Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: So I don’t even know if I titled it right. 1st post ever. I know it’s annoying but scrolling through reddit found this sub and felt triggered and wanted to share and find out if I was really the asshole. I’ll try my best. (Sorry if it’s really long).

Background info. On our friend ship: I have known my (ex) Friend (let’s call her, N) for over 10 years. I would do anything for her. Everyone who knew us, knew that if I had a choice between 20min hanging out with N, over a whole day with someone else, I’d pick N. Hands down. she was my sister (basically). 

Background info. On N: she was always the girl that guys wanted (she developed early) I didn’t mind, I was happy for her and found it fun to hear about her guy friends and dates.  She was never single for more than 2 weeks, from 8th(13) grade til now (23). I liked being by myself m, so I was never fixated on things like that, I just wanted to be happy with what I have. This meaning I rarely went to her to complain about guys and emotional drama outside of family issues. 
 
Fast forward: I am about 22
I had one pretty bad relationship but got out of it. when I realized how bad it really was, We were already 1.5 years into it and I felt that people would judge me for now having feelings for this guy who wasn’t shit (me 21 at the time, him 26 and he needed my help to pay rent and I nearly went broke and lost my own place in the process, also he was on drugs, I know -_-) so I didn’t tell anyone and it took me 6mo to get out of the relationship I was broken and a shell of who I used to be. I tried to vent to N but she was always talking about her family issues and complaining about things (that she could have easily fixed) so I didn’t want to bother her  and I just listened and supported her when she needed it. (Thinking my dumb relationship wasn’t as important as her sister getting remarried) 

About a year later, N ends things with the guy she was dating/sleeping with (guy in a relationship and living with the mother of his 3 kids, she was a side piece) A month later, she “falls in love” she is now 21 and he is 28. I begin to feel triggered but say nothing and just provide support. 

The BS starts early. He has no car, she does. After a month she has to *ask him* to use her car some days. He never fills the gas. All the while she is still living away from home, and when she leaves to visit he gives her shit about having a good time with her family and not him. Plus a whole array of other BS that no 21 year old (or any woman) should have to deal with. But I support and try to help her, she calls crying at LEAST every 3 weeks crying her eyes out, all hours of the night, to complain about him. I pick up an listen, trying to help problem-solve, every time.  While also sprinkling in “you know you don’t have to put up with this, right” “ you’re awesome and he should see that, if he loves you” “ you sure you guys aren’t moving too fast?” This goes on for about a year.

Then I Went to visit to check up on her because she visits home less and less. That’s when out he is now living with her and doesn’t pay rent. Continues to use her car. Forgets to pick her up from work at 5am (she worked the night shift) leaving her waiting for hours until he wakes up or she decides to call another friend). and blocks her on his social media. 

I take her aside and express my concerns, she denies it “it’s not that bad” “there are so many good times though” “ but he’s really sweet” etc. I don’t want to push because I know how it feels to love someone who is literal garbage. And feeling ashamed of your love so you isolate yourself from family and friends( been there done that, didn’t want her to feel the same way I did) I can tell she truly loves this guy and will do anything for him, So I continue my support.

Until.. I find out her neighbors called the police on them because an argument “got out of hand”. This is when I begin telling her she has got to start thinking what’s best for her. At this point the stress of being with him had made her fail 2 semesters of undergrad and extend her stay (and how much debt she has). She also got diagnosed clinically depressed during the 2nd failed semester. It broke my heart. 

So around Jan. 2018, 1.5 years into their relationship l, I say “as a friend and as someone who loves you, I think you need to get away from this guy he does nothing for you and stresses you out, just try to go 3-6 months without needing to cry in your car because of this guy.” (because he will refuse to leave HER house after an argument because that’s where his ps3 is) she says okay, no problem, their love is getting better and stronger they can do this. 

I don’t hear from her until April. She is finally graduating and has a job and isn’t worrying about anything except him. 
(Around that time I am starting grad school and super stressed, don’t feel like I am smart enough *insecurities blah blah*. My debt is getting ridiculous and gives me anxiety. My family life is crazy, one of my grand parents is developing dementia, find out I have a bunch of half siblings.  I am further away from home than I have ever been and more shit that has me crying all the time) 
In April she complains about him wasting his time trying to be a rapper -_- and I’m fed up. No energy to deal with this almost 2 year problem. I tell her straight up this is ridiculous and she doesn’t deserve all this at such a young age. He is in no way shape or form worth it. 
In the same breathe I tell her how I had been feeling and worrying and what not and how I just wanted her to talk to me more to get some sort of feel of home and support from the only person I can call a sister. 

She ignores me for months. While posting on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat every week. I text/call her, Dm, and Snapchat her but get left on read. I am once again broken, I feel abandoned. I get angry thinking about all the years I was there for her with out asking for anything in return.
She then sends me this obligatory birthday message (on snap chat, not even a text or a call) as if I haven’t been sending her messages for months. In anger and not wanting to ruin my birthday with an argument I write “K” 
A couple days later she asks “are we still friends” 
I basically say yes but I feel like we aren’t best friends anymore and tell her why I feel that way. She gets PISSED. Says I shamed her relationship and never supported her for like our whole friendship and that she was there for me in my “depressed stage” in April. And a whole lot of other stuff trying to make me feel bad and bashing me as a friend. 

And ends with “if we can’t be best friends then we can’t be friends at all” 

I am completely over it and refuse to bash her the way she did me and just say  “ok” and never spoke to her again (not like she has ever messaged me). 

One mutual friend says she doesn’t even care and I’m better off. And another says I should have given her a chance. And I would have had she not bashed me like I was a horrible friend from the beginning. 

Sometimes I feel guilty when my new friends talk about maids of honors and I think about how she was always going to be mine but now I have no one that close. And I wonder should I have just been there for her despite everything? I feel like I was right but every now and then I feel bad for the lost friend ship. 

AITA for dropping her like that? (Btw thanks if you read the whole thing I appreciate any and all comments if I get any lol) 

Idk what TD: LR is but I dropped my friend when I realized It was a one sided friend ship. 

(Also she is no longer with him as of Jan. 2019) 

dropping my friend of over 10 years because she wasn't there for me