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Input: Firstly, I apologize if this long-ass post. I've come to you for advice once and I appreciated the honest responses. If I really am an asshole, please tell me so I can do better the next time.

So I've been dating an older woman for the past 3 weeks and I felt it wasn't working out. For context, I'm 29 years old and she's 41. We're both Chinese living in San Francisco. She doesn't speak a single word of English despite living here for the past 3 years. She mentioned she hasn't made any friends or had a boyfriend because nobody is similar to her.

In the first week of dating, I mentioned I am moving to New York in September for a career opportunity (been planning this for quite some time). She told me she would "not date anybody else, and that she'd wait for me in San Francisco forever." This part really creeped me out and I told her I did not agree to it. The next two weeks, she continuously complained and kept bringing up that she would wait for me. I felt increasingly creeped out, but I did not feel malicious intentions.

If I don't reply her text within minutes, she would blow up at me with a long, angry text for not responding (happened twice). I already told her the first time that it made me feel uncomfortable. Another problem is that she'd never tell me how she really felt, even though I already mentioned that talking about our feelings is important in solving relationship problems.

I told her I made a few friends in the city since moving to the US 7 months ago. I mentioned we'd smoke together (legal in CA), she'd tell me to stop being their friends because weed is an addicting drug that will destroy my brain and my life (a very common misconception among older Chinese folks, including my parents).

On 2 separate dates, she kept paying for dinner which was, to be honest, nice of her. But whenever we go shopping, she would "sneak pay" my clothes at the cashier by saying she wants to "test her credit card". This is normal in Chinese dating culture as it is typical for the guy to pay for everything (meal and gifts). But I grew up in Hong Kong in an international school, so my views are a more "westernized" and I usually go dutch with my dates.

For the past 3 weeks, I felt overwhelmed when I'm with her.

**1st question: Are my feelings justified, or am I overreacting**

I broke up with her after work around 6 pm. I explained to her in detail why I felt it wasn't working: moving to NY, cultural difference and language barrier.

At 10 pm she texted me saying she wants to come over and return my shirt she borrowed a few days ago. I told her to give it back to me on Monday. She texted back saying she's walking over to my apartment now. In that moment I felt extremely threatened. I then texted back saying if she comes over, I will call the police. She replied saying "I can't believe you'd say that, I'll never come over." I then blocked her number.

**2nd question: Am I the asshole for threatening to call the police?**

Thank you.

ending a relationship and threatening to call the police last night