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Input: Hello All

First time poster on here so sorry if I've gotten something wrong and sorry it's a bit long. This happened around a week ago and I'm trying to gauge whether I'm in the wrong or not or how I should proceed.

I'll start off by saying; I love my mum, though I don't agree with everything she has done and some decisions she always put me and my little brother first no matter what and I have a lot of respect for her. 4 years ago I met someone, long story short we hit it off and got engaged two years later, bought a house etc...

This year we're getting married in May. My other half has been working hard on getting everything organised for the wedding and we want the day to be a relaxed, calm day that we want. We've been told by many'a people not to listen to anyone else and do what we want to do. Her father is paying for the Venue, Dress and catering which is very expensive. My mum is paying for the band, my stag do, suits for little brother and mum's partner and her partner is paying for the bar, tables and chairs.

Now when we planned the wedding we didn't expect anyone to pay for anything. I have a good job and so does my OH and can easily afford to do this all on our own if needs be. I should stress at no point have we ever asked anyone for money, they have all offered.

So back onto my mum; For the past two years, she hasn't really got involved or even showed she's wanted to be involved. When we did see her she'd ask us questions about dresses etc.. but never offered to help or anything like that. Which is fine by the way, as I say we don't expect people to help. The OH's parents have done a lot as they had offered, took us to Birmingham and helped us pick our rings, given us advice for the day and just been generally interested.

For the last 6 months my mum has been going on and on about taking me, my brother and her partner to a day our suit shopping. She wanted to go to Peter Posh which really isn't important to me and when I said I was happy buying a suit from a small standard retailer she kept laughing and saying "No, you don't want to look like crap on your wedding day" but it really doesn't bother me what I look like and I'd still look smart just the suit wouldn't be branded. I think it's a waste of money and quite frankly the most important thing to me on the day is to have my OH beside me and we enjoy the day. What kind of suit I'm wearing doesn't phase me in the slightest.

So I kept re-iterating I'm not bothered about the suit but as my mum is a "Strong" character sometimes and will kick off if you disagree with her opinions I was trying to do it in a joking, light hearted kind of way every time I saw her. Mum kept messaging me on Facebook to ask me when I was free, I have a very busy life and job and she can only do weekends so I kept telling her I'll let her know. Three weeks ago myself and my OH went to our local shopping centre to get some bits and bobs for the house when we walked passed a suit shop with "SALE" written all over it. Long story short I saw a nice suit at a decent price and bought it.

I informed my mum that I'd just found a suit I liked and after speaking with my OH we decided, as we're going for relaxed casual look, that it would be nice idea instead of matching suits to have OH's brother and father and my brother and mum's partner in a matching Waistcoat instead. This meant it was cheaper for everyone and I didn't really want them matching my exact suit, so this is what I tell my mum.

My mum then contacts my OH who goes on to tell my mum what we want. Mum isn't happy and says she wants to rent a different suit as it's cheaper to rent one than buy one (It isn't cheaper, to rent the suit my mum was looking at is £140 to buy this waistcoat was £70) it got to the point where my OH gave in and said the suit mum has picked out is fine and to go with that. This still isn't good enough and mum points out that it would have been good if we all spoke about it, that she's been left out and doesn't know what's going on. She ended the conversation to my OH saying "Do whatever you want" This really upset my OH and angered her, all this over a choice of suit... I told my OH not to respond and I'll speak with mum when she calms down.

A day later comes and I get a message of my mum, not about the suits but about my dad. My dad is a lovely chap, again made some wrong decisions in my eyes but he does his best. He left my mum when I was 18 and my brother was 12, has always paid maintenance etc... Mum doesn't like him especially when they talk about money. It was also very difficult to get my dad to come to the wedding as he was worried about mum and her side of the family. My dad did an honourable thing and called my mum on the phone to put water under the bridge for our wedding and it worked. My mum had contacting my dad after the fact and explained that my little brother wants to go to university (He's 19) and was asking dad to pay his share. My dad told mum that he doesn't think University is a good path for my little brother (I kind of side with my dad on this one, see too many people leave Uni that struggle to get jobs and have debt hanging over them, but it's not my place to get involved between mum and dad) at the age of 18 my dad could have stopped paying child maintenance and so he messages my mum his opinions about university and that he was going to stop paying maintenance when my little brother turns 19 in March.

Mum copies and pastes this message to me, saying "Look what your dad has done" it puts me in the middle of them both and I don't want to know. I'm in an awkward position and I choose not to respond to mum because she either wants me to say "Dad's a dick!" or I'd tell he my opinion which wouldn't side with mum's when it comes to uni and it's not my place to say anything.

So anyway 4 days later I think it's time to talk to mum about everything, get it all sorted. I offered to take her out for lunch this weekend so we could talk about the wedding over message and she says she can't as she's showing my little brother around universities over the weekend.. It was 2 Uni's and it's not like she would have been there from midday to midnight. I'm a bit upset she couldn't find an hour for me either Friday night or Saturday/Sunday but what ever. So I say I'll call but again "No" she's busy. At this point I'm annoyed, my OH is upset and stressed about the whole thing, my dad now feels awkward and doesn't want to come again and she can't find an hour or two over the weekend to just talk with me.

So I put everything I wanted to say in a message and sent it her, something I didn't want to but had to do. Here's a link to the messages [https://imgur.com/a/TOIZvBt](https://imgur.com/a/TOIZvBt) I've removed the names of people - I may need to remove this at some point.

So what do you guys think? Any help would be most appreciated!!

buying my own wedding suit