Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: Context: United States. 

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A good friend of mine has asked me to be her character reference to support her enlistment in the army. I have advocated on her behalf during her challenging college search and have always been firmly in her corner even when no one else was. She often feels like she's living in more successful peoples' shadow, including her brother, who just recently enlisted. She has yet to tell me why she's joining, just that she needs a reference. She has never once mentioned the army before this. 

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However, I find military recruitment morally reprehensible. I went to HS in an impoverished district and saw a lot of penniless students get swept up into military service just so they could get through college and have the same opportunities as their wealthier counterparts. If someone feels genuinely passionate about serving their country, then I say more power to 'em. I can respect that. But I can't respect the downright predatory and manipulative techniques used to bolster recruitment, particularly the targeting of minorities, the impoverished, and women. 

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I want to support my friend in whatever path she chooses in life, but I feel very uneasy about actively supporting her choice to join the army. I don't really want to be an active participant in her enlistment because I don't think she's joining for the right reasons, and I think recruitment played a huge role in her decision. I of course will emotionally support her no matter what.

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So AITA if I refuse to be her reference?

refusing to be a friend's character reference for army enlistment because I disagree morally with military recruitment