 [ Symptoms ] what can help anxiety caused by going to the gynecologist  i have only been to the gynecologist once for examining purposes and it was very traumatic for me i experienced a lot of pain during the exam to the point that the doctor had to stop i felt very violated but i know i have to confront this fear and go back especially since i want to have children one day how can this be dealt with is this normal i was thinking that maybe having my husband go with me next time would be helpful but i am not sure [ Disease ] most helpful answer having your husband or a trusted female friend would be great talk to you women friends too having someone with you will make you feel safer t may not be the exam but the examiner so consider getting a female nurse practitioner or pa or find a very kind and compassionate gynecologist to many unfortunately this intimate exam is so routine almost like a dentist looking in your mouth that they may not take the time and care to do it gently again ask your friends for a referral to someone they find to be helpful your primary care medical provider can give you a short acting anti anxiety medication if you ask something like xanax at a low dose may be helpful look deep inside yourself to see if there was a stressful event in the past that may be surfacing when you are having a gynecological exam if so a counselor may be able to help you deal with this very specific anxiety