who dread the uncertainty and self-doubt that comes with this massa of choice, creating a case of "" FOMO "" and then leading us — FOMO, fear of missed opportunity, or fear of missing out — it's like, "" How do I know I have found 'the one' — the right one? "" So we've created what I call this thing of "" stable ambiguity. "" Stable ambiguity is when you are too afraid to be alone but also not really willing to engage in intimacy-building.