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Input: So this girl and I (both 22F) had been best friends for 10 years  (grade school to junior year of college). She had some mental health issues in high school, got on medication, and stabilized. However, this past year she spiraled again and was texting me several times a day about how she feels lost, how she wants a boyfriend, and doesn’t think anyone will love her. I would always text her back telling her that it’ll happen when it’s supposed to (she’s a big believer in fate). She would get on tinder, hook up with a guy, and then feel worse about herself when he was mean to her and didn’t want to date her. 

This was okay, until it wasn’t. This went on for months and I (with my own mental health issues) was starting to get more anxiety from her to the point where I didn’t want to hang out with her or talk to her. I tried giving her all the regular advice- go talk to a therapist, talk to your doctor and get different meds, so on. I offered to go with her but she always refused, blaming it on insurance or not feeling like it or not wanting to tell her parents. 

She had lots of options and opportunities to do something to help herself, but she didn’t do anything. She had a full time job and went to school, so she had options for counseling. She just kept wallowing and spiraling and hooking up to the detriment of her mental health and lack of self-esteem. Eventually, I had so much anxiety about her that I didn’t want to look at my phone when it buzzed because I was worried it was from her. 

It all came to a boil when some of my high school friends and I were hanging out in a group and she started bragging about all the sex she was having (and then freaking out about and texting me that she was pregnant) to the rest of our friends, all of whom haven’t had sex yet and didn’t want to listen to her keep talking about it. 

I texted her that night asking her to lay off the sex talk and she blew up at me, saying she was just bragging now (junior year of COLLEGE) because those girls made her feel uncomfortable in high school. This spiraled into more arguments because at this point, I was done with her. We fought and I gave her an ultimatum- do something to help yourself or I can’t keep doing this. She said I was blackmailing her and that these really were her problems and not mine (when she made them my problems for 9 months). She also wondered why I couldn’t just deal with this “one little bad side of her” when the rest of her was great. However, we never talked about anything other than her problems, and she never asked me about my life or anything.

We haven’t talked since, except for when she texted me a day late for my birthday. I don’t miss her and am happier without her right now, but I had a lot of guilt when it happened that I was abandoning her in her time of need. I just want to make sure I did the right thing, so AITA?

leaving my friend when she wouldn't do anything to help herself out of a mental health rut for several months