And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: "" I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn't count. I'm just killing time. "" Or they say, "" Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine. "" But then it starts to sound like this: "" My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.