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Input: My fiance and I have a complicated relationship. We met in highschool and instantly got really close to eachother. Our relationship did have a lot of ups and downs because we were both still figuring ourselves out while dating, neither one of us was really prepared for a relationship to be honest. Despite this we continued to date, causing the relationship to become toxic/unhealthy. 

Eventually I caught her lying and figured out that she was cheating. I confronted her and she admitted she met some guy 2 weeks ago, had been with him physically, and wants to be with him, ending our two year relationship. I do admit I was a shitty boyfriend at the time but in my opinion, that does not excuse cheating. 

After a year apart, we got back on speaking terms and slowly started to find mutual ground. Occasional conversations turned into constant conversations and before we knew it we were back together. Since we had both done tons of growing, we were better together now. There were still issues of course, as any relationship has, but for the most part it was smooth sailing. 

Being cheated on seriously scarred me, changing me in many ways. I went from being an extrovert to an introvert. I refused to open up to anyone &amp; chose to deal with my emotions myself. Honestly I can only really express primitive emotions. I do my best to talk about things but I visibly struggle and this really bothers her. She hates how I deal with things myself and feels like she should be there to help me with everything. I understand her point of view but I just prefer to handle it alone.

Fast forward to today, in our culture, it's her "time" to get married. I was basically given an ultimatum, marry her or break up. As a 21 year old who's still in college and doesn't even own a vehicle, I find this ridiculous. I just don't understand how I'm expected to handle all this responsibility when I'm still grinding college and working a minimum wage job. Furthermore, although we do love eachother we're not "in love". Of course I care for her a fuck ton but when I'm told to picture my future wife, I don't picture her right away. I asked her to tell me why she wants to marry me &amp; honestly, neither one of us has a solid reason apart from our history. Despite this she's still adamant on getting married, maybe she's lying? I don't know. 

We're now one year away from the wedding, both our families are involved and our marriage has basically been announced to the world (well our mutual world). She now brings up wedding plans often which visibly disgruntles me. Last night after she kept pressing me to try and explain why I get like this and I finally told her the truth as best as I can. 

I'm not ready to get married, mentally or financially. I feel like I have so much left to do and there's no way I can handle this level of responsibility in this stage of life. I also told her, growing up I always dreamt about my post-uni bachelor's life. Buying my first car, going on road trips with all my best friends. Of course if I'm having to sacrifice a childhood dream on top of taking on a lot more than what I feel like I can handle, I'm going to be pissed. Despite this I told her losing her would hurt a lot so I'm prepared to choose her but she can't expect me to be all sunshine and flowers. 

She dismissed my feelings, told me I'm a disrespectful dumbasss, so on and so forth. 

AITA for feeling this way and letting her know about it? Should I not be feeling this way at all? Should I have confessed this all to her earlier before everyone was informed of our wedding rather than finding the words for it now?


being for being unsure of my marriage and letting my fiance know about it pretty late