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Input: AITA - For wanting to cut contact with a best friend, now recent bride?


This friend of mine (26F) has been fading away slowly. It wasn't a day over night thing. For the past 3-4 years she started to become distant. Everything would be the same when we were together, but she took a lot of time even to reply to texts (months sometimes), would make plans with me and others and later ditch on all of us. She was always flakey, but got worse over time. Giving not even a single excuse, would cancel lunches, dinners, meetings. Last minute, usually.


We share the same circle of college friends, so It's very hard for me to be the one to set up the fire. Calls and texts only happened to ask for information on things. Or small favors. Or big favors. But of course, I liked her very much and I'm still very fond of the good years and good moments we shared. But I never had a heart to heart talk. I should have had, but I didn't want to stir things up. Or maybe I should have let her go a long time ago. But, I didn't because I don't usually quit on people easily.


She moved back to her home town (2h train distance) in January 2018. I barely heard from her ever since. I reached out and asked her if everything was ok and wished her good luck on an issue connected to her job. I heard from her twice this year. Yesterday was the second time to tell me over text the following: "Im getting married. It will be In April. Be my bridesmaid. I will tell all you need to know in January 2019." On a Whatsapp group we share with the other bridesmaids and fellow friends. Apparently, I was the only one who didn't even now she fell in love, got into a relationship and eventually got proposed. And this isn't even recent, she was proposed a while ago. Yes, everything was unpredictable and incredibly fast. Not her style of behavior at all. Again, I was the only one I didn't know anything at all. 


And now you say: well she was in love. Friendships change. Yes, and I would give her all the space she needed, naturally. But, I was the only one in the dark and for no reason. Beware, we were very very close. Both single children and clicked wonderfully on many levels. Travelled together. Confidents. Drove her to college many times. Always being there for her when she needed. 


I wished her well of course. And congratulated her on this new stage of life. 
Her reply to me in private? "I kept you in the dark for so long, I was hoping you wouldn't go so mute about my marriage. You are too chill. But thank you for your good wishes." Passive-aggressiveness to a level I never even seen before. Specially from her. Also, marrying in such a short period of time? Very atypical. She is the least impulsive woman I have ever met.


Never even shared how they met. Or even his name. Nothing at all.


I'm already shattered and grieving this friendship. Hell, I even cried. I don't have any siblings, but it feels like loosing family. I have been thinking non stop over this. What have I done? Why does she think I'm a doormat thats puts up with all bad behavior and goes along with it? I should have had a talk a while ago. Why the distance? 


All this mixed signals and ghosting on her part now makes me wonder if she cared as much as I did. Maybe not. Definitely not. I feel used and confused above all.


So, AITA for wanting to cut contact and not even attend the wedding?


wanting to cut contact with a best friend, now recent bride