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Input: I have a close friend who likes to send those expletive copypasta chain messages during the holidays because we find them funny. On Thanksgiving this past week she sent the "Turkey lurkey slut" chain message to our group chat- you can do a google search if you are wondering what the message says. 

Later that day i dm a joke to her that one brand of clothes is way better than another brand of clothes that she likes. she says “fk no”, and I say “fk yes”. Then she says “fk you”, and I respond “fk you, fkin bitch, turkey slut”. Before I called her a “turkey slut” it was a really lighthearted “argument”, we were just joking around. I didn’t mean any harm by it and called her that term only to reference the chain message she sent earlier that day.

Her immediate response is “don’t disrespect me” and saying she doesn’t want to be called derogatory terms like that. It was so serious and direct that I thought she was joking. But she reaffirmed herself by saying “Im serious” and  “Im not joking”. I was in disbelief because I completely did not expected her react like that. So I just respond with “ok” and leave it at that. After the conversation ended I was still very confused that she would say that over a lighthearted joke like that. I understand that out right calling a girl a slut can be considered by many to be very offensive and it I have not ever done that. I felt like this was different.

I wanted to know how she felt about what I said so the next day, I ask her how offended she was that I called her that. 
She said “not really because I know you didn’t mean it. But I don’t want you to call other people derogatory terms even if its a joke, because some could get really offended”. I was still unsure how she felt so I said “You sounded pretty serious, are you sure were weren’t offended”. She says “I sounded serious so you would take it serious,” and asks me why I cared if she was offended. At this point it sounds to me like she wasn’t offended, but only said that to teach me not to say that to people. 

So I tell her “if you were trying to teach me not to say that to ppl, you shouldve just said that instead of acting offended and srs about it”. In hindsight I can see now that saying this didn’t help the cause of understanding how she felt, and could’ve been seen as condescending and rude. I admit that the way I handled it was a very bad attempt at that. But to end the conversation she tells me “i was serious about it u better not fucking call me those things again. idk if you’re trying to start something but back the fuck off and watch your mouth”.

Before this, I considered her a very close friend. I had never even jokingly called her any derogatory names- e.g, slut, whore, hoe, etc. While she has sent many of those expletive chain messages and even jokingly called me a slut in the group chat once before. I believed that we had a friendship in which my joke would’ve been laughed at. 
So reddit, am I the asshole?

calling a friend a Slut