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Input: So this guy (I'll call him A) was a super close friend of mine as a kid, but as adults we've vastly grown apart. Since we left high school 4 years ago, we've literally only spent time together once, and only keep in touch on social media. We don't speak all that often and when we do speak, it's incredibly forced. We have nothing in common and it's just really awkward. I've also noticed an undertone of racism in some of what he says to me sometimes - I'm Muslim and South Asian, he's white. For example, after the Manchester arena terror attack he sent me some messages basically asking which side I was on, as if he thought it was possible I'd side with the terrorist. That's not the only low-key racist conversation but it's the worst one and the one I remember most clearly. 


The other layer to this is that, A is just really not a great person, morally. He's got some kind of addiction to affairs I guess, in that he exclusively sleeps with/dates married people. He's ruined several marriages, including ones where kids were involved. His current girlfriend, who I'll call R, was married when they met. R's husband went away on a business trip, and when he came home all of his things were in boxes and A was living in his house. Since R owned the house, her husband couldn't argue and just had to leave. 


In his affair with R, and in ones before it, he's always told me about it in such explicit detail, as if he's bragging that he can get married women. He mainly comes to me for validation. He tells me why he's justified in his affairs, and gets angry at me if I tell him I think he's wrong. Hearing about what he was doing to these people really affected me to be honest, cos it was just so immoral. One of his past "girlfriends" was the wife of his close friend, and their kids were his godchildren, and he would use babysitting the godchildren as an excuse to be in their home and sleep with his friends wife. The affair ruined that marriage and those little kids lives. 


Anyway, the AITA part is: I'm just really tired of A. He's become someone I don't align with morally, and we really don't have that friendship connection anymore anyway. But he keeps pushing it. He's been talking about me meeting R for a while now, as if we're still really close and I *have* to meet his girlfriend. I feel awkward and don't want to flat out say no because that makes me feel rude, but I don't really feel like spending time with them considering what they did to R's husband. I really honestly don't get why he keeps forcing the friendship; it's blatantly obvious that we have nothing at all in common and aren't close anymore. 


At the same time though, dropping him makes me feel bad. I went through some tough patches with mental health in high school and he was the only person who stuck by me, so I feel like I owe him some loyalty in our friendship. 


In summary, we aren't really compatible friends, we're different people, and when we do speak he tells me about things that I just can't side with him on, but gets angry with me if I don't validate his shitty behaviour. If the world was perfect, I think we would just slowly drift into our separate lives. But he's adamantly keeping in touch and keeps trying to make plans with me. AITA if I turn all these plans down and dry-reply him til the friendship fades out? 

trying to cut my friend out