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Input: 21 F here getting married in June. My mom’s working on her 3rd divorce now but this is in reference to her first marriage and my first ex step dad.

When I was 8 my mom and I lived in CA in a 3 bedroom apartment, we shared a room/bunk bed, and she rented the other 2 rooms out to tenants found on Craigslist. 

Alan moved into one of the rooms when I was 7. She started sleeping in his room and eventually they got engaged. 

He had already abandoned 2 daughters from 2 previous marriages, he never put in any effort to get to know me, in fact he wouldn’t even acknowledge me when I was in the same room with him.

After they got married I got the same treatment as before, sometimes worse. The only times he acknowledged me were to criticize the way I did my chores or to say whatever I had said in that moment was stupid. 

He convinced my mom to move to UT so we left CA (separated from the only people who ever made me feel like a child, gave me the freedom to be a kid, my aunts and cousins).

They divorced when I was 13/14 (by this point my mom had 2 more kids) and he fled to live in Hawaii. During this time money was very tight so my mom and us 3 kids rented a 1 bedroom basement apartment.

My mom was working 2 jobs (day and night) so my schedule was as follows: 

M-F I would (try) to go to school, I would get home at 3, then my mom would leave and wouldn’t be home until the next morning when I had to leave for school again. 

Yes, you read that right, I would watch (essentially raised) 2 babies from after school until the next morning for when I had to go to school. This included maintaining the house (laundry, dishes, dinner, vacuuming, cleaning up all the baby toys, etc), waking up several times a night to change diapers, and bottle feed the babies. 

Sometimes I wouldn’t make it to school the next morning because I was so tired from the day/night prior. Eventually I got so behind I had to drop out. 

Now that I’m getting married my mom has realized she doesn’t want to be married to her current husband. She’s planning to break up with him 2 weeks before my wedding. She has arranged for the kids to go to Alan’s house for 2 weeks while shit hits the fan with her divorce.

I have already told her that I don’t want him there since if he wanted to be at my wedding, maybe he should have shown some interest in me as a child. He very obviously didn’t give a shit about me or my future. 

I know full well my mom only wants him there for the social aspect and photo ops.

She called me this morning and said that during that time, she doesn’t feel comfortable asking Alan to just drop the kids off at my wedding (since they’ll still be with him during this time) and that he HAS to come or else my siblings won’t be in attendance.

I tried to explain where I was coming from but she flipped it on me and now I feel like I’m making a big deal out of nothing so AITA?

not wanting my ex stepdad at my wedding