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Input: My husband and I have been together for 17 years or so, married 12-both 41. His family is in another state so I only spend time with my MIL for maybe two weeks out of a year. She is an amazing person, so warm and caring and considerate-I’m very lucky. He comes from a religious very family oriented situation, while I grew up in a very fractured dysfunctional family, never talk about your feelings or anything real. My MIL has always tried to connect with me via emails and phone calls, and always says ‘love you’ at the end of our interactions. 

I appreciate this and it means a lot to me, but I can’t say it back and I feel shitty about it. I don’t say that easily, because I need to really mean it in my bones if I do. I’ve had some fairly traumatic situations with two different stepfathers and though I know an in law isn’t the same, it does still feel a bit like having family foisted on me again that I didn’t choose. I logically understand that by choosing to get married, I’m now part of his family, but due to my crazy past that just doesn’t mean as much to me as I wish it did. I’m kind to my MIL, I thank her for kindnesses and do my best to connect with her, but I just can’t bring myself to say ‘love you’. 

I’m not even sure I don’t, I just don’t feel comfortable saying it. But-i know it would make her so happy and it’s just a few words that aren’t completely untrue. Should I just say it back? AITA?

not saying I love you to my MIL