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Input: My coworker, Hayley, and her husband (both early to mid-twenties) announced her second pregnancy to the office a few weeks ago. Based on the due date she gave us, she was only a handful of weeks into her pregnancy (four at most). My co-workers are much older, some with children, some without. We’re a relatively close-knit group since there aren’t that many of us.

We were all happy for her, although there were a few whispered discussions about her getting pregnant again rather fast at her age (her first child was born about a year ago. I did not participate in these discussions, nor did I ever give off any impression that I was anything less than ecstatic at her news. I congratulated her separately on her new pregnancy and she was fairly glowing).

Earlier this week, one of our other coworkers discreetly let us know that Hayley had suffered a miscarriage, and that she and her husband were struggling heavily with the news.

I immediately sent her a message of support (which she replied graciously to). 

But during this whole thing, I couldn’t help but wonder why she and her husband didn’t wait until she was at least three months along to announce her pregnancy to the world, especially since her first one was high risk. I was always under the impression that that was the proper etiquette since miscarriages are unfortunately common before that timeframe.

Obviously I would never say anything like that to her, and I was genuinely happy for her when she announced the pregnancy and genuinely sad when I found out about the miscarriage. But the idea keeps popping into my head, and I feel like I’m being too judgmental.

Please tell me - AITA?


thinking my coworker should have waited to announce her pregnancy