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Input: Throwaway account as a lot of our friends use reddit and know our usernames. Mobile user, apologies for bad formatting etc etc.

So me and my SO are having an argument and decided to write this post together (for fairness so we are both repesented equally) to see who's in the wrong. We know it's a small issue but it's causing quite a debate between us.

He was unpacking his Christmas presents, a few of which are heavy books. He decided to place them on top of a painting I've done recently which I'm extremely proud of and which I've put over 30+ hours of work into. This painting means a lot to me. I then picked the books up an hour or so later and noticed that the painting had been lying at an angle between the wall and table slightly, such that it had been bent when the books had been placed onto it.

I told my SO I believed it showed a lack of respect toward my belongings that he hadn't checked to make sure my painting wouldn't be damaged when placing heavy books on top of it. And yes, i did shout it a little, as the painting means a lot to me and it upset me that he bent it. He argues that he assumed it was flat and therefore didn't check, and although is at fault for not checking he believes this doesn't show a lack of respect towards personal belongings and takes offense at being accused of this.

I've been really upset about my painting being bent, and he's really upset that I shouted at him for bending it. He specifically takes issue with my use of the phrase "lack of respect" as he says I'm not using the phrase the way he understands it and it upsets him to be accused so flippantly of not taking care of my things. I believe that not checking if he was going to damage my painting IS a lack of respect toward it and he should accept responsibility for it.

So, who's in the wrong?

saying he showed a lack of respect for my belongings