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Input: I'm currently a first year at uni, and live in university accommodation with 5 others. Whilst everyone in my flat is definitely less close with each other than what I've seen with other people's flats, we all get on well and have no issues with each other at all.

Upon meeting my flatmate (Let's call her A) she was pretty outgoing and super nice, especially when I was ill after freshers she'd always offer some sort of medicine when she saw me in the kitchen.

A short while after introducing A to friends of mine from high school, she quickly dumped her bf from home and started dating my friend from school, who we'll call B

This is where I saw issues with some of A's behaviour:

-A had essentially sealed herself off with B's friend group, making no attempt to make any friends at university or join societies/sports clubs,  and A's friendship with the group rested on her continuing to date B

-A actively made an effort to not make friends even with people from our housing block. This included deleting friend requests on FB from people who had met her from the block, ignoring people on the staircase (which had offended  people from the flat across), and when me and some others had plans for a floor dinner to give everyone a chance to meet people from the other flats, she would lie about having too much uni work and instead have B over in our flat.

It was clear that if A and B were to break up, she'd be left in almost total social isolation (she is friends with another girl from my flat), which is exactly what happened.

A now often complains that she has no friends at uni, but l think it's her own fault. I sat down with her to show her all the sports clubs on offer during first term, and had encouraged her to try and make more friends and go out of her comfort zone, she would agree but there was no actual effort there. She locked herself in with B and is now paying the price for it. 

A had also lied to me both about the breakup and other smaller things, which made me lose the little sympathy I had left.

This being said, I know for a fact that she has problems that she's been dealing with, but I don't think it justifies her lack of effort towards expanding her social circle. I see a lot of what I was like in early highschool, but I actually made effort to change and I'm in a better place because of it.

Long story short, I've got no sympathy for someone who makes no effort to change their situation.





having no sympathy for my flatmate's social situation