Article: Think about how open you want to be about your upcoming surgery. Some people you really do need to tell, but generally it is up to you. There is no etiquette in cancer, and there are no social protocols for you to follow. Think carefully, and then do what's right for you. You do not have to go through this alone! Share your feelings and needs with those who make you feel comfortable, safe, and cared for. You will need help after you get home from the hospital. Many health plans offer visiting nurse services to assist with changing your bandages, but they will not bathe you, cook, or do your laundry. Talk to people you are emotionally close to, and try to have someone stay with you while you recover. Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner, family, friends, therapist – people who are supportive and caring. Join a support group in your community or online, or consider seeing a therapist who specializes in cancer. You can find professionals in your area through the American Psychosocial Oncology Society (APOS) Helpline. Do stress-relieving activities before your surgery like yoga, meditation, deep breathing, taking walks – anything that helps you relax. Practice these skills now and continue them after your surgery. Practice mindfulness meditation on a daily basis. Get clearance from your doctor before doing anything physical like walking or yoga. Work on building up your strength and flexibility before surgery – this can help you feel stronger and more in control afterwards. For breast surgery, try to focus on your upper body and back. Feeling physically strong may help you recover better and feel emotionally strong, as well. Breast reconstruction surgery can make your breast feel and look more natural following your mastectomy. This procedure can be done during your mastectomy or in a separate surgery afterwards. Breast reconstruction may not be important to you, or it may be a big part of the healing process – everyone is different. Spend some time thinking about what feels important to you, and whether further surgery may help you feel more comfortable in your body.  Consider talking to a therapist and/or a plastic surgeon about your feelings and options. Every surgery has risks, including breast reconstruction; talk to your doctor for more information. Some organizations, such as AiRS Foundation, help women to afford breast reconstruction surgeries.

What is a summary?
Decide who to tell. Build a support network. Learn to decrease your stress. Do strengthening exercises before your surgery. Opt for or against breast reconstruction surgery.