Article: Dealing with a suicidal parent can be mentally exhausting and emotionally stressful. A complex series of emotions can be the result. In order to understand what you're feeling and find ways to cope, look for these common reactions:  Shock. A suicidal parent can come as a strong surprise. Nobody expects things to get this bad, especially with the person who is supposed to be taking care of you. Anger. Parents are your caregivers, so it may seem unfair for you to have to deal with all this emotional stress. It's normal to feel angry. Guilt. You may blame yourself for what is happening simply because you are close to your parent and the real causes may be less visible. Confusion. You may not know how to respond, so you may fall into a state of confusion over what's going on and how to cope with the situation. Self-blame is a normal reaction to a parent being suicidal, but it actually stems from misunderstandings about the complexity of suicidal emotions. The desire to commit suicide results from a number of different factors, as this guide discussed in the previous section. You are not the cause and never have been. In fact, it's unlikely that there is one singular reason for the way your parent is feeling. Suicide is not a simple, rational choice. l. There are things you can do to help yourself and your parent, but you never have ultimate control over what happens presently nor and what has happened in the past. The unfortunate reality is that sometimes suicide happens even when the family and extended support network has done its best to be supportive and provide a caring environment. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try, because those efforts can make all the difference, but the point is that some things exist outside of our control. Do everything you can, but with the recognition that you can't do everything. Therapy is not just for your parent with suicidal thoughts. A suicidal parent is an extremely taxing burden, so don't feel bad if you need outside help.  Cognitive-behavioral therapy can help you come to terms with the emotions and thoughts that can arise as a reaction to your situation. Search for a therapist near you: click here.  Be sure to find a therapist you can trust and confide in. If you don't find that person on the first try, don't settle! Therapeutic alliance is one of the most important factors for successful therapy. Thinking and worrying obsessively about your parent won't help them or you. Develop effective coping strategies to stay healthy and keep yourself from falling into the same problems as your parent. Although most of the research in this area discusses grief after an actual loss, some of it applies to the potential of loss as well: Grief and worry are not enough, it takes continued activity to process these difficult emotions and keep your life positive. Sports, other hobbies, and spending time with friends can act as a vaccine against despair in this situation. In addition to professional help and maintaining an active lifestyle, don't forget to keep in touch with your own friends and other family members! Social support is essential for your ability to cope with the high emotional demands of a suicidal parent.

What is a summary?
Recognize your emotions. Avoid blaming yourself. Resist the illusion of control. Seek therapeutic help. Focus on your own life. Have your own support network.