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Input:    For pistols at dawn. Well... maybe not. But almost. My Boyfriend’s best friend has been an asshole lately. BF hasn’t seen him for months and he barely texts or calls. BF had a birthday party for a major birthday this past Saturday and asshole best friend- henceforth known as ABF, who was supposed to come didn’t show, with no explanation. Today was BF's actual birthday and ABF texts “by the way happy birthday dude.” To which my response was eyes of flame. I am fuckin furious. Goddamn righteous anger is pouring in a waterfall from my mouth as I watch my gentle, kind, wonderful boyfriend, who would let himself get run over by a car if it meant not hurting someone's feelings, wilt. Not even a fuckin phone call from his supposed best friend.  
   My BF has picked this friend’s drunk ass up in a goddamn hurricane, has been his designated driver even when he's not invited out, driven him home from hours away in the middle of the night. He makes all the excuses in the world for him- but at this point, I’ve had enough.  
I ask BF to give me the dude’s number- I’d like to have a word with him. Bf protests- making more excuses on his behalf, but gives it to me.  
The following conversation ensues.   
**Me**: Hey \[ABF\], it's laurelynfaye \[BF\] gave me your number.

**ABF**: What's up (no question mark. Ass.) 

**Me**: I wanted to thank you for telling \[BF\] Happy Birthday. Since you couldn't make it to his party.

**ABF**: Okay, how's he doing?

**Me**: He's fine. He was hurt that you, someone he considers his best friend, couldn't come and neglected to let him know, but lots of others managed to make it. Even \[friend 1 ABF has issues with\] and \[friend 2 ABF doesn't like\], who he hasn't seen in years. \[BF\] was thrilled. He had a wonderful time. \[BF\] Forgives you, of course. Says you were probably busy. But me? Well. Let's just say I think you could be a better friend. And that \[BF\] deserves better from you. 

**ABF**: I told \[BF\] it was a maybe (BF says he confirmed his attendance, but maybe there was a misunderstanding, though I'm not inclined to think so.) Saturday was my one day back in Houston and I left. I'll be back for the weekend of Christmas then gone again. After that Next time, I'll be in Houston will be late March/ early April.

**Me**: So he said (in reference to ABF being busy.) And yet. He deserves better from you. He hasn't seen you in months. And before that for just as long. I have the right to be angry with you on his behalf. Treat him better. Get in touch more often. That's all I have to say. 

This is where the conversation ended. I think I was within my rights, and I was honest and forthright with my boyfriend about the conversation ABF and I were having. Part of it on my side is guilt because I think their relationship may have changed when BF and I became a couple, a year ago now. But I encourage BF to spend time with his friends, I was the one who talked him into a party, and due to living about 45 minutes from each other he sees them as much as or even more than he sees me. (We were close friends for a year and a half before we got together, and I know how important his friends are to him, ABF in particular, due to all the stories I've heard.)

The last time ABF even asked BF to hang out was 2 months ago, and he texted BF last minute on a Friday night to see if he wanted to go, right then, to Ren Camp for a whole weekend. BF was with me at the time, we were spending one of our rare nights together, and told ABF he couldn't as he was with me. ABF was less than pleased. Before that BF hadn't seen ABF since late July, in spite of BF inviting ABF out a number of times. The time in June was a party BF's brother was throwing and ABF got so drunk before BF ever got there, that ABF didn't recognize BF. I feel that this is unacceptable behavior for a friend and told him so. I'm starting to wonder if I was in the wrong though, with distance from the issue. AITA for calling him out?  
 

calling my Boyfriend's best friend out