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Input: A couple weeks ago, I was watching a movie alone with one of my best female friends, "Mary." We started cuddling (which wasn't out of the ordinary) but she soon became more touchy than normal and I kissed her. After a brief pause, she kissed me back and things progressed from there. We've been physical since.

Originally, we wanted to keep everything secret- we share the same friends (3 of whom I live with) and had our fears about their reactions but after that first night, I was terrified and needed to talk to someone. I had risked not only my friendship with Mary but with our mutual friends as well. Mary also used to have a fling with a friend from my social organization, Drew, who I heard still had feelings for her from a mutual friend (but I did not really believe this because he was/is active with other people, did not speak to me about his interests in Mary personally at all, and had called things off with her months ago). I decided to talk about what happened with my friend and roommate, Bill, who was understanding.

More and more people found out. First, my other roommates, James and Brent, who caught Mary leaving one morning. Both were furious that I would risk ruining our friendships and treated me as such. Brent was even angrier because, from his perspective, I had betrayed Drew. Eventually, Drew heard about the situation without my knowledge, to which he reacted extremely negatively. Drew hasn't reached out to me, but I want him to know I wasn't trying to hurt him and truly didn't know he felt so strongly about Mary,

Several mutual friends are angry at me now, and are essentially "ghosting" me. I just want to talk this out with them but no one wants to listen, even though I meant no harm to anyone. This whole situation wasn't planned, it just happened. Notably too, the blame seems to be disproportionately falling on me despite the fact that what happened between me and Mary was mutual. 

I have had feelings for Mary (on and off for three years) but our situations had never aligned until now. I know I really like her but I don't know if that is just because I’m close with her and attracted to her or if it's something more. Few of my friends seem to care that I feel conflicted.

My biased issues with this situation are as follows: If my friends have beef with me they can talk to me not just treat me like I don’t exist. People are acting like Mary can’t make her own decisions. Mary and Drew have straight up had months to make a move if something was going to happen.

So please, reddit, am I the asshole for this? I'm going to talk with Drew to try and clear the air, but most of our mutual friends are treating me like dirt. Most of the mutual friends between me and Mary are also ghosting me, treating me like garbage and acting like I have something to apologize to them for. Do I? Is it all my fault that we both mutually hooked up? Should I have ignored my feelings because one of my mutual friends potentially still had feelings for her?

hooking up with my best friend