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Input: Throwaway because I think my husband knows my main.

My husband has been attending conventions for like 15 years, we’ve been together for 9. When he was in high school he went to a lot of conventions every year, now it’s usually 1 or 2 every year.  When we first met, he said “I’m not gonna be one of those lame 30 year olds that still go to conventions, that’s so weird. Now he’s a 31 year old still going to cons.

When we first started dating I tried going with him to several and had a “meh” time at best. The parts that I did enjoy were only fun because I was completely wasted, and that’s no longer something I enjoy being.

We’ve been married for 4.5 years and have a 5 month old baby. Obviously it would not be appropriate to bring the baby to a con, although my husband floated the idea and I quickly pointed out how ridiculous it was. The car ride alone would be too much for him.

My husband has been saying for weeks that he won’t be going to Magfest, can’t afford it, doesn’t make sense, whatever. Then two days before he decides that he’s going Saturday morning and coming back Sunday. I had a feeling this would happen, and told him it was shitty to constantly play this game of “I’m not going” only to decide last minute that he is going, which he has done multiple times before. He admitted that this was shitty and apologized, but insisted that he never gets to see his friends and this was his chance. Most of his close friends live fairly close by to us, but he rarely invites them over, and they rarely take him up on it. His best friend lives an hour away and has no job or transportation, so my husband will occasionally drive an hour each way to pick him up and drop him off, which I think is kind of ridiculous.  Now he’s driven 5 hours away to the con to hang out with friends that don’t live that far away to begin with.

He also makes the case of wanting to see his “con friends” who I think are acquaintances at best. He has no interaction with them outside of cons other than liking their social media posts once in a while. He doesn’t know them on an intimate level at all, and if it weren’t for cons he would lose contact with them entirely.

My last gripe is the hotel. I’d be more open to going with him if we booked a room for ourselves, and I’d be happy to wander around the city with the baby while he’s at the con. But he’s throwing a friend $30 to sleep on the floor of a room that has a dozen people staying in it. I know that this is the norm at cons, but when you’re married with a kid? C’mon.

I really wish that this is something I could enjoy with him but I’ve tried multiple times and have always had a bad time. My husband doesn’t attend these things so he can hang out with me the whole time, so I end up feeling ignored. I’m not the most outgoing person, and I have a hard time connecting with people when the only conversation topics revolve around fandoms. (I love The Office, but just because someone else loves The Office doesn’t automatically mean I want to be their friend).  I get super bored just hanging out drinking in hotel rooms with people I don’t know well or at all.

Most of all, I’m annoyed because it feels like my husband is pretending to be 21 again while I’m managing our household and taking care of our kid. I work full time so I cherish the time with my baby, don’t get me wrong, but after I spend a 12 hour day at work my husband is eagerly waiting for me to come home and relieve him of dad duty for a little bit because it’s work, duh!  From other people’s social media I can tell that my husband was up until at least 6am, which means he’s not gonna head home before noon and he’ll get home after 5pm probably feeling like shit.

I haven’t picked a fight because I don’t want to ruin his weekend, but I’m really fed up with this (what I perceive to be) juvenile nonsense. I haven’t texted him much but he also hasn’t texted me since 7pm last night so it’s not like I’m ignoring him.  I just wish that he would find more adult friends that we could both enjoy hanging out with, rather than reliving his past once or twice per year. AITA?

not wanting my spouse to go to conventions