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Input: This happened a year ago. I want to decide if I can fix this or give up. Changed names; ages are from last year.

**I (F19)** met **Dan (M29)** online and met him IRL after knowing we're in the same area. Met his IRL friends, had good times with them. Dan invites us to "anime breakfast", asking everyone to bring pitches of an original anime show - we'll develop them into fun-no-profits short film. It's a gathering of about 7 people, including **Lily (NB29)** who's a longtime friend of Dan (10 or more years?). Dan invites us to a Discord server after so we can discuss more.

I pitch "*magical girls are captured so the dads turn into magical dads and use magical guns*" that seemed to stick and was pretty clear we all wanted to explore.

The idea of a gay couple comes up. No one's quite sure how to write a gay/queer couple raising a family, and it's clear that a few are uncomfortable w/ it. A majority of the people involved in this project were straight guys. Lily and their friend **Molly(NB29?)** argue we need to implement a gay couple in a non-offending way into the project while Dan and others try to find middle ground or don't the stress is good for a goofy project.

Lily declares "This whole show so far feels homophobic", lists all the flaws in the ideas, accuses Dan of controlling the project, announces they don't want to be involved with the project, and their ideas can't be used.

I skimmed through all of this after it happens. I ask what happened, get a summary, chalked it up to: "if we're THAT concerned about making this Tumblr Friendly i don't think we'll ever come to an agreement." Molly interprets: *adding a gay couple is pandering*. I call out how easily Lily said the show was homophobic when it didn't go their way, Molly disagreed, I say "don't talk to me unless you actually experienced homophobia," which understandably wasn't taken well.

All of this happened within 5 days.

2 months later, I met up with Dan to hang out at a con; Lily's there. I forgot about before, but learn Lily learned what happened by Molly and didn't want to see me. 5 months after THAT, Dan invites me to celebrate a birthday - I don't know the cakeday boy but go with a gift anyway and have a good time. I didn't know that Lily was there, because the moment they saw me, they left after going to Dan and calling him an asshole. Dan confesses to me after that, that I had been barred from a lot of friend gatherings because Lily would refuse to show up if they knew I was being invited.

I reached out to a friend of Dan who offered to mitigate the issue in August. Haven't heard since.

I like Dan's friends and would like to continue going to gatherings, but I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong and rightfully left out because of what I had said. I condensed this as much as possible but please feel free to INFO if needed.

tl;dr: someone wants to add gay rep to a project. calls it homophobic when ppl disagree. i call them tumblr. get shadowbanned from friend events

calling someone's behavior "tumblr"