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So for some background my mother's side of the family is pretty big, each of her siblings had two kids and were spread pretty evenly apart. My brother (Alex) and I ended up growing up pretty close, proximity wise, to two cousins: Brian and James. This is for many reasons the primary ones being that our fathers were friends in highschool and being the closes pairs of cousins in age to each other. 

In particular Alex and Brian would often hang out and myself and James would hang out as there was only a year between each of us. (Me being the oldest.) As time went on these pairings became less and less willing on my part. 

The reason for this is James. He had very little respect for others or their belongings. When I was about 14 I lent a book out to him and got it back with the front cover in tatters. He claims I gave it to him like that despite the fact I keep my books in very good, if a little read, condition. Just one example of many.

He is notorious for not paying money back (personal experience), and for gift money he receives from his family, meant for rent or utilities, to disappear, with James claiming he's not sure where it went. 

Anyways I took a few extra years off after highschool to build up money and to wait until I felt like I was ready for school again, especially since I knew I'd have to leave my hometown  for my program. The same year I left so did James, for the same university. 

I made it clear I would not entertain rooming with him and since then have more or less cut him out of my life. I told my parents that I'd be cordial at family gatherings but that if given the option I'd rather not engage and that I expected that choice to be respected. James has also made his distaste for my fiancee very clear, which doesn't really bother either of us.

Here's where the problem comes in, my fiancee and I are in the very early planning stages of our wedding, as it's still some years off, and I'm unsure how to handle the guest list in regards to James. 

Alex and I have a great relationship and through him I've reconnected with Brian and would love to invite him, I'm also not adverse to inviting my Aunt and Uncle but would really rather not have James at my wedding. 

WIBTA for not inviting a cousin I have a bad history with to my wedding while inviting his family? 

not inviting my cousin to my wedding