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Input: Back story; his wife hasn't worked in years, he's always been the sole income. A year ago, she complained she didn't have any input in he budget, so he let her take over.

They moved away from the big city, because "the public schools are better out here for when the kids (6,4,2) start school" In the space of 3 months, their $5k savings had disappeared, they'd financed a new $36k car for her and he had to sell his motorbike.

Fast forward 6 months. He's working extra hours to offset these extra costs, she's seeing more money coming in and proceeds to put the kids through private primary school (huge luxury and expense, also note above) and take out private health cover (there are no private hospitals where they moved to)

So he gets depressed. Working ridiculous hours (60-70 wk, 6+mths) will do that to someone

She tells me "I told him to stop being depressed or I'll leave with the kids". Things mellow out, he deletes Facebook and messenger, where he would chat with me and his brothers.

His brother makes the effort to drive out there yesterday afternoon, not more than 10 minutes after he arrives, they're out back having a vape and she comes out "hell no, you're not leaving me alone with the kids"
Brother asks "why not?". "Because no, that's why" and walks off. Mate instantly clams up and doesn't talk for the rest of the evening. Brother goes home.
I send mate a message;

&gt;Hi. I'm gonna say some things you're probably not going to like; the situation you're in is domestic violence. Specifically emotional and financial abuse. If you ever feel like this is true, give me a call. I've got friends who have contacts in both family law and family mediation, whichever route you wish to take. &gt;You're in a better position than you probably realise.
&gt;I miss the old you, the positive comments and the outlook you had.
&gt;You've got my number, I'll be disappearing off her Facebook shortly. Peace out.

She instantly replies from her mobile (because he's never allowed to buy credit).  I presume at this point that he's forwarded the message to her

So she's chewing me out, I'm replying sensibly "I don't hate you or your marriage. I just miss seeing my mate happy".
He gets home (maybe? I dunno, I presume it's him)

&gt;I'm way busy. She's not abusive. I'm the cunt and the abusive one. It's no wonder she hasn't left me. I'm unhappy with work. I have no people with my interest on my area to hang out with. I'm depressed that I work 70hrs a week. I don't see anyone. I'm too tired to drive 3hrs to spend an afternoon with people. I've got friends I've known for 20 years, I haven't seen them in years. I've got kids that are tired that I need to take care of after we do stuff is the city, without making them sit at a friends place for a few hours. She's the only one who stuck around to help me through. Who's pushing us to move to the city so I'm closer to friends. Everyone else said go to therapy or fucking pills that I won't take. I appreciate your concern, but it's unfounded. What I'm like at home isn't what I'm like to friends. I admit that. I'd have already left if it was her being abusive.

So. Turns out I can't read a situation, lost a mate I cared about and have been blocked on social media.

Tldr; I thought my mate was being controlled, but turns out he likes being under the thumb..?

messaging a friend who I thought was being emotionally abused