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Input: Hello guys! There’s a lot to unpack here, I’ll leave a TL;DR at the bottom. Before I start, I’d like to say I really don’t believe in having “dibs” or like, owning people, but it’s a complicated situation 

I have been friends with this girl for a few years, and while she’s younger than me, she’s my closest girl friend and we get along really well. She’s been with me through a lot of hard things, such as a breakup with someone I dated for two years. 

Speaking of that relationship- it was with someone I’ll probably consider to be my highschool sweetheart(let’s call him Brody) , and was a tumultuous 2 years. I really loved him, but ultimately we fell out of love and he broke up with me May of last year, in a rather inconsiderate way (over text when he had plenty of opportunities to do it in person). I was pretty okay with it eventually, started seeing other people and so on. 

My best friend had been in a relationship with this guy we’ll call Adam for about a year. Adam is kind of a douche who doesn’t care about anyone but himself, up until he met my best friend. They were head over heels, but broke up that same summer.  My best friend was absolutely devistated. She hung out with Brody a lot as they had been friends for a while, almost as long as he and I dated. It made me uncomfortable, because I still harbored some ill will with Brody, but I kept my mouth shut. 

This fall, they got closer and closer, and my best friend one day while talking to me confessed that she had a feeling Brody liked her. I was hurt, and told her I didn’t really want to talk about it, that I was sorry but it was a sore subject. She agreed, said they’d never even be a thing, and dropped it. 

She denied being with him up until I caught him kissing her cheek once, where she fessed up. I got emotional (unfair, I know. I’m a teenage girl and sometimes cannot help it). She kept insisting “I don’t want to hurt you” and that if I told her not to pursue the relationship because it made me uncomfortable, she wouldn’t. I think it’s kind of bullshit, because what kind of friend would I be to tell her not to date someone?

So they date. They show up to my events, even cuddled in my bed at one point while I was STILL IN IT, and I get really upset about it. She knows the whole thing makes me upset. 

I’m still trying to get over it, and have come to the realization that I’m not fully over Brody.  Talking to my best friend yesterday, she confided in me that she doesn’t really feel the same way about him, that she was just lonely and hurting.  

Am I valid for being pissed that she pursued a relationship she didn’t even really care about despite knowing it hurt her friend? Or should I man up with my feelings and stop being a bitch? I’m worried I’m inserting myself into a story that doesn’t even involve me, but I just can’t even hear about Brody without hurting, a lot. 

TL;DR My best friend dates my long term ex despite knowing it upsets me, reveals she doesn’t even like him that much. Are my feelings valid?

being mad at my best friend for dating my ex