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Input: To start off, I am not old enough to move out so I am currently dependent on my mom.

I love my mom. She’s very hardworking and she does care for me. While we usually get along okay, we are both sometimes very stubborn people. I know from experience that my mom will absolutely not back down on even the smallest disagreements. 



She told me earlier that she didn’t want me to shave my arms. I listen to my mom and I obey her every single day. I’ll make dinner when she tells me to, I’ll clean when she tells me to, I keep up with my studies and I am generally honest and respectful to her. But for me this was going too far because it’s my body and shaving my arms will have 0 impact on my future. 

I told her that I shave my arms to feel more comfortable with myself. She accused me of wanting to conform to society, and that “God” created me so that I can be myself. I replied back asking if that was the case, then why does my mom always wax her eyebrows and pluck her unwanted facial hair. She told me facial hair is okay but arm hair isn’t. I asked her why since their the same thing. 

It went back and forth like that for a long time and things got really heated. She told me that I’m an ungrateful daughter and I never listen to anything she said, she said in the future I’ll be drinking and smoking and going completely off the rail. 

I understand her argument. Her house, her rules. But I feel like as a mother she rarely ever takes my interests into heart. She’s happy and complacent whenever I tell her about my achievements but she’ll never go out of her way to let me have something that would make ME happy. With her it’s always like, what would SHE want, what would SHE like to be happy, and it’s so exhausting that I wish for once she’d let me have one thing I want that isn’t necessary or that she feels obligated to do as a parent. 

So AITA? Should I obey her or assert my own boundaries? 

Thank you so much in advance. 

arguing with my mom over shaving my arms