Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Me and my roomates all have a shared cleaning roster, and one of those areas in the kitchen, where its expected to clean the oven/ stove. We all are expected to do our own dishes, but if we have friends around who have a glass of water or a small bit of food and the dish is left out, it is expected that whoever is on kitchen duty cleans up those dishes also. Usually it is not an extreme amount of dishes, and since they aren't anyones dishes who lives here its just lumped into the kitchen cleaning.

One of our roomates is against this, and he doesn't think that he should do them, because they aren't his mess to clean up. We all agree it is not his mess, but if he doesn't clean them they won't get cleaned. We all clean them when it is our turn, but he does not feel the need to.

The argument is reaching critical mass so we thought reddit is the best place to settle this. So are we (the roomates in general) the assholes here?

wanting my roomate to do dishes that aren't his