Article: What kind of person are you attracted to? What kinds of traits does he have to have? To attract the kind of person you like, you have to have those traits too. Also look at traits that are complementary - if you're very domestic, you may be happier with a man who doesn't putter in your kitchen but never gripes about mowing the lawn or cleaning the gutters. You don't have to be exactly like your dream man, but if you want someone who is funny and confident, it would help to share these qualities too. He can bring out your best qualities, but he can't force you to take on a new personality. Find a hobby or two that makes you stand out. Whether you like to play sports, paint, play a musical instrument, or go clubbing at night, surrounding yourself with people of your same interests will increase your chances of meeting the man of your dreams while having fun at the same time. Don't think you have any hobbies? Try something creative, you may have unexpected talents and discover it's fun. Go out and volunteer in your community.  The more things that interest you, the more likely you'll be to connect with a man you meet. If you have five interests that matter to you, you'll be more likely to find a guy who connects with at least one of them. The more interests you have, the less likely you'll be to obsess over finding the right guy, which will in turn make you much more desirable. Though the guy will get to know you as time goes on, you should start off on the right foot. Make an effort to look nice while staying in your comfort zone when you know you'll have a chance to meet men. Even if you're having a bad day or didn't really feel like going out, you should always be ready with a smile and a joke, because you never know when you'll find the man of your dreams. If you dress to express a subculture like Goth or medieval recreation or something, you'll stand a better chance of finding someone within that subculture but it may put off mainstream guys. Artists are often attracted to women with paint in their hair, mainstream guys might not be. A codependent relationship brings out the worst in both partners and shatters lives. If you grew up in a codependent environment, seek counseling and learn to overcome codependent habits before getting serious about any romantic relationship. You're better off taking your time than enduring the emotional and possibly physical abuse of codependence. That's what it leads to - abuse. If you're willing to give up everything you love about yourself for the man you're with, then you have a big, big problem. Don't try to be someone you're not, or you may get typecast in a narrow role that doesn't include all that you are. If you're normally casual and dress to the nines whenever you meet him, he may reasonably expect you to dress like that all the time and be disappointed once you're together. If you pretend you don't like books and hook up with him, you may wind up spending the rest of your life having an argument every time you want to order from Amazon. If you try to be someone else just to hook him, he'll eventually find out, and he'll feel like you were trying to trick him. This is a key point to staying with the man of your dreams. If you love him instantly, great, but don't blurt it out unless you're sure you've had the most magical chemistry from the start. If you can see him as your husband, the father of your kids, perfect, but don't mention it on your third -- or your tenth -- date. Let things run their course before you both feel serious enough about each other to talk about the future.  If the man is really the man of your dreams, then obviously, you'll want to tell him. But if you reveal this too early, you may look like you're a little desperate. In the beginning, keep things light. Go on dates once or twice a week at most, but don't call him every day or try to see him as much as possible in the beginning, or you may scare him away.

What is a summary?
Be the person you want to marry. Be an interesting person. Make a good first impression. Avoid being codependent. Be real. Don't come on too strong.