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Input: Okay so I (M21) have been with my girlfriend (20) for a year now. When we first started having sex it was pretty good, better than any sexual experiences I've had before. That lasted a few months, tops.

Eventually I started noticing that I am the only one who ever initiates sex (except for one time, which I feel kind of petty for counting). I asked her about it and she told me she essentially has no sex drive.

I was kind of hurt. That went against everything she had told me about herself. She told me before we started having sex that it was her favorite thing, that she had a really high sex drive and that it was a problem for her when she was in high school.

She reassures me that it isn't my fault, every time she brings it up, but idk. I've started getting in my head about it and now I can't last for more than 3 seconds when I'm inside her (making our sex even worse and putting me further into my head). When I think of sex now I just get frustrated instead of excited.

Though talking with her I now know that her last bfs dick "fit her better" with it's upward curve and made her cum everytime. I never make her cum through penetration and rarely can through fingering. She used to get so wet there would be a puddle under her on the bed. With me she's so dry we almost always need lube. We can go months without having sex, if I never initiated we'd never have it again. I also know that her first few sexual experiences she was more or less forced into, and she's mentioned that that was when she was most turned on even though she didn't want to be.

I know she isn't cheating. And she will suck my dick or have sex with me whenever I ask or initiate, but I know she doesn't like it and can't get out of my head.

A few weeks ago I was trying to finger her to orgasm before we had sex and it wasn't doing anything for her. She started going down on me and I couldn't get it up. She asked me if something was wrong and I told her that sex with her makes me want to bang my head against the wall. I keep trying and trying but it doesn't get any better. She started crying immediately. I love her so much and making her cry broke my heart. I know I should have handled it better, but does that make me the asshole? And what can we do?? 

being sexually frustrated