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Input: This happened a while ago but I’ve always been curious.

Backstory: I’m female and bisexual and my friend “Jen” is female and pansexual. I went to college far from home and met Jen and we instantly clicked. She was actually near where I’m from so I found comfort in her. It wasn’t until college and until I hung out with Jen more and more that I realized that I was bisexual. I developed a crush on her and although I never explicitly told her, she knew. We cuddled a lot and some people even mistook us as a couple sometimes but we never even kissed or anything. I think we both knew it was a bad idea to possibly jeopardize our friendship by getting together. Either way, I lost feelings for her toward the end when we had a falling out and I realized that I liked the idea of her but  I didn’t like HER (if that makes sense). We made up eventually and planned to move into an apartment together and were gonna share a room for our sophomore year of college. We also planned to share my queen size bed together since it was too much of a hassle for her to buy her own when she didn’t have a car and my car wouldn’t fit a mattress or bed frame (my parents drove up the queen size bed for me).

Anyway I start dating a girl, “Ann,” over the summer and things are great and steady. I had told Ann everything about Jen after some time and although she was surprised at first (she had heard of Jen as my best friend but not as my past crush), she didn’t seem to make a big deal of it. After about three months, I had to go back to school (which would make us long distance). I told Ann that Jen and I were going share a bed throughout the year and she didn’t say much about it. She seemed to understand my reasoning about why, so we never discussed it further.

I ended up casually telling one of my friends about my living situation (sharing a bed) and he was surprised and said it was weird. He told me to change the genders of the situation, “Imagine if you were a guy and sharing a bed with a previous crush—isn’t that messed up for your gf?” But Ann never said anything about it and she actually met Jen and they got along (at some point the three of us ended up sharing the bed because Ann slept over a few times), so I don’t think it’s a big deal. AITA?

sharing a bed with a past crush while in a relationship