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Input: So I had 7 bridesmaids. One of them was my cousin. 

My cousin just had a baby this past December. My cousin has always been kind of lazy and a flake, but now with her new baby it’s even worse. She is saying that she feels depressed, sleep deprived, and fat. I’m thinking she could potentially have post partum depression, but this is just a hunch. No official diagnosis has been made. 

In November, I start asking everyone’s schedules so that I can get appointments made for picking out bridesmaid dresses. I made two appointments in February because getting all 7 to come on one day was going to be too much. My cousin picked the appointment later in the month because she wanted the extra time to lose weight after having the baby. No problem. 

In January I sent out reminders to everyone about their appointments. I got a response from everyone except my cousin. I sent 2 more reminders to my cousin with no response. But the messages I sent did show as read so I know that she saw them. 

A few days before her appointment she asks if she can reschedule, but doesn’t give any sort of reason why. I tell her no, because I made 2 appointment times for everyone to pick from and I had made them months in advance. She said ok and that she would make it to the appointment. My aunt (her mom) said that she was wanting to reschedule because she hadn’t lost enough baby weight and she wasn’t happy with how she looked. 

Well today was the appointment day and the other bridesmaids who were scheduled showed up, but my cousin did not. My cousin didn’t message me or call or anything. Then I get a call from her after the appointment is over saying that she’s so sorry that she just woke up and that she has been really sleep deprived because of the baby. The appointment was at 1:30 in the afternoon. She was asking me if she could reschedule. I told her she can, but I won’t be going with her to whatever new appointment she makes as I’ve already done my part by making the original appointments. 

I’m nosy and so I checked her Facebook to see if my cousin  had been posting anything prior to the appointment time. Yep. She posted a status a half hour before the appointment time. So she definitely did not “oversleep”.

Then her mom (my aunt) calls me and says my cousin couldn’t come because she didn’t have the money to buy a dress and that she would be lending her the money to buy a dress and making sure that she showed up to her new appointment. Whatever. 

At this point, I was so fed up that I told her not to worry about it. I don’t want someone to be in my wedding because their mom is forcing them. I feel like it’s like pulling teeth to get her to do anything she supposed to do. If being in my wedding was important to her, wouldn’t she have found a way to make it to the appointment? I really don’t understand why I am being ignored and lied to. Or am I not being understanding enough? I don’t have any kids and so I’ve never had post partum depression. 

AITA? 


kicking my cousin who may or may not have post-partum depression out of my wedding party