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Input: So a little background, I turned 24 at the end of January and my family didn't offer to get together for dinner or a celebration until a week later when my mother texted me saying that her and my father would like to take me out for a late birthday celebration. This is normally quite difficult because my father and I work at the same place but on completely opposite shifts (I work nights on days that he has off and he works days on nights that I have off). But I agreed believing that my father would either take a day off or I'd receive a text asking what days I could meet for dinner after my father got out of work. But I didn't hear anything until recently when my mother brought up that we still hadn't done anything so I offered doing a dual celebration for both mine and my sister's birthdays since her's is in a week anyways. I'm also a member of a juggling club (have been for years, they were actually the first friends I made when I got into college) but because I work a rotating shift I only get to go to the club once or twice a month instead of weekly; I've been juggling with this group for over 6 years and have gone to juggling conventions with them and they have all remained very good friends of mine and my family knows all this.

Tonight my mother texted me again asking when I would like to get together for dinner so I told her we should just do the dual celebration for both mine and my sister's birthdays since we're already close to hers and that it would have to be "on a day that Dad works after he gets out of work because I haven't earned any vacation time yet." She then made a group text for her, my father, my sister and me and asked if everyone would be good for having dinner on my sister's 21st birthday (which would be on the same day at the same time that the juggling club meets). I responded asking if we could have dinner the day after my sister's birthday because I haven't gone to the juggling club in over a month and I would really like to practice and see my friends again. My sister told me off for wanting to juggle instead of spend her birthday with her (she goes to the same college I did and it would be very easy for me to visit her before or after the juggling club meeting). I told her I would skip juggling club for her birthday but that I would much rather just celebrate her birthday a day late because I haven't been juggling in over a month. 

My sister got mad at me for wanting to push her birthday celebration off one day so I could practice juggling and see friends and accusing me of not wanting to celebrate my own birthday (even though no one texted me about it until after my bday had already passed) and not wanting to see my family anymore. I tried explaining that I don't get to go to the club very often and I would like to take the opportunity when it arises because I haven't juggled in a group since before Christmas (which I spent with family), but she accused me of caring more about juggling than I do about family and saying "I only turn 21 once." The conversation ended with her calling me a dick  and saying that she didn't want me at her birthday anyways. 

I plan on asking my parents if we can celebrate in a restaurant near my college because that would allow me to go to the beginning of the juggling club meeting and celebrate my sisters birthday, but I can't help but feel guilty because I am kinda choosing friends and personal hobbies over family but only because I haven't done this in quite a while and really want to see my friends and practice with them all again.

TL;DR: My family didn't text me about celebrating my birthday until after it had already passed but when I suggested celebrating my sister's birthday the day after her actual birthday so I could visit friends (who I haven't seen in over a month) and practice a hobby I really enjoy with them. Am I the asshole for asking the celebration be moved back a day even though no one asked me if the date was ok even though none of them asked me about celebrating my birthday until it had already passed?

wanting to celebrate mine and my sister's birthdays a day after her birthday so I can visit with friends on her birthday