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Input: Ok so I’ve been with “A” for six years. Love him, we click on all levels, this is the relationship I want for the rest of my life. His parents are another story.

His parents don’t like me, are mean and weird, and only really talk to me when they want me to pick up their younger children or dog sit. His mom has given me passive aggressive compliments and his dad is creepy and rude. They once told him to get out of their house at 21 if he’s going to have a video game in his room. His dad wouldn’t tell him his SSN to get off his phone bill so A could buy his own. His dad told the customer service lady but not his own son. Not my problem, I don’t interact with them much, he’s not too happy with them either.

A has gone to boot camp and as such we don’t talk to him except through snail mail. My dad, who was in the same branch of the military, knows someone there who can tell us really tiny tidbits and they’re very few in between. Like “he just did x”, for example. Most people do not get this with their loved one. It’s very lucky and I’m sure some people would pay money to hear what’s going on with their kids or siblings at this time. 

I’ve been relaying the bits to his mom because we’ve been together so long I feel it’s just something I should do. I had a tentative date of his graduation. I texted her this info. My little brother just finished boot camp last year from the same branch, so I know the drill for it. I told her he’ll graduate this day, the tickets have to be picked up a day early, no exceptions. That night we might be able to take him to dinner. Keyword “might”. And then the rest of the weekend depends on all his stuff being processed and it’s not up to him. His date can change for any amount of reasons, especially if he fails something. I’ve been in an all military family for 20 years now. My dad was an instructor at the boot camp my boyfriend is at now. All my cousins go in. When their parents can’t fly up we’d go since we lived 20 minutes away. Graduation is something I’ve had to sit through a bunch of times, same thing each time. 

Well despite having my dad been an instructor there for 5 years, history of going for family, and being told it by someone working in that area and actively seeing him every few days, his mom starts in with an attitude. His parents always think they are in the right. They always think they’re better than others and know more. I told her all the info about graduation then she hits me with a “Well I’m going to ask his recruiter to get the CORRECT information”. His recruiter does not know anything about what’s going on. I told her he has no contact with him. Her reply: “Well I’d feel better hearing it from someone else other than you.” Ok. 

I’m not telling her anything anymore. Am I the asshole? Should I keep telling her about her son or just let her dangle? 

not telling my Boyfriend's Mom Information about her Son