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Input: I feel like a bit of a shallow asshole, but physical attraction and intimacy feels like something I need to have in a relationship, and I know sex is also very important for them. They are quite significantly overweight - not quite morbidly obese, but well into obese.  There are a few complicating factors.  

The first problem comes from the fact that they are probably the best friend I have ever had, and we get along very well. The fact that we are so close is the main reason I'm asking - I want to do everything I can to avoid hurting them, because they don't deserve it.  

Secondly, their weight is a sensitive issue. They have taken steps to try to lose it, but it does not seem like they really commit to following through - losing a handful of pounds, then quitting on diet or workout plans. I have tried to offer my help alongside those things, including going to the gym together, but those plans tend to fall through as well.  

The third, and probably hardest part, is the fact that we have been physically intimate in the past. A large part of that came from the fact that I had recently existed a relationship wherein I fell out of love with someone, but found difficulty leaving them due to their mental and physical health problems, so we had not been intimate for a long time. After leaving that relationship, I met this friend very soon afterwards, and I was desperate for intimacy but too depressed to seek it out, so things just sort of happened. I realized quickly that I wasn't attracted to obese people, but again, I was in a terrible mental place where I just wanted to feel good. He was in a similar place, only half-jokingly mentioning "using me" to feel better about themselves.  We did our thing for a few months, but eventually it just sort of faded away. 

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This has gotten a lot longer than I expected, but to sum it up they have recently been pressuring me about pursuing a relationship, and why I am not willing to despite how well we get on. The truth is that their weight is unattractive, but if I told them that I feel it would hurt them a great deal, but if I told them something else it would be a lie. Obviously, telling them "I will date you if you lose weight" is shitty and manipulative - but is telling them the truth about why I do not want to the same thing? I want to do everything I can to avoid hurting them, but it seems like the only option is dishonesty. Thanks for the perspective. 

telling my friend I do not want to date them due to their weight