yet warm around them. Don’t be cold-shouldered and aloof around your in-laws and expect them to like you. Put your best foot forward and demonstrate a relaxed, inviting personality. Smile, greet them warmly, shake hands, and hug, if that’s typical in your family. Let your in-laws know that you’re interested in developing a relationship with them and they’ll have a positive perception of you. Do this by taking an interest in their lives and their interests. A simple, “How’s that garden coming along, Mrs. Henderson?” or “Have you been fishing lately. Mr. Greene? I’d love to hear about your latest catch,” can show how thoughtful you are. Parents love to feel like they are imparting knowledge onto their children—in-laws are no different. Show regard for them and their unique skills by asking their advice about a dilemma or requesting that they teach you something. For example, if your father-in-law built an impressive deck, you might ask him for pointers on your own backyard landscaping. If your mother-in-law is a talented baker, ask her to show you how to make her famous apple pie. You can also show interest in the lives and histories of your in-laws by asking them to tell you more about their own upbringings or what your spouse was like as a child. Sharing heartfelt or funny stories can help you bond. You might say, “Sylvia is so determined. Was she like that as a girl, too?” Nothing shows your attention and consideration like keeping up with the little things. Help your in-laws develop fond feelings for you by noticing the little details that are important to them. For example, if you invite your in-laws over for dinner, purchase the type of wine they like. If your father-in-law had a big presentation at work, ask how it went the next time you see him. Another way to make your in-laws like you is by giving them gifts. Consider picking up a bouquet of their favorite flowers before a visit or ask them to tag along when you score tickets to a sporting event. Don’t overdo the gift-giving, as this can come off as insincere or make them feel like you are trying to “buy” their affection. However, gifts can be a thoughtful way to show your in-laws how much you care.

Summary:
Be polite Inquire about their lives. Ask their advice. Ask them to tell stories. Remember little details. Bring gifts.