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Input: I am an adult with adult siblings. My parents (Ps) are in their late 50s (bio father &amp; stepmom). One retired, one nearing retirement. All children from prior relationships were adults when they married. 

When my spouse and I started to try for a baby, we were open about the process with my Ps. Around the same time we started trying for a bio child, we also looked into becoming foster parents but decided to wait. We talked about our experiences with the foster system to my Ps. Unbeknownst to us, after learning that we were taking foster classes, my Ps also began foster classes. After a year, we conceived. My Ps were the first to know. A few weeks later, my Ps accepted two high needs foster children under 7. 

I have actively tried to make the FC feel welcomed but this process has been very difficult. The FC require several appointments a week, specialized school, school, and lots of assistance with ADLs. They also have behavioral problems. My Ps seem overwhelmed providing care to the FC. D is frequently stressed out and angry. I know these traits are related to parenting. I enjoyed my relationship with D as an adult because these traits faded and we became very close. Now these traits are back and it’s very uncomfortable. My siblings make comments about D’s stress. 

M is distracted and inattentive. M is very emotional about the FCs and the process. M dumps these feelings on me. I want to be supportive but I decided not to become a F parent because I didn’t feel ready and now the emotions are imposed on me. I have tried to establish boundaries but my wishes are ignored. With therapy, M is an emotional wreck. 

Both Ps are exhausted and don’t seem to have an agreed parenting approach. Frequently one will undermine how the other chooses to handle a situation. It is uncomfortable to watch this conflict unfold. 

Now, FC may not be reunified with their bio Ps. My Ps want to adopt them. We will find out if this is going to happen at around the same time my child is due. For years, my Ps repeatedly brought up how much they wanted to be part of my future C’s life. I started looking at homes in my Ps’ neighborhood, in part, because they wanted to help with day &amp; afterschool care, have random family dinners, and be close to my C. My siblings received so much help from my Ps with their C, and I saw the bond my Ps created with my nieces and nephews during this solo grandP time. I was looking forward to my C having a really close relationship with my Ps. 

Now when my Ps bring up spending time with my C, I do not feel comfortable with the idea of leaving my C in Ps’ care. I am worried about my C’s safety because my Ps are constantly distracted and exhausted. I worry about them missing a pickup or providing sufficient care because they are mentally and physically drained. I don’t want my C to know their grandPs as the stressed, angry and sad individuals they have become. I want my C to have a relationship with the amazing grandPs that my nieces and nephews once knew. 

I am worried about my C’s safety because the FC have a history of aggression. The FC are constantly testing boundaries and one is outright cruel. One FC enjoys seeing others in pain. For example, FC held the other FC’s head underwater during a bath. 

I am worried about the FC. Simply, my Ps don’t have the greatest medical history. I don’t know what level of care my Ps can provide to FC in the future. 

I am worried about my relationship with Ps. I don’t want to hurt my Ps. I am afraid of the inevitable day I have to tell them that I am uncomfortable with them providing solo care for my C, there will be no sleepovers at their house, and that we’re not moving.

not wanting my parents to adopt