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I'm going to school in a large city on the  coast of the US, I switched colleges from a cheap to more expensive school, thinking it would be better for my major. The rent is 2-3 times higher here so I can't rent like I did at my previous school without pulling out a bunch of private student loans; I'm already 50K in debt and want to avoid privates as much as possible.

I moved in with my aunt and uncle who I'm on good terms with, or so I thought, and they let me sleep on the air mattress in the gaming room on the top floor and eat their food, though I do try to buy myself meals as much as possible, but I will resort to sandwiches and oatmeal from their kitchen time to time. 

Last semester was the roughest I had so far (depression, suicide, breakdowns, feeling over worked, bad grades, breaking down in class..etc), I didn't talk to anybody and I keep to myself as much as possible, talking to my boss  and professors only (I work as a student office assisstant). I also try to stay out of my aunt and uncles way when it comes to their routine and daily life, I usually woke up when everybody was gone in the mornings and I came home from school when everybody was usually in bed. I took a shower went to bed, rinse and repeat the next day. On weekends I drive 1 hr to stay at my nuclear family's home, and usually I just stay in my room unless somebody needs something, or needs help. Then I drive back to school on a Monday, and thats my week. I also try to help my aunt and uncle out and offer myself when I can, ie pick up kids, wash dishes, do laundry, offer to buy some groceries when going out, etc...

I don't want to be involved in anybodys life really, just my friends and fiance, who I trust.

Recently I decided to travel to China to see my fiance of 2 years, he's from Eastern Europe and is working there, the last time I saw him was Jan. 2017. We knew each other for longer than we've been dating and just had our application for a fiance visa to the US accepted and I wanted to be sure we wouldhave no problem living together, and surprise! We live great together. The trip was over $1500 which is A LOT of money for a college student but I had a plan for money coming in.

I'm in the military with a GI bill in effect, I earn around $700 a month while enrolled from the bill, plus around $200 in pay each month just for being enlisted and working, as well as an additional \~$400/mth from my office job. I'm also going to annual training this winter, depsite missing school I'll be making around $1000. I had all this in mind when I planned the trip, its just a matter of waiting for it now. 

I didn't tell anybody about the trip because most of my family is old school, like 'China is communist and evil and you'll get robbed and this will happen and this and this....', my nuclear family also isn't crazy about my fiance, I also knew that'd I'd get criticized for spending that amount of money, though I told them that I would pay for this college semester as well so they didn't have to worry about it, they usually helped me with some payment in the past. 

I didn't tell my aunt until she asked if I was coming to the Xmas dinner with my parents and when I told her I wasnt because of the trip she seemed enthusiatic for me, I was kinda surprised actually. I didnt tell my parents until the day I was leaving, which just resulted in heartfelt goodbyes, and again surprised.

I went to China and had a great time with my fiance, I was trying to ignore and only do small talk with everybody who texted me from back home, including my aunt. I just didn't want to remember home, I just wanted to focus on me and my future husband having a good time. 

Today my sister sent me a screenshot from my moms phone who was recieving this text from my aunt (they're sisters):

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"U know since () set this whole thing up she says nothing really to anyone other that she is going. Little to no communication during her stay. No thank u during the holiday no little holiday gift to say thank you for letting me stay here. Now she's coming back and asking for favors? 

I'm a little pissed. Don't tell her how I feel I will talk to her when she gets here. I'm off this weekend. 

Now I am understanding what (my dad) said to me. During the summer he said "don't let her take advantage of you" I was confused but I'm beginning to understand. 

She can take a bus from (city where airport is) and Lyft like she did when she left. You can\* just impose on people." 

\*pretty sure she meant can't

\*I wrote it exactly how she texted witch exception to names, apologies if it sounds off

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I'm hurt beyond belief, and in the text it sounds like I asked her to pick me up from airport, which I didn't. I asked her if I could come down and stay in her house for 2-3 hours while someone from home came to pick me up. This was after asking everybody at my home, if I had gotten an answer that allowed an earlier pick up time I never would have asked to stay at her home. It turned out I didn't even have to go to her house as someone had woken up early at my household and decided to pick me up, so I just waited in the bus terminal. I did tell her I wasn't coming. Now that I think about it I should have said thank you then, but I was really tired from 20+ hrs of travel and it didnt even cross my mind.

It's also this kind of behavior that makes me as reclusive as I am now, as my family on both sides has a reputation of it; I've only started being more open with therapy. 

I also didn't get her anything, I was debating myself about it becuase I asked my dad if he wanted anything and he said no, asked my mom and she said no (until I was in China and asked for silk pillowcases from there, which I couldnt find and told her, she said no worries), my aunt never asked anything from the past and they have been doing better than my family in finances. I thought no big deal. 

I was clearly mistaken, my sister said 'its not hard to get  a $5 gift", and shes right, I did get a post card from China that was 5$ but I'm planning to get them something good under $30 from the liquor store, a thank you card and a gift card today. She wants to talk about this incoming semester and I have no problem with it, my fiance will be coming to US soon and we plan to live together before July, so hopefuly everything will work out there. 

I have no problems with clarification, there are a few personal things I left out but since its a throw away and, as far as I know, nobody in my family uses reddit I can elaborate on somethings. 

AITA for what I've done?

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living with extended family to go to school while traveling to see my fiance