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Input: My wife and I go to bed together each night together and get up at roughly the same time. She is an expat and messages her brother through Whatsapp and Facebook Messenger. On the rare occasion he is free to play games with her and talk to her on skype. Because of the time difference between her and her brother (7 hours) it can be difficult to arrange these sessions.

I'm more than happy for her to spend time with her family, I'll leave her to it and do my own thing for 2-5 hours while it happens. I understand how hard it is for her living away from her family and she needs to keep that relationship with them strong.

My problem is this - sometimes (not every time) she wants to spend all night playing with her brother, and when I've told her I want to go to bed at the same time as her and ask her to stop playing, she gets upset with me. I try to justify this with her and explain its important that we go to bed at the same time, because 1. I have a hard time sleeping if not next to her and 2. It has been expressed that going to bed at different times in a relationship can be detrimental to the relationship itself - it can spiral out of control and become a habit. She doesn't appear to agree to these points and tells me that she thinks the 'situation itself' is shitty.

I've also talked to her about creating a schedule with her brother, so that once a week or fortnight I can sleep in the spare bedroom and leave her to do her own things, but after telling her this she tells me that her brother is quite spontaneous and her gaming sessions with him don't have any decent notice of time. (I normally say that this is his problem and he's the one that needs to sort himself out).

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Am I the asshole? Should I loosen up and leave her to it? I don't like the idea of being controlling which I know I can be sometimes.

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getting annoyed at my wife when she wants to stay up all night