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Input: i was college roommates with my best friend of 10 years. her parents bought a townhouse where her and i lived. there was no official lease but i paid rent monthly.

my roommate knew i loved and wanted a cat but i never bothered pursuing it. one day she tells me she’s scheduled a day to adopt a cat. i was taken aback because she said it like it was a set decision made before consulting me. i even asked her if i was allowed to come along. she then said yes and that she wanted the cat to be OUR cat, but she was planning to not tell her parents because she was pretty sure they wouldn’t allow it.

when we go to pick out a cat it becomes obvious to me that although she said it’d be our cat (meaning i help pay for it) she wasn’t willing to compromise or take my input into consideration. we ended up not picking a cat that day because of this so i thought it was just TBD.

about a week later she tells me she went back to SIGN PAPERS to officially adopt the cat she wanted WITHOUT consulting me. she then said that she realized she really didn’t have the money or time for a cat and didn’t wanna go against her parents in the end so she didn’t go through with it. i understood but i viewed this as an open door to bring up me getting a cat because i did have the money and time (i’d been researching getting a prescription for an ESA well before this as i was dealing with some mental health issues) i asked her if she thought that if i spoke to her parents about getting one they’d be receptive.

she said “i don’t know, that’s between you and them and i think you should approach that on a landlord/tenant basis.”

i said “oh okay, i’ve been researching getting an ESA and they’re legally granted housing so technically as landlords they couldn’t keep me from having one.”

i regret this now as i see how it could have come off harsh (not at all how i meant it). even if i approached getting the cat through an ESA i would have still made sure they were okay with it and if they weren’t then i wouldn’t have gotten one.

after that convo she gave me the silent treatment and after weeks of being confused and not being able to take the silence i text her asking if she’s upset with me.

she said “tbh i was just really disappointed and hurt with the decision you made regarding the cat situation knowing that it would cause a rift with my parents and with me”

i saw the whole thing as a miscommunication so i asked her if we could talk about it the next day. we never got to that as the next morning her mom called mine saying they “sold the townhouse” and i need to be out in the next 2 months. everyone i know agreed that this was probably a lie to just kick me out. although i had no family, car or money at the time (which she knew) i moved out within two weeks and she treated me like shit the whole time. this was a year ago and we haven’t talked since.

i want to know cause i’m still confused to this day, was i the asshole?

telling my roommate I planned to get a cat