Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Am I the asshole son for not calling my parents or going to family gatherings/holidays?

I feel really uncomfortable talking to my family over the phone or at family gatherings. I have basically stopped doing either because my parents belittle me and my siblings by asking demeaning questions about when we are going to get our lives together. By together they basically mean becoming millionaires. 

They talk shit about all of us to each other. This is based off of the conversations I have had with them where they make fun of my siblings, so I am fairly certain I can guess what they say about me behind my back as well. It’s sickening, because I feel like they have nothing else to talk about, so they use this gossip as a conversation topic because they think it’s funny we are all struggling. 

I don’t even know how to have a conversation with my dad that doesn’t end up solely about money or shit talking. I hold some of the responsibility on this, because if I had more to talk about, maybe there would be less gossip. 

Anyways, they both grew up middle class, but my dad ended up making mid 6 figures up to 7 figures a year, until the ‘07-08 recession. After that they got divorced and they both wasted millions of dollars by acting like r/wallsteetbets gods. By that I mean they both gambled away everything or used it to buy super luxury cars, jewelry, and travel. They expect all of us to be near the same income bracket that they were. 

The problem is none of us went to college because they both said the other should have paid for college (they got divorced right before the recession) and because we couldn’t qualify for FASFA because they had too many assets. So we all ended up in near minimum wage, dead-end jobs, instead of the white collar “prestigious” careers they expected.

To be honest, I am resentful over that and this makes me less willing to listen to them make fun of my siblings when they talk to me, as well as making me feel inferior. This is where my question/post stems from. I feel like IANTA for distancing myself, but that I also could be TA for feeling entitled to go to college. 

not communicating with my parents