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One year ago, during the spring semester of my freshman year at college, I started dating my first girlfriend, and my roommate, being a good friend, would leave the room 3-5 times a week for several hours late at night so that we could spend time in there. However, I never explicitly told him to leave in a hostile way, and I always made it clear that he wouldn’t have to leave if he didn’t want to. She would also spend the night maybe 1-2 times a week, but I also would ask him if it was OK each time and made sure I had the green light. For about the first month or so, we did abuse the room usage. A couple times he stayed outside the room until past midnight. After this, he expressed annoyance at me, and eventually I realized I was being an asshole. Even though I never explicitly told him he couldn’t come back in, I was taking advantage of his kindness by asking for extreme hours of having the room to myself.

Over the summer, we talked about the situation and I apologized, and said that I would try to be a better roommate. The next semester (fall) we were once again sharing a room, and this time I tried to hang out at my girlfriend’s place more. My girlfriend and I usually study together almost every day.  Although there is a living room, I prefer studying in my room because I have a desk setup with a monitor, and there are usually people in the living room watching TV or talking. We were in my room 3 times or less a week and spent the other days at her place or on campus, and I never commanded him to leave the room, but I did ask about 4 times over the course of the semester when I knew he didn't have anything important to do. A couple of these times were late at night but did not alter his sleeping schedule since he sleeps very late. I tried to schedule sex around his schedule, but he rarely leaves the room, and only attended one of his classes, which my girlfriend was also taking. He was generally in the room 24/7 (except to make a quick food run), but he would leave the room 2x a week for a couple hours or less when we studied in there, even though I never asked him to. 

From his point of view, he said that he feels a societal pressure, and that we wanted him to leave the room when we were just there studying. I always tried to make it clear that he didn’t have to leave, ever, if he didn’t want to, and told him this many times.  Also, my girlfriend and I are very quiet, and spend most of the time in the room studying. She would sit on my bed and study and I would sit at my desk. We didn’t talk loudly or laugh loudly. However, my roommate was still extremely frustrated that he had to deal with me and my girlfriend. He always said that us being in the room made him leave and complained that we “locked him out” to me and our friends. He said he feels like a dog being let in and out of his room.

Fast forward to this semester, because of his increasing frustration, I tried to have my girlfriend in the room even less. Since the start of the semester, we haven’t been in the same room as him more than 30 minutes (such as right before or after we go to an event), and I only have sex with her when he leaves the apartment. There were 3 times he came back to the room while we were having sex and knocked on the door. At this point I really don’t want him to be annoyed so as soon as he knocks my girlfriend and I put on our clothes, no matter where we are, and rush out of the room to not bother him. This would take 2-5 minutes tops, but each time this happened I could tell he was really angry. I should have given him a warning that we were using the room, but I didn’t want to make him feel like he was locked out of the room, and I made sure to leave immediately each time he came back. The last time we did this, last weekend, was when some of our friends came over. My roommate and about five of our friends were playing smash (a video game), and my girlfriend and I were kind of just sitting there not playing. We went into the room and it eventually led to sex. Later, as our friends are leaving, he says that he is very annoyed at me. 

Yes, I admit having sex while our friends were over was a really cringy thing to do, and I wouldn’t do it again. However, my roommate is super angry at me. He called me selfish and ungrateful for what he has done for me and tells me that I’m an asshole. He also said that if I asked anyone else that they’d tell me I was an asshole. Honestly, I’m not sure what other people would think since I haven’t explained the whole situation that much to others. I know I was an asshole in the beginning of the relationship but since then I’ve tried to be with my girlfriend around him less and less, so I don’t really feel like an asshole at the moment. So reddit, AITA?

TL;DR

I got a girlfriend and we used to spend a lot of time in the room, but now we spend almost no time in the room when he’s there, and he still thinks I’m an asshole. 

spending time with my girlfriend in the room with a shared roommate