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Input: Background information. We have been married ten year, if it matters we have three kids. He is great with them. He cooks, fixes things around the house, and does all of the outside work. We both work full time. I am a physician and he is a analyst. 

With three kids, we don’t have a lot of time for a sex life. Probably 2-4 times a month, sometimes less. I have always been a morning person and with my job, I am tired and ready for bed at 9:00. That is about the time we get into bed after getting the kids to bed and get out of the shower. At this point, I am not in the mood for sex, just ready for sleep.  He has always been a night person and goes to bed closer to midnight. 

When we do have sex, he is a giving lover. He goes down on me until I tell him to stop. Going down on him hurts my jaw, so while I do it, it is usually only for a minute or two. I have never let him cum in my mouth. It just seems really gross to me. 

His birthday is coming up and he asked if I would let him cum in my mouth and swallow, as this is apparently on his sexual bucket list and no one has ever done it for him. Am I the asshole for straight up telling him no?

not wanting to swallow for my husband's birthday