Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: This is a throwaway account. Pardon me, this is kind of a long story.

So there's this girl - Let's call her Alexis - who I have been best friends with for three years. We met in our freshmen year of University, and we are both Juniors now. For a while, we were extremely close, to the point where I actually considered her one of my best friends. But as time went on, things began to get tense between us.

See, Alexis has not had the easiest life. She has multiple mental issues - such as anxiety and depression - that were not helped by her growing up in poverty and with no support network. While I do also have my own share of mental baggage, I have had a comparatively privileged upbringing; I was raised by an upper middle class, supportive family (this may seem like a non-sequitur, but it comes up later). Regardless, I have always tried my best to be supportive of her, knowing about all she has to deal with.

However, as time went on, Alexis began to lash out at me (and occasionally other people) when she got angry. In my case, this consisted of her accusing me of being insensitive, arrogant, childish, manipulative, and guilt-tripping, among other things. The worst of these incidents happened in Sophomore year, when she gave me a letter that emotionally blackmailed me and basically tried to make many of my own emotional problems about her.

Today, everything blew up.

We had agreed to finally sit down and talk about these issues. I was accompanied by our mutual best friend, who we will call Lyla (who has been an active defender of Alexis up until recently). After talking for a bit about Alexis' own problems, we finally got on the topic of her lashing out at me. Alexis told me that she couldn't help lashing out at me, that it was caused by her own horrific problems, and that I should pay more attention to my own actions so I don't say something that can be construed as upsetting her.

Some examples of things I did that she brought up specifically are:

* Telling her to see the new Spider-Man movie (which she interpreted as me ignoring her poverty)
* Asking if her laptop was still broken (which she also interpreted as me ignoring her poverty)
* Talking about my plans to go to Grad School after she talks about needing to graduate to survive
* Calling myself an idiot after she corrected me about something (which she interpreted as guilt-tripping)

The letter was also brought up, and she basically told me that she was sorry for how she wrote the letter, but not for its contents. In fact, she accused me of being insensitive towards her by having a negative reaction to the letter. She then repeated that she couldn't help herself, and that I needed to be understanding of her, and not act like that she was inferior to me (which I do not do, at least not intentionally).

Later on, Alexis told me that me and Lyla were the only people she really felt like she could trust, and that we were her only support network. Then, she accused me and Lyla of ganging up on her, and went into a full-blown panic attack, screaming about how she wanted to end her life and telling herself that she was a terrible person. At this point, Lyla left, fed up with the situation. I stayed for a little longer, but after a while I decided that I was getting nowhere with her. 

Before I even met with her, I came to the conclusion that I couldn't continue to put my (rather fragile) mental health on the line for her sake. And so, when I realized I couldn't change her mind, I left. As of right now, I intend to stay away from her, to not consider her a friend anymore.

I don't hate her, and I still care about her. But I don't want to be on the receiving end of her anger anymore. Does this mean I'm in the wrong? Am I the asshole for walking away from our friendship when she's this vulnerable?

abandoning my best friend to protect my mental health