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Input: My girlfriend and I have been together for one year. We were really close friends for two years, however she had a boyfriend during that time who she, according to her, felt stuck with and was neither emotionally, physically or mentally attracted to anymore. She ended up leaving him for me, constantly assuring me that she was over him months prior and that she felt nothing of the breakup. I knew this wasn't 100% the case but tread carefully anyway and let her lead the relationship.

Over the last year, our relationship has become a bit emotionally and mentally abusive, with many red flags that we've been trying to work out. Mainly things like jealousy, gaslighting, being possessive etc on her behalf, towards me. Last Saturday, I couldn't handle the fighting anymore so decided to end the relationship. She didn't take it well and insisted that she was going to do anything to win me back. We'd been working through things during the week, until Wednesday when I did the stupid thing.

I was suspicious that she was hiding something from me on Instagram. I knew she had her old phone in our house, so I did what any rational, trusting person would do (duh) and I charged the stupid thing up to have a snoop. I hadn't even gotten to Instagram before noticing her gallery app being an open tab, and noticing the photo currently open in the app. This led me to finding a folder of about 50 or so very x-rated photos of her having sex with her ex boyfriend. 

As traumatic as that is in any circumstance, I understand that people have histories and things like this are likely to exist at some point. I'm personally completely against things like this, but can appreciate why people enjoy it.

My issue here is that she used this phone to contact me for 2 months before upgrading to a newer model. When I asked why she didn't just delete the folder when we started dating, she told me she had forgotten that it existed. There were certainly 5 different occasions which she accessed this folder while we were together, while she was telling me she loved me, that she wanted a future with me and would never do anything to jeopardize our relationship or my trust in her. 

After some pressing, she finally admitted that she kept it because, 2 months in to us, she thought she still loved her ex. However, has since retracted, and now keeps telling me that the photos were "average" and "normal couple photos", that the whole thing is stupid and that I'm completely overreacting and trying to find an excuse to leave the relationship.

Am I the asshole here?


Tl;dr - I found out my girlfriend was keeping a folder of her own pornography on a phone she used while dating me, claims she forgot they existed despite sending me photos from the folder on 5 different occasions. 

breaking up with my girlfriend over her keeping x-rated photos of her and her ex