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Input: I feel like a dick. But here is the deal. When my husband and I met, he was very active, worked out all the time, ate well and was involved in a lot of outdoor activity. I’ve never been a fitness buff or anything, but I have always been in shape. We got married and had 2 kids and we’ve been married 7 years and I love him, he’s my best friend, he’s an amazing husband and father, but he has gained like 75 pounds since we got married and lost all muscle tone and I just have a hard time finding him attractive anymore. We still have regular sex, we still get along well. But I find that when I look at old pictures of us I get really sad cause I miss when he had muscle tone. 

I get that he is busy with work and the kids but I feel like he doesn’t try. I’ll watch him eat cake and just feel physically disgusted by him eating calories. I feel like if the roles were reversed I would be so hurt by that! But I feel like the part that makes me an asshole is that I don’t really have to try to keep in shape. I do yoga and I try to eat semi-healthy but mostly my metabolism just keeps the weight off of me. I’ve weighed the same since high school (5’5” 120lbs), even after two pregnancies and I feel like if I did start to gain weight I would do something about it but I can’t say for sure cause I’ve never had to so maybe if it was hard for me like it is for him I would also just kinda give up on it. And I feel like he is such a loving person that he would never have these thoughts about me that I’ve been having about him. 

I don’t say anything mean to him about it, I make occasional comments about being concerned for his health, and the other day I showed him pictures from our honeymoon and been like, “oh look how young we looked before kids!” Hoping he would get the hint but he didn’t seem to. He talks about going back to the gym sometimes and I looked up nearby gyms and compared membership options for him but he just never went.  I don’t know if at this point in marriage I’m just supposed to be okay with not really being turned on by my spouse. 

AITA?

not being attracted to my husband after he has gained a lot of weight