Title: I&#x27;m in a situation where my boss really doesn&#x27;t get me or understand what I specifically bring to the table. She simply needs something different. I&#x27;ve tried to fit myself into what she needs like a square peg in a round hole. I have a very different vision for my role, and a specific understanding of how my strengths contribute to our team.<p>After a year of trying, coaching, assuming I’m the problem, talking to my skip level, hard convos with my boss, and much more etc I&#x27;m finally realizing trying to force myself into something that&#x27;s simply not going to fit. With all humility I admit it may be me that failed. But life is short, it’s time to move on.<p>Cool story bro, why are you telling me?<p>Well I just want to say, the industry has an obsession with &quot;growth&quot; in performance reviews. But the reality is that growth only works when you build on someone&#x27;s strengths. Trying to ask someone to grow by changing who they fundamentally are, leads to withdrawal, stagnation, and anti-growth. I&#x27;m actually getting worse at my job, not better, because I&#x27;m being forced to be something I&#x27;m not. It&#x27;s depressing, draining, and frustrating. I can&#x27;t be who I fundamentally am in my role.<p>It&#x27;s important to know when your strengths are fundamentally misaligned with your job, boss, etc and leave ASAP. Don&#x27;t try to force yourself to fit into it for the sake of &quot;growth&quot;. You&#x27;ll only drain yourself and there are better places for you. You may end up going through a traumatic experience that actually causes you to LOSE skills and abilities.<p>That is all, thanks.
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