Article: Once you have decided on the roles you want to play, it is important that you and your partner discuss exactly what it is about this scenario that turns you both on. This will help to ensure that the fantasy plays out the way you want. For instance, a lot of people may have a student/teacher fantasy, but some people may be into a punishment scenario that involves rulers and spankings, while other people might be into plaid skirts and forbidden affairs. Before you and your partner get lost in character, it is important that you both know what you are comfortable doing. This is especially true if you are playing with a punishment scenario. For example, you may find that a light spank turns you on, but choking is off the table. Alternatively, anal sex or certain sex toys may be off limits for you.  Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. If you are shy about discussing these details in person, you could establish the rules electronically via email or text. In order to ensure, that things don’t get carried away while role playing, you and your lover should establish a safe word prior to beginning. When this word is spoken it will bring the role play to a halt and signals that someone is uncomfortable with the situation. Choose a word that is not likely to come up naturally during the role play scenario.
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Discuss why this role turns you on. Set your limits. Establish a safe word.