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Complete Google Review for Finneys Complete Auto Repair
Good early morning, readers. This is a post that strays from my norm, but I had a pretty stressful and shocking experience yesterday with a mechanic I trusted. I want to leave a thorough review on Google, but the character limit is 4,000 so the shortened review is there with link to come here for the full, detailed review. Use your own discernment to make a decision about this business. Thank you, be blessed. Namaste. Google review 👉 https://goo.gl/maps/DxR5cyh1xaE2
This review will be thorough and honest, and despite my very last interaction with this business owner I will still list the pros (below in detailed review). I believe in honesty, and as you can see I have earned a level 6 local guide badge with Google, and my account is connected to my Google+, my website, and my YouTube Channel where I teach. That attests for my creditworthiness. Short story: Bilal and co *appeared* to be a friendly, trustworthy business who cared about us and our car in the beginning, but when we noticed unprofessional actions such as leaving our car dismantled, driver window and door open for 6+ months, AND battery missing we addressed Bilal about it. He became angry, yelled and cussed AT us, threatened us "you dont want to see me angry you will regret it. Im not afraid of you. Get out, get the fuck out." He refused to give us our car battery and kicked us out. I'm APPALLED that I trusted them with our car, their place of business, and our car was poorly taken care of, and that we were treated the way we were when we have every right to be upset about the condition of our car. We've spoken with Radcliff Police Dept. We're going to have a mechanic look over our car thoroughly to see if other parts are missing, we may file a suit against them, and I'm writing reviews across all platforms and reporting him to Better Business Bureau. It is truly sad and disappointing that we'll have to go this route, I don't like conflict, but I do believe in living an authentic, responsible, honest life/path and standing up for what is right. More details below 👇
Longer, more detailed story: We found this business in the beginning of this year (2018) when we needed help with our 2003 VW Beetle. We needed confirmation that cylinder 4 was misfiring. He confirmed this and gave us a quote, which we planned to have him work on it once we had saved the money for the investment. I asked him if the misfire would cause further damage or was dangerous and He assured us we were fine. He ended up replacing our transmission sensor first, which seemed to eliminate some of the issues we were experiencing, including the misfire for a short while. His prices are fair. No complaints thus far. From our brief interactions with him and his secretary they *seemed* friendly and honest, so ya know, why doubt? They have alot of business, ALOT of cars always in their lot (is that a good or bad thing?). They have good reviews on Facebook and Google so we continued to trust the business. But we quickly noticed they never answer phone calls, so in order to get quotes or speak to someone you have to stop by. You will notice this as well, try calling. Their answering machine message even states that they want you to not call so much. And visit, you'll see notices on their front door, I think on a wall, and at the counter. Now around April/May we experienced transmission issues and our beetle broke down on Gene Snyder as my partner was on his way to work. We had been having a very hard financial time and couldn't afford to tow it, and when I spoke with his secretary Micha, she said Bilal would cover it and add it to the total bill after looking at/working on the car once in the shop. We were grateful for that. Our car got towed to their shop. We waited to hear from them and also called different times for a few days to find out what the car problem was. It was upsetting that we didn't get a call sooner, since it was our only mode of transportation and we lived out on 6 acres in Vine Grove at the time with no family or friends around. But we practiced patience plus were grateful that he paid for the tow. We finally heard back that our transmission went out, which was very upsetting and he told us itd be $3500+ for a transmission, and his professional opinion was that we should sell the car/get rid of it, that it wasn't worth it…. I explained to him that the car has sentimental value and I won't get rid of it. We told them it was our only car and we were in middle of financial hardship so would have to figure something out, decide what to do. Shortly after that we lost our home and were forced to temporarily move to Indiana. With all the stress and fast pace of having to leave Vine Grove we couldn't visit Finneys before leaving. We tried calling the shop but of course they don't answer. Now it's summer, and we were in Indiana for about 1-2 months, and sometime in late July while at a doc appointment in Etown, I decided I wanted to check on the car, so I give them a call. I don't remember if they answered or called me back, either way, Micha told me "we don't have your car anymore" which scared me! I asked frantically what she meant and she said that it wasn't on their lot and that she'd have Bilal contact me. So the way she informed me stressed me out, made me worried. I became upset because I have never heard of a mechanic moving someone's car or "not having it any more", to be honest I freaked out. I don't get attached to things but my beetle means alot to me because I bought it with the money my cousin (who was my best friend) left to me in his life insurance policy. He passed last June (2017). So my Buggy is not just a car, it's a momento of him. When Bilal called me back, he told me he had to move it bc he didn't have space on his lot, and that he had contacted us. We never received any calls or texts all summer from them and our number had not changed. But, like I said earlier, why doubt someone who seems honest? I like to believe the best in people. So although I was upset I told him "I'm sure you contacted us but I assure you we didn't receive ANY calls or messages and we would have contacted you had we known." I told him in short about our situation that We lost our home and had moved to Indiana. Told him I was worried about my car and then I told him what I've just shared with you – that my cousin passed away and left me money and I bought the buggy with that money. He apologized and told me it's at his brother's and he still suggested that we might look into selling it. I refused and told him I'd be in contact later, bc I was overwhelmed and had just left an important doc appointment for my partner and I had to take him to another appointment. I even remember asking him about his health, bc I remember he told me he had some serious health issues going on , and I'm a Pranic Healer and had told him about it if he'd be open to try alternative healing. One month later We moved into a new place in Radcliff in August and I returned to Finneys to speak in person about my buggy, to get more details, and let them know we're back. I wanted him to see that I'm serious about my car, that I still want to either have him work on it or I'd have it towed to a different place. He told us if we really wanted to then yes he'd replace the transmission, and he repeated that he didn't have space so he had to move it. We told him it was fine, we thanked him and told him that we'd be settling everything soon as we could get settled in our place. I have no idea why I didn't ask to go see my car sooner but I should have, but we had so much on our plate at the time. In October I called them to tell them we'd like to have it towed to our residence, and they never picked up. I eventually left a message letting them know and also said that I'd like to visit my car, check on it and get some belongings out of it. We were very busy working alot to get more stable so with 1 car it was hard to find time in between to go see them. They never returned my call. In November I decided to look up other mechanics and financially plan out paying off what's owed and having it towed to us. I stopped by Finneys (bc they weren't answering my calls and at this point leaving messages had become pointless). It's now beginning of December. I believe I stopped in 2 weeks ago on a Friday and asked Bilal for a receipt or invoice of what we owe him, whatever the cost is of the tows. He told me to come back on Monday after my workshift, I thanked him and returned the following Monday around 6ish. I remind him that he told me to come in and He puts his hands up and says "but look, you come so late we're closing soon." I'm confused as He told me on Friday to come in after my work shift ended. I told him I am only there to get an invoice I didn't want to get the car or anything else. He walked behind the counter and then asked me why I wanted a receipt which made me feel weird. I replied, "For my records and so that I know how much we owe you.. We would like to pay that so we can get the bug back." He sat down, stared at an invoice pad which further confused me because I could tell He was trying to either remember the costs of the tows or He was trying to come up with a number. Im not sure but these are my thoughts. At this point I'm beginning to feel even more uncomfortable because that friendly feeling I thought that we had in the beginning was not there. The air was kinda tense. I peered over the counter and I said, "Well you keep records right? I'm sure you have the receipt or some record of the tow here and the tow to your brother's?" He then says, "Yes" and reached for a pad/book thing and flipped thru it, spoke to Micha… I walked away to give them space but by this time I'm wondering why it's become so awkward… and why He doesn't know where to look for the past tow info. I finally see him writing something down on an invoice and he instructs her to have me sign. I read it first which he wrote, "Towing 2003 yellow VW Beetle 3 times It was not paid when they towed it. 150 dollars is still not paid We are waiting on the payment to release the car." Dated 12/10/18 Invoice #955721 I look at it and inquire about the third tow, we only know of the tow from Gene Snyder to his shop and the tow from his shop to his brother's place. Bilal told me that they moved the car to different spot in his parking lot but that the wheels locked up so they had to lift it up? (We're now unsure if it's true.*) I said ok. It seems legit so I sign it. I return their copy back and keep mine. At this point he's gone so I thank Micha and tell her I'll be in touch soon to settle everything, and as I'm walking to my car I wave goodbye to Bilal who is helping a customer with a car issue. My partner and I call them this week for the address of his brother's so we can get tow quotes…I leave a message on their voicemail. SHE ACTUALLY RETURNS OUR CALL! So idk at this point I wonder if they ignore whoever they feel like ignoring etc. Once I have the address and Google it I learn that his brother's property is not residential, as I thought for some reason, but another car shop just down the road on Dixie! 1451 N Dixie Blvd A.A.Atiyani Complete Auto Repair. We find a guy to tow (he tows often for Finneys) and planned it for Wednesday which was just 2 days ago. We go to Finneys first to pay what we owe and to get our car key… and Micha tells us Bilal isn't there and she doesn't call him in front of us, she stepped into the garage. She said she was going to ask him how to get our car released. It all seemed weird. She returned and said that one of his brothers would meet us there and that she did not have our key. We pay the bill, I have the invoice, #955749. We drove down The road to 1451 N Dixie, tow guy is there but not The brother who owns the shop. I can see our buggy now, she is parked in a small enclosed fenced space with other cars, all tightly parked around one another. A guy showed up, I greeted him and asked if he is the owner and he was not friendly and he said no he is not. I found out this is the other brother and he runs the 3rd shop down Dixie called Bavaria Auto Repair or something. Another guy or 2 guys show up – the men and our tow guy get to talking on how to get the bug out because she is squeezed in tight next to 2 cars with one in front of her. When I was able to walk to my car and look at her I was livid. LIVID. CONFUSED. The driver door was not closed, it was slightly open, the window was halfway down… which means for 6+ months the interior has been rained on, snowed on etc, debris inside and it showed…my driver seat looks crappy. The siding of driver door is off and in back seat, but my partner calms me down saying they probably did that to try to close the window. Ok. Fine. But we both know that you can easily push the window up manually with your hands and I'm sure they knew that too. They just didn't care. Plain and simple. Different pieces of car are inside, as in they didn't bother to put things back into proper place after taking things off to look at the car. She has some ding marks on exterior she didn't have before and I took pictures while she was still on their property before being hauled onto tow truck. It was too tight of space to look under hood or trunk, plus car wouldnt start, our key fob nor buttons inside car worked, understandable, since it's been some time. We towed it to our new mechanic, and before the tow guy left he came to me and warned me to look over my car thoroughly and have mechanic do it too because it could be possible that these guys took parts from my car. I was shocked but thankful for the advice so I thanked him and paid him. Wally took quick glance as did we, and we noticed our battery is GONE. Wally was surprised and he told me that is illegal. Even though it had sat at their business for awhile it is still illegal to take or use parts of the car. We went down to Finneys and I waited to speak to Bilal. I kept it simple, short and polite although I was LIVID. I told him in exact words, "I'm highly upset and concerned as to why my car battery is gone." He looked at me and I could tell he was caught off guard and didn't know how to respond, then he repeated what I said, and I said "yes, it's gone", asked him why it was gone and he said he didn't know, said he'd look around the shop for it or give us another. I asked for it now and he said to return tomorrow (which was yesterday, Thursday the 20th) after 2pm. I assured him we'd return, thanked him, and said bye. We returned Thursday around 3pm, he was behind the counter with Micha, and he told us he'd have to charge it. He said it was dead, so I assumed it was our original one and asked, he said he thinks so and said since it sat so long it needed to be charged, which I said I understand but I didn't understand why they did not *put it back* in the car or why it was taken out in first place. He said When they looked at transmission they took it out so they could see. Understandable. I asked why he didn't put it back after looking, and his reply was, "I told you. We had taken it out we had finished looking at it, I mean it's a $3500 part or more…" and I interrupted him and asked again – "I understand what you're saying but I'm asking you why you did not put the part back in after looking at my car?" He began to get defensive and said why? I told him this was illegal. Then he said "it is your fault. You left it here." This was rude, confusing and still didn't address my question about their unprofessionalism. This upset us, especially my partner who didn't like the way Bilal was speaking to me, so my partner said, "How the fuck is it our fault?" Bilal didn't like my partner's tone or the f bomb and told us we will not use that language, which I want to state that no one else was in his shop but us and his secretary. My partner did not say "fuck you" or anything like that, he said how the fuck is it our fault. This is tit for tat, honestly, everyone has their own way of expressing. What I do know is we were very disappointed and upset at how our car was left with parts off, in disarray, and so far a battery missing, not to mention window open and car door open for God knows how long! Obviously this is a stressful situation and to see this business owner not taking responsibility (for himself, his brothers or employees) is highly upsetting. And to try placing blame on the customer is plain unjust, childish, immoral. I told him He is a business owner, this is his business, his property, and we as customers came to him, trusted him with something that is important to us, and he did not put the car back in the condition it was in when it was brought to him. He then raised his voice and he said he could have placed a lien on the car or could have charged us for storage but didn't and I calmly said that I know and we're grateful. But as you can see… He had never brought this up before, never told us he'd have to charge etc nor did he mention this when I came in for the invoice to see how much we owe….. he brought it up NOW when he's angry and confronted about the lack of professionalism and lack of care taken. He kept yelling and he and my partner were arguing, they're men, testosterone. Whatever, I get it. I said I didn't want to argue, that I'd like the battery and we'll go. My partner agreed and said "can we please just get the battery so we can get the fuck out of here." Again, Bilal takes offense, begins cussing AT us, says he is not afraid of my partner, that he better get the fuck out his store or else… began walking to the garage and said that we don't want to see him angry, we'll regret it, his body language showed he was ready to get physical with my partner. He said "you will get no battery from me, get the fuck out now" a bunch of other stuff…at this point I told my partner to let it go, let's leave and I said to Micha and Bilal that I'm reporting them. We spoke to police to see if we'd be able to just go back and get our battery but they told us this is considered civil.. that if we want to pay for that route we can. Which at this point I don't even care about the battery, it's the fact that we paid what we owed, we have always been kind and respectful, and told him how important that car is to me, and even if it wasnt a momento of my cousin it's still our property, and a car should never be poorly taken care of when in hands of a mechanic/business owner. Nor should that business owner deny responsibility, and deny us of what is rightfully ours. You can't take parts from someone's car and expect them to be calm nor avoid addressing this immoral behavior. We will have our buggy inspected and I'll also take fotos, if anything else is missing, yes I most likely will be filing a suit.
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Next up in our series of Celebrating Awesome Women is the fabulous Dayle from Artful City Style (@artfulcitystyle).
We've been following @artfulcitystyle on Instagram for a while, and admiring from a distance her eye for textures, shapes and especially accessorizing! Her Insta is a gallery of amazingly bold looks, other stylish women and beautiful Manhattan streets. After a while we knew we had to take the jump and send a PM to her, we just had the feeling that Dayle and RO belonged together. And since then we've seen Dayle rocking her RO on the streets of Manhattan. Talk about a dream come true!
Our photographer Charli recently visited the Big Apple and caught up with Dayle on our behalf to snap a few photos and have a few laughs! We wanted the goss on how she became such a stylishly cool woman, so read below for a glimpse into Dayle's fashion history, advice and secrets!
RO: What was your first fashion moment, when you knew you had a passion for style?
Dayle: When I was in elementary school, I had a year when I would wear nothing but purple. When it came to fashion, I danced to my own drum from a very early age!
RO: How do you get dressed in the morning? do you start with one piece and build around that or just start throwing things on?
Dayle: I either start with an accessory I want to build around or start with an article of clothing I want to accessorize. If it's an article of clothing, I play with bracelets, earrings, scarves or necklaces, shoes, socks and glasses. It is like painting. I am working on a composition. If I am focusing on an accessory, I try to pick clothing that will highlight it but not overshadow it. And then I figure out the other accessories that work well with it.
RO: Do you have any colours you would never wear together or any that find you are always drawn to?
Dayle: I love strong colors—one of the many reasons I love Ruby Olive jewelry so much! I don't wear beige. I also love black and white. As a New Yorker, I have my share of black in my closet, but think of that as a blank canvas on which to feature my accessories.
RO: Which is your fave piece in your wardrobe, whether it be clothes, shoes, jewels or something else?
Dayle: That is truly an impossible question to answer! I am drawn to mixed textiles, interesting shapes, and strong colors. My accessories are definitely a favorite part of my wardrobe. I could wear the same black dress every day and make it look different!
RO: What is your top styling tip?
Dayle: Don't be afraid to express yourself in your clothing and accessories. Have fun getting dressed! It is a creative art form! I truly believe that if one has confidence, one can wear virtually anything!
RO: And what is your no-no, a look that you would never wear?
Dayle: If I go to a store and am told that something is the most popular item, I run for the hills. I don't want to look like everyone else. I just want to look like myself!
Fantastic advice from a truly awesome woman! We can't wait until we get over to New York to meet her ourselves!
Keep up to date with Dayle's style adventures on her Instagram.
Loved your blog posting on Dayle Artful City Style. Not only did the photos capture her great style, but your interview captures her wit and charm. Brava!


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When an organization gets hacked, ideally they'll realize it promptly and warn their users right away. Take crowdfunding site Patreon, which was hacked on Monday and has already informed the world about the problem. Scottrade, an investment brokerage company, is different, and not in a good way.
The company announced Friday that it suffered a security breach over a period of several months from late 2013 to early 2014, affecting approximately 4.6 million customers. But in a statement, Scottrade said it had no idea that the breach had occurred until law enforcement officials told them about it.
Remember: this is a company that is charged with storing real money and managing investments. Let that sink in for a second.
The FBI notified Scottrade of the breach in August but asked that the company hold off on disclosing the attack until it had wrapped up another part of its investigation. The company was cleared to disclose the breach at the end of last week and began informing customers Friday.
To its credit, Scottrade said that it believes attackers obtained only clients' names and street addresses -- not the social security numbers, email addresses and other sensitive data stored in the compromised system. According to the company, the attackers didn't compromise Scottrade's trading platforms, and clients' funds were untouched.
People who had a Scottrade account prior to February 2014 may have been affected by the breach. Those people who Scottrade knows were affected will be notified of that by email. The company isn't suggesting that users change their passwords, since it believes that they remained encrypted during the attack.
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Looking forward, the company said that it has secured the intrusion point the attackers used to get into its systems, and conducted an internal investigation with the help of an unnamed computer security firm. The company also said that it has further secured its network.
These aren't the only data breaches revealed this week. T-Mobile and Experian said yesterday that 15 million people may have been affected by a mammoth breach that could include data like names, birthdates and Social Security numbers.
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ORLANDO, Fla. (May 4, 2015) – VITAS Healthcare, the nation's leading provider of end-of-life care and a long-time supporter of Orlando Health, has pledged a philanthropic gift of $250,000 in support of a Family Retreat Room at Orlando Regional Medical Center Tower. The Family Retreat Room, named after VITAS, is located in the second floor of the Intensive Care Unit at the ORMC Tower.
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VITAS has worked closely with Orlando Health for years to ensure that hospice patients returning to their homes receive the end-of-life care and support they need. Patients in the ICU are some of the most critical patients that the hospital cares for and those patients' families experience a lot of stress when they visit their loved ones.
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By James Truitt, Archives Digitization Technician at the Friends Historical Library of Swarthmore College, writing on behalf of the Haverford College Quaker & Special Collections
Quaker minister Mary Kite was not like most Friends you may have heard of. Kite was born only a few months before well-known Quaker minister Lucretia Mott (Kite in late 1792, Mott at the start of 1793), and like Mott she was an outspoken woman who traveled widely to spread her message. However, in many ways the two were strikingly different.
Mary Kite identified as a Wilburite Friend, a member of a minority group among U.S. Quakers who followed minister John Wilbur in opposing Orthodox Friends' increasing evangelicalism in the 1840s and 1850s. Kite's religious beliefs were somewhat unusual for a Quaker of her time period. She was very "fire and brimstone," advocating the necessity of submitting to God's will and walking the "narrow way" of righteousness despite the personal suffering it entailed. Atypically for a member of a pacifist religious society, she was in the habit of discussing "the Church militant" and "Christian warfare." I have not seen these traits in any other Quaker whose writings we have catalogued for this project, and today I would like to bring attention to another of Kite's peculiarities: her belief in the devil's active role in the world. This unusual worldview raises a number of questions that it might be fruitful for researchers to explore.
Kite routinely discussed her personal struggles with the devil in her journals and correspondence. Most of these references involve his efforts to tempt someone or weaken someone's faith. A letter from Kite to her brother from 1852 provides an example. Kite had just returned from a long journey visiting Quaker meetings in the South; reflecting on the trip, she wrote that
"though . . . I did endeavour to be faithful, yet the Enemy has been permitted to buffit and try me; calling in question the rectitude of my movement, But I can at times say, 'Get the[e] hence, Satin; Thou wert a liar from the beginning.' None need be alarmed at his whisperings, or the depth of discouragement they may be plunged into. Our compassionate Master tho he may see meet to hide his face for a season, and permit the Enemy to rage and storm against us . . . yet He cannot go beyond his chain, his power is limited."
This excerpt illustrates one of the devil's attempts to tempt Kite or inspire doubt in her. By "calling into question the rectitude of my movement," he caused Kite to doubt whether she had done the right thing in traveling south, a mission she believed was divinely inspired. The passage also shows the place of the devil in Kite's theology: subservient to God, ultimately harmless, and only able to act through God's permission.
One of the most fascinating aspects of Kite's views on the devil is the role she believed he played in Quaker meetings for worship and in the schisms that wracked the Society of Friends in the mid-nineteenth century. Quakers practice silent worship at their meetings, waiting quietly until moved by God to speak. Kite's writings suggest she believed the devil could also move someone to speak in meeting. In a diary entry from 1829 Kite wrote about being unsure whether what she had said was divinely or diabolically inspired. "This morning in Meeting," she wrote,
"a subject spread before my mind and I thought I endeavourd to weigh it well, to ascertain from what source it came. . . . I believed it to be in obedience to [God's] will that I arose, [but] after saying a little the way closed up, and the subject was left unfinished, and my poor mind introduced into great distress, the enemy busily spreading before my mind what might be said and what would be the consequence."
The passage presents a fascinating inside look at the process Kite went through before speaking in meeting. The text is highly aware of the possibility of diabolical inspiration; Kite was unsure of the source of the subject coming to her mind, and did her best to make sure it was divine before rising to speak. Having risen, the inspiration faded, and she thought she recognized "the enemy" (i.e., the devil) influencing her thoughts. Kite's belief that both God and the devil could be active in a Friends' meeting challenges common ideas about Quaker worship and suggests further questions about what Kite believed she was trying to do when she sat silently in the meetinghouse.
Quakerism in the United States went through a number of changes in the first half of the nineteenth century, and Mary Kite drew on her belief in diabolical inspiration and the devil's activity in the world to explain the schisms that twice split the Society of Friends during her lifetime. In 1827 the Philadelphia Yearly Meeting of the Society divided over the teachings of minister Elias Hicks, separating into "Orthodox" and "Hicksite" branches (Kite belonged to the former); other yearly meetings in the United States soon followed suit. The causes for the controversy are complicated but can be summarized as a disagreement over Hicks's contention that Quakers should give more spiritual authority to the continuing revelation of the Inner Light than to scripture. In the decades after the schism many Orthodox Friends, seeking to distance themselves from these radical ideas, stressed the importance of scripture and deemphasized the Inner Light, thereby bringing themselves into greater conformity with the evangelical Protestant sects then dominant in the U.S. These Orthodox Quakers were called Gurneyites after British minister Joseph John Gurney, a leading proponent of their theology; the minority of Friends who opposed them were known as Wilburites. The friction between these two groups eventually led to a series of further schisms in the 1840s and 1850s.
It is clear from Kite's correspondence that she fell within the Wilburite minority, and she attributed both the spread of Gurneyite ideas and the earlier Hicksite schism to the influence of the devil. Her writings from these periods are full of lamentation over the state of the Society of Friends and its members' widespread desertion from what she saw as proper Quaker principles. In a journal entry from 1829, Kite explicitly blamed the Hicksite controversy on the devil:
"Mourning, lamentation and sorrow, may indeed be the clothing of the few that are left, when they behold the pealed, the stripd, the reduced state, of our once highly favourd society, which in the last few years has known confusion discord and contention, sown in her ranks by the enemy of all good, who has carried off very many with his baits, and some that stood as Fathers and Mothers in the church have been caught in the snare."
The "confusion, discord, and contention" in the Society of Friends which Kite referred to was almost certainly the Hicksite schism, which had come to a head just two years earlier. If this reading is correct, Kite believed the devil ("the enemy of all good") had "carried off" many Quakers, using Elias Hicks's teachings as "bait" to lure the devout into the "snare." The schism, in Kite's eyes, was no mere disagreement or misunderstanding among humans, but the result of the machinations of pure evil.
Kite applied the same lens of satanic activity to the Gurneyite-Wilburite controversy two decades later. "Many deep conflicts and discouragements abound in our poor Society," she wrote in an 1845 letter to a friend named Benjamin, "because of the present departure from First Principles in many that have stood as Watchmen and Watchwomen on our Walls, and who faithfully guarded the Flock against the Infidelity of Elias Hicks's principles, yet now have been snared and taken in the present stratagem." While the passage does not explicitly refer to the devil, "snare" and "stratagem" are words Kite frequently applied to diabolical activity, and the terms portray the situation as arising from the deliberate plan of some intelligence. Moreover, the text draws a parallel between the "infidelity of Elias Hicks's principles," which Kite believed to be a snare of the devil, and the "present stratagem" of the Gurneyite-Wilburite controversy. These considerations suggest that Kite understood a good deal of what went on in the Society of Friends during her lifetime as the work of the devil.
Kite's belief in the devil's active role in her life, the Quaker meetings she attended, and the controversies that rent the religious society to which she belonged sets her apart from other Quaker women ministers of her time. The papers of Hicksite Lucretia Mott and Gurneyite Rebecca Collins, also digitized for the In Her Own Right project, reveal little or no concern with diabolical influence. Quaker thought on the devil has been little explored by scholars and I hope that the availability of Kite's papers will provide a great opportunity for researchers to do so.
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What a concept. It made so much sense. I've also heard it said that "all you ever give up is just one drink — the first one." That really shrinks the task down to size. There is no way of bypassing the first drink in order to take the second one. That "first drink" philosophy is airtight.
When I came into recovery for food addiction, I heard a similar concept — "first bite." The slogan was loud and clear: "We don't pick up the first bite." The same logic holds true for food as for alcohol. If you don't pick up the first bite, you won't trigger the food addiction process. Pick up the first bite and you are walking around drunk on binge food again!
Now that I have had a number of years to think about it, I can see there are a variety of "first bites" from which we abstain — the first compulsive bite, the first spontaneous bite, the first addictive bite. What does this all mean?
When we eat to soothe feelings, that is compulsive eating. The irony here is that we eat to feel better; that which makes us feel worse. Eating because of uncomfortable feelings never worked. It only numbed us for a while but never resolved the feelings. Those could be ignored for a while as we ate out of control, but they never went away. That, of course, increased the amount and frequency of food necessary to dull the pain. This is an example of progression — food addiction is a progressive disease.
We abstain from overeating or volume eating. This means we no longer eat two or three bowls of food. We use our scale, cup and measuring spoon in order to manage volume. Too much food will trigger active addiction — we just don't know how many bowls of cereal will do it. If we eat the cereal according to our food plan, we are safe. If we stray, there is no telling what will happen. There is real security in maintaining the structure of the food plan.
It has to do with "permission giving" — reaching out and eating what we want when we want it. We give ourselves permission to eat a bite of vegetable while we are preparing meals, or we allow an apple in the middle of the afternoon. Since abstinence is based on having a plan and sticking to it, spontaneous eating is obviously not part of our strategy for recovery. Spontaneous eating constitutes a breakdown of discipline and is part of the relapse process. An extra this or that today leads to total loss of control in the future. Like it or not, recovery is about discipline. Disciplined eating is a safe way of life in recovery. Planning what to eat, and eating what we plan, is our goal.
Recovery ends with addictive eating. Above all, we abstain from addictive eating which is the act of ingesting addictive substances. This behavior puts us back into full-blown disease. We again know the meaning of powerless; our lives become unmanageable. This is the end of our happiness, joy and freedom. What are the substances that trigger the madness for a food addict?
One day at a time, we can choose not to pick up the first bite of anything that will lead us back into the disease process. We have a choice when we have a program of recovery. There is help, there is hope, and there is a way out of food addiction.


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October 2009 Blog Posts (9)
Power Moves: Sean Archer Lands Syndication for Radio Show Via Reewine Radio
Caption: (L to R) Apex the Ringtone Guru, TJ Chapman, Sean Archer
7 Cities, VA-based music entrepreneur Sean Archer has expanded his reach from the typical path of recording artist into areas of promotions, marketing, and now radio. Earlier this year, he launched "The Indie Top Ten Plus One" which featured a countdown style broadcast solely consisting of unsigned artists submitted from the music community. The broadcast started on Worldwide… Continue
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BET Hip Hop Awards Cypher - Mighty Mos, Tariq, and EM
I must admit, BET was on its camera-banning policy extra hard this year because this footage leaks early in most cases - In any event, this is the cypher featuring MOS DEF, Black Thought of the legendary Roots crew, and Eminem. Slim Shady has never left his battle roots despite being the world's top selling hip hop artist as evidenced by the… Continue
Added by Mumbo Sauce on October 28, 2009 at 12:09am — No Comments
Melle Mel Drops Science on The Evolution of Hip-Hop (VIDEO)
Hip hop pioneer and one of the best to ever do it, Melle Mel was on the radio discussing his views on hip-hop. He drops his opinions on female MCs, New York MCs, how gang culture has infiltrated hip hop, and other subjects. He is someone who has witnessed the entire evolution of the hip hop culture since he was around since its birth and his early records helped steer the direction of hip hop.
Credit:… Continue
Added by Mumbo Sauce on October 24, 2009 at 6:46am — No Comments
JPBTV Cancels Ripple Effect and Hip Hop Buffet Series?!
For those of you unaware of the Pittsburgh hip hop scene, CEO of JPB Inc, Da Button Pusha has been putting in serious work for years in support of the underground and independent scene.
She recently announced that after the series finale of the Ripple Effect and Hip Hop Buffet, the two showcases will be put to rest.
The Ripple Effect has been running strong for 6 years and Hip Hop Buffet Series has been on and running for 4… Continue
Lupe Wants MTV Respect, Performs "Fire" LIVE (Video)
In this clip, Chi-town Guevara Lupe Fiasco comments on the MTV's hottest listing and promises to go in for two years straight and deliver quality music so that he can be mention in that top. He follows that with "Fire" which is a Hendrix looped track that is kinda hot… Continue
Yo Gotti ft. Gucci, Nicki Minaj, Trina - "5 Star Chick"
Yo Gotti is back with the remix - Who do you think stole the… Continue
Nas Drops His Views on Chicago Youth, Senseless Killing (Video)
In the video clip provided courtesy of BET, hosted by Worldstarhiphop.com, Nas discusses the killing of the young boy from Chicago who was an honors student that has made headlines throughout the mainstream media and hip hop culture. For those who haven't seen the video, the killing was videotaped for the world to see.
In reaction to the killing, Nas penned an open letter to Chicago youth via his blog on Global Grind.
BET read the letter and brought Nas on 106… Continue
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50 Cent Chats Directly with Fans
The embedded clip is footage of 50 Cent speaking to fans directly via his Thisis50 Ustream channel.
Ustream gives artists the ultimate opportunity to share their experience with fans who can call in or send messages via chat or Twitter.com
Great areas to Ustream:
Concert footage
In-store… Continue
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B.G. Readies Too Hood To Be HollyWood
New Orleans hip hop legend B.G. is back with his 11th solo disc entitled "Too Hood 2 Be Hollywood".
The LP will be released on E1 Music/Chopper City/Atlantic on 11/24.
The album will lead off w/ "Back to the Money" followed by "My Hood" produced by longtime collaborator Mannie Fresh.
"Sometimes I am denied my props but it's cool," says B.G. "I am coming back and taking everything the game owes me. It doesn't owe me… Continue


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Душан Кандић (Београд, 4. јануар 1928 — Београд, 11. јул 1979) био је српски филмски и позоришни глумац.

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| 1952. || Сви на море  || Музичар, на усној хармоници
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| 1959 1960. || Сервисна станица  ТВ серија || Мали
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| 1961. || Нема малих богова  || Мали
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| 1961. || Срећа у торби  || Мали (као Д. Кандић)
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| 1961. || На тајном каналу ТВ серија || Канда
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| 1962. || Звиждук у осам  || Тип са ролнама
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| 1962 1963. || Музеј воштаних фигура ТВ серија || /
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| 1963. || Мушкарци  || Комшија 2
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| 1966. || Сан   || Милован
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| 1966. || Сервисна станица  ТВ филм || Мали
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| 1967. || Златна праћка  || Дугачки Џо (као Д. Кандић)
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| 1968. || Пусти снови  || ТВ редитељ
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Спољашње везе

Рођени 1928.
Умрли 1979.
Српски глумци
Југословенски глумци
Глумци из Београда

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Sound Off: Cloth Diapering? Yay or Nay?
Yes! As a matter of fact, cloth diapering has become quite the vogue thing to do, especially among environmentally conscious parents. All of the new choices in cloth diapers have made it as easy to use cloth diapers as it is to use disposable diapers. We asked and you told us! Read what a few of our readers say about cloth diapering!
"Yes!!! I started cloth diapering my daughter around 4 months and fell I love. The start up can be pricey but in the long run, so worth it. The best part- you can use them again for future kids too! Saving you even more money. Not only that but they are adorable and have so many cute designs now. Plus they don't have all the nasty chemicals that disposables do and don't fill up our landfills with yucky crap that won't start to decompose for hundreds of years. My favorite brands are "Sunbaby" and "Baby Wizard". There are co ops you can join that you can get them for pretty cheap too." - Estee Howlett
"I will def be using CD. I didn't with the first two who are 1 & 2 and I dread buying diapers at the store every month!!!! I have better things to spend my money on...and I'm becoming more of a tree hugger these days. The fact that it takes a diaper over 500 years to decompose is disgusting and I don't want to have any part in that any more. Hubby is not as excited because he's never even seen a cloth diaper but hopefully once we get into it he will be fully on board." -Akiki Reynolds
We CD!!! I love love love it...at first I was terrified of it. A few of my friends did it and I went to a couple classes at a cloth store and they helped me a lot! Now I couldn't imagine not doing it!" -Brittney Lauren
"I did disposable with my first, but when I realized how much money it would save, I decided to go cloth this time around. I'm pretty excited. I mean I can diaper my kid for $300 total vs $2000. The extra laundry every three days just seemed worth it to me." -Christina Lawrence
"Love cloth! And I will be cloth diapering 2 and will only wash diapers every other day. There will be 6 people in my house so I wash AT LEAST 1 load of regular laundry a day anyway, usually 2. One more doesn't bother me." -Josie Martin
"Mom of 4. I never did the cloth diapers for two reasons one couldn't afford the diaper service and two just liked the convenience of the disposable ones. I know not very Eco-friendly sorry." -Jennifer Guest
"I'm not against it but that's not for me. My electric bill would be a lot higher if I had to do laundry everyday. Poop particles stay in the washer too. So if you don't run a load with just bleach and water after, all the clothes you wash after that is getting poop as particles on them." -Jessica Wilson
"We use disposable diapers for a few reasons. We couldn't afforded the up front costs and there is a bit of work to be done to cloth diapers. My kids are now 1 and 2 and I am glad we did disposables. When a poopy nasty diaper comes you can throw it out and be done. We had a diaper part with #2 instead of a regular part since we still had stuff from #1. Helped bunches! We didn't buy diapers for either kid for close to 6 months. But I kept my eye open for sales and clearance." -Carli Robbins
"I considered using cloths for the purpose of "saving $$" but when researching diaper services (having someone pick up and drop off) there wasn't much of a price difference. Even with cleaning them at home it seemed draining. I hate laundry and to spray and clean poop vs throwing the darn diaper in a pail I chose disposables. It's one less thing to worry about." -Julia McGee
"We are doing disposables...I can't picture having MORE laundry and spending time to clean poop off of the fabric. So it's more expensive, but in the long run it will save me time. I have heard cloth diapers and disposable diapers come out to about the same amount when you consider that you buy them both, need to buy more as the baby gets bigger, pay for a cleaning service to pick them up (unless you do it yourself)." -Maria Greer
71 Things Your Child Needs to Know Before Kindergarten
Have you ever wondered what exactly your child needs to know before kindergarten? Here is a list based upon a Preschool Inventory given to children at the very end of a local Pre-Kindergarten program.
Please keep in mind as you look over this list that kids learn best with hands-on experiences, not memorization or drill practice! These early years with our children should be about fostering a love to play, explore, and learn! Also, it is important to note that our children are all different and gifted in unique ways. This is simply a guide…not something to stress about! Finally, all areas of development are of equal importance to young children! Gross motor and social development tasks are just as important as cognitive and pre-reading tasks at this age.
Have fun learning together through games and various experiences while still encouraging your child's natural creativity!
Personal and Social Development
Approach to learning
Shows eagerness and curiosity as a learner
Persists in task and seeks help when encountering a problem
Is generally pleasant and cooperative
Follows rules and routines
Manages transitions (going from one activity to the next)
Demonstrates normal activity level
Interactions with Others
Interacts easily with one or more children
Interacts easily with familiar adults
Participates in group activities
Takes turns and shares
Cleans up after play
Seeks adult help when needed to resolve conflicts
Uses words to resolve conflicts
Listens with understanding to directions and conversations
Follows one-step directions
Follows two-step directions
Speaks clearly enough to be understood without contextual clues
Relates experiences with some understanding of sequences of events
Literature and Reading
Listens with interest to stories read aloud
Shows interest in reading-related activities
Retells information from a story
Sequences three pictures to tell a logical story
Uses pictures to communicate ideas
Uses scribbles, shapes, and letter-like symbols to write words or ideas
Alphabet Knowledge
Recites/sings alphabet
Matches upper-case letters
Matches lower-case letters
Identifies upper-case letters
Identifies lower-case letters
Mathematical Thinking
Patterns and Relationships
Sorts by color, shape, and size
Orders or seriates several objects on the basis of one attribute
Recognizes simple patterns and duplicates them
Number concept and operations
Rote counts to 20
Counts objects with meaning to 10
Matches numerals
Identifies by naming, numerals 0-10
Geometry and spatial relations
Identifies 4 shapes- circle, square, rectangle, triangle
Demonstrates concepts of positional/directional concepts (up/down, over/under, in/out, behind/in front of, beside/between, top/bottom, inside/outside, above/below, high/low, right/left, off/on, first/last, far/near, go/stop).
Shows understanding of and uses comparative words (big/little, large/small, short/long, tall/short, slow/fast, few/many, empty/full, less/more.
Gross-Motor Skills
Pedals and steers a tricycle
Jumps in place, landing on two feet
Jumps consecutively- 7 jumps
Balances on one foot for 5 seconds
Hops on one foot 2-3 hops
Hops on one foot- 6 ft.
Throws a ball with direction- 5 ft.
Catches a thrown ball with arms and body
Climbs a playground ladder
Skips smoothly for 20 feet
Stacks 10, one-inch blocks
Strings 4 1/2″ beads in two minutes
Completes a seven piece interlocking puzzle
Makes a pancake, snake, and ball from playdough
Grasps pencil correctly
Copies: vertical line, horizontal line, circle, cross, square, V, triangle
Copies first name
Prints first name without a model
Grasps scissors correctly
Cuts within 1/4″ of a 6″ straight line on construction paper
Cuts out a 3″ square on construction paper
Cuts out a 3″ triangle on construction paper
Cuts out a 3″ circle on construction paper
Uses a glue stick appropriately
Uses appropriate amount of glue for tasks
Identifies 10 colors: red, yellow, blue, green, orange, purple, black, white, brown, pink
Uses a variety of art materials for tactile experience and exploration
Music/Movement
Participates in group music experiences
Participates in creative movement/dance
Creative Dramatics
Makes believe with objects
Takes on pretend roles and situations
8 Discipline Mistakes Parents Make
You know the drill: You give your child an ultimatum -- "Get dressed or we're staying home!" -- and naturally she says, "Okay, we'll stay home!" Might as well plant a big "L" on your forehead. We all see our discipline efforts backfire on occasion (hey, you're tired!), and of course there are those battles just not worth fighting (no kid ever flunked preschool because his teeth were furry). But you do need to prove you're the parent at least some of the time. Learning to avoid these discipline land mines can help you hop to it.
Way to Blow It #1: Tell a Big Ole Lie
"My two-year-old daughter, Chloe, fights me about going to her babysitter's house every Monday," says New Jersey mom Gina Kane. One morning when Chloe refused to get out of the car, "I pointed to the house next door and told her it was a daycare center run by the caveman from the Geico commercials, which really scare her," says Kane. "I said she had a choice: Go to the sitter's house or to the caveman's daycare." Mission accomplished -- Chloe dashed to the sitter's door. Fast-forward a week: The babysitter casually asked Kane if she knew of a daycare center in the neighborhood because her daughter couldn't stop talking about it. "I was mortified having to explain, and Chloe now thinks that all daycare centers are run by cavemen," Kane admits. "I'm in big trouble if I ever actually have to send her to daycare."
A Better Way: Little white lies are so tempting in a pinch. You might even get away with them sometimes. Another mom had a great run while her toddler was afraid of a local clown named Macaroni. Whenever he refused to cooperate, she'd just say, "Maybe we should get Macaroni!" and the little guy would immediately don his pj's or gobble his carrots. But as Kane found out, scare tactics can and do come back to bite you in the butt, so it's best to be honest, says Bonnie Maslin, author of Picking Your Battles. Kane could have said instead, "I know sometimes you don't want to go to your babysitter. Sometimes I don't want to go to work." Empathizing would have made the Monday-morning transition easier.
Way to Blow It #2: Back Down
You want a surefire way to make sure your kids never listen to you? Threaten but don't act. My daughter Ella and I recently went for a playdate at a friend's house, where the little girl kept snatching away whatever toy Ella picked up. Her mom would say, "Give that back to Ella or I'll take it away," and then turn back to our conversation. Of course, as soon as Ella moved on to another toy, the little girl wanted that one.
A Better Way: It's no fun to be the bad guy, but if a child acts out, there has to be a consequence. "Repeatedly saying 'If you don't stop throwing sand, I'm going to make you leave the sandbox' won't stop the bad behavior," says Bridget Barnes, coauthor of Common Sense Parenting for Toddlers and Preschoolers.
"What your child hears is 'I can keep doing this a few more times before Mom makes me stop.'"Instead, give a warning, and then, if your child does it again, give an immediate consequence such as a time-out. If he continues, leave. The next time, a gentle reminder should do the trick: "Remember how we had to leave when you threw the sand? I hope we don't have to go home early again today."
Way to Blow It #3: Dis Dad (or Vice Versa)
When Polly Lugosi and her husband, Jim, take their two kids, Zoe, 5, and Miles, 2, out for a treat, this Milwaukie, OR, couple tells them that they have to behave or they won't get it. "Unfortunately, my husband is a complete pushover and always gives them the treat even if they act up," says Polly.
A Better Way: Even though Jim doesn't mean to undermine Polly's efforts, that's exactly what he's doing. Showing a united front won't just help your child behave better, it'll also prevent you from feeling like the bad guy all the time. "If you and your husband prefer to use different punishments, that's okay -- just as long as there are consequences for the same actions," says Nancy Schulman, coauthor of Practical Wisdom for Parents: Demystifying the Preschool Years. When your child is out of earshot, create a list of rules and discuss different options, she says.
Way to Blow It #4: Bribe a Little Too Often
"My two-year-old daughter, Isabelle, has never been a great eater," says Liz Samuel, a mom in Montclair, NJ. "So I once offered her a piece of chocolate if she would just finish her lunch." The reward worked perfectly: Isabelle ate her chicken and sweet-potato fries -- but then she demanded another treat at dinnertime. "Now, whenever I want her to eat, she asks for either chocolate or a lollipop," complains the mom. "Plus, she'll eat just one fry and then expect her treat."
A Better Way: We all need to keep a good bribe up our sleeves -- to get through the grocery store, a church service, or that new episode of Mad Men you had to TiVo because you were too whipped to stay up for it. But the experts insist that reinforcing good behavior is a better way to go. "So instead of saying 'If you're good at Grandma's today, I'll buy you a toy,' try 'I'm really proud of you for sitting so nicely during dinner at Grandma's,'" advises Maslin. And don't underestimate the power of disappointment. "Saying 'I'm really sad you broke the present Daddy gave me' makes a child feel appropriately bad about his behavior," says Maslin. "You may feel like a terrible parent in the moment, but you're actually helping your child develop a conscience."
Way to Blow It #5: Break Your Own Rules
When Anne Wear's 2-year-old son, Brandon, would do things he shouldn't -- take his mom's car keys or pull books off the shelf, for example -- this High Point, NC, mom would slap his hand and say "No, sir!" in a harsh tone of voice. "It worked great," she says, "until his preschool teacher caught him slapping the hands of any child who took his toy or cut in front of him in line!" Wear quickly realized that she couldn't say it was wrong for Brandon to smack his friends' hands when she and her husband, Brian, were doing the same thing to him. "We switched to time-outs," says Wear.
A Better Way: Not only are kids little mimics, emulating your bad behaviors, but they'll call you on it, as Suzi Dougherty found out. Her 2-year-old, Will, knows that throwing toys in the house is a definite no-no. "But one day my husband, Chris, threw a dog toy into the next room, just to get it out from underfoot," says this Newburgh, NY, mom. "Will immediately ordered him into a time-out! Since then, we try to be more careful and follow our own rules," she says. "But on the plus side, at least it showed us that the 'no throwing toys' rule is starting to sink in!"
Way to Blow It #6: Lose It
Taking care of an active toddler requires a lot of patience. But there are times when Gabrielle Howe of Staten Island, NY, finds herself at the end of her rope when dealing with 2-year-old Thea. "One particularly trying day I completely lost it and yelled at Thea," admits this working mom. "She then tried to send me to my room!"
A Better Way: Time-outs aren't just for kids -- they work great for adults, too. "Give yourself permission to walk away," says Schulman. "Take a deep breath, count to ten, and then you'll be much more effective when disciplining your child." Walk into another room if you need to, as long as your child is safe in his crib or a childproofed room. "If you can't leave your child alone, then you should both go into another room," she adds. "Often a change of scenery will help you both cool off." If your husband or a friend is around, just say "I need a break, can you handle this one?" suggests Schulman. And remember that kids are expert at pushing your buttons, but if you can avoid letting the situation escalate by giving one warning and then an immediate consequence, it may help keep you both calm.
Way to Blow It #7: Wait Too Long
Recently I was stuck in traffic with my 2-year-old daughter, Ella, when she started getting fidgety and tried to wiggle out of her car seat. Frustrated by both the slow trip home and the endless rounds of "Row, row, row your boat," I told her that if she didn't put her buckle back on correctly, she wouldn't get to have a bedtime story that night -- a technique that works great when my daughter's procrastinating about getting into her pajamas or brushing her teeth before bed. This time, though, bedtime was hours away -- and the threat pretty much meaningless. Ella didn't stop playing with her seat buckle, and it seemed pointless to remind her about it hours later when she was getting ready for bed.
A Better Way: "Kids don't remember what they did wrong an hour after the fact, never mind the next day," says Barnes. "You want to show them the consequences of their actions as close to the bad behavior as possible." If your child hits a friend with a toy truck, don't cancel tomorrow's playdate -- just take away the truck.Way to Blow It #8: Talk On... and On... and On
My husband, Patrick, tends to launch into long explanations with Ella, like how going to sleep is a good idea because she'll feel well rested for our upcoming busy day at Grandma's house. Tempting as it can be to try and reason with a young child, you might as well be speaking gibberish.
A Better Way: "Kids are not mini-adults," says Barnes. "Long explanations or instructions go right over their heads." Saying "No cookies before dinner" is enough to get the point across; you can skip the lecture about how sweets will spoil a tiny appetite. Keep your words age-appropriate, too. "I had one parent who was tired of always telling his son to stop whining," says Barnes. "Then one day his child finally asked, 'What's whining?'" It's okay to use a term like whining as long as you explain what you mean: "I can't understand you when you whine. Please use your big-boy voice."
Getting Back on Track
You gave a warning, then caved in. Or you yelled at your kid- for yelling at you. Below, how to fix your own bad behavior.
Get Over It "We all make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up. Just say 'I know I said -- or did -- something I shouldn't have. Let's try to all follow these rules from now on.'"
Take it Slow Even if you feel like your discipline techniques need to be completely overhauled, pick two of your top issues and start there. Don't overwhelm your child with 20 new rules. "Sit down when he's calm and go over the rules so he knows what's expected of him.''
Work Around It Let's say your child always has a tantrum over what to eat for breakfast. Rather than duke it out each morning, offer your child just two choices -- say, cereal or eggs -- so he can still feel in control.
Give it Time "It takes time to undo a pattern of bad behavior. If you start being consistent, they'll catch on. It may take ten or twenty times, but they'll get it."
Q&A: How can i entertain baby?
Q&A: How can I entertain baby? I'm trying not to let my baby watch so much TV, but I sometimes have trouble keeping her entertained and engaged. What can I do differently?
Baby's needs and abilities will change along with growth, but active playtime is extremely important during the first year, when the brain is developing at a fast rate. Always keep your baby's physical and mental development in mind when playing together, and remember -- you can have fun, too! Some things to think about as you play...
Encourage exploration
Don't stick baby in a playpen for too long. Take her out and let her explore the room. Babies love to crawl over things, so put some pillows down and let baby navigate her way around them.
Release your inner child
When your baby is able to crawl, get down and crawl with her -- kids love it when you're down on their level.
Give baby a workout
It's important for baby to develop her muscles, and you can show her how. Wiggle your toes, stretch your arms and shake a rattle, so that baby will mimic your movements. Work those arm muscles by giving baby light and small toys to pick up or hold on to.
Change it up
Stimulate baby's mind in different ways -- don't just stick to the same old toys all the time. Blow bubbles at your baby in the park or show baby how you can build different things with soft blocks. In the early months, baby will watch more than play, of course, but you can stimulate reflexes, imagination, and awareness simply by showing her how you play.
Crack open a good book!
Don't underestimate the power of reading to your baby, who naturally loves the sound of mommy's voice. Baby has a short attention span, though, so be sure to have plenty of interactive books on your bookshelf. Touch and feel, lift-a-flap and scanimation books are especially fun.
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10 Ways to Tame a Tantrum
We probably don't have to tell you this: When toddlerhood hits so do the meltdowns (sorry!). Wouldn't it be awesome if you could stop your toddler's tantrums in their tracks -- or prevent them from happening in the first place? Say no more.
Toddlers often throw fits when you've told them they're not allowed to do or have something, or when you want them to do something they don't want to (like leave the playground!). One solution is to create ground rules up front. Tell your child that if you say it's time to leave the playground, they must leave the playground. Make it known that resistance isn't going to change that. Then, when it's time to go, don't let them convince you to stay -- even if it's only five minutes longer.
"You shouldn't say it's not okay to throw food one day and then let the child do it the next, for example," says Alanna Levine, MD, a pediatrician in New York City and spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics. Over time, your toddler will start to learn what behavior is expected of them, and they'll likely learn to cooperate better.
Get Everyone In on It
"You and other caregivers, like your babysitter and partner, should be on the same page with how to handle it when the rules are broken," says Levine. That way, your toddler's less likely to try to push the boundaries around different people.
When your child starts freaking out, it's really easy to have your own little eruption -- but know that if you yell, cry or get mad, it could just make the episode worse. So remind yourself that this is what toddlers do sometimes, and try not to take it personally. Even if you feel like screaming, don't let him know it. "Take a deep breath and start acting," says Levine. "You don't want two people upset and hysterical." Hey, if you model calm behavior, maybe your toddler will take a hint and learn to be calmer when he's angry, too. (That might take some extra time though.)
Call for Backup
Simply can't keep your cool? Make sure your toddler is in a safe place, like his crib or a playpen, then take a step back and call for help. "Tell your husband you're about to lose it, and let him step in so you can leave," says Levine. It will probably be easier for him to approach the situation without stressing, if he wasn't part of its escalation. (And remember to help him out in the same way in the future, when he's part of an explosive situation.)
Ignore the Outburst
Sometimes toddlers just want attention. It doesn't matter to them if it's positive or negative attention, and a tantrum is a great way to get it. So maybe instead of punishing or yelling at your child, let him work it out himself. We're not saying ignore him -- just comfort him and wait until he calms down. And most important, don't give in. "Toddlers are at a tough age -- they don't have the mental capacity to problem-solve and reason," says Levine. "Consistently show them that a tantrum isn't an effective way to get what they want." Over time, the fits will likely occur less frequently.
Distract, Distract, Distract
"There are some parents who can distract their children out of their tantrums," says Levine. "So if they see their child getting hysterical, they tell them a joke or ask them if they want a piece of candy or do something silly to distract them. That works for some kids, but for some kids it won't." Do a few experiments to see what works for yours.
Communicate Right
Teach your child the skills she needs to ask you -- nicely -- for the things she wants. Your kid should know that if she wants a cookie while you're in the grocery aisle, instead of creating a scene, she should ask you without whining. That means plenty of prep work. Explain all this stuff at a time when she's calm, in simple terms she can understand. Then when you're in the thick of it, remind her of how she's supposed to ask for things.
"In the moment a toddler's screaming, even if you talk rationally, she's not going to hear it," says Levine. "Explain -- out of the moment -- that mommy wants her to smile when she asks for something and that you won't do what she wants if she's screaming and crying for it. Then when the time comes, remind her: 'What kind of face does mommy want?'"
Resist a Quick Fix
Okay, we know the title of this article is "10 Ways to Tame a Tantrum," but sometimes you actually shouldn't stop the blowup while it's happening -- especially if it means breaking the rules to make a quick fix. For example, if your toddler isn't allowed to have cookies until after dinner but she wants one while you're at the supermarket, resist the urge to give her a cookie right then and there to stop the shouting. Know that sticking to those rules you've created won't stop this flare-up, but it will help prevent future ones. Have faith that your consistency will work.
Walk Out the Door
Stuck in the grocery aisle with a toddler who just won't stop screaming, no matter what you do? "Sometimes you just need to ditch the shopping cart and leave the store," says Levine. The change of scenery will likely change the behavior. And, let's face it, your home is a much more safe-feeling place for your toddler -- so go there.
Know Your Child's Limits
The more uncomfortable your toddler is, the higher the odds of a tantrum. So make every effort to stick closely to her comfort zone. "If bedtime is 7:30, don't go out to dinner at 8 p.m. and expect her to behave," says Levine. "Keep your child's moods and schedule in mind. They need to eat and sleep."
_Elena Donovan Mauer
What are some of the things you do to control those tantrums?
Attention all parents! THIS IS AWESOME! What a great way to start a birthday, waking up to a balloon filled room!
Best and Worst Things About Having a Newborn
Don't get us wrong. The pros of having a baby always outweigh the cons. But it's tough being a new mom. These ladies reveal the best -- and worst -- parts of those crazy first few months.
"The best: the constant cuddles. The worst: not knowing what's wrong when they're fussy." -Erin
"You finally get to meet your bundle of joy! But the worst is when they're up every three hours to eat. It's totally nerve-racking to make sure you hold their head right." -Ashlee
"There's a feeling of total amazement of bringing a life into the world. But there's also the fear that I'm going to mess up somehow -- the constant concern that I'm just not doing it right at all." -Karlee
"The best: her! The worst: unsolicited advice. Ugh!" -Lisa
"The best is the beautiful, sweet and cuddly life in your arms! The worst is sleep. But you eventually get over that!" -Grace
"I hate when they spit up on you 10 times in a day and you don't have the wardrobe to change that many times because you're still losing the baby weight. The best is when you're at your wit's end, and they look right into your eyes and smile with a toothless grin." -Christina
"I love having this little miracle who's obsessed with me. I hate having to leave her and feeling guilty." -Robyn
"The best is their little smiles. The worst: Their poop stinks!" -Pricilla
"The best is having this beautiful little man in my life. The worst is the baby blues." -Natalie
"The whole package is pretty great. Though, for me, the worst was when my mom kept hovering and was complaining that she didn't get to hold him as much as everyone else. All I wanted was a few quiet days at home with just my man, my son and me." -Steph
"The best was seeing how he had bits of me and DH in him. The worst was having to divide time between my baby and my older son." -Marcella
"I was so happy to finally meet this little person. The worst was right after delivery when it feels like you've been hit by a Mack truck and feeling like you're damaged beyond repair (even though you'll get better eventually!)." -Jane
"I think every single part of a newborn is awesome, from the yucky nappies to the waking you up so many times a night for a feeding. It's part of the package, and it's the best package anyone could ever get." -Kate
Funny Ways Toddlers Say "I Love You"
Ah, there are so many ways to say those three little words. Like, with pancakes (read on!).
Nothing's better than hearing "I love you" come from your child's sweet mouth. But when the little guy is still in that babbling phase and lives in a world of superheroes and princesses, that sentiment can come out in some hilarious ways. Here are seven, let's call them "unique," ways Bumpies say their tots express their love.
"DS tells me that he's going to put syrup on me and eat me up. I take it as a compliment since he loves pancakes!" -Laurie
"'I love you as much as stars, unicorns and rainbows!' Sometimes she adds new things to the mix like horses and flowers too." -Connie
"My bundle of joy can't quite say 'love,' so she says, "I too, Mommy.'" -Tara
"She doesn't realize that we kiss with our lips, so she smacks her tongue against the roof of her mouth to mimic a kissing sound." -Gabrielle
"I love you three much." -Kara
"I love you like many Christmas trees and superheroes." -Sarah
"My daughter first started saying 'I love you,' I would always respond with an 'I love you too, baby.' So then she started just saying 'too, baby.' And that's how we've said it ever since!" -Tina
Most Common Pregnancy Symptoms
Think the stork may be planning to pay you a visit? From sore boobs to bloating and food cravings, here are the top 10 pregnancy signs.
#1: Sore Boobs
Tender breasts and nipples are often the first pregnancy sign (like when you get your period, only worse). Sore boobs are the result of pregnancy-related hormonal changes.
#2: Darkening Areolas
Darkening areolas (the area around the nipples) can appear as early as a week or two after conception, like so many early pregnancy symptoms, this one is also a result of hormonal surges.
#3: Spotting
Light bleeding may occur five to 10 days after conception; this is called "implantation bleeding" and it is a sign that the embryo has implanted itself in the uterine wall (home for the next nine months!).
#4: Frequent Urination
Peeing a lot more than usual starts about two to three weeks after conception. After the embryo has implanted in your uterus, your body produces a hormone known as hcG, which leads to frequent urination.
#5: Fatigue (we're talking total exhaustion)
Loss of energy sets in thanks to hormones and your body's efforts to nurture baby's development. Get tips on how to cope with first trimester fatigue.
#6: No Aunt Flo
Missed your your period? You might want to invest in a pregnancy test. Find out when is the best time to take a pregnancy test to get the most accurate result.
#7: Morning Sickness
The one-two punch of nausea and vomiting strike some women very early in their pregnancy but for most sufferers the fun begins around week six. Get morning sickness tips for minimizing nausea and vomiting.
#8: Sensitive Snout
Your newly increased powers of smell can make your favorite dish smell like dead fish. Find out what causes a heightened sense of smell and get tips for coping with it.
#9: Cravings
Studies show that about 90% of pregnant women experience food cravings, especially in their first trimester. Get ideas for healthier alternatives for feeding unhealthy pregnancy cravings.
#10: Bloating
A boost in progesterone and estrogen cause many women to swell up early in pregnancy. Try these expert tips for reducing bloat.
These pregnancy symptoms can be uncomfortable but they usually settle down after the first trimester and will all seem worth it when your holding your new baby in your arms.
Should Hospitals Really Lock Away the Formula?
In a move that's sure to add fuel to the great breast vs. formula debate, the New York City Health Department will soon launch a new breastfeeding initiative that will affect new mothers city-wide. Beginning Sept. 3, the voluntary "Latch On NYC" program will allow maternity hospitals to lock away infant formula for the better good of breastfeeding.
What exactly will this mean for new moms? To start, you won't see promotions or advertisements for formula brands at your hospital. City officials hope that eliminating ads will let women decide which form of feeding is best for baby without being influenced by advertising. Those who choose the bottle route — whether due to personal preference or breastfeeding difficulties — will only be able to get formula after a nurse has properly signed the food out.
This isn't the first step taken by health officials to make formula less prominent in hospitals. In 2007, hospitals started to ban formula from gift bags. Lanyards and mugs with formula brands' logos were also prohibited. Today, 27 of the city's 40 hospitals participate in the ban. Massachusetts health officials followed suit earlier this month after putting a stop to free formula giveaways throughout the state's 49 hospitals.
The push away from the bottle was made by NYC Health Commissioner Thomas Farley after studying the benefits of breast milk. "Human breast milk is best for babies and mothers," said Farley. "When babies receive supplementary formula…it can impede the establishment of an adequate milk supply and can undermine women's confidence in breastfeeding."
American Academy of Pediatrics agrees, recommending mothers breastfeed exclusively for their baby's first six months and continuing to breastfeed for at least the first year. The Greater New York Hospital Association says that while ninety percent of NYC moms start breastfeeding immediately after giving birth, that number shrinks to thirty-one percent two months later.
Do you think banning free formula samples and locking away formula at hospitals can help promote breastfeeding? Or do you think these new rules are excessive?
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I have just returned from a trip to Australia and every time I revisit I pick up more tips on how to conquer this vast and amazing country. Australia is a long way away so here is some travelling advice on how to see as much as possible, save yourself money and make the most out of the precious time that you have there.
Australia is the opposite to Europe when it comes to the weather patterns. This means June to August are the winter months and December to February are the hottest. In summer it gets very humid in the northern part of Australia. This means mosquitoes, stifling heat and also the threat of cyclones. Sometimes certain destinations are cut off by flooding and it is more dangerous to travel around by car. I suggest heading down to South Australia, Victoria and New South Wales at this time of year. The weather of course may still be hot, but the days are long and beautiful and often the landscape is lush and green and beautiful to visit. There are some great trips out to vineyards near Adelaide, you could make a trip along the famous Great Ocean Road and venture out to the fabulous Blue Mountains National Park just outside Sydney. It can get quite cold down south in the winter, the days are short and everything is a bit dry. This is the time to pack your bags and fly up to Cairns or Darwin. Don't worry, it won't be cold up there but much more bearable than the summer months! It is easier to access places like Kakadu National park near Darwin in dry season and outside storm season, the Great Barrier Reef off the Queensland Coast provides better weather conditions and visibility for snorkelling and diving.
If you're travelling with anyone else then I would suggest hiring a campervan for at least part of your journey. This is a great way to save money and to see some of the awesome sights that can often be way off the beaten track. You can also travel at your own pace and have the flexibility to change your plans if you decide to stay longer or shorter in one particular location. So why a van? Hostel beds are charged per person whereas campsites spots are often charged per car. There are also free camping sites up and down the country so get a guide and make full use of these. Fuel is cheaper in Australia than lots of other countries and filling up the tank could be much more economical than buying a greyhound bus ticket. There are many camper van companies that will actually give you an incentive to deliver a van from A to B. Sometimes you are rewarded with a fuel voucher or even free hire if you are able to deliver one of their vans to a specific location.
Australia is bigger than Europe so you've got to be realistic about the time frame that you have to work with. In saying that, there is a lot of 'in between' space that doesn't necessary have to provide stop offs. If you really focus on mapping out what you want to see then you can cover quite a lot of ground and hit all the great tourist hot spots. Make sure however you do get to see some of the 'real' Australia. Whereas the Sydney Opera House and Ayers Rock are undeniably major contesters for most people's bucket lists, just driving through the vast outback or down the beautiful coastal regions provide unbeatable moments. Think about the time of year that you are visiting and where you will get the most out of your travelling experience. If you are lucky enough to be staying a whole year then plan ahead with travelling and working so that you can get the best out of both worlds by being in the right location at the right time.
If you are coming from Europe and haven't experienced many long-haul flights, then the thought of taking a plane all the way to Australia can be pretty daunting. If you have time, why not think about breaking up the journey a little to give you a chance to recoup and visit another country. Thailand is a great place to pit stop to have a few days exploring Bangkok or relaxing for a week or so on a tropical beach. Emirates always pit stop in Dubai so why not spoil yourself in a lavish hotel and take advantage of one of the best places in the world for shopping. Another option is to take advantage of all the great locations on the other side of the world that you may not have necessarily visited otherwise. If you have time, take a few trips from Australia such as a ski holiday on New Zealand's South Island or a beach break in Bali, Fiji or Vanuatu. If you fly one way around the world, try to go back the other way (if it's not too expensive!) Travel across the Americas and visit Hawaii, LA or New York!
Oyster offer two work programmes in Australia and one in New Zealand. We offer provide worthwhile conservation projects throughout both countries too. And why not think about our awesome surf instructor programme just outside Sydney?


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"The Old Woman in the Wood" () is a German fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm, tale number 123.  It is Aarne-Thompson type 442.

Synopsis
A beautiful but poor servant girl was traveling with the family she worked for when robbers attacked them. She hid behind a tree, but no one else survived. She lamented her fate and a dove came to her with a golden key. He told her to unlock a tree and she found food there. In the evening, he brought her to a tree with a bed. She lived like this for many days. When the dove asked her to do something for him, she agreed. He told her to go to a house and go in. An old woman would greet her, but she should not answer. She should open an inner door, which will reveal a room full of splendid rings, but she should take a plain one.

The old woman was quite angry, but the girl did not heed her. Then, when she could not see the plain ring, she saw the old woman trying to carry off a birdcage. She took it away from her. It held a bird, which held the ring in its beak, so she took it outside and waited against a tree. Two branches turned into arms about her as the tree turned into a handsome man who kissed her. He told her that the old woman was a witch who had turned him into a tree, and for two hours a day, he became a dove, and she had freed him. All his attendants turned back from trees to humans as well. With the prince being the king's son, they went to his father's kingdom and got married.

In popular culture
"The Old Woman in the Wood"  is featured in Grimm's Fairy Tale Classics, with several changes. The talking dove is an owl, his tree form only appears at the end, and in his owl form, he has more direct interactions with the servant girl, here named Lisbeth. The witch attacks the family with a horde of goblins instead of a band of robbers. The tasks that Lisbeth faces are slightly different from the original ones: she must go inside the house when the witch isn't home; look for a specific magical key in the witch's treasury, one whose handle is shaped like a human head; use it on a specific door (which turns out to be the nose of a skull placed on top of a rotating shelf); then find a gold ring and bring it to the owl. In addition, she cannot talk or even scream while she is in the house.

See also

 The Hut in the Forest
 Jorinde and Joringel

External links

 The Old Woman in the Wood

Fictional servants
Grimms' Fairy Tales
Female characters in fairy tales
Fiction about shapeshifting
Witchcraft in fairy tales
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Eagle Council Wants Greenbelt Open To Bikes In G.C.
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In a move that may be a wave of the future, yet another local government has joined the will of the people.
The Citizens for an Open Greenbelt (COG) made its case to the Eagle City Council on Tuesday, seeking to get the Greenbelt opened to bikes in the Garden City stretch currently blocked to bikes. It was apparently a compelling argument prompting the Eagle City Council to vote unanimously to take a public position in support of opening bicycle access through the section of the Riverside Village Subdivision of Garden City. Additionally Eagle elected officials want to immediately open a dialogue with the Garden City Mayor and Council to make this happen.
COG chairman Gary Segers told the GUARDIAN, "This is no longer an issue that just the Citizens for an Open Greenbelt has with Garden City. It now includes another major city in the Treasure Valley that believes the Garden City bike ban has a significant and negative impact on it's residents, businesses, and users of the Eagle Greenbelt."
Perhaps Boise's City Council can take a hint from the bikers and Eagle councilors and urge Garden City to, "Tear Down That Wall."
bikeboy
I salute the Eagle City Council! And agree with the Guardian that the time for Boise to weigh in is past due. (And where's COMPASS? They're supposed to be the organization that ties everything-transportation together into a neat package.)
It's a crying shame that Garden City's "leadership" maintains its provincial attitude. What part of "continuous bike path connecting Lucky Peak and Eagle" don't they understand? (The obvious but unstated answer – Riverside Village was sold as having their own PRIVATE riverside path, when in fact it has always been public property. And Mayor John Evans lives in Riverside Village and was the developer. Or… maybe that's all just a weird coincidence.)
Okay… I've vented.
Whoa, Maybe the two opposing city attornies can spend millions fighting each other, just like a jucy divorse.
Instead we can just cut off water to Garden city until they want to cut a deal.
boisecynic
COG may be going at it the wrong way. The bike ban is but another symptom of a greater problem. The very existence of Garden City itself. Garden City is like a dagger stuck in the neck of Boise. A real pain in the neck.
It's time the State of Idaho got involved and forced the consolidation of Boise and Garden City.
There's precedent for this. In 1907, the separate cities of Pittsburgh and Allegheny were consolidated in an election which the State had allowed that guaranteed a consolidation. Case went to SCOTUS and was upheld.
See Hunter vs Pittsburgh
Zippo,Instead we can just cut off water to Garden city until they want to cut a deal.
I think Garden City should pass a resolution condemning the former eagle city council, mayor or whoever at the city signed the lease for the eagle city hall that they have now. what a crock of hooey. The resolution should also state that the Garden City council recommends to the city of Eagle that they go fly a kite.
Zippo- Until Garden City quits being turds, maybe we just refuse theirs (sewer).
ola- While cities should keep their nose in their own business, resolutions and working together is not a bad thing.