Article: This part won’t be easy, but you have to do it right if you want to move on. It’s time to go through your room, or even your home, and to get rid of all the things that remind you of the man. This could mean the teddy bear he got you at the carnival, the t-shirt of his you love sleeping in, or even the necklace he gave you on your anniversary. If you have an item that is truly valuable to you, then you should put it out for a long time if you just can’t bring yourself to throw it out.  This may be painful, and it won’t hurt to have the help of a trusted friend when you go through this. Just remember that it’s like ripping off a Band Aid: the sooner you do it, the sooner the pain will be gone. If your room is covered with things that remind you of your man, then you won’t be able to move on as quickly because you’ll have more reason to subconsciously think of him. In today’s world, social media may be the way that you keep up with your ex the most after the relationship is over. You may tell yourself that you’re not really staying in touch with him if all you do is longingly scroll through his Twitter feed or check his Facebook photos for evidence of a new girlfriend, but really, this is just adding insult to injury. Make sure you’re no longer friends, followers, or associated in any way on social media, so you’re not stuck looking at a picture of your ex all day instead of moving on. Don’t worry about him being upset if you defriend him or no longer want to be in touch on social media. This is about you feeling better, not about him. Take your mind off of your own problems and channel all of your energy productively by helping out your community. You’ll be doing a good deed, getting out of the house, and learning from people who can also benefit from your help. You’ll build your confidence and will feel better about yourself once you see that you really are needed, and that you are able to make a difference. Being part of a community of volunteers can also make you feel more connected and less alone after your break-up. Of course, you shouldn’t volunteer simply to get over your ex, but because you want to be a part of something bigger than yourself. You may keep telling yourself that he was the one, that he was the most perfect man on the planet, and that no man you meet will ever compare to him. However, if he really was so amazing, then you’d probably still be together, wouldn’t you? Instead, you have to remember that your ex is just a person, too, and that he has flaws—maybe even many more flaws than you give him credit for.  The sooner you accept that your ex wasn’t perfect, the sooner you’ll be able to move on and to give other guys the time of day. Once you get over the idea that your ex was Mr. Right, you’ll be able to have a more realistic perspective on your relationship. Before you can start dating again, you have to be truly content being on your own. This can sound nearly impossible, especially when you feel like all of your friends are coupled up or like you want nothing more than someone to snuggle with at the end of the day. However, if you want to truly let go of the man you’re with and to be ready to find love again, then you have to make sure you’re comfortable being on your own first.  It can take a while to accept and be happy with your solo status. Once you work on personal growth and loving yourself without your man, though, you’ll be on your way to being happy about it. Spending more time with other single girlfriends can help, as long as they don’t encourage you to date too fast. If you spend all day around your married or coupled up friends, then you’re likely to be more down about being single. If you want to be able to move on, then it’s important to be able to enjoy your own company first. You can’t depend on another person to make you like yourself more. You may think that the only cure for getting over your man is to find a new man ASAP, but this is the furthest thing from the truth. You’re much more likely to get over the man if you find peace on your own, instead of having to depend on another new guy to bring you comfort. If you go on the rebound immediately, then you won’t be giving yourself the time you need to heal properly, and you’ll actually prolong the pain.  Not only is rushing into a new relationship inadvisable for you, but it’s not fair for the other person. He may really like you, while you may find yourself using him just to fill a void. Besides, if you try to date a new person in an effort to get over the old one, you may actually end up longing for your old significant other more, because the new one may seem inadequate in comparison. If you want to move on, then you have to work on improving yourself as a person and on reaching your full potential. You should stop worrying about your past relationship or future relationships, and focus on becoming the best that you can be. Once you find a meaningful routine for your life, you’ll find that you’re letting go of the man you love without even thinking about it—because you’ll be too busy thinking about yourself.  Think about three flaws you’d like to address and make a game plan for tackling them. At the same time, work on accepting the things that you absolutely can’t change about yourself. Make a list of all the things you’ve wanted to do but haven’t tried and set a personal deadline for crossing them off your list.

What is a summary?
Get rid of all the things that remind you of him. Avoid your ex on social media. Volunteer. Stop worshipping your ex. Be happy being single. Don’t rush into a new relationship. Focus on personal growth.