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Input: Ok, let me break this down... this is a long one sorry ...

I was with my former boyfriend, lets call him A for two years. The last year of those two years we were long distance (he dropped out of university and moved home) and his family weren't too keen on the whole long distance thing. By the end we were seeing each other 1 day a month. 

During our relationship he lied, stole money from me, always victimised himself, cheated on me ... when I called him out on it, his answer was 'I'm a 21 year old boy. If another girl gives me attention, I cant help it' 

I should of seen the warning signs ! But I'm kind of old fashioned and i like the idea of working at and fixing relationships when they go wrong. 

So I was leaving University and our plan was for me to move up to live with him. It had got to 6 weeks before I was moving up. I saw him on the weekend and left on the Sunday... and on the Monday he calls to break up with me, saying things didnt feel the same.

This was devastating as suddenly I had no future stability ! It was strange but after being sad for 3 days, I realised I had gotten over him. 

Cue 6 months later where I have fallen in love with B (his best friend). We would hang out a lot as best friends during mine and A's relationship cos we lived close and there was never a single sexual intent. 

It hit me like a ten tonne truck when, after I became single and A broke up with me, that all these feelings would rush into me regarding B. We would continue hanging out as friends and my crush for B would grow and grow. Like the most organic love that I have ever felt.

So me and B fell deeper and deeper in love (honestly 4 years later and he is still the perfect man) and decided to be in a relationship. 

So B had to ring A and explain what had happened. Obviously A did not take it well at all. I was travelling at the time and didnt get the full scoop... and didnt want to pry. 

So a year later I contacted A saying things about extending an olive branch, and him telling me he went to therapy over the whole thing. And friendship between him and B was beyond repairing. 

Fast forward another year, A keeps sending me this cryptic messages at 3am and 4am that dont make much sense. About him being unhappy. He asked me next time I'd be in London so he could talk about his life and stuff and I replied 'but I thought you didnt like me much ?? And he replied 'yea maybe I dont.' And then said he broke up with his current gf and I said 'ouch :(' and he snapped 'I dont need sympathy from you.'

 He even tried to call me twice but I didnt pick up. 

I ended all these messages by telling him harshly to leave me alone and delete my number and let me live my life. 

I mentioned it to a friend the other week and she laughed said I really screwed A over. 

But from time to time I still think back and wish things ended differently...

Am I the asshole ???

getting with my boyfriends best friend