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Input: Last week, my husband suggested I arrange foster son have an overnight visit with his mom over the weekend for my birthday.  I arranged that, and I also got a babysitter for him for a few hours when he came back.  

Plans for this weekend that he told me about were going to see Penn and Teller (I listen to Penn’s podcast all the time), which he ultimately didn’t do since he couldn’t get tickets (This was for an already sold out show rescheduled for Teller’s back surgery) I told him about another show nearby, but he never looked into it.  He then told me he’d take me to a strip club, which sounded like a lot of fun.

He was on call this weekend, but he often trades with co worker’s when they have things to do.

So, ultimately, Friday I dropped my foster son off and then came home, cooked my daughter dinner, and then didn’t do anything.

Saturday we picked up foster son, babysitter came, but he was just supposed to watch foster son, since he’s only 11 (MiL was there for emergencies, but generally not to be relied on), but out 3 year old fell asleep.  Husband decides after an hour to wake the 3 year old up, so she started crying and we sat in the parking lot of the burger joint I picked out for almost an hour, before we’re able to go in.  Previously said he would order a veggie burger for my birthday, ends up with chicken instead.  

He did get me two Penn and Teller shirts and decks of cards, which were really cool.  I’m just bummed that there was no birthday card, no plan, not even a cupcake, and all the high expectations he gave me all fell through.

Sunday, I feed the kids and take them to various parks for hours, he says he’ll clean the house.  Spoiler alert: he didn’t. Says he was working the whole time, but the hour or so after I came home he was watching TV.  Says he would put clothes away, only puts his away, leaves the kids’ to me. 

Finally, when I’m tired and I go to bed, he says “Maybe if I do better on Valentine’s Day, I can have sex before my birthday (September).  

So I bitched at him this morning about saying he’d put the clothes away and leaving them, about giving me shit for not wanting sex, about not even trying until I’m in bed anyway, and then just making a passive aggressive comment like I’m supposed to jump his bones for that.

But I also feel like an asshole because he did get me some cool gifts, even though I didn’t get to do anything I wanted to do.  But I’m an adult and I know no one gives a fuck about anyone’s 33rd birthday.  Also, I’m now aware he hasn’t planned shit for Valentine’s Day, which is in 4 days, so obviously that’s not going to happen, which made me more annoyed even though it hasn’t happened yet. (I got him a card and am making him a steak dinner for Valentine’s Day).

TL;DR husband got my a birthday present but otherwise ignored my birthday, then whines about not getting sex.  AITA for expecting to have a fun birthday?

pouting about my birthday