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Input: I'm 33 and my wife is 29. We've been together for 4 years, married for just over a year. 

We moved to a different country together in July as I got a job transfer. She found a job here and has her work permit, but she is still waiting on her resident's visa. 

This means I'm the only one with a bank account, valid driver's license, etc. Also her salary is pretty low (I'm earning more than double what she earns). All of this means that I'm the only one able to actually financially call any shots with regards to any purchases or payments.

I have my dad and some close family friends here, but she doesn't have any of her blood relations. It's a bit harder I guess for her to feel at home. We spend most of our time with my dad and his friends. 

We've been staying with my dad since we got here, and I haven't really put any effort into getting our own place, even though we can easily afford it. It doesn't make sense to me to get our own place yet since we're staying with him for free. I'll admit though, I haven't made an effort to save any money but we've been enjoying ourselves.

She's an introvert who struggles with anxiety and depression. She wants our own space where she can chill at home in her pjs after work and cook our own meals (difficult to do as we're in my dad's house).

She keeps going on at me for not doing anything to try and regain our independence as married adults. She's been arranging viewings at apartments for us and put together realistic budgets that includes saving a decent amount. 

She's mentioned the idea of leaving me to go back home but I doubt she'll do that.

Am I the asshole for not putting effort into being an independent married couple just yet? Or is she the asshole for trying to rush us and threatening to leave?




not rushing to get our new life together started