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Input: Obligatory throwaway cos I have friends who know my main, formatting cos of mobile etc etc.

TLDR at the bottom. 

So for most of my teenage and adult life I've hated my birthday, here's a few main reasons why:
No friends and heavily bullied during SCHOOL years which resulted in me being a pretty solitary guy, much better and a little bit more outgoing since growing up but still I can't stand being the centre of attention in any situation.
At 18 (big deal where I'm from) during college with people who were considered my first real good friends who didn't bully me and genuinely looked out for me, out of the 5 or 6 people who were supposed to be going out for a good night out, exactly 0 turned up, all making crappy excuses in the last hour before the time we're supposed to be out, my brother and parents basically took me out instead but it was incredibly depressing. Few more null birthdays followed, just a cheap and cheerful family meal which is fine but nothing I'd call special or memorable. 
At 21 (another biggish deal day in my culture) with a completely different group of people, the exact same thing happened as my 18th, I went home after being essentially stood up and just went to bed. 25th rolls around and by this point I have pretty much given up on the idea of any sort of special day so I make no effort to make anyone aware of the day and it goes pretty much the same as any other day, with the exception of a nice cake or pie baked by my mother.

I'm hitting 30 in a few days and my gf doesn't seem to or is struggling I guess to understand why I hate this day, why I'd rather be at home doing my own thing without a care for anybody else in the world and definitely why I don't want to go out. 

Idk if ITA or what on this one? I think I just wanted to vent cos this hits me hard every year it rolls around and this sub seemed appropriate.

TLDR not had a birthday that didn't turn to crap, don't want to celebrate or do anything on my 30th and GF doesn't understand why, AITA?

not wanting to celebrate my birthday