text: John Mayer, Russell Brand - there are certain types of men women know are bad bets but fall for anyway and even bright women like Katy Perry and Jennifer Aniston aren't immune. But while no one's perfect and some troubled souls are worth saving, others are just trouble. All of the behavioural traits below are danger signs, offering six crucial clues to spot the dysfunctional people most likely to break your heart. Scroll down for video . Tracey Cox provides advice on whether he loves you or will break your heart . 1. How 'in touch' with themselves are they? Are they aware of their character and personality faults? Do they know their strengths? They don't have to have spent the last decade on a therapist's couch to have done some soul-searching. Have they sorted out the emotional baggage from childhood and past relationships or are they trailing it along behind them? Find out: Ask questions. What are your family like? Are you close to them? Are you friends with your exes? Why did you split up? Did it hurt? How do you stay positive? 2. Are they affectionate and able to express their feelings? Yes, yes, we all know men like to disappear into their caves. But the person who knows what they're feeling and shares their feelings with you is going to be a lot easier to share a bathroom with than the person who locks themselves in it. Find out: Ask them anything to see if they will open up. You seem a bit distant tonight, anything bothering you? Do they grab your arm, kiss you spontaneously, say nice things – or does hugging them feel like you're cuddling an ironing board? 3. Are they honest? Are they a 'good' person? Can you count on them to do the right thing by you and others? Do they treat their friends and family well? Do the right thing in business? Whatever your partner does to other people, they're more than capable of doing to you. Find out: Do they have lots of friends, or have much contact with their family? Are they generally popular, or do people seem a little distrustful of them and stand-offish? Are they well liked at work? 4. Are they an adult? Sounds like a stupid question but some people simply don't grow up. Does this person know how to cook, clean, look after themselves, pay bills on time and manage their money? Are they mature enough to know they can't afford a Lamborghini when they're barely covering the rent? Tracey says that if he doesn't like himself then it will be difficult to form a happy relationship . Find out: Does their home look like a bomb's hit it? Is there lots of unopened mail (unpaid bills) stacked up on the side? Do they seem to be living beyond their means for the job they have? Do they ever ask you to lend them cash or bail them out? 5. Do they like themselves? The more they like who they are, the healthier your relationship will be. The more hang-ups they have, the more you'll be used as their therapist. Find out: Do all your conversations centre around them? Do you spend a great deal of time solving their problems and boosting their self-confidence? Do you feel exhausted after you've seen them? 6. Are they positive and happy most of the time? Do they look for problems or solutions? Are they a doer or a procrastinator? I once went out with a guy who was constantly depressed because of all the starving children in the world. He thought he was holier-than-thou because they were never far from his mind. I thought he was a hypocritical son of a b****. His permanent hangdog expression didn't help one iota – but a big fat cheque from his very healthy bank account might have. Find out: If they're unhappy or depressed, do they have a good reason for it? Do they often seem overwhelmed by life itself? Are they moody – up one minute, down the next? For more advice on your sex or love life, visit traceycox.com .
target: Tracey says there are certain things that give away a heart-breaker .
  She lists the six behavioural traits that will give him away .
  Tracey says that honesty and maturity are signs of a keeper .