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Input: So, backstory as this happened awhile ago but it still kinda bugs me to this day over whether it was the right thing or not. 

I used to have this friend, let’s call her Vicky, and I met her through a mutual friend and we got along famously. We had great convos, always laughed and enjoyed ourselves and whatnot, to the point where I developed a bit of a crush on her. However, her friend informed me she had a BF and I immediately recognized and respected that (I’m not a home wrecker) so we just continued being friends. 

We would talk on and off for a long time but it was truly cemented with how good a friends we were when she came to my school. Because of this, we would hang out almost everyday and our friendship grew into almost being best friends, essentially. We would talk about everything (from our mental hang ups to her BF issues) and would even hang out outside of school a lot. I even went to her house a few times and met her family. I thought everything was going well, but it changed.

So, it went downhill after one week where we made plans to hang out after not chilling for a couple weeks. It was the day of our hang out and I texted her just to reconfirm, she didn’t respond to me for 6 hours (I was already dressed to go) and she responded with a very obvious and flimsy excuse as to why she couldn’t hang out, but I accepted it and didn’t push her. We talked briefly after this but then she just completely ignored me for over a month. 

It really tore me up because I thought everything was great and I couldn’t understand why someone who I thought was one of my best friend would just completely ignore me like this. Many of my other friends told me to just leave it and ignore her, but I wanted to give her another chance and not feel like a wasted my time so I texted her and we got to talking again for less than a day, until she again ignored my text again and she never responded to me...

Fast Forward to school starting as this occurred during the summer and I run into her and she just pretends like nothing changed and everything was cool. I was infuriated. I wanted to chew her out so badly, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I asked her why she did this and she came back with an excuse about being busy and studying, but to me, that doesn’t justify almost 3 months of being ignored. You couldn’t find 5 seconds during that time to text me back and let me know you’re even still alive? A wave of realization hit me, why should I be this upset over someone who obviously doesn’t care about me? And I just accepted it, honestly, and I walked away. I still see her around the school every now and then, and I completely ignore her almost everytime and pretend like she doesn’t exist which is kinda shitty but idk what else to do. 

My question is, that I feel like what I did was completely justified, but I wanted to know some other opinions. Was I the asshole here? Sorry for the length, btw. 


ghosting a good friend of mine after they ignored me