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Input: One of my mutual acquaintances and I are taking the same class this semester. A transgirl sits next to me. 

Acquaintance (as well as the class) doesn't know I'm a closeted trans guy. Because we agree on some things politically, he felt comfortable venting to me about her.

He said a bunch of transphobic things like that she was being too obvious about her status, and that her correcting the teacher was "unnecessary", but the worst of them was when he called her "it". 

I tried to steer him gently away from saying that stuff, arguing that I have gained a lot of compassion for the struggle of trans people. But I didn't outright defend her or tell him to stop. 

I didn't want him to suspect me, so she got misgendered. Am I the asshole?

allowing one classmate to be transphobic toward another even though I am also trans