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Input: So work with this guy who I cannot stand. I have been stuck sitting in the cubicle next to hm for almost two years now. For context, we are both guys. I’m 28 and he is a few years younger. He is very annoying. He has this super smug personality and is constantly trying to prove to everyone how smart he is. He is constantly telling awkward jokes that only he thinks are funny. He doesn’t pick up on social cues and often makes people around him feel very uncomfortable with comments he makes. I just generally don’t really like him.

To keep things civil at work and because I am forced to sit next to him, I’ve always been somewhat kind to him, but not overly friendly. He is also the type that is so desperate for people to like him and makes many people in the office uncomfortable by trying to force them into a friendship with him.

Part of me feels bad for him because I know he is probably just insecure and lonely, but every time I try and give him a chance I am just reminded by how much he annoys me and how little I enjoy his company.

So last year on my birthday I come in to work and this kid had gone out and bought me a cake, a card, balloons, and a $50 gift card. It was way too much and I tried to give the gift card back but he wouldn’t accept it. I knew he was only giving it to me so he could later try and blackmail me into hanging out with him.

Sure enough he has been trying to convince me to hang out  after work like every week for a drink and I really don’t want to and I say no every time. It’s really awkward because he just won’t take the hint. He is relentless. 

Then he starts buying me lunch all the time. Like he asks me if I want to order food and I tell him I don’t want anything. Then he just orders me something anyway and leaves it on my desk. When I try to give him money for it he refuses. 

I just hate feeling like I owe this guy something when I don’t want any of this stuff he is giving to me, let alone his friendship.

So his birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and he literally came up to me yesterday and asked me to plan his birthday party. He told me he wants to go out after work with a bunch of co workers and he wants me to plan everything and get everyone together

I told him no. I said trust me you do not want to give me this responsibility, you will only be disappointed. 

He took this very poorly...like I thought he was almost going to start crying. Then I remembered all the stuff he did for me on my birthday and I am starting to wonder if I’m just being a dick. Am I the asshole?

refusing to plan someone's birthday party