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Input: For background “Dan” and I met through a mutual friend about a month before we started seeing each other. Dan had expressed interest in me, but I clearly told him I wasn’t looking for anything serious and that I was also seeing someone else, to which he responded that he was okay with that for the time being. I had been non-exclusively seeing “Andrew” for almost two years at this point and though I didn’t plan on being exclusive with Andrew, I wasn’t ready to end things with him yet. 

One night after hanging out with Andrew (which ended in a hookup), Dan invited me over. I agreed, and went to his house where he initiated a hookup. I told him that I had just seen Andrew before this and I felt like it would be disrespectful to Dan if I didn’t inform him of that. Dan told me that though he wasn’t happy about that, he still liked me and that he wanted to be exclusive with me if I was willing to end things with Andrew. I told him I wasn’t ready to be exclusive and that I needed time to end things with Andrew because we had been friends for so long.

Flash forward a couple weeks later and Dan hasn’t talked to me other than to tell me to return his hat which he left in my car. I realize that I am ready to end things with Andrew for Dan if Dan is okay with that. After returning his hat, I give Dan an apology letter where I tell him that I’m sorry if I hurt his feelings and that if he is still interested in me, I will end things with Andrew. Dan tells me that he needs time to think about it.

Two weeks later I find out from a friend (who doesn’t know him personally) that he is telling people that I cheated on him. While I am sad to hear that he’s saying that about me, I ignore it because I still have feelings for him. That same day, I call him to ask if he has thought about my letter. He tells me that he has thought about it and he wants to pursue me. The next day I end things with Andrew. It takes a toll on me emotionally because I have been close with Andrew for so long, but I hold myself together because I am happy that I can start seeing Dan again. 

However, after 1 or 2 times of seeing each other, Dan starts to ignore me. I hear that he is still telling people (including my friends, who aren’t friends with him) that I cheated on him. In fact, I hear that I am a cheater from so many people that I ask his best friend, (who we are both friends with), to confirm this. His friend says that it’s true that Dan is saying these things but that he (the friend) knows it’s not true. When I try to confront him about it, he gets defensive and refuses to have a conversation with me. 


TL;DR: I am tired of hearing from people that I am a cheater because I had made it clear to Dan that we weren’t exclusive. I feel bad for being with two people in a short period of time, but I don’t feel like I was entirely in the wrong and it doesn’t warrant being labeled as a cheater if they were both aware of each other. 



being called a cheater, we weren't exclusive