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My boyfriend and his friends go away for a weekend and this year I am able to go. I was told the weekend was solely devoted to getting as drunk as possible and hanging around having fun. At the time I was invited, I was the only female going and asked them if it was okay if I could bring a friend of mine. The OK was given, I asked, and she said yeah. I’ll call her E. 


Sometime between late November and mid-December, E expressed to me that she had an “intrusive thought” (her words) of being drunk and woken up in the middle of the night with a guy on top of her trying to have sex. She said she knows it’s happened to other people and it could happen to her as well. I responded as compassionately as I could to reassure her that she would be fine and god forbid something did happen, I would hold the guy accountable and get authorities involved. At the end of the conversation it seemed that all fears were soothed and things would be fine. 


That was until I got a text from E a few hours later saying she was going to meet a guy from Tinder in the near future.  That wasn’t my problem, E is an adult and can do what she likes. My issue is with what was said next. She communicated that she had planned on watching movies with him and “getting dick” (again, her words). There was no other context, no clarification as to when this encounter would happen. I assumed (I know, I know) that it was going to be happening the day of them meeting for the first time. I was livid. In my mind, E had just accused these guys I consider friends to be predators and was fearful of them raping her, but was totally fine with hooking up with this Tinder guy she had never met before and had no fear of being assaulted by him. E never mentioned the fear of being assaulted by Tinder guy. 


Another piece of information: E has told me that she’s attracted to not one but two, of my boyfriend’s friends who would be with us that weekend. I’ll call them T and J. J has a girlfriend and T has been single a few months now. T and E talked, but T wasn’t interested and it died off. E has expressed wanting to hook up with T but T is not that interested. T has said however that if he was intoxicated and feeling E, he would hook up with her if she still wanted to. I warned against it but we’re all adults and can make our own decisions.


I didn’t express my concerns and hurt with E about what she said until the next day when I felt that I could respond calmly. I asked her when she planned on hooking up with Tinder guy, where, and how and why I was upset that she thought my friends could be predators. She backtracked. Suddenly it was , “oh i’m not going to have sex with him, i’m scared of him too,” and so on. I felt a tad better, but a few days later that fear of mine popped up again. The conversations seemed weird to me and it didn’t seem like she cared that I was upset about what she said and was just trying to save face. It then crossed my mind that E could be actively seeking drama. I wanted to give E the benefit of the doubt, but the thought that she could ruin someone’s life because she was drunk and regretted hooking up with them was constantly on my mind. (E has said before that she doesn’t want her first time to be a hook up. If that were to happen I don’t see why she wouldn’t regret it later, especially if T doesn’t engage with her the way E wants him to. I know that some false accusations are indeed because the female was upset and vengeful.)


Disclaimer: I’ve never seen E really intoxicated so I don’t know how she is. She doesn’t have a history of lying or exaggerating things that have happened either. Doesn’t mean she wouldn’t.  And mixing that with alcohol is not a good idea. At all. I could say the same for the guys, I’ve never seen them assault someone, but it doesn’t mean they wouldn’t. (just playing devil’s advocate here) There is also no history of assaults, physical or sexual, happening during this weekend in the past. 


I rescinded E’s invitation for the sake of my sanity and so I can have a good time. Was it wrong of me to think she could possibly do that? Am I wrong for prioritizing my experience when she has no history of doing seedy things? 

thinking my friend could falsely accuse another friend of rape