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Input: My brother and I used to live together until eight months ago or so. We had lived together and talked daily in passing for at least six years. He moved out because he needed to (30, living in the basement, smelled, and never had a job or tried to find one) and I was getting married. We talked and I offered to be the one to leave, but he chose to go instead so I didn’t kick him out.


After that, he didn’t call. He didn’t write. He didn’t initiate contact once. He would take many days to reply to a text and be upset if I suggested social norms suggested texting back sooner than 6 days. I have only seen him for major holidays because of my parents and because months later he still hadn’t changed his address so he would pick up mail. Even when he was at a holiday he would be alone on his computer.


After months of almost no contact after living with him and talking to him daily, I indicated I was very hurt that he did not seem to want me in his life and that he never expressed any indication that he loved me or even cared about me. I even asked him when the last time he said I love you to anyone was. His reply was less than a week ago. He has not once ever said this to me. Not once. 


At that point, all I felt was mourning the loss of a brother. It’s like he vanished from my life and like the only reason he talked to me before was because we lived together, not because he wanted to. It felt like the whole time I was living a lie. So I told him I wanted a relationship with him, but he had to be the one to initiate contact. It hurts me every time I contact him and he doesn’t... do... anything and he just sounds like he wants to stop talking and be left alone. He told me I was being overly sensitive and emotional and that he did want a relationship.


The kicker is he is autistic. I don’t think he feels the same needs in a relationship as I do. I don’t think he wants a monthly phone call and doesn’t understand why I do. He doesn’t understand why I’m sad, though I have explained myself. I think he is being hurtful and showing that he does not care about a relationship with me. I specifically stated what I needed from a relationship with him if he wanted to have one (which wasn’t much, just a 5 minute phone call once a month and maybe actually doing something on holidays with his family instead of his computer). He couldn’t be bothered to humor me for five minutes once a month. I’ve done so many things to humor him and his quirks. Even if I don’t understand why he wants things, I’ll go along with it. And he won’t do the same. 


So I said I’m not going to contact him again because it hurts too much. Now my parents are calling me wrong for not engaging with him and that I should tolerates these hurtful behaviors from him “because he is different.”  

So am I the asshole for not contacting a brother who doesn’t seem to care anyways? 

explicitly stating I am not going to contact my autistic brother