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My oldest (half)brother is now 31 years old. We met when I was 9 and he was 19. He showed up at my dad’s with his newborn son and girlfriend, so my parents took them in. We built a good relationship and I absolutely adored him. Suddenly, he took his family and left town when I’m 12 (I was outrageously upset). I found out later that he started stealing from our parents and got involved in drugs (snorting coke, selling weed, etc), so my parents kicked him out. I also found out that when he would take me to his friends’ houses who happened to have siblings/kids my age, he was actually taking me to his dealer’s house and he would sometimes make “deliveries” while I was with him. He also used to smoke joints in the car with me, and I couldn’t tell the difference between that and cigarettes.

I haven’t seen the dude in almost a decade, and our phone conversations fizzled out when I was 16. I rarely ever thought about him. 3 weeks ago, he showed up at my dad’s house with his wife and now 9 year old son. He says he’s changed and wants his son to have a better life so he needs help raising him. Parents took him in again and they’re living with them permanently.

My parents keep telling me he’s changed and I believe them. They say that not only is he sober, but he’s kind, helpful, and happy. That’s great, but it doesn’t make me forget what happened. I actually cancelled a planned visit because I’m not ready to see him, which pissed my dad off. My brother even called once and said he’d like to talk to me, but I said, “I’m not ready to hear what you have to say, I need time” and hung up the phone. I admit, I’ve been frosty.

I’m not ready to see him and I’m not even sure I want to. My dad offered to bring my brother down to my apartment, but I don’t want him in my space (and they know better than to just show up). They also keep asking me to come visit, but like I said, I’m not ready. I don’t know who this man is, and while I do have fond memories of him, I now know that those memories included him taking me to his dealer’s house and inadvertently giving me contact highs. I’m so angry at him for getting involved in heavy shit (and involving me, a child, in it); I would like to have a relationship with him again but anger is keeping me from that. 

My dad isn’t speaking to me until I agree to speak to my brother, stepmom is staying out of it, other siblings have mixed opinions. I’m not saying I’ll never see him but I JUST found out that he’s back and I don’t think I’m ready to talk about a decade of repressed hurt and resentment with him. 

So, AITA for avoiding my oldest brother and (inadvertently) our parents? 

TL;DR: oldest brother, whom I adored, got involved with drugs and inadvertently involved me in it. He left town when I was a kid and haven’t seen him in nearly a decade. He showed up recently, dad says he’s changed/sober and wants me to visit, but I’ve been avoiding it. AITA? 

not wanting to see my brother for the first time in a decade