re christian parenting sorry for posting this but my e mail keeps bouncing maybe it will help others here anyway and therefore i pray others will read this it is actually a response from my aunt who has kids since i have none yet hi i am a sociology student and i am currently researching into young offenders i am looking at the way various groups of children are raised at home at the moment i am formlulating information on discipline within the christian home please if you are a parent in this catagory can you email me your response to the following questionaire all responses will be treated confidentially and will only be used to prepare stats i m posting this for a good christian relative who does not have e mail access since this aunt and uncle have kids i felt they would be more relevant than i who have none yet ages sexes of children year old yo twins yo boy yo boy yo girl do you spank your kids i don t call it spanking but they do so yes very rarely if so how often i don t call it spanking because it s more of a reaction to something very dangerous such as trying to stick their finger in a fan or running into the road maybe times for each except for the yo girl who has not been spanked yet they call it that because it does hurt their feelings and of course i give all the hugs and stuff to ensure they know they re still loved do you use an implement to spank with no that would be too painful if it s too traumatic they never recall why they were punished besides it must be immediate and taking the time to go get a toolmeans you re not doing it right away and that lessens the impact it s very emotional for a child as it is which is evidenced by the fact that a little slap on the rear which hurts for perhaps seconds is called a spanking if you do not spank what method of discipline do you use lots of logical consequences for instance when yo matthew dared a good friend to jump out of his treehouse or he would push him out i made sure they didn t play together for days so he d know that would make him lose friends very quickly he s never done anything like that since we also use time out in their rooms i use a timer so they don t keep arguing with me over leaving since it s hard to argue with a macine i will go to the closed door and tell them timeout won t be over until they calm down if they re too tantrumy i use the top of the stairs when they re really young your age your location bath ohio it s right outside of akron in the northeast part of ohio while under the age of did you ever commit a criminal offence no and none of my kids would dream of it i hope you can use this to teach all parents that physical punishment isn t always required parents use that as an excuse to hit too hard how ere you disciplined as a kid lots of timeouts same as i use our family and my husband s have never used spankings in fact my grandmother in law was one of kids and they were almost never spanked this was around the turn of the century and none of us has ever been afoul of the law man made or god s law jesus says referring to a small child whom he is holding that what ye do to the least of these ye do also to me the bible also says in all things to be kind and merciful and especially loving colossians there is no room for selfish anger which i ll admit i ve been tempted with at times when i ve felt like spanking hard in anger maybe the kid deserved a little slap on the rear but what i would have given would have been the devil s work i could feel the temptation and just angrily ordered the kid to his her room and went to my room myself after praying and asking god s forgiveness i was much calmer and did not feel like spanking but felt that what i had done was enough punishment doug fowler dxf po cwru edu me age now mommys and daddys other ever wonder if after casey relatives have to give lots of hugs love missed the rd strike in the poem support cause heaven is just a great he ran to first and made it big hug that lasts forever and ever
