Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: This boy who doesn’t go to the same college as me asked me to his lacrosse formal which is this Saturday. He’s the roommate/teammate of my roommate's boyfriend and we’ve only met in person once. Since meeting, we would snapchat a little, but lately not frequently at all.   


He mentioned the formal to me a couple weeks after meeting. He said that if we hung out again before the formal he wanted me to go with him. At this time, he didn’t officially ask me. He never mentioned when it was or anything else about it until tonight.   


I kind of assumed that he wasn’t gonna actually ask me because we hadn’t hung out since our first initial meeting. I don’t have anything to wear since it’s such short notice and I know that if I go, I’m going to have to get with him (which I’m not sure I wanna do) so I made up some bullshit lie about my friend coming to visit this weekend (I was nice about it though I promise!). All he replied was “bet” and when I apologized again in reply he left me on opened.   


This gives me the impression that he assumed that these plans were already kind of set and that I’m fucking it up by saying no even though I never actually agreed to anything.  


Am I an asshole for saying no? I feel like he assumed that I was going to be his date and so now I’m playing dumb in order to justify myself (“well we didn’t hang out again so I'm not going”).  


I’m not explaining this very well, but I hope you know what I mean.   


Thanks!

saying no to going to formal with someone