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Input: Alright Reddit, throwaway because my other account is quite active however I’ll show my fiancé this question afterward. 

So long story short I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years and we are getting married in June. We’ve been engaged for a year and a half and his family hasn’t been overly involved in wedding planning despite our encouragement. Which is fine, kinda sucks but whatevs some people aren’t into that it is what it is. 

So my wedding shower was planned MONTHS in advance because my SO’s family is from out of town and I wanted them to be able to make time to come. Immediately after invited went out, all of his mothers side said they couldn’t come and they would host a shower in their town for me a few weekend later. (Which I at first was excited about but a tad bummed as I wanted at least his mom to join but still, they’re celebrating in their own way) I should also note that we all regularly travel the 8 hour distance for various events throughout the year at various intervals but their grandpa is sick and they didn’t know if they could make it. 

We were in town about a month ago (with the shower scheduled two weeks after- and the second shower scheduled a week after that) and visited everyone including sick grandfather. Well, grandfather passed and we figure they’ll plan the funeral for the weekend of their families hosted shower since all the family was already going to be in town. I should note my actual shower (in our town) is co-Ed since none of his family could come we wanted the groom, and his groomsmen, siblings, etc to be able to join!

Anyway we got word that the funeral was going to be the DAY of my shower (the actual shower). Since I have other family coming from out of town I cannot attend the funeral but we decided SO should obviously 100% go. But we are just wondering if we are being butt hurt for no reason. 

We 100% get the family is grieving and will not be bringing this up but we sort of feel slighted because they knew about this event months in advance and already haven’t been involved it seems sort of like a slap in the face especially because the town it is in has one flight per day so we can’t even try and accommodate both events (which we wanted) or assumed it would be the day prior or after so again we could do both. 

So?
Are we the Assholes?

being annoyed my fiancé's grandpas funeral