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Input: I’ve had this friend I met online about 9 years ago. We clicked immediately and became friends. We were not overly far apart (half a days drive) and for many years I’ve considered her my best friend. 

Recently, her marriage has totally fallen apart - her husband was always awful, she just finally got the courage to leave with her kids. It hasn’t been easy, and her ex is really going out of his way to be awful.

I feel for her, and that’s why I’ve made myself available at all hours when she calls crying, needing to talk and vent, and helping her with her court documents and any way I can without being immediately there.

Then I broke up with my boyfriend in December. The more and more I tried to reach out to her, the more she would avoid me. She would go days without looking at her Facebook messages. 

On January 15 I messaged and said I needed a yes/no answer on something within a 24 hour period.

She didn’t even look at the message until I messaged on the 28th saying I was sorry to hear her cat died. (She posted it on her timeline; she didn’t message me). 

She replied with a brief thanks. 

In the mean time; she’s posted a bunch of posts about how wonderful her friends are, and how she really appreciated the trip to the movies/dinner/visit with wine.

I messaged last Thursday because there was a small amount of fresh drama I had with my ex; and the reply I got was “K, you know I love you but I’ve got my own shit going on, and I haven’t got time to listen to your petty stuff.”

Ouch.

I told her okay, sorry to bother. 

The next morning I wrote that I was really hurt that after I have supported her, she couldn’t muster up enough support to send me back some messages. 

“Hey, I was really upset last night, and really needed the support of a friend. I really thought we were supposed to be there for each other. I think it’s time I removed myself from this friendship. I really hope things settle down for you. Good luck.”

AITA? 

AITA for feeling like she “owed” me? (That’s not the right word, but like, feeling like she should have reciprocated?)

I’m autistic so don’t hold back - nuance is completely lost on me. 


telling my friend I was removing myself from our friendship