 [ Symptoms ] my 12 year old is constantly saying he is sorry for everything  we have talked to him about it and he says nothing is wrong we think it may be due to his older brother being a difficult child he have adhd and is diagnosed rapid cycling bi polar an example is he gives his mother a hug and then for no reason apologizes we offer to take him to a psychologist but he take it as a threat even after we explain that it would give him a safe place to talk if he feels he can not talk to us is it just a self esteem issue just need some advice [ Disease ] just reassure him over and over again if necessary that when you do the right thing like hugging your mom or doing a random act of kindness there is no need for an apology but there is a reason to be acknowledge try to preempt his apologies by constantly praising him for some of the good things he is doing if he happens to do a non so good thing you may want to just let it slide for a while praise goes a long long way in modifying behavior even if that behavior is already pretty good to begin with