Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: TW: Miscarraige.


I recently went through a terrible miscarriage, far into my pregnancy.  When I found out I lost the baby, I had to tell friends since they knew I was pregnant.  I texted what had happened and said “I don’t want to talk about it” since I didn’t want everyone calling me and making me say awful things out loud.  Everyone gave me that night, sent me supportive texts or help throughout the awful upcoming days.  Some brought soup.  They let me open up about it at my own pace which was really helpful.

One of my closest friends-we were maids of honor for each other-took this literally and didn’t actually reach out to me until a month later.  Literally silence for a month despite knowing my husband’s number, my sister’s numbers-she could have checked on me through a variety of ways even if she wanted to leave me alone.  I eventually told her that I could have used my friend, and she said she thought I meant what I said so she left me alone.  Since then she sends things like “everything happens for a reason”, and I stopped responding because it was so frustrating.

I know that some of this is because I’m angry at what I went through and she’s a good target to put it on, but I don’t think all of this.  I mostly feel like, for once, I’m the one who has a shitty thing happen so it’s not my job how to teach her to be a good friend.  For reference, she has multiple crisis since we’ve known each other (deaths, divorce, etc) and I’ve worked hard to be there for her.  I’ve dropped trips, stayed up late when I had early mornings, everything I can to support her. I’ve never had a problem like this before with her so maybe this is just her MO and I didn’t know.  

Should I forgive her and figure this out, or is she just a “taker” friend and I didn’t know this whole time?


ghosting a friend who took me too literally