Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: I'm a final year university student working part time and busy for most of my day like everyone else. Three weeks ago my friend, who lives around several hours away from the city we study in, went home to see her family. She was supposed to go for a week, but the next week she was nowhere to be found and did not go to her workplace without giving any notice. We (me and common friends) called and wrote her and she did not respond. I googled car crashes and found none, and she appeared online on facebook messenger so I assumed she must have had a dead relative or something. Pretty much "she must have a working phone if she appears online so she chooses to not answer".

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So, for the next week and so I had other colleagues ask me if they heard anything about her. However, I always said I know nothing but I suspect she is fine, explained the dead relative theory and told other people to "relax, everything is clearly fine, I googled and there were no car crashes etc.". Another week passes and I mention this to my sister and she gives me the absolutely obvious advice to ask her brother. I obviously knew her brother, so I knew she had one. I take this advice and write him on facebook to ask.

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Turns out, she was in a car crash and was in a bad condition at a hospital, and there could be no visits. She luckily has her vitals in check and now I wait for the doctors to allow us to visit her. I found out her family announced one friend of hers. 

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In retrospective, it's obvious that the messenger excuse I made up to myself is pure bullshit. Also, people give some notice when a relative dies, no one disappears like that. It's so painfully obvious now that she must have been in a car crash, and it's so obvious she announced that one friend I mentioned earlier and it's even more obvious that 1-2 days after her absence I should have asked her brother. I don't understand how I could bury my head in the sand like that. I keep telling myself how busy I was and how little a few weeks are but... it's bullshit. I lurked on reddit every night, I could have used my monkey brain for 3 seconds to seriously check on my friend. My actions have unfairly stopped others on checking on her, and she is a great person in a bad place. She does not deserve to think people do not care about her because I convinced people with some extremely sketchy arguments that she must be fine. Maybe if I acted like an adult weeks ahead we could have somehow helped but I didn't.

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So, AITA for actively hurting my friend with my stupidity and indiference? Do I deserve to have friends if I think so little about them?

insisting my missing friend was "obviously fine and busy" to common friends when she was actually in a very very bad condition