Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Well I’m not using a throwaway or anything for this, you can see in my post history multiple mentions of my SO and mentions of our 5 year relationship and counting if you feel you can’t take me at my word (just thought I’d ward off the early SHP judgements) and also to those of you whose best advice is “leave her” “she sounds terrible” all that other stuff save your fingers some effort, I’m here to find out if I’m the asshole. I love that girl with every fiber of my body and want to spend the rest of my days on this earth with her weather it means taking care of her or enjoying the time with her. Would take moving some mountains to change how I feel about her. 

Anyways as mentioned in the title my fiancé suffers from bipolar disorder, which can be as much of an issue to me as it is to her depending on what’s going on. Her negative manifests consist of severe depressive lows with really inwards focused depressions, however if I happen to accidentally make her upset any of her petpeeves anything like that while she is on a low she will yell at me. Things that would usually be super simple interactions become like diffusing a bomb with the potential of an explosion. And as much of a shock as it might be, full grown man and all, this shit is really getting to me. It actually hurts me because I value her opinion so highly and every time she puts me down like that my self worth/opinion suffers.

So this brings me to my questionable behavior, after a couple months of this type of situation arising fairly regularly I straight told her that I feel like our once awesome relationship had turned a tad abusive emotionally on my end and she asked me to explain, when I was done putting it to her as I’ve put it to you here she was reduced to tears wondering how she could do that to me and telling me it wasn’t her intention. To sum it up I was walking on eggshells and felt very unwanted/unloved. She honestly didn’t realize it, probably because of the BPD although I don’t know. And now I often catch her crying relating back to the feeing that she was abusing me far more often than I think about her negative treatment of me (notice I said was because after this discussion, she decided to try just walking away rather than yelling and it’s been working wonderfully) and I actually feel really bad and feel like I may have gone and crossed a line that can’t really be uncrossed. 

So reddit AITA for calling my fiancé out? 



telling my fiancé I feel borderline abused because for these last few months her bipolar has her yelling at me and it's eroding my self esteem