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Input: Hey so this is fuckinggg me up mentally and I really need to know what other people think, although I’m pretty sure I have a good idea of my standing.

Essentially I met this beautiful girl on tinder, she was really cool, had a couple dates, met her friends. She was REALLLY into me (told me first date felt like a movie, has a lot of love for me, etc etc.) Now whole I really did like this girl, I’m in college, I work full time, and I have a bunch of other stuff going on I’m my life. I didn’t think this through and asked her to be my girlfriend early on because I could tell that’s the type of person she is, and she seemed kind of insecure I was going to ghost her or something, so I asked her to be my girlfriend. Mind you, this is my first real relationship. Almost instantly I felt like this was a mistake. I figured asking her to be my girlfriend would entail the same things we had been doing before, just that we were exclusive, and I did this because she was that person in my life at the time, and I knew I wasn’t going to be pursuing other girls so I guess I asked her out to ease her mind. I now know this was a terrrrible mistake but whatever.

Anyways we dated for a couple weeks and she was going to a festival in New Orleans with her friends and invited me. I payed my way for everything and chipped in whenever possible. The trip was a real test as our car broke down and we wound up hitchiking to NOLA, and really just had an amazing and magical experience  throughout the entire trip, and I felt like we all grew very close, both her and her friends.

Anyways, my girlfriend, while I reallllly liked her, lived an hour away from me, so I didn’t always have time to see her (couple times a week at best) so understandably she wanted to text/FaceTime a lootttt. I’m busy, and again, while I really like this girl, I have other relationships with my friends and family that I cannot just drop to spend all my free time talking to her. Also, while I liked this girl a lot, I could tell she was Into me on a whole nother level. When we’d drink she would say things like “I’m not in love with you, but I love you” and then get really upset when I wouldn’t say it back. There were other things, but the gist of it is while I liked her, she liked me a lot more, and I didn’t want to lead her on. One day she got pissed because I had to hang up to go do something and while this happened frequently , it really annoyed me this time, and I took a day to really think about the relationship and talk it over with some people. Anyways, I came to the consensus that I wish I had met her as a friend first, but since we are way past that point, I needed to end it here. Because I literally felt like this girl was falling in love with me and I didn’t reciprocate those feelings, I didn’t want to drag her along and play with her emotions. I had a talk with her explaining my side and how I would love to remain friends, but right now a relationship is not going to work with me, and she didn’t seem to take it very well. (Almost seemed like she was trying to convince me not too)


I feel like a dick, but idk what to do at this point. We talk a looot less but it seems friendly enough. Have yet to have the final talk with her really explaining my mindstate, but I would just like to double check I’m not a compleeete asshole. 

I feel bad breaking up with her just 2 weeks after she took me on a trip that changed my life for The better, but I know deep in my heart that while I like this girl, this is not the one, and she feels differently and I just don’t want to have her thinking I care more than I really do, as harsh as that may sound.


Oh and also she said earlier in our relationship that she would never have an abortion, and then got upset with me when I said I was going to start using condoms since she’s not on BC. Not sure where that plays in exactly, but I kind of took it as a warning sign and a clue that I may be doing the right thing here.


So anyways, am I the asshole??

breaking up with my girlfriend after she took me on a really fun trip