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Input: My ex and I had been talking for about a year before we made it official. I wanted to early on, but she didn’t. Reason being, she wasn’t ready and/or didn’t want to put a label to what we had. I really liked her so I was okay with this. Honestly, we were practically girlfriends, just without the label. One thing to note is that when we first started talking, we established that we could both talk to other girls since we weren’t official. I told her it was a personal choice of mine to exclusively be talking to her and I was okay with her talking to other girls if she wanted to. I only asked that she tell me, although I also mentioned that that was her choice. Well, fast forward about a year and out of the blue, she wanted to be exclusive. I was obviously ecstatic and didn’t think twice about it.

One day, a few months into our relationship, she hopped into the shower while I was watching a show on her laptop. Up until this moment in time, she would always want to know what I told my friends about her and vice versa. I usually either told her or showed her my conversations, but she always kept it vague or a secret. I trusted her enough though and didn’t think twice about it. But for whatever reason on this particular day, I was curious as to what she would tell her friends about me so I opened up her messages and searched my name. In hindsight, I probably should not have snooped. 

And cue the whole cliche of snooping and finding something bad. I found out that she had been talking to another girl (let’s call her Ashley) for the majority of the first year we were talking. In fact, I found out that she had also lied to me multiple times by saying she was going on a trip with her fraternity when she was actually going to see Ashley. When her friends asked if she was going to tell me, she said no.

I was obviously sad about this and when she came out of the shower, I was honest about snooping and we talked about it for a while. Since I had told her from the beginning that I was okay with her talking to other girls, I accepted it and got over it quickly. The only thought that lingered though was: “did she only decide to become official with me because it didn’t work out with Ashley?” 

Anyway, we broke up a few months later for other reasons. A few more months later, I got invited to a party and Ashley was attending. We talked. 

Turns out, my ex had told Ashley about me prior, but wanted to become official with Ashley. When Ashley asked about me, my ex replied back saying that she would “drop me in a heartbeat” if Ashley wanted to take things further. After hearing this, I asked Ashley about the timeline and I realized that this had all happened a few weeks before my ex wanted to make it official with me. I was so sad/livid that I decided to cut my ex out of my life without telling her what I found out.

AITA for suddenly cutting my ex out even though I said it was okay to be dating multiple people in the beginning?

cutting my ex out of my life