Article: Let your mother settle down, and give yourself time to think everything over. Get out of the house if you can, giving both of you the space you need to cool down. Spend time with friends or go for a walk to clear your head. If you are grounded and not allowed to leave home, try other methods to calm down, such as listening to music or talking to a close friend on the phone. Chances are, if you and your mom had a disagreement, you may have said some ugly things to her. Can you see aspects of the fight that were your fault? Did you break a rule? Say a curse word? Get bad grades in school? Or, are you upset with her because she won't give you permission to do something?  Think about your role in the fight and try to identify at least three things you know you did wrong. This will help you to build a genuine apology for her later. Sometimes fights happen when we are in a bad mood, tired, or hungry. Were any of these conditions relevant in your case? Did you fly off the handle with your mom simply because you have a bad day at school? Now that you have a better understanding of the fight and what may have gone wrong, try to view it from your mom's perspective. Was she tired from coming in after work? Is she sick or not feeling well? Did you blindside her with an accusation or offensive statement when she was preoccupied? For years, counselors have used a strategy to help people identify when they need self-care and avoid any heated discussions or decision-making. The acronym is HALT and it stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. Taking a good measure of your own and your mother's mood state in the future can prevent unnecessary disagreements. Oftentimes, teenagers and young adults may not understand their parents' train of thinking on certain decisions. The parents say "no" and that's all you hear. You don't see the underlying rationale for the decision. To help you better understand your mother's actions, imagine yourself in her shoes talking to your own child.  How would you have reacted in a similar fight with your child? Would you have said "yes" or "no"? Would you have tolerated your back talk or snide comments? Would you have listened to a counterargument when your child's safety was in question? Thinking about parenting from this point-of-view will help you to  develop greater empathy for your mom, and also give you some insight into her decisions.
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Take some time apart. Examine your role in the fight. Try to see things from her perspective. Envision a role reversal.