 [ Symptoms ] what is medicare is definition of marriage and where will i find it  gay marriage is legal in california and since last july with the rescindment of defense of marriage act by the supreme court is also legal by federal standards medicare tells me that it does not recognize gay marriage and that medicare is definition of marriage is between a man and a woman is that true and where can i find the statute that includes that definition it is causing serious problems with the coordination of benefits with the insurance carried by the employer of my spouse [ Disease ] it was only last summer that the law changed so that medicare can recognize eligibility for same sex spouses it is entirely possible that it is going to take some time for the understanding of this change to make its way through the ranks you can check this site on medicare gov for more information on the topic <link> you might also request assistance from your spouse is human resources department and you can ask for assistance from your state health insurance assistance program to find one near you check here <link> good luck