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Input: Posting from a throwaway because I feel like a major asshole and my default account has vaguely identifying info. 

I work as an at-home caregiver, my job involves working one-on-one with a single client multiple days a week. She has other people who also work for her as well as friends and family that know how to assist her in the ways she needs as well. It is worth noting that she is completely disabled. She cannot do anything on her own (no use of legs or arms) without someone there to assist her. I met her through mutual friends at a funeral, one of her fill-in caregivers had passed away and the person who passed away had been my friend too. She needed help badly and my heart ached for her. We got in touch via social media and I asked her what days of the week she needed a caregiver, it just so happens that my availability matched her needs. 

My job is physically demanding and as much as I feel bad admitting - stressful - at times. I am beside my “boss” all day while I’m at work and although I really have enjoyed a lot of the time I have spent helping her and getting to know her, she can be pretty bossy (for lack of better words), in the “demanding” context of the word. My job is to help her with daily tasks and essentially live life, so she has to tell me what she needs or would like to do so I can do it for her or help her do it but she can be kind of mean about it which can be taxing. Between the physicality of the job and the mental aspects I can get worn out at times so I appreciate my days off to recoup. I have bonded with her quite a bit due to the personal nature of the job and oftentimes enjoy her company. I would go as far as to say she is a friend as well as my employer now. There’s been instances where her other caregivers have had appointments to be at and she has asked me to cover for them with notice and if I am able (which has been 100% of the time), I go work on my days off. 

This has been becoming a more common occurrence but with little-to-zero notice (I understand life happens) but I have found myself dreading her asking me to cover other caregivers shifts. The last two instances I have fibbed about having other goings-ons when she’s asked me to cover and I feel like an asshole. My heart goes out to her so much but I also have a child in kindergarten and household responsibilities I tend to and have just wanted my days off to be exactly that... my days off. I don’t want to make her life harder by not agreeing to go in to work. I feel like she knows I’m just the “easy” person to ask because I have a hard time saying no while these other people don’t. But then again, maybe I’m wrong feeling that way. I also suspect the other caregivers are seeing that I will cover their shifts and are taking more time off and rendering themselves unavailable in return. 

Am I the asshole? If so, how can I better handle the situation? I work with her one on one every day so it is a bit different than barely ever seeing your boss. 


lying to avoid covering shifts on my days off? the person I care for at work is completely disabled