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I'm only 16, but I am thinking of my wedding as most teens do. I've been told by my mother, brother, and his girlfriend that my father should be invited and come to my wedding. 

But I really don't want him to. First off, he's married to a woman who emotionally abused me and my brother until both of us moved out. He moved out at 18 I moved out at 14. I still have some problems mentally because of the abuse (excessive apologizing, anxiety, depression) and despite what she's put both me and my brother through, he's still with her. 

Besides that, I'm trans. Ftm. If I get married, I want to have already had my top surgery and started T (testosterone.) My dad has told me to my face that if I came out as trans he'd kill me himself. 

I have no doubt he would do it. If I invite him I put my life on the line, but since I'm not out to family I can't talk about why I don't want him There. 

Honestly, he and I have never had a good relationship, even before my step mom. He has anger issues, and is just an all around ass hole. I don't want him at my wedding, at all. 

Am i the ass hole?

not wanting my dad at my wedding