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Input: So, some quick background, my husband 3 kids and I moved in with my MIL back in July to help raise our 2 nephews because she works 2nd shift ft and I'm a stay at home mom. There's more details in my post history if anyone cared to dig. 

My MIL is mostly a very nice lady. She can be very passive aggressive though, instead of acting like an adult and saying she'd prefer something else, she pouts or rage cleans. My husband has always been lazy when it comes to helping with kids, he will be staring at his phone while I'm busy as he'll, and when I ask him to jump in a nd help, acts like he's totally put out. 

Last week, we got a call my BIL was found unresponsive. After several days in hospital,  he was declared brain dead. MIL decided to donate his organs, so it took several more days in hospital while they did testing and set up donations. This is also winter break for the kids (5 total). I was happy to jump in (99% of childcare already on me, I am now doing 100%). That's all over now, and his service is Sun. 

Kids have been sick, so has MIL, and now I've got it. I was up all night before last with screaming 3 yo with ear infection,  got no sleep. Now I'm exhausted and sick too. I told husband and MIL if I was taking care of kids last night, bedtime was going to be early, as I'm sick too and exhausted. MIL had been going through pics at table for last few days. Her rule is only food at table. So dinner last night,  I started to throw down a blanket for a picnic dinner. She got bit snappy Says she was cleaning table off. Ok. Tgen bedtime snack, table still mostly clear except for album directly in front of her. I set 3 of kids at table, said be careful with your drinks. If she didn't want them at table, she could have said as much, I'd have moved them elsewhere. Instead she grabbed her things went into bedroom and slammed door then started sobbing loudly. Kids were freaked out by it, so I was then reassuring them that grandma was just sad about thier uncle, it was ok, just brush teeth lay down with thier tablets. Once they were in bed, I went and sat on futon in front room, only other place for me to sleep. I left lights on in case she decided to come back out with pics. She came out in PJs, got drink went back in bedroom. I assumed that meant she was going to bed o r at least her room for night. So I finally turned off light laid down. Few minutes later, I heard 3 yo crying. Husband had laid down with her at 630 fell asleep, left me with other 4 kids. I told husband his mom was upset, ran over what happened. He went off on me, saying I should have asked what she wanted, or should have known. I was a bitch for being mean to his grieving mom. 

I'm truly trying my best to be helpful, but I'm also sick and was already at my breaking point as caretaker. My break got cancelled twice with the goings on due to my BIL dying. I understand that, it sucks for me, but it is what it is. But I think expecting me to read Mil's mind is a bit much. She could have easily said hey, not at table, I'd have changed plans. Instead she threw a fit. 

So, AITA for thinking even if grieving, an adult should be able to express their feelings to me without all the drama? Keep in mind, this is not new to her grieving period, she's done this several times since we have been here.

not being psychic and knowing what my grieving MIL wants