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Input: (Sorry for shitty formatting and writing, I’m on mobile)

So for context my grandmother is 82F and I’m 17F. Her health has been declining for the past few years and now she’s been getting blood transfusions about every 2 months and she’s been slowly but steadily getting worse. She’s also in what my brother (doctor) thinks is beginning stage dementia. I have anorexia and endometriosis, which sounds irrelevant but it’ll make sense later. 

Anyways, on with the post. I love my grandmother, I really do. We had an almost perfect relationship for 13 years and ultimately she’s family and I love her. However, lately she’s been really getting under my skin. 

It all started about four years ago when I first met my lesbian cousin. She began making comments about how she’s “Nice for a lesbian” “kinda fruity” “better than most of her people” and it really disturbed me. I’m gay, I’ve always been gay but always been terrified of telling her. This seemed to open the floodgates, because she began making more and more comments about gay people and becoming intensely homophobic. If I try and redirect the conversation she just brings it back or begins accusing me of ignoring her, so I’ve just begun retracting in conversation and don’t really initiate anymore. 

Additionally, she makes a lot of comments about my body. She knows I struggle with anorexia and body image issues, but I can’t seem to win with her. When I lose weight she says I’m too skinny, and when do I gain she calls me fat and says I need to watch my figure. I’ve told her multiple times that it makes me uncomfortable, but she just brushes me off or accuses me of being too sensitive. She calls my anorexia “fake” and says I’m “looking for attention” and says that mental illness doesn’t exist,  which sets off a whole new argument. 

As she’s become more sick, she has been trying to encourage me to stop taking my medication because it “works for me” (it doesn’t) and starts accusing me of not listening to her when I try to redirect the conversation or refuse. At this point, almost every visit I’ve had with her in the past year has ended in tears. 

She’s become more critically ill in the past six months, and only become nastier as time progresses. I’ve started refusing to visit her in the hospital because I can’t take being around her anymore. I don’t want to have to deal with coming away from every encounter crying and the awful feeling that comes with it. My mother has begun calling me selfish and a bad granddaughter and my aunt will barely speak to me. I’ve been getting texts and calls from my family telling me to see her and calling me selfish and cold hearted and I’m not sure what to do anymore. 

Am I the asshole for not wanting to see her? Should I suck it up and see her? Is my family right? Should I stand my ground? Am I just a bad person? 

refusing to see my critically ill grandmother