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Input: A little back story. I (25F) was in a toxic relationship and i barely had any energy to deal with people. I had started ignoring my best friend’s (25F) calls. Just so you know, i had been lagging off completely in life (Unemployed) whereas my friend, after a few failed attempts, finally made it so it was a pretty big deal. Now it was an exciting period of her life and in the beginning i was all ears. I used to be eager to listen to her stories.

Then after things started going downhill for me, i finally told her that i need some time because i am scared i will become miserable and wont be able to be happy at other people’s achievements.

I realise i was absolutely wrong and thats not how it works, hell i didnt even need to tell her such an elaborate version, i could have stopped a few sentences short. i also told her ‘it’s got nothing to do with my relationship with (now)exbf’

Anyway she was confused and hurt and didn’t expect me to become like that. Then, tbh i really didn’t understand where i went wrong so i didnt feel apologetic either. She said she appreciates my honesty but she never thought it would come to this between us.

A few days later, we spoke and i apologised. I opened up about my relationship (i had just broken up here) told her the details, i was crying and telling her about how i have changed since 2 years and i dont recognise myself anymore. In all honesty, i wasnt thinking about my actions towards her. And she goes ‘yea i agree, i hate to bring this up rn but what you said that day was so out of line for you, i dont feel the same way about our friendship anymore’ she also said something like ‘dont cry now, we will have to become ok if you cry now’ and i was honestly stunned and obviously couldnt cry even if i wanted to.

Anyway i told her ‘i cant blame everything on my toxic relationship, i realise i went wrong and i can only apologise at this point’

She is also probably mad at me for taking so long to let go off this guy. Another thing that amused me was she going ‘you call exbf like crazy when things go south but you can’t do that for me’ which felt like another jab at this point.

It’s been a month now and we have tried to get to each other but the timing always seems off (long distance). I messaged her asking if i really screwed everything up and she replied saying no and that she will get back to me but we never really actually spoke. She could be busy but idk its not like her to not remove 5-10 minutes for a talk.

am i the asshole?

Tl;dr: messaged asking best friend for space till i deal with my shit so i dont become miserable over her achievements.

asking space from a best friend so I don't become miserable over her achievements