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Input: I am going to refer to my friend as Sara. We are both 25yo females.
 
Sara and I connected in college and have been best friends for several years. She moved back to her hometown in May 2016 and now lives 10 hours away from me by car but we have kept in steady contact. 

Since she moved away, I’ve made the 10 hour drive and visited her twice – in Aug 2017 &amp; Feb 2018 – and I am looking to make a third trip in March 2019, but this time I am planning to fly. Sara has not come to visit me since she moved, but has said that she intends to make the trip sometime so that we are taking turns traveling. However, she has difficulty finding the time/money to travel because her job doesn’t pay much and she has larger familial responsibilities. My life is more stable &amp; my job pays more so I’ve come to understand &amp; accept that if I want to see her I’ll need to be the one who travels – at least for the time being until her life evens out a bit more. I have not yet booked my flight for March because I am hoping the prices drop some but i am planning to book it by the end of this week. 

Fast forward to yesterday – I hadn’t heard from Sara in a couple of days so I reach out to her and ask how she’s doing. Sara replies that she was busy over the weekend because she went to her coworker’s sister’s wedding. She tells me that they traveled for the wedding – with a layover in Chicago and a destination of Orlando – and that she only really had to pay for food &amp; hotel as her father’s airline points covered the price of the flight. I was surprised because it was the first I’d heard about her going on this trip – which is unusual because we talk almost every day and keep each other updated on our lives – but I told her that I was glad that she had a nice trip and left it at that.

However, the more I think about her trip to Florida, the more hurt I feel. She has been telling me for years that she doesn’t have the time/money to take a trip to visit me, but then she makes a trip to the wedding of someone she hasn’t met...I could understand a little more if the coworker was a significant other or something, but they are just friends – both 25yo straight females. And I'm also hurt that she hid this trip from me – most likely because she realizes how this looks from my perspective. I am trying to let it go and not let it bother me – but it is upsetting me more than I expected.
I have not yet told Sara that I am feeling hurt over this situation. She is very passive and does not deal with conflict well, so my plan was to talk to her about my feelings in person when I visit in March. If I choose to cancel the trip though, I would tell her now about how I feel and explain that this is the reason I am cancelling. 

So – WIBTA if I chose to cancel my trip for March because of this? I feel like I am making our friendship a priority and that she is not. 




not visiting my friend