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Input: This post may have a bit of backstory Ill leave a TL:DR. 

My boyfriend(22M) well call J and I(21F) had weekly dungeons and dragons plans with 3 other people S(23f), P(21M), and M(19M).  They had been at M's house as hes the DM (Dungeon Master aka person who runs the game for the uninitiated). 

Our problem lies with S and P being late constantly or canceling. They are a couple and one of them always has a reason for being late. My boyfriend and I work difficult, early morning, shifts. Mine starts at 4am and his 6am. Dnd should start at 5pm Because of their lateness we either have to end it early or my boyfriend and I go to work very tired. 

They were made well aware of our schedule when they proposed d&amp;d to us and they agreed to accept it. S has no job but is in school, we changed the day of d&amp;d to fit her new schedule in an attempt to limit cancellations. 

Nothing helped, she continued to plan things for the new d&amp;d day and expect us and the dm to move our schedules and accommodate. 

One day it was going out to dinner with the parents she lives with, at 5pm and only telling us as we were pulling up to the Dms house. She didnt start heading over to his house untill 8:30 at which time we already had to leave because we only stick around till 10 or so at the latest and full sessions take longer than 2 hours. Other times her boyfriend was at the gym or she was doing ***extra*** credit for school.

 One time they left half way through to say goodbye to a friend that was graduating. We thought "no big deal its right down the street itll take 5 minutes" WRONG! They sat through an entire college graduation and hung out with their friend. They returned 3 hours later and we barely got anything done.

When she is there, shes too busy talking on her phone, texting, being on facebook, taking selfies. She hardly roleplays and doesnt seem to get anything thats going on.

We tried talking to her personally about her time wasting and we tried talking to the DM and her boyfriend but they look at us like were assholes for suggesting maybe shes not really that into d&amp;d.

After literally like 4 months of this my boyfriend and I had enough and I texted all of them. I told each person that I didnt think D&amp;D was working and we didnt want to continue I tried to remain as polite as possible stating my reasons. I told them it was no longer fun, it was becoming stressful and wearing on our sleep, we were tired of the constant cancellations ect. I made sure to relay that in no way did I mean anything mean by this and that we really wish to remain friends with them. Apparently that was a huge mistake.

S went apeshit on me. She sent me a 5 paragraph essay on how hurt she was and how I was being such a bitch for "rage quitting" she called me a colossal hypocrite and said I canceled d&amp;d almost as much.

 Spoiler alert, I have never called it off ever. I have told her when it would be impossible for us to fit into her new schedule when she switches things around. I have told her when her actions will mean no d&amp;d but I have never cancled because of my own life, neither has my boyfriend who showed up even though he had a massively painful double ear infection. She then tried to claim I was ay fault for almost, but not actually, canceling D&amp;D because my 10 year old cat was deathly ill and I needed the first available appointment, which ended up being the next day and not even on D&amp;D day.

She said I must be on my phone as much as her because I used her charger once to chsrge my phone, I arrived with my phone on 10% and needed it to not die. Yes I do use my phone occasionally but the difference is, I am paying attention to the game.  She doesnt even know its her turn till you scream at her and she plays two characters.

She made it clear her first intention was to not even respond at all to my text, very mature, but that she had too many issues with me. 

All in all it looks like we lost the DM, S and P as friends forever as they made sure to point out that their "trust is broken" and they "are very dissappinted in me"

Honestly it feels like a relief to be done with it all but at the same time I cant help wondering if I was right so I leave myself at your mercy. 

TL:DR My "friends" were habitually late and had no real regard for my bf and I's schedule. We brought up our concerns and stated wed rather be friends than continue arguing about D&amp;D so we were pulling out of it. They intern ended our friendship and are "very dissapointed" 








Canceling Weekly plans