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Input: Seriously, I need to know. Part of me feels like I'm being unreasonable, but the other part feels I'm completely justified.

My bf likes to drink. When he does drink, he does it to get drunk. He's not the "drink a couple beers or glass of wine" type of guy, but a "drink a whole six-pack or twelve pack and want more" type. He doesn't drink often, once a week, sometimes twice, but I don't like it, moreso since our baby was born in August. When he drinks, he becomes unpredictable, and I never know whether I'm gonna get the nice guy, or the irrational, aggressive guy. He isn't physically abusive, just overthinks shit, becomes nitpicky, paranoid, says weird or mean things.. I become riddled with anxiety whenever he gets booze, to the point where now I just avoid him completely when he drinks. I'll take the baby and sleep in another room so I don't have to worry. He will stay up all night, then sleep all day the next. 

What bothers me most is how, when he wants to drink, he seems to "need" it. He always asks my permission to drink, but even if I tell him "no, don't drink", he just gives me the cold shoulder til I say "fine, okay". Now I just tell him he can do whatever he wants, he's an adult, but I'm not gonna pretend to be okay with it. I tell him how it makes me feel, but he will still go and get the booze. He seems to prioritize drinking over my feelings. I don't even know if I'm right to be feeling as shitty as I do when he drinks, I try to be okay with it, but I'm just not and can't fight the impending doom feeling that I get when he does it. He's even gone as far as to say I don't love him as much as I say I do if I'm not okay with him being a drinker. He's happy with me and my faults, so why can't I be happy with his?

I feel extra shitty because he says he wants to drink on Christmas Eve. It's our baby's first Christmas so I don't want to spend it being scared, upset, or sleeping in another room to avoid him. I want him to be sober, watch Christmas movies together, and not have him acting resentful towards me for not being "allowed" to drink when he wants. He feels I'm infringing on his right as an adult to do whatever he wants. I like drinking too sometimes, but I don't like getting drunk often and when I drink I just wanna have fun, joke around, laugh, but I feel like it's never like that with him. 

Am I being an asshole? Because I feel like an asshole for not being okay with his drinking. 

not wanting my bf to drink