Article: Exchanging naughty texts and notes will turn on both you and your partner. Tell your partner what you want to do to them later via text or send them a naughty pic of you. Additionally, leave your partner short erotic notes in places you know they’ll find them.  You might text your partner, “I’m wearing your favorite underwear today. I hope you’ll help me take them off.” Leave love notes on the mirror, their bedside table, on their steering wheel, or in their briefcase. They might say things like, “Can’t wait to see you tonight,” or “I’ve got a surprise for later.” Dirty talk isn’t just for the bedroom. Make a habit of whispering naughty things to your partner or incorporating references to sex in your daily conversations. This will help you both think about sex more so you anticipate it. Say things like, “Those pants make me want to spank you,” or “Good morning, naughty girl.” Everyone has sexual fantasies, so open up to your partner about what you want. Ask them to also share their fantasies with you. Then, talk about the ways you could incorporate your fantasies into your sex life so you both can get excited about it.  You might say, “I’ve always wanted to be tied up during sex. What about you?” or “I want to pretend you’re a pirate who’s trying to steal my booty.” Don’t pressure your partner to do a fantasy that makes them uncomfortable. Similarly, don’t feel like you have to act out something that feels wrong to you. Focus on finding fantasies that you both enjoy, and don’t shame each other for your differences. Well-planned, romantic dates help you build intimacy and turn up the heat in your relationship. Take turns planning dates with your partner to experience new things and to create lasting memories together. On your dates, talk and show affection so you both start to anticipate what will happen in the bedroom.  For instance, share candle-lit dinners, walks at sunset, and cuddling during a movie. Make dinner together for a budget friendly option. Get playful with the food to make it flirty. Go on a picnic in the park or on a beach. Go to a sporting event or concert. Do something active and adventurous, such as rock climbing, snowboarding, or zip-lining. If it’s winter, go sledding or ice skating. Getting sexually aroused is partly mental, so setting the mood is important. When you want to have sex, make an effort to create a romantic setting to get you both anticipating lovemaking. Here are some ways to set a sexy mood:  Light candles and dim the lights. Use a colored light, such as a red bulb. Play sexy music, like Marvin Gaye, Al Green, or Usher. Sprinkle rose petals around the room. Passion is a mind-body experience, and foreplay helps you both get into the mood for sex. In fact, foreplay is key to a healthy sex-life. Cuddle, touch, and kiss when you’re together to build your intimacy. When you’re getting ready for sex, fondle, caress, and massage your partner. This will build your anticipation before sex.  Try kissing your partner along their neck, chest, arms, and body. Slowly undress each other piece by piece. Incorporate foreplay into your regular daily activities to keep things exciting. For instance, squeeze your partner’s butt when you pass them in the kitchen or caress their skin when you’re watching TV together.

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Send each other flirty texts or erotic notes. Talk dirty to your partner in your daily life. Tell your lover about your sexual fantasies. Go on weekly dates with your lover. Set a romantic mood. Engage in foreplay to build your excitement.