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Input: It's been 6 months since this incident. And it still effects me a lot. I wrote this on my phone and didnt proof read it. Hopefully it's legible. Props to anyone with the patience or anyone who took the time to read and try to u derstand my ramblings.

Okay, so making a title for this was hard. But I need to give a lot of background information so everything is clear. 

Aug of 2017 my dad died in a car accident. Sept of 2017 I got married to my wife, we had been together for over 10 years. No kids. Oct of 2017 my wife shares with me that she is pregnant. Feb 2018 I find out I have thyroid cancerand I quit my job. Mar 2018 I get surgery to have my thyroid removed. Apr 2018 I take radiation to make sure cancer is gone. May my daughter is born a month early. I am still off thyroid medicine at this point so my body is no where near operating normally. Extream bouts of depression and anxiety are common. My daughter is in nicu for 3 weeks before coming home. She had a bleed above her skull which they assumed was the reason my daughter had been stopping breathing over the last few weeks. Every day we visited our daughter and watched her stop breathing and need to be stimulated to breathe multiple times a day. Daughter finally comes home, and 1 month later my wife has to return to work dispite my protest of being uncomftorable being left alone with our daughter. Even though she hadn't had any issues since coming home. I've always been uncomfortable around babies that cant support themselves. To which i expressed to everyone many months in advance. I would need a lot of support and understanding until my daughter could support her own head. Everyone apparently thought i would just be fine when the time came. I wasn't. But I wanted to be. So while my wife went back to work my mother in law would help watch our daughter. Not going to lie she took care of our daughter alone basically 8 hours a day for a few weeks mi us the 2 days a week my wife had off. My medicine is still not even close to being right at this point. Still depressed and emotional. So finally my daughter starts getting better head control and I want to start helping more. I was tired of feeling guilty over not helping my mother in law take care of our daughter while my wife worked. When my wife was home I would prep bottles grab everything and generally do everything that didnt require me to do something that could some way hurt our daughter (thats how i thought about it at the time). So the day before our daughter was to go to my mother in laws my brother in law gets kidney problems. Hes like 23 and wants his mom to be there for him when he wakes up from minor surgery to help with kidney stones. Litterally giving me and my wife a few hours notice. Mother in law says she can still watch my daughter with me and be there for her son. I am extreamly uncomftorable with my daughter at this point because I don't want to hurt her or for her to stop breathing or something to just generally go wrong and I not know what to do. So I go to the hospital with my mother in law and she abandons me in the lobby for 3 hours alone with my daughter. Who i have almost zero hands on experiance with. I was promised this situation would not have happened. The hospitals ac is broken at least where i was left. My daughter is so little and helpless at this point and she starts crying to which i do my best to comfort her. Passerbys eventually start stopping to try and help me qith my baby obviously noticing me steuggling to comfort my daughter. Eventually a delivery nurse stops and helps me. She is concerned my daughter is over heating. Oh meanwhile my mother in law says she'll be right there at any moment when she does show up its almost 2 hours after i asked for help. Anyways as the nurse stripps my daughter down my mother in law finally shows up and we leave. My daughter was just feeling really unwell this day. Probably the worst day i could have been abandoned alone with her. Anyways my brother in law gets in the car and immediately starts calling me names. Saying how useless i am and how I have ruined his sisters life. Mind you I have known him since he was 12 years old. We have always got along and as he got older i would have considered him to be one of my better friends. Its widely known he has anger issues and is extreamly narcissistic. And he has snapped on all of his family and friends before but never me. So he is litterally screaming at me while my 2 month old daughter is screaming in agony while I basically in a mostly calm voice either agree that i am a piece of shit for not being able to take care of my daughter alone or just telling him to stop yelling and to shut up. We finally get home and i  tell him he is dead to me. I'll never talk to him again. Oh my wife has 5 siblings and i got along really well with her 4 brothers before this. I consider them family. I've known all of them as long as me and their sister had been together which is more than half their lives at this point. Even as I type this many months later I am still incredibly upset by this whole situation.  My daughter only went everyday to my mother in laws for another week before i took over completely. It took about another month to get my thyroid medicone right but once my daughter could support her own head i didnt really have an issue watching and taking care of her. My main issue was an irrational fear something would go wrong and i would be alone to deal with the situation. 


So 6 months later and everything is perfect with my daughter I am still a stay at home dad to my 8 month old baby girl. Other than my wife and a maybe 1 to 2 days a month its just been me taking care of her everyday. Almost everyone on my wifes side stopped talking to me or at the very least no longer want to talk or hang out. Feel like i lost more than friends but a large part of my family.  I didn't go to thanksgiving or visit for Christmas. I haven't spoken to the brother in law that freaked out on me since that day but he is constantly bad mouthing me to everyone. Even though for the last 6 months I've taken really good care of my daughter. 

So the question is am I the ass hole for trying to depend on my family to help take care of my daughter for the first 2 months until i was comfortable watching her on my own?

asking for help from my mother in law when I was scared to take care of my daughter alone