Title: Ok this is quite a different kind of Ask HN, but I just can&#x27;t help but feel saddened whenever I come across personal posts about how someone is lost, confused, stuck in a situation, feel lonely, uncertain what to do about xyz, etc.. What&#x27;s more surprising to me, is how the comments mostly center around <i>external</i> solutions. I love the HN community and how good you folks are at helping people navigating the world. But, sometimes, <i>at least sometimes</i>, what we&#x27;re missing is a way of navigating the <i>inner</i> world (which includes close relationships).<p>And surprisingly (or not surprisingly), the conventional methods like self-help advice or even therapy sometimes don&#x27;t seem to help. I know this feeling, and had to explore around to find the tools and perspectives that finally made a difference.<p>Now I don&#x27;t mean any kind of mystic &#x2F; uber-spiritual stuff. I&#x27;m a pretty realistic guy; I just think a lot and feel a lot and had to go through a lot of inner work &#x2F; personal development to get to where I am today. (If you want an idea what kind of person I am in real life, my personal instagram is https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.instagram.com&#x2F;samhuang.sh&#x2F; Feel free to read my posts to get a sense of my style and my experiences.)<p>To get to my point, I want to start some kind of service&#x2F;platform where people can come to talk things through and have a sustained conversation about their experience of feeling lost, confused, stuck. (I won&#x27;t be charging for this <i>ever</i>, because I don&#x27;t believe in that. Though I&#x27;ll probably have donations set up, but that&#x27;s technicalities.)<p>I&#x27;ve been giving some people at work some advice and perspectives, and they were positively surprised by the things I talked about and it seemed to help them at least get out of the cloud of confusion. I&#x27;m not trained with any formal credentials, but somehow I&#x27;ve developed enough wisdom in this area to have useful things to say.<p>The problem is, because I don&#x27;t quite know where my &quot;strengths&quot; and &quot;expertise&quot; are yet, I don&#x27;t wanna just start some Substack and make a fool out of myself pretending to be some guru when I don&#x27;t know what I&#x27;m doing yet.<p>So here in this thread, I&#x27;m hoping to invite people who are struggling with feeling lost, confused, stuck, for whatever reason, to come and seek help. And I&#x27;ll do my best to see if I can offer perspectives that may be useful. It&#x27;ll be a place where we can go deeper into some issues and have a sustained conversation about it all. And it would also be tremendously helpful to me to get some feedback on whether it did or did not help.<p>Much love,
Sam<p>EDIT: For the record, so far the type of advice that seemed to resonate with people has been regarding relationships, inter-personal dynamics, family conflict, parenting, friendships, etc. A lot of times, our problems with the <i>self</i> stems from problems in our relationships, and vice versa.
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