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Input: Hi everyone, so my wife and I just had a baby, who is a girl. We have given her a female name and occasionally dress her in pink clothes or a bow, but otherwise have been raising her with very little gendered anything. I'm not going to give her exact age but she's young enough that she has zero concept of gender whatsoever.

Everyone in our family is very excited, including my cousin. (All adults in this story are 30-40 years old.) My cousin, who we’ll call Alex, is always someone I’ve gotten along well with and is one of my favorite family members. Alex has gone through years of exploration and trauma regarding their gender identity and currently identifies as gender non-conforming and uses female pronouns.

We have gotten along with her really well through the whole pregnancy except for the fact that she refuse to use she/her/hers pronouns for the baby. We have decided to use female pronouns for the baby because we believe that those are the pronouns that the baby is most likely to identify with as she grows up. Alex firmly believes that children should be allowed to choose their own pronouns when they are old enough to articulate them. My wife and I strongly feel that if our child doesn’t identify with her pronouns that we will fully support her by using whichever pronouns she wants. We also fully intend to let her engage with a full range of toys and experiences throughout her childhood that aren’t defined by being “girl” activities.

When we are in conversation and refer to the baby with female pronouns, Alex will respond using they pronouns. It is uncomfortable and also seems to be implying that the way we are raising our child is abusive or unacceptable. At best it seems passive aggressive.

I want to ask her to stop but I want to be sensitive to her trauma around gender issues? Am I the asshole? And if I am not the asshole, is there anything I can do to respect their experience while still using female pronouns for my child?

not acknowledging my cousin's pronoun preference for my child