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Input: Long story as all these things usually are so I'll try to boil this down as best I can. 

Been with fiancé for 5 years. I'm 27, he's 28. Great relationship but I tend to be on the untrusting side because of being cheated on in the past (boyfriend and TWO of my best friends...yuck). So around Christmas fiancé started exhibiting all the behaviors that my ex did. Cancelling dates, not being where he said he was supposed to be, not being at his apartment, not ever having his phone with him, turning off findmyfriends unexpectedly on and on. 


I tried talking with him and asking him if something is wrong, he said no. I was like "oh, calm down Sarai, he's never given you any reason to doubt him" which worked for a while but his shady behavior just got more and more shady. In all of this, I was awful to him. I was just moody, grouchy, I told him I didn't want him to stay over and not have sex. I had no proof of anything other than my intuition but I still took it out on him. 


So maybe last week, I was sleepless in the middle of the night and just to see what he was up to and turned on findmyfriends and saw that like at 1AM on a Tuesday night he was at this really cool old converted warehouse that's half loft's/half artists space close to our towns bar district. I knew for a fact his ex-girlfriend lived in the lofts and I was like "ohhhhhhh-kaayyyyyy….red handed."  So I screen capped it and was like planning on breaking up with him the next day. 


So surprise, surprise he shows up at my place that same night at like 3AM which I was like you have to be fucking kidding me dude, you're going to fuck her in the same night you're going to try to fuck me? Not a chance and to make it even WORSE he got right in the shower. So I wanted more evidence to dump him so I logged into his phone and was going to screen cap all the incriminating texts, photos and videos and text them to myself. 


So this is what I found which also requires some backstory. I love the modern take on twisted wrought iron garden trellises and gates. Like think they are the most amazing thing. Well as it turns out my fiancé has been taking welding classes so he can build us a trellis  that can be the backdrop for our wedding ceremony. Like massive amount of text messages between him and his instructor, pictures of the work in progress and practice pieces his done. There was even a text message that said "it's getting harder and harder to keep this a secret, but I think the surprise will be worth it." And the instructor is teaching him in the loft spaces, absolutely zero mention of his ex anywhere his phone.  My stupid black heart about melted back into pink. I felt SOOOOOOO guilty for snooping. Like such an idiot and not only that I ruined this great surprise that he had planned for me. 

But in all honesty I feel better knowing what is up. I don't have to worry that he's cheating, I can still act like it's a surprise and be just as delighted with his project. Most of all I've been so much nicer to him and we are back to getting along great. 

Maybe the ends justifies the means here...sooooooo AITA?

snooping on my fiancé's phone even though snooping allowed me to find out what he's really been up to and not be such a b-tch to him