 [ Symptoms ] my 44 yr old boyfriend needs oral stimulation in order to get hard is this normal  my boyfriend and i have been dating for one year lately he does not get an erection unless i give him oral stimulation and even that did not work the other night he drinks quite a bit and also smokes i know he has stress at his job and we also have it at home because we just moved and are remodeling what could be causing this problem and what can i do to help solve it [ Disease ] in my opinion morning headache is side effect of over use of pain killers and sign of depression i recommend the use of antihistaminic like atarax 10 every 12 hours also recommend that she see a psychologist good luck