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Input: I'm a man, been married to my wife for 7 years. We have never had a sex life, I'm talking 2-8 times per year. And usually it's just me masturbating while touching her boobs, then fingering her after. 

She does have health issues. She's got nerve issues which make a lot of tasks very painful. For example, grabbing my cock and rubbing it for more than a minute cramps up her hand and it hurts for the rest of the day. So I feel bad asking for that, which is a problem because I ALWAYS initiate the sex and 9 times out of 10 get nothing. 

On the other hand, she isn't interested in sex and doesn't try to do anything just for me. She won't do oral because it's "gross". And when we have actual sex she lays there and looks miserable/bored and that's it. I've asked so many times for her to do more that I feel like a real asshole and just try not to think about it. I don't want to force her to have sex or to do something she isn't comfortable with, but I also feel she should do everything possible to make me happy and she isn't. 

She can't work because of her health. I've never held this against her and have no problem being the breadwinner. That doesn't mean she owes me sex but I feel it means she should try harder. Is that asshole thinking? 

I cope by masturbating a LOT. Once or twice a day. I assume she knows this. What she doesn't know is that I watch lots of porn and fantasize about cheating on her. She's asked me if I watch porn before and I said no. It would really hurt her if she knew the truth. This also makes me feel like an asshole. 

masturbating to other women even though I'm married