 [ Symptoms ] why is it that the medical profession is so behind the times when it comes to considering the feelings of husbands as it pertains to their wive is medical care i just recently learned about the exams my wife has been subjected to on a yearly basis at least one of the following pelvic exam pap smear breast exam it depresses and angers me that a male physician can perform those exams without my consent meanwhile the same doctor over the course of more than 10 years has never asked me to remove anything more than my shirt while she is asked to strip down every time she sees him i think without the consent of both partners in a marriage that it should be illegal for an opposite sex health care professional to perform invasive exams of this nature we are not talking about an emergency here and i feel that he has caused irreparable damage to our marriage and has taken something from me that i can not ever get back what is your take on this [ Disease ] your doctor is being thorough trying to give you a more definite answer based on the results of both tests there is always a cause to be concerned so your doctor is trying to alleviate any diagnostic uncertainty as a breast cancer survivor i can share what i have learned from my experiences i am not a medical professional i can only give my opinions mammograms do not always detect everything but they have a very important role to play in diagnostics dense breast tissue most often will obscure many things during mammography therefore many doctors will order an ultrasound or mri each of these diagnostic tools have unique strengths that play vital roles in proper diagnoses it seems you are in great hands and that your doctor is doing everything possible to rule everything out without causing delay which would only increase your anxiety i believe in prevention in all things i believe in early detection saves lives most lesions turn out to be cysts however should a different type of lesion be found the sooner the better if it should turn out to be cancerous the earlier it is found diagnosed and treated then better the outcome also the earlier a tumor is diagnosed the easier the treatment mammograms do save lives i found my tumor myself through self exam i have a very aggressive form of breast cancer which grows very quickly so the lump formed and grew large quickly between my annual mammograms my diagnosis triggered my sister getting her first mammogram through which two tumors were found mammography saved her life mammography also brings relief and joy two days ago i underwent my latest mammogram and two years post diagnosis i am cancer free