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Input: My friend and I have known each other since 7th grade. We’ve been through a lot together and have generally been pretty supportive of one another through some difficult times. She has been through a series of short-lived jobs and experimented with some different careers. Though I feel we do our best to support one another, she can be quite difficult (e.g., bailing multiple times on appointments with one of my colleagues who took time to meet with her to help her launch a website; berating me for telling her that I’m proud of her for making healthy life changes after she was hospitalized for a mental health issue). I realize some of these behavioral issues are out of her control but being around her brings up challenges to my own mental health. I don’t have interactions like this with anyone else in my life where it feels as though I’m constantly walking on eggshells and my family and our mutual friends have remarked several times that she is a toxic presence in my life. Lately, she only wants to catch up when she has something to share and will say she’s too busy to chat with me anytime I initiate a phone call. It all fees very one-sided and yes, a little toxic, but because of our shared history, I can’t bring myself to end this friendship. When kept at an arm’s length and living a state apart, this is a non-issue.

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I was recently laid off from my job and am in the middle of some other major life stuff including being in grad school full time. I received a call from her excitedly telling me that she has taken a job that will relocate her to my city. She asked me to meet up on her next trip to the area and to ask my partner if they have anyone in mind with whom she can be a roommate. I just don’t have the mental or emotional space to deal with her right now so I declined her invite and don’t plan on investing my energy to weave her into my partner and my social lives after how poorly she treated my colleague. I plan to see her occasionally when she moves but she won’t be a part of our daily lives. 

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When I declined her invite, I truthfully explained that this is a very difficult time for me and that I can’t commit to any social visits until I get these issues straightened out. I never lied to her. I will be be supportive from an arm’s length and visit with her when it’s convenient for me but I am focusing on my own mental health and well-being. AITA?

avoiding a (Difficult) Lifelong Friend moving to my city