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Input: So I really need to know if I’m the asshole here. And it’s actually a hard thing for me to determine cause it’s with my parents, and they aren’t exactly the nicest people. I would classify my mother as a narcissist, but they fuck with my head too much for me to know exactly if I’m the shit kid they say I am or if they are actually shit people. (If it matters, I’m almost 30). 


So. Without much background my sister moved back with my parents after leaving a less than desirable relationship. My mom seems to have a habit of opening peoples mail. She does it with her and and my younger brother. (I was kicked out by 18 so I’ve never dealt with this.) My sister doesn’t want it to happen, but won’t say anything cause she is constantly walking on eggshells at home. I didn’t really know the extent of it all. Anyways, I was angry for my sister and called my mom out on it. Simply said. “Stop opening her mail, she deserves her privacy”. She message me later that night saying “I knew who it was from, and told her immediately. But I get the message.” I was alseep. 


The next day my sister starts freaking out on me asking what I said, she knew I sent the first message, and why would I say anything. Apparently my mom attacked her for what I said and was refusing to help babysit (something they offered to do if she moved in with them to save money) in the new year because of what I said. My sister obviously threw me under a bus and claimed she had no idea and that I was angry on behalf of her. My sister then told me she’s never telling me shit again and that I’m never to say anything to her about what we say. Fair. 



So I talk to my mom, never mentioning what my sister said. And apparently she’s appalled at my first message, asked if I wished to change my stance. I replied no and that my stance is the same, she shouldn’t open peoples mail without their permission, etc. she never once said she was sorry, and just played a victim. She said “I don’t deserve these comments” (I literally told her that she shouldnt open peoples mail without their permission.) I then said “you did something wrong, but don’t deserve comments saying you were wrong?” And she told me she was going to work and that was the end. So I said ok. 



5 minutes later I get a message from my step dad telling me how I butt my nose into business that’s not mine, my sister doesn’t care about the opening of the mail it was something else she was angry about, my main goal in life is to trash my mother (it’s my mo didn’t you know), he took a moment when I thought we connected in my moms shitty behavior and threw it in my face saying “your mom never did that” oh and “if you pass this on to your mother see how you and I get along I think the future”. 



I immediately told him to never contact me again. And blocked them all through social media and texting. My sister hasn’t said anything to me since early this afternoon, and that weird. My younger brother is talking to me but he’s away at college so I don’t think they’d say anything to him. 



Did I fuck up? Is this on me? Should I apologize? I don’t want to. But I feel like maybe I am the shitty person they say I am. Iunno? Please tell me. I’m so mentally exhausted. 

really just needing to know