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Input: Background: Financially independent, late 20's male, my mother and little sister (and soon after they were situated her boyfriend and boyfriends mom) live with me and I pay the mortgage with her just covering base utilities. As you might imagine in this scenario, I don't have a lot of faith in my mothers financial management skills, but am ok with the overall situation because of my little sister deserving a stable childhood and additional familial support structure. 

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Now for the story: I have a business trip coming up late next week and I have to go to NJ for a day. It's cold and I don't have a large formal winter coat that would be suitable for the weather (I've lived in the south all my life), but was planning on toughing it out for the one day with a sport coat and sleeveless sweater vest (I try to be frugal on my spending and could not justify the expense for a winter coat in my own head). 

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Here's where it gets tricky, while I was at the movies earlier I get the following texts

[https://imgur.com/a/KXUyZ9h](https://imgur.com/a/KXUyZ9h)

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From the context, my mother has one of my credit cards that I let her hold onto in case of emergencies, and she has previously made purchases on but not paid off (close to 700$ @ zero % interest and I will be paying the balance later as I have a big financial windfall coming, so not a big deal to me). All previous purchases I was consulted on and I deemed they were needed for the household. This however took me aback, I quickly texted (albeit cursing though not directly at her) and was kinda shook to my core that she decided what was best for me and made the purchase despite my consent. I check online and the coat in question was $150 from Dillards, for something I would use once. 

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After the movie, before I texted her again at 7:33, I called her and very calmly stated, I was upset, to return the coat, and that I did not want her making that purchase. I was quickly brushed off with her telling me she was at dinner. The rest of the texts are in pretty subsequent order. After she got back home later at night she feels the need to go on a full screaming hispanic lady tirade of how disrespectful I am, how my recent successes at work and my financial status have made me a bad person, how she wants to sell the house and leave (and yes again remember the above background its my house), and I pretty much stated to her not to threaten me with a good time (I have let it be known I am envious of the downtown life and know if family circumstances were different I would be in a bachelor pad at the heart of it all).

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I really am looking for self reflection here though, so please let me know if I'm off base, I just can't stand how she handles money sometimes and when I start to feel a pattern of her treating my finances as her own I get really angry about it.  

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TLDR; AITA for telling my mother, albeit brashly, to return a purchase she made against my stated wishes using my money? 

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telling my mother to return a purchase