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Input: I am 31F, SO is 30M, together 2 years, living together 1, planning engagement and family in next year or so. We split chores roughly evenly. I have no complaints here—we both do our fair share overall. Part of our split is that food is mainly my chore, since I enjoy cooking and he’s always been up-front that he doesn’t know how.

I always try to use fresh, from-scratch ingredients. My cooking style is very simple. Dinner always includes a protein, a carb, and a veggie, and usually a fruit-based dessert. I only cook complicated stuff for special occasions, guests, etc. I try to cook mindfully of our general health, balanced nutrition, fresh food, etc., but I’m not being a “foodie” or expecting anything exotic or difficult.

If, for some reason, I don’t have time or energy to cook, SO’s idea of handling dinner is picking up fast food for both of us. He’ll pay for both our meals and if I say I’m not in the mood for fast food, he’ll suggest a different (nicer) restaurant. He’s not exactly being cheap or unfair because he will let me pick the restaurant and he’ll always offer to pay (though we usually split). And he never gives me a hard time about occasionally not cooking even though we agreed that would be primarily my chore. But I hate that if I don’t cook, it'll always be more expensive and less healthy, because SO can’t be bothered to learn anything.

I’ve tried engaging him while I cook, to show him some basics, but he’s just not interested. It’s a mindset issue, like he just doesn’t think cooking is a thing that applies to him because he can always get fast food. I’ve asked him if he could just learn a couple of basic meals, for the odd occasion that I’m sick, working late, etc., but he doesn’t see the point because he can just grab takeout and “if you want to be healthy just get a salad!”

It kinda stresses me out because we’re talking about having kids in the next year or two. Things are going to get a lot more hectic and I might not have time/energy to cook every night. Or I could get injured or die and he’d be in charge of feeding the kids. (Unlikely, but it could happen.) He thinks me asking him to learn some basic skills is unnecessary because he can always just pay for takeout and “they have salads if you’re trying to be healthy”. He supports his argument by reminding me that he before we met, he only ever ate fast food (literally), and he’s never been overweight or had a health issue. I mean, he’s not wrong, but I still think: Just because you CAN in your teens and 20s, doesn’t mean you SHOULD forever—and I think you definitely shouldn’t raise kids on a 100% fast food diet. I’m bothered by his refusal to cook, but to his credit, if I don’t cook he is always willing to let me pick the restaurant and he always offers to pay. And we did decide that cooking would be mainly my chore. AITA?

insisting that my so learn basic cooking techniques, instead of grabbing takeout? to be fair, we agreed cooking would mainly be MY chore