Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: I have been in a happy and loving relationship for over five years with my boyfriend. I have also been dabbling in a dom/sub role play with an external party for the past six months. To date, my boyfriend has been open and agreeable to this arrangement, until this week. 

My boyfriend has provided me with an ultimatum that I need to cease my extra curricular activities and commit to a  monogamous relationship, or we need to break up. He is no longer comfortable with the arrangement.

I am at a point in my life that while i love my boyfriend, i need alternative outlets to express my sexuality and am unsure if im able to be satisfied commiting to an exclusive relationship. I have tried to explain what my wants and sexual needs are, however the topic is often shut down as he is uncomfortable to discuss.

Am i the asshole to try and broach this further and open my boyfriends mindset to a more polyamorous arrangement? I want to respect my boyfriend and his feelings, but I dont want to resent him and give up an important part of my sexuality. 

having my submissive cake and eating it too