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Input: Sorry if the formatting is messed up, I'm writing this on my phone. Also, It's gonna be long, because I wanna be as accurate as possible - so saddle on for the ride.

For context, I am a 27 years old PhD student, and I work 2 jobs( some days I work 11+ hours). Money is not tight, yet not that glamorous either. My father is older than average (75+ yr old), and has several health conditions, few of which he is refusing to treat. He is not disabled, but not that able to leave the house often, either. He lives with my mother, who is about 15 years younger than him and still working.

Right now I live about 5-7 mins walking distance away from my parents (important). I'm in the situation where I can't afford my current rent anymore, so I had to find a cheaper place to live. The one i did is a tad further, 20 mins walking distance away (or 15 by subway).

My parents are not ok with the place I found, and are currently trying their best to pursuade me to move into the same building they live in. They even offered to pay a third of my rent and all my bills.

I politely refused, and here's why: they are extremely needy people. Also, they have no sense of boundaries. Also, also, my mother is very controlling.

Here are a few examples: 

(1) if they know I'm at home, they will randomly call me to go buy them things from nearby (e.g., cigarettes, bread), even though they are perfectly able to do it themselves; (2) they will insist on me visiting them daily if possible, no matter how busy I am, and get mad if I don't do so "because I'm only a few minutes away, why is it that hard?!"; (3) they ask me to show up in person if they wanna tell me stuff that can easily be discussed over the phone "because I'm not that far away"; (4) my mom generally likes knowing what I do and who I do it with, and is always criticizing the way i live my life - not sleeping enough, not eating right, not hanging out with good enough people, not having the right gf, not spending my money right, and so on. The only way I can do damage control on this is having my own space, that she can't access whenever she pleases.

Now, for the tricky part - my dad has severe health anxiety and agoraphobia, both of which he refuses to treat. I've tried all I could to get him treatment, to no success. If i make appointments, he ghosts. If I try to educate him (I'm a psychologist btw), he doesn't listen. If I bring him self-help materials, he doesn't use them... you get the point. Because of this, he is really scared to be alone and craves constant company. This is his main reason for me moving in - so he can *quote* "easily knock on my door whenever he needs help with something".

Now, I'm torn. I really want to help him, he's my dad and my hero, and I love him a lot. But I also wanna have some independence and be able to live my own life, without being ar my parents' beck and call, and without being financially dependent on them with my rent and bills.

This is why I very politely refused. Now my dad is really angry at me. AITA?


refusing to live in the same apartament building as my parents