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Input: This could either go here, or r/TIFU -- I think here fits just *slightly* better...


So me and a friend decided we would really like a FWB situation. The only problem was I would be her first. She was 23, I was 24.

So to get right to the point, she was at my place, we were making out and I put my hand on her thigh and she immediately blurted out **"No!"** -- Killed it immediately for me. 100% the night was over in my mind. The F in FWB was genuine. She was awesome, and I liked her as a person, and we were part of a big social clique that all interacted constantly. The last thing I wanted was to ruin a friendship, and basically be a total dick to literally everyone I know.

So I pulled back and slowed down. I didn't recoil and freak out, I just 'took a step back', i would say. The problem is she was still into it but the conflicting experience made me straight up nope out. She started up again and was a bit more handsy. The problem is, when someone blurts out "no" as a gut reaction to a touch.. not *quite* a yell, but more than just saying it.. That conflict doesn't jive for me. So she was getting more in the mood, but I refused to go there. We kept kissing and cuddling but no clothes came off. **I never told her she had reacted that way. If I could do it over again, I would have, but I didn't want to make it a big thing.**

She left disappointed, and I think she didn't even realize what had happened. I tried to very respectfully back off, because it's kind of a big deal to me, and I didn't want her to regret her decision. This ended up ruining our friendship anyways. And by not bringing it up -- I think that is why it's TIFU material. That WAS a mistake. Maybe if we talked about it we could have stayed friends. Instead my reaction was to get cold feet, because I didn't want her to feel she had made a mistake later.

So to sum it up... 

**AITA for not having sex with a FWB that was giving me conflicting signals, and blurted out "NO!" when I touched her leg?**


not sleeping with an apprehensive girl