Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: There’s a recent meme that’s been blowing up on the internet lately of a transgender women who goes into GameStop and the cashier says sir instead of mam, which the transgender female doesn’t like. She (he) decides to kick stuff around (games), yell and demand that the cashier call him a her. In a customer service setting, it’s both respectful and a way to keep a customer but the other customer asking her (him) to relax got the transgender women upset, starts kicking stuff more violently and I believe even threatening the both the customer and the worker. I say this all because someone posted on fb that it’s never ok to misgender someone and that she (he) is a meme because they are transgender, which I felt it’s more the way she (he) acted. We got into a fb argument and the person who posted it explains how I’m transphobic if I think it’s ok to “pick and choose” when to respect ones pronouns. All I said was, if I were threatened and treated disrespectfully by a trans person, I would misgender them. Which got her super pissed and told me she was very offended. Look, I believe in respecting people’s pronouns but if they are being the asshole to you, threatening you or being hateful to you, you shouldn’t have to respect them as they aren’t respecting you. So I told her that and she goes on to say that misgendering someone is the same as being racial to someone, which I think isn’t true. Being a raciest and saying someone’s assigned gender are not the same in my eyes, especially when it’s said by someone who says she identifies as “various genders and no gender all the same time”. She then calls me a female (I’m a guy) since she feels I didn’t respect the transgender females gender, which is hypocritical as she literally told me that you don’t get to pick and choose what to call someone under any circumstance. I just believe to let live, if someone wants to call themself something, you should respect it but if you choose not to, it’s rude and shouldn’t happen; but it shouldn’t be the same as calling someone of color a racial slur. So now that you read all that, please tell me; Am I the asshole? 

not thinking misgendering someone is the same as using a racial slur? long story but worth the read