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Input: Backround ist this:
My wife works in another city and we only see each other from Friday evening to Monday mornings. We are working on changing this and it is not meant to be permanent.
We have a nice Apartment in the city I work at because that's where we are both from, have our parents and friends at. 
As most couples do, we split the normal chores betwen us, but because she is'nt here for the most part of the week most of it falls into my part. Only thing she does is the laundry and only because she brings her clothes with her on the weekends and we do all of them here together, plus I normally help her with it.

But here is the thing, I work a minimum of 40 hours a week and I enjoy doing a bit of sport and seeing friends(I do this on weekdays as it doesn't cut into the time I have with my wife). This made me realize quickly that it's not working out  and I had to give something up to keep our home clean and nice. And I didn't want to.

As I make enough money I looked into cleaning services and what that would cost me. I found a company that seemd reasonable and talked it over with my wife. She wasn't happy about it at first because she didn't like someone being in our home without us being there and I totaly get that. So we compromised and I made an arrangement with the cleaning company that we would have always the same person come over and for the first few months they would only clean while someone is at home. They were fine with it and of we went. After about 7 months of the same Lady cleaning our home my wife was fine with giving her a key and come in when noone was there. 
I also am the one paying for this completely out of my own pocket.

Backround done.


I recently had 2 friends over for a drink after work and to chat. One brought his girlfriend with him (who he is with for close to 3 years now and I know for nearly the same amount of time and am cool with her), who was in our Apartment for the first time, so I showed her around a bit. She made the comment that it must be a bitch to keep clean for my wife with her being away all week and so on. I responded that it was my duty to clean and that I had simply gotten a cleaning service as I would like my time after work to be spend on more pleasurable things as cleaning. 

That sparked a discussion that went on for 2 hours about me ripping my wife of because I now "do nothing" aournd the house. And even though I know my wife thinks it's fine I myself am now not sure if I am a bad husband and could change something for the sake of my wife.

So, fire away.


paying to get my part of the chores done