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Input: The title makes it seem pretty one sided, but hear me out. TL;DR at the bottom

Me and a few friends (3 college-age guys) just moved into a new house this past summer, and it’s been great. The neighborhood is really nice, and it’s mostly families and older couples living here. We like to play live music with drums and amplified instruments, and we try to keep it reasonable; no music after 10, try to keep our voices down outside, etc.

We’ve gotten a couple (2) complaints from the neighbors about noise (the cops were called on one occasion) and so I’ve been very conscious lately of the level of noise we make.

Well last night we went out to get some food at around 11 PM. As we’re leaving, one of my roommates starts yelling and making noise, so my friends and I tell him to stop. He does, we get in the car and go get our food. When we get back, closer to midnight now, he starts yelling again and I tell him to stop.

Seemingly out of the blue, he gets super defensive about it, and claims that there shouldn’t be any issue, despite past complaints. “What are they going to do about it?” Was one of his arguments. I tried to explain that we should at least be courteous to the people who we have to live next to, but he blew me off and said that we always make a ton of noise in the backyard and nobody has ever said anything about it.

This sets me off because I have, on countless occasions, told everybody to quiet down because we were too loud. It hardly ever works, but the effort has to be made. I start yelling at him about it (we’re no longer outside) and he says that he doesn’t remember any time where I have said something about it. This is where I snapped and said “right, because you don’t listen to me. No one ever fucking listens to me.” He makes some remark about that being way out of left field.

At this point I realize that I’ve just completely invalidated my entire argument by letting out my own pent up emotions on the subject. I go outside and sit on my own while the rest of them watch Spongebob inside.

I’ve come to the conclusion that what I did was wrong and that I should probably apologize, but I also don’t want the original problem to get swept under the rug if I try to be the bigger man.

TL;DR: Roommate was making too much noise late at night, I snapped and yelled at him because I felt like I’d been ignored.

So, AITA?

snapping and yelling at my roommate