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Input: He doesn't have real OCD, he's just ultra picky about things. He calls it his "OCD" so that's why I'm using the term here. Here are some examples of when this has become an issue:

- Putting the plastic sealers over our windows. First he just asked if I washed off the trim on the window I was working on, I said of course. That one didn't bug me one bit. Then, he wasn't outright looking over my shoulder, but I could see him walking slowly past the doorway and quietly scrutinizing what I was doing. I just got it done and moved onto the windows in my own room. When doing those, there was something about the paint that made the double sided tape not want to stick, so it kept popping off. I did the best I could and mentioned it to him in passing and he immediately asked if I wiped down the trim. I said of course again, this time I know that I was audibly annoyed. 

- Making food. I received a cast iron pan for Christmas from a good friend. When I showed it to him he basically started telling me all about how to use one and how to season it, all things that I already knew. I told him that I know all those things and I'll be sure to do it right. One night I was making steaks for us with it and I used the tip of my knife to flip the steak back over, he saw and immediately almost scoffed, "you're using metal in that pan?". I just told him that I'm being careful and that I knew what I was doing as politely as I could. Another one about food. He will sometimes ask me what spices I want to add to something, I pull a few things out and he basically watches the whole time. "I wouldn't use that, I think that might go better in something else, this is what I would usually use." My reaction at that point is just to tell him that he can go ahead pick the spices himself. The same thing happens with condiments or sauces. 

- One example happened when I was doing dishes, he was drying things as I put them in the dish rack. He reached out and tested the temperature of the water to make sure that it was hot enough to do dishes in. He didn't say anything, I assume because it was hot enough by his standards. This one just felt almost disrespectful, it felt like he saw me as someone that wouldn't even know what a good temperature for water would be to wash dishes.

- When we moved into the house, he did basically the same thing that he did with the window sealers but with spackling instead. I'd be part of the way through doing a room, and he'd come make small talk while scrutinizing the spots that had dried. Spackling usually takes two layers, especially if the hole was a bit bigger than a usual hole. He'd see one that had dried and caved in a little bit and mention that I needed to get that one again, not in a way that was like; "hey, you probably know this already, but this one here could definitely use another coat". But rather in a really condescending way like; "You're coming back to hit this spot, right?"


Those are all the big examples. There are some other smaller things, like nearly criticizing me for smoking a bowl soon before dinner or having a beer right before bed. Or even how I organized some areas of our basement, basically where we have instruments, computers, gear for activities and such. It can just get super annoying, especially after a long day. I guess I'm not sure how to feel about this stuff; am I really doing these things in objectively wrong ways or is he just taking things too far?


TL;DR: my brother is almost constantly scrutinizing the things that I do, especially in relation to work on our house or food, in a way that feels condescending. AIAT for reacting adversely on occasion or for being annoyed by it?

being very annoyed by my brothers "OCD" to the point that I react adversely