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Input: Trigger: childloss, termination

I am almost 36 weeks with my "first" baby
In reality this is my 6th pregnancy, with 3 early losses. I have been a complete neurotic wreck.

Anyhow, my mother was quite nasty to me through my very first pregnancy, escaping an abusive relationship with sperm donor, and essentially from everyone around me I was coerced into terminating. And then completely ignored, to try and grieve and heal alone.

Forward through losses, turbulent relationships, moving in and out of my parental home, and eventually a confrontation at my parents which led to a psych ward stay. I moved out for the last time, got myself in a great position in life, and am about to meet this baby. 

I had reached out to my grandma early on with HG (hyperemesis gravidarum), needing assistance to the hospital. My mother was with her, and found out about the pregnancy. Since, she has gone all sweet about our relationship, over the moon about this baby and her "finally" becoming a grandmother. Refusing to acknowledge any of the loss we talked about beforehand and then after this reveal.

I had friends wanting to throw me a baby shower; she has taken over all planning, hosting, and has invited her friends I don't even know (although I am still very grateful for the support). SO and I decided not to find out the gender of our baby. My friend is doing a fun "gender misreveal" cake pop treat, one woman she invited (I don't know her) wants to do a gender reveal cake, but BOOKED ME AN ULTRASOUND TO FIND OUT THE GENDER PRE CONSULTATION and then mom makes me reach out to this stranger to tell her no.

Then, she's telling me how she wants to take my newborn for chiropractic care, preaching how it made such a difference in mine and my siblings lives. Which, sure, it may have, but I am feeling railroaded before this child is even born. 

I don't even have the heart yet to tell her that she will not be in the room for delivery with me, as I've been having awful flashbacks about being driven to the hospital to terminate.. and I just don't feel I need that stress when I'm trying to hopefully have my first living baby. I feel as though she assumes she will be there. I am stressed about the dynamic of the relationship, and I am stressed about her trying to push her ideals on my brand new baby and my life, which has done best when she is not in it. AITA?!

struggling with mother