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Input: ## WIBTA for not paying my abusive parents back money I owe them?

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I feel like I might be the asshole but genuinely want others opinions bc I'm struggling with this decision. On one hand I think you should always honor your word but on the other hand I really don't want to speak with my parents, and also am struggling with how much I owe them given how completely they failed me. I'm leaning towards paying but curious to see what others would do.

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My parents took out parent plus loans for my college. My name isn't on them but I agreed to pay them back. I've been unemployed due to mental illness (depression and ptsd) but have gotten back on my feet and just started working again. So I was thinking I would start making payments to them. It's 25k and the last time I spoke to my mom I think she said she paid $150 a month.

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The complicating issue is I am no contact with my parents since they're unstable. In the past they have refused to give me the loan number/info so I can only make payments through them (correct me if I'm wrong though). I really don't want to be in contact with them in any way so that's why this is giving me pause. Someone told me since my name isn't on the loans I won't be in trouble legally but idk if that's true.

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Some context for when I say abusive: hit me in the face, back of the head, constant verbal abuse, allowed me to be around people who were known dangers to children unsupervised, where I was assaulted, told me I was making it up/crazy when I told, kicked me out when I came out to them (age 18), threatening to beat us and occasionally got into altercations with my siblings to the point where I had to physically remove my siblings to a safe locked room, etc etc. also chronic substance abuse/alcoholism which wasn't fun to deal with.

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Tldr; I agreed to pay my parents back, but they also abused me my whole life, so can I call it even? Or should I pay them?

not paying my abusive parents back money I owe them