People say the craziest things to -- and about -- twins and
other multiples. Parents of twins, triplets and other multiples
are accustomed to fielding stupid questions about their
children, but even parents mistakenly make comments that might
be hurtful or insensitive to their multiples' feelings. Here are
some things that you should never say to twins or other
multiples. 1. Why can't you be more like your twin?It's
difficult to avoid comparisons among twins. But even identical
(monozygotic) twins are two distinct, unique individuals.
Although they're often expected to be the same in every way,
that's an unfair expectation. Appreciate each child for who they
are, and don't ask them to measure up to each other. Each will
have their own strengths and weaknesses. Birth order simply
isn't relevant with twins. By expecting a firstborn multiple to
"act" older, you unreasonably place expectations on her. Every
set of multiples will establish their own relationship dynamic.
One may assume the role of leader, but it r