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Input: Obligatory "this happened yesterday", and extra-obligatory throwaway for my own sanity. This isn't a debate on whether my family should be Muslim, lets start there. This is also a little long. Tldr at the end.

Okay, some background. My family is Muslim and multiracial. My mom, along with a couple of my siblings and I, are white. My stepfather is brown, and my other siblings are mixed. My mom and sisters wear a headscarf, which is a personal decision they decided on in their own time. We converted to Islam back in the early 2000s. 

I was standing in line with my sisters and a woman and her children, about 7 and 12, were staring at us. She looked at us for a long time, before coming up to my sisters (13, 16) and demanding to know if they were Muslim. They said yes, and she immediately started asking them questions. 

"Are you girls married?"

\-No, they said, we're 13 and 16. 

"Does your dad hit you? Does he beat your mom? Because I believe hitting women is like hitting children, it's completely unforgivable."

\-No? Obviously not? We're fine.

My sisters were uncomfortable, and she was pretending I (I'm a teenage male) wasn't there. When my sisters started to ignore her, she switched gears. "Who's that?" She asked, gesturing to our younger sibling, who is biracial.  

\-They're our little sibling.

She shook her head a little and said something like, "so you're that kind of family." I felt like she was just trying to antagonize us or something, and I admit that I took the bait.

It didn't at all sound like she was legitimately checking on my sisters so much as trying to intimidate them.

Her kids were listening to the whole thing. It was getting on my nerves, but it wasn't anything we hadn't dealt with before, but that last comment really rubbed me the wrong way. A lot of people stare at us when we're all together, and ask me especially weird prying questions, so it's not like I haven't heard it before, but for some reason it really pissed me off. I don't know if she meant it the way I interpreted it or not, but I immediately snapped.

"Wow, fuck you." I said, and she stared at me. I said something like, "Really, you're being a huge bitch. You need to back off."

She told me that I was the problem with people today. That I'm rude, disrespectful, all that, but she relented and backed off to talk to her husband (I'm assuming), and her kids looked like they wanted to cry. My sisters (and later, my mother) were appalled by what I said. They said my behavior probably ruined her perception of Muslims forever, and I should have kept my cool. I felt good about defending my siblings in the moment, but now I'm kind of embarrassed. 

TLDR; Woman harassed my headscarf-wearing sisters and suggested my family was somehow immoral for being multiracial, and I told her she was a bitch in front of her kids. 

Am I the asshole?

cursing at a bigoted woman in front of her kids