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First of all, it happened twice but I considered there must be a debate.

Some background, in case of being necessary: I work everyday, I can hardly have a day off because I need the money. I considered myself as a person of few words. I was working at the family's restaurant, to be exact at my brother's food truck. My parents work also on the business, for about almost 40 years. We had other locations years ago, but because of economic reasons, we had to shut them down, leaving the first restaurant they opened still functioning today. This only restaurant is the only income my parents are having, my brother has a food truck who opened it a couple of years and his income comes from that mobile-food-maker. Everyone is living in the house. Both my mother and father has their mood, she can hardly hear anything, she uses hearing aids on both sides.

 Anyway are the cases:

Case 1: My mother has been treating my dad like shit, blaming him that he isn't doing anything to revive the family business and telling him that he's a pipsqueak and that he's spending the money are earning on uneccesary stuff, and even naming him a kept. Also when she's doing something wrong such as making the order or something, she considered like a humiliation from my dad, when customers are around or not. One day I discoverd my dad bursted in tears, after many years tolerating her.

One day, my brother and I arrived and both of them made a salad on the restaurant, she made a commentary of my dad as usual until my brother wants to tell her about those commentaries, she didn't want to discuss that, the insistation and arguing become more louder until she wanted to remove her hearing aids and my brother grab both of her hands to prevent doing that. She gets furious, considering that as an agression from her own son. My brother and mom yelled each other, telling her many truths about her and she left the place. I was just hearing, processing what the hell happened.

Later at night, she entered my room to apologize about what happened, telling her that she won't let anyone "stomp" her and being humiliated, I stopped her. Now for once in my life, I could tell her many things like "my dad is not a 'macho' neither a kept", "he works everyday and you on Facebook only, so thank you very much", "how he can be a kept if both work in the same place and is the only income both of you have". She wanted a defense about my brother and I doesn't appreciate the stuff she made when we were kids, I stopped her saying that don't come with past stuff, it doesn't make sense right now. She enraged and considered that comment as a disrespect and wanted to slap me, I just say "do it, just do it". Never did it. I finished the discussion that why she's like that, she never wanted to listen. And she left upset. I would like to tell her many things but she left and I thought that after the arguing.

Case 2: After that, she had been partially reformed, she stopped telling my dad offences and there's no "humiliation" and stuff. Some defects still there. I left my brother to work on something else and work with my parents at weekends. Both my parents didn't support my decision of working on another place because of the wage ar first, but they tolerate at the time.

 One day, my boss told me that is necessary to be in a wedding convention to be with clients the weekend. I told my mom that I must be at the con in the weekend so probably I come late or even not going with them at the restaurant. Told me it was ok. Didn't go with my parents on Saturday and Sunday. Problems come on Sunday, after I return to the house at 10 pm, I called at the restaurant to tell them I'm at home, my father answered and I overheard at the phone that he told my mother, and she got upset that why I'm there and both of them with too much customers.

 After hanging up, I got pretty upset and send her a long message at her phone, because she still doesn't want to discuss many things. I wrote her that she perfectly now that probably I couldn't be with them and that I'm not a seer, how could I know there will be many people. I tell her some defects that she's still having and I got enough. She doesn't saw the message until the next day. At first I wanted to delete the message, but I kept it so she can see how upset I am. After she saw the message, she replies that I was right, she apologized about the situation.

In conclusion, my mother has changed her personality a little bit more after those confrontations. However, sometimes I ask myself if I did the right thing despite knowing her personality at the time.

So, after all that events, am I the asshole?

confronting my mom telling her all her defects and stuff after she made actions I considered wrong