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Input: Hello - throwaway because my boyfriend is an active redditor. Also, apologies in advance because this will be long.

Some background relevant to the story:

My boyfriend and I are both 20, still living with our parents.

My boyfriend was gifted a puppy by his mother almost a year and a half ago. He loves this dog **to death** . His dog is amazing! He’s a half German Shepherd, half husky. A very sweet but crazy dog.

The problem is, is that his mom set up training sessions once a week for this puppy, and my boyfriend brought the puppy to maybe 2 of these sessions, and then stopped going. He’s potty trained but that’s pretty much it.

He doesn’t know basic commands like “sit” or “stay”. He jumps and is very nippy. He’s almost 2 years old. He almost never calms down, is always running, jumping, and just has so much energy. Every time you come in the door he jumps and nips and (unintentionally) scratches. Now I know all dogs get excited when you come home, but this dog just **doesn’t calm down**. He jumps on you when you’re walking anywhere, when you’re sitting to eat, when you’re on the couch, when you’re going up/down the stairs, when you get in bed, etc. He doesn’t let you do anything without biting or jumping on you, and If you try to ignore him, he has an incredibly high pitched bark/yelp to get your attention. This dog is a very happy, loving boy. But after a while of being jumped on and scratched it gets annoying.

Currently, the dog is living with my boyfriends mom. A big house, lots of space, a spacious yard, etc. It’s good because his breed is very energetic and requires a lot of exercise. She lives about an hour away so my boyfriend doesn’t get to see his dog as much as he would like to. He lives with his dad and his dad doesn’t want a dog living with them.

I’d also like to mention that when there is company at my boyfriends moms, no matter if it’s adults or kids, the dog is either put outside or put in his crate because it is well known that he is just too crazy to be around people. No one wants a crazy dog jumping all over them and scratching them.

Anyway, this dog, who I love very very very much, is just crazy. His breed is very energetic in general, he wasn’t trained properly, and I like to think he’s still in his “puppy phase”. 

So:

My boyfriend and I want to get an apartment. Apartments are known to be pretty small, and we also have a cat. The cat and the dog have met before, and it’s safe to say they didn’t get along. His dog was just so rambunctious and the cat would rather just watch from a distance.

The apartment we have looked at is, well small. Big enough for us and a cat, but not big enough for a large dog who needs a lot of exercise and a lot of space.

My boyfriend **refuses** to get an apartment with me unless the dog can come. I want the dog to come too, but I just feel like he won’t have enough space to let out his energy, especially if there isn’t time to walk him. (My boyfriend swears he will walk him everyday, but how can I know that when he wouldn’t bring him to the training sessions?) 

I feel like his dog has a pretty good quality of life living with my boyfriends mom right now, and I think it will go down moving into a cramped apartment. I’m also worried about the change for my cat. 

I told my boyfriend I don’t want his dog living with us. He refuses to get an apartment now. Without the dog, we can’t live together. End of story, period. No compromising.

If his dog had been trained properly and was more calm, I would definitely want him to live with us. My boyfriend “likes him just the way he is”. 

So, Reddit, AITA for not wanting my boyfriends crazy dog to live with us?




not wanting my boyfriends dog living with us