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Input: Throwaway for obvious reasons. My friend has a 5 month old baby and just found out she's pregnant again with her second but she's acting like it's her first pregnancy and the 5 month old doesn't even exist.

Bit of background: when her baby was born, let's call the baby summer, she didn't bond very well and didn't even hold the baby for the first 12 hours because she "didn't know how" her boyfriend, let's call him Jim, who is not the biological father, held the baby first, dressed her did her first nappy and bottle feed etc. (Biological father is out of the picture entirely) This of course led to post natal depression but she's never got help with it or admitted it to anyone but me and her boyfriend. She told her boyfriend a few months ago (I only just found this out) to take summer away because she can't cope and she's struggling and it's obvious she has not bonded at all. He said no he's not even her dad and never wants to be called dad etc he will always be Jim. She puts summer in a high chair in front of the TV or lays her on the floor and that's pretty much it, when she cries but isn't hungry she gives her Calpol to get her to go to sleep. As soon as Jim is home from work he is on full baby duty. Jim is from a town a few hours away and quite frequently he takes the baby to his parents and stays there for a few days while the mum stays at home by herself. This first happened when the baby was 5 days old. Jim's parents look after the baby while he goes out and has fun with his mates. 

Now she's pregnant again with Jim's baby this time and she says she's so excited to have a 'new baby' because new babies are cute. She also said because she's pregnant she needs to find something to do for the next 9 months while waiting for the baby because she's got nothing to do. Her period is literally only 2 days late and only just had a positive test, she's already thinking about the birth, telling her manager and parents etc. It's crazy. For anyone who doesn't know the first 12 weeks are sadly really high risk of losing the baby anything can happen. She's literally forgotten the 5 month old even exists of course she's got things to do for the next 9 months and that's raising the baby she's already got! I'm concerned for summer and the mum because the mum can't cope with the one she's got, let alone having 2 under 2, but won't seek help, I've told her to get help before but she just says she's better now and its only this current age she can't cope with. She's solely focused on being pregnant it's ALL she talks about.

I'm really concerned so would I be the asshole for saying she needs to slow down, not solely focus on the new one until after 12 weeks and get some professional help with bonding with summer before anything else? 

TL;DR: my friend has a 5 month old baby who she can't cope with and is 1 month pregnant again already and acting like it's her first.

telling my pregnant friend she needs to focus more on the baby she has already got