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Input: She grew up in the Caribbean, Spanish as a first language, but learning English growing up.  She's lived in the States for about 15 years now and is fluent in both languages.  We, obviously, speak English at home, but she has family local and stays in touch with family back home, so she speaks Spanish pretty much daily.  Just not to me.

Ok, when we first started dating, I told her I was trying to learn Spanish.  Where I live and with the job  I do, speaking Spanish is very useful.  But, yes, I also was trying to score a few points early in the relationship.  I specifically remember her saying something to the effect of "yeah, that's cool, but if you ask for my help, don't flake out on me".  Ok, fair enough.

In the last couple of years, I've made some progress, using the phone apps, audio lessons, workbooks, etc.  I honestly feel like I've kept up my end of the "don't flake out on me" deal.  But getting her to help me has been very frustrating.  I've pulled out the books right in front of her and started working on lessons or whatever and gotten no reaction at all.  Directly asking for help isn't much better...at best, I get an unenthusiastic correction on my pronunciation or whatever...at worst, I feel actively discouraged.  

For example, something happened today which kinda prompted this post...I sent her a text message asking, in Spanish, what a particular word meant in English.  Her response was "what are you trying to say".  Ok, so autocorrect did kinda jack it up, but I clarified it.  The response was "I have no idea what you're trying to say."  So I went back....checked my work...sounded it all out...no, I felt like I got it pretty darn close, if not 100% accurate.  When I said so, she said she meant that she didn't know the word that I was asking about.  Ok, so why not just say that instead of making it seem like everything I said was so wrong that you couldn't decipher it?  This is characteristic of the "help" that she has provided over the time that I've been asking for it.  I'll practice something, try to make sure I have it right or really close...and then when I ask her about it or try to say something to her, all my effort is thrown out on account of a minor mistake or mispronunciation here or there....which is kinda the point, since I'm trying to learn...

So here's the part where I feel like I might be the asshole...this gets frustrating.  She expresses a desire to help, but the help she provides is not...helpful.  I get it...just because someone speaks a language doesn't a) mean they are proficient at teaching it or b) obligated to help someone else learn, regardless of their relationship.  So she says she wants to help, but her actions don't really match that.  Am I the asshole for pushing the issue?

Not sure if this matters...but there is one more layer or two to this which makes it a little more frustrating for me.  One, she is in school...and frequently asks for my help with papers, projects, studying, etc.  I want to see her be successful, so I happily agree.  To then get sub-optimal support in return kinda sucks.  Also, and more serious, I think...we spend quite a bit of time with her family, both stateside and when we travel back to her home.  Some of them speak English, but very often, pretty much the entirety of the conversation  during these visits will be in Spanish.  I'm stuck there, sitting next to her, barely able to understand what everyone is talking about (although that has gotten better with my own self study).  When I expressed frustration with that circumstance, I get the same old story of wanting to help, but then nothing ever coming of it, as usual.  

So...am I the asshole for trying to get the help from my wife who is obviously not really into helping me?  Or do I have a case that she could step up her game a little bit?

wanting my wife to help me learn spanish