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Input: Background: I have been dating this woman for one and a half years as of now, let's call her "Lucy". We have a lot in common, care for one another, and helped each other get through a couple of rough patches in our lives. 

Last week, her dad died at the age of 74 of a heart attack. To be blunt, me and him have a shitty relationship. Since Lucy introduced me to her family, her dad has taken a lot of time to insult me personally and put me down. I tell him my profession, (factory worker) and he says "Yeah, you don't look like the kind of person who uses his head much", never mind that I casually mention that I had a 3.5 GPA and got a bachelor's degree in criminal justice earlier. He also likes to criticize my looks, saying that "I look like shit" and once when I went to his house to return some containers we used for a party he says "I thought I smelled something fowl enter my home." He does this when Lucy is not around (bathroom, helping in kitchen, etc), but he'll be more subtle with his insults when she is around.

Lucy tells me the news and I put up a fake smile because I care for her and she lost her dad. I ask when is the funeral and she doesn't say. I asked her last Wednesday and no date has been confirmed. During such a time I agreed to dog-sit for a family friend who would be out of country the day after Valentine's Day. I tell Lucy this and she says "oh that's when my dad's funeral is at x time, can you make it to the reception?" I tell her I can't because I need to take care of the dogs and because I don't want to go. She asks if I don't like going to funerals, I tell her that I'm ok at funerals, I just don't want to go too her dad's funeral.

At this point, Lucy is getting upset and starts yelling at me that I never liked her dad and that I should go because she needs support. At first, I keep calm because she's getting emotional, but after a while I snap at her. I tell her what her dad says to me when she's not around, that I never liked him as a person, and that if it wasn't for me loving her, I would have nothing to do with him. I then tell her that I don't want to sit in a room feeling sorry for a man that I don't respect or have any sympathy for. Lucy snaps and calls me an "asshole" and that she'll have to rethink our relationship after the funeral is over.

This fight happened on Sunday and so far I've not received any text from Lucy since then. I'm afraid to text her because the only thing she would want to hear is an apology or an agreement to go too the funeral. I don't want our relationship to end because I do care for her. So am I the asshole for not going to the funeral of her dad?

refusing to go too the funeral of my gf's dad