Definition: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
Input: This is a pretty short, cut and dry story. 

My brother married this awesome woman years back. They have a couple kids, and seem to get along really well. 

Until recently when I was told by another family member that my brother was cheating on his wife and they would be getting a divorce. 

So, today I was messaging with 1-2 family members asking if they thought it was "out of line" for me to message my SIL and offer some support or condolences for my brother being a fucking asshole. 

They told me it would be out of line. And that I should wait for my brother to tell me about it all. However, we don't talk. I talk to his wife more than I talk to him. 

So, would I be the asshole? I don't think I would be and I'm tempted to ignore my family members who said I would be. But I also don't want to cross any boundaries. 

messaging my sister in law