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Input: So I’m getting married in a year, and for the most part, the planning has been pretty non-contentious. My fiancé and I have very similar visions for what we want the wedding to look like, and for the most part I’m just letting her pick what she wants to do. However, since the start of the wedding planning, she’s been very firm on having a no kid wedding. I’m not sure where she got the idea, but since she started planning she keeps talking about it. I thought the idea was interesting, but it’s not feasible. She comes from a very small family, maybe 10 total, and I come from a massive family, probably 80 cousins and uncles and stuff total, and a lot of them are still in the 7-10 range, and quite a few under 7. She hasn’t met most of them, but I have, and they’re all decently well behaved. Not statues, but not running around with juice box stains on their face destroying the house. Just regular nice kids, with the exception of the 3-4 actual babies, which are babies so I can’t vouch for their behavior.

I’ve held firm on my position of saying we can’t say no kids, because everyone in my family either has kids or have kids who have kids. My sister for instance, just had twins about a year ago, and one of them is my godson (hers too, kind of, they were born before we got engaged). I kept saying not to worry about it, if people don’t want to bring their kids they’ll just leave them with a babysitter, and if they do bring their kids, it’s not like they’ll stay until midnight drinking. Keep in mind, these are all my cousins, not just people I know. None of my non-family friends have kids. 

Anyway, after months of trying to be nonchalant about it, I put my foot down and said we’re not having a no kid wedding. It’s the only thing I requested for the wedding apart from my groomsmen and the after party. She acquiesces, but then recently, I’m at dinner with her mother and her sisters, and the topic somehow comes up. Her mom is going off on all these crazy tangents about how the kids could get burned or hurt in some way, or they’d get electrocuted or they are having a fussy day they’ll throw fits, all kinds of things. I was trying to be understanding, like I said, it’s a smaller family. My fiancé only has one cousin, who’s around 10, and then her two sisters. But all four of them were ganging up on me. Her mother was still going on about how she’d be legally liable for hospital bills if a kid gets hurt (which I can’t imagine a scenario where that would be true) and there’s going to be a firewall and the church has animals, or if a kid gets hurt then the wedding has to come to a halt. The whole thing came off as very condescending, and the conversation seemed to turn from “It would be difficult to have fun at a wedding with kids running around,” to “well I’m paying XX thousand dollars and if you were paying for the wedding then you wouldn’t want kids there either” kind of thing. 

At this point my fiancé was backing me up against her mother, but I shut the whole thing down and said we’re not banning kids from the wedding. I didn’t say the wedding was off if no kids, or anything like that, I just told her mother and her sisters the same thing I’d been saying since the start: I have a lot of young cousins, and we’re not going to alienate my family members by having a no kid wedding. Her mother and her sisters seemed to give in, but they were not happy, and the whole dinner was super awkward, and ever since then my fiancé’s mom has been a little chilly about wedding planning. 

I don’t think I was being an asshole here, but I wanted some outside input to see what other people thought. 

wanting kids at my wedding