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Input: My SO has a substance abuse problem. He drinks heavily daily but has a high tolerance to alcohol, he also smokes weed daily to be able to feel ok. I met him this way, and I fell in love with him this way, so I don’t feel like I have the right to be angry at him for what he does. We’ve been living together for almost a year and I try my hardest to be supportive and understanding, but sometimes I just can’t. 


I came home from work around 10pm last night to find him feeling quite sad, he said he wasn’t feeling well(emotionally and physically) and that he had too much to drink. I could tell he was really sad so we laid down together and I told him to put his head on my chest so I could caress his hair and back. I wasn’t mad at him or upset at him in any way, I wanted to help him feel better and show him I love him. That is until he told me a “joke”. He said earlier at work him and a coworker were talking about substances they have tried in the past(acid and mushrooms) and about how messed up on them they’ve gotten. They were discussing ways that they have handled being with sober people while they themselves were f’d up on these substances. My SO said he told his coworker that he likes a challenge and that one of his favorite things to do is to try and trick people that he is sober while actually being f’d up. His coworker found this comment hilarious and apparently this comment was the joke. I didn’t find it funny at all, in fact, upon hearing this comment my entire feelings towards him changed and I became very angry and upset and hurt. 
My first thought upon hearing what he said was “so this is just a game to you? You have fun doing this?” 
He has told me in the past that he feels he is letting me down by drinking all the time, by being high and not productive and that he wants to change. I now feel that his comment implies that he really doesn’t care how much he drinks or that he is  always high and that he doesn’t care at all for trying to be sober. 

Keep in mind that he made this comment at work while he was pretty much sober(because work) and was re-telling it at night while drunk.

Due to the intensity of my feelings I tend to ‘shut down’ as to not feel anything and I become mostly ‘numb’ in the way I act. He apologized immediately but I just didn’t want to be near him. I fell asleep on the couch instead. This morning he apologized for being drunk last night but my feelings haven’t changed. I’m still angry and I’m still acting indifferent towards him. He left to work and has messaged me “I’m sorry” and “I miss you” but I’ve just ignored them. 


So am I an asshole for becoming very angry with him for what he said? Am I overreacting and blowing this comment out of proportion or do I have a reason to be upset?


getting angry at my so for a "joke" that he made