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Input: A couple months ago a friend of mine came to me because he was uncomfortable with where he was in the relationship with his girlfriend of 9 months. She wanted to move in together because she was living with her father and didn't want to be there anymore. My friend has his own place. When she presented it to him, it was basically make or break time. Either they move in together or they break up. He wasn't ready for cohabitation so he agreed to end it. 

She threw a temper tantrum, sobbing, bawling, and guilted him in to staying. He agreed to give it a little more time and see what happens. 

A couple more weeks went by and nothing changed. He had the conversation once more to end it. Again she threw a tantrum, and he caved. 

The following weekend he told her once again that he was done and that was it. She threw a tantrum, but he held strong. 

So she calls him to pick up his stuff. I warned him he was walking into another guilt trip, and lo and behold, he does.

Finally, she shows up at his house with no warning to drop stuff off, complains that this whole thing has put her in therapy (after 9 months, are you kidding??), again guilt trips the hell out of him, and ends up seducing him on top of it. 

This chick has no interest in him or what's best for them, it's completely about what she wants/needs. She can't be alone, so she does whatever she has to to keep him around.

In just a few months, my friend went from a confident, fun, secure, charming person to an insecure, second guessing, self doubting person. He's not the same person at all and it's heart breaking.

He came to me because he wasn't sure what to do about his relationship. When he told me about her and their relationship she sounded manipulative and controlling. He said he felt relieved when he finally broke it off with her, and so was I. 

I was hoping to get him back to the awesome, confident, charming guy he once was. I figured he just needed some time.

But last night he told me she came over, they slept together, and he agreed to continue to talk to her. After 2 months of him trying to get away, he ended up going back.

So I told him I couldn't support him anymore. I can't sit back and watch him become who she's turning him in to. It's. Heartbreaking.

Here's why I feel like an asshole - 

I feel like she's manipulative af and I feel like he needs someone to keep his head above water. He's completely a shell of who he once was. He was my best friend for a long time, which is why he came to me for advice, so I feel partially responsible for the situation. 

At the same time, he's a grown man and can make his own decisions. 

Reddit, AITA??


not supporting a friend with a Manipulative Codependent Girlfriend