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Input: I have a group chat with a few friends for the purpose of getting together and doing things, as well as just having fun and messing around. We like to get together every once and a while to hang out, and do some recreational activities. We all have fairly busy schedules, as we are all adults, so planning on doing things together can be a bit of a hassle sometimes. It’s nice to be able to get together at least once a week, but sometimes not even that is possible because our schedules don’t line up. 

I understand that people get busy and sometimes plans don’t work out, that’s just life. I’ve noticed however whenever I pitch an idea to do something on a particular day, not ONCE has the plan actually gone through. I’m understanding if my friends are busy and it doesn’t work for them, but when they say “that’s a great idea, let’s go!” or “works for me!” Isn’t that kind of expected that they should be able to go, or am I just crazy? It also seems when any of them make plans, it usually works for most of them and goes through. It kinda makes me feel like a shitty person how I try to make plans with my friends and it seems like they don’t really give a shit.

This most recent incident, I asked a few days ago if anyone wanted to get dinner, where two of my friends said they could go and one said they probably couldn’t. When the day arrives, I ask where everyone wants to go and I get no responses. Half an hour after we were supposed to meet up, one of my friends messages us saying that they have too much to do and can’t make it. The other friend straight up doesn’t respond. Third friend doesn’t either but they said they probably couldn’t anyways so I wasn’t upset about that. I reply “awesome, I guess I’ll just let you guys make all the plans since all of mine fall through.” Nothing. They even read it too. 

I then said: “cool, I guess nobody gives a shit,” and left the group chat. Now they’re individually messaging me but I’m not gonna respond because I don’t care about their justifications for being shitty friends. If you say you’re going to an event or enthusiastically respond in such a manner, then I don’t know why it would be unreasonable for me to be upset when it falls through last minute. Now if this happened once, it wouldn’t be the end of the world, but it seems like every damn time I try and set something up, this shit happens.

It makes me feel like trash when this happens. I still like hanging out with them, but it feels like it’s on their terms and never mine. Are my feelings justified or am I just being an asshole?

being upset with my friends