Article: Having conversations is one of the best ways of getting to know someone better. Getting a person’s attention through chatting can send the signals that you’d like to know them better.  Use different means to start your conversation. You can approach the person or send a text or email. Keep it light to start and ask questions to which the person can respond. For example, you could walk up to the person and say, “Hi Sara, I really enjoyed your presentation today, especially the graphics. How did you do that?” If you’re texting or emailing the person, you could write, “Great talk today, Sara! I'm really interested in how you did the graphics—would you mind telling me some more about how you put them together?”  Remember to keep it casual and not broach personal subjects. Not only are personal subjects more appropriate when you know the person better, but some people may confuse this as you hitting on them. People are more likely to want to get to know you better if you are positive and put together. This shows the person that you respect yourself—and your friendship.  Pull together your appearance without overdoing it. Wear clean clothes, comb your hair, and avoid too much makeup or cologne. This signals the person that you are approachable and welcome to getting to know him or her better. Stay positive and encouraging. While everyone has a bad day now and then, no friend wants to be around a person who is always negative and a downer. If you had a bad day, acknowledge it to your friend and then say something like, “But now we’re hanging out and I’m really happy to leave my bad day behind me.” Everyone enjoys being around others who are confident and at ease with themselves. Being positive, kind, friendly and open to the person you would like to know better can help draw them to you.  Maintain eye contact with the person and use open body language to show your interest and that you’re friendly. For example, smile, lean in with your body, and tilt your head towards the person.  Avoid negative talk about other people because this may turn off the person you would like to know better. Negative comments may make the person ask, “What are they saying about me when I am not present?” Getting to know someone can take a long time. Gradually increasing your interactions with the person shows mutual respect and interest. It also allows each of you to reveal your true and full personality, which can ultimately lead to a strong friendship.

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Initiate a conversation. Show your best self. Be friendly. Be patient.