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I work in a building with all women, we all vary in ages. I'm 33 and the coworker, I'll call her Sara, is in her late 40's, so it's not like she's a teenager or anything. A lot of gossiping and talking trash behind people's back is a common occurrence there, it's just unfortunately how it is. It's crazy unprofessional but you learn to ignore it.

I used to work closely with Sara and thought we were legit friends. We talked outside of work, even. After we stopped working closely together, I found out that apparently we weren't friends like I thought. She was talking badly about me behind my back to anyone who would stand still long enough. To be fair, she talks trash about a lot of people behind their backs, so it's not like I'm special or anything. Just sucked cause I thought we were friends.

Anyway, other coworkers kept telling me the stuff she was saying and I was trying to not let it get to me...but it was getting to me and I was pissed but I wanted to avoid more drama so I didn't do anything about it. Recently a childhood friend of mine had died and I found out while at work. I hadn't seen him in years, but I was still upset. I wasn't crying or making a scene over it, but everyone could tell I was bummed out. I told a few coworkers about it when they asked me what was wrong, which lead to someone mentioning it to Sara.

She started talking shit about me for being upset over it! One of the things she said was about how she lost a parent 6 months ago and wasn't moping around upset about it like I was and basically said it was stupid of me to be upset over it. This was literally the day I found out about his death. It was actually within a few hours of me finding out he had died.

I was livid when I was told about what she said. I'd been ignoring the other stuff she says about me but this was the straw that broke the camel's back. I didn't care if talking trash is normal there and that she does it all the time...this time I felt she crossed a line. I went to my boss (I was entirely too angry to confront her myself and my boss knows about Sara's attitude and trash talking people) and told her that it felt like Sara was being a bully at this point, this was different then the usual stupid gossiping/shit talking and I wanted her to make Sara stop. She agreed and talked to Sara.

Naturally, some see me as the asshole for taking her comments personally and having our boss talk to her.

So. Was I the asshole? Should I have ignored it like I usually do? I was entirely too angry to talk to her myself and that would have just given her more to talk about.

having my boss deal with a hateful coworker