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Input: I‘m a 22 and a caregiver paid by the state to care for my grandparents. With the paycheck I receive, I pay my bills and every now and then some of their bills or other miscellaneous purchases ($200+ one time because my grandmother saw a “free trial” for a back massager but didn’t know she’d have to pay after 20 days; she’s learned since then).

A year ago, my grandma befriended a woman that sold her on beginning a payment plan for a combined funeral plot for both herself and my grandpa. She would need to deposit about $4,000 and then monthly payments of $294 to eventually total $22,000+ for the combined plot - she ended up throwing together whatever she had saved and borrowed the rest from friends because she couldn’t afford the rest of the deposit. My dad mentioned that I am “responsible for it since I’m making money off them” even though I protested to both him and my grandmother. To me, it didn’t make sense to pay for something even I couldn’t afford.

This was met with anger. 

My dad said that I’m letting my grandparents die and he refuses to pay for such bills as he already pays for their apartment utilities and my grandpa’s bank loan.

My grandma, who I explained to many times that I cannot afford this nor can she, insisted I keep paying as the money she both borrowed and saved would be wasted. For both sides, there was an implication that since I was working for them, they had a right to guide where that money I earned from them went to. 

As of right now, I’m currently alright paying off the funeral plan, my car, insurance, student loan interest, and credit card bills. In about 6 months, I will possibly be losing the home I’ve been living in due to my parents divorcing and have mentioned to my grandma that with rent and my own utilities, I will not be able to pay everything as apartments where I live typically go for $2,000-$4,000+. I’ve told her when the time comes for me to move out, I will cancel the funeral payments and even find her a replacement caregiver so I can focus on school. I’ve been constantly listening to her crying about my living situation, my parent’s relationship, and how I will earn my money but she still insists to keep the funeral payments. She even calls me every now and then to make sure I’ve paid the monthly charge, which I’ve assured her I have.

Anyway, what do you guys think? I love my grandparents a lot but as a struggling college student, I don’t know if I can keep this up. 

TL;DR - Getting paid to take care of grandparents by the state. Grandma gets set up to pay for a $22,000+ funeral plot that she cannot afford; borrows money from friends and gives up her savings for deposit. I’m paying $294 every month for it, but I have bills to pay and need to save for apartment deposit since I’m losing my house. AITA for wanting to cancel the payment due to my own financial situation?

refusing my grandparents a funeral plot