 [ Symptoms ] memory blurred forgetfulness fatigued low self exteem exhaustion loss of balance independent overweight paranoid i have 45 year old daughter who is extremely negative does not care what she looks like it is so embarrassing  she does not trust anyone and no one is going to tell her what to do  she always has a cigarette and a can of coke in her hands says she never eats anything but is extremely overweight huge stomach i am so worried and we think she has a serious problem we love our daughter but feel she is slipping away please give us some advice we are walking on egg shells with her [ Disease ] it would not be possible to adequately assess your daughter based on your internet posting as a concerned parent of an adult child the only thing you can do is try to get her some help with a psychologist or psychiatrist as a first step you can not make her go but you can be assertive in your suggestion