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Input: Honestly I can hardly believe this really happened myself, so I know it probably looks like a shp, but bear with me here.

So, my friend, let's call her Kallie, is on the debate team. There's this guy, let's call him Josh, that has a crush on her. I want to outline here that Josh is an asshole (he gossips, backstabs, and uses people to get what he want, and he's also *so* dramatic) and we've been snapping at each other since freshman year. However, and this is important, we're co-captains of the speech and debate team (he's in charge of speech, I'm in charge of debate). So we have kind of an uneasy peace going.

So, as it turns out, Josh decided to ask Kallie to prom. She tells me about this and is really mad. I asked why. Here's how our conversation went:

Kallie: Well, he asked me out before and I said no

Me: But that was at the beginning of the year. Anyway, what did you say to him then?

Kallie: I said I was just really busy and not looking for a relationship, maybe later. 

Me: Well that isn't exactly the clearest way to say you have no interest... but what did he say this time. 

Kallie: *shows me the text he sent her, and it says 'hey, I was wondering if you want to go to prom with me'*

Me: That's not that bad...

Kallie: He asked me out even after I clearly said I wasn't interested.

Me: *didn't think this would come up again, so I decided to drop it* Sure

But a few days later, Josh gets called to the principal's office for 'harrassment'. He says he didn't harrass Kallie in any way. Kallie says he did.

Now, I get dragged into this. Why? I'm Kallie's friend, and co-captain with Josh, and I have a pretty good rep with the teachers and principal, so they call me to ask for another perspective.

So I had to think about what to say. On one hand, Josh is normally an asshole, and Kallie's my friend. But thinking of it logically: Josh asks her out at the beginning of the year, she instead of being clear about her feelings just gives him a vague answer about being too busy and even says 'maybe later'. He then waits more than half a year without bothering her, and then politely asks her out to prom. That doesn't sound like harrassment to me.

So that's what I told the principal, and when everyone in the club asked me how I answered the principal, I was honest with what I said. Most people, including Josh, were happy, and most people said I was being reasonable. But a few people, including Kallie, were mad.

Don't get me wrong, I value my friendship with Kallie, but I honestly don't think Josh was harassing her. 

Aita?



supporting an asshole accused on harassment over my friend who accused him