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Input: Yes, this is a throwaway account. Also this is loooong.

So. I had an online friend for about 1.5 years, we were quite close in that we talked very frequently, nearly everyday. We talked mostly about mutual hobbies but also some serious stuff: she was struggling with depression and I offered her support by sharing my own experiences and strongly encouraging she seek professional help which she says she did. Because of her struggles and because she often expressed her difficulties with having "high empathy" and other people's problems upsetting her too much I  kept my more serious problems to myself and only talked about issues after they were resolved. The biggest ongoing problem I ever came to her about was venting about roommates. I also shared with her that I was the opposite of her, I have rather "low empathy" so it was fine for her to vent to me about anything. And it was fine. I had my annoyances (any argument/disagreement ever, even silly philosophical discussions, she would become upset and I would have to ask if she would like to drop the topic and she would say yes... but not without getting in the last word, which nbd but admittedly it had started to bother me) but it was largely fine.

I was promoted at work at around the same time she began coming to me about a guy she had known years ago reconnecting with her and how they had been "talking", but then he ghosted after finding out his cancer was back and could have been serious. I told her I was sorry, told her about a friend of mine who had cancer who had gone through the exact same situation, and it probably wasn't personal, he just needed some time and to hear results etc. She continued to complain, and then said she "felt like crying, but that crying wouldn't help" so I responded with that there are actual benefits to crying and that it was okay to feel sad because "sad things are sad, and there's no reason to be ashamed" 

Now, because of my promotion, which I told her about, I had been working more hours and was mentally fatigued so I wasn't responding as quick as I normally did. She complained that what I said was patronizing and really detached. I apologized because that wasn't how I meant it, explained again why I was tired and didn't realize that it was patronizing. She then said it was okay and that if I was tired/didn't feel like talking to let her know.

So I told her I needed a break for a bit. Mistake. She blew up at me, insulting me and declaring I was a terrible friend and that she was always there for me even when it "wore [her] out" and to go f*ck myself and all the time she wasted talking to me and other very personal low blows. 

I got a bit defensive, told her that it was ridiculous and that I only said I needed time to adjust to my new schedule. She went on to complain I wasn't empathic enough that she just wanted the "smallest scrap of human empathy" from me to help her deal with this. She went on to accuse me of faking the whole friendship.

I defended myself and pointed out I had previously told her how sorry I was she was dealing with this in a few messages over the past few days, and eventually that she "was looking for reasons to feel hurt."

The next day she apologized, said she had been drunk and was so sorry but still kind of backhandedly maintained that I was being too "logical/patronizing" and not being a good enough friend and I needed to be more understanding of why she lashed out at me. We went back and forth a bit, I tried to stay civil but reacted badly when she criticized my "robotic" nature and that she couldn't help that she was "raw, and real and messy". I hate that garbage and told her that it was incredibly rude to imply I wasn't "real" just because I can handle my emotions. She apologized again "that wasn't how she meant it". I tell her I still need some time and space. Especially after all of this. 

She continues to message me. I asked her again for space. She "just want[s] [me] to understand" then she goes on to bring up a friend she'd told me about before that she had feelings for and that she has the same "intense feelings" for me. I tell her there's nothing other than friendship from me (she already knows I'm happily in a long term relationship as well). I again remind her I want space. She continues to press her side of things and that she just cares about me so much. I gave up and just blocked her.

She sent a long apology message to me from another account that I did not know about. I ignored it. Stopped logging on to my account because I felt so angry and I guess violated, but it's not like I was afraid she would do something in rl. (We live in different countries) 

Months go by. I'm not as angry about it any more, I log back in and see she's sent a few more messages. Mostly apologies and how much she misses me and regrets what she did, like being so negative. It came across almost sycophantic to me with how much she praised me for being a good friend and that she ruined it, but some of the stuff was just so wrong (I obviously didn't stop talking to her because she was "too negative") that I clarified my reason for blocking. I felt like she should know that it was my boundaries being pushed. And in the last few months I realized I kinda missed talking to her (though in retrospect it may have been I missed talking with someone about mutual hobbies and not actually her). She made it clear she really wanted to be friends again so I decided to try, though I warned her it might take time to be as friendly again. Also remind her there's never going to be anything more than friendship. She understands and promises she'll respect my boundaries. It goes fine for a few days but the website we've been using to communicate is Tumblr and with the bans happening she's afraid we won't be able to stay in contact. She gave other contact info, I responded kinda vaguely and just said hopefully it won't come to that. She pushes it. I brush it off again, and then she asked directly and I told her I wasn't comfortable giving her more ways to contact me right now.

She grew upset, said that made her feel like a stalker. That she thinks the reason I contacted her again was probably because I was still mad and trying to hurt her. She asked if there was even a point continuing to talk.

I've already had enough of the drama and I guess I hadn't even realized how disconnected to her I felt. I just didn't even care that I hurt her because it seems so easy to do, I didn't feel hurt like the first fight, just exasperated so I told her no, probably not after this. I said, more or less, she still wasn't respecting my boundaries and if she can't handle that I don't completely trust her yet after what happened that it's unfortunate but I'm not going keep arguing and fighting to prove I am/want to be her friend. I wished her all the best, but this wasn't going to work.

She chewed me out, said I wasn't even trying to understand her feelings, that she was just being honest and trying to express herself and then blocked me right after.

Am I the asshole?  Should I have done more to understand her side? Was I unreasonable for not wanting to give additional contact info?

ending a friendship when she "really needed" me and failing to rekindle it