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Input: Looking to hear if I' was just being an overly sensitive asshole -

My boyfriend has had a fairly active dating life growing up I think as your average, attractive guy.

 Certain exes leaves you with stories, and he shares them every now and then, if theres an reason for him to want to clue me in to this - and I want to hear why these stories are important for him to share with me. Maybe for therapeutic purposes, and putting it all out there for me to see. We in general have open and honest communication. 

He's talked about exes from his past, mainly drawing parallels to our current situation, probably for therapeutic reason. Some of them were very painful breakups - and I appreciate us sharing our processes that brought us to where we are now, I don't mind him wanting to reflect on these parts of his life with me at all.

However, a few times, apropos of nothing, he'll just point out some thing's randomly, like 'I hooked up with her' 'I dated that girl' and then move on from that point. Or when we're watching some of his old holiday footage from Bali and he randomly points out a girl he had sex with. 

And it gets to me a little bit; these timeswhere he'll just blurt out these things from his past, without really having there be a bigger context or story to it.


So, at one point we're watching the telly and a travel ad comes on about going to South East Asia and having a Bali romance.
He turns to me, squeezes my thigh and says with a cheeky grin 'I've had a Bali romance', and then turns back.
Like, what am I supposed to do, high five you and say good job, buddy?

I tried to explain to him, that I don't necessarily need to hear about all of his past conquests just because he's had them and they pop up in his memory. It just makes me feel uneasy if that's literally all there is to the story.
He looked pretty down after I said it and we went to bed shortly after..

He's in general very thoughtful person, and we're very open about our feelings. He's helped me get better at speaking up about what I feel instead of burying things deep down. 
Normally thing bothering me will eat away at me for a while, before he'll force out of me what's on my mind and I finally share. Now I can bring these things up more organically as they occur. 
But maybe I'm just being sensitive, since I'm ok with him talking about his exes in a more reflective way, but not just casually mentioning it - am I making mountains out of mole hills here? 


So Reddit - AITA for asking to be spared the casual sprinkling of information of my BF's dating history?



asking my boyfriend to stop casually mentioning his dating history