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Input: Using a throwaway. I’m on mobile, sorry for formatting. 

This happened in December, but it’s been weighing on me. Looking back, I feel like I was TA and am prepared to accept my judgement. 

So every other year, my family, my cousins’ family, and my grandmother go on a trip to a foreign country during winter vacation. 2012 it was Costa Rica, 2014 it was Peru, 2016 it was Mexico, 2018 was Africa. My grandmother pays for all the expenses on these trips. They’re like a gift from her. 

Last year, I turned 18. The night of my birthday, I moved out of my parents’ house, and had been planning to do so since I was 14. My mom is incredibly manipulative and some would consider her emotionally abusive. She’s super emotionally immature and I just needed out of that situation. I can’t go into detail because word count, but it was really, really bad. 

Since then, every interaction I’ve had with her has turned into a fight. You know, like those fights that leave your head rushing with adrenaline and cortisol. It wasn’t good for my healing, my mental health, or my emotional development. So I decided to cut her off completely. 

This meant that I decided not to go to Africa. My grandmother was devastated - constantly calling me begging for me to go, saying the trip wouldn’t be the same without me, even getting angry when I wouldn’t budge. I held my ground and said that I couldn’t be around my mom anymore, because every time I was around her I noticed more and more of her flaws and abusiveness rubbing off onto me and it was starting to affect my other relationships. I apologized to her repeatedly, telling her how much I wanted to go but that I really felt it would be detrimental to me. 

In the end I didn’t go, and she lost 80% of the ticket cost, but what was most hurtful to her was that I didn’t go and this is (one of) her last family trips as she is getting older. My whole extended family was kind of upset at me, in varying degrees. 

I’m still sure I made the right choice for my mental health, but I think I was also selfish. AITA for what I did? 

not going to Africa with my family