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Input: So I haven't spoken to my oldest brother since April. Long story, but I got sick of his manipulation of my mom and told him he was a disappointment and to not talk to us anymore. 
That was also his 30th birthday. 

Anyway, he's always been into drugs and is always either selling them or doing them or in a gang or in jail. Ever since he was around 15. And since then he has fought my mom, fought my dad, fought my other brother and just in general tortured me. 

If he would spend time in jail, and then get out, he would be good. And he was a good brother when he was clean and sober, but the alcohol and drugs messed him up and made him a horrible person to everyone around...he would never stay clean long and always go back to drugs and alcohol and fighting. 


So on to the letter, 

He recently got put in prison (hes only ever been in jail before) in another state and he wrote everyone in my family a letter. 

Mine was really nice, he apologized for being a jerk to me growing up and everything. And it was nice, but afterwards my mom said that he needs us to all write him really nice recommendation letters to get him paroled. 

He does not get to go in front of the parole board, just his lawyer and if you write a nice letter, that goes too. 

So, hes facing five years and if he gets paroled he will only have served 1 year. 

I dont want to do it. I think he just apologized to get me to write a letter, and I dont want to do it. 

Every time he goes to jail he gets out early, he never learns and he thinks hes bullet proof. 

I want him to stay in. To show him that he has to pay for his actions. He needs to stop getting out early because I feel like it teaches him that'll he'll just be able to get off if he does it again. 

I'm over it. He needs to figure his life out. 

So, am I the asshole for not wanting to write this letter or recommendation and for encouraging my family not to either?

not wanting to write my brother a good recommendation