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Input: A little background. Ex, "James", and I split when daughter was 1.5 months old, 8 months now. Typical shenanigans you'd expect when a woman boots out the father of her kid when their child is so young. Cheating, lying, slacking on financial/household/personal responsibilities and verbal abuse. The Beatles lied, love is not all you need. 


So he was a terrible partner, but a pretty loving, attentive father. So I focus on that, how he is as a father. 


Anyway, he wants her, he's good with her &amp; he loves her. However, his visits &amp; effort revolve around his work (naturally) and his social life. Until 3 weeks ago, he only had her 1 day/wk for a few hours. His choice, not mine. He always had excuses as to why he couldn't take her more often, some valid, most not. 


He typically goes out drinking the night before he has her. Hes usually 1 or 2 hours  late, some weeks he cancels last minute &amp; 2x not come at all.  That's ONE night a week to not go party. We agreed on half of daughter's direct major (not all) expenses for CS and he's usually late. He tells me he doesnt have any money, but then I hear abt him out at the bar. 


Recently, I lost my job. Hes been taking her 2-3x/wk so that I can focus on the job hunt. He was doing so good, but then yesterday he cancelled bc he wasnt feeling good. Ok, creates some extra work for me to find a sitter, but again hes been doing so good, so I dont give him a hard time.


Here's the AITA situation. At 10am, we confirmed drop off at 11. He wanted 11:30 for more sleep (gets off at 10pm), I had an interview so it really needed to be 11. He ok's it. Ends up being 11:30 anyway bc LO wanted a bottle. now I'm running late, but not his fault. I called him otw over there, figure he could get that extra sleep he wanted. No answer to 2 out of 3 calls. One was a pickup with silence. I had my mom on standby in case James flaked. I get there, knock, wait over 5 minutes (yes I was watching) for him to answer the door. Then hes leisurely putting his clothes on, hes gotta go to the bathroom, expected me to unload daughter, her stuff from the car &amp; several boxes I brought for him (a little of his stuff, some stuff I was getting rid of anyway that he said he could use while he leisurely sets up her bouncer instead of helping me unload the car like I asked.


 I'm late. For an *interview*. And he cant pick up his feet?  I get pissed bc once again everything is about him, his convience &amp; comfort, at my expense. Its 11:45 and daughter is still in the car, so I tell him you know I'm running late, you're dragging your feet so I'll just get my mom to watch her. And leave. 

AITA for cancelling that visit?





cancelling my daughter's visit with her Dad