|Share on Facebook| |Share on Twitter| Parents discipline their
children in many ways in order to help them do the right thing.
Effective discipline methods include those that criticize a
child's behavior in order to make it stop. Many parents,
however, rely on discipline strategies that criticize the child
instead of the behavior. These latter results in shame, a
pervasive emotion that makes children think they are no good.
When children believe they are no good, they usually end up
snatching cookies because they think that is what's expected of
them. Identify shame-based tactics Consider the ways you respond
to your child's defiant or disobedient behavior. On a sheet of
paper, write the things you have said or done to your child when
he or she repeatedly ignores you or talks back. Then, write what
you say in frustration, when you want him or her to listen, or
in hopes of getting a reaction. Writing as opposed to just
thinking about them will make them more apparent. Now read what
you wrote. Does it make you