What to Do, Say, and Wear at Funerals Going to funerals or
memorial services can be uncomfortable for some people because
of the emotions involved. Knowing what to do and say at funerals
— and what to wear — can ease the discomfort. When in doubt
about going, do try to attend the service. Generally, the more
difficult the situation, the more the family will appreciate
your presence and your words of support. Your willingness to go
out of your way to say a word or two of comfort will be very
much appreciated. These services provide a sense of completion,
a process for mourning, and comfort for the living. The
outpouring of grief and support for the family enables them to
eventually go on with their own lives. Attending a funeral or
memorial service In many cultures, the first event that follows
a death is a visitation, calling, or wake — a courtesy call at
the funeral home prior to the funeral. The casket is present
(open or closed), with flowers on display, and the family
receives visitors who come to greet t