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Input: Okay, so to start, my in laws host a “family gathering” at their house about once a month. While I won’t go in to all of the politics behind when they choose the date and who they pick, just know they do it strategically. This month it happens to be the Saturday after my daughters birthday which is when we have thrown her birthday party every year since she was born. Always the Saturday after her birthday.... Anyway, I had been getting along with my in laws reasonably well lately and was approached last month when they planned this and they said they’d love to have the party at their house and they’d pitch in for food and decorations and invite my family and only certain family members on their side as quite a few of them are drama filled, toxic people. 

Now less than a week before hand, I find out she’s invited 4 whole families from the extended family I had not agreed on. No heads up or anything, just invited them all. I don’t really have a big problem with most of these people, I stay out of drama and after almost a decade of being a part of this family, they leave me out of it. Now here’s the part where I might be an asshole. One of these families is my father in law’s sister. She has a history of severe depression and doesn’t have much family of her own in the area. She’s a lovely person, she loves my kids, and they love her too. She’s been very depressed lately and so my in laws invited her to the party. I like to keep parties small and wanted just immediate family and wouldn’t normally have invited her, but whatever, that part isn’t the big deal. Here’s what is: her new husband is hugely racist. Uses the N word frequently, says things like “people should keep to their own kind” referring to interracial couples. Reminisces of segregation, thinks only white male land owners should vote, etc. Also is VERY vocal on such issues. Most of my husband family chalks it up to him being “from another generation”. I think that’s utter bullshit and shouldn’t be tolerated from anyone no matter their age. I don’t want him there, ESPECIALLY after my mother in law invited my sibling who is in an interracial marriage and has three young children who shouldn’t be exposed to such hate at their cousins birthday party.  I understand this is their house and they have the right to invite who they want. So am I the asshole for insisting he not be there whether or not the aunt will come?

requesting someone else not invite a racist to their own home