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Input: Over the holidays, I (20F) brought my boyfriend (27M) to stay for two weeks with my family. I have two sisters, 16 and 18. Everything was going well, boyfriend was polite with everyone but spent more time with 18yo sister since they have more in common, and 16yo sister can be loud, hypersensitive, and frankly a pill, and has a history of vindictive and histrionic behavior (6 months ago she wrote a note calling me a fat whore, then left it on my desk where she knew I would find it). She is kind of a troubled kid, struggled with some anxiety and depression, but has been growing up a lot lately. She is younger and can’t always talk about the topics we enjoy (politics), and is sensitive about her inability to participate. We do our best but obviously we can’t modify our conversation completely. 

One night the four of us are hanging out and 16yo sister says something unintentionally funny—“Margaret Sanger didn’t study eugenics in college...at least not formally”. She says this with a totally straight face. Boyfriend laughs. Sister gets offended, boyfriend says he’s sorry and doesn’t mean anything by it, it was just really funny. Sister gets mad and storms up the stairs. This is around 7pm.

Around 11pm, bf goes upstairs and there is dog shit in his bed. Wet, hot dog shit. Like fresh turds. They are from his barely ambulatory pug, who has been downstairs all day and can barely walk down the sidewalk, much less jump on the bed or climb an entire flight of stairs. The turds are inside the bed which is made. They were clearly put there intentionally, and 16 year old sister was the only person upstairs. I know it’s her.

The next day I confront her about it. I say I know it was her, because she was the only one upstairs and it fits her pattern of vindictive behavior (fat whore incident). I tell her to apologize to my boyfriend and that if this behavior continues it will damage our relationship. Later my dad gets really upset and tells me that I was wrong for bringing up the note incident with her, since I already forgave her for it (true, I did forgive her and have moved on, but I wasn’t bringing it up to berate her, just to highlight a pattern of behavior). 

AITA for assuming it was her? For bringing up the note incident? Should I have handled this differently?



bringing up dirt on my sister after she put dog shit in my boyfriend's bed