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Input: This is long, sorry in advance.

So, I grew up with my friend M. We drifted apart as we aged, but reconnected about three years ago and got fairly close. For reference, she is 25 and I am 23.

Since we reconnected, she helped me through a bad breakup, only to throw it back in my face as "being annoying" and "being hung up about it" and "needing to get over it."

There have been a set group of topics of conversation for the past three years: how much M hates her job, how much she hates her body, how mad she is at her sex life with her boyfriend for not being great, and how mad she is that she's never been with a girl, the last of which was coupled by making weird drunken passes at me in the form of getting mad when I don't agree that I'd be DTF if she was single.

I tried to help her with her weight by inviting her to the gym with me and helping her construct a meal plan with healthy food (she and her boyfriend eat nothing but fast food) and by helping her with her portfolio so she can quit her job that she hates. She did it for a day, and then made it clear that she resents me for being in shape.

When my long-distance boyfriend moved to my town, she lectured me on making sure I still make her a priority even though my boyfriend would be in town. She made it clear that she expected me to still spend almost all of my free time with her.

She constantly makes our friendship sound like a trial run, like "I'm still waiting to make sure you're a good best friend" and I felt like I was auditioning for a role in her life from all the comments she made. If I ever did anything wrong in our friendship, she acted like we had to start from scratch and I had to re-prove myself to her, even if it was a small thing like not replying to a text immediately.

I worked with all of this, listened to her, made time to hang out with her, and tried as hard as I could to be a good friend.

Last August, I began graduate school. Needless to say, I'm insanely busy. I take classes and I work at my university, I basically live there at this point, so the only time I could spare was to hang out with M about once a month. I tried to get back to her and text her every other week at the minimum. In the meantime, I'm living in an apartment and paying bills for the first time, I'm in the first serious relationship I've ever been in, and I'm practically living at school, not to mention helping said boyfriend move and getting adjusted to grad school.

Over the holidays, I was spending time with my family when M called me and reamed me out for being a bad friend and not spending enough time with her (continued to do this even when I told her I was with family). I told her I barely had any time to even text boyfriend, and when I get home I just sleep if I'm not doing homework. She said "well it sounds like you're still texting boyfriend then. You're finding time for him." We had just hung out less than a month ago, and I tried to explain how busy I was and how time moved crazy quickly but she wouldn't hear it and just kept yelling at me for being such a bad friend and then said "we can talk about this more next time we hang out, but I need you to make me more of a priority."

I didn't talk to her for most of the rest of the holiday break, trying to figure out how to respond. I finally text her this: "I'm going to be honest with you. I feel extremely disrespected by our phone call and I've been taking time to figure out how to reply to you. I have been as good of a friend to you as I can. I'm not lying when I say I gave you all the time I could this past semester. I was in graduate school, adulting for the first time, paying bills, and navigating a long distance relationship. I did not have much time at all, but I still made you a priority and gave you as much time as I could. But honestly, I don't like reaching out to you any more because I know I'll get lectured about being a shitty friend, and I honestly don't deserve that. I've done the best I can with what time I have, and I feel like none of that has ever been good enough for you. I shouldn't have to prove myself to you over and over and over, and I don't deserve to keep getting reamed out for being a shitty friend. I really care about you, but if you can't take me at my word that I've done the best I can to make you a priority during this incredibly busy time of change in my life, then I just can't be the friend you want me to be. But I'm not going to let myself keep getting reamed out for something I don't deserve. I would love to still be friends, but I need you to meet me in the middle and try to give me the benefit of the doubt instead of just saying I'm a shitty friend all of the time, because I'm not."

We agreed to talk on the phone about it, but then Christmas and New Year's and all that happened, and now I'm back in school and we still haven't talked. I honestly don't want to reach out to her at all, and I feel no desire to fix this friendship because she has chewed me out multiple times for not giving her enough attention and I just feel like she doesn't understand where I'm at in life and doesn't respect me at all. I still care about her, but I just don't see it happening. But am I the asshole for not reaching out to her at this point?

semi-ghosting a friend