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Input: Hey all,

My girlfriend [25F] and I[24M] had a small argument about this situation. We resolved it, we just wanted to hear some other people's takes on it. Also, the girl in question turned out to be gay anyways, but neither of us knew that at the time of the argument. Ok, here's the story:

Girl in question (let's call her Wanda) is close friends with some of my really close friends, and we've hung out several times in group settings. I get along well with Wanda, we've talked about cooking together (we both love to cook), and she's met my GF once before. We texted several times about getting together to cook for some friends, all innocent stuff. Then, she sent me a text saying that she was going out with some friends and "It'd make me happy if you came :)". I perceived this to be a little flirtatious, and told my GF about it. I didn't think it was a big deal, and I told my GF that if Wanda still wanted to hang out or cook together, I'd be fine with that.

My GF's take on the situation was that A) Wanda was being disrespectful to GF and our relationship by hitting on me after meeting GF, B) It would be a dumb idea to put myself in a situation where someone who had already made advances towards me could do it again.

My take is that A) Wanda didn't actually cross any boundaries (of mine at least), and as long as she continued not to, I didn't see a problem with being around her, B) I have enough self restraint to keep it in my pants around someone who's hitting on me.

It's worth noting that Wanda's invitation to go out with her (which I declined) occurred a month prior to the argument, and I hadn't spoken to her since. In addition, she's not from the US, so maybe in her home culture, that's just how friends speak to each other.

Like I said, this was a one-night argument and after more discussion and some time to cool off, we basically realized we were approaching the issue from two different sides which is why we couldn't come to an agreement at first. And, I found out later from a friend that Wanda was gay anyways so it's a moot point. 

So, all said, AITA for saying I'd still hang out with her after she said something I perceived to be flirtatious?


not avoiding a girl after she flirted with me