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Input: First time poster.... let me know if I mess something up. 

I'll try to make a long story as short as possible, but I've been told I can't tell a short story.

So my SO (42M)  and I (41F) were high school sweethearts that broke up, married other people, got divorced, and rekindled our relationship.  There was a 15 year gap, and we both have children with our prior spouses.  We reconnected over social media and our relationship was long distance for the first 2 years as we lived in different states.  Eventually, he moved to the town I lived in, but we didn't live together (his choice).  We were talking about marriage and having more kids together when he moved, but we were trying to "do things in the right order" and set an example for my children who were 5 and 7 at the time. 

At some point we decided to get married, and we planned a small formal wedding.  This is where the trouble started for me.  SO starts dropping the ball on every wedding related task he offers to do.  Such as contacting an officiant.  His mother is very involved in her church, and she is able to perform ceremonies legally.  However, he didn't want to ask his mother so that she could enjoy the day.... but he couldn't seem to get ahold of anyone else that his mother knew.  This went on for months.  Eventually I googled officiants in our area and called around until I found someone... a week before the wedding.  This is one example of a pattern that started.  He would volunteer to do a wedding task, and then give lots of reasons why he couldn't do it until I took it over.

The last item on our list was to get the marriage license.  In my state it's a 3 day wait, and we applied a week in advance. He went to pick it up without me, so I don't know exactly what was said, but SO says he was told we couldn't get a license. The reason according to SO was that his ex wife had sealed the divorce papers and there would have to be a court hearing in his previous state to request a copy and prove the divorce was finalized.

At this point I've paid for the entire wedding and the whole family is coming.  I have been preparing my children for this day for months.  I didn't feel that calling it off was an option.  I also discovered on the day before the wedding that I am pregnant.  And since the whole point of a formal wedding is to set a good example for the kids, now I'm really stuck.  So, we have a sham wedding.  Everything looks official, but no legal documents signed.

SO tells me he will fix this quickly, however it takes over a year to get his divorce paperwork.  In the meantime, I awkwardly explain to people why I kept my ex husband's last name.  He never does tell me when he finally gets the paperwork.  It just happened to be a topic I bring up in an arguement a month or so after he get them.  They are currently in his mother's safe deposit box.  

It's now been 6 years and we have 2 kids together.  He never brings it up, and the times that I mention it he says "yeah.... I got to fix that one of these days"....  Pretty much the same thing he says about the leaky bathroom faucet.

So.... I'm getting the message that he doesn't really care about being married, but I do.  And at first, he was the one who didn't want to move in until we were officially married.  WIBTA if I gave him a deadline?  Have I waited so long that its ridiculous to complain now?  

giving my so a marriage ultimatum