Even with a predictable bedtime routine, some children resist
going to sleep. They may cry when left alone, or they may get up
frequently and want to be around parents. When putting your
child to bed, speak lovingly, but inform the child, if old
enough to understand, that rest is important, and you aren't
coming in any more but will be right in the next room. If your
child has a habit of waking up frequently in the middle of the
night, first rule out any infection, teething, needing to go to
the bathroom, or bad dreams. Here are some suggestions for
encouraging older kids to go to bed without a fight. You can
minimize conflict by allowing children to make choices, such as
which pajamas to wear, which story they want read (RED) to them,
and which toys they want to take to bed. Playing soft music or
even a gentle massage also may be helpful. You also may want to
leave a night light or the room's light on, perhaps with a
dimmer switch, for reassurance.