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To begin, I would like to say that I do not hate my old boss. I was in graduate school studying science in a lab, and I really believe I would never would have had the opportunity to be in graduate school if he hadn't wanted me to work with him. That being said, we have some serious differences in mentorship-mentee styles.

I don't believe he tries to make people feel the way that he does, but he can be very abrasive and says things to me that I believe are meant to be "peers messing with eachother jabs" where it hits me as just down right racist and has been pretty damaging to my mental health.

For example, once when he found out I went to Polish school growing up, he immediately asked me "Is that an outhouse?". He once went seven weeks without using my real last name, but a similar sounding name of a polish style deli from the area (he knew how to properly pronounce my name). He even went so far once as to put this deli name on our website listing me as his student with it. My real name was not included.

He did this every day four four years. During lab meetings from 4 pm-5pm he would come down. One coworker mentioned to me that he often liked to target me specifically more than others. It was hell. He used to call me nexus of disappointment, or ND for short. When I asked why he called me a Nexus of disappointment he corrected me saying "I said Disappointment Nexus, I wouldn't use three words describing you when I could use two". It was difficult to communicate with him at times. Its chipped at my self-esteem, and I actually started having panic attacks to the point where I can't do my research/writing my thesis. I quit the program. I'm actually in therapy now, and I've noticed during my therapy for the panic attacks, even though I've been out of the program for six months, ALL I DO is talk about my old boss and my relationship with him.

Part of me thinks this just might be that graduate school is science is tough. Everyone has problems and I just wasn't good enough. Maybe I'm just projecting my failings during my research (my research projects were not going well), and I'm just looking for someone to blame. I don't know, but I do know that I hate my current job. I feel like my career has been derailed (I feel like I can't ask him for a job reference/recommendation since I didn't finish) and so I work a dead end lab tech position and I hate it. I feel under utilized since I do have greater skills, but I just press play on idiot proof instrumentation. I feel so fucking broken. It was my dream to get my PhD since I was a kid and now it just seems like its an impossible thing.

I want to talk to the school and my former committee members and explain to them the depths of the feelings, but worry that again, the projection, and that its already done, and I'm gone. Maybe I'm just a bitter failed graduate student that is looking for someone else to blame. AITA?

wanting to file a complaint about my former boss