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Input: My husband (M28) and I (F26) have been married for 5 years and have been together for about 10/11 years. We have a five year old daughter. He also has an 11 year old son with his ex gf from high school. 

While we were dating, It was always difficult for me to accept that he had a son with another woman because it made me feel really insecure. They were on bad terms for some time but I asked him to call her so he can see his son and try to connect with him. Even thou he and his ex are not together he has gone to her house to visit them every Sunday for a few hours. Although I felt very insecure about it, I was the one to encourage him to go see him. I grew up with out a dad so I didn’t think it would be fair that I let my jealousy get the best of me try to keep a child from having a dad.  

Once we got married, I made a promise to myself and decided to get over my irrational insecurities and try to become friends with his ex. It was a slow process on my part because I felt very uncomfortable going to visit them, I felt like a complete out cast and I felt very stupid. She was actually very friendly and we became somewhat friends. We don’t call each other every weekend or hang out often, but when I do I go over her house I feel very comfortable hanging out and drinking and dancing. We really do have a good time with her best friend and her siblings and I also truly enjoy hanging out with his son. 

He took that comfort and friendship away from me, she is very close to her siblings and best friend so I know she discussed these texts with them. I no longer feel like I can look at any of them in the face. I’m just so hurt.

He made my biggest insecurities come true. This wasn’t a random girl from the internet. This is a woman that he has a child with and that I was very jealous about for years. We built a friendship but it took years of hard work to feel like I could let my guard down. She didn’t respond to his texts and did not lead him on, I really do appreciate her and respect her as a woman. But I just can’t look at her or go to her house. She isn’t the problem, it’s my husband I know but it’s still very hard. 

Since we got married and I became friends with his ex, I always felt very safe and secure with my relationship. We absolutely love our daughter and we get along so well. I have been faithful and so has he, so we have never had a reason to not trust each other so I’m completely shocked by this. I just don’t feel safe anymore, I feel alone. He was the one person I could call and count on. I feel like he robbed me of a friend, which is him. It probably sounds stupid but I feel like he isn’t my friend anymore. 

His excuse is that he is an idiot, but that it wasn’t a big deal since nothing happened. When I confronted him he tried to say it wasn’t him and denied it. Nothing happened because his ex respected me enough as a friend and woman to not cross the line, or betray me behind my back. He didn’t even apologize until the third day and that’s only because I told him he hasn’t even sorry.   I just feel as if he is so selfish. 

I feel like he doesn’t understand what he he took from me, how much my relationship with her meant. 

Am I the asshole for wanting him to leave our apartment? I have also been looking in to divorce but don’t know if I am overreacting. 

He didn’t physically cheat on me, but I can’t help feeling emotionally disturbed. I have been crying since I found out. He doesn’t want me, he doesn’t respect me. He wants to have sex with other people. He is asking other people for nudes. I feel like he has taken advantage of me. I work a full time job, I take care of our daughter and her needs 95% of the time. I do his laundry and always have food made for him to eat. I try so hard to make his life easier. I do all the cleaning, I handle paying all the bills.  I feel so dumb for trying so hard. 

I’m so confused, like how long has he been doing this behind my back? I have never snooped his phones or checked his call or anything , I have completely trusted his word and give him his space. I am feeling very stupid right now. 

I just feel like I lost respect for him, we are very open with each other and have agreed to tell one another if we ever loose interest or are attracted to someone else because we should at least have that respect for one another and not cheat. But he didn’t tell me. I happened to open our laptop and the messages started coming in and the text was displayed so I read his texts asking for sex and nudes. If I hadn’t opened the lap top I would have never known, and he would have never told me.

Am I the asshole for asking for a divorce and asking him to move out?

Please shed some light on the situation because I can’t. I’m just so hurt

asking for a divorce for potential cheating