re prayers and advice requested on family problem julie it is a really trying situation that you have described my brother was living with someone like that and things were almost as bad although he left after a considerably shorter amount of time due to other problems with the relationship anyway the best thing to do would be to get everyone in the same room together optimally in a room with nothing breakable lock the door behind you throw the key out underneath the door just as far as the longest hand can reach you would like to get out after the conclusion i would imagine and hash things out more than likely there will be screaming crying and possibly hitting unless of course someone decided to bring some rope to tie people down some of the best strategies in keeping things calmer would include have each individual own their own statements ie i feel that this relationship is hurting everyone involved because or i really don t understand where you re coming from reinforce statements by paraphrasing etc ie so you think that we did this because of well let me just say that the reason for this was don t accuse each other it was your fault that happened find a common ground about something lampshades really are decorational and functional at the same time guaranteed in a situation like this there is going to be some gunnysacking re hashing topics which were assumed resolved but were truly not and someone feels someone else is to blame however this should be kept to a minimum and simply ask for forgiveness or apologize about each situation without holding a smoldering grudge the relationship really can work it s just a matter of keeping things smooth and even it s sort of like making a peace treaty between warring factions you can t give one side everything there must be a compromise breaks can be taken but communication between everyone involved must continue if the relationships here are to survive joe fisher
