Definition: In this task, you are given a Reddit post as a text. Your task is to generate a title for this text. The title should start with "TIFU by", followed by a situation that caused humor. The title should contain 7-12 words, ideally.
Input: Text: this actually happened a few weeks ago, but i found out the truth about him last night...

i work at a safe house for victims of domestic violence.  it's a women- and children-only shelter and it's a transitional 60-day program.  i also monitor the domestic violence hotline while working my shifts, and i received a call last month from a man calling from the local er with a fractured shoulder looking for a safe place to stay.

he told me that his wife had pushed him down the stairs after threatening him repeatedly, and that the abuse was on-going but he was ready to leave her.  i did an intake with him over the phone, and called my supervisor to get permission to put him up in a hotel for the night, which she gave.

i picked him up from the er and drove him across town to the hotel.  he was a very positive guy, late-50's and an ex-youth pastor who had worked with americorps and other organizations.  he told me that the police had not been very kind to him, asking why he hadn't defended himself, and he said because he would never hit his wife.  i felt for him because this is a common attitude that male dv victims face, and i told him that he had done the right thing and assured him that we would help him reach a safe place.  he was a pretty small guy, and came off as quiet and honest, and i felt genuinely bad for him.

the next day, i picked him up from the hotel and took him to his town's police station so that he could get a police escort to collect his things from his house (standard procedure).  the police had us wait almost a half hour before speaking with us even though it was a sunday morning and we were the only ones in the station (small town).  when the two cops finally did come out, they asked what the situation was, and i explained it.  they looked at each other, and then one asked the man if there was a restraining order against him.  i thought that this was a display of the pervasive and dangerous attitude that men can't be victims, and told them that *he* had been assaulted, he hadn't been the abuser.

i knew one of the cops, so we chatted for a couple minutes about hometown stuff, then they took the man in the squad car and left, and i went back to finish my shift at the shelter.

the man ended up staying in the hotel for three nights before being able to contact family in ohio and deciding to drive down there to stay with them.  he called the hotline again to thank me for all of my help, and expressed genuine gratitude for the concern and caring that i showed him.  my agency paid for the hotel stay and gave him money to get out of state, all based on my reports and logs of the event.

last night, while talking with my supervisor, she told me that he had actually been abusing his wife for over three years, and she had pushed him down the stairs in self-defense.  the police had left a message with another department of our agency outlining the entire situation and the wife's statement, letting us know that she might call for sheltering or support services.  the information was never relayed to any of the shelter staff, and i fell for all of his bullshit.

i cost my agency over $300 (which is a lot for a non-profit), and helped a violent and manipulative man leave the state and escape any sort of investigation into his abuse.  my conscience is seething- i'm angry at myself and at him, and i'm so sad for his wife.  i feel bad for distrusting the police officers (especially ones that i know, and that i *know* are good people).  i feel bad for wasting resources that should be going to helping victims cover medical fees, getting them winter clothing, making sure that the children we shelter have appropriate food and diapers and toys.

i'm not in any trouble, and my supervisor said that everything that i did was right in line because i didn't know, but even still i feel so played.  residents are always trying to manipulate the counselors, for cigarettes or extra food or to convince us they're not smoking pot when they're out, and i'm used to having my bullshit filter up full-strength while at work.  but for some reason i let it down completely with this man and didn't question anything that he said to me.  water under the bridge, but fuck it still doesn't feel very good.


 

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**edit:**  yes, there is proof that the wife was, in fact, the victim.  i don't work closely enough with law enforcement to be privy to their records, but i do trust my supervisor enough that she wouldn't tell me without being totally sure.  if there were any questions about the wife's story, i would have heard.  there had been previous police involvement on her part before, is all i really know about it, but i don't need to know anymore.

TIFU by helping a violent man leave the state