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Input: Constantly is probably an exaggeration but let me explain:

So I (M/18) have a pretty explosive personality when I'm with my family. I am very friendly but I often say things that are a bit over the line and I rarely back down because when I see myself in the right ill stand by that.

Sometimes there's something I do/say that triggers a reaction from my parents. Usually its something I see as very mundane and unimportant but they will usually say that its really hurting them.

I used to be quite depressed and getting out of that, together with validation through grades in school and a lot of friends who quite like me, I've come to like myself and see that I'm an intelligent, likable guy and when people tell me otherwise I'm quick to reject that idea.

My sister (F/15) is an incredibly fragile person. Shes in therapy because everything stresses her out so much and she really hates when we fight (we as in anyone in the family). However, she often has phases (not her period) where she is just exhausting, telling everyone off and being completely toxic. That behavior isn't recognized my mom and usually hits me. My sister sees these phases as completely justified and never apologizes, instead wants apologizes made to her most of the time.

I sit in my room most of the time, studying or playing games. I listen to music a lot (speakers except when people are sleeping). I do sports 6/7 Days a week and do a little bit in the house (my room is always clean, emptying the dishwasher, bringing out the trash, basic chores).

Whenever I have a rough day and say something even remotely hurtful or annoying, my family completely loses it, especially my sister, and I am first blamed, then punished and when I inevitably apologize, its back to normal.

So I have two examples that I remember really well here:

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First one we were on a 3 day holiday in London, my sister had had one of her bad days and we went out to eat. I was fine the entire time and didn't intentionally say/do anything to hurt someone. We went inside a traditional Chinese restaurant and having had Peking duck before, I said I want gonna eat anything and Id just have a drink. I said this while being calm since I didn't feel like it was a big situation. I just didn't want to eat Peking duck (what my family decided to order).

Then my sister got up and went (quickly) out of the restaurant, followed by us. She then proceeded to run away, my mom following her and yelling at me to stay where I was and eat with my dad. My dad also went somewhere so I was alone in the street, confused.

Later I was told (and am still being told) that it's my fault cause I made a scene and I should've just eaten and I knew my sister had a bad day. My mom yelled at me and I genuinely didn't see how anything was my fault but she guilt-tripped me for the remaining 2 days straight. (This is the situation where I am 100% sure I'm not the asshole, the other one is more intense so this post isn't baiting for validation.)

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So then yesterday, my sister took my headphones out of a drawer downstairs (which I didn't know, I thought they were in my room) and studying for the midterms and having to look for them I was angry cause I wanted to hurry to the gym.

When my sister arrived home shortly before I was gonna go (i was already in my car). I drove off, turned around, handed her the keys, took them back after the opened the door (took them back in an aggressive manner) and told her "don't go through my shit, asshole" which in German sounds like I told her she's a fucking asshole.

So when I got back, my mom greeted me by telling me that I am a terrible person and that I made my sister cry.

We then yelled at each other cause that's what we always do. I said she was like her mom (rly bad) and she told me I didn't fit the family, I am ungrateful and I should move out.

Apart from that situation: She constantly mentions that I should get a girlfriend, that I should move out, that I should get a job, that I'm ungrateful, that all my problems are caused by me and that I should "just be nice." cause they are nice to me.

I just feel like I can't express my emotions to them anymore and everything I say is always taken up as something more than it is. My mom says everything I say hurts her and she doesn't see any fault of her own.

Another example of why I have a problem with her is, that I want to eat better and lose weight (did it before, wanna do it again) and said that I would like for her to consider that when she's cooking. She says that I have no right to complain and if I don't like it, I don't have to eat it. I get around 30€ pocket money after gas and Spotify are paid for and I don't get compensated for buying my own food (which I already do, just not lunch every day). An argument she has is that she doesn't need to waste time cutting shit in the kitchen when I go out to McDonalds and subway on the weekends but I rarely do that and most of the time I just have a water and hang out with friends.

I believe my family knows I like to lash out a little bit and they should accept that. If I do lash out, they can just tell me because I don't have bad intentions and id appreciate them stopping me right away. What usually happens is my mom or occasionally dad yelling back and then it gets really heated.

My mom has already made plans for me to move out. They support me generally but I can't have any complaints ever. My mom said that, if I do have a complaint, I should just suck it up.

We are relatively wealthy, my mom and dad have rough childhoods and I was incredibly difficult from ages 5 to 15.

My best friend (for 12 years, who knows my family well) agrees with me but I think that he's biased. What does Reddit think?   


Also: I am currently in the process of seeking professional help for myself and as a family therapy thing. I want to talk about the problems I and my mom have instead of just sucking it up and putting another fight off to another day. She doesn't think that I have any ground to stand on and says the problems are all with me.

The descriptions are all from my perspective obviously but I am generally pretty neutral and I really want to understand this better. Thanks!

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