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Input: Backstory: My friend (f/31) is getting married in September. She is the second oldest of four sisters (and two brothers, who are irrelevant). Her Maid of Honor is her youngest sister (YS).

Said YS is married herself and even though she is in her mid-20s, I've always known her to be a bit childish and unsocial.

YS created a group chat for my friends bachelorette party a few weeks ago. This group consists of YS, me and 39 other people. She just threw seemingly any woman my friend has ever known into this groupchat.

Turns out, YS had no idea about what to do for the party. So instead, she thought us 40 people could organize it all together. Even better, she had absolutely no ideas and not even a general clue of what her sister would like (and most importantly: dislike) to do during her party.

This went as well as anyone could have predicted: there were a lot of ideas, some even really great, but nobody could agree on anything, how long, where, how expensive [etc. Best](https://etc.Best) of all: we couldn't even agree on a date.

So naturally we were at a stand-still for weeks on end.

Now, my friend is getting married in September but her BP needs to happen before June because she and her future husband are currently building a house and they let everyone know that those months until the wedding would be off-limits for them.

So of course YS then came up with the brilliant plan to surprise-kidnap her sister on a weekend in July.

That's kind of where I lost my head.

I agree that maybe I shouldn't have done this in the group-chat but I was furious at YS' lack of leadership and her almost desinterest in the entire process. She just wanted results, but didn't want to do anything for it.

So I told her that kidnapping my Friend in July was a stupid idea, that I would not be a part of disrespecting her wishes like that and that it was her (YS) fault that we had gotten so close to the cut-off date without even a tiny idea of what we would do during her party.

She answered that she thought it was going rather well and I told her that so far the whole thing was pathetic and sad and that I had expected that she as the Maid of Honor would not just at least give a crap about all of this, but that she would come up with a few strong ideas (including dates and plans) of what we could all do together to celebrate our Friend instead of leaving it all to us.

I caught quite a bit of heat for that outburst and a lot of people defended YS, saying that she only meant well etc. There were a few people defending what I said as well though (although a lot nicer) and three of my friends PM'd me to let me know they agree.

So far, she's been giving me the silent treatment and we haven't talked about it any further. The party is now set to be in May, but we haven't gotten any further than that.

So ... AITA for telling her it was her responsibility to at least come up with a rough idea of her sister's Bachelorette Party?

assuming the Maid of Honor should organize the Bachelorette Party