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Input: Hi guys,

I just want to know if I am an ashole. Momentarily I live in another country then I was born in...I have lived in this country for 8 years. For 6.5 of those years I was not able to work or even save. Since a year ago I got a new resident permit to work legally. finally I can work save etc. A few months ago I reconnected with a childhood friend and things turned romantic. When I first connected with him he told me he would be traveling to the country I live to come visit. 

Things turned serious and we started liking each other. That we began making plans for him to move to this country and I would be helping him with a permanent resident permit. 
But I told him let's meet when he comes to visit to look if it can work. For some reason or another his Visa process was delayed. And he still has not come to visit.

In the first months when we started speaking he started to ask for money...he was so amandment that if I care for him I should be helping him. I caved and send him a small sum. I left it at that. After a few days he started to demand that I should also pay for his ticket and buy him some clothes(namebrand) because it would be cold. He also insisted I buy him some name brand sneakers. I told him that even I don't wear name brand so I will not be buying it for him. 

Now we got into a huge argument and I really want to know am I an ashole for refusing to pay his traveling expenses. I don't make that much money because I don't work full-time..I am studying to become a nurse while working in my field. I don't mind contributing but I want to do that on my own Merritt.

I make just enough to pay bills and buy groceries and maybe once a month to eat something with friends. What I have left which is not much I save up for a rainy day.

Am I an ashole by not buying him clothes sending him money or even buying his ticket?

He also said that other women have offered to pay his expenses but he choose me so I should do it.  He said if I love him I would do it because that what relationships are about.

* I had promised to give him 200 euro for a ticket when he was going on that I must help him because I care ..but after a few days he said it should be 350. I told him that was not the agreed. Now he says I am lying that I said 350. I would never have said that.



not paying for a ticket for my long distance relationship