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Input: First time poster,  long time lurker,  mobile user,  blah blah blah. Probably a little bit long,  so tl;dr at bottom. 


So to get the ball rolling,  some background.  My partner is 17, and I am 18. I have already graduated year 12 last year when we weren't dating.  

My partner (We'll call her Bree) is deciding to go to her year 12 ball with one of her class mates.  She used to have a thing for this guy, they would send each other nudes etc.  They were doing these things before she and I started dating nearly a year ago. 

Being her boyfriend,  I would love to go.  However, the school policy states that no one outside of the school or in any other grade is allowed to go.  Only the year 12 cohort for that year.  This upsets me because, well,  that's my girlfriend.  I don't want another guy hanging off her.  I know he will,  too.

Then there's the after party side of things. She wants to go to this big after party,  but told me straight up "You're not coming". I told her I was actually planning on picking her up from the ball and bringing her home,  where I was going to have a surprise party organised to welcome her into the adult world and say goodbye to school. 

She said she'd rather just go to this big after-party where I know from last year she'll make mistakes. Everyone who went to the one last year ended up ruining their relationships by cheating on each other in that one drunken night. 

I'm not telling her she can't go,  I just would rather she goes to this ball with one of her close female friends rather than a guy, and that she come celebrate at my place. 

Am I the asshole,  reddit? 


Tl;dr, girlfriend doesn't really want me around on her ball night and would rather go be with drunk peoples

being upset at my girlfriend over her school ball and after party