Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: I'm a trans woman in her mid 20s and my gender is a big part of who I am. I've been out for a long time and I'm very open about my transition to my friends and family. I present female in public, and although I haven't had surgery, I've been on hormone therapy for years.

My relationship with my (cis) boyfriend is nearly at the 2-years mark. We're happy. But when I first met his parents, he asked me not to mention that I was trans. I agreed and he introduced me as his girlfriend. His parents had no problem using she/her pronouns and basically it's never been questioned.

Unfortunately, keeping my transition a secret makes me very anxious. Nowadays his parents and I are reasonably close. We get along well. But every time I meet them, I know I can't relax. I'm worried I might make it obvious that it's a big effort to avoid looking like a man. Or that I'll somehow reveal that their son is dating a woman who (...let's be honest...) has a penis.

Here's the difficult part: I'm not saying they aren't aware. I don't believe I "pass" perfectly and it's likely they've worked it out already. But my boyfriend feels that his parents wouldn't understand, and they could potentially think less of him (and me, but my relationship with his parents isn't so important). I personally believe they would be accepting, but I realise my boyfriend knows his parents better than I do. I could be wrong... I don't know.

Tldr: AITA for trying to persuade my boyfriend to let me tell his parents I'm trans (to reduce my anxiety around them) despite the risk they'll judge him for it?

wanting to tell my partner's parents I'm trans