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Input: So me (27F) and my (37M) boyfriend talking on the phone about what we want to do for New Year's Eve, I was saying that I miss having house parties and asked why no one ever seems to have parties anymore and he said it was because I'm getting old.
So that made fell shit as I'm quiet self conscious about hitting my late 20s and he knows it. Also he's 10 years older than me so who's the old here really!?
Anyway I list off some NYE events that I was interesting in going to (we live in a big city, so there's a lot of stuff going on) to each one I suggest he says no to. So I ask what he would like to do (bear in mind that we both like going out and dancing) and he suggests this club/bar with a live funk/soul band playing.
Sounds ok huh, but thing is this band play every week at the same bar club and he goes and sees them every other week with his friend (I'll call) Jim. An I go along maybe every couple of months and have a nice time. Buttttt I don't want to go there for New Year's Eve! I can go to that exact night every Thursday if I wanted! I want to do something different for NYE!
So I kind of ummm and errrr about that suggestion, and he says his friend Jim is going there. Now I get on fine with Jim but he's not my friend and also he doesn't dance! It's really difficult to dance when a member of your party wants to stay sat down the whole evening. It just makes you feel awkward, so I would have to sit at the table bobbing my head watching everyone else dance and have a good time.
My BF doesn't get the lack of enthusiasm in my voice but goes on to suggest this disco event at a pub, which sounds fun! I say I think that sounds like a good idea. So he suggests we go to the first place with Jim until he goes home then we go to this other event afterwards.
I kind of a agree because I don't like bring disagreeable.
After the conversation ends though I get kinda annoyed at his reaction. He goes to this exact same night with his friend Jim every other week, and I want to do something different because it's New Year's Eve! It happens once a year c'mon. I'm his girl friend, do I not mean anything? We didn't have Xmas together or anything..
I would understand if he didn't see this friend often or he hadn't been to this bar much. Or if it was a large group of people, but I find I feel like a third wheel when I go out with just him and Jim!
So i told him today that I'm going to do my own thing tonight until he's finished with Jim, and he was just like 'that's ok, go ahead'. I was hoping he might acknowledge that I was little upset with the arrangements but he doesn't care because he got what he wanted.
So am I the asshole??




getting upset that my boyfriend wants to spend NYE with his friend instead of me