Why Is It Hard to Just Say No Part I of this series identifies
ten barriers and challenges to saying "No" -- from "societal
norms" and "family values" to "fear of retribution" and
"boundary issues." Part II will provide a "how to" guide for
engaging in "N & N": tools and techniques for saying "No,"
setting limits and solving problems. Why Is It Hard to "Just Say
'No'"? - Part I Ten Barriers to Asserting Your Individuality and
Integrity There's a Practice Safe Stress term that has caught on
with live audiences. This conclusion is based on the frequency
with which participants repeat the term during my speaking or
workshop programs. The term is introduced after recognizing the
importance of "R & R" -- "Rest and Recreation" -- for managing
stress. The alliterative concept is "N & N": the ability to say
"No" and to "Negotiate." And then "N & N" is followed by my
homegrown "aphormation" (a neologistic mix of aphorism and
affirmation): A firm "No" a day keeps the ulcers away, and the
hostilities too! Clearly, in re