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Input: Alt account btw. So I’m a stay at home dad to two wonderful but extremely hyper and demanding kids and it stressful as crap but it’s what I signed up for. Now I haven’t been able to visit my mother in 3 years because she lives in a different state and my in laws live 30 minutes from where we live so we see them like 7 times a month. They treat me well but I still don’t feel like I can be myself around them or like I belong there, so I can never relax. Also my wife works extremely hard and I recognize that so I let her rest as much as possible while I tackle the kids. 

So after 3 years of not seeing my mother due to never having a baby sitter or able to afford plane tickets for a family of 4 I decided that I’m gonna go visit her. So we ran into some
Issue planning the road trip (MD to FL) my wife would have to use ALL of her sick/vacation days until she accumulated more of them and I’m 100% not ok with that so I mentioned that I’ll just go by myself but I need help with kids while I’m away. So I bring all this to my FIL and his response to my wife using all of her sick/vacation hours so soon was “it’s not an issue until it’s an issue” also he said that “trips like that should always be a family trip” we do have family vacations every year to the beach  so it’s not like we never travel as a family. 

I’m all for proper planning so not worrying about something until it becomes an issue is a big red flag for me but my wife said she can just borrowing against her time and I’m not ok with because what if there is an actual emergency? Both her parents have health issues, and whenever she gets sick it hits her hard. She says that it’s fine advice to give but it just doesn’t sit right with me. So maybe an outside perspective can help me out here. 

getting upset of my FIL advice