What it is: Watch out! Whenever your child doesn't get his way,
he grabs a handful of hair on the head closest to him (um,
usually yours) and gives it a fierce tug. Why it happens: Young
children (around 20 months) pull hair when they're upset for the
same reasons they hit, kick, bite, and pinch. They've got a
limited vocabulary and poor social skills, so it's difficult for
them to use words to express their frustration and anger.
Unfortunately, pulling hair and other aggressive behavior just
come more naturally. What you need to know: Besides nursing your
own sore scalp, it's upsetting to see your toddler yank a
friend's (or Grandma's!) tresses. But keep in mind that with
your guidance and his growing maturity, this angry habit will be
"hair" today but gone tomorrow. What to do about it: A toddler's
aggressive actions call for a firm but loving approach and
plenty of positive reinforcement (see advice for Hitting &
Kicking). In addition, try these tips to tame a persistent hair-
puller: - Offer a substitute.