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Input: So I'm Jewish, my wife is Catholic. Christmas isn't a holiday that means a whole lot to me but my wife and I have been hosting her immediate family (12 people total when you include SOs) for the past few years, and it's more or less been fine. I've never been into hosting people in general, but it's something my wife wants and, you know, go along to get along. 

However, we have the same argument every year, and I need a ruling. 

My wife and I's household income is significantly higher than anyone else in both her immediate and extended family, as well as the extended family of her siblings SOs. This isn't to say we are rich or anything, it's more to say that they are all low income earners\* and we are just barely upper-middle class.

Because of this, I am constantly being pressured for inviting various people that my in-laws know (including young children) that don't have a Christmas dinner to go to. I've caved a few times for various people and I always regret it. I love my in-laws but they aren't very "gracious". It's not like we are sitting around the tree enjoying each other's company. Everyone pretty much comes in, eats, lounges around on the couch, we open presents, and then they leave. No one brings a dish to contribute, no one says thank you, no one helps clean up. They aren't overtly rude or disrespectful but I always feel unappreciated, especially after spending hundreds of dollars on food, and days cleaning the house while chasing 2 toddlers around. 

This is fine, they are my family, and I gotta live with them.

What I don't think I have to do is provide extended family and/or friends with a Christmas just because they can't afford their own, or don't want to put the effort in to make their own. I get that to a person making $25k a year someone with our income may as well be a millionaire but I don't think that makes me responsible for instituting an open door policy. Especially considering these people come over, they don't bring my kids a gift, they don't bring my wife flowers or a bottle of wine, and they don't ask me if there is anything they can do to help. 

My wife's argument is that these people don't have the luxuries we have, and it's Christmas, and it isn't that big of a deal for us to buy a little bit more food, and a few extra toys for their kids, it's just one night. She's right, but I don't think I'm wrong either. I've done this for a few years, and have never been shown any appreciation, and that's important to me. My wife and I work hard and have two kids to take care of, we work all week, chase toddlers around all night, spend 2 days cooking and cleaning, just to have a bunch of people I barely know come into my home, sit at my table, and eat my food and I have never received and sign of gratitude for it. Sorry, I can't get over that. 

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Am I the asshole?

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\*when I say "lower income", no one is eating cat food for dinner, they aren't sleeping in refrigerator boxes. They are just manual labor workers who can't produce the same kind of Christmas meal we can. 

not wanting to host everyone for Christmas