Q: I don’t think it’s just the kids that have no manners; it’s
their parents. So many adults are continually modeling
disrespect of others’ needs, feelings or concerns. Is it
possible that the distancing caused by using text and email
instead of face-to-face conversations is making this worse? —
J.M. A: I agree that the distancing that comes hand in hand with
electronic media makes people more self-absorbed and less
conscious that others are real people who can be adversely
affected by their behavior. I also agree that we can easily see
examples of rude behavior around us every day, from drivers on
the road to people in checkout lines or lines or at public
events. But we can also see polite and generous behaviors when
we try. There are many who will let us into a car lane we are
waiting for, or who will let you go ahead of them in line if you
only have a few groceries. What worries me most is the people
who are talking on a cellphone while driving and who are
oblivious of others on the road; they are so self-