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Input: Not here for validation. Haven't been thinking too clearly and need some strangers to weigh in, my support circle has given me mixed responses

When I was 28 my wife of 7 years (together for 13) and 4 year old daughter died in a home invasion while I was helping out a friend a few hours away. Afterwards I survived two attempts on my own life, went through a a few years of drug and alcohol abuse and homelessness as I stopped working. After a lot of effort I got back on my feet.

I've turned 40 a few months ago. A few years ago I met my current wife. We had been friends for a bit and have been together for 2 years. She knew what I'd been through and was extremely supportive, we've helped eachother through a lot and have overall had a great marriage.

The other night we had a major blow-up. We've both been dealing with family issues and work related problems and had been short with eachother for a few days. We went out for a date which helped, and she asked to go the next night as well. I had already committed to helping a friend move that day, so I told her we could the day after. In retrospect I know this was wrong of me.

For the first time she start swearing at me, pushing chairs, telling me to leave. It ended with her saying, verbatim, "last time you neglected your fucking family for a friend you lost them, that's on you. What if we had a kid [my name], would it take letting them die too before you smarten up?"

I left that night and came back the next day. We talked and she was extremely apologetic and said she's just been stressed from work, but it came out that she had always been jealous of my first wife which she never mentioned before. I told her I wanted wasn't sure if I could be with her, she's been staying with her sister but begging me for a chance to work through it.

Friends are mixed. Some support me, others think I owe it to her to try to move past it because it was one issue in an otherwise solid marriage and because "I do still think about my wife so she's right to be jealous." I visit my family on their birthdays and Christmas. I keep a photo of my first wife and daughter in my wallet (I also keep one of my current wife) and I've had their names on my back for 10+ years. That's it. I don't compare her to my first wife, nor do I love her less and I don't wallow in grief while ignoring my marriage, I just don't feel like being remarried means I have to act like they never existed. She knew I was a widower when we met. She was the one who offered to talk to me about my wife back then, and I haven't talked to her about my wife since we married. Had she brought up these concerns in a better way, I'd have gladly reassured her and worked on it, but while I can forgive a lot I don't know if I can forgive or ever forget how she said it.

I need opinions. I love her, but I feel sick in my stomach when I think about her now. I feel so betrayed and hurt because while things are said in anger this felt purposely crafted to hurt most

considering separation from my wife after she brought up my late family