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So Im having a major inner conflict in recent days. Ill try to explain everything as best I can.

In my country, there is an oppertunity for young people to go to other countries to work and travel. You can avail of this oppertunity once. Since I was very young, I have dreamed of taking this trip. Its a true once in a lifetime journey. For 7 years now I have worked as much as I can, so that I can afford flights and accommodation, and ensure I am not left lacking when abroad. 

I have known some guys for a few years now and they are really great. We have become a really close group of friends. However, when I mentioned that I plan on going on this trip, they all invited themselves to go with me, to the same place. I will admit, Im kind of a mild guy, so I said yeah ok, even though I really did not want this.

Going with my friends will restrict a lot of things I do. I planned on doing things myself, at my own pace. One guy is quite demanding in that if he wants something, we all have to stop and do what he wants. Another guy, is constantly asking for money, which I find hard to outright say no to. Due to my savings, I was planning on taking a few trips that would cost a bit, and dont want to give out handfuls of money I know I wont get back.

I was really using this holiday as some me-time. Really enjoy myself and do what I want, and dragging these others around with me will really restrict that. Also, it sounds like Im bitching about my friends here. Theyre not bad, its just 2 factors that are putting me off.

Im thinking of just organising my holiday and not telling them deadlines to apply or anything. Would I be the asshole if I did this?

TL;DR: My friends invited themselves to my once in a lifetime holiday. I want to organise my own thing and keep them out of the loop. WIBTA?

going on a holiday without telling my friends