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Input: This situation is still happening, and I don't really know what to feel at this point. Bear with me, there are a lot of details. Good god this is way longer than anticipated, whoops:

I've been good friends with this person for a little over a year now. We met at new employee orientation. Soon after, we decided to start carpooling to work, as we both live in the same city that's about 50 min from work. We decided that I would do all of the driving, and she would pay for my gas. The idea was that she'd pay for \*all\* of the gas I used for our commute, rather than us splitting it, because I was the one going out of my way to pick her up and drop her off every day, putting miles on my car, etc. This was not ideal, because her job often prevents her from being able to leave work on time. I work in an office setting, and can leave as soon as my eight hours are up, but she has to stay at least 8.5 hours a day, and is often here for upwards of 9 or 9.5. 

I should mention that I've really never felt that we were super compatible as friends. She is very direct and expects open communication about everything, while I'm much more reserved and find it difficult to convey what I'm feeling in certain situations. She has no problem asking for what she wants, while I'm a huge pushover and find it hard to assert my own feelings. This has led to several huge fights during which we basically just screamed at each other the whole time about how the other person didn't understand where we were coming from. It's been very frustrating for both of us. 

This was obviously amplified by the fact that we were spending 2 hours together in a car every day. After about a year of doing this, I was feeling a little taken advantage of since I was the one going out of my way/spending unnecessary time at work to carpool, but I also recognize that this is my fault for agreeing to it in the first place. Anyways, in October, I texted her basically saying that I didn't feel like carpooling made sense for me anymore and that I no longer wanted to do it. She was pretty annoyed by this, but it wasn't a \*huge\* deal, and she hasn't really brought it up since we stopped.

Another thing that I have often done for her in the past is watch her dog while she's away. I dog sit as a side job, but have always watched her dog for free. [I actually posted about it here recently.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/aayaac/aita_for_being_annoyed_that_my_friend_always/) As I said in that post, this has been nagging at me for a while, but I felt bad bringing it up because it feels shitty to ask friends for money. In addition to the dog sitting, she also used my apartment as a delivery address for her packages for a long time, because she didn't want them getting stolen from her doorstep. I agreed to this when we carpooled since I saw her daily and could easily get them from her, but once we stopped carpooling, she always asked me to go out of my way to meet up with her and hand off the packages. Finally, a small cherry on top, she uses my Spotify and Netflix. 

Fast forward to now. Whether or not I'm justified in feeling taken advantage of for all of those reasons (still not sure if it's totally justified or if I'm just being selfish honestly) the fact is, I do feel taken advantage of. I've been watching her dog this week, and this feeling has REALLY been weighing on me. I'm just so annoyed by the fact that I've been pushed around for so long, and it's only compounded by the fact that I have to watch her dog for a week (which sucks because he has multiple accidents in my apartment every day, requires a lot of walks and it's cold as fuck right now, is very needy in general, and has to be given Prozac every night, which is not easy to get him to swallow) for free. 

So today, I decided to finally talk her about it. In retrospect, yes, I probably should've waited until she got back in town, because I feel like I've kind of ruined her trip now. But I felt like I couldn't take it anymore. So I explained to her that in the future, I'd like to be paid for watching the dog. I thought it was a pretty benign text, I didn't accuse her of anything or say "wow your dog sucks pay me next time thanks". Enter her bitching me the fuck out. In summary, her text said something like "I mean I always get you snacks or take you out to breakfast afterwards (note: she has never taken me out to breakfast). Does that not feel sufficient? We are friends, so I figured it didn't need a formal arrangement in the way a stranger pays you to watch a dog." And then she went on to accuse my boyfriend of being the one who was convincing me to say all of these things to her, because it "doesn't sound like the way \[I\] would approach this".

We're still going back and forth with long texts, but the main takeaways are that...

a) she's offended that I said I feel taken advantage of, 

b) is super pissed at me for bringing this up while she was on her trip rather than saying something earlier or waiting until she got back, 

c) thinks that the way I went about this (and the carpool situation) was abrasive and mean, 

d) feels that I've made no effort to initiate plans with her since I started dating my boyfriend (which is true, because I've been feeling this disconnect for a long time), 

e) claims that my boyfriend isn't just encouraging me to speak up for myself, but encouraging me to "go over the top" with my opinions (what?), and 

f) now she knows that watching her dog, who she "considered to be family to me", is "all about money and a job". 

So I basically apologized to her and said that I don't know that we're compatible as friends. I'm feeling very ambiguous about how this whole thing went down, which is why I'm asking for your help. I know that I should've made my feelings clear to her long ago, and I feel bad for that, but I can't change what didn't happen, and I'm trying to be better about asserting myself now. I'm still not sure if I'm being selfish, or if she's just talking me into feeling like I'm in the wrong, which she always does. I guess it's just hard for me to identify the difference between someone rightfully being upset because I did something wrong, and someone trying to make me feel bad simply because they're angry.

What do you guys think? Should I feel bad for what I did? Am I doing the right thing by ending this friendship? Other thoughts? I really appreciate your feedback, I'm sorry this is soooo incredibly long.

TL;DR: I asked my friend to pay me for dog sitting in the future, and she's now calling me greedy and trying to tell me that my boyfriend is encouraging me to be "over the top" about expressing my opinions.

calling my friend out on taking advantage of me