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Input: Okay, I know how this sounds already, but let me try to briefly explain the turbulent dynamic of my relationship with my mother. (I am an 18F and she is 42F)

Both of my parents were emotionally abusive and extremely manipulative to my younger brother and me growing up. My dad was by far the worse of the two (so much so that it took years for me to recognize my mother’s less-obvious tactics). My mother has struggled with alcoholism, depression/anxiety, self-destructive behaviors, and borderline personality disorder (undiagnosed but she and other people close to her recognize that she fits all of the symptoms) for the last 25 or so years. Because she has issues keeping family and friends close, I have been her primary caretaker since I was about 12 yo. As you can imagine, this has created a lot of tension between us as I have gotten older and more independent. 

I moved out of the house at 16 to go to a boarding school 2 hours away, and now I am in college about 20 minutes away from my mother’s house (she lives alone - my parents are divorced and my younger brother goes to the same aforementioned boarding school). Over the last three years or so that I haven’t lived with my mother, our relationship has all but deteriorated completely, and her manipulative tactics have gotten more drastic. Likewise, her mental health and alcoholism have gotten worse as well. 

This summer, while I was living at her house, she drunkenly attempted suicide, and I called 911 and got her into long-term inpatient psychiatric treatment at a local hospital. After she finished her time there, she was supposed to do 30 days at a substance abuse rehab facility. During the appx. two months that she was in these facilities, I completely took over her life. I paid her bills, took care of her dogs, communicated with her job/doctors/insurance, cleaned her house, and did everything else that needed to be take care of. On top of all of this stress and responsibility as an 18 year old, I had two stressful jobs (one as a staffer on a political campaign and one working for a defense attorney) . I also found her suicide notes, in which she blamed my lack of spending time with her over the last couple of years as her primary reason for wanting to die. This hurt overwhelmingly, of course, but I was proud of her for being cooperative with her treatment and had hope that she would make progress. 

After 5 days at the rehab facility, she checked herself out. I came home from work and she was sitting in the living room. We got into a huge fight about her leaving the facility, and she ultimately ended up shutting off my phone and taking my car and giving it to my younger brother, who drove it to his school 2 hours away. (I am completely self-sufficient financially except for the car, which is paid off but in her name, and my phone payment). She didn’t cut me off from these things because she needed to financially but because I need my car to get between my jobs and my phone to do my work. 

Eventually, we made up and she gave them both back to me, but ever since then, she will periodically threaten to take them away and cut off our relationship again in order to manipulate me and assert that I “need” her as much as/more than she needs me. This has happened 5+ times in the last six months and has led me to deeply resent my mother for how disposably she treats me and everything she has put on me my whole life. 

This week, I admitted her into a facility again because she has been deeply depressed and self-destructive lately. This time, I got full durable medical power of attorney over all of her affairs so that I can take care of her insurance and employment stuff with more ease than last time (I had POA but it wasn’t full/durable and ended as soon as she left the hospital.) 

Now here’s my dilemma. Would I be the asshole if I used the POA to put my car title in my name so that she can’t hold it over me anymore once she gets out? I feel like it’s my car anyway since she didn’t really pay for the car (it was bought with insurance money) and I have put in $2000+ of my own money in repairs. I would take over the insurance payment if she wanted me to, but I’m worried it would make me an exploitative asshole/ruin trust between us if I did it while she’s in a vulnerable position. 

using my medical power of attorney over my mentally ill mother to put my car title in my name