 [ Symptoms ] i am a male and a girl gives me oral sex and i do not ejaculate will she get oral or genital herpes [ Disease ] hi this is from medical mit edc how does herpes spread hsv 1 is spread through contact with saliva including kissing and mouth to genital contact oral sex hsv 2 is usually transmitted by direct genital to genital or genital to anal contact in the past hsv 2 was responsible for most cases of genital herpes however recent research suggests that almost 80 percent of college students with genital herpes have hsv 1 probably due to high rates of oral sex in this group remember a person with herpes does not need to have symptoms to spread the virus to someone else and this would include not ejaculating as there possibly could have been some pre cum and it would have been in that hope you told her good luck