They stuck into our hearts like a dagger a sense of shame: "" Don't you shame this family. "" Sometimes I would get in trouble, and my parents were coming home, and I was in my room waiting for what's going to happen, and I would sit there saying to myself, "" Okay, look, take the belt and hit me, but, God, don't give me that 'shame the family' bit again. "" It devastated me when my mother did that to me.