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Input: So to start off, I'm not great at making friends. I have a hard time trusting when people are being nice to me because I grew up as the kid that nobody really liked. Anytime people were nice to me as a kid they usually had an ulterior motive, like they wanted something I had or they were setting me up for some cruel prank. 


I'm also still dealing with some trauma from an ex-girlfriend who liked to tell me all the time how much she loved me, but would turn around and beat the shit out of me if I did something she didn't like.


Cut to this summer, I met someone that was oddly nice and very friendly, constantly checking on me and inviting me places. I was immediately suspicious and told her that, I just don't do well with people who are so nice so soon. She assured me that she "loved" me and that I was the "best friend" she had ever had. Occasionally she would ignore me and it turned out it was because she thought I was mad at her and she was feeling insecure about our friendship. Everytime I would go out of my way to reassure her that I enjoyed her friendship and I wasn't mad.


Recently she's started dating someone, which she didn't mention to me, her old roommate told me about it. Since then it was like pulling teeth trying to get her to even text me back, which I figured is weird but she's busy and newly involved so whatever. 


I'm a struggling alcoholic, which I told her, and I had a relapse. I know I can be just awful when I drink and I know I texted her a few times when I was drinking, but I don't know what I said. There was definitely distance between us and I felt like it was my fault, so I threw out all my liquor and apologized to her.


I thought we were back on track with our friendship, she started coming into where I work and she would give me hugs and talk to me again. 


A few weeks ago I invited her to a pumpkin carving bonfire, on a day I knew she was free, and she told me to remind her closer to the day. There was another party that same day that I wasn't invited to and that she told me she wasn't invited to either. A couple of days before the bonfire I texted her asking if I should get a pumpkin for her, no response. Day of the bonfire I texted her letting her know when people were set to arrive, she texted me several hours later to tell me she wasn't coming. I found out a few days later that she had actually gone to the party she told me she wasn't invited to.


That hurt. So I sent her an admittedly long text about how her friendship left me feeling kind of shitty and if she didn't want to be friends with me that's fine but it wasn't fair to me to tell me that she "loved" me when her actions say the opposite. She responded with "jfc Apple. I don't have to text you everyday to prove we are friends. I have friends that I go months between texting and they know I'm still their friend."


After that I deleted all our texts and her number, but I still brought her a souvenir from a trip I took for my birthday. She didn't wish me a Happy Birthday but I figured it would help smooth things over and we could try to talk about our friendship. She never texted me, not even to thank me for the gift.


A few days ago I saw her sitting with her douchebag of an ex boyfriend, and even though we aren't talking I was concerned so I had one of our mutual friends ask her if she was okay. She responded by saying that I could just text her because she's not mad at me if I'm not mad at her. I still haven't texted her. Our mutual friend has known her for years and told me that this chick will not text me first. I kind of just want her to acknowledge that she hasn't been a good friend to me. 


All my other friends are telling me to drop her like a bad habit, but when we were first starting our friendship she told me she usually ends up pushing "good" people away and keeping only toxic ones in her life. So I knew this was a possibility but it still hurts. Plus I'm not blameless in the distance we have, I drunk texted her and I was constantly asking if she still enjoyed our friendship, which was probably really annoying. 


I feel like I'm an asshole for not stepping up and fixing things between us. I actually have a text ready to send to her but I can't bring myself to send it.

wanting my friend to text me first