#1 Of course you're special, you're a creation of God.  #2 The dojo is not a family, its just Ju-jitsu, and if things in your life, often times out of your control change, you will leave and move on. Any school of Martial arts that alludes to or imposes your undying loyalty to them, then you're merely a slave to them. If it doesn't come from you then it is not genuine loyalty.