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Input: Sorry, this is a long one but some back context is necessary. I've been with my girlfriend coming up on 2 years - she's my first serious relationship (I'm 29, she's 30). However, in college I met a girl who became a sort of an on again/off again FWB. She was originally from the city I was in,  but went to a different school across the country.

This girl and I met and had a main "fling" over one summer. We had fun, but realized pretty early on we weren't compatible for anything more serious. After that we maintained a sort of FWB situation. We remained friends, but hooked up very occasionally when she was in town (spread out by many months). Over the course of several years during/after school we hooked up a handful of times...but formed a pretty solid friendship, solidified by a similar taste in music, concerts, and music festivals. We had cycles of falling out of touch completely for months, and then catching up again. Eventually we grew distant enough that we decided we would stop hooking up completely and just stay platonic friends.

By the time I met my girlfriend, we were still in touch, but way more distant. She still lived across the country and we hadn't done anything sexual in years. Maybe once every month or so we'd have a very brief friendly catch-up convo via snapchat. Usually this started by one of us commenting on the other's post about our shared musical interests. Followed by "hey, hows life?...hows grad school?...what shows have you seen lately?" etc. All very platonic, never anything flirty.

I voluntarily told my girlfriend about my past history with this friend very early on. I didn't HAVE to tell her, but she inquired, and I didnt' hesitate to be fully honest as I didn't feel I had anything to hide. I was also fully honest that I still had very brief convos with her every month or two - making it very clear that we were just friends now with no romantic feelings.

However, my girlfriend made it pretty clear she wasn't comfortable with this at all. She didn't get the "FWB" thing, and didn't understand how we could have a sexual history if it wasn't romantic. She told me she thought talking even once every month or two was too much, and I should just cut her out of my life completely. 

While I empathized with my girlfriend, at first I dug my heels in because I didn't like the idea of my her dictating my friendships. But as time went on, I pretty much stopped initiating messages with my friend. She'd still reach out to me every several months...still very short platonic convos about music, her grad school progress, or happily inquiring about my relationship...to which I'd respond briefly.

Over the course of our relationship, any time this friend's name somehow came up, up or my girlfriend brought it up, my gf would get really upset. Despite me telling her we barely spoke anymore, shed grill me with a lot of questions, trying to draw out new information about my past with her. She'd reiterate how much she hates that this girl exists. It often sparked big arguments. She couldn't really cope with hearing anything about my sexual past...and didn't get the idea that we could be just friends even though we had hooked up. 

I mostly stopped trying to convince her of my point. But theres been a couple big arguments sparked over this relatively recently:

**Argument 1)**  Several months ago my friend messaged me out of the blue asking if I'd be going to an event she thought I might be (a multi day camping festival). I tell her I actually was going with my girlfriend. She said she was going too, and was really excited to see me and also to finally get to meet my girlfriend. Not wanting to make my girlfriend look crazy jealous by telling my friend flat out she wouldn't want to meet her... I just subtly informed her that my girlfriend knew about our history. She got the hint. My girlfriend arrived to the event a day after me. That first day, I ran into my friend at the stage, and we had a quick 10 minute chat before parting ways. When my girlfriend arrived the next day, I told her that my friend was there and we'd run into each other. My girlfriend completely freaked out about the fact I'd seen her, grilling me with questions, and saying there was no way in hell she wanted to meet this girl. She spent the rest of the time paranoid we'd run into her.

**Argument 2)** Back in the summer we we're visiting my dad's house and I picked up some mail that had been sent there. Along with the mail is a Happy Birthday card from my friend. It basically said "Sorry I forgot to say Happy Birthday this year. Glad we've managed to stay friends this long. I really hope you and your girlfriend are doing well...hope I can meet her some day." Signed with a heart and smiley face. I thought it was a nice gesture...as we had usually exchanged happy birthdays. I saw it as her trying to keep the fading friendship going. But since my girlfriend freaked out and we had an argument every time this girl's name was even mentioned, I decided it was best for everyone's sake not to tell her about the card.

Well, a couple months later my girlfriend found the birthday card. I thought I'd thrown it out with a stack of papers in my bag, but I guess I missed it. She had a full blown meltdown. Threatening to end things...why did I have it? Why did she send it? Why was I saving it?. We had a big argument about it. Me insisting the card was totally platonic. 

Thats just 2 recent ones. There were others along this line in the past...which is why I kept any mention of this friend to a bare minimum and more or less cut contact. During these arguments I'd assert she was never an actual ex, it was possible to have sex just for fun, and to remain friends with someone despite hooking up. I'd remind her I barely spoke to this girl anymore, and was honest about her existence from the beginning. My girlfriend didn't care...and basically said she'll never change her mind on being uncomfortable with it.

**TL;DR** My girlfriend isn't cool with the fact that I stayed sort of friends with a former FWB. She asked me to cut off contact with her, and gets really upset any time her name comes up. She doesn't see it as possible for 2 people who once hooked up to just be friends. Keep in mind, me and this girl cared about each other as friends, but never professed love for each other or anything like that.
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Here's the hypocrisy I see. 

My girlfriend is from a different country. Pretty early on in our relationship, she told me that maybe a year or 2 before we met, one of her best guy friends at home very dramatically surprised her by professing his love to her. She's known him since 16 years old. He pulled her aside, and basically told her that he loved her, and would be willing to leave his current girlfriend for her if she wanted him back. She didn't reciprocate feelings and apparently distanced herself from the friendship with him after that...but then they later rekindled it to some degree. He's now marrying the girlfriend he said he'd leave for my girlfriend (who never knew about his secret love).

My girlfriend assures me he must be over his feelings for her, because he's happily marrying his fiance. Last time my gf was home, she even hung out with this friend and his fiance. She says she thinks its weird that the fiance doesn't know, but otherwise doesn't see anything wrong with their friendship. They even invited us to her wedding. I questioned if it was a good idea...but agreed to go if she wanted despite it feeling a little awkward. 

To be clear. I don't actually care about her friendship with this guy. I've never dug into my girlfriend's sexual or romantic past. I've never shamed or for anything, and trust her fully. I get we're both adults and had many other people in our lives.  This dude is not a threat to our relationship....and I would never force her to end a friendship. But she seems to have a dual standard here she refuses to admit to.

During our recent arguments about my FWB, and during the discussion about the wedding...I have brought up the hypocrisy in the fact she thinks its fine for her to stay friends with and attend the wedding of guy who fairly recently professed his love to her, but shes not okay with me talking to my former FWB every few months, or receiving a birthday card from her. I've also reminded her I've never told her she couldn't be friends with him, despite the fact that many boyfriends wouldn't be cool with it.

I asked her how she'd feel if I forbid her from attending the wedding, or if I told her she couldn't stay friends with him anymore. She told me I had no right to tell her that, and she'd break up with me if I forced her to choose. She asserts the situations are in no way related. Because she only talks to him once every 6 months or so, they never actually hooked up, and he's getting married...its apparently not even relevant at all. She reminds me that his feelings for her must have gone away. But since me and this girl had hooked up in the past, and talk every 3 months, she claims its not possible for us to not have lingering feelings .  I try to point out how hypocritical this is, but she digs her heels in

I know for a fact that if I told her one of my girl friends once professed their love to me, she would absolutely not be cool with us remaining friends. In fact she'd probably break up with me if I tried.

She still asserts I'm the bad guy here for even entertaining the idea of keeping my friendship. 


AITA?



calling my girlfriend hypocritical for staying friends with a guy who professed his undying love for her, after she stopped me from staying friends with a former fwb