Article: You can do good things independently and make the world better without belonging to that or any group. You do not have to live in fear, obey rigid rules of conduct, endure the attitude of the leaders, or allow them to control your thoughts and feelings. Many people will be sympathetic to you, even if they don't fully understand the challenges you're facing. Readjust to life outside the cult by spending time with family, friends, and other people who care about you. You may also want to look for a support group for survivors of spiritual abuse. If you're having a hard time adjusting, consider talking to a counselor or cult expert who can help you reframe your life. There are many support groups out there created specifically for people who were previously in a cult. Look for these groups online and participate in whatever way you can in an attempt to find a support network made up of people who understand you. Go to www.refocus.org to find a support group in your area that you can attend. You may also be able to find a support group through Facebook. Once the group realizes you aren't coming back, they will probably cut off contact with you. Being rejected by people you were once close to can hurt a lot, even if those people are part of a destructive ideology. To cope, lean on your new support network and fill your time with productive activities like work or school. Reach out to other people who have left your cult and ask them how they adjusted, or search the internet for personal stories from people who have left cults behind. Learning about how other people coped with the transition can give you strength and confidence to do the same. If you get in touch with someone who left the cult and they seem willing to have a relationship with you, try to establish a friendship with them. This may help you get the guidance and support you need in order to move forward. Relearn how to think critically and make your own decisions. Expose yourself to different ideas by reading books and newspapers, watching interesting programs on TV, and talking to lots of people. Practice recognizing your faulty thought patterns, like overgeneralization and self-blame, when they arise. For instance, the cult may have taught you that when bad things happen, it's your fault for not behaving correctly. Remind yourself that these thoughts are not true. Exit counseling can help you readjust to life outside the cult. If you were in the cult for a long time, or if you're having severe emotional withdrawals, a counselor will be able to help you change your thought patterns and live independently.  Look for a counselor who has experience helping former cult members.

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Keep in mind that many cults are well-intentioned and may do many good things. Seek support from people who you know outside of the cult. Connect with others like you through support groups. Be prepared for the cult to shun you. Learn about other people's experiences leaving the cult. Continue to explore your ideas and beliefs. See a counselor.