Article: When one or both of you starts mentioning divorce or separation, it is time to assess your relationship seriously. If you both want to make it work, see a counselor as soon as possible. This advice also applies if arguments are escalating to the point where one of you leaves the house, creating an unplanned, short-term separation. Infidelity does not necessarily lead to divorce, but it can take a lot of time and commitment to work through such a major breach of trust. Professional assistance is recommended in these situations. When couples feel distant, they may start an “emotional affair” where they develop feelings for someone else, even if they do not have a physical relationship. This is a warning that your marriage needs serious work. If one of you is dealing with major depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues, your relationship may suffer. In addition to individual counseling for the person dealing with mental illness, you should check in with a marriage counselor together. People who suffer from a traumatic experience sometimes find that their marriages suffer as a result. Individual therapy may also be needed. Consider seeing a marriage counselor if your relationship has been affected by:  The death of a parent, child, or another close relative A major illness Rape, assault, or another violent experience A home burglary or fire Loss of a job Starting a family is a major adjustment that can throw your relationship off-kilter. A marriage counselor may be helpful if:  You and your spouse have children from other marriages or relationships who are struggling to adjust. You cannot agree on whether you should have children (or more children). You cannot agree on how to raise your children. You disagree about the religion, discipline, or education of your children. You feel you are staying in your marriage “for the children.” If you and your partner are butting heads over spending habits or budgets, a marriage counselor may be a good resource. Marriage counseling can also help your relationship weather financial difficulties, like debt, buying a house, or sending a child to college.
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Find a marriage counselor if a separation seems imminent. Seek counseling if 1 or both of you have been unfaithful. Get help if either person is dealing with mental illness. Consider seeking help after traumatic experiences. Look for a counselor if parenthood is causing tension. Get counseling if you are struggling with finances.