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Input: New to this sub. Having problems with marriage arguments. I’m 20(f) he’s 22(m). Got married at 18. Every time we talk about this he gets extremely frustrated with me. Back story is we got married super young and my parents didn’t pay for a cent of the wedding. He bought my ring, $900 (no diamond for the center stone). Other than that it was pretty much my money or gift money that paid for the $4k wedding and honeymoon. He didn’t have very much to contribute because he had just bought a car with cash, $12k. Only thing I had bought is my cellphone, $500. After getting married and combining accounts, we had $4k. Two months into the marriage I found a car with the remaining money I had saved up from being single, $2k cash.  Fast forward to the summer and he drops $4k on a dirt bike he really wanted. We had to take out a $1k loan to do so. Fast forward again to the next years tax return and he spent almost the whole refund on buying himself a new phone, a little over $1k. Then we get to today, where he is deciding to take out a student loan to do a computer build, $2200. I have already brought it up before but I mention that I want to get a nicer car. He always gets extremely frustrated and shuts me down and calls me selfish. Says my car is perfectly fine and that he sees no need for me to get a newer one. Says that everything we own is both of ours. But all these things we’ve bought that are “ours” don’t really benefit me anyway. Can’t possibly ride his Yz 450 dirt bike, don’t use his phone, and am not a gamer so I won’t really use this $2200 computer. So I ask for something that would benefit me and he won’t even consider it because we don’t need it. I’m not asking for a brand new car, just maybe a little nicer than $2k gets you. He also says that when we do need a car in the future, I will get his old car and he will get the new one. I say that’s not fair to me because I never get to have a nice car. Then he gets mad and says in the future I won’t even need a new car because I will be a stay at home mom and won’t be driving anywhere. I have never bought anything that has cost more than $200. Which was a pair of dirt bike boots, and I don’t even have a dirt bike. I’m leaving out Christmas and birthdays because they are irrelevant. I’m also leaving out everyday small purchases like clothes and shoes etc because I think I’m pretty even with him with his video games and clothes and shoes etc. I will admit I do spend money more frequently, but it is always small amounts around $30 or less. I also know that I am not the domestic completely selfless conservative wife he expects me to be so that causes some anger towards me. 


Am I the asshole for wanting some equality in big purchases?



wanting some marriage equality