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Input: I was sitting in my computer chair, talking to my GF who was standing next to me. At one point I turned myself toward her both with my chair and head, and she was holding a wooden BBQ skewer (very thin, wooden stick with a pointed end) directly next to my face, so that when I turn, my upper cheek bone turns into the point of the stick, poking me literally about half an inch under my right eye, above my cheek bone.

Now, I didn't "blow up" externally, but I did get pretty damn angry internally, and expressed it to my girlfriend in a way I'll try to get across as follow, as best and honestly as I can describe;

I don't feel I was like "vitrolic" or anything in my tone, but I would describe it best as a tone of definite incredulity, I said something along the lines of: "*What* the hell? *Why* would you do that?!? Are you serious? You *don't* put pointy objects near eyes... wth?" Now, I remember it will enough to remember myself purposely trying to add in at least a little bit of softer tone, like sadness that she had so little regard/respect for me, and not just pure anger. 

She immediately responds by getting angry herself, with seemingly no sign of remorse or genuine apology. Best I can remember and describe is her own angry, incredulous, "*Jeeeeezzz goddddd (very fake and ingenuine:) What's your problem."

At this, I reacted further by just being in disbelief she could show absolutely no apologetic response, and just immediately turn around to make me the bad guy in this, so I got even angrier and more hurt. I pretty much continued saying more of the same, with the theme of "*How* do you not know the utterly common sense and safety rule of 'don't put pointy objects near eyeballs"?

She then starts expressing that she's so angry at me and I'm the asshole for "talking to her like a child".

Now, when I first reacted, I wasn't consciously thinking that at all, but as soon as she said that my initial thought was... "Uhhh well YEAH, maybe I *was*, because this is like a ridiculously basic, and I feel, fundamental early learning *child's* lesson in safety and common sense". Pointy objects near eyes... NO. BAD.

So at this point I'm much more angry that she immediately turned it around on me, tried to make me the asshole and showed NO remorse at all, more than I was about the actual act. During all this, she gives a few of what I feel are not just half-hearted apologies, but in fact 100% non-apology... like an "eye-roll" apology. Think your best impression of a sarcastic, not-sorry-at-all "well soooorrrryyyyy" (with, I feel, the attitude of "sorry you're so sensitive about this. Sorry you're such an asshole, etc. Least genuine sorry you can imagine).

Anyway, we basically did the classic unhealthy silent treatment fight for the rest of the night. I was purposely cold and didn't want to speak to her because of how angry I was (again, at the reaction more than the initial act). We ended up going to bed angry at each other, both refusing to talk.

Next day, and I'm still very mad she hasn't apologized, so I passive-aggresively just leave silently, keeping up the silent-treatment fight we've got going. That day I come home for lunch and she's there, and I'm still being very cold and short, one word "hey" kinda shit... 

She confronts me in seemingly diplomatic, almost sad tone of "What's wrong, are you still mad at me" with the kind of puppy dog effect of clearly trying to get sympathy.

So, I did my best to express honestly how I was feeling, and I really believe I wasn't nasty or hostile about it at all. I told her I felt like she completely disregarded my feelings, and I felt like she wasn't sorry at all. And that she *always* does this, with any fight we have, where IMO she refuses to *ever* admit any fault of her own, and always turns me into the asshole for even daring to be angry at her about anything ever. She then says, with more incredulity and attitude "I *said* I was sorry!" with a "what more do you want" kind of attitude. She also repeats how she feels I spoke to her like a child and I was totally the asshole for that. This just brought us back to square 1 because, to me, she was doing the exact same thing still. Pure attitude of non-apology and just disregard for my feelings. I was genuinely feeling she didn't care about me at all. I expressed this, and she proceeds to get teary and *further* guilt me with "How could you think something like that, that I don't care about you???!", and then starts crying.

I then gave up and hugged her, and ended up apologizing to *her*, and life went on after that with some more good times and some more bad. But anyway, we're not together anymore so nobody needs to include any thoughts on the health or future of our relationship, I just felt like seeing what this sub would have to say about this particular fight.



scolding my gf for almost poking me in the eye with a stick