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Input: I am losing it, my husband and I have been together 5 years, married for 2. We both have children from previous relationships. His daughter is a 19 year old freshman in college but she has had a failure to launch and he has not made any boundaries with her.  She is constantly calling, texting, having him do things for her and her bf (that does not have a license) things that she should be able to take care of on her own. The calling/texting is constant as in multiple times a day everyday and if there is not an instant reply she calls her brothers phone. She has not packed her room up even though we have asked her to do so for the past 6 months, which wouldn't be a big deal if we didn't have other children that are still in the home needing the space. 

A little more background, my husband has had primary care of his kids since they were 10 and 14, his ex has a drug problem and lives with an abusive boyfriend. During this time he has allowed his daughter to use the mother as an excuse to act anyway she pleases. To this day she has never done a chore, cleaned a bathroom, does not know how to load a dishwasher, and anytime she is asked to do something she refuses or tries to get her brother to do it. This has been the primary source of our fighting because not only does she not contribute to household chores the way the other children are expected to but she is disrespectful to my husband calling him by his full name while demanding he do things for her as if he is a child. The list goes on, it's really too much for a post. She is constantly mean, bossy and disrespectful to my children, my husband and my husbands other child. She has been the source of many fights and we have started counseling over the issues that he and I have over how she should be handled. 

We have reached some improvement with the way my husband handles some aspects of the situation, but I don't feel like it is enough. I don't think he should be responsible for taking her boyfriend to and from work without notice. She is off at college and living in a dorm, there is no reason her stuff shouldn't be packed up, so that our other children don't have to share rooms. Even though we live close to campus, he should not constantly be running around doing things for her, the whole point of moving out was to teach her to be self reliant. I am frustrated when she tries to stay at our house every weekend with her boyfriend and neither of them clean up after themselves, they have sex on our sofa and leave stains behind. 

My husband and I have reached a point where we can talk about it and he acts like a dog with a tail between his legs because he knows this is a lot to deal with, but he wants to make these slow changes instead of just laying out what is acceptable and what isn't. I feel that this has continued to go on WAY too long and I am tired of being punished for her bad behavior AITA for wanting to stake our relationship on this issue? 

wanting to give my husband and ultimatum when it comes to his adult daughter