on the part of the son. Dr. Charles Silverstein, a homosexual therapist and advocate of homosexual promiscuity and nonexploitive intergenerational sexuality, holds that it is the sons who reject their fathers:
Another misconception is that fathers invariably reject their gay sons. In fact, it is often the gay son who has rejected the father. (Silverstein, p.24)
Silverstein imagines a scenario in which the boy's interests and behavior conflict with the father's image of masculinity:
Ultimately, the father feels rejected, believing that his son has abandoned him and turned to others (other to the mother) for support and training; he begins to fear the son and to fell alienated from him, then guilty for resenting his own child. What is revealing here is that the feelings of both father and son are identical; each feels the other as hostile, distant and unloving. (Silverstein, p.25)
Silverstein recognizes the impact such alienation causes, "What boys do want, however, is love; and they want approval and respect from their parents." Using terms which are very similar to Moberly's analysis of the reparative drive, Silverstein describes the forces which drive some homosexual relationships:
the boy wants to replace the poor relations between him and his father with another, more fully developed relationship, it is an indication of hope, and the goal is to make the boy feel more complete as a person. (Silverstein, p.27)
Silverstein also gives numerous examples of how the childhood father deficit negatively effects adult homosexual male relationships.
In 1978 homosexual activist Larry Kramer in the novel Faggots wrote about the excesses of homosexual life style in New York and Fire Island. While many homosexuals criticized Kramer for his unflattering view of homosexual behavior, most admitted that his novel accurately mirrored the activities and emotions of homosexual men in the years before the AIDS epidemic swept over their community. Kramer's description of the feelings of Fred Lemish, the novel's protagonist, about his father Lester, echo the material discovered in clinical studies. The father idolized the elder son, who played ball and rejected the younger, as his son recalls:
Yes, Lester Lemish, your totally poor record in Fatherhood included an inability to kiss and hug, keep bargains and promises, call and say Hello, inquire after studies and wellbeing, offer love, do anything but pull the Disappearing Act, with its constant curtain line. You Are Unwanted" I reject You Through and Through!, delivered unto Fred, and truly bringing the down the house....
So, Lester Lemish, ye who hated your son and whom your son hated right back, ye whom he blamed for making him go out and **** **** to find one of his own.
-- yes, Lester Lemish, Fred thinks IT WAS YOU who drove him thusly, thus wishing your ending in hell, not for making him a **** ******, because Fred has come, finally, to quite like that, but for thinking him a coward when in fact it was you who did not give him the image of a Man who could kiss and love and hold someone close, someone to look up to and emulate and be. (Kramer 1978, pp.48, 49)
Near the end of the novel there is a confrontation between a homosexual adult and his father at a wild homosexual party on Fire Island. The son screams at his father: "Hey, Pop! You never really loved me at all!" and the father replies, "Yes, I love you, yes I love, but it is now too late." Kramer records the impression the father's words make on the party goers:
But who has hear him say these famous words? The pop has said I love you to the son. The scene and dream of every son who's backed away beneath these sheltering trees. He's said he loves me. He's said he loves me. The sheltering veil now shelters. God has forbidden a fantasy might come true!. (Kramer 1978, p.289)
It should be noted, after the AIDS epidemic began Kramer wrote Report from the Holocaust, in which he rejected the idea the that "homosexuality is 'caused' by an over possessive mother and a rejecting or absent father." (Kramer 1981, p. 244) In this book Kramer's directs his considerable anger towards society, for failing devote sufficient resources to finding a cure of AIDS.
SEXUAL ATTRACTION TO THE FATHER
According to Isay: "Important to and ubiquitous in the love life of adult gay men is the persistence of an early erotic attachment to the father and a need to defend against these feelings." (Isay, p.34) Silverstein reports that sexual fantasies about or desires for their fathers are common childhood experiences among homosexual men:
For a significant number of gay men, the father (whether real or phantom) is a potential sex object and perhaps their first fantasy lover. It is remarkable how rarely this has been stated either in psychological or gay liberation literature. Yet many gay men clearly remember their interest in the father's body and know that it was motivated by more than curiosity. Many wanted to touch their father's body; they wanted to suck their father's penis and have their father suck theirs. As boys they imagined having sexual intercourse with their fathers. Some tried it, much to dad's chagrin. But since fathers rarely allow themselves to be seduced by their sons, the fantasy survives into adulthood and contributes to the image of the phantom father. (Silverstein, p.26 - 27)
Silverstein reports on a number of homosexual men remember being sexually attracted to their fathers or trying to seduce their fathers. He also reports two cases of father/son incest. One patient reported that he and his father engaged in mutual masturbation "a couple hundred times." The boy remembers the experience as "very confusing" because "it was the only positive interaction we ever had." (Silverstein, p.48)
Silverstein considers the possibility that "sexual fantasies themselves are only a cover-up for the wish to be loved and cared for." (Silverstein, p.316) However, he then goes on to suggest that in some cases it might be "helpful" to act out such fantasies:
My impression is that if the sexual exploration were acted out with the father in a teaching role (if limited in time and free from possessiveness), it could be helpful to both father and son. (Silverstein, p.316)
In most cases the adults are shocked by the boys' sexual suggestions. According to Green, the stepfather of a 10-year-old boy gave the following report of the boy's behavior:
He's told me about occasions when he sees boys undressing and he'll just go ape about it. He'd come in and say, "Wow, they've got groovy bodies," and what he'd like to do ... Go out and play with the guy and have the guy play with him, and just lay down and be close to each other. To hear a ten-year-old boy say this! You want to take it as he's just joking, but you can't with him. . . He's even asked me to do it to him. He comes straight out and says, "Would you go to bed with me? (Green 1974, p.163)
The unmet need for father love effects adult relationships. One of Silverstein's clients reported:
I wanted a father image somebody older than myself, middle aged. Somebody that would have very strong feelings for me and make me feel like a child, pick me up and hold me. Let me sit in this lap, tell me everything is all right. (Silverstein, p. 83)
ABSENT FATHERS
A number of researchers have looked into the possibility that absence of the father was a determining factor in the development of GID. The following chart summarizes the studies which considered this question (Zucker 1995, p.244 )
Father absence in samples of boys with gender identity disorder
Study and Date n Father Absent
Bates et al (1974) 29 37.9%
Green (1976) 58 24.1%
Zuger (1984) 52 23.1%
Coates (1985) 25 84.0%
Meyer & Dupkin (1985) 10 50.0%
Davenport (1986) 10 20.0%
Rekers & Swihart (1989) 49 55.1%
Wolfe (1990) 12 25.0%
Zucker & Bradley (1995) 167 30.5%
Green reported that in his study "About 20 percent of the boys were abandoned by their fathers before their fourth birthday and had no substitute father." At the same time Green expresses concern about the effect on boys of fathers who are physically present but psychologically absent.(Green 1974, p.222)
Bieber also addressed the question of fatherless boys:
A fatherless child is deprived of the important paternal contribution to normal development; however, only a few homosexual in our sample had been fatherless children. Relative absence of the father, necessitated by occupational demands or unusual exigencies, is not in itself pathogenic.(Bieber 1962, p.310)
In looking at parental influences, it is important to remember that timing may be a crucial element. According to Daniel Brown:
It is quite conceivable that there is a crucial period in the early years of a child for establishing the basic capacity for heterosexual adjustment. In this connection, evidence indicates that sex role differentiation and identity occur in most children between the ages of one and one-half and three, and that heterosexual stimulation and responsiveness develop between the third and sixth year of life. (Brown, 1963)
If the father were absent after the boy had developed a confident masculine identity, the effect of his absence on gender identity might be minimal (although father absence could have negative effects in other areas).
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Fr. X, priest of the diocese of X has requested a dispensation from priestly celibacy.
The rescript takes effect from the time or notification made to the petitioner by the competent ecclesiastical Authority, and covers inseparably dispensation from priestly celibacy and at the same time loss of clerical state. It is never lawful for the petitioner to separate those two elements, or to accept the one and refuse the other. If the petitioner is a religious, the rescript covers also dispensation from vows; likewise in addition it carries with it absolution from censures, in so far as needed.
Notice of the granting of dispensation is to be entered in the Baptism Register of the petitioner's parish.
As far as concerns the celebration of canonical marriage, the norms which are decreed in the Code of Canon Law are to be applied. But the Ordinary should take care that the affair should be carried out cautiously without show or external parade.
he remains excluded from the exercise of the sacred ministry, with the exemption of those matters in Canons 976, 986§2, and therefore cannot give a homily. Moreover he cannot perform the extraordinary ministry of distributing holy communion nor can he undertake a leading office in the pastoral sphere.
Likewise he cannot fulfil any duty in Seminaries and in comparative Institutions. In other institutions of a higher grade of studies, which in any way depend on ecclesiastical Authority, he cannot perform an administrative position or the office of teaching.
In these same institutions of a higher grade of studies which do not depend on ecclesiastical Authority he can teach no discipline that is properly theological or connected closely with it.
Moreover in institutions of a lower grade of studies depending on ecclesiastical Authority he cannot perform an administrative post of the office of teaching, unless the Ordinary in accordance with his prudent judgement and without scandal, with regard to what pertains to the duty of teaching, has thought it right to decide otherwise. A dispensed priest is bound by the same law in teaching Religion in Institutions of the same kind which do not depend on ecclesiastical Authority.
Essentially a priest dispensed from priestly celibacy, and more so a priest who has married, ought to keep away from places where his previous state is known. However the Ordinary of the petitioner's place of residence, after consulting as far as necessary the Ordinary of incardination or Major Religious Superior will be able to dispense from this section concerning the Rescript, if the presence of the petitioner is not foreseen as likely to cause scandal.
Finally let some work of devotion or charity be imposed on him. At a suitable time a brief report should be made to the Sacred Congregation about the carrying out of the Rescript, and if any surprise of the faithful should arise in the end, it should be taken care of by a prudent explanation.
Anything to the contrary notwithstanding. From the Offices of the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith.


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