 [ Symptoms ] my father constantly criticized my mother as a child i tried hard not to be like her how can i learn to love myself [ Disease ] it sounds like you have some insight into the issue at hand it is often more complex and i wonder if you would do well seeing a psychotherapist generally they could work with you in more depth with this and help you get some closure and move on i would suggest using your insurance call them or go their web site look up mental health services and you want a phd psychologist start calling them and tell them you are looking for a therapist that uses analytical or dynamic techniques as i think this approach may match your insight and your issues if they say they do this type of therapy approach go see them weekly for 3 12 months and see how it goes