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Input: EDIT: This turned out longer than expected. See TLDR for summary, skip to last two or three paragraphs for the important stuff.  


So, I \[M18\] have had this friend \[F18\] for several years. We've been friends for a few years because we're both in the same social circle, but neither of us are the type to try to hang out with the other gender alone (ya know, being a teen and weird and all). However, over the past few months she'd expressed an interest to maybe do some stuff together. She didn't mention anything specific, only that it might be nice to hang out. Over the past 2 months I (platonically) invited her twice to help me with school projects  (I'm at college for video production, and need friends to be "actors" sometimes) and once to go to a mutual friend's house for a "discussion group" (ie talk about interesting things). All 3 times she said No, but she always said she (A) was sorry it didn't work out (B) had a good reason not to (C) asked how it went anyway. ALL three times.  


Enter Saturday this week. We're texting, and she talks about how people in our "mutual group" often don't get very much social interaction (we were both homeschooled before college). I invite her to help with a project, thinking it'd be fun. (this is the second project mentioned above). She says she doesn't like acting, but asked several questions about what the plan would be and said she would. The next day she texts me that I need to call her Dad first. I'm not annoyed by this, because where we live it's normal for dads to look out for thier daughters, and I'm expecting him to just make sure that I'm not going to hurt her. Completely normal, I'm not interested in her romantically, so I have nothing to worry about, right?  


Now, before I go on, I will admit that two years ago I had a pretty serious crush on her, and definitely tried WAY too hard to hang out, and definitely gave her GOOD reason to be uncomfortable (nothing sexually innapropriate, just always finding way too many excuses to be in her vicinity). I understand that it was wrong, and apologized once I was called out on my behavior, and she was mature about it. I was actually really impressed that she was didn't let it harm our friendship.  


Now, a few days later (yesterday) I meet with her dad. I'm expecting the ol "make sure you behave yourself" speech. Instead, he tells me that she's feeling "pressured" to hang out with me, and that I should probably stop asking. He said that it appeared that I wasn't being respectful to her. Now, I wasn't expecting that, but given past experiences, I could understand, and told him so. However, when I got home I turned my brain on. I asked her THREE TIMES in TWO MONTHS to do stuff with me. That doesn't sound pushy to me. EACH TIME she showed interest, but had legitimate reasons not to (out of town, family obligations, etc), and asked about the projects after the time they were done. Maybe it's my fault, and maybe she was being obvious that she didn't want to hang out (after all, I don't take hints very well), but that's the dumbest \*profanity\* of a reason to be disingenuous ever.

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I see her weekly at a sporting event, and today she came up to me, knowing full well her dad had that conversation with me, and did the whole "Sorry I can't help \[my name\]! Something came up! Will you be able to get it done???" thing. Needless to say I'm pretty insulted, and I tell her I've lost a LOT of resepct for her because her actions are "just really disengenuous. If you don't want to hang out with someone, just tell them to thier face! You don't gotta be a jerk about it, but just be freaking honest for christ sake!" Sure, she might've hurt my feelings by outright saying no, but I'm way more angry that people can't just have an ADULT conversation. If you don't like me, tell me to my face. I can handle it. 

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**TLDR: Girl says she wants to do stuff with me, in reality she doesn't, I get mad at her because I hate how people can't just be honest about stuff and are expected to "uNdErStanD sOciAl HiNTs" BS.**  


Sidenote: Now, I know many redditors will say that it's just her dad being "overbearing" and speaking for her what wasn't the truth, but I know she trusts him 100% and he seems very honest and understanding. "  


and yes, I am in the south USA. Our culture is mostly awesome, but it can suck sometimes.

telling a friend she's ridiculously disingenuous