Article: As nervous as you are about talking to him, he might be just as nervous about talking to you! While in the past, it might have been considered forward for girls to initiate conversations or relationships, we’re well past those days. Be the brave one!  A good ice-breaker is to ask him for a favor. For example, if you’re in a class together, ask him if you can borrow his notes for a night. That can start a conversation about the material you’re learning in class, or about the teacher, etc. You’ll also get to follow up your conversation when you return the notes to him the next time you see him. Make a friendly observation or statement like “the homework was really hard last night” or “I can’t wait for the weekend.” Give him something to hang onto so he can enter into a conversation with you. Don’t worry about his first impressions of you, because studies show that first impressions don’t really matter that much in the dating game. It’s far more important that he gets to know the real you. If you put on an act to get a boy to like you, he might want to date you, but then you’ll have to pretend to be that imaginary girl the entire time you’re together. You want him to know exactly who you are and what you’re like from the first time you talk.  If he says something you disagree with, don’t be afraid to get into a good-natured debate with him. This doesn’t mean to pick a fight — just don’t be afraid to voice your own opinions in the course of regular conversation. If he says something funny, laugh! But don’t laugh at every single thing he says — you’ll sound forced and fake. Body language can be termed as “positive” or “negative,” and if either of you are giving off negative vibes with your body, this might not work out. Read his body language to see how he’s responding to the conversation. Adjust your body language to let him know that you’re enjoying yourself.  Positive body language is marked by leaning or moving closer, having a relaxed posture with legs uncrossed, maintaining extended eye contact, and pointing one’s feet directly toward the person you’re interacting with. Negative body language is marked by leaning or moving away, maintaining tense posture with legs and/or arms crossed stiffly, pointing feet away, and avoiding eye contact. Note that some of those negative markers might be attributed to shyness. Just because a guy can’t keep eye contact with you doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to. Nobody likes it when they’re trying to talk about something they care about, but their listener zones out on them. Listen to what he’s saying — both to make him feel like you care, and to learn more about him. After all, you have to decide whether or not he’s the right guy for you, too! Though it’s important to listen, don’t fake being overly interested in something you don’t care about just because he’s talking about it. If you make him think that you care deeply about that subject, he’ll bore you to death with it. Just as you’re learning about him by listening to him talk about his interests, you want him to learn about you, so talk about your interests. Know that there are some subjects that are more appropriate for closer friends or for girl-friends — for example, don’t talk about your deepest, darkest secrets or your favorite makeup techniques with a boy you’re just trying to get to know.  Show off the traits you want him to know about you by directing conversation that way. If you’re a great athlete, talk about how practice is going this week. If you’re an actress, talk about rehearsals. If you love to read, talk about the book you’re reading right now. But don’t monopolize the conversation by talking about yourself and your interests the whole time. This should be a give and take — both of you should do equal amounts of talking and listening.

What is a summary?
Make the first move and break the ice yourself if he doesn’t come up to talk to you. Be yourself! Pay attention to body language — both his and your own. Show an interest in what he’s talking about. Bring up the subjects of conversation that are important to you.