Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: (Using an anon account for privacy. Sorry if it’s a little vague, trying to stay anon.)

During my freshman year I joined an organization (I guess it could organizationally be compared to a Greek house, just for context, but it is not one) made up of roughly 90-100 people. It was one of those groups where everyone kind of knew everyone else, and you spent a lot of time with them collaborating together so you are kind of expected to be friends with some if not most of the kids in your class year. 

So, like everyone else, I made a few friends in and out of my year for a few years. Because of the enormous time constraints of the organization, it’s fair to say these people were and still are my only group of friends on campus. But then, part way through my second year I left the organization for personal reasons. Around this time, I relied heavily on the support of my friends because this was essentially a huge social, mental and lifestyle change that I needed some support to transition through. Most of them were all very understanding, and did not just leave me in the dust.

However, as time went on I realized that I was never seeing these friends because they were busy with the organization or they’d plan things together and forget about me. When I did tag along, their conversation topics mainly included their majors (which they all had similar ones and I had always been the odd one out in that regard) and the activities they were doing in the organization. I usually found myself with very little to contribute since it is all very specific and unless you’re there participating it’s hard to chime in.

I’ve been considering just kind of letting these “friendships” die out since I don’t really have anything in common with them now that I’ve left the one organization that we’d all done, and I’m really struggling finding anything to talk to with them, and it makes me kind of sad that that’s the only discussion that is had when I’m around. (Also, not sure if this is relevant but I was reluctant to be friends with them in the first place because I’ve never really bought into friendships that are just based on circumstance (ie, being a part of this organization) rather than interests and values, so the fact that we no longer even have said circumstance and no common interests really makes me question what we’re even doing.)

TL;DR: I have a group of friends based out of a common organization that I am no longer a part of and now we have nothing in common.

So Reddit, WIBTA if I stopped talking to them or let them know that I really just don’t think we have grounds for friendship anymore? 



cutting out friends because we have nothing in common anymore