re post jono mac ak rtsg mot com jon ogden writes my advice is this if you know someone that you have the hots for who is not a christian befriend them and try to develop just a friendship with them at the same time witness and share the gospel with them not so that you can date them but so that they can be saved once they become a christian then it is quite possible to let the relationship progress beyond friendship however if they don t accept christ you still have a good friendship and you haven t wasted a lot of emotional energy and gotten hurt while i agree with most of jon says i deleted those parts of course i have serious reservations about this advice maintaining a just friends level of relationship is much easier said than done people usually end up getting hurt this is especially likely to happen when they start off with feelings of attraction when people feel attracted those feelings can cloud their judgement i ve had the experience of going quickly from believing that i shouldn t date non christians to believing that dating this man would be okay to believing that premarital sex is fine when people really love each other when the relationship ended my beliefs immediately returned to their original state this is an especially extreme case because i was young and away from home and fellowship i don t think it would work exactly this way for most people however it s important not to underestimate the power of feelings of attraction jayne kulikauskas jayne mmalt guild org
