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Input: It’s a little long and this is my first time posting here, so bear with me. Also on mobile so sorry for formatting. 

TL;DR: my boyfriend’s roommate / best friend lied to me on my birthday about being stuck at work but was actually at his new girl’s place instead of my small dinner party. We discovered this by tracking his phone location. 


So my birthday was last night and I threw a super small dinner party for my friends and family. I invited my boyfriend’s roommate (let’s call him X) since I consider him to be a very close friend of mine. On X’s birthday a few months back I went to the super small dinner/drinks at a bar with their friends to celebrate with him. 

Another thing that should be known about X is that he meets girls and is super super into them for about a month (like hanging out with them 5-6 nights a week right after meeting them) and then gets bored and ghosts them. Then a week later he meets a new girl who’s the “real deal this time” and the cycle starts over. X is currently 2 weeks into this cycle with a girl who we’ll call W. I haven’t met W yet and my boyfriend has only met her once for about an hour. I did not invite her to my birthday since it was a very small dinner and (again) I haven’t even met her yet and odds are she’ll not be around for much longer. 

So I told X about my birthday dinner party last week and he told me he was working at the hospital that day but would come over after. My boyfriend reminded him the night before my birthday of the dinner party the next day and X was still saying he’d come over after work. Again yesterday during the day I text X reminding him of the party at 7pm because he’s notorious for ditching on plans and flaking in general. He said he would try to leave the hospital by 8 but would definitely stop by. 

At 7:45pm, I text the address of the party to X. It’s on his way home from the hospital and not more than 10 minutes out of his way.  My boyfriend and X have always had their location shared on their phones with each other so my boyfriend randomly decided to check X’s location and see if he had left work yet. Sure enough, X wasn’t at the hospital and was driving. At the exact same time, X texts me back saying: “Honestly don’t think I’m goin to make it, my patient just coded while giving report. Gunna be here a while”. So he straight up lied about being stuck at work and having a patient code. 10 minutes later my boyfriend checks his location again out of curiosity, and sure enough he’s at W’s house. 

My dinner party ended up being lovely and fun and I had a great time, but now it’s the next day and my boyfriend and I are pissed at X. We were planning on saying something to him tonight to let him know that we know he lied and it was pretty fucked up to ditch me for his new girl. We understand that he could’ve been exhausted and stressed from a long day at work, but he could’ve been honest with me and not lied about a patient coding and being stuck at work.

Anyway, I was discussing my frustrations with my friends and they don’t think that my boyfriend and I have a right to confront him. They think it’s not right that we tracked his location, and that we invaded his privacy. All in all they don’t think it’s a big deal and we should just let it go. It was his choice if he wanted to come to my party and he wasn’t obligated to go to his roommate’s girlfriend’s party.  

So if we confront him, are we the assholes?

confronting a friend after tracking their location and seeing that they lied about being stuck at work and skipping my birthday dinner party