Article: Whenever you catch yourself reflecting on the past or thinking about the person you're trying to avoid, refocus and think about your present and future. This will help motivate you to move on and set new goals for yourself.  Set goals such as getting in shape, learning a new skill, or advancing in your career. Think about the things that are currently going well in your life, such as your job, social life, academics, or personal health. When you love someone, it's easy to only think about their positive attributes, or the qualities that you love about them. By reminding yourself that they have flaws, it'll help shift your outlook and make it easier for you to stay away from them. For example, the person may be very kind, but maybe they also are always showing up late, have trouble keeping promises, or are a bit lazy. Put aside any thoughts you have about the person you love and are trying to avoid, and instead start focusing on yourself. Evaluate your own needs and spend some time reflecting on how you can make yourself happier, healthier, and more content.  Set aside time each day just for you, whether it's through reading each morning, doing yoga, or reflecting in a journal. Try out a new activity like boxing, cooking, or swimming. Try to fill your time with activities and goals, no matter how big or small. The busier you are, the less time you'll have to think about the person you love, making it even easier to avoid them.  For example, start a daily routine of going to the gym, reading, going to work, gardening, and then cooking a new recipe.  Try to choose distractions that get you out of the house and moving, such as going on bike rides, thrift shopping with friends, or volunteering.

What is a summary?
Practice moving on and being in the present. Focus on the person's negative characteristics when you think about them. Put yourself first. Stay busy through distractions.