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Input: My friend, I'll say N, was telling me about a place she heard from her mother called Cat Island. We were then talking about like "OMG WE *HAVE* TO GOOO" and stuff, blah blah, blah. Then we decided, hey why don't we? 
We researched how much money a trip to Japan would be as well as the prices of admission for other places we would want to go and figured out about how much money we'd need to raise in order to afford the amount for 3 people (me, N, and her mom who also really wanted to go and would be our guardian, of course [we're in high school]). 

N said we should make a GoFundMe and post it on FB so I did (probably won't get any donations because it's for no special cause, but it doesn't hurt to have it up I guess). We're planning to get jobs and sell things to get most of the money.

Later, our friend, A, saw the post and got very upset. She she started writing gibberish in our group chat and saying how she'd wanted to go to Japan for years and that we knew this which made her ask me "R U TRYING TO SPITE ME?"
She kept saying how she's going to make her own GFM and do her own trip since N and I decided to do our own thing.
She messaged me in private and started saying how I'm inconsiderate and never consider other people. She said I destroyed her and asked why I'd make a plan without her. What's odd is she wasn't messaging N even though we were both equally involved in this plan. 
N was confused and tried messaging A but A wasn't saying much apparently. 
A kept insulting me for things unrelated to the situation.

The reason we didn't invite her was

 1. because she's not allowed to talk to N or associate with her due to some legal drama that happened with their brothers
 (two friends were being reckless and got expelled together so court said their families can't hang out but they secretly message because N has 2 facebooks, one under a fake name)

2. We weren't thinking about it, as we were hyping one another over the potential trip, though funding would take a couple years

3. A wouldn't care to see cats or do any of the things we'd plan because she dislikes cats and doesn't care for Disney (we wanted to go to Tokyo Disneyland as well), etc. We planned and determined the prices according to what we wanted to do, seeing Cat Island being the main reason for going. 

We offered to let her come if she can help raise money and gets parental approval from the start of her being upset but she said she wasnt mad about that..(?)

A told me she apparently could talk to N so as to guilt me, i presume. I told her I didn't know since she'd tell me to refer to N as a different name to avoid getting in trouble when around her parents. When I said that, she said she didn't know if her mother would be okay with it. In which case, idk how she expected N or me to know if she didn't know herself and never told us after figuring she could.

Thing is, she couldn't..!

N invited A to a carnival in hopes of making A feel better and A responded in saying to wait until the court drama is over (the situation with their brothers which prevents the families from associating).

So, AITA?








planning a trip with my friend without another friend