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Input: I’m a 20 year old guy with a twin brother. As such, we both started learning to drive at the same time, and have had exactly the same amount of chance and opportunity to practice to drive and get our licences. I am on my Ps (for those outside Australia, that is a provisional license. It means I can drive without supervision but have to have 0 alcohol.) while my brother is still on his Ls, with only 5 hours practice completed out of the 100 needed to pass. 

As I’m the only one of us able to drive, and our mom works all day, I end up giving him rides all the time. This is everything from a 5 minute trip the bus stop when he thinks he’s gonna be late to catch a bus, to two hour there-and-back trips to drop him off to visit his friends in the city we used to live in a couple of years ago. There have been very, very few times that I have refused to pick him up. There have been multiple occasions, one just a week ago, when he has woken me up at between 1 and 4 AM to go pick him up from wherever he is. And I have done it. I once had to leave a date with my girlfriend half way because he was drunk and said he was feeling unsafe. I am happy to do this, because I would rather know he is safe than have him in danger, even if it is annoying. I don’t charge him any money, even gas money, either. Okay, general backstory over.

Recently I dropped him off at a friends house in the morning. He brought a bag so I thought he might stay overnight. At 11PM, as I ask halfway through my brush teeth/shower routine, i get a series of calls and texts, but I don’t answer or read them cause my phones in the other room. When I read them, it’s a series of gradually more irritated texts from my brother asking me to pick him up. I sigh, accept this won’t be the night I get around to man scaping, and go to get him. 

The city I live in is hell to drive in anyway, and he gave pretty bad directions. I get lost cause it’s in a part of the city I don’t really go to often, and there is also traffic. It takes me an hour to find him, when google maps says the trip should be 35 minutes. 

He opened the door and got in. No ‘hello’, no ‘thank you’, no eye contact or acknowledgement. He immediately put in his earphones and looked forward, apparently not speaking to me. I didn’t say anything but about halfway back made a comment about it, and he made a comment back, and it escalated. When I got home, at half past midnight, I am fucking pissed. I decide then that I’m not going to be driving him around anymore. I’ve told him I’m done driving him around before, but I always end up giving in, but this time I’m really committed to stick to it. 

Fast forward a couple of days and he has an exam at uni. He asks me at 8am for a lift. His exam is at 10:30. I say no. He asks again and again, every like ten minutes. And I say no ever time. The bus to his uni takes an hour, and the drive is 30 minutes. The bus comes every ten minutes and is very easy to catch. At this stage, he still has enough time to get the bus with plenty of time to get to the exam room. He keeps asking for a lift and I keep saying no. Eventually I see the time getting closer and tell him he better catch the bus or he’ll be late. He says “No, you’re driving me.” I tell him no. The hour bus window closes, and he’s still hanging around. At 40 minutes before his test, he tells me we really have to go. I tell him I’m really, really not driving him. When it gets to 30 minutes to it, he’s switching between enraged and threatening and begging. I lock my door and put in my earphones and stick to my guns of not taking him, and he ends up missing his exam.

He’s furious with me, and tells our mom. She tries to stay out of conflicts like this so refuses to take anyone’s side. This is why I turn to reddit. Am I the asshole?

Tl;dr. My brother missed an exam after I wouldn’t drive him to uni. The whole reason I stopped driving him is cause he acted like an ass.

letting my brother miss his exam after I refused to drive him