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Input: Throwaway. My parents have been very good to me for their entire lives. I am very lucky to be supported by them. But I cannot help but feel like they should have gotten a divorce a long time ago.

It is obvious that they have huge issues communicating, as they usually have shouting matches every other night. This has gotten to the point of being physical, and I threw Dad away from Mom around last year. Afterwards, things got "better" for a little while.

Dad does not know how to communicate his feelings properly, and Mom has a bit of a language barrier, so she cannot understand everything he says at times. The thing is, Dad knows this, and still does not have any patience whenever she doesn't get something. This is also vice versa, where she will try to communicate her feelings to Dad but he won't understand. 

Throughout my life, they would argue in front of me, threatening divorce and whatnot. It sucked a lot. Dad didn't have anyone else to talk to, so he unloaded all of his gripes about Mom to me for a long time, every day he took me to school, for years. It caused me to resent her for a while, after hearing all his one-sided stories. And I feel incredibly guilty about that, because I found out a lot of those times, she had every reason to be angry with him.

It didn't happen all the time. But I would always feel tense whenever they were together. There were "good times" before the arguing started again. It took a while before I learned that arguing each day with a partner was not normal, or having "breaks" from arguing was not normal.

I have been advocating for them to get a relationship therapist or marriage counseling. I tried to communicate with my Dad to give Mom some more patience. That didn't work. Both refuse counseling, saying they can do it themselves, and I'm fed up. I gave up trying to fix it by myself, but I feel like I haven't tried hard enough. At the same time, I feel like no matter what I do, nothing will change. I also know I should not be their relationship therapist, or some kind of mediator. But it just fell on me many times.

I don't want to be afraid to move out for something bad to happen to both of them. I don't want to be able to hear their shouting through earbuds blasting music. I don't want to feel anxious each time I hear their raised voices in case some physical crap happens again.

It hurts. It puts a lot of stress on me. I hate them for it, and I feel like an asshole for hating them for it. Am I?

disliking my parents