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Input: My husband and I share a joint checking account, and we each have individual accounts as well.  Our “rule” is that if we do things like a meal together, it’s out of the joint account, and if it’s something on our own we use our individual accounts. 

This week we’re vacationing with his family, and his parents gave us a relatively large sum of money “for expenses on the trip.”  This went into our joint account and we’ve used it to pay for things like amusement park tickets and the extra costs of being away from home. 

Today we’re all visiting an art museum together, he and his family decide they’re tired and they’ve seen enough boring old paintings, and leave me and my daughter (not his own—we’re a blended family) at the museum while they go do their own thing for the afternoon. While they’re gone, he and his family go to lunch, and his parents pay for that lunch. 

My daughter and I stay at the museum, eat lunch in the cafeteria there, and I pay for it out of the joint account. I figure that’s fair, because we were given the money specifically to pay for expenses on the trip. To me, it seems like his parents paid for his meal in person, and my meal by giving us the money to buy it ourselves. Same either way, right?

But now I’m being told that I’m greedy and selfish because I used *our* money to pay for *my* needs. 

Yes, I violated our rule but this circumstance seems obviously different to me. Is there a side I’m not seeing? Am I a greedy, selfish asshole? 

buying lunch for myself and my daughter out of my family's joint bank account