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Input: Precursor: My wife has been battling depression and anxiety, which is likely exacerbated by having a stressful job (nurse), and her inability to effectively cope with things not going precisely her way.

A couple of years ago, she quit her job when she first spiraled into depression, for 6 months, she refused to seek appropriate help, would not submit to inpatient treatments, had a couple of suicide attempts, just generally a shit show of me trying to keep a roof over our heads, paying her school and other payments, leaving less than nothing for me, all the while expecting to come home from work to a corpse one day. 6 months, and some additional debt later, she managed to get it together enough to find a new job (not in a hospital, at much lower pay). 

We had put a deposit on a new build house before all of the depression business, and somehow managed to procure a mortgage (likely because of the preapproval from when our finances were in good standing) We moved in shortly before she got this new job. During this time, her new job didn't really cover her share of the household expenses, so I was covering more. The debt I accrued for living expenses etc during her time off couldn't get paid down much because of this. She lasted a year before getting fired because of her generally poor attitude towards authority because they didn't want to change policies or procedures to the way she wanted to do things. Cue 8 months without a job, me footing all of the bills again, and going into more debt because all the while she's spending like she's working full time and goes bonkers if I question anything. Finally, she takes a job with the first hospital she worked at. She's 4 months in now, a miserable anxious wreck (because surprise, every single thing during every single shift doesn't go exactly her way), she still won't seek additional help other than seeing her psychologist something like twice a year, and wants to quit in order to find a low stress job. 

The problem is that based on the lifestyle she in particular wants to live, we cannot afford to take in less money, as we're already drowning in interest payments. When I try and have a conversation with her about this, she complains that it's all about money with me. My compromise is that if she wants to become underemployed, she should at least pay off her school loans first, because by making less than 1/3 of what she is now (which is what she'd reasonably be able to hope for at minimum wage), she wouldn't be able to pay the debt she's (we've) accrued, and i'd end up struggling to pay both of our debts/mortgage/living costs.

All in all, I'm pretty frustrated because she is a miserable wreck because of her career choice, but because of the choices she/we made, there isn't an immediate escape plan for her, and rather than attempt to find a way to make her job work, she'd rather just give up at the first sign of adversity, and expects me to just maintain her lifestyle expectations, when we clearly need two good incomes for that. 

AITA for expecting her to keep working until we can get into the black, and expecting her to change her lifestyle expectations if she wants to weave baskets or pet cats for a living?


expecting my wife to keep her job