Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: It's not quite what you're thinking.

I'm (28M) married (27F) for four years. Good relationship, I trust her.

Around a year ago, I went on a three day business trip. A friend of hers (very gay woman a bit younger than us) was in town, and I knew they were going to hang out. No big deal.

When I got home for my trip, at some point in conversation it became apparent that my wife's friend has spent the night. Again, no big deal. But we live in a 1bd apartment so I asked, 'where did she sleep?' Yeah turns out they shared our bed.

Now at the time, I wasn't really upset. I didn't accuse her of cheating. But I did express that I felt it was kind of inappropriate. She of course told me that nothing happened, the girl was like a little sister to her, etc.

Now here's where it gets weird. Flash forward about six month, during casual conversation I mention an actor that I found attractive - she agreed, one thing led to another and she admitted that over the past few months she had realized she was bi. She didn't want to tell me because she didn't want me to worry about her being attracted to some other woman, all she wanted was me, etc. I took it well and we moved on.

BUT one year later I'm still worrying about that night. The timing works out.

Was I an asshole to bring it up in the first place? If I mention it again will I be an asshole? Help me decide.

asking my wife not to sleep with other women