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Input: OK so I had a friend (we no longer are) He was hopeless with money and never had any because he always threw it away on having a good time or buying stupid things, in my circle of friends it was known I was doing well for myself financially at the time.  


He was going through a messy divorce and he needed a car so he could visit his baby daughter and take her places etc, anyway one day he just asks me straight out to lend him $2,500 to buy a car and I instantly shut him down by saying hell no. I could afford to loan him the money but the reason I didnt was I knew he would never pay me back and more than likely want to start treating me as if I was an ATM machine if I did.  


Fast forward a few months and he ends up finding out I gave (not loaned) I gave $400 to another friend on the proviso that they never come to me to ask for money again. They were about to be evicted from their place so I agreed to help them out this one time.  


So the friend I declined to help goes off at me, calls me all the names under the sun, says you call yourself a friend and you wont even help a good mate out but you help this guy. He viewed himself as a closer friend than the person I helped and to be fair he had been the closer friend for many years but we had started drifting apart not seeing each other all that much in the last couple of years, we ended up in a screaming match and say some things to each other we probably shouldnt have and that was the end of the friendship.  


So AITA for not lending him the money when I could afford to? Should I have just given him $2,500 knowing I would never see it again like I did with the $400?

 

not lending a friend money