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Input: Long story short. My best friend (bff) met her boyfriend (bf) about a decade ago during our freshman year of college on an online dating site. When they first got together I was ecstatic. She had lost her mom just a few months prior and went into a depression from that. Before that she suffered from low self esteem due to her weight and constant bullying. So for me I saw it as her becoming more confident and independent. 

I met him once early on in their relationship and he gave me a weird vibe but didn’t think too much into it. Continuing on bff started to confide a lot of stuff about him and their relationship. He would often ghost her for days/months at a time and then come back to ask her for money. He was cheating on her leading to her getting an STI. And on top of it all he was a registered sex offender(I’m hesitant to put that out there but I think it highlights how desperate she was at the time). The last time he ghost her was for several years and I assumed they were done done. Until I was at her house a few months ago and he walked in the door. I feigned ignorance as to his identity. As far she knows I think this is a new guy. She plays along with it so she obviously doesn’t want me to know that it’s him. I ask them questions about how they met and she lies to my face about it.  I know she does it because she knows I’ll say something. 

My boyfriend and I went out to dinner with them and the whole thing was cringe worthy. He kept making comments to me. Nothing overtly sexual but just kept bringing me up in conversation. He was also loud and obnoxious making anti semitic comments and following them up with “I’m a quarter Jewish” and kept  cutting everyone off in conversation. You could tell she was annoyed by the situation. He’s definitely a douche but if it was just all of that I wouldn’t say anything.  


Fast forward to today-ish, I’m on tinder and he pops up. I haven’t swiped left or right but a part of me wants to make a “fake” account and see where it goes. Though, I also get that sometimes ignorance is bliss. If your health and well being are on the line is it reasonable for me to just overlook it for my best friend? My biggest concern is that she’s being taken advantage of. If I was in the situation I’d want to know.

(Ugh I guess the thing that bothers me most about this situation is that she other opportunities but she’s getting tied down by this manipulative trash dude. )

Also, just a note, they’re not open or polyamorous. 

Tl;dr I found my best friend’s boyfriend on tinder and I want to catfish him to see if he’s still cheating on her. 

catfishing my best friend's trash boyfriend