 [ Symptoms ] how can i help my 4 year old adjust to school would a less stressful morning routine be helpful [ Disease ] you are certainly right about how your own feelings affect your child she does perceive the rushing and anxiety and exhaustion i like your idea of working towards a more relaxed routine other ideas 1 make drop off quick and matter of fact and part of a fixed routine 2 make her some kind of little badge or toy with your face on it and mom is too it can be a new bravery badge or a new stuffed animal that wears a necklace with a locket or a locket that she can wear herself 3 invite one at a time new friends from class to your house for play time these ought to be fairly short at first you can work up to 2 or 3 kids at a time later and later still encourage her to go over to new friends houses again for pre planned short visits at first   it is important that the playtime ends as planned not ends when one or both kids fall apart 