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Input: I've been friends with this guy, call him Harry, for a few years now. 
Over the years, me and all my friends began seeing his *unknowing inconsiderateness, his inefficiency, and unreliability.* However, he was still somehow a pleasure (or just fun/funny) to be around, and (I'm sure) had good intentions for all of us. And we all truly loved and cared for him as we did our other friends. Harry quickly became a part of our friend group.

Fast forward a bit, and I noticed Harry started giving me special treatment as compared to everyone else. He would start up problems and arguments over silly things, or things I personally thought didn't matter. He would seek attention from me specifically, as if he had a middle school crush. And side note, I am also a dude.

It wasn't a huge problem back then, as it didn't get in the way of our friendship. But it started growing; happening more frequently, more BS involved, and more time wasted. Until over a year ago, **Harry actually confessed that he had feelings for me,** but was confused about it ("figuring himself out" phase, I suppose). This did catch me by surprise, and explained a lot to me. Now, I have absolutely nothing against homosexual people, and honestly find most fun to be around, so this didn't bother me, as I clearly didn't return the feeling, so the confession was just that—a confession.

But that's what I thought, I was hoping nothing would change cause I knew I wouldn't let it bother me. But the previous things Harry did that bothered me not only continued, but *amplified*, as (I'm sure) he became more insecure about it, and even told me he's not sure if telling me was the right thing to do (which I convinced him it was).

This went on for another year—Harry being especially inconsiderate, petty, and quick to anger with me. I couldn't help but feel it was his attempt to get closer and in a way "bond" more with me, so I tried addressing it, asking him directly if he still had feelings, to which he replied no. 
Now I'm not one to call out a claim without proof, but I'll just say that it did not sit right with me nor make sense to me.

And it continued for months and months again. **Repeating cycle --&gt; he does something frequently, I call him out and get angry, he reciprocates saying it's my fault as well, we come to a consensus, I hope he learns something, he does not, and goes back to the same way in a month or two.**

*Until today.*

I personally think about my friendship with Harry a lot, and personally I've found it detrimental to my mental health and growth as a person. But who am I to say that, which is why I'm posting here.

**Today's long story short:** 
did something small he frequently does, and that was enough to set me off and tell him that I'd had enough. 
I told him I did not want to be part of this "personal change" he claims to be going through (which I have not seen all the years I've known him), and continue to be a mental punching bag for him to do whatever he wants.

So, in a sense, *I lost a friend today.*

TLDR; Had a dude who always causes trouble for our friend group confess feelings to me, a dude. He gave me special treatment of illogical arguing and inconsiderateness that amplified after confession. Dropped him today after he pulled a little inconsiderate thing on me again today.



dropping a friend