Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Recently I introduced a friend (Sam) of mine to a wider friend group. Sam is much older than us and very much a showman/dominant personality and likes to be centre of attention and win people over. People either love him (usually quieter people) or hate him (other louder people). I genuinely like him one on one (when it feels like we're being honest with each other) but I'm realising I can't be around him in a group situation for longer than a couple of hours without finding him exhausting. When I first met him, I considered him charming but now that's worn off, I find him quite insincerely and manipulative at times. I do understand why other new people immediately take a shine to him but it makes me uneasy watching him play the room. 

So one of my other friends took a shine to him when they met, so much that (after a couple of hours) he asked us privately on the group WhatsApp chat if anyone would mind if he invited Sam to the birthday event planned this weekend. 

I replied honestly and said that I did because whilst he was a friend, I found him a bit much. And that it was his call but I'd probably skip it if he came (seriously, I know I wouldn't enjoy the evening at all). Friend was fine about that and nothing more was said &amp; the question deleted. 

I have discussed with Sam before about maybe giving people a bit more of a chance to speak in groups, and did again this evening but was told that was 'my opinion' - which it is, but also makes me pretty certain that I don't want this person permanently embedded in my friendship group if I can help it. 

So.. am I the asshole? (I'm mainly curious at what people think. Whether I am or not, I'll own it; I feel relieved for having spoken up)



being honest about inviting a friend to a party