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If you feel you made a painful mistake by having the relationship, allow the pain to stop you from making the same mistake in the future.  There are reasons for certain rules in life. Following them will steer you toward pleasure and away from pain. Follow this simple yet profound principle to ensure a bright future. Relying on yourself will help you cope with the dissolution of a relationship. You know what makes you happy, so participate in activities that increase positive feelings. Psychologists and Psychiatrists are available in your local area and can be located through the American Psychological Association    and the American Psychiatric Association.. You are here to live life and enjoy it. Standing up for yourself will remind you that you deserve to be happy, and the world will notice. When you reach a level of healing after a bad experience, other people perceive a positive change. You sent up a flare to signal that you are ready for good things to happen. People might say things like, “Did you do something different? You look great.” Your response can be, “Thank you. Yes, I decided to be happy and it is working for me.”

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Learn from your mistakes. Be self-reliant in your coping strategies. Seek professional help to identify the behaviors you would like to change if you are struggling with doing it yourself. Stand up for yourself and the life you want.