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Input: Last fall, I suffered a miscarriage. It was a really low, depressing time right before the holidays for myself and my husband. We have one daughter who is healthy and amazing, but I have polycystic ovarian syndrome so pregnancy and fertility hasn't always been "easy" for me.

After the miscarriage, which occurred between 7-8 weeks, my mother-in-law gave me one of those "everything happens for a reason" lines. It was annoying at best, ignorant and hurtful at worst. I've been part of my husband's family for 11 years, so I know not to go to her for empathy or validation in just about anything -- but that line pissed me off.

This year has been especially crappy for our family (job loss, lack of health insurance, and illness in the family) so we didn't begin trying to conceive again until recently. I have suffered from generalized anxiety since the birth of my daughter three years ago, and was very nervous I'd miscarry again.

Earlier this week, my period was due. I began lightly bleeding a handful of days prior to it being due, which made me nervous. Early periods + PCOS usually don't mean anything good (in my experience). But I had a feeling I might be pregnant, even though it's insanely early -- I just know my body. I took a handful of pregnancy tests that all came out positive (this was Monday). I called my doctor because I knew I'd been bleeding and was panicked I was having a chemical pregnancy. I felt triggered, scared, stressed, and emotional.

I had my hcg levels tested on Monday (again, this would have been the day my period was due - very early on if pregnant). They were low. The nurse who delivered the results said she thought it very well was a chemical pregnancy. Naturally, I was devastated - sure, it's early, but it's still a heartbreak. It took me so long to feel ready again, and my worst fears were happening once more. It's a lot. My husband told his mom what was going on (I really wish he didn't, but I never told him not to and... well, it's too late now). 

She had the same "oh it's so early, thank god it happened now and not later" reaction. I tried to ignore it because that's just who she is, and I was too emotional to give her the reaction and confrontation I wanted to. (Side note: my best friend's dad passed away tragically over the weekend and I've been trying to be a support to her all week, so my emotions are not at all stable).

Fast forward to yesterday morning, TWO DAYS after finding out I'm likely having a chemical pregnancy again, and she texts me and asks me if she could borrow our old pack 'n play for her husband's grandson (whom she's never met and doesn't give a shit about, but is visiting for the holidays). She said "since it's just sitting in the garage" she didn't think I'd mind doing it. 

Lady, do you REALLY think I want to be rifling through all our old baby stuff RIGHT FUCKING NOW? I told my husband he needed to respond to her because I was gonna lose it. 

He did, he handled it really well. Called her out for being insensitive, etc. She got pissed off and stopped talking to him and hasn't apologized to either of us. 

Am I being an asshole here for feeling so upset? How do I handle seeing her for Christmas? I can't NOT address this, but I don't know how to do it in a way that gets through to them and doesn't make me look like a jerk. 

(Additional note, upon further bloodwork it appears my hcg levels ARE rising a decent amount, but we won't have confirmation on anything for another week or more - so, still very stressed out and emotional.)

thinking my MIL is insensitive about possible miscarriage