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Input: I recently rejoined the dating app world, and things have definitely changed. I consider myself a true-blue lefty and have always supported the LGBT community (one of my nephews is trans). 

That being said. I’m straight and interested in dating people of the opposite sex. I also want a 1-on1, monogamous relationship. I noticed the app was including couples looking to swing, people identifying themselves as  polyamorous, pan-sexual, saipo-sexual, bi, etc. I checked my settings, and nothing seemed amiss. Then twice in 24 hrs I received two matches that were clearly Male-to-Female trans individuals. I contacted the dating site, and in addition to telling me to check my settings, they added this comment: 

“Please keep in mind that we have expanded gender options. OkCupid is an inclusive environment where transgender and nonbinary people may express themselves however they’d like. Some people may not conform to how you personally view the gender(s) you’re searching for.”

I’m sorry, but I think that’s bullshit. I can filter by race, religion, height, body shape, etc - but not gender? It’s ok for someone to decide they don’t want to be matched with someone black, or republican, or under six feet (all choices that could be “controversial “), but there’s no way to filter for trans. I get it. They’re saying people are allowed to identify however they want - but I feel like there’s a bigger issue not being addressed - your right to be attracted to who you are attracted to. I’m not interested in dating a trans person and that’s ok. I’m fat. There’s plenty of people turned off by that, and that’s ok. But I feel like this is some PC bullying bullshit. 

And what a waste of time! I guess I could post a doctored photo that makes me look svelte, but nobody would be fooled once they saw me in person. And being vague about gender is both a shitty thing to do and can be dangerous (plenty of male-to-female people have been victims of violence because of this). 

 It also seems like a poor business decision. If a dating app becomes so inclusive that there are no filters, you lose functionality. Imagine not being able to choose gender at all? Or age (don’t want to be ageist!). Eventually your just in a huge pool of people. Then what’s the point?

So? Am I the asshole for just wanting my matches to be the gender I prefer?

not wanting to match with trans peeps on my dating app