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Input: My husband and I have been together for 14 years and have 3 children together, ages 8, 2, and 1. This is important info for the rest of my post.

When we were planning our wedding (10 years ago), his Father and Stepmom completely ghosted us on arrangements for the wedding. We weren’t demanding anything from them at all and expressed this several times, but they refused to communicate with us whatsoever and it caused a strain on our wedding planning and relationship. My husband made so many excuses for his Dad and I was so frustrated and baffled as to why they couldn’t just have a conversation with us. At the wedding, they came and left early without even saying goodbye. 

Since then I’ve had several awkward things happen at their home, which is an hour away from where we live. The first Christmas after our 8 year old was born, I asked his stepmom if there was a room that I could breastfeed in. She directed me to their office. I went in there and there were 3, used and open, cat litter boxes in a very small room. I should mention that they are animal hoarders. They have 8 dogs and I don’t even know how many cats. All indoor animals. I don’t care if people love animals, but this seems excessive. 

When I was 8 months pregnant with our 2 year old, their dog walked up to me in the living room and pissed on my leg and foot. They never apologized or acted like they were even surprised. I was mortified. 

We’ve also had several birthday parties for our children where they’ve shown up an hour or later and just act like everything is fine. They didn’t even come to our 2 year olds 1st birthday and no explanation was ever given to us. They did this to my 8 year also. I know that they come to our city every once and awhile for shopping, business, or to visit their other children who live by but they never reach out to my husband and ask to visit or be involved in our children’s lives. 

This past Christmas I reached my breaking point. His stepmom text messaged us both about a week before and told (not asked) us that we needed to bring one of three side dishes. Ok fine, we’re only driving an hour to your house where you insist on hosting each year, but by all means we’ll bring a side dish. We get there and have to walk through their garage (where they chain smoke and use as the only entrance into their house) with our three kiddos. As soon as I walked in, I got an instant migraine from the smell. It was a combination of cigarettes, wet dog, cat pee and mold. 

The longer we were there, the more freaked out I became. There was mold on Christmas decorations, cat poop on the bathroom floors, cat piss on all the furniture. All on arms reach of our 2 and 1 year olds. I literally broke out in hives. My husbands step sister had to leave early to take her children to their fathers and I used that as an opportunity to leave also. When we got home my husband was extremely upset. I had told him earlier in the day I wasn’t feeling well and to watch the little ones around the cat poop and moldy ornaments so he knew I wanted to leave. After we calmed down he said he understood if I didn’t want to go to their house anymore. 

I’m ok with not going there anymore, but I still feel bad. I don’t feel bad for not going, I feel bad for my husband because it seems so one sided. It’s like they don’t want anything to do with us yet we’re somehow obligated to be involved. I just associate them with filth and not caring to communicate because that’s how they’ve always come across...



not wanting to go to my husbands paternal father's house ever again