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Input: My girlfriend and I are a lesbian couple and have talked about having children. I never really wanted a child but if it’s with my current girlfriend, I think I would be okay with just one. Of course having children is going to be way into the future as I’m not ready to have children yet. 

However, we were talking about this topic and we get to the point about Down Syndrome. I asked her, if the fetus had problems like Down Syndrome, what would you do?

At first she said she would abort it but then her view changed within 20 seconds and said she’d want to keep it. I told her that if the child cannot do anything by itself, lives in pain, and ultimately just doesn’t have good prospects for a suffering free life, I would like to abort it. 

I wouldn’t say this was a pro-choice/pro-life argument, but it seemed like she was super into pro-life as she said things like “who do you think you are to end a baby’s life” etc. 

I told her that’s fine if she wants to keep the baby, but I wouldn’t want my child to suffer if they were born with fatal diseases, no limbs, no mobility, etc. 

And before I get roasted, I completely understand and acknowledge that people who are born with disabilities can lead a promising and independent life, but not everyone is the same. I may sound selfish but other than not wanting my child to suffer, I also don’t want to be bound into taking care of a disabled child because I may grow to resent them. 

She got pissy even though I showed her facts and told her as a nurse she should understand that doctors advise people to abort, not because their monsters, but because they’re thinking for the best of the child and mother. But she wouldn’t have it and said that all the doctors she met was just trying to protect the hospital from lawsuits or whatever. 

She got mad and isn’t answering my messages or calls. I love her but I don’t know if it will work. I want to save this relationship because our opinions may change in the future. But we’ve only been dating for a little less than two years and I’m not ready to have babies. 

AITA?


not wanting a mentally or physically disabled child