Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient ( to Allah and to their husbands ) , and guard in the husband 's absence what Allah orders them to guard ( e.g. their chastity , their husband 's property , etc . ) . As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct , admonish them ( first ) , ( next ) , refuse to share their beds , ( and last ) beat them ( lightly , if it is useful ) , but if they return to obedience , seek not against them means ( of annoyance ) .