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Input: This isn’t really an issue anymore, but I was recently reminded of this situation and thought I’d ask what you all think.

A while back my neighbours moved out, and a new old (~60) woman moved in alone. Soon after this time, since it was in the holidays, she told me that I had been keeping her up late at night for the last few weeks, and while she had been trying to deal with it patiently, it’d gotten too much.

I of course agreed and tried to be quieter, since I didn’t really know this was an issue until then, however from my perspective, no matter how quiet I was or how late I was up, it was either too loud or too late (even whispering is too much for her to sleep through).

When trying to compromise, since this situation was annoying for me in that I was almost never able to play with friends anymore, and she couldn’t sleep as well; I discovered that her extent of effort in getting to sleep was just listening to music to cover me up, but that wasn’t working since after getting to sleep, once the music stopped I would end up waking her up again. Sometimes as late as 3AM (but very rarely)

I did suggest a few other solutions, such as sound proofing the walls, buying better noise cancelling headphones, or moving rooms, agreeing to fund or otherwise help with any of them, however she didn’t want to do any of them, due to effort, comfort when sleeping, and feeling unsafe in the other rooms in the 3 bedroomed house she lived alone in... 

Since I understood that those solutions could easily be reversed onto me, the issue here for me is really who’s responsibility is it? 

I definitely don’t feel responsible for her good sleep, and don’t feel like I should change my actions, and I am really only changing my actions to avoid the hassle of an angry neighbour.

So AITA? And would I be the asshole if I stayed up late talking and playing games?

keeping up a neighbour playing video games