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Input: I was recently rear ended and it resulted in my car being totaled as well as some minor-to-moderate injuries. It's been a pain getting the insurance figured out, luckily my father has a family friend with a good car that belonged to his late-wife he didn't want to have to deal with trying to sell.

My father, his wife, and I all took the day off of work to go visit the friend, who lives about 2 hours away.

Before the drive, my dad and I had worked out a deal. He was going to offer the guy $4 grand for the car(KBB puts it between $4.7-5.8) so already a good deal. He then said that I would just have to take out a loan(once the insurance settles my previous loan on my car, and the remaining $2k is paid off) and then pay him for the car.

I was fine with this, honestly it was great news. I'd much rather pay my father for the car than be "in debt" to him for it. I try my best to not rely on him and be my own man, but this was an emergency situation and a much better deal than going to a dealership.

We arrive and begin discussing the car, after a few minutes he says, "Take it, it's yours. Merry Christmas." I'm surprised, for sure, as I wasn't expecting him to just "give" us the car. However my step-mother interjects and insists that we pay him. He counters by saying, he really doesn't want our money at all and that we would be doing him a favor by taking it away. She continues to insist he takes the money(not her money by the way) and after some back and forth he says, "Okay I'll take half then."

This continues to go on with him insisting on half of what we were going to offer him, and her insisting on the full amount, him creeping it up to $2,500, then $2,750 and so on before finally he sighs and agrees on $3,500, which she(and my dad) also begrudgingly accepts.

At one point I literally had to step out of the room as I was getting so angry. I dunno why I was feeling this way, I was *completely okay and happy* to pay the $4,000 that I had originally talked to my dad about, however it feels like now I am being FORCED to pay this money unnecessarily. Hell even after my dad cut him the check, he said he was "Going to hold onto this for him." and when they insisted he cash it, he refused, saying, "You can't make me." or something to that effect.

I then had to drive the two hours home by myself. Honestly, I was steaming the whole time. On the one hand, it's less than we had planned, but on the other hand, it's **$3,500** more than we HAD to pay. I dunno why that she insisting he take the money, and his stark and adamant refusal has changed how I feel about it.

I really want to confront my dad about it but I don't want to feel like I am "Looking a gift horse in the mouth" because, honestly, $3,500 is a steal for this car. It's only 4 years old, has 32,000 miles on it, and is in great condition. I'm extremely thankful that this happened.

I dunno. I just feel so conflicted and wanted to know what others thought.

Some additional info that may be relevant.

1) He is in an assisted living facility as he is getting pretty old
2) He has Parkinson's disease and while it's still early stages, it is starting to affect his mind
3) He and his wife have been friends of my family for over 25 years.
4) He doesn't have much in the way of retirement
5) He is fairly isolated from everyone due to where he lives(cost of living and elderly care is substantially cheaper where he lives compared to if he was closer)

When it comes down to it, he really *does* need the money, and I am honestly more than happy to give it to him for the car. I just feel that because my step-mom had this argument over it that I feel like, well, she was offering up MY money in a way. Cause yes, they paid the 3.5k out of pocket right then and there, but I was now on the hook for it. I dunno. I just don't like that she turned down a gift for me and instead made me pay for it.

The best analogy I can come up with to describe how I feel is: You planned to buy yourself something, however someone else buys it for you, and then makes you pay them, even though they could have gotten it for free.

IDK... Am I the asshole in this? Cause I really feel like one.

not wanting to have to pay my father for a car that the person tried to give to him for free, but he insisted on paying for anyway