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Input: First Reddit post whew and it’s a long one so buckle in! TL;DR at the bottom. So my bf [21M] and I [20F] have been together for two years. About 6 months ago a friend pointed out to me that my bf’s been almost religiously liking a lot of stereotypical thirst trap Instagram posts (they noticed thanks to the activity tab that lets you see what the people you follow like).

I brought it up to him and mentioned how it made me uncomfortable despite my worry that I was being overly controlling or overly jealous. He said he understood and wouldn’t do it anymore. Fast forward about 4 months and I notice that he’s still liking a lot of those thirst trap type posts AND is being regularly messaged by a girl who is being pretty clear that she’s interested in him (I noticed because my bf and I have each other’s fingerprints on our phones and p regularly use each other’s phones to look up info/music/YouTube videos/etc). I ask him about it and find out that he’s been regularly hanging out with her and was even late to a date 30 min because he was at her place dropping off weed. I doubt he’s doing any of this maliciously and more like he’s kinda just oblivious to how his behavior might be enabling her attention.

When I move onto the social media habits again, he reacts dramatically saying “oh I guess I’ll just unfollow ALL my female friends then if it makes you so uncomfortable!” Note: the thirst trap instagrams don’t have any mutuals and they don’t follow him back, but supposedly he knows them somehow. I clarify that it’s not that extreme, I’m only uncomfortable about the obvious thirst traps and not his female friends. He gets mad at me but says he’ll fix it.

Fast forward to our 2-year anniversary a week ago, I’m using his phone to scroll through his insta feed and find a pic of a girl using just her hand to cover her boob, check the profile and notice he’s liked maybe 60-70% of her posts similar to this. A lot of my female friends also follow this insta but for her style posts and her vaguely motivational captions, but I dooon’t think that’s the case for him. I ask him about it and remind him we’ve talked about this multiple times already and he once again gets mad at me and storms off.

AITA for voicing that him religiously browsing thirst trap Instagrams makes me uncomfortable and getting upset when he continues to do so despite telling me he’d stop?

TL;DR I told my bf of 2 years that his pretty frequent browsing/liking of thirst trap Instagrams made me uncomfortable. He said he’d stop, continued to do it. Brought it up again, he got mad at me but said he’d fix it and reacted dramatically saying I wanted him to unfollow ALL of the girls he followed, even his friend. He continued to do it and got upset when I brought it up again. Note I wasn’t asking him to unfollow his female friends or girls he knew. Just the thirst trap instagrams who he had no mutuals with and didn’t follow him. AITA?

getting upset at my bf's Instagram habits