Article: You have to be comfortable with yourself if you want to not be shy around girls. Though you can’t build up your self-esteem in a day, there are some steps you can take to be a more comfortable, confident person who feels good about what he does and what he has to offer. Here are some steps you can take to work on building up your self-esteem:  Work on accepting the things you can’t change about yourself. Admit what the flaws that you can change are, and spend more time addressing them. Spend more time doing something you’re good at or developing a new skill, whether it’s in writing, running, or photography. Hang out with people who make you feel better, not worse, about yourself. Take care of your appearance. Though you don’t have to look like a model, showering regularly and wearing clean, well-fitting clothes can improve your self-image. Another way you can make an extra effort to not be shy around girls is to talk to new people more every day. You can talk to the new guy in school, the girl who works in your grocery store, or even to the guests who are visiting your neighbor. As long as you’re not intruding, talking to a new person can help you gain confidence and discover more things about yourself, as well as to get rid of some shyness that is making it hard for you to talk to girls.  Talking to new people will help you read people on an individual basis and to get a better sense about finding topics that appeal to every person. It can also help you learn different conversational rhythms and to be okay with the fact that new conversations can be a little awkward, at first. Talking to new people and being comfortable with opening up can also boost your confidence. You’ll feel better about yourself if you see that you can appeal to more people than the usual few people in your social circle. If you want to not be shy around girls, then one thing you can do is make an effort to be a more social person who has more things going on. Sign up for a sports team, a debate team, a community service club, or any number of things that will make you more likely to meet a variety of people of different ages and backgrounds and can get you comfortable with being yourself in more situations. If you live a more social lifestyle, then you’ll learn to be less shy when it comes to talking to girls.  If you’re used to being socially active in a variety of situations, you’ll slowly learn to talk to girls, even the most beautiful girls, just like they’re ordinary people. This will happen without you even thinking about it. The more people you know, the more social skills you’ll gain. If you only talk to the same three friends, then yeah, it’ll be a lot harder for you to feel less shy around girls. One of the reasons a lot of guys are shy about talking to girls is because they tend to idealize them, and to think that every girl they have a crush on or talk to is “the one,” or is this absolutely perfect, gorgeous person that they just have to be with forever. If you want to be less shy and have a more natural conversation, then you should take the pressure off and treat each conversation with a girl as just a conversation on its own terms, not the be all and end all for your relationship.  If you spend too much time thinking about your next conversation with the girl or wondering where it all will lead, then you’ll be much more likely to miss out on the present moment. Treat the girl you’re talking to like a human being, not a goddess. This will make you feel more okay with not being perfect yourself. Another way to be less shy when you’re around girls is to stop worrying so much about what they think of you and to take the time to really listen to what they have to say. This will give you a more clear picture of who they are and will also give you more things to talk about with them. If you make eye contact, put your phone away, and let the girl talk without interrupting or giving your own opinion, then she’ll be impressed by how much you care and the conversation will flow more easily.  If you really listen to what she’s saying, then you can follow up about what she told you about the next time she sees you. If you remember that she had a piano recital that weekend or that her cousins were visiting, then she’ll be really impressed. A lot of people tend to wait until their turn to speak instead of really listening. Stop worrying about what you’re going to say and hear the girl out instead. It’s perfectly natural to start rambling on and on about the most ridiculous topics when you’re around a girl. If you do catch yourself doing that, then you should be aware of it and try to turn your attention back to the girl and to ask her a question or get her to talk more. You can even laugh at yourself a little bit for talking too much before you move the conversation along. When you talk to girls, try to make is so that you and the girl do about half of the talking each; though one of you can talk a bit more, you don’t want to dominate the conversation completely or make her feel like she has to do all the talking, either.
What is a summary of what this article is about?
Build up your self-esteem. Practice talking to new people. Put yourself out there. Don’t put too much pressure on new relationships. Learn to really listen. Become aware of when you talk too much.