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Input: The bride is my High school best friend of 10+ years and she is getting married after a year of engagement. They are perfect together and honestly couldn’t be happier for them.

She is a nurse who has made significantly more money than I have In my career which is perfectly fine she’s literally saving people for a living. But she doesn’t seem to get how much money we are all putting into her wedding. 

Cut to the problem: I’ve spent over $1,000 on festivities and themed clothes for her wedding and just spent an extra unforseen $100 on my bridesmaids dress. I just received the rehearsal dinner invite (4/3) and the dinner is on April 25th and the attire is all white dress code.  I do not own anything white and neither does my boyfriend who is also invited. 

Sidebar: I have always worn all black almost weirdly and she has always made comments about how I need to branch out over the years. Recently I have worn different colors and for her bachelorette cruise I wore a tropical themed dress and sequin jacket that are both out of my comfort zone but on theme. 

So her asking to wear all white is not only shocking but annoying because I will have to buy something for it within 3 weeks and I’m so self conscious in it and she 100% knows it. We have joked about how I probably won’t wear white to my own wedding. So an outfit I will probably never wear again. 

WIBTA if I don’t go even though I am a bridesmaid and one of her best friends? I don’t want to spend another dime towards her wedding and I especially don’t want to buy a new all white outfit that I know I’ll never wear again. 

telling the bride I'm not going to the rehearsal dinner as a bridesmaid