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Input: Long story,  and no TLDR because I just put the key parts in bold, but I seriously appreciate anyone who reads all of this.

My roommate (we can call her Emma) and I share a 2 bedroom apartment. We split rent &amp; utilities down the middle. Our lease started on June 1st of 2018. We had shared a dorm room the year prior without any issue, so I  thought sharing an apartment would be no problem. She works \~30 hours a week as a waitress, and her BF works about the same at his parents pizzeria, they both dropped out of college. I work 6 days a week and take classes full time.

I wasn't living here fully over the summer, as I had a job that was over an hour commute, so I was only here on weekends, but I wasn't here at all during July and part of august.  When I came back in mid august, I discovered she had started seeing a guy (we can call him Dave). **Right away, he was spending the night here almost every night**, and had been for several weeks before I came back. So I came back and he was pretty much here every night, **without Emma asking me about it** or anything. **Side note: he has his own apartment, about 2 blocks from our place.**

Weeks later, **I ask her about it, and if he could contribute. She immediately gets extremely defensive** and very snarky with me, saying "well if you have a problem with it, Ill just kick him out then", I say you don't need to do that, Id just like him to contribute, etc. etc. This conversation goes nowhere. **I eventually give up** and leave it. 

**Several months pass**, me just trying to stay out of their way. He progressively starts moving in more and more. **They now eat every meal here, he sleeps here every single night, has his friends over here, hangs out here all day when she's at work and he has the day off, even sleeps here when she is away**. However, he doesn't keep all his clothes here. This is Emma's only defense on the rare occasion I bring it up.

About 2 weeks ago, I finally got fed up after our landlord stopped by to confront us about Dave getting mail here and his car being parked here. **The landlord was clearly suspicious we had a third person living here**, and if he finds out about Dave, Emma and I **will both get evicted**. I had to lie to my landlord about Dave living here. Our landlord already hates us, because Emma got a cat without asking him first, and also had a huge party while I wasn't home that the police busted and called our landlord about.

After that, **I asked them to both sit down with me and have a civil discussion about it. I request that he either stop living here, or contribute to rent. I finally got him to agree to pay the utilities.** Emma and I each pay $425 a month for rent, he will now pay $60 a month in utilities to live here. I thought I was being generous with this compromise. Emma's justification for this was that he "stays out of my way". Which he does, and I appreciate that. But **he's still here all day, even when Emma isn't, is here every night, even when Emma isn't. Yes, he is not very intrusive to me, but he still lives here**. You can be the least intrusive roommate ever, but you still have to pay your share of rent, in my opinion.

During this conversation, Emma and Dave went on a whole tirade about me as well, **saying that I had no right to be upset with Dave for living here, since I leave my things in the living room sometimes and don't always take my shoes off.** **I don't think this is crazy**, I think leaving my jacket, laptop, and backpack in the living room of my own apartment sometimes is pretty normal and acceptable. And I do my best to take my shoes off 90% of the time, but I forget once in a while. **I'm a very clean person, and rarely leave a mess**. She frequently leaves the sink overflowing with dishes, leaves the bathroom a mess, clogs the shower drain with hair, doesn't clean up cat litter and cat food all over the floor, leaves spoiled food in the fridge, and doesn't clean up the huge parties she has when im gone. but I don't say anything about it because I really don't think stuff like that is a huge deal

**This compromise lasted about a week, when they changed their minds, and agreed to stay a couple nights a week at his place, instead of him paying. The last 2 weeks, they've spent 2-3 nights at his place**. Great.

**Today, he spent the whole day here, while Emma was at work**, and his apartment is only 2 blocks away. I confronted Emma about it when she got home, and **asked her that he please not be here all day when she isn't, I think its weird, and see no reason why he can't just hang at his place. She got EXTREMELY angry and defensive**, angrily gesturing to the living room, saying it was a mess (I had my backpack and jacket on the couch, and my laptop and a glass of water on the coffee table), and getting angry at me for hanging out in the living room all day doing homework.

 **I tried to be very civil about it, I don't want to be fighting with my roommate, but she escalated it so fast, Im wondering if I'm being the asshole here?? I must be doing something wrong, otherwise she wouldn't be this mad. Currently he pays $0 and spends 100% of his time here, except between 10pm-8am 1 or 2 nights a week when they sleep at his place, just so they can say they sleep there sometimes. Please tell me if I'm the asshole, and all advice is appreciated.**

getting mad at my roommate for letting her boyfriend basically live here