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Input: A couple of years ago I became part of a preexisting friend group of around 10 mixed men and women, They'd all already been friends for years at this point, So they had multiple inside jokes already when I was first starting to get to know them.
One of their inside jokes was that a particular friend, Lets call her Jane, is a racist, I actually don't know where this came from, But I can tell you with 100% certainly that Jane isn't racist, which is what makes the joke, you know funny. 
Now I want to make it clear when we say these jokes I wouldn't say we actually say racist things, There's definitely zero slurs of any kind, it's more ribbing Jane based on things she does, Like if we were playing chess and she chose to play white, We all be like "Of course you picked white Jane, There's nothing wrong with the black pieces!" 
It's all really tame stuff like that and always in private.
Jane dislikes it no more than every one else dislikes their own inside joke (Mine is that I sleep with prostitutes) In our friends group if you're nice to someone it means you don't like them much.
A while ago we got a new girl in the Group, Kitty, who is far more SJW/Pc than the rest of us, and while she can be fun to hang out with, she can also be exhausting at times.
So recently Kitty has developed a problem with these jokes and wants the rest of us to stop saying them, a few of the group are worried if they keep saying them Kitty will brand them as a genuine racist, But a me and a couple others are unwilling to stop something harmless over one person developing a problem with it, as when Kitty first started hanging out with us, these jokes were just as rife as they are now if not more. 

So are we the assholes if we keep the joke going? 

joking that our friend is racist