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Input: Me (20) and my now ex girlfriend (21) have been together for about 6 months. We both go to the same college and are in the same friend group. This is also both of ours’ first not abusive/manipulative relationship. The sex was alright on my side, but very good for her. Most times she would finish 3 or 4 times and I would MAYBE finish. There was a month span where I didn’t come at all during sex. 

Things go great for the first couple months. But then we start arguing a lot. I tell myself that it’s normal, couples argue all the time. But then the arguing didn’t stop. She would pick fights over small things that didn’t matter. 

The last month or so was absolutely terrible. I have no doubt about it now, I was emotionally abused. My roommate told me every night I came back, my mood would be terrible. Maybe 1 night a week I’d be okay. There were even more arguments and one time I asked her if she was actually mad, or if she was taking out her stress. She told me she was taking it out this way. I told her I couldn’t do it anymore if this continues. That my mental state would collapse. So I expected at least some change. 

Nothing changed. If anything, if got worse. She stopped listening to me about really important things. She had a medical problem that could be very serious if not treated, and when I advised her to go, several times, she didn’t want to. She didn’t want to call and schedule.

One night all our friends confronted me and said that something has to change because I’m unhappy all the time. It opened my eyes and showed me that I wasn’t crazy when I thought all this about my girlfriend. So a couple days later I broke up with her. And we stopped contact for a couple days. 

About 4 days after the breakup, we see each other in class. She asks if I want help writing my essay, and we end up going back to her room. We talk about the break up. She’s still in love with me. But I didn’t know how I felt. I watched the person I love whittle me down to nothing consciously; I couldn’t do anything about it either. We both consider FWB and agree on it. I told her, maybe there’s some way I can look past this, and we can work out again. 

We have sex that night. After a while, I tell her I couldn’t do anything romantically with her. Ever. All I could see is the person yelling at me. The person getting angry over nothing. The person lying to our friends about our arguments, twisting it on me. She tells me that I played with her. By telling her that maybe we could work out, but retracting that later. 

AITA for sleeping with her and telling her I can’t look past the situation?

tl;dr: My emotionally abusive ex and I talked and I told her we could maybe work things out. After sex I retract my statement, because I couldn’t look past it. She says I played her. AITA?





"playing" with my (ex)girlfriend's feelings