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Input: Two years ago there was an incident where my wife became extremely physical during an argument. I don't want to go into the details because it was very violent. I know the subreddit rules say that I need to go into detail, so if that's a requirement, please reply to this post and I'll include the order of events.  

Anyway .. I defended myself, and when it was finally over, she lost two of her fingers.

Her left ring finger and her left pinky. The ER wasn't able to re-attach either finger.

That was obviously a horrific wakeup call for us. We worked hard not to let our fights escalate to that level ever again. She has turned he life around, which I know is extremely difficult for her. She diligently attends anger management even today. Our families are extremely supportive of us and are very proud of the fact that we have never ever gotten physically violent with one another after that night.

My problem is that I took her wedding ring from her after that night. I told her that when I gave it back to her, it meant that I was ready to fully trust her again. December 12th will be the 2-year anniversary of the night she lost her fingers and I believe that she is expecting her ring back that day. Problem is that I don't want to. I'm not ready.

And this has me thinking... why am I not ready? It's not like I'm scared of her. It's not like I think she'll attack me again. I just don't want her wearing the ring. I don't want to go back to calling her my wife. She's spent the last 2 years trying to rebuild my trust and all I can think about is the fact that she should never wear this ring again.  

Am I the asshole?

biting my wife's fingers off when she attacked me