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Input: This is gonna be long and sound stupidly petty. There's your upfront warning so you can click away if you don't want to read about a bunch of gaming bullshit. It matters a lot to me and my friends but I get that it won't seem important to some other people. 

So I joined this gaming club back in December and thought they were great people. The last team I was on were kind of assholes about my skill level, and I was super happy to be on a new team that seemed full of kind people. It was also a lot more gender diverse than my last team - which means no getting snide comments over sounding like a girl.

I made friends with these people and cared about them. In one instance I stayed up half the night trying to help a teammate who was psychotic while he threatened to kill me. I spent my own money on a game for another teammate so he could play it with me. I always made myself available to practice with people and help them out. Basically, this was an actual friendship group around a game, not just some randos to compete with. 

I joined as a "flex" player meaning I was supposed to fill in for whatever was needed for the group's activities, but with a promise that when a slot came open on the A team, I would get that slot.

Not long after joining, because the team was in desperate need of more people who played a particular role, I started learning it. I discovered I was GOOD at it. I'd previously mostly done a different role, but playing this role instead made me feel excited about my hobby again. Not only was I better at it, and it seemed to fit my natural skills more, but I felt like there was so much more possibility to improve since I knew exactly what I needed to learn. The team nevertheless went ahead and recruited someone else to handle that role, which was fine since I wasn't that good at it yet. 

We had team practices regularly where we were supposed to learn and get better together. I got a LOT of negative feedback in my new role, and after getting bullied in my previous team over my skill level, I just wasn't really in a place to handle it. It seemed like almost every time we lost a fight, I'd be blamed, or told I was "feeding" (basically doing something so stupid that it helps the enemy), even when it WASN'T my fault. The team asked if I could handle criticism and I said yes, but most of the time I wasn't getting helpful notes about what I could do better - just being told the same unhelpful things over and over. We had one coach who had a lot of helpful tips, but he wasn't able to be there very often. 

Meanwhile, when I went outside the club and played with other folks, they were really impressed at how ridiculously fast I was learning the new role. I played as a sub, or in friendly informal matches, with teams WAY above the rank of me and mine, and did well. So I just chalked it up to our team's coach maybe being overly critical, playing favourites, or failing to update her opinions after seeing my beginner performance. 

I offered to make time to practice coordinating with some other people, but they never really got back to me about it, even after saying repeatedly that they would. 

We had a big match as a team, which basically determined if we would stay in our tournament, and which I was super excited about because the matches are streamed/commentated and some of my friends watch me play. I was REALLY committed to practice before the match, and probably put in more work than anyone else. Then on the day of the match, they left me on the bench until the very last game - when we had already lost enough points that it did not matter, and it was just a show match at that point. 

I didn't really complain at that point though, as I was just relieved to have been allowed to play at all after how quickly I had picked up a new role. 

Some time after this, though, I figured out the reason why it seemed like only some of the people ever practiced and played with me. The management's clique basically had secret extra accounts and played in a secret voice chat, hidden from the rest of us, so we wouldn't be able to ask to join in. I only realised after someone hinted about it in the general chat, saying there would be team activities later for some people, "you know who you are", nod wink. After I confronted the team captain about it, she said that she had trust issues and did not want to be guilted into playing competitively with people who aren't as good as her and would cause her to lose.

At this point I was just confused about, if they thought I was such a bad player and didn't trust me or want to hang out, I was still technically a member of the club/team. Everyone I asked about it verbally reassured me that they thought I was great, saw potential, loved me and wanted me around... but the behaviour didn't change.

Some time after this, the team started trying out new players. One of my good friends tried out for the team, and I really threw my weight behind advocating for the friend. It wasn't just that I wanted to be able to hang out with them, but I genuinely thought they would be a great fit for the team. They were on the same team I used to be on and I sort of felt a responsibility to "rescue" them from the kinda bullying atmosphere there. 

The management rejected my friend, and instead brought on an old friend of one of our coaches, who played the same role as me. It was clear that he'd be playing that role in team activities and matches, meaning I would get to play much less. I made it clear as politely as I could that I was pretty hurt by this - both that I had been ignored about my friend, and that I was being replaced. I was reassured that the team still really valued/wanted me, and the new player was a replacement for the other guy, and my role wouldn't change. I still felt as though there was an element of cliqueyness/favouritism, with how the coach's old friend had been prioritised, but I decided to let it go. I kept just putting work in to improve my own game. 

But definitely after that I was pretty hurt, and discussed the fact I was hurt by venting to someone who then told the entire management basically about all the stuff I'd assumed would be kept private. 

Time went by and basically nothing changed - people ignored me, the clique hid in their secret chat, I got told off at practice for the smallest mistakes, and I was not getting the play time I wanted. But I kept asking, and the staff (particularly the team captain) kept reassuring me that they wanted to be my friends and wanted me on the team. 

One of the assistant coaches, the B roster coach, told me that I would be the first priority, A roster, player for my role if I beat the other guy in internal matches. I did, consistently. I've since learned that he basically did not have the authority to make that promise. 

I was done getting blamed, so I started saying stuff back. Nothing that seemed toxic to me, but if someone angrily told me that I had done something wrong, if I disagreed I would just say, "yes, I know we weren't coordinated there, but I communicated clearly what I was doing and I don't know what else I can do", or "yes I know I died because I was alone, but I needed you guys to come to me, I couldn't come to you in that situation". 

After one team night, the management dragged me into a chat with the 5 of them and me, and basically told me I was getting a warning for being toxic. I was shocked, and couldn't think of what I said, so I asked, again as politely as I could, what I had said that was hurtful so I could fix my behaviour. Our coach could not tell me. She went off on a rant about how I had been unacceptably angry, "had my claws out" (whatever that means), accused me of tearing into another player, etc, and I just asked her WHAT EXACTLY I HAD SAID. She couldn't tell me. At first she claimed she couldn't remember but it was right after she told us to stop arguing. I remembered exactly what had been said at that moment - the B roster's captain had criticised me for making a play without giving him sufficient up front communication, and I said that I couldn't have given him much more because I had a small window to pull it off in. Nothing toxic, just basically asking him to stop blaming/criticising me mid-match. Our coach just mumbled something about how maybe it wasn't what I said but the way I said it, then we dropped it... after she basically threatened to kick me off the team. 

In private I mentioned to a couple of my friends that I thought that was pretty unfair.

I also said something to the nicer coach about how I really appreciated all his help, but was frustrated at the head coach for saying stuff to me without thinking constantly. I said I recognised she was really trying and was often trying to solo coach the entire team, but I would just rather she say nothing at all than say things that just frustrated me. He ended up not replying. 

The next few games after that, this same guy who'd accused me of being toxic (B roster coach) was ON MY CASE. Like the whole time he couldn't shut up about how badly I was playing. After every incident I asked the staff to talk to him about it, and they said it was handled, but then he'd act the same way in the next game.

Kept asking if the team was suuure they actually wanted me around. Everyone was like yeah definitely we want to be your friends. 

The team captain said she had come up with an idea to help resolve the situation. I had been asking for more official practice time, basically so I could learn to coordinate better with these people and they would stop thinking I'm a bad player, and so everyone could be included rather than having the cliquey bullshit. The staff said they were too stressed and busy to organise any more events or activities, so I made it clear I would be happy to do so. They gave me a role as eve

getting angry and getting kicked out of my gaming club