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Input: I have enjoyed smoking marijuana in different amounts in different phases of my life - I experimented (once in a blue moon) with pot and some other halucinagens, as well as alcohol, all while in high school.  In college, I smoked semi-daily (like maybe 3-5days a week) and drank considerably more. Senior year of college I was working nearly full time while going to school so I binge drank less, but still regularly drank and still smoked daily (like, daily).  

Now about 5 years out from graduation, I would say my smoking and drinking is similar to my senior year of college, but slightly declined.  I've recently been cutting back on alcohol, but its really for weight gain (beer). 

I was a solid student, missed homework assignments and compensated with high test scores, went on to play a college sport and get a STEM degree, like I mentioned worked nearly full time my senior year and had a solid job right away. 

I'm now debt free, my salary has steadily increased and I've moved my career in the direction I want it to go. I've expressed some displeasure with various work situations, and extreme dislike of particular employers, but I dont vent nearly as much as she does - I'm not complaining, it's just how each of us are, she talks more about her work than I do about mine. 

Occasionally, usually when she is upset about something else already, she will complain about me smoking pot so frequently.  Another situation I've noticed is if I'm cutting back on alcohol (like now) or caffeine - she seems to see that I'm controlling my substance intake and decides it must be a good time to harp on pot again.  

Her overall substance use is lower than mine, and always has been, but she has known me since high school (I even had something of a stoner reputation when we started dating). 

I am admittedly lazy sometimes, always have been since long before pot. But I'm generally on top of my shit. And -  She doesn't complain that I'm lazy. No issues like being noticably stoned at inappropriate events.  I'm attentive, she often doesn't know if I'm high or not.

That was the case tonight.  I came home and she was noticeably upset, nothing to do with me but she told me about it and I comforted her, she was calming down some and I've got my arm around her on the couch, I think we're about to settle in and watch a show before bed.

Then she notices my eyes are red, asks if I smoked, which I did and I said as much, and she got all huffy, got up to brush her teeth and remained more distant the rest of the night. No TV show.

She didnt say more than "I wish you wouldn't always do that" but I can tell that she somehow feels that it invalidates the attention I gave to her issue a moment before.  Like, I listened, reflected back with her and helped her articulate her feelings, did my best to validate and support her.. but I was high while doing it so I'm an asshole? Like, am I? 

Am I an asshole for being high all the time, without causing issues by my being high?  Like, when I have tried to approach this topic with her she cant offer a reason why she doesn't like it.

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