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Input: My (24f) youngest brother (21m) is the baby of the family. Meaning he has gotten away with a ton of stuff I, the second oldest of four, couldn't dream of getting away with.
Of course, now we are older, so he should get himself together right? Wrong.
My mother constantly tells me that I should tell him to clean the kitchen, or do his homework (we're in college), or watch what he eats (he's like, almost 300lbs, but hes tall af) etc, etc. I do all these things all the time, so when my mother sees me busy with these things she yells that I should tell him to do it too.
Okay, so I used to. But all my constant nagging just triggers him so much and he berates me, calling me 'little girl', or tells me to shut up if I tell him something more than twice. He gets hostile, so I *have* to back off.
As for me, I absolutely **HATE** getting berated or yelled at (especially by him, it hurts me so much I can't stand it (ngl I've cried waaay too many times because of this kid)), and I *actively* do anything I can to avoid it. So, lately I haven't been nagging him as much and he leaves me alone for the most part. My mother screams that I should, and she tells me I'm 'ignoring him' and calls me 'mean' and 'selfish' if I don't (which also pains me).
I am being selfish because I don't want to be chewed out by either of them, and I think there might be some validity to my mom's side of the argument. My brother isn't exactly the type to get stuff done (I'm not either), but I'm older, so some responsibility falls on me.

tl;dr I don't tell my brother what to do much anymore because he hates my nagging, my mom hates that I 'ignore' him, and I'm basically terrified of confrontation.

never giving my brother help/advice, even though my mother gets angry with me when I don't