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Input: (sorry in advance, my native language is not English and I'm on mobile)

This is a story about my ex and I in the summer, and I have had multiple fights about this with her and after ending it a week ago, I now wonder if I was the asshole.

So, my (now ex) girlfriend and I had a wonderful relationship with each other, until the summer of 2018. We are both teens and live in Europe, so we had about six weeks of summer vacation before we had to go to school again. Both of our parents had plans to go on vacation, but she was going to be going to Ecuador for three of the six weeks of vacation, and beforehand I went to Austria, which lead to about a month of not seeing each other and a big time difference of about 6 hours without a lot of places with wifi.

When I came back from my vacation in Austria, she had just left and we couldn't really speak due to her being on flights and time difference. This meant for me that I didn't really have anyone to talk to, because most of my friends didn't really like meeting up or were on vacation theirselves. There was one (female) friend, however, that was home. I didn't really know her that well, having only really having a friendship for a few months, but she had a friend from America staying over for a few weeks. First I didn't really do anything with them, but at some point my friend had to go to work and I suggested I could take the American of a little tour of my city centre. I did this, with my girlfriend knowing it and she didn't mind at all, no this is just the beginning.

After a few days of me meeting up with my friend and the American, my ex started to complain. We didn't speak that much and she felt lonely, and I now also think that she was jealous of me being able to meet up with friends and she wasn't. So, after that I started to be a bit more careful about telling her about my time with the two, because I noticed it kinda hurt her, and we fighted a bit over nothing at all. She also made a few rules for me, for instance I wasn't allowed to enter my friend's house and I was not allowed to ever meet up with only my friend.

Skip forward a few weeks, my ex is on her way of coming back and the American left to go back to America. This meant I automatically wasn't allowed by my girlfriend to meet up with my friend anymore, because she didn't want me to do anything with my friend like I said before. 

My friend was feeling very lonely and very sad, she basically really needed me. So I decided to tell my ex that I was going to my friend's house to say a final goodbye, because I wasn't allowed to meet up with her. I instead went into the city together with her, to buy gifts for my ex and then we went into a park and sat on a bench with a meter between us eating cheap donuts and a drink. It was pretty enjoyable tbh.

Like I said before, my ex and I couldn't really talk to each other due to time difference and the lack of wifi, but a lot of the talking consisted of fighting. I was obviously pretty sad about this and with my ex being so far away from me, I was already considering breaking up with her when she came back, and so I send my friend the message: "Sometimes, I would like even you to be  my girlfriend instead of her" to show my feelings. It was a joke in a sense, something like: "haha nobody will like you" but my friend was used to these kinds of jokes from me. I never considered this as a good thing to do, but it was a in the moment message. I didn't like my friend in a relationship way, so I never considered actually having a relationship with her.

My ex came back, and we met up, and it was very good. I really liked that, but she slept over at my place at some point and when I went to my bathroom to put in my lenses and making breakfast for her, she unlocked my phone and started to read my conversations with my friend. Mostly it was full of jokes, but at some point she found the message I talked about earlier. I then admitted every lie I told her. 

My ex forced me to block my friend on everything, I wasn't allowed to say anything to her anymore, no possible contact. She told me I cheated on her, while I never kissed her or anything. This obviously made my friend very sad and it made me sad too, I was just forced to block her and say nothing. I tried talking to my friend multiple times but my ex stopped every attempt.

About 4 months passed and I broke up with her. I now am talking to my friend again and she is doing pretty good, which I am extremely happy of. My ex made me feel like the asshole, and that she wasn't jealous at all. 

So Reddit, am I the asshole here?
 

lying about meeting up with a female friend