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Input: My partner and I have had a little pregnancy scare lately. I have told her that I’m not comfortable with our current method of birth control (although until recently I hadn’t taken steps to change it beyond telling her I think we should, so I’m just as at fault for that), and she’s been a few days late starting her period. This has me more than a little stressed out, so I bought her a pregnancy test and asked her to call me when she took it (we live separately, and the test has to be done first thing in the morning).

This morning I didn’t hear from her until past 10am, well after the time I knew she would be up and about. As a little side note, I work in an office and start early while she usually works from home, hence why I wanted her to call me as opposed to being there in person. She finally texts me at 10.03 with a happy/jokey message of good morning. I ask her if she has taken the test. She says she hasn’t. I ask her why not. She says she feels like her period will start today, so doesn’t feel like she needs to.

I’m angry, we had agreed that she would call me in the morning when she took the test. She tells me not to worry, to which I reply with this message “I wouldn’t have to if you took the test. The reason I got it was so that you could do it, not keep it in your bag”

She replies a couple of minutes later saying she has taken the test and it indicates no pregnancy. She follows that with a message saying “I hope you’re happy now”.

For clarity, I’m going to copy and paste my whole reply, so you don’t have to rely on me paraphrasing. I send her the following “It’s not about me being happy, it’s about you realising this is a serious thing for both of us with massive consequences, for both of us, and that you flaking on doing it properly as we have discussed is very unfair to me and obviously going to upset me. I am counting on you heavily to take this as seriously as me, and you not taking my emotional state on such a serious matter and following through on what we agreed on is a small betrayal of trust. Thank you for doing it eventually tho”

She didn’t talk to me for 4 hours after that, then got in touch demanding I apologies for hurting her. She has said my comments were obviously hurtful, it lets her know what I think of the relationship and shows her what this relationship means to me. She included the comment “Everything that’s been said before kind of just gets nullified and overshadowed when such hurtful things are said”

She hasn’t apologise at all and it demanding I apologise to her. I feel completely awful about the whole situation. AITA for telling her I felt she breached my trust? Or should I have just been grateful she took the test at all? Do I need to apologise unreservedly? Or should I insist she apologise also? Help!

telling my partner she breached my trust