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Input: This happened yesterday night with my roommate. A person with whom I've shared a lot of my life for the last 11 years since we met. 

We were having a talk over dinner about a podcast she had heard during the day. It was about how a sychiatrist had taken advantage of a young woman coming to him for help with her ilness. She had gone to the police and the national sychiatrist association and nothing had been done about it. 

To this I of course said: "Oh my god, that's horrible", but I also said that those kinds of stories where becoming extremely exhausting. She took that as me saying, that the fact that the stories were being told were exhausting me, not that the things happening were exhausting. I told her that stories about men abusing their power towards women is becoming so common place that we're not even surprised anymore, and that makes me very sad.

Here comes the question part... 

She says that because when I ( 27m)  was 20 years old agreed with someone that grabbing a womans ass is not that bad, she doubted what I meant, and that she has the right to doubt it, because she has experienced physical sexism time and time again, so naturally she is sceptic.

This made me pretty mad, because I saw no reason for bringing that up at the moment. I don't remember it, but I believe that I said it. It sounds like 20-year old me. I am not trying to excuse it, but I definitely don't think it as a fair argument for believing the worst from what I said, to bring up something I said apr. 7 years ago. Since then I have of course changed dramatically as we all have, and I have a radically different opinion on that subject this day. This I feel like she should know.

What that makes me feel, is that she was gatekeeping feminism and general good behaviour, and that the fact that I am a man automatically sets me in a position, where I have to prove that I actually think it is a good thing, that stories like this are published. It makes me feel like, she sets her agenda over her friendship with me and (if necessary) having to apologize. 

I can see her point when it comes to strangers, but we have been very close friends for 11 years plus. 

I am cincerely asking, and I want to know... AITA? 

Please ask questions if there are things, you feel like I left out or forgot. Sorry if I'm rambling a bit...

something I said seven years ago