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Input: My husband passed away 10 years ago at 27 from a motor vehicle accident.

At the time of his death, he had not spoken to his mother or step father in 4 years. By his account, he never intended to speak with them again and didn’t want our children around them, communicating with them, receiving gifts or cards, nothing. He had a whole story made up that he planned on telling the kids when they asked about his parents, about how sometimes there are bad people etc. They were abusive to him growing up (not to mention raging bigots), there was always tension between them. At the time I met him, he wasn’t close to his parents at all, barely spoke, saw them once a year if that, but no drama as neither side invested that much effort in the relationship. 

The final falling out had a lot to do with me. His mother was very overbearing and disrespectful to me while I was pregnant with our first child. My husband tried to put a handle on it, her reaction to him trying to establish boundaries is what killed the relationship. His mother refused to acknowledge or modify her behavior, to the point that she seemed psychotic. His step father joined in my spewing hateful words to my husband. He cut them off and we never looked back. The decision to end all communication was his and he took it seriously, he sent a cease and desist to her at one point when she kept sending packages to our house.

After the accident, his mother reached out to me trying to basically plan the funeral. I told her that she would neither have a hand in planning the funeral or be in attendance. I told them they could have their own service if they felt so inclined, but they wouldn’t be at the one I was having for him. My brother told them both that they would be removed if they were to show up. She tried demanding some of his remains which I refused.

Our babies were only 3 and 1 at the time of his death. My decision about his parents attending was based on the fact that he himself said they were dead to him, and he never wanted them to be around his own children. My babies were at their fathers funeral, I didn’t want two strangers to all of us there.

My now 13 year old daughter asks a lot of questions about her dad, naturally. She just recently learned that she has another grandmother who she hasn’t met, she had a lot of questions. The subject of his funeral came up last night. She learned that I did not allow her dads mother to attend last night. She is very angry with me and told me I should have put my own feelings aside. I tried explaining that I did it to honor her dad. She slammed her bedroom door, yelled some things at the door, I heard the words immature and petty several times.

At the time, I was certain I made the right call. Now, 10 years later, I can see why my daughter feels that way. AITA?

barring my mother in law from my husbands funeral