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Input: **Intro** *First draft was 8,500 char over limit. I will link the full story, here is a poorly edited one trimmed to 3000 ASAP.*

***I'm asking if I'm an asshole for telling my wife I was mad he came in her and also for making him apologize to me.*** *But if I or anyone else is an asshole for another reason I'm interested. Questions welcome. Thank you.*

**TL:DR; see full version**

Married 10 years. Kinky.

Friend has GF for 1 year. Says sex is boring. Knows we swing and wife likes cum.

Him and GF invite us out. My friend propositions me with partner swap- his whole angle was that his girlfriend has a huge crush on me and he thinks it'll help their relationship if I do her. Doesn't mention wife.

I pity him and agree.

In the uber I tell wife what we're doing.

About to bone... GF says no condom, but don't cum inside. I say "*looks like we're cumming on some titties*" to my friend. He grunts agreement.

Sex happens... he cums in her hard. She's thrilled. I'm pissed but contain it.

Later, I tell her he just wanted to cum in her because his girlfriend doesn't let him. She looks at me like I'm stupid, duh. I told him to cum on your tits. She doesnt remember. I did.

She dismissed my feelings instead of working through. Maybe thought I was blaming her and was mad at her about it, says she owns her pussy, that she can't believe *I'M* shaming her, she only did it for me, etc.

Tension.

Last night I confronted friend. He admitted planning to cum inside. I told him that was fucked up- He said and didn't think of it that way, everything was true, wife said it was okay. Didn't know it was a big deal and apologized genuinely. I accepted.

I was mad because...

**Expectations**: sex-god alpha male, here to fulfill innocent girl's fantasy and save friend's sad boring life + impress w/ wife.

**Reality**: a couple tried swinging

**Result**: suddenly emasculated that I wasn't in complete control. But now I've learned, won't do it again.

Told wife the good news, she got mad. Said if I can't manage expectations, thats my problem, "It's not fun if I have to worry about you freaking out". That I had no right to make him feel bad for something he didn't know about and I'm egotistical. Took a lot of trust for her because there was no plan and my reaction I ruined it.

I asked her to do something sexually extreme (service my friend) she wants praise, affection, but I think she's martyring herself here. Never had negativity towards her at all. But I also have a duty to resolve doubts and misunderstandings before they grow into resentment. The idea that I should have shoved my feelings inside and ignore them seems ridiculous.

Am I The Asshole?

being mad my friend finished in my wife during group sex