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Input: It happened a while ago, but it still bugs me.  
There was a guy, I knew. He was a step father to my ex.
He was an extreme alcoholic, who would steal from his own house and family (wife and kids) just to have money for alcohol. His daughters saw him at his worst. He got kicked out of house by wife multiple times after he lost his job due to alcoholism and left her alone with all life expenses as well as some debt. He was not a bad person per se, he clearly lost to his inner demons. Yet as a result he made everyone around hate him, including his daughters not wanting to see him anymore.    
At some point he has commited suicide. Suddenly everyone started behaving as if he was a saint or martyr. As if he was a pure good, just put in unfavorable situation that overwhelmed him. They started taking blame for everything that happened to him despite the fact that it absolutely wasnt their fault. They even tried to help him while he was alive but he refused to see the issue.  
And so I have told my ex, that he has brought it upon himself. That his story was sad, as he wasn't bad guy but I do not feel bad for him as his own actions led to this. He refused their help and she should not guilt herself foe his death.  
She was the only one I told that. The hell that broke loose... Was extreme. Until the very end of relationship few months later she did not forgive me.
Am I the asshole for my approach? I tried to be understanding, but at the same not let my ex fall into the spiral of guilt and sadness.

not following the rule "speak only in superlatives or do not speak at all" after someone's death