Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Recently my father, who I haven't seen since I was 4-years-old (I'm 27 now), messaged me on Facebook to tell me that he might be dying, so naturally I felt compelled to respond. 

But, after speaking with him a bit through Facebook messages I found out that he's just going to get some additional medical tests after having a somewhat concerning urine test during a routine physical — something his doctor told him could indicate a \*possible\* cancer diagnosis. Which still would not necessarily mean that he's about to die. He has learned nothing yet and I felt that his initial message to me was a little deceptive. 

I understand why he would take the opportunity to try to get me to talk to him, but I reallllly don't like feeling as though I'm being manipulated. Even though I felt this way I said that I would be open to speaking with him on the phone in the future, but that I needed some time to feel comfortable doing so. He suggested we talk over the weekend, but I never responded to his message, since I'm still not feeling super comfortable engaging with him and he is not in fact dying. 

Then, come Sunday, I received another message from him, clearly irritated that I did not call him. Now, I feel pretty confidant that I don't want to reconnect with him.

He's been trying to get in touch with me off and on for the past couple of years, but since he abruptly left my life 23 years ago I haven't really felt inclined to reconnect. And, even before he left my life completely he treated me pretty terribly, leaving me places unattended, talking poorly about my mother in her absence - something she never did, and he just always made me really uncomfortable. 

I don't like that he manipulated me into speaking with him initially and I don't like that he's already expressed anger towards me. I feel like there's nothing to gain from this relationship, so I don't know why I would continue trying to reconnect. And, just the thought of speaking to him triggers a sense of fear and anxiety within me.

My friends are concerned that if I don't speak to him at some point that I will eventually regret not knowing him and feel horrible when he does die eventually. But...I don't think I will. I feel like I already know him, and he's not a great guy. I love the family that actually raised me so much, they're my favorite people and I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

So, would I be the asshole if I just didn't try to reconnect with him?

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deciding not to reconnect with my estranged father