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Input: Help me out here Redditors. 

Im ALWAYS throwing parties for others, I love showing the people I care about how important they are. But i HATE being the center of attention. That said, past three years my friends threw me a surprise birthday (last year i threw a surprise for my ex-girlfriend who was born one day before me, so idk classify that how you want to, some of my friends were there).

Recently, my life has slowly been falling apart and it kinda brought on a depression; im deeply disappointed in some short comings that my friends are VERY aware of. Im NOT in a festive mood. Not to mention nearly all my so called friends have honestly shown almost zero care, something i would NEVER do in return, even when i tried reaching out to them. So i made it clear to them for weeks i am completely uninterested in celebrating my birthday. Repeatedly. Time and time again for weeks. They have given me many problems but it seemed like they understood. 

What I did want to do though, is go out with this girl ive been casually seeing. Havent went out with her in a while, and made it super clear to her that im only interested in going out with her tonight to enjoy her company, NOT celebrating my birthday. Well, she agreed that we would treat today like it was any other day. Except my friends hit me up asking to join her and I. I didnt tell anyone we were hanging out. Only person who could have told them was the girl i was gonna go out with tonight. Shes part of said friend group... so it seems to me like an attempt at a surprise party or celebrating my birthday. I genuinely wanted to believe that she wanted to go out tonight just out of romantic interest, not out of some due-diligence of some sort with regards to my birthday. 

AITA for being upset by this and considering just not meeting up with her at all? I feel cornered by both her and my friends into doing that which i dont want, I seriously dont fucking want to celebrate my birthday, just wanted to go out on a quiet date. 

refusing to celebrate my birthday