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Input: I may be the asshole here..

So basically - I just got engaged. We dated through middle school, high, school, college, and new adulthood so it has been awhile. His dad has a fatal illness. I am in graduate school and work full-time. His family is pressuring us to get married sooner rather than later for obvious reasons. I have no idea how I am going to be able to keep going to school if I have to plan a wedding while also working full-time (I have my own serious health issues that make things more difficult, but I keep those to myself and it's not common knowledge but it's been about 12 years with the disease, so I really don't have extra energy after work and school). Other than my family and a few close friends, nobody really knows and I prefer it that way.  I also have absolutely no idea where this money is coming from to plan a wedding, because we don't have it. 

Right now, the plan is to have a wedding in about a year. I have always wanted a longer engagement (2-5 years). I would much prefer to have a wedding after school is done (about 2-3 years). I haven't pushed to change the plan yet but I am EXTREMELY overwhelmed and worry I will either need to quit grad school, or postpone the wedding and I think it is most appropriate to postpone the wedding. I don't even want to get married that quickly, and think it's a little rushed. 

I've asked my parents and they are also pushing for the wedding to be sooner so fiance's dad can be there but I cannot imagine what kind of basket case I will be in a year because school isn't going to get easier. At this point, it's already distracting me and I'm falling behind in classes. 

In summary, I would prefer to postpone the wedding until after grad school. Am I the asshole? I kind of think so. I am feeling like I should just shut up and plan the damn thing to get it over with with a pretty smile on my face the whole time instead. Input appreciated!

wanting to postpone a wedding for 2-3 years despite a fatal illness in the finace's family