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Input: Okay, so long story short. A few years ago, I dated this guy for \~4 months? It was pretty okay, getting kinda serious, but he was such a jealous, controlling person like he'd get mad at me for stuff like

* Not wanting to do sexual stuff all the time
* Talking to other guys
* Not replying within like an hour
* Getting mad when I'd go out for drinks with friends, or out in general
* Here's the kicker: declining to schedule dates with him when my dad (who worked abroad at the time) would visit home

Needless to say, that ship sunk and I dumped him, told him I might consider getting back together if things changed, and stayed friends. We flirted and fooled around a while after that, but we were just friends. I went out with a few other people after that, nothing serious and ex would call me a cheap slut and all that. 

Fast forward, he forced me to have sex with him one day while we were hanging out. Like I said no, he physically forced. There were a few other physical altercations, like us seeing each other at a mutual friend's party and me getting shoved to the ground on my back. 

I'm not the type of person to let things affect me externally though. He kinda went crazy with guilt, like threatening suicide every time I'd show signs of being upset about the stuff that had happened. 

So he had this best friend (who I will from now on refer to as bff), who I met when ex and I were dating. Later on, bff kinda start chatting because we were both worried about my ex, who would always be going crazy with suicide threats and stuff. Bff really, sincerely cared about ex. Their friendship was pretty legit and real, they were tight for years. 

Bff and I started talking and becoming pretty good friends outside the whole drama with my ex. Since we started talking, bff ended up becoming more sympathetic with me than with my ex. Bff also ended up sharing friendship issues between him and ex. We ended up going for drinks, and eventually ended up dating. We had a long talk on how our relationship would affect ex and his mental health and how there's the bro code "don't date your best friend" thing, but I was like "how he handles things is not my problem, I don't owe him anything", and I kinda ended up convincing bff to choose me. So now I'm in a happy relationship with bff, and I have been for almost a year now (yay).

Anyway, so ex found out eventually, and he's now super pissed at bff for being a bad friend, for "stealing his girl", and was constantly sending both of us (bff and I) suicide threats, sending me photos of his self harm wounds, and all that. He also said I stole his best friend, which is true to an extent. 

I didn't really care that much, I'm kind of a bitch. If he kills himself, it's not my fault or responsibility- and I told him as such, then proceeded to block him. 

I stopped giving a shit, got pissed off at some point and started being publicly annoyed with his crap. Kinda ruined his social standing in a lot of circles. Don't really care. His grades went down the toilet, he almost got kicked out of uni, lost a lot of friends. 

It's been about 10 months, he's got a new girlfriend, but people still hate him and judge the sorry girl who ended up dating him. He's still messed up though, people barely talk to him in uni, lost a lot of friends and social standing, and his life is just generally still messed up because people know he's a rapist and a bunch of other bad things. Bff now hates his guts, and makes it a point to rub our relationship in ex's face every time he gets. Ex is also kinda pissed that he lost his bff and "his girl" in one go, which is my fault. 

Am I the asshole for basically shitting on his life? 

dating my abusive ex's best friend