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Input: So my SO and I have been together for a little over 2 years and known each other for about 8.  He is not into gift giving or receiving in general and really only does my birthday and Christmas because it's something I want.  I take a lot of joy in finding people the perfect gift.  He doesn't want to celebrate his birthday and so I respect that.  When it comes to gifts for him, he prefers experiences over material things.  When it comes to our anniversary we do something together and while I honestly would like to do something for valentine's day I think that would be pushing it so we pretty much ignore it.  I think that's a pretty good summary of our gift giving situation.

Early on in our relationship he asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I said a pair of earrings.  I had a lost one of my diamond studs (an inexpensive pair, something like $100 and honestly the only piece of jewelry I had that didn't come on a piece of cardboard).  He asked me multiple times what I wanted and each time that's what I said.  Eventually he just said "I'm not going to ever buy you jewelry so... yeah."  I asked why not and he said he thinks it's stupid and he doesn't like shopping for it.  (I will add that this was in the price range we had discussed and he ended up spending more than this on my Christmas gift.  Football tickets, which I loved.)

So here's the thing.  I think one of the things that can make a gift thoughtful or nice or whatever is to buy something for someone that they wouldn't buy for themselves normally.  It doesn't have to be something you agree with or enjoy shopping for or anything like that.  It's about making them happy.  For example, I think it's ridiculous that he has a $300 pen.  I mean it's a nice pen!  But whoa that's steep for a pen.  However if he mentioned he wanted that pen and it was in the price range for a gift, I would love to buy it for him, because it's something he really wants.

And so that is why I am rather annoyed on this total, unequivocal ban on jewelry.  It seems arbitrary and against the idea of gifting something to someone for the purpose of their happiness rather than having anything to do with yours.  I will also add that I'm not a picky gift receiver and he has gotten me lovely gifts including things like a trip to a bookstore I've always wanted to go to, a ton of WWII books because he knows I'm a history nerd, the football tickets, etc.  I would never receive a gift and not appreciate it.  But it just... digs at me a little when he refuses to buy something because he thinks its "stupid," which kind of feels like he's saying there's something wrong with me for wanting it. 

So.  Am I the asshole?

being annoyed my boyfriend won't buy me jewelry