Your feelings are just as valid as your partner’s. If you are uncomfortable or unhappy with keeping the relationship a secret, understand that you don’t have to stay in it. Don’t sacrifice your happiness for someone else who doesn’t consider your feelings. To get some perspective, talk to a trusted friend about what you are feeling. You might say, “Hey, I wanted to talk with someone about my relationship with Brandy. Will you listen?” Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. If you don’t believe that what your partner is saying is the actual truth, then it may be time to move on. Your gut instinct is often right, but make sure to fairly assess the situation in its entirety before making any big decisions.  Be mindful of your own insecurities and fears that may have carried over from previous relationship experiences. Don’t let those affect your current relationship and the decisions you make. Discuss your doubts with your partner. Tell them what your fears and worries are and if they aren’t able to make you feel better with what they say, then this may not be a relationship in which you should stay.  Start the conversation with something like, “I really care about you and I like being with you, but I’m concerned. Can you explain why you want to keep us a secret?” Keeping a relationship a secret may be exciting at first, but over time, it could become a problem. You may not want to keep the charade going, which could lead to you feeling jealous, depressed, lonely, and insecure. Feeling like this in a new relationship usually isn’t a good start. Reach out to a school counselor or another trusted adult to talk about what you’re feeling. Discussing the matter with an impartial third party can help you clarify what you want and decide on what you want to do about it. If you have surveyed your partner's reasoning and decided that you trust them, then the next step is to move forward with love and acceptance. Honor your partner's wishes and know that keeping your relationship private--for the right reasons--does not detract from you building a healthy, satisfying union. In some situations, keeping a relationship secret is for the best until you decide where it's going or make a more serious commitment. Meanwhile, think of your secret relationship as something precious that the world can't yet know about.

Summary:
Know that you have a choice. Decide if you believe the reasons. Understand that keeping a secret may cause extra stress. Strive for acceptance.