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Content material Folks: Discovering Your Full Self With Lisa Marchiano
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On Content material Folks, host Meredith Farley interviews artistic professionals and leaders to get a behind-the-scenes have a look at their profession experiences and switch that into actionable recommendation for listeners. Tune in to listen to from specialists in varied media, and get impressed to seek out contentment in your personal artistic profession.
Episode #4 Abstract
Lisa Marchiano's knowledge is directly centering and energizing. In her dialog with Meredith Farley, she examines the significance of self discovery, and the way bringing your full self to your private {and professional} endeavors could make a dramatic distinction in your profession, life and relationships (together with the connection you have got with your self). Pay attention, study and take these insights into the brand new 12 months with you.
Content material Folks: Readability, Self-Reflection and As soon as Upon a Time
Within the fourth installment of Content material Folks, I had the distinctive pleasure of talking with, and studying from, Lisa Marchiano, co-host of "This Jungian Life" and creator of "Motherhood — Discovering and Going through Your self."
Lisa can be a trainer, lecturer and — sure — a mom. Her background as a Jungian analyst guides her potential to make sense of her personal story, and permits her to assist others do the identical by means of her podcast, "This Jungian Life."
Our chat covers numerous acquainted territory for anybody in a profession that calls for creativity. It's broad ranging, however all centered across the theme of herding the various elements of your self into one thing that resembles a staff. Right here's a few of what you'll study:
The function of ambivalence in life and careers.
How you can take heed to, and purpose with, doubt about your choices.
The connection between motherhood and creativity.
How you can reclaim creativity for your self (so it isn't simply in service to your employer).
Why imposter syndrome can truly be a great factor.
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Whether or not you're a mom, a creator, a Jungian analyst or every part directly, you'll study one thing from Lisa.
– Meredith Farley
COO at Brafton & Host of Content material Folks
Extra Content material for Content material Folks
Motherhood — Going through And Discovering Your self: Take a look at Lisa's e book on motherhood and a complete lot extra.
This Jungian Life: Pay attention in as Lisa, together with co-hosts Deborah C. Stewart and Joseph R. Lee, chat about goals, life and a lot extra.
Brafton: We'd not be Jungian analysts, however we now have quite a bit to say concerning the world. Take a look at our digital advertising publication.
Meredith Farley
Hello, everybody. Welcome to Content material Folks, a podcast the place we speak to sensible individuals about
artistic work, artistic management, and their profession journeys. This podcast is produced by Brafton.
Brafton is a content material advertising group powered by a worldwide staff of artistic professionals and advertising specialists. My title is Meredith Farley. I'm the COO at Brafton. I oversee our artistic manufacturing and repair groups. I'm right here with Ian Servin. Hello, Ian.
Ian Servin
Ian's our artistic director video who's producing this podcast. Ian, thanks for doing that.
Completely. We have now a very nice episode in the present day. I'm actually excited for it.
I do know, me too. All proper, so in the present day we speak to Lisa Marchiano. Lisa is a younger Ian analyst, creator, and podcaster whose writings have appeared in quite a few publications. She's the co-host and creator of the favored Depth psychology podcast, This Jungian Life. She's on the school of the CG Jung Institute of Philadelphia, and she or he lectures and teaches broadly.
Lisa not too long ago launched a e book known as Motherhood, Going through and Discovering Your self, which is a deep dive into the emotional and symbolic journey of motherhood drawing from her follow as a younger Ian analyst and her private experiences. I cherished getting to talk to Lisa. I'm an enormous fan of her and the podcast, This Jungian Life. What did you concentrate on the convo Ian?
It was so fascinating. I felt like I had no concept what to anticipate entering into, as a result of I wasn't aware of Lisa, and I'm not tremendous aware of the Jungian philosophy and the way that works. What ended up taking place was this actually nice dialog, and I feel connecting the dots to artistic management and administration and dealing on this house that we work in, the thrust of what she was speaking about was with a view to be of service to others and be your greatest self, you really want to know who you're. You want that degree of self-reflection and self-awareness.
Doing that's actually difficult, and it's a talent that it's a must to work on. There are approaches and strategies to doing it, and it was actually nice. I got here out of it feeling actually energized. I actually appreciated that dialog.
I feel Jungian psychology may be very fascinating. I feel anybody who's artistic or a artistic craftsperson, we're form of balancing your inside and private creativity with different tensions within the office, deadlines, parameters, briefs, and so on. I feel there's quite a bit to discover and acquire from partaking with a few of these concepts.
Was there something particularly on your work that you just took away from what she was speaking about?
I feel simply the thought of pausing and fascinated about how am I bringing myself absolutely into this dialog, this interplay, this assembly, this challenge, fairly than simply type of ticking the containers, fairly than simply type of going by means of a rote workflow or a course of. I'm actually process-oriented, so I like that form of factor, however bringing my full self to the desk is absolutely vital from the artistic facet. I feel that was the factor for me. It was slowing down and simply including that degree of thoughtfulness into the method.
Yeah, no. That is sensible to me. I feel that resonates with me too. With that, we'll throw it over to our interview with Lisa. We hope you take pleasure in.
All proper. Effectively, Lisa, thanks a lot for becoming a member of us on Content material Folks.
Lisa Marchiano
It's our pleasure. I'm an enormous fan of your e book and podcast, and I'm actually grateful to have the chance to speak to you and ask you some questions. To intro you to our listeners who may not be aware of you, Lisa Marchiano is a licensed medical social employee and a Jungian analyst, creator, and podcaster. Her writings have appeared in quite a few publications. She's the co-host and creator of the favored depth psychology podcast, This Jungian Life. She's on the school of the C.G. Younger Institute of Philadelphia, and she or he lectures and teaches broadly. Lisa lives and practices in Philly, and she or he's additionally the creator of Motherhood, Discovering and Going through Your self, which got here out in Could of 2021. It's obtainable wherever books are offered, and I learn it and I completely cherished it.
So an enormous portion of our questions are going to be diving into that later, however Lisa, something there I forgot or missed?
No, that's a terrific abstract.
All proper. Effectively, first, I'd love to speak about your podcast, This Jungian Life, for a bit, after which perhaps get into the e book. For anybody who's not aware of this Jungian Life, I used to be questioning when you may clarify slightly bit concerning the podcast, the origin, and why you guys determined to do it, and in addition why you suppose it's been so resonant and profitable with listeners.
Effectively, I suppose I'll begin by simply saying that myself and my different two co-hosts, or we're all Jungian analysts, and we truly went by means of Jungian coaching collectively and we turned superb associates. Jungian coaching takes a very long time and is pretty demanding, and so we had been troopers in arms all through that course of, and all graduated a couple of decade or so in the past. After which, I feel we type of missed having this, we stayed associates, however we now not had that glue of being concerned in a standard endeavor.
And so, , I had been interviewed on a podcast and located myself curious concerning the course of and type of questioning what that may be like, and I believed, properly, it's nothing I might wish to do alone. So then I used to be at a gathering with Deb and Joseph, and I mentioned to them, would you guys wish to do a podcast with me? And Joseph mentioned, sure. And Deb mentioned, sure, what's a podcast? In order that they had been sport, which was simply so nice.
It's one of many issues I really like about them. I used to be like, let's go play. So it actually simply began as simply one thing actually form of for enjoyable. We did have a course of about how we envisioned it and type of why we noticed ourselves doing it, what our private objectives had been in doing it. Undoubtedly a part of our aim for every of us was to have this technique to be related, to have this sort of probability to play collectively because it had been. And we initially mentioned that we'd do it for a 12 months and simply form of see the way it went. We didn't actually have, , excessive ambitions for it, I might say, but it surely did actually take off virtually immediately, which was simply extremely thrilling. And also you requested me form of why it's resonant.
And perhaps I'll perhaps I'll first simply say slightly bit about type of, , the idea of the podcast. And to do this, I really feel like I must type of clarify slightly bit about Jungian psychology. Is it okay if I do this?
I might love that.
Thanks. I don't I don't need this to be type of like a wall of phrases. However, , younger Carl Jung was a up to date of Freud. And at first he was type of Freud's inheritor. He was a part of the early, , psychoanalytic motion beginning within the early a part of the twentieth century. And he ultimately form of parted methods with Freud and went on to develop his personal faculty. He was a Swiss. And lots of of his concepts have discovered their approach into the favored tradition. So phrases like introversion or archetype or shadow or collective unconscious or Jung's concepts that we might now be aware of and no less than have some concept of what these issues are. So he developed this strategy to the human psyche that's perhaps slightly bit extra mystical, I'd say, or no less than non secular.
He felt that wholeness was, , a central aim of human life and that we're all form of working towards that in a roundabout way. And naturally, he felt that the contributions of the unconscious and the power for consciousness and unconscious to form of work collectively or inform one another was essential. And to that finish, he was very fascinated about goals.
And he developed a approach of working with goals that was very completely different from the best way Freud labored with goals. And I might say most individuals that do dream work now do it kind of within the Jungian vein. So he's been tremendously influential, doesn't at all times get as a lot credit score as I really feel like he deserves. However I really feel that the podcast actually resonated as a result of persons are hungry for depth.
And Jung actually gives this depth perspective. So what the podcast is absolutely simply the three of us form of having a dialog, we decide a subject. We simply did the subject of, let's see, a current subject we simply talked about. Oh, a vocation, that was one among our current episodes.
I haven't listened to that one, however I really like Jungian concepts intersecting with work. Possibly we'll get into that later. However that sounds improbable. Is there an episode you'd advocate somebody begin with in the event that they're curious, however they haven't listened to something to date?
Effectively, , you can type of dive in and see whichever one appeals to you. There may be an episode, I actually, I actually would say very a lot in line with Jung is simply go have a look at our episode catalog and decide one which speaks to you. It is going to be your, it'll be your destiny for one which. You realize, let the unconscious converse and say that one appears fascinating.
For anybody listening, I might say who's not tremendous aware of Jungian, I can't come to be like something near tremendous acquainted, however I do actually love partaking with numerous the concepts. And I feel it's one of many causes I used to be so notably enamored along with your e book that not the one purpose I really feel like for creatives, the collective unconscious and our instinct and numerous the concepts that he provides numerous house to are actually, they're significant and impactful to me and wholly value digging into when you work in a artistic subject.
So when you're listening, you're a author, designer, artist or skilled artistic of some form, I feel it might be a very, and also you're not aware of it, I definitely advocate it. And I feel that when it comes, what I've a query, which is that in my thoughts for some purpose, once I consider Freud and Jung, I consider Jung because the, for some purpose, barely extra accessible from a female perspective. And I feel I might be completely flawed on that. What does that, why do you suppose, is {that a} cheap impression to have? Or is that simply my very own bizarre bias?
Effectively, I might say that that's a very difficult query. However as a form of first cross, I might say, I feel you're proper about that. I feel that there's numerous Freud's writings which might be type of objectively on the face of it, fairly sexist, simply together with his notion about type of penis envy, as if that's the best factor on the earth to have and who wouldn't need that. Effectively, what about womb envy for heaven's sake? I imply, how cool is it? We will like make different individuals. However no, he talked about penis envy. So I feel that there's one thing that may be very off-putting about Freud's considering in these phrases. Whereas Jung actually valued what he known as the female.
Now, when Jung talked concerning the female, he wasn't speaking about ladies per se, he was speaking a couple of psychological precept. And I feel this will get very troublesome and tangled immediately as a result of, okay, what's the female psychological precept?
And also you begin saying issues like, properly, it's the type of receptivity, it's relatedness. And so they're like, wait a minute, aren't we crossing over into the land of sexual stereotypes? And instantly, we're all in a little bit of a multitude. However I feel there's something to what you're saying that there's. Jung valued ladies, he valued the female perspective. Many, lots of his shut colleagues had been ladies. And so there's a type of ease there.
Bought it. Effectively, I suppose talking of womb envy, I'd love to speak to you slightly about your e book and a number of the concepts and themes in it. And I don't wish to be presumptive. I may take a crack at summarizing the e book, however I feel you'd in all probability do a greater job, clearly. So how would you summarize the e book for folk who may not be aware of motherhood dealing with and discovering your self?
Effectively, I suppose I'll simply say that I used to be actually as a mom, I used to be actually fascinated about how the function of motherhood was affecting me and my psychological development. And I discovered that it was having a unprecedented influence on me. It was altering me. I used to be rising in methods I couldn't have imagined it earlier than. And I believed that that was actually fascinating. And I needed to discover that. So it isn't a e book about how one can be a mom. I imply, that's a great factor to write down and examine, however this isn't a type of books. It's extra about how does partaking on this actually vital demanding human exercise helps us to develop and in reality, specific ourselves extra absolutely? I actually cherished that perspective of the e book.
So I don't have youngsters. And I feel that typically I've, , it's one thing that I take into consideration and I really feel I'm 35. so it's a choice on my thoughts in some methods. And I really feel like I've had numerous hesitation round motherhood over my life. I feel I've a form of detrimental or perhaps shallow or decontextualized perspective on it in some methods. And infrequently I feel I see it from the surface. I feel how exhausting it appears and the way limiting it may really feel or it provides me form of at instances it's given me a way of like panic or being trapped. And I really feel like your e book is so distinctive in that it doesn't draw back from ache, grief or complexities of motherhood. However as you're saying, it presents it as perhaps not the final word however an final path towards rising one's personal psyche.
And it feels actually distinctive and singular within the perspective of simply don't really feel like there's numerous content material on the market that's like, yeah, it's actually, actually exhausting. However there's an unbelievable quantity of riches there available. It looks as if perhaps I'm not aware of it, but it surely appears to me there's form of a scarcity of content material in that house. Would you agree with that? And if that's the case, why do you suppose that in some methods I used to be like, man, it's so uncooked what you say, I ponder if some persons are hesitant to talk to the challenges of it.
Yeah, I imply, let's see, I do suppose that I couldn't discover something on the market like this e book. I imply, once I first bought fascinated about exploring it, I used to be proper within the weeds with a new child and a toddler. And I might have, , it's that form of basic factor. I type of wrote the e book I wanted. You realize, I might have cherished to have learn my e book again then. However I couldn't, I couldn't actually discover something identical to it. I imply, there's been some fantastic books which might be type of adjoining to it that I realized quite a bit from, however there wasn't something identical to it. So, yeah, I imply, I feel that it's not, it's not a perspective that's spoken about quite a bit that we tend in our tradition to wish to, I don't know, type of give attention to the nice issues to form of relaxation into this perception that we will type of have what we would like with out giving one thing else up. However in fact, that's by no means true.
Everytime you get one thing, you give one thing else up. And so holding each of these issues is troublesome for us. You realize, you mentioned that you just had been, you typically really feel like motherhood may entice you. And I might say, oh, sure, it completely will. And so will something that's value doing. And that one thing's going to entice us. And in a approach, we must always be glad about it, as a result of no matter form of traps us or pins us down or in some sense limits us additionally permits us to come back into being absolutely in house and time and reside out our distinctive future. And which may be motherhood, and it could be one thing else.
Yeah, I'm positive I'll get the phrases flawed. However I really feel like perhaps early on within the e book, you spoke to that slightly bit, the thought of dedication being inherently limiting since you are giving up infinite potentialities for this one risk that you just selected. However the concept that solely by committing to one thing can you reside an imperfect however embodied life, form of, which I discovered to be so, I used to be like, it was nice, I cherished it, it actually spoke to me.
And also you additionally, I feel in an analogous, perhaps in the identical chapter talked a bit about studying to honor our ambivalence about our commitments, which I discovered so fascinating. I used to be like, may you converse to that slightly bit?
Effectively, to begin with, I feel you probably did a terrific job of summarizing that. Yeah, I imply, I feel as therapists, I feel hopefully most therapists know this. The reality is, we're all ambivalent about virtually every part, virtually all the time. From little choices like, do I need Indian or Chinese language tonight? Do I need youngsters? Do I wish to go to graduate faculty? Do I wish to keep married? We get, we now have blended emotions about nearly every part. And I feel that that may be very exhausting to bear. It looks like stress. We maintain it with a point of stress. And so we are inclined to wish to push apart any doubts or blended emotions as a result of it's not snug.
I imply, if I'm simply taking this a biggie, like, hey, do I, , I've been married for a few many years. Do I wish to keep married? You realize, I'm not, I'm not at all times comfortable. It's like, wow, that could be a massive factor to be strolling round with. So typically we simply wish to type of push it away. However, but it surely's, it's, it's, , it's type of vital to present ourselves permission to have blended emotions about issues and to acknowledge that simply because we now have blended emotions about issues, , it doesn't essentially imply, for instance, that our marriage is horrible and we must always finish it. It's like, properly, okay, I suppose I'm simply, I'm having a foul week. And I, , there are some issues that perhaps I must work on, or perhaps even I simply want to come back to phrases with that I'm not going to be pleased with on this marriage. And that's simply form of the best way it's.
It type of invitations this acceptance fairly than having to reside in this sort of like a neurotic state of splitting off a complete a part of what we all know and really feel in order that we now have this expertise of form of a a type of false expertise of type of unanimous accord with no matter is occurring in our lives, as an alternative of type of accepting that, that there's an internal committee and there's going to be some dissent.
I really like that visible. Yeah. And I feel once I consider it from the attitude of perhaps like individuals I speak to or handle who're perhaps of their mid 20s, late 20s, I feel there's a this notion that with regards to work, for instance, that everybody who's profitable was completely clear and dedicated on what they're doing the entire time. And being ambivalent means you're failing you're one way or the other not measuring up by not feeling tremendous clear on what you need or how one can get it or what to do. And I really feel like once I was studying that bit within the e book and as you're speaking, I really feel form of like a freedom of being like, yeah, it's okay to be ambivalent.
Yeah. In reality, Jung says someplace fanaticism is at all times an indication of a repressed doubt. So I I in my life, I discover that it's a great coverage to distrust certainty to distrust it in ourselves and to distrust it in different individuals. And once I'm working with somebody, for instance, who's making an attempt to make an enormous determination, like for instance, , lots of people come into remedy with relationship issues. And , do I wish to go away my relationship?
And what I'll usually say to individuals is my want for you is just not that you just turn out to be sure about what you wish to do, not that you just discover certainty, however that you just discover readability. Since you're in all probability by no means going to be 100% sure about something. And in case you are, it's in all probability an indication that you just're repressing one thing. However you may get clear. And that could be a pretty feeling to get clear. And it's completely different than being sure.
Does being clear imply understanding how you're feeling versus feeling a sure approach?
I feel, as I'm utilizing, I feel readability, there's room for ambivalence. And in addition recognizing that doubts, let's name them, can play this actually vital function. And it's vital that we now have a type of proper relationship with doubt. So we don't need doubt to paralyze us and never have the ability to transfer ahead. And we additionally don't wish to ignore doubts. And so someplace in between, there's this factor about like, properly, a doubt comes up, like, let's say I'm going to order Indian meals, I'm going to be foolish right here for a minute, for dinner.
And let's say I've a doubt about that. After which so I wish to cease and I wish to suppose, properly, why am I feeling a doubt about that? Let me sit with that doubt and let it speak to me. And perhaps, perhaps the doubt is like, gee, I actually have eaten out too many instances this week and I'm going over price range and I actually ought to simply make pasta tonight. And perhaps that's a doubt I wish to take heed to. However perhaps it's a unique form of doubt. And if I sit with it, I feel, no, that's a doubt. Possibly that's a doubt as a result of perhaps I'd fairly have Chinese language. It's like, okay, however I can have Chinese language one other evening and tonight I'm going to have Indian, though there's part of me that also feels ambivalent, I can transfer ahead and order my Indian takeout.
I imply, hopefully, regardless of my insipid instance, you possibly can type of see how that works, that it's type of being in a dynamic relationship with doubts or ambivalences and recognizing that typically there's one thing actually useful there. Effectively, there's at all times one thing useful there. However then it's just like the acutely aware a part of the persona type of has to decide about what to do. So getting again to the thought of readability, I feel it's permitting for the doubts, determining perhaps the place they're coming from and what a part of them, if something, must be listened to or acted upon after which feeling freed up by that to maneuver ahead regardless of the doubts maybe persevering with to be there.
Yeah. So I feel, okay, properly, how do you suppose doubt and ambivalence play into motherhood? It's a really broad query, however I really feel prefer it's a gift factor all through the e book a bit.
Effectively, I feel that in a approach, it appears foolish to must say this, however maybe it's vital that whenever you're a mom, you'll not love each minute of it. You'll actually hate it no less than typically, no less than some moments. And that's okay. It doesn't imply you don't love your youngsters. It doesn't imply you're a horrible mom. That there will probably be actual losses and you'll really feel deep remorse about these losses. And that's okay too, that there's type of room for all of this.
Yeah. Effectively, I imply, all through the e book, the writing, it feels so accessible and it reads so effortlessly. I felt like, oh, I couldn't put it down. I used to be so compelled to learn it actually rapidly. And however I do really feel like, , you're coping with advanced subject material and sophisticated ideas.
And I do know from our work at Brafton that they're editorial staff that typically the issues which might be the best to digest are the toughest to write down. And I used to be questioning when you may speak slightly bit about what your writing and enhancing course of was like whenever you had been writing the e book.
Effectively, I'm so glad to listen to you say all of that to begin with, as a result of that was explicitly my aim. I really like Jung's concepts. They're very deep. They are often very exhausting to know. They are often very troublesome to speak. And it feels vital to me to make them extra broadly obtainable to individuals. And so how to do this with out sacrificing the depth or form of dumbing them down, that's actually the problem. And I've at all times admired writers who may do this. And there have been many who have come earlier than me. And that's precisely what I needed to do. So I'm actually glad to listen to you say it was accessible.
And on the similar time, it felt just like the complexity of the concepts was coming by means of. And I suppose, , for me, I feel that, , by way of that facet of the writing course of, it's actually vital to me once I'm coping with these concepts which might be which might be that at all times relate to one thing that's considerably ineffable, , that these, these type of internal psychic truths usually are not concrete issues you could pin down simply. So once I'm writing or talking about them, actually, what I'm making an attempt to do is specific them in a approach that that that has a that has slightly form of ring of solidity to it, it's like I need to have the ability to form of faucet it and really feel that it, it feels actually stable.
So I'm type of reaching up into the ether and flattening this very delicate, troublesome to pin down reality, I wish to say. After which I'm searching for phrases that may make it simply very clear. And, and, and like an concept you can work with, like you can give an instance, you can see it in your personal life, you can discover one other technique to say it. And so I feel that that's type of in essence, the factor I'm at all times doing once I'm doing this sort of writing, yeah, searching for these phrases. And, and, , it helps utilizing examples, and it, and it, it helps, , utilizing the fairy tales, as a result of it, , primarily what I'm making an attempt to do is transfer between a few completely different realms, I'm making an attempt to maneuver between the internal type of symbolic reality realm, which is type of the realm of, of poetry and metaphorical language, and, and may be stunning, however will also be troublesome to form of transport into a unique realm.
After which I'm making an attempt to make it very relevant and produce it over into the, okay, so I'm right here,
I'm residing my life, I'm a mother with three youngsters, I'm busy, I'm not a Jungian analyst, what the heck are you speaking about realm? Okay, so right here's the way it appears like, , in, in, on the earth.
It's, it's fascinating that you just discuss the way you're like striving for it to be form of like tangible, as a result of I really feel like I may really feel that is sensible to me, as a result of I, at no level did I really feel like, oh, I'm studying one thing that there isn't a moments of like, oh, this feels woo woo or fluffy or not actionable.
It's very concrete, regardless of how ethereal, I suppose a number of the concepts are. And I suppose I ought to point out for folk listening who haven't learn it that there are a construction of the e book is that there's a lot of basic fairy tales all through that form of converse to the theme of the chapter and are, properly, you can in all probability describe it higher than me, I suppose they're chatting with sure truths about motherhood or female expertise that it's useful to know and interact with. You may articulate it otherwise.
Effectively, yeah, I imply, each chapter has no less than one fairy story, and it's a fairy story that lifts up the, the, the theme of the chapter, primarily. And so, , I take advantage of all of those, these fairy tales that often contain, , a mom and her little one, and, and form of convey ahead the universality of this expertise.
I'm curious. So of all of the fairy tales within the e book, do you have got a favourite or is there one which speaks probably the most to you personally?
There, I imply, there's so many. There's so many.
Oh, nice. I imply, they're fantastic.
Yeah. I imply, I've at all times cherished, properly, I might say that one among my favorites within the e book is definitely Rumpelstiltskin. I simply suppose that that could be a stunning, stunning fairy story. And it's so wealthy. And, , you adore it whenever you're a child, however learning it now, I really feel like I see one thing completely different each time I have a look at that fairy story. And it's, it's enjoyable. And it's simply bought beautiful imagery in it. And it's simply, I imply, it's a improbable fairy story.
Yeah. That one's nice. I really like The Handless Maiden. I discovered that one to be, it simply, I really feel like I bought quite a bit out of it. It spoke to me. After which I simply, I really like them. I've at all times cherished fairy tales too.
I've a few questions on them. So, like early within the e book, you recommend that each one the tales are interpreted as if they arrive from one psyche, form of like a dream. So all the characters, needs, et cetera, within the story are a facet of what can be the heroine of the story's thoughts. And so I used to be noticing that so usually in these tales, this was not Rumpelstiltskin, however usually the feminine figures are just like the tricksters or the villains of the story. I used to be making an attempt to match it mentally to different fairy tales, which I don't have that nice of a psychological library of, and questioning, do you suppose that in feminine centered fairy tales, there are extra usually feminine antagonists as a result of ladies have extra important internal voices or self antagonism than males? Or is it not true? Is it usually like throughout the board, would you say like, no, that's simply because these had been feminine centered that there have been so many feminine villains or tricksters?
You realize, my hunch about that, and I might in all probability wish to sit with this and sift by means of a bunch of fairy tales earlier than I might say one thing actually extra definitive. Effectively, my preliminary hunch is that, I imply, very roughly talking, like a witch in a fairy story is prone to be an expression partly, that is form of in line with classical Jungian fairy story interpretation of what we'd name a detrimental mom advanced. And a form of evil sorcerer in a fairy story can be a picture of a detrimental father advanced. And I feel that, , daughters have detrimental moms and daughters have detrimental fathers, and sons have detrimental moms and sons have detrimental fathers.
So I feel that it's in all probability fairly properly blended between the 2. And yeah, and that you can type of have a look at it like that, like, okay, properly, that is type of a detrimental mom fairy story. And it is a, , when you have a look at one of many different fairy tales within the e book, Vasileis of the gorgeous and Baba Yaga, , there's a there's a there's a there's a there's a depraved stepmother. And there's additionally this horrible witch, Baba Yaga, and oftentimes they go collectively in fairy tales, by the best way, there's usually a witch and a stepmother, and so they're type of like Hansel and Gretel.
And so they're they're usually type of an actual type of a type of two completely different variations of the identical factor, proper, you've bought you've bought the detrimental witchy stepmother, after which you have got the precise witch. And oftentimes as Hansel and Gretel, when the witch is useless, have a look at that, the stepmother is useless on the similar time, , it's form of proves that they're actually simply form of two elements of the identical power. And in some in some sense, in slightly bit extra of a it's slightly bit extra advanced and Vasileis, it's form of the identical factor, there's a detrimental stepmother, after which there's the witch. And when she when she she doesn't vanquish the witch by killing her, however she enlists the witchy power, form of on her aspect, after which she's ready to return and defeat the stepmother, which is a very fascinating, fascinating factor.
However, , and the daddy type of absent, , as in, as in numerous fairy tales, he's like a pleasant man, however he type of leaves her he's off someplace. And he's form of leaving her to, , the clutches of the evil stepmother. So, so I feel, I feel numerous instances that's perhaps a technique to begin fascinated about that.
That's actually fascinating. And so perhaps it will, may I ask you to speak about Rumpelstiltskin slightly bit and form of clarify what it means and why you prefer it a lot?
Certain. Effectively, I, I selected, I wish to say, to begin with, that there's, there's so many various methods to know fairy tales that I don't, I'm not claiming that that is the best way to know Rumpelstiltskin. However I selected Rumpelstiltskin for the chapter on creativity, which to me, that's a very fascinating subject about motherhood and creativity, as a result of usually, as I'm going into in some element within the e book, , motherhood and creativity don't at all times play properly collectively. I imply, it may be very troublesome to have a artistic life whenever you're a mom, as a result of, , any, any free time that you just might need, , is form of taken up along with your youngsters. However, there's an fascinating approach that I recommend that being a mom also can form of assist creativity in a approach.
And that's what I used to be, that's why I used to be fascinated about Rumpelstiltskin. And the best way I see it's that it's a fairy story a couple of father wound. As a result of when you all bear in mind, there's a miller who has a daughter, a good looking daughter. However she's lazy, and she or he's not superb at very many issues. However he goes out and he runs into the king. And he boasts, , I've a daughter who can spin straw into gold. So he does what numerous narcissistic mother and father do, which is type of commerce upon their little one's abilities to make themselves look good. So we speak the psycho babble for that is that the kid turns into a narcissistic extension of the father or mother.
So for instance, if, if, if there's a narcissistic father or mother and their little one is excellent on the piano, then the father or mother turns into type of overly invested within the little one's musical talents and is form of driving the kid and taking the kid to piano competitions and that type of factor. And the father or mother is overly wrapped up within the little one's success or failure due to the way it displays on the father or mother. So this may be a case, the poor miller's daughter, , who, who I feel did have fairly extraordinary talents. However the father is absolutely form of promoting them. He's form of buying and selling on them by boasting about them to the king. And naturally, that will get, that will get the miller's daughter on this horrible place the place she's caught on this dungeon with a complete bunch of straw and mentioned, spin it into gold.
And I simply, I really like this picture of spinning straw into gold as a result of straw is just about ineffective. It's actually simply the byproduct and it's not good for very a lot in any respect. However to suppose that you can take type of nothing and switch it into gold, that could be a lot, creativity is like, I imply, whenever you, whenever you write a chunk of music, otherwise you make portray, otherwise you write a narrative. And within the, within the e book, the, the biographical instance I take advantage of is JK Rowling, who, , simply out of skinny air creates Harry Potter, , that's actually spinning straw into gold.
However she's not capable of do it in a approach that feels form of autonomous and that's underneath her management. It might probably solely occur when she form of pays off this little demonic character who we later study is called Rumpelstiltskin. And the reality is that when we now have a father wound, when we now have a narcissistic father or mother, it usually does really feel like our creativity doesn't belong to us. It needs to be in service to a form of, to our mother and father' needs or, or, or we will even type of internalize that. After which it sort of feels like our artistic output is in service to an virtually form of demonic internal driver that's pushing us and form of make, , it's individuals who perhaps are single-mindedly centered on a artistic path, however appear actually sad whereas they're doing it.
It feels, it feels compulsive and, and it makes individuals form of depressing. So simply to form of rapidly wrap up, she, she will't form of get a deal with on her personal artistic talents till her little one is at stake. In order that's a unique form of artistic output, proper? It's an, it's not a artistic little one, it's a organic little one. And, and it's vital sufficient to her that she must form of take again what she was cut up off from by means of this father wound. And that's when she's capable of uncover Rumpelstiltskin's title. And in a way, ultimately of the story, he disappears, we may additionally have a look at that as her having the ability to combine this artistic capability.
I really like that story a lot. There's a lot there. And the imagery, I image the straw is gold. It's turning into gold. She's bought stunning blonde hair, I feel. Is that proper? There's, it's, however as you're speaking about it too, I'm questioning, or what it's making me suppose too is I do know loads of artistic individuals, artistic professionals who when they're at work and in service of a quick, a product, a deadline, they've to show a bunch of straw into gold fairly quick. They'll completely do it superbly.
In the case of their very own, how they spend their Saturday afternoon, they might love to do this,however they really feel blocked as a result of it's in service of themselves or their very own creativity, I feel, which it feels such as you want a unique kind of permission for. What do you concentrate on that?
I feel that's spot on. I feel that's spot on, that one way or the other that is one thing you could type of do for one more grasp. Similar to the prince, the prince, sorry, the Miller's daughter does it as a result of she's form of compelled to, however can't entry that inside herself till she's type of has to discover ways to do this to avoid wasting her little one. Then she's capable of combine that. That in a way was what occurred with J.Ok. Rowling as a result of as we type of famously know, she was on public help and she or he says, I simply knew I needed to end that e book and her child daughter was within the stroller and she or he would stroll round and when her daughter fell asleep, she'd get out her pocket book and begin writing. There's a approach that we will get in contact with our personal artistic potential. We will reclaim that for ourselves. You don't must be a mom with a view to have that form of integration. I simply used that for instance within the e book as a result of the e book was about motherhood, however I feel what you're speaking about is the problem that we will really feel if we're artistic professionals to reclaim that for ourselves. That's what the Miller's daughter does on the finish of the e book, on the finish of the story is that she reclaims it in order that it's hers and she will use it then nonetheless she needs. She will be able to use it in service to her boss, let's say, when you're a artistic skilled or on a Saturday afternoon on your personal artistic tasks as properly.
How does one do this? Effectively, yeah. That is form of like your query earlier than about how will we convey it out of the theoretical, hypothetical, symbolic realm and into our personal lives. What does that seem like in our personal lives? I feel the fairy story is instructive in that sense as a result of naming one thing, it implies that we now have this type of intimate familiarity with one thing. There's an influence in naming, there's an influence in realizing the title of one thing, and there's an intimacy in realizing the title of one thing. The character of the duty to study Rumpelstilkin's title tells us quite a bit about what we now have to do.
If we wish to take into consideration that, what which may seem like psychologically, it's truly recognizing what that factor is. When you're a artistic skilled, let's say, who has no bother turning straw into gold at work 5 days per week, however has bother discovering that for your self, naming Rumpelstilkin could be like recognizing your personal artistic genius. I'm utilizing that in a really particular sense, not the widespread sense that we often use it in our tradition, however within the sense that the Romans meant it. The Romans mentioned we every have a artistic genius. It's this spark of one thing. All of us have one, and we now have to have a relationship with it.
In a approach, the Rumpelstilkin determine is form of a daimon, which is the Greek title for genius, or the Roman title for genius. To have a relationship with that, to acknowledge it, to know that it's ours, to see that it's not us, it isn't the identical factor as us. However it's ours, and we now have a particular distinctive relationship with it that we will declare. What which may seem like within the lifetime of a hypothetical particular person, let's say there's a younger lady who's a artistic skilled who perhaps doesn't absolutely perceive or really feel that she will absolutely declare her personal genius. However having the ability to perceive the facility of that, recognizing it, coming right into a relationship with it, proudly owning it, not within the sense of figuring out with it, however within the sense of getting this relationship with it and recognizing that it's hers, may put her in a state of affairs the place then she may name upon that genius even on Saturday afternoons.
Sort of simply accepting that that Rumpelstilkin daimon genius is a facet of herself that's at her beck and name, versus one thing that she has to search out and negotiate with. And I might say not essentially at your beck and name, as a result of it's slightly bit extra, it's not just like the ego's in cost. It's extra prefer it's ideally like a staff. However you possibly can't completely management that factor, and also you shouldn't attempt.
So that you're in collaboration with and never managing. Okay.
That's an ideal technique to say it.
I'm going to return and reread that story. I really like that. And so thanks for sharing it. And so, properly, one among my questions, which I really feel like we're form of bearing on was, , I really feel like partaking with fairy tales and archetypes, I discover to be very creatively inspiring. And I used to be, I feel plenty of of us do. And I used to be questioning when you agree, and if that's the case, when you may form of perhaps contact upon why, like, why are these archetypes so highly effective, and why are these tales so compelling to us? I really feel like simply studying it that, as you're speaking on the imagery, like, you learn a novel, perhaps you've bought imagery going, perhaps you don't. However I really feel like you possibly can't learn a fairy story and never see it taking place in your thoughts.
Effectively, let's see, that's a terrific query. What concerning the nature of the archetypes and the collective unconscious and the unconscious? And once more, if I'm going to attempt to type of put it in very user-friendly language, what I feel I wish to say is that these archetypal photos and these archetypal tales, to begin with, are common. And in addition, they faucet into, they faucet into type of the knowledge of the left mind, if I can use that language slightly bit. It's nonlinear, it's non-rational. It goes to the character of metaphor and image, which form of goes deeply into embodied existence. It touches on instinctual realizing and form of implicit information fairly than specific information. And there's a lot of stuff taking place at that degree.
And in some sense, that's the spring that form of feeds the remainder of us. And so, having the ability to have this conduit into it's actually renewing. So, these like, archetypes and concepts are so tapped into our unconscious thoughts that it's virtually like a bit extra of a direct, I don't know, approach in than various kinds of writing content material tales the place it's slightly extra linear, proper mind.
It makes whole sense. I do really feel prefer it's an expertise to learn them, to not be dramatic. Typically I'm like, oh, I'm feeling this in my physique as I learn it And I feel, I do discover them very creatively inspiring. How did you select which tales you had been going to speak about?
I'm fascinated about that as a result of, , I don't know that there was type of a method. There have been definitely instances once I had a theme I needed to speak about after which I went searching for a selected story. And there have been different instances once I had a narrative and I knew it urged a sure theme. So, typically it was the story that got here first after which I form of constructed the chapter on the story. And at different instances it was like, oh, yeah, there's this factor I want to speak about after which I must go off and discover a fairy story about it.
Effectively, it is a little little bit of a segue. And one factor I needed to ask you about is I'm actually fascinated about imposter syndrome. I feel that it comes up a lot. I don't really feel it myself now, however so usually of us who I'm working with and are managing have it and I simply wish to shake them and be like, you're wonderful. Like, cease this. However I really feel like my layman's speculation, which I'm comfortable to be corrected on, is that I really feel prefer it appears very carefully tied to disgrace or emotions of inadequacy which might be coming from the within. And there was a passage in your e book, although, that gave me a barely completely different perspective on it.
And I spotted I'm doing one thing right here, which perhaps I mustn't do, which is taking this e book about motherhood and fascinated about the ideas and making use of them to work.
Why wouldn't you do this? That sounds nice.
Typically I feel, oh, it's a typical factor for me to do, to begin with, and second of all, like perhaps making use of deep human truths to issues just like the office. However I feel it was chapter three or 4, you had been speaking about situations through which moms, new moms are actually struggling to swimsuit their infants. And so they felt a deep sense of inadequacy or disgrace. After which they perhaps would begin to really feel truly like avoidant of their infants and or these caretaking feelings. And I could be getting that flawed. However it was making me suppose how vital feeling competent and validated and receiving. Or emotions of realizing that you just've achieved properly is towards like something the place you're going to have a repeated interplay.
Then I used to be like, properly, perhaps it's not about disgrace or perhaps it's partly about disgrace, however perhaps imposter syndrome too is nearly working in a vacuum the place you're doing one thing however receiving no human enter again at instances and feeling like, am I doing this proper? Am I messing this up? I'm not feeling validated. I really feel avoidant over time. That's a complete tangle of issues. However I'm actually curious on your tackle imposter syndrome and the way it may relate to a few of these tales and themes.
Effectively, I feel that's a very fascinating query. I wish to say, to begin with, that I feel it's completely legitimate what you're doing, and I hope individuals would do this, proper? As a result of I imply, there's a approach that the e book offers with identical to you mentioned, type of human truths and I'm making use of them to mom, however that's not the one place that might be utilized. So I feel that's fascinating to consider that form of suggestions loop that may occur with moms who don't have that have of, say, having the ability to calm the child after which it brings about this sense of disconnection and that may type of turn out to be a detrimental cycle that these neuroscientists name blocked care. And the fascinating factor about taking good care of a child versus working in an workplace is that with the child, there's just one supply of suggestions. And it's like, did the child cease crying? And when you can't get that suggestions, it does make you wish to simply type of recoil as a result of it doesn't really feel good.
Hopefully, when you're working in a job, perhaps you have got the satisfaction of ending and also you be ok with it and perhaps one boss likes it or the shopper likes it or one thing. So hopefully, there's like a bunch of various methods of getting suggestions. I feel I'm very fascinated about imposter syndrome as properly. And I believe that it could be one thing barely completely different as a result of what I'm conscious of is there's some analysis about imposter syndrome. It's been a short while since I regarded this up. So I can't quote chapter 1, however my reminiscence is that what they discovered is that the one individuals who expertise imposter syndrome are extraordinarily competent individuals.
Oh, wow. Oh, properly, I take it again. I do have imposter syndrome. No, I'm kidding.
No, and it's not that each one extremely competent individuals have it, however that just about the one those that have it occur to be extremely competent.
Attention-grabbing. That's fascinating.
And the factor is that folks can have imposter syndrome even once they're getting heaps and much and plenty of optimistic suggestions. So I think about for some individuals, it's some form of horrible disgrace gnawing on the roots of their being that I'm fascinated about Judy Garland on the finish of her profession who simply, please, please hold the applause coming. She couldn't reside with out the applause. I don't know if that's precisely imposter syndrome, however perhaps one thing prefer it. However I believe that it would even have a optimistic function virtually, if you'll, as a result of the factor about imposter syndrome is it retains you checking your self. It's type of like, okay, properly, I simply did this wonderful factor. However was it actually as wonderful as what this different particular person did? It was wonderful on this approach, however I feel I actually fell down right here. I feel it was good, however perhaps it wasn't actually pretty much as good because it might be.
And ideally,there generally is a optimistic impact there that it type of retains you from getting overconfident. It retains you evaluating your self and maybe serving to you see how you are able to do higher. So I feel the detrimental half about imposter syndrome is when it stops you. And it could be that as with many issues in life, when you can form of reorient your self to it, not see it as this horrible factor that's going to cease you in your tracks,however type of like when it comes up, do that factor like, oh, there's that once more. Oh, that's only a factor. That's a factor that at all times occurs to me.
It doesn't imply it's true, however let's say you've simply given an incredible presentation. After which what occurs is, eight hours later, you suppose, oh, god, it sucked or one thing like that. It's like,
when you can go, okay, properly, that's a factor that occurs to me. After which you can even do one thing like, okay, and I've to do not forget that the one those that have that thought are people who find themselves truly good. As a result of it's type of, excuse me, but it surely's form of the blow hearts who suppose they're so nice that they don't ever suppose, oh my god, perhaps I'm not that nice. It's like, okay, so the truth that I'm considering perhaps I'm not that nice in all probability implies that I did a very good job. However let me see. What's my sincere appraisal of my efficiency?
Is it, perhaps I may have achieved higher? Possibly there's one thing I'd love to do higher subsequent time, not in a type of self-flagellating form of approach, however in a like, oh, perhaps I can use this.
I really like that a lot. It's like embracing the shadow critic slightly bit or the skilled profit or private profit. Seeing if you may make {that a} member of the staff. I really like that. So that you've bought your genius, your critic.
That's proper.
And just like the critic has a spot so long as she or he stays in that place. That is my most favourite interpretation and recommendation on previous your syndrome I've ever heard. And I'm going to instantly speak to love 4 individuals I work with about it.
Thanks a lot. This has been such a enjoyable dialog.
Yeah, I've actually loved it too.
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"""Provides a wrapper for serial communication with Jena piezoelectric controllers
"""

import serial

class NV40:
    """Wrapper for serial communication with Jena NV 40/1 CL piezoelectric controller

    Args:
        port (str): serial port
        timeout (float, optional): serial timeout in seconds
        closed_loop (bool, optional): Operation mode. True for closed loop, False for open loop.

    Example use::

        device = jena.NV40('COM3')
        device.set_position(10)
        print(device.get_position())

    Recommended use is with a context manager, which restores manual control after executing the statements in the with block. Note that the position will be reset to the position it had before the remote control was switched on::

    setpoint = 100
    print('Setpoint',setpoint)
    with jena.NV40('COM3') as device:
        print('Initial position',device.get_position())
        device.set_position(setpoint)
        position = device.get_position()
        print('New position',device.get_position())
    print('Final position',device.get_position())

    Notes:
        ``python -m serial.tools.list_ports`` will print a list of available ports. It is also possible to add a regexp as first argument and the list will only include entries that matched. See https://pythonhosted.org/pyserial/shortintro.html#opening-serial-ports for more details.
    """
    def __init__(self, port, timeout=0.5, closed_loop=True):
        """Initialize device
        Set connection configuration, enable remote control and set to closed loop operation"""
        self.port = port
        self.timeout = timeout
        self.baudrate = 9600
        self.bytesize = serial.EIGHTBITS
        self.stopbits = serial.STOPBITS_ONE
        self.parity = serial.PARITY_NONE
        self.errors = {'err,1':'Unknown command',
                      'err,2':'Too many characters in the command',
                      'err,3':'Too many characters in the parameter',
                      'err,4':'Too many parameters',
                      'err,5':'Wrong character in parameter',
                      'err,6':'Wrong separator',
                      'err,7':'Position out of range'}
        self.set_remote_control(True)
        self.set_closed_loop(closed_loop)

    def __enter__(self):
        return self

    def __exit__(self, type, value, traceback):
        """Return to manual control after use with .. as statement"""
        self.set_remote_control(False)

    def __execute(self, command):
        """Execute a device command and check if the device returned an error

        Args:
            command (str): Device command

        Returns:
            str: Response from the device

        Raises:
            DeviceError
        """
        with serial.Serial(port=self.port, baudrate=self.baudrate, bytesize=self.bytesize,
            parity=self.parity, timeout=self.timeout) as ser:
            command += '\r'
            ser.write(command.encode())
            answer = ser.read(100).decode("utf-8").rstrip()
            if answer in self.errors:
                raise ValueError(self.errors[answer])
            return answer

    def set_position(self, value):
        """Set position

        Setting the position will enable remote control, which disables manual control
        You can return to manual control using the set_remote_control(False) method.

        Args:
            value (float): Position in urad/um (closed loop) or volts (open loop)
        """
        self.set_remote_control(True)
        self.__execute('wr, %.2f' % value)

    def get_position(self):
        """Get current position

        Returns:
            float: Current position in urad or um (closed loop) or in volts (open loop)
        """
        return float(self.__execute('rd').split(',')[1])

    def set_closed_loop(self,is_enabled):
        """Switch between open and closed loop mode

        Args:
            is_enabled (bool): closed loop (True) or open loop (False)
        """
        if is_enabled:
            self.__execute('cl')
        else:
            self.__execute('ol')

    def set_remote_control(self,is_enabled):
        """Switch between remote and manual control

        Args:
            is_enabled (bool): remote control (True) or manual control (False)
        """
        if is_enabled:
            self.__execute('i1')
        else:
            self.__execute('i0')

redpajama_set_name: RedPajamaGithub


Two recent pages focused on former places of worship facing redevelopment. One of which is to be retained and remodelled, while the remaining parts of the other one seem likely to be demolished.
Another former place of worship decorated with a For Sale sign in recent years didn't stay empty and unused for long, and hasn't needed a planning application for its reuse.
The York City Church now occupies the proud and impressive building on Gillygate built in the late 19th century as the Salvation Army's York Citadel, and used by the Salvation Army until last year. The new use leaves the distinctive frontage unaltered, apart from the additions of a new flag (see above) and some subtle signage.
Someone asked me recently how the church could afford it. I really don't know, and it's none of my business, but presumably the Salvation Army were free to choose from bids submitted 'by informal tender' and perhaps weren't totally focused on getting the highest profit possible from any sale — unlike the NHS Trust down the road, selling Groves Chapel. I'm not an expert on these matters, just musing on them in passing, so if you have any more knowledge on this then do add a comment.


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Why Leaving My Infant Daughter to Go on Vacation Was the Best Decision I Made for My Family
Nadine Jolie CourtneyUpdated: Jan. 02, 2020
No, really.
courtesy Nadine Jolie CourtneyHe would be fine. She would be fine. They would be fine. I repeated this to myself over and over, a mantra as the plane took off for nine days in Europe. But I couldn't help worrying.
You see, my daughter was only four months old.
As a travel writer, I often get invited to cover far-flung destinations. While pregnant, I'd turned most of them down. And in those heady first few months postpartum, while navigating the treacherous jungles of new motherhood, of course, I'd also said no.
But after weeks of an endless loop of midnight feeds…3 a.m. feeds…6 a.m. feeds—bleary-eyed mornings fueled by coffee that soon turned cold—I was at my breaking point. After all, while most marriages are much more egalitarian nowadays than the ones our parents and grandparents muddled through, our families also typically had a village back in the day to help raise the children. We had nobody—no family nearby, no night nurse—it was just me and my husband trying to figure out how to properly take care of a tiny human. But I had the boobs, his job paid more, and even though he was willing to be more helpful, about 75 percent of the time, the infant tasks fell to me alone.
courtesy Nadine Jolie CourtneyIn the back of my mind, as I became more exhausted with every passing day—my daughter a Groundhog's Day of dirty diapers, repetitive feeds, swaddling, and praying for her to sleep—there was the looming sense that I'd somehow been conned into something.
Of course, your child's needs are paramount. But how can you properly attend to those needs if you're about to fall apart?
So when the invitation came to report on the luxurious health spa Vivamayr Altaussee in Austria—for one of my dream publications—I jumped at the chance. I would travel to Austria for a week (tacking on two days in London to see my best friend, because why not?) while my husband would hold down the fort at home. He'd been slowly doing more feeds, enjoying the bonding with our precious daughter, and because he owned his own business, working from home wouldn't be much of an issue. They would bond even further. It would be good for them both. Scratch that. It would be great. Right? (Right?!)
I couldn't help but feel I was making a terrible mistake.
"I couldn't do it," other moms said to me kindly when they learned of my plan to leave my daughter alone with her own father. "He'd screw it up. Plus, I'd just miss the baby too much."
I did miss her—so much that I sobbed on the airplane, and spent hours scrolling through photos and videos of her on my cell phone. But at the spa, alone for the first time in eons, I found myself again.
I slept through the night for the first time since the middle of my second trimester when sciatica started to plague me. It had been so long since I'd had a massage that I'd forgotten how transformational it could be—and there, on doctor's orders, I had them daily. I took walks around the resort's quiet village and on the banks of pristine Lake Altaussee, marveling in the quiet and using that time to contemplate just how damn lucky I was—not only to be there but to have a healthy daughter and a supportive husband.
And once my stint at the spa was done, I spent two glorious days in London giggling with my best friend, nourishing my soul and reminding myself of that part of me I'd feared was lost forever post-children.
courtesy Nadine Jolie CourtneyIt wasn't lost at all. It was inside me, patiently waiting to be found.
When I flew back home to Los Angeles, I braced myself to find a resentful, angry husband, and a baby desperately in need of TLC without mama's tender ministrations. They were, indeed, thrilled to see me, and my husband seemed dramatically more tired and harried than usual. (I would be lying if I said I wasn't a tiny bit happy about this.) But it wasn't until bedtime that I realized how things had truly changed.
"Actually, she prefers it like this," my husband said as I was swaddling our daughter.
I stepped aside as he showed me a different method to keep our little Houdini from escaping. Then he gently picked her up, singing a lullaby I'd never heard while rocking her in a clockwise motion up-and-down…up-and-down…while her eyes slowly closed. She nodded off. "My grandmother used to sing it to me," he explained in a whisper. He slipped her into the crib and pulled me out into the hallway. "And I figured out that rocking her like that puts her to sleep faster."
Over the next couple of days, I discovered hidden talents in my husband that I don't think either of us knew he possessed. He loved snuggling our daughter against his chest, feeding her a bedtime bottle while rocking in the same chair his beloved grandmother had fed his mother in. My husband was a swaddling genius. He was much more efficient with bath time, and while he couldn't always figure out how to get our daughter properly dressed—it was inevitably a hilarious disaster—the fact that he stepped up meant the world.
From that point forward, our relationship as a family was changed and our marriage was even stronger. It was no longer Mommy In Charge, Hapless Daddy Following Directions, but the two of us working as a team, feeling like we were genuinely learning and growing together. The week away reminded me that I would sleep again, and helped me re-center me to gain some perspective.
Yes, this parenting thing was exhausting and relentless, but I was no longer doing it alone. We were doing it together, and now my husband knew he was capable of it, too.
And not that long after, he got his own well-deserved solo trip—and now we take vacations without each other every year.
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Several fields of research have sprung up around the chemical drivers, called catalysts, at work in many industrial processes – including those that boost the production of fuels, fertilizers, and foods. These research efforts have developed more useful catalysts that accelerate chemical reactions and make the reactions more efficient without being consumed in the process.
Now, there is growing interest in coordinating the research efforts in these fields to create new, hybrid catalysts with enhanced performance, said Gabor Somorjai, a faculty senior scientist in the Materials Sciences Division at the U.S. Department of Energy's Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory (Berkeley Lab) and chemistry professor at UC Berkeley.
Somorjai, who has authored more than 1,000 journal articles related to catalysis and particularly chemistry occurring at the surface of metals, makes the case for pursuing new forms of hybrid catalysis in a perspective article published this month in the journal Nature Catalysis. Somorjai also has written four textbooks related to surface chemistry.
"Let's try to combine the results from these fields in new ways," Somorjai said. "It seems obvious that this will be the evolution of the field." The paper recognizes some previously published studies relating to hybrid catalysts, and calls for more progress.
Rong "Rocky" Ye, the paper's lead author, said, "Our paper puts forward the concept of hybrid catalysts systematically and comprehensively so that more researchers will be aware of the possibilities in research directions and collaborations." Ye is a former graduate student at Berkeley Lab and UC Berkeley who is now a Presidential Postdoctoral Fellow at Cornell University.
Homogeneous catalysts, which typically operate in the same phase of matter (most often a liquid or a gas) as the reactant. A reactant is a substance that participates in a chemical reaction and is changed by the reaction.
Heterogeneous catalysts, which operate in a different phase of matter from reactants. This type of catalyst can be at the outer or inner surface of dense or porous solids, the article notes, or can be attached to the surface of materials, in the form of metal crystals or nanoparticles, for example.
Enzyme catalysts, which are 3-D biological molecules derived from amino acids. Enzymes typically are immersed in a liquid.
Creating hybrid catalysts by blending different types of catalysts and reactants "can be greater than the sum of their parts … and may provide a promising method to synthesize elusive end products," the article states. The perspective, authored by Somorjai and four other Berkeley Lab and UC Berkeley researchers, lists 17 chemical processes that can be sped up by catalysts in each of the above categories.
"When we try to hybridize, we may be able to accelerate the reaction rate or the selectivity for new products," Somorjai said.
This could open up new avenues for developing longer-lasting batteries and lower-cost medicines, he said.
Already, Somorjai's research group has found ways to "heterogenize homogenous catalysis" by tethering, grafting, or entrapping catalysts that are typically dissolved in a liquid. This can provide more long-term stability for the reaction processes, reduce waste, and improve the reuse of the catalysts, the perspective notes.
There are challenges, though, in preventing metals from leaching over time for example, and in optimizing all of the components and conditions to guarantee the superior performance of such hybrids.
Somorjai's team is now in the early stages of working on hybrid approaches that incorporate enzyme catalysts.
Other contributing authors are Jie Zhao, a postdoctoral researcher at UC Berkeley; Brent B. Wickemeyer, an undergraduate researcher at UC Berkeley; and F. Dean Toste, a senior faculty scientist in the Chemical Science Division at Berkeley Lab and chemistry professor at UC Berkeley.
The group's catalysis work is supported by the DOE Office of Science and the UC Berkeley Student Mentoring and Research Teams program.
"Integration of the Three Fields of Catalysis: Heterogeneous, Homogeneous, and Enzyme," 24th International Solvay Conference on Chemistry: Catalysis in Chemistry and Biology.


Call it a Cosmic Scene Investigation: For the first time, scientists have identified a stellar victim of a giant black hole — an unlucky star whose death may ultimately provide more clues on the inner workings of the enigmatic gravitational monster that devoured it.
Supermassive black holes are objects millions to billions times the sun's mass that lurk in the hearts of most galaxies. They lay quietly until victims, such as stars, wander close enough to get shredded apart by their extraordinarily powerful gravitational pull.
Scientists first caught a black hole red-handed in a stellar murder last year. Now researchers have determined not only the culprit in a similar cosmic homicide but the casualty as well: a star rich in helium gas.
Astronomers say supermassive black holes rip apart stars very rarely, maybe just once every 10,000 years per galaxy. To detect one such event, Gezari and her colleagues monitored hundreds of thousands of galaxies in ultraviolet light with the space-based Galaxy Evolution Explorer (GALEX) and in visible light with the Hawaii-based Pan-STARRS telescope.
In June 2010, the researchers spotted a bright flare from the previously dormant black hole at the center of a galaxy approximately 2.7 billion light-years away.
"When the star is ripped apart by the gravitational forces of the black hole, some part of the star's remains falls into the black hole while the rest is ejected at high speeds," Gezari said. "We are seeing the glow from the stellar gas falling into the black hole over time."
The flare of light reached peak brightness a month after it was detected, then slowly faded over the next 12 months. By measuring the rise of the flare's brightness, the scientists calculated the rate at which the star's gas was getting sucked into the black hole. This in turn helped reveal at what point and time the black hole had begun disrupting the star, revealing how powerful its gravitational field was and thus its mass.
The astronomers estimate the black hole's mass to be 3 million suns, comparable to our Milky Way's central black hole.
"These spectacular events provide a glimpse into otherwise unobservable black holes, telling us about their masses," Gezari said. "We know that there are strong connections between black holes and the galaxies they reside in, and it turns out that somehow the mass of the black hole and the mass of a galaxy influence each other, so we want to better know what's going on there. Also, people want to understand the physics of black holes and how they affect the geometry of space-time around them. We need to know its mass to help pinpoint a lot of those details."
These images from NASA's Galaxy Evolution Explorer GALEX) and the Pan-STARRS1 telescope show a galaxy that brightens suddenly, caused by a flare from its nucleus. The flare is a signature of the galaxy's central black hole shredding a star that wandered too close. Top Left: Taken in 2009, shows the galaxy before the flare t. Top Right: The galaxy has become 350 times brighter in UV light in June 2010. Bottom right image from Pan-STARRS1 in June-August 2010 shows the flare from the galaxy nucleus.
In addition, Gezari and her colleagues analyzed the spectrum of the ejected gas — that is, the specific colors making up its light — using data from the Multiple Mirror Telescope Observatory on Mount Hopkins in Arizona. Each element has a unique spectral fingerprint, and the spectrum of the gas revealed it was mostly helium.
"It is like we are gathering evidence from a crime scene," Gezari explained.
The fact there was mostly helium and very little hydrogen in the gas suggests "the slaughtered star had to have been the helium-rich core of a stripped star," Gezari said.
"This likely happened when the star went through the red giant phase, where it expanded to 100 times its original radius," Gezari said. "When it puffed up like that, it became vulnerable to the gravitational tidal forces of the black hole, and it would have been very easy to strip off the tenuous hydrogen envelope.
"However, the star then had to approach much closer, 100 times closer in, before it was completely disrupted by the black hole. We think it approached all the way in to one-third of an astronomical unit, similar to the orbit of Mercury [about one-third the distance between the Earth and sun]. We then saw the helium gas streaming into the black hole."
The scientists detailed their findings online today (May 2) in the journal Nature.
"This is the first time where we have so many pieces of evidence, and now we can put them all together to weigh the perpetrator — the black hole — and determine the identity of the unlucky star that fell victim to it," Gezari said. "These observations also give us clues to what evidence to look for in the future to find this type of event."
The upcoming Large Synoptic Survey Telescope, capable of scanning half the sky every night, should detect far more of this carnage.
"We can measure at what rate stars are being disrupted by black holes as a function of the type of galaxy, measure the masses of the black holes, see what types of stars orbit black holes in the centers of galaxies, and try and better understand the evolution of galaxies over time," Gezari said. "There's a lot more to be done."


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What better way to decorate your home than with artwork that you love? Whether it's a professional painting that you admire, a family photograph, or your kid's finger paintings, it's always good to have things on the wall that you enjoy looking at or that bring back fond memories. This is a good way to design and decorate a room that you'll like spending time in.
With custom framed pictures, it's not just about the picture itself but about the whole package. The frame you choose will also be an important part of the style and design of the room. Choose a frame that complements the color scheme and interior design of the rest of the room, whether that's by matching colors and styles or choosing a contrasting frame that really stands out on your wall.
Not just the frame but also the matting surrounding your picture adds to your interior design. The matting is a great way to help small pictures fill up more space within a frame and also make those pictures stand out rather than shrink away in the frame. The color of your matting can also be chosen to match or contrast other colors in the room.
Adding personal touches to your interior design is a great way to make a house feel like a home. You can personalize a room with pictures of things or places that interest you, or with personal memories from your life, like photos, certificates, or personal artwork. This is especially effective when you first move into a home, as they will likely be neutrally decorated. Adding your own custom framed pictures will give your house that lived-in look.
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The sun is up, it's time for Chester to go to sleep, but he is frightened by the shadows that the sun is making in his tree.
Mrs. Raccoon soothes him with a special Kissing Hand. A sweet introduction to the Kissing Hand in this board book for younger readers.


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// Use of this source code is governed by a BSD-style license that can be
// found in the LICENSE file.

/**
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function BluetoothPairingUITest() {
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};

TEST_F('BluetoothPairingUITest', 'Basic', function() {
  assertEquals('chrome://bluetooth-pairing/', document.location.href);
});


I'm beautiful. I want you to say it with me under the dim bathroom light: I. Am. Beautiful.
I take solace in the light on my face. I take solace in the light on my skin, on the fat that creases and bulges. I love my body, sometimes more than other times.
I've doubted my temple in the past. I've fed it horrible things like stress and butter and beer. I've hated it and squeezed my stomach in front of the mirror. I've made faces at my overweight self. Not today.
I remember where I started: I am beautiful. I put the magazine down. I stop reading the lines about how to fit in my jeans better (or for that matter, how to fit in). I tell the page it doesn't know me like I know me. I tell myself I'm not a model. I tell myself the models are not even models. They are made of wood held together by string.
I stand in front of the mirror. My skin is a white sheet of paper. My eyes are two buckets of brown dirt. I don't cry anymore over my curves. I feed it apples, pears, and squash. I feed it squats and walks. I wash the sweat off from my workout in a warm, lavender-scented shower. The shower is a lake from a dream I had.
I don't body-shame myself. I don't let others body shame me either. I'm responsible for how I see myself in this world, in this long and wide world of hurtful words and scams of the heart.
Go now. This is not a body of hate. This body does not hate itself. There's nothing here to consume, but love. Self-sabotage is a hand that does not hurt me anymore. My body sings me to sleep. My body is ground, gravel, twigs, and brambles.
My feet dangle from the bed. I examine the cracked skin, the dried patches on the tops of my toes. I see my legs, freckled and chubby, against the cat's back. I rub my arms, the stretched skin, too. I pull my messy hair back in a bun and sigh deep and slow. The room is quiet. The bathroom mirror is quiet. There is no sound—only my heart, gentle and warm, and it says, Thank you for loving me again. And my fingers rest on my chest. They can hear the sound of my heart.
I push myself off the bed and look in the long, wooden framed mirror. All those spots. All those scars and scabs. All those dimples in the thigh. It's all a poem to me.
I picked up my slimy, sticky, dried-up body and carried to the next reed of grass, into the next space of dirt. I kept my heart in my gut and squeezed out all the dead cells of my skin, cleansed myself in the potpourri of flowers. The bees rode me and harnessed my power.
Worm. I am worm. Earth and daughter and sun. Save me, I looked up. Save the earth in my body, the dirt in my worm. I became a strong worm, a worm nothing could eat, a steel worm, a sunflower worm. I didn't care to be anything else.
I curled up under the deck. I ate dirt, became dirt, ate decaying roots and leaves, even the manure from a fat cow. The cool air, the cool soil, dirt, cracked sticks, mushroom, potato… all love me. All. All.
No birds scared me. No ground swallowed me whole, no pinch from rubber soles. My digestion kept me whole, a root in the sunken soil, and I made a tunnel to rest in. I ate more dirt and released it. I drank fresh water and nibbled on thyme.
Water couldn't sink me. Streets couldn't kill me, tear me apart, or flatten me. I'm 600 million years old.
I drilled into the wet sand, ate a small chip of rock. I cared less than the fly and more than the bee. Wanted honey and tea, wanted to float in the mixture, ease a sting.
Earth. Inside the earth. Burrowing into the dirt and grit and slime.
I'm the earth's intestine, small gizzard, and large mouth. I eat trouble whole, garbage and tissue paper. Love me. Love me, I say. I heart you. I don't need pills like you, human. I hold my own hand in despair. I'm a one-worm kind of worm.
I hear you from under the deck, feel the burger drippings on my back, and wait for the broken carrot heads to fall onto me. No eyes. I don't need eyes. I feel it all, even silence.
I don't need to stalk or kill. I am holier than that. I clean the guts of the dirt, the stomach of the dead cow, split squirrel. I can live the way I want. No We. Just I, long and certain of my life, confident about my body, no eyes needed to see in a mirror what I don't like. Nothing to change. I'm the earth's angel.
I don't need approval, no validation of my prettiness, or ugliness. Worm, caterpillar, wormwood, silk parachute. All worm. No doubt.
I live anywhere I want, go where the light feels warm. My back, my belly, all the same. Worm in the dirt, line on paper, pen in the mud, poem in the grass, smile on the sidewalk. Worm slow and cool by the poolside, dried up like leather. No regrets, this worm. No bones, no jaw, no skull to hold me back.
Unhinged in the hand and in the fields and in the woods. Call me worm, call me Vermis from a great height. Human against the clouds, thoughtless giant, know-it-all. I'm the most perfect freedom, soil's necessity, pure and obedient to nature, my tail in the pond, stomach against the bramble, mouth in the dirt. I'll never let the grass go, the roots tangled down here next to the wild rose.
Born: Year of the Rooster.
Early childhood: Became rocks. Dragged my knees through dirt. Wrapped the night around my shoulders.
Adolescence: I collected daisies. Graduated from one school to go to the next. Met a man. He loved me so. Left man and met another. Wrote a book. Ate the pages.
Late Adolescence: Ate the rooster. Swam to the center of the moon. Floated in the sky, fell down to the ground, skinned my face. Loved my lips, dressed them in the dark.
At Present: Loving myself. Eating clouds. Typing up a storm. Covering my head from the rain.
Statement: People wanted to cut out all the things they didn't like about me. I taped my body, hid from their fingers, from their long arms. I lifted my head up and licked the sun, sucked out all the clouds from the sky, and held them in my belly. I am whole now. I don't know what it feels like to be in pieces anymore.
P.S. If you are missing pieces of your body, leave a note for them and wait for them to find their way back to you.
The words are butterflies, the pages their wings. Inside me, a field of green grass, a powerful potion made out of ink, of unborn words and broken mirrors. The ink turns the hands into messengers, a flute held with love.
Loren Kleinman has published four full-length poetry collections: Flamenco Sketches, The Dark Cave Between My Ribs, Breakable Things, and Stay with Me Awhile, and a memoir The Woman with a Million Hearts. Her non-fiction appeared in The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Woman's Day, Seventeen, USA Today, Good Housekeeping, and The Huffington Post, while her poetry appeared in Drunken Boat, The Moth, Columbia Journal, Patterson Literary Review, and more.


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