"<a href=""https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oCkkjnpS2f8&amp;t=1h26m06s"">1:26:06</a> this is the best explanation I’ve ever heard of control-freaks", power seekers, etc.. People ignore the rush/drug/addiction side of controlling people. Most of us have no control over our environment and habits, so we have a hard time imagining that control can be a negative narcotic-style problem. This helps us understand the rare freaks who have so much power that they actually can control almost everything around them indefinitely,(reply>), In addition to the addiction due to the rush of exercising power there is unfortunately for some a compulsive narcissistic psychological illness that can drive some to exercise power in truly abusive way while feeling deeply guilt and self-loathing inside, only to project all on the subjects of that abuse.<br><br>Lastly but not least there is fear and paranoia factor to holding authoritarian power where one becomes further and further isolated, self-absorbed, and with no ability to trust in anyone for fear they wish to usurp your power or avenge any of your actions taken through your powers. That becomes a power psychology arms race in the internal person of the authoritarian and the external interpersonal relationships with all those around the authoritarian.,(reply>), just look at how much emotional abuse is in a marriage. you marry a person to be happy and end up in a constant fight without leaving or making it better. tyranny starts at home