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Am I the asshole? I just found this subreddit and it's perfect for this event that just happened last night and I'm still processing it. Some background first; so, this story is about me and a guy (let's call him Perseus) who I've known for about two years. I met him through a mutual friend (no longer friends with that first friends), but became friends with Perseus and his room-mates. At the time I didn't have much of a social life (working weird hours, drifted apart from people) and these guys were really welcoming. I had no luck with dating lately and they were really enthusiastic about helping me with that. The guy called his group of friends a 'tribe' and hosted parties at their house, and then one night he invited me out to him meeting some friends at a library to attend a 'class' and Perseus told me on FB he wanted me to come. So I went and it was Perseus sitting at a table with some friends and reading some self-help book. I personally am not to into the self-help scene (I know this is a very diverse scene) but generally it was never my thing. I like seeking advice and stuff, and I'm all about improving myself in different ways, sure, but reading hundreds of pages -- no. I'd rather read something else, something on politics or some fiction.

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So, I politely listened to him and tried to get into it a bit, was considering reading the book, but really just wasn't interested. After we went out for beer and had a good time. So, I ended up going to the classes sometimes but it was mostly to have a social life. I did kind of enjoy the academic environment a bit, but overall wasn't really impressed with the self-help book. To me it mostly sounded like generic advice I can get anywhere. Again, not my thing. So, I go to some of their parties, have a great time. One of them is good at giving me constructive criticism, which I honestly appreciated, and I was getting some bonding with Perseus and some other of the group. At one point when we were in a car one of the guys told me I should really come to the classes because they "level up" at each class. I tell him I am busy with work.

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Anyway, months go by, more parties, generally having a good time. I generally like the group, but a few things rub me the wrong way. Hard to explain (turns out one of them actually did have severe mental illness, but he left the house at a point), it was more the obsession that Perseus in particular had with self-help stuff; he had loads of books on it. The whole 'teaching a class' thing kind of weirded me out, and Perseus, who did have a University degree, instead of becoming an academic at an actual university would tell me plans of opening an online university himself to teach 'critical thinking', 'logic', and 'self-improvement'. One day I was visiting his house (the house was chill to hang out in because it was casual) and I was sitting in the living room and I heard him talking to someone on the phone saying something along the lines of "oh, so-and-so is calling me a cult leader! Sure I'm a cult leader, but I'm an ethical cult leader, I would never get someone to drink poison!"

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Red flags? Or am I over-reacting?

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Time goes on. I just brush off me hearing him say that; just figure he might've been semi-joking, or maybe he doesn't quite understand what cult means. Anyway, some more parties happen, generally cool. I help them move. He does things (Perseus) that kind of rub me the wrong way sometimes; like one time we were at a coffee shop and a good looking woman passes and he says to us other guys: "Wow, look at her tits." And I'm like "Okay" and thing is, I'm not a prude or anything, I talk to friends about sex sometimes (when I have it) in some capacity; I just think that kind of talk is kinda trashy. I don't say anything because I have the feelings these guys (who are kind of bro- dude-like) will just tell me I'm overly PC or sensitive or something. If I see a nice looking woman pass by I might say "wow, she's pretty" to my buddy or something, sure, like, people do that. But really, he's just being vulgar and vulgarity is just one of my personal pet peeves, but I'm not going to ask him to change something like that for me right?

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So, during this whole time, almost every time, he is pushing me to read The Mystery Method and other Pick Up Artist material (we're getting to the drama now). I talk to him, he gives me advice, some of his advice generally isn't bad advice. I go through life and with all the people I befriend I take whatever advice I can get to help in general. In the summer I read maybe 20% of The Mystery Method and I think it's mostly stupid. It's pretty much telling me to go into bars and go bug every woman - like, no. I don't want to do that. That's just creepy. So, I stop reading it. Later on, he continually pokes me to start reading these books again. One time, at a coffee shop he says pretty loud "Dude, don't you want your dick in a mouth?" This rubs me the wrong way, but I whatever it again. Okay, you all with me still? So here's the drama.

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Oh, did I mention Perseus, almost every time I see him, is going on in front of the other tribe about his latest experience where he got a woman's attention in front of her boyfriend (the alpha) or one time when he danced with a woman (but didn't have sex with her because he timed the order in which he did things wrong). This really weirded me out.

We start having hang-outs where we'd chill, play some games, maybe cards, have a few beers, smoke something. I like these. So I go to one and its just a few of us. Half the people there (tribe) are in the kitchen cooking and it's just me, Perseus, and another guy who is new (young impressionable guy who likes Jordan Peterson). So, at one point I tell Perseus what's going on in my dating life. Although at the time I wasn't dating anyone, I had two prospects (one was long-distance and we were meaning to meet up but she flakes, and another woman I just started talking online, but we haven't met yet and only started but things were looking good generally). So I told him about this great new woman I was talking to. So Perseus starts going on about how I never 'seal the deal' (there's truth to that, sure). So I was hoping I could tell him more about this woman. Instead he reaches to his bookshelf and puts a PUA book in front of me, the one I started reading and quit. He tells me, for the dozenth time that this is the key. So here it starts;

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I don't recall exactly everything that led to it getting more heated but I remember telling him I wasn't into the whole PUA self-help scene. He then reminded me that I was having no luck lately with women. I told him this is true, but told him things were generally getting better and that I was working on it. He then reminded me that I am not having luck and that this will help me. I bring up something along the lines of a lot of the self-help stuff being based around evolutionary psychology - which, while a legit field, is something I personally don't really trust. I feel that, and many critics do, much of evolutionary psychology is based on speculation. Or there are books written, I've found, that will support an agenda and use evolutionary psychology but will cherry pick facts to suit their agenda. He gets defensive about that not being true. Both of are voices are raised a bit by this point, but I feel he is being aggressive with me now. He asks me quickly: "Do you believe in evolution? (yes) Do you believe in psychology? (Yes) Then how can you say that evolutionary psychology isn't a legit field. He then brings up that many people in some fields don't like people in other fields; which is true sure. So, this goes back and forth.

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I tell him I feel he's pushing his beliefs on me. He asks me what 'pushing' means, asking me to define what I mean by 'pushing'. I tell him I'm not into self-help scene; what's wrong with helping oneself? Everyone wants to help themself! He also tells me I am pushing my views on him and the others by not listening to what he has to say. He tells me I am being irritating because I was asking for dating advice and now am refusing to listen when he's giving it. (I wanted friendly advice sure, not a book I have to read), so basically I need to read this book or I will never kiss a woman again &lt;-- he doesn't say that, but he seems to be implying it. Like, he never once asked me about this woman I am speaking with (her background, interests, what we talk about) to give me advice; he just gives me this book to read. I tell him I am not really interested in the general self help scene, he insists it's a diverse scene and you can't judge it (which is true, sure), but, since he's pushing me I tell him what I really think "Honestly, I don't respect the whole self-help industry, I think most of them are scammers."

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This seems to trigger him. "I'm taking that personally because you just insulted my profession. I have been writing a self-help book for years!" I didn't know this and I tell him I didn't know this. The genie's out of the bottle. He tells me I haven't even read any of these books yet I judge them (I tried and it sucked). He continues to get aggressive. I tell him he's getting aggressive; he says "No, you sound aggressive to me!"

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He tells me he read all my short stories and was all upset that I never once went to his website! I didn't know he had one; and I'm not interested so what? I asked him straight up "So to hang out with you I need to go to your website?" Don't remember what he said. He keeps pressing me on why I wont read these books. I tell him I wont read them and he has to accept that. He keeps pressing me. I tell him straight up I think many of those books are misogynist. He then says "Are you calling me a misogynist? Do you think my girlfriend thinks I am a misogynist? Misogyny means 

not reading PUA books and getting kicked out of a house for not doing so