I imagine it must be extremely painful to be in some interpersonal conflict with this guy. He sounds like he copes with life through analysis. The problem with that is analysis gets in the way of catharsis, which is crucial in resolving conflict. If there is an argument, it's not the time to introduce your complex concepts of how the conversation should go. It's a time to make sure you have people's backs. Support your monkey brain's need to express itself, and support the other person's expression as well. <br>Emotion contains complex information that we can't fully comprehend. That's why expression should come first. There is no correct expression. There is only timing. Either you express what you feel WHEN you feel it, or you delay and miss the moment where it would have mattered. <br>When the emotion is gone, you can no longer express it. If you can no longer express it, the information contained withing the emotion is no longer available. Then we merely relay a memory of a flawed conceptual interpretation. &lt;- But this is how we relate to our own feelings, and there is the problem. <br><br>Maintaining deep harmony in your relationships is the final boss of life. The problem with humanity is one of resource management, which stems from an inability to communicate with ourselves and each other. We are trapped in the invisible terrarium of conceptual reality, and fail to recognize that reality is not measured by the amount of people who perceive it.<br><br>The only hope for humanity is that their pen gets redesigned to the point where it naturally evokes authentic self-expression. Writing books, giving talks or teaching classes.. This can never be enough.,(reply>), sᴇɴᴅ ᴀ ᴍᴇssᴀɢᴇ👆👆👆