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Input: So, backstory first: This was my (28M) first truly abusive relationship. She was manipulative, bi-polar, a liar, and I have reasonable proof that she was attempting to sleep with other guys while I was living with her, and at the least emotionally cheating by talking terribly about me to these men and how she needed a man to “put her in line” which I confronted her about because she’s a grown woman and I’m not her goddamn father.   

Anyways, on to the debt. During this time, I moved back to Austin, Texas without a car. I was in the northern part, and I’m a bartender by trade, so I knew I could find something in my area. I found a job that was decently south, maybe 8 miles by freeway, but of course I didn’t have a vehicle so I didn’t want to take her. She is like “well, let’s just work it around our schedules and we’ll give each other rides”. So that’s what we do, she works mornings, I work nights, and during the day I was using her car to do Postmates delivery to make extra cash. I offered to pay for gas and give her a flat % of the pay but she was like “nah babe it’s your money just pay the gas it’s fine.” Also, need to add that I was doing postmates on her account because I didn’t have a car, so the money went into her account and I could track it and ask for her debit card and get it out when needed. 

Ok cool. Well, at night she would have to pick me up from my second job at 11pm. So I’m working basically 10am-4pm, pick her up, she drops me off, work 5-11pm, get picked up, rinse and repeat 5-6 days a week. She’s working max 35 hours a week, I’m working closer to 60-70. She would consistently fall asleep when she had to pick me up and leave me stranded at work where I had to call an Uber. It was normally $15-20 every time she forgot. This happened several times a week. She told me to just put it on her paypal credit and pay it off as time went on, and I was gonna use the postmates money to do that.  

Then, she lost her job, and had rent and health and car insurance. Suddenly, all that postmates money was disappearing. Wasn’t consulting me about it, just using it on her own bills even though I earned it and was filling her gas and buying dinner etc. I was constantly anxious and miserable, and her bi-polar attitude led me to move out and break up. 

Now, afterwards she wanted me to pay back the $700 credit bill. I felt bad, but at the same time she easily took over $1500 or more of that postmates money for herself for bills when she was broke. I paid $50 for 2 months before my best friend talked to me and told me I was still being emotionally manipulated and it’s not my problem. I still feel like it is, but I understand where he’s coming from. Either way, I cut all contact with her because after I didn’t pay her one month she went ballistic and tried guilting me and saying “I make way more money than her and it’s you’re responsibility.” Even though it was her laziness that led to the paypal bill. Oh I’m sorry you can’t work 6 hours without going home and sleeping most of the day. I blocked her and haven’t paid her a penny in 3 months but i know she’s going to be struggling with the bills.    

Sorry for the long story, I hope I explained it coherently. AITA for leaving her high and dry, even if she took advantage of my trust in our finances? I feel like that $1500+ easily takes care of the bill she has currently and she’d of been evicted and lost her car without me working 70 hours a week for us. 

not helping my ex pay back our paypal credit debt