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Input: To clarify some things quickly; My friend goes by they/them and this is not a “I have feelings for one of them so I can’t be happy” kind of deal, their “boyfriend” is just.. awful. 

I know friends are supposed to be supportive and there for you so maybe I didn’t approach it right but there’s just so much with this guy and hearing my friend moon over him after an earlier interaction in which we were both discussing nasty comments he made towards our underage friend is just. Jarring. And I finally admitted it was bothering me. 

For context as to why I don’t like my friends boyfriend; 

- Boyfriend was 26 when they first met and basically groomed them and had sex with my friend the day they turned 18. 

-Boyfriend constantly makes nasty lewd comments about our underage 16 year old friend. Like really nasty shit asking my friend if a threesome is ever going to happen and basically sexualizing younger friend everytime they see them online. 

-Boyfriend has constantly moved friend to tears, calling them ugly or being outright mean for no reason, one time my younger friend and I came over only to find friend in tears over their boyfriend comparing them to a clown. One time their boyfriend “broke up” with them and claimed he was going to get married just to hurt my friend.!

-Boyfriend insults their fashion sense constantly, making them insecure and weary about what they wear, they almost give up Jfashion hobby because of it.

-Boyfriend is transphobic and does not respect my friend or their identity, he calls them a she all the time and doesn’t bother trying to correct himself. He’s also racist as shit, that’s not an assumption my friend literally told me he said he “doesn’t like “N*gge*s”

-Boyfriend has borrowed money and hasn’t payed my friend back, like 200+ plus, makes excuses to not pay it back constantly.

-Boyfriend has bluntly told my friend if he accidentally got them pregnant he would dip and go “back to Mexico” 

Stuff like that and it’s all been building up. My friend has a history negative mental issues so I didn’t feel right telling them to break it off, and nowadays I mostly just respond as fake positively as I can to their excited text messages about the guy because they deserve to be happy, and I can’t put a hamper on that. They’ve told me constantly how this guy is their favorite person. 

It’s always lowkey irritated and upset me with how much they make excuses for him, and that they rub it off with out regard when their boyfriend is being an asshole to them or being creepy about their friends. I understand my friend was basically groomed but I couldn’t hold my tongue today.

And so earlier today my friend shows me screenshots of their boyfriend sexualizing our underage friend with the caption “eugh he’s so gross” 

The picture in question being sexualized was a picture of underage friend eating a pickle innocently and he, a 27 year old fucking man felt he needed to make a comment. Both my friend and I discussed it with disgust and they were all like “eugh he’s so nasty” and then now, several hours later they send me a barrage of messages about how they’re going to an expensive date with their boyfriend and bought a new dress and all this stuff for him and I couldn’t bottle it up and responded;

“*name* this is the same guy who made inappropriate comments about *young friend* earlier and I really don’t feel comfortable pretending to be happy for you atm” 

And they responded with a simple “oh ok” and deleted all their messages about him. I feel kinda bad and that I was really blunt, I don’t want to hurt their feelings but it just makes me uncomfortable at this point, knowing the things he’s done, which may I add is all things my friend has TOLD ME, I don’t have the energy to find reasons to not like their boyfriend, they constantly complain to me when their boyfriend does this shitty stuff like making nasty comments (along with all the things I listed) and then hours later they send me some lovey dovey stuff about him and While I usually go along, this time I couldn’t pretend to be happy for them.

Please give me feedback, I just, I’m kind of confused and worried I put a dent in our friendship. 



finally telling my friend I can't pretend to be happy for them and their boyfriend