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Input: When my wife and I started dating, she had a rescue dog, to which she was quite attached.  She got the dog during a traumatic period in her life, and the dog was also abused, so they formed a strong trauma-based attachment. The dog was abused by males and reacted aggressively towards all males. I'm a dog lover, and empathized, so I set about trying to form a healthy attachment with the dog.

My presence in the relationship had a lot of positive impact on the dog's behavior, as we spent way more time outside, got more exercise, and generally lived a lifestyle that made the dog happier and improved a lot of behavioral problems. He eventually came to trust many males, became far less aggressive, etc.

His outlook towards me, however, has never improved. Based on my limited knowledge, because I compete with him for my wife's attention, and he sees her as a resource to be guarded, I've remained Enemy #1 in his eyes. He barks at me constantly, growls any time I go near my wife, and acts as though I'm going to slaughter him any time he and I are alone together. We have tried implementing strategies we could find online, like my wife reducing her attention and affection towards him while I took on the main caregiver role. This helped temporarily but any sign of attention from her would put us right back at square 1.

We've discussed finding a new home for the dog, and I've never pushed for it. I empathize with the bond they formed, and I see the value he's had to her. I didn't want to, well, be the asshole, and just couldn't feel right about demanding that she get rid of him. He's also getting quite old, and the thought of "I can wait this out until he passes on" gave me some hope.

At this point I'm not sure how much longer I can take it, and it's starting to impact my relationship with my wife. For example, we have a shock collar that we try to use during times when the dog will definitely bark at me. Of course I don't want him to have to wear the collar all the time as it's uncomfortable and I don't feel great about shocking a dog to begin with, but I've become more angry at my wife for not putting the collar on, because the dog barks at me in so many different situations and it's inevitable that she'll take the collar off, only to have him go nuts when I walk back inside from checking the mail.

I'm at my wits end, I'm angry at the dog for being a little shit, at my wife for keeping him around for so long, and at myself for not putting my foot down and protecting my sanity and relationship with my wife sooner. AITA for not patiently riding this out for another 1-4 years until the dog passes on?

hating my Wife's dog