do you derive joy when someone else succeeds do you not play dirty when engaged in competition do you have a big intellectual capacity but know that it alone does not equate to wisdom do you see everything as an illusion but enjoy it even though you are not of it are you both masculine and feminine politically aware and don t believe in capital punishment these are 21 things that i want in a lover not necessarily needs but qualities that i prefer do you derive joy from diving in and seeing that loving someone can actually feel like freedom are you funny and self deprecating like adventure and have many formed opinions these are 21 things that i want in a lover not necessarily needs but qualities that i prefer i figure i can describe it since i have a choice in the matter these are 21 things i choose to choose in a lover i m in no hurry i could wait forever i m in no rush cause i like being solo there are no worries and certainly no pressure in the meantime i ll live like there s no tomorrow are you uninhibited in bed more than three times a week up for being experimental are you athletic are you thriving in a job that helps your brother are you not addicted these are 21 things that i want in a lover not necessarily needs but qualities that i prefer i figure i can describe it since i have a choice in the matter these are 21 things i choose to choose in a lover  are you curious and communicative 2