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Input: It's pretty lengthy and in-depth but I will try my best to summarize events. Hopefully there's a tl;dr at the end.

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\[2016\] GF was supposed to graduate at a tech uni but still needed to finish a few classes. She was able to get them written off as 'incomplete' and even allowed to walk for graduation when others who hadn't completed courses weren't. She did not finish those classes by the time the fall semester rolled around and one of those classes was a senior project. The only time senior project is available is during spring. I recommended to her to just work on certifications, preemptively do the senior project, and trying to keep up to date on her information for when school comes back around.

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\[2017\] She pays for the classes but does not complete them. Again, she takes the senior project course but does do not any work for the class. She browses facebook/reddit/instagram/plays video games for 18+ hours a day and does not have a job. She understandably so fails the classes. For the rest of the year, she does not attempt to do any work or try to figure out what she needs to do. 

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I cannot remember if it was at the end of 2017 or the beginning where we went to a friend's birthday party where his employer was there and was amazed that she was going to graduate with a degree that they need at their Department of Defense contracted company. He told her right there and then that if she had a security clearance they would higher her on the stop and double her salary. He said to her, "You'll probably make 70k with your first job -- We'll pay you 140k. We will train you and everything so you know what to do and how to do it." My friend said that offer is 100% genuine and it is what got him working for that company as well. \[She has not followed up or communicated with them since. She has not worked on any progress getting a security clearance or any type of certifications. Her friends have told me that she has frequently talked about how she needs a security clearance since this chance encounter -- even to this day. But not how she will get one or that she's working towards one.\]

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\[2018\] Senior project rolls around again and she does almost misses the deadline for submitting her project and cannot get her project working. With a very simple google search, I fix the problem in about 30 seconds that she was stuck on for hours. During this time as well, the curriculum committee tells her that she also needs to take a 1 credit course and recommends the website, 'StrLin'. 'StrLin' offers these 1-credit courses at a rate of $100/mo. She takes the speech course and does not complete it. \[From the start of 2018 to now, she has not finished the course and this 1 credit online course will cost about $1100+.\] I have gently reminded her to finish the course maybe once a month, to once every other week, to once a week, to now daily. \[She tells me the more often I remind her, the less she wants to do the work. She says that she is an adult -- that I'm not her parent or her employer, so she doesn't needed to me reminded or hassled to do the work. She says she's not a child and doesn't need to be reminded and that she can do the work. She told me this eight months into the course when I started asking her more often.\] She still hasn't finished the course. She does not work a job and has no other obligations. For over 5 months now, she'd had the equivalent of a one page paper, two page paper, and a final exam to complete the course. Little to no progress has been made. She ended enrollment in the course a few days ago because she said she wanted to re-enroll when she had the papers done and had studied for the final. Mind you, this is a course that gives you 30 days after you pay before the next billing cycle begins again.

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\[Overall\] She says that she suffers from extreme anxiety and has issues even doing basic social tasks and functions. She has never sat down to find a doctor for herself, I have always been the one to find a therapist/psychiatrist for her. She fights and argues and screams and sobs uncontrollably when trying to find a doctor and is extremely picky. Even when we find a physician right for her, she complains about the cost of the doctor or visits when she doesn't work or attempt to contribute financial \[towards her parents, school, or our relationship\]. When she goes to therapist or psychiatrists and gets medication or help, she stops visiting them / taking medication after a month -- even if it's helpful because 'it's too expensive.'

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We've gone on vacation trips to Florida, Las Vegas, and along the East Coast -- I've paid for it all. All my/our hobbies, I have paid for all the equipment myself. I basically live with a foster family because they picked me up after my mom kicked me out and I was homeless for 8 months. I mostly did chores and other things around the house until I got into pharma univ and my ability to contribute slowed down. I didn't really pay rent here until she started coming over more often and she said to me that I \*needed\* to pay rent. I've paid over $6000 and she's contributed $0 to it.

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I've talked to her about these kinds of things and she gets really upset at me and acts like I'm a jerk. She'll bring up that she has severe anxiety but no matter how hard I try to help, she just doesn't want to get help or even if I pay for it she'll end up refusing to go. If I try to help her with the work, she refuses. I ask her if I can see the course for myself, she refuses. I ask her for updates on the course, she refuses. It's a one credit class and it's literally holding her back from working and she will not complete it. In the same amount of time I've completed nearly 75\~ credits at my Univ of Pharmacy and worked my ass off. She will yell at me for working myself too hard or cramming for exams but if I try and say ANYTHING about her and her school work -- she won't talk to me for a day or even days.

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I am nearing the end of my education and am on my way to become a working professional in this field that I struggled so hard to get into in the first place. I came back from an international business/educational trip that was insanely difficult and not very fruitful. It took a lot out of me mentally and put me in the position where I had two options - Sit in my bed and not participate because I was an unwanted presence there OR strive to make myself a household name and watch them be impressed when I return. This kind of spirit really did invigorate me and really changed my mentality on how I need to do things. 20+ hours to fly back to the states, landed and completed labo-work, studied &amp; took an exam the next day, and finally laying to rest promptly due to jetlag.

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\* When I came to, I told her that she needed to really work hard on her end of the relationship. I am juggling a lot on my plate and still being attentive to her and involving her in a lot of my activities. She's not really working on herself professionally -- looking for a job, working on certificates, or even trying to finish her one-credit class.

\* I told her that it wasn't fair to me to be paying for everything. She hasn't worked in over 3 years and doesn't do anything while at home. She only plays video games, browses the internet, does arts and crafts -- but that's it.

\* I told her it wasn't fair to her parents or myself to help out with the cost of class (and living) when she doesn't do any work and we're paying for it. It was unfair to complain that things were expensive or doing x,y, or z cost money when people do spend time, energy, and money on her -- and she just wastes it.

\* It's not fair to me to be paying rent when it was her suggestion and she's not helping out. If I suggested to her that she needed to pay rent at her parents place because I was staying there, it wouldn't be fair for me not to contribute either.

\* I told her that I wasn't going to be paying for things for her anymore and that she needed to finish her class. If she didn't want to finish her class, then to not be a financial burden on her parents while she stays there - she needs to start working. I don't think it's fair for me or family to be putting in so much effort and energy when she's not really doing anything in return with all the time she has at home.

\* I ask her how much more money needs to spend on her before she starts caring / if she cares about not contributing / what will it take for you to get your things together / what will it take for you to do something / when are you going to take life seriously? No one is guiding me or helping me for my or career aspirations that I'm working towards -- I'm doing it all by myself. Everyone is willing to help you and has been helping you -- what more will it take for you to take any steps?

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I told her all of this and as per usual, she hasn't spoken to me in three days. AITA?

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tl;dr GF hasn't worked in three years. Hasn't finished her BS that she walked for. Refuses to finish a one-credit online class to get her degree. Claims financial issues for everything or lack of doing anything but doesn't work or want to work.  I've been in pharmacy school full-time and have paid for everything. Claims anxiety and/or other psychiatric issues. Refuses to get help and if someone else gets her help, refuses to keep up or continue going. Told her that she needs to start caring about life, start taking life more seriously, and what will it take for you to put in any effort -- everyone else is working hard for you, so what will it take for you to work hard for yourself? She hasn't spoken to me in three days. AITA?

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telling my girlfriend to finish her classes and/or get a job