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Input: For the past 3 years I have been trying to plan a trip to Ireland. It is a place that I have always wanted to go and now just seems like the right time in our life to do it. We can financially afford it, we both have jobs that are very easy to work with when it comes to time off, and we don't have kids. We are about as free as we can be.

But every time I try and plan it she is very noncommittal, and if I set hard dates she ends up cancelling them, and it just never seems to work out. Over these 3 years we have still been able to travel, we have done a trip to Mexico, Florida, and Hawaii, as well as other small weekend getaways. But she can never seem to make this trip work, even though she knows it is the #1 place I want to visit. It has gotten to the point where it seems like she has zero intentions on going and is just dragging me along instead of just telling me she doesn't want to go.

So over the weekend I gave her an ultimatum. I told her that on February 1st I was going to buy 2 tickets for April 11th to the 18th. I told her if she agreed to go by that date the second ticket would obviously go to her and we would go have a great time. If she didn't then I was still going to buy the tickets but the second ticket would be for my friend Sarah (My oldest and on of my closest friends. Not related to the story but something I still find entertaining, she wore a full suit and was a groomsman at my wedding).

I need to stress that this isn't some jealousy tactic by having another women be my backup person. My wife has never been jealous of her and we will usually go to the mountains to snowboard a few times a year. And since my wife HATES the cold it will just be the 2 of us sharing a room for the weekend and my wife has never had an issue with this. Plus I technically owe Sarah a trip to Ireland from a high school bet that stated the first one to get married had to take the other to Ireland. (A bet that my wife knew about but nobody really took seriously).

So to me this it is simple. It is somewhere I have always wanted to go, I would love it if you went with me. But you backing out won't stop me from going anymore.

giving my wife a vacation ultimatum