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Input:      Let me preface this by saying, I’m posting this here because I openly admit I am close to clueless when it comes to “Doing right by family” or knowing what you owe family. Since 15 I was mostly by myself, and before that I didn’t really stay with any one person long enough to really grasp the concept of “family”.

Anyway, as an adult I reconnected with some. Most of this meant they got in contact with me, we exchanged details, maybe talk once or twice a month. One of the family members I got in contact with was a brother.

Now, I try my best not to judge people, but the dude is close to 30 and still living with his parents. Does not help my mother pay any bills, deadbeat alcoholic, all that good stuff. This is important in my context of things.

I had an old car that tbh I just wanted to get rid of. Absolutely nothing was wrong with it. It had a decent amount of mileage, but it was a safe bet it was good for many more (It was a Honda). I shopped it around to fellow friends, coworkers, school mates, and found a guy willing to buy it for 2500. Had the money up front. Okay, nice, told him I’ll get to him on it.

Then my brother got ahold of me and, before saying hello or anything of the like, began a long winded story about his truck not working and he needs another car and blah blah all that stuff. I told him 2500. He immediately turned sour and began to lecture me on how to shop things better , and how I’ll never sell it for that much. I told him I had a buyer, for exactly that much. Attitude changed completely. Practically begged for a reduced price. I caved and gave him a deal of 1750. He then said “can I just give you 200 and pay the rest in payments “ and I said no. I’ll take payments but I’m not gonna struggle with making sure you pay over that long of a time period. I said it more nicely, but that’s the gist.

So, I got 1000. Literally the next day he crashed the car and totaled it. Came crying (literally) about how he needs that money back or he won’t make it and he doesn’t know what to do. I said I am not giving him the whole 1000 back. That’s ridiculous. He then said “Well it’s kinda your fault! You sold it to me and it had pretty bad brakes “ and I just said “No it didn’t”. Which is true, I took great care of the car. He stood in silence for a little bit and literally threw the grown man version of a temper tantrum. He hit one of my shelves that I held very rare, and very expensive vinyl records in. One fell on the floor and he stomped on it, attempting to break it. I did not assault him, but I did firmly escort him off my property and said not to come back. I can’t help him with the money.

Next day, my mother calls me and says I did wrong, and I could of gave him the money back. Is it really necessary to owe someone something simply under the fact that we have a little of the same DNA?

refusing to refund a sale to my family member