Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Throwaway because I’m not sure if she follows this sub.

So my girlfriend and I have been living together for a few years. For most of that time she’s been working part-time from home. She suffers from anxiety and depression and her mental health took a real hit when her dad passed away 2 years ago. Unfortunately a few months ago she was laid off from her work from home job. Since she has an advanced degree in English she decided to take a stab at freelance writing. For 3 months she hasn’t made a penny because she’s been working on her novel rather than submitting resumes and short articles to websites and publications which is what we both agreed she should focus on. I have a 12yo son who lives with me full time (not hers) and we live in an area with a high cost of living so even though I make okay money, things are stretched pretty tight to the point where we have very little if any disposable cash.

Three days ago an acquaintance of hers offered her a full time tech support job making pretty decent money. Like instantly solve all of our financial problems type money. She doesn’t want to take it because she’s an introvert and talking on the phone all day sounds like her idea of hell.

She keeps asking if I think she should take it and I don’t want to push her into doing something she doesn’t want to, but it would really take the financial pressure off me. She keeps saying, “I know you want me to take it,” even though I’ve been adamant that it’s her decision and I will love and support her either way. Today I splurged on a $30 item and she said that I did it to tell her to go back to work. It honestly feels like she wants me to push her into it so that she can blame it on me when she hates the job.

I finally said: If you’re going to take the job, then you need to own that choice. You can’t be miserable and blame me because I made you do it. If you don’t take the job, then you need to own that choice too. You don’t get to make me feel bad about money problems when you have the power to fix them and choose not to. This decision is yours and the consequences are also yours. I will love you and help you either way but you cannot put it on me. That’s not fair.

It’s not like she can’t keep writing if she takes the job. Somehow she’s convinced herself that it’s all or nothing and now she’s crying.

Am I the asshole here?

TLDR; stay at home girlfriend was offered a job that would help a lot but doesn’t want to take it

wanting my stay at home girlfriend to accept a job she was offered