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Input: When we got together (dating) she was a little chubby and I was up front that I wanted her to slim down and she said yeah Ive always wanted to get real fit so it was cool. The plan was to work out together, get ripped. 

Didnt go that way. We both gained weight together sitting around binge eating/watching netflix then I lost about 60 lbs over a year with a diet and she didnt eat any different. 

She kept gaining and now her body shape is totally different and Im not into it, shes heavy enough that I get a gust of wind when she sits on the couch and shes always out of breath when she eats. 

Every time I bring it up she says oh yeah Im going to, just waiting for this or that but lately I feel like thats just something she says, and 3 years seems like a long enough time to find some kind of way.

Ive told her up front "if you want this to work I need to be attracted to you" but her habits never change. 

Every other part of our relationship is going well and I think were great friends but the attraction is really going away. She makes most of the money and works really hard to make us comfortable, which I thought might be too much pressure so I said Id take over all my expenses but she fought me, saying she wanted to stay a team.
 
At this point its not about how things are right now as much as me not knowing if shes ever going to do what she says or just keep getting bigger.

Am I the asshole for being so focused on her body?

wanting to leave my wife of a few years because I'm not attracted to her