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Input: So I'm horny and home alone, I go on Grindr, see a hot guy, invite him over and we start messing around and whatnot. Well, his profile was hot, but in person, he wasn't someone I would normally go after. But he said he was just visiting, and my other FWB was out of town, so I knew this was just gonna be a one time thing, so I said why not. 

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I wasn't really getting off, so mid-coitus I reach for my phone and ask 

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Do you watch porn?

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Him: Yea, sometimes.

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Me: Okay \*\*Pulls up porn\*\*

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Him (after seeing the thumbnail): Okay, no thanks to that.

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So I put my phone away and continue fooling around. I tell him I'm getting tired.

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Him: Okay. Should I go then?

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Me: Yeah, my family might come back soon. 

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I ask him if he wants me to walk him out, but he refuses.

 

He gets back on grindr and messages me "Thanks for the shitty day, if you're not into someone, say it before so I don't exchange sexual energy with someone who doesn't embrace me as a soul." Then he says that I played porn without consent, and that I triggered his sexual trauma. He accused me of playing games and putting him on the spot when I asked about the porn. 

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I of course apologized for the awkward hookup and triggering his trauma. I thanked him for coming over anyway, because I did genuinely enjoy his company. 

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But here's the thing. I didn't know he was a sexual trauma victim. Obviously that's something to take very seriously, but as far as I know, everything I did was consensual. I asked if he wanted to watch porn, and then when he got uncomfortable I put it away. Sure it may be an uncomfortable question, but that is why I asked. Communication, right? And when I realized that I wasn't really getting anything out of the hookup, I told him that I was tired, and he took it as a signal to leave. So that's also consent. Just because I didn't enjoy it doesn't mean that I didn't get his consent at every step, and same for him. He got my consent at every step. How was I supposed to know that it wasn't going to go well. The whole point of getting consent is to avoid giving people trauma. But how am I supposed to get consent if simply asking a question (while we're already having sex mind you!) triggers the trauma?  

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Anyway, I let him talk about his opinions and feelings, and he did mine. He still thinks I wronged him, but he was at least glad that I listened to him.  

accidentally triggering a sexual trauma victim