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Input: This happened yesterday and I wanted to see if I was being a jerk.

Context/Background:

* My wife and I have been married for a few years
* She was previously engaged for several months but then her fiance called off the wedding, so she was never married to him
* She had an engagement ring and they were in the middle of planning and had already put down some deposits on venues before he called it off (just to give an idea of how far along they were in the process)
* Last bit of context. After we got married, she had some skin issues and couldn't wear her rings for a bit. Now she is able to wear her engagement ring that we bought together. However, not her wedding band.

With that out of the way. We are in the midst of moving and as part of that she came across her old engagement ring and wedding band from her previous fiance. She kept them, and her plan was to give the engagement ring to her daughter once she is 16yr old, so she was showing it to her.

The wedding band was also there and she said/asked: 
"Oh, this is convenient. I haven't been able to wear my other band for a while now, would you be ok if I just wore this one instead?"

I was very taken aback by the question. It seemed like a weird question to ask if she could wear the wedding band that she was going to wear for her prior relationship vs ours. She could see the look on my face, so she back-tracked a bit and said: "...orrrr maybe not".

I said something along the lines of, "no, I wouldn't be comfortable with that and honestly, I can't believe you would even ask a question like that? What makes you think it would be ok? It was a really weird question to ask frankly"

So yea, we had a fight about it. He point of view was:

* She had never worn the ring at all, and hadn't even looked at it. It came with the engagement ring (a buy one get one free) and she doesn't place any emotional significance in the band. The engagement ring she does cause she did wear it. She said I was placing the emotional significance on it vs her. The ring is a complete non-item to her hence she was ok with wearing it now.
* I tried to make the point that it was hard for me to separate the band from the previous relationship and the fact that it is called a "wedding band" not like, "random trinket with no emotional significance". Also, because I was so upset, I said, "the question felt like you coming to be and saying, hey, is it ok if I sleep with someone else". A bit of hyperbole on my part, but like I said, I felt upset and kind of betrayed.

We ultimately agreed that we will go buy her another band together. But she was still not getting that it was a weird question to ask. I know that I overreacted a bit with the whole, "it was like you were asking me to sleep with someone" but at the same time isn't it a weird question to ask? 

So that's my question, WITA for getting upset by her question to wear the previous wedding band?

getting upset at my wife's question