As teachers, coaches and other professionals that regularly work
with children will tell you, a child’s home life can have a
dramatic influence on how the child behaves out in the world.
One researcher described the influence of home in this way,
connected children feel more secure and less angry than peers
who are unconnected. The unconnected child functions from an
interior conversation that is angry, fearful and often selfish.
I was running an adventure group and part of the first day was
to step into the circle and say something about yourself. A
young girl stepped into the circle and said, “Everyone is afraid
of me and I like it that way.” I was taken aback by her
revelation but quickly realized that she was being honest as the
rest of the group avoided her. This amazing little girl had no
insight into her own behavior and she suffered profound social
isolation as a result. If a child is raised in a home where
there is plentiful anger the child may incorporate being angry
as just how life is or the child