 [ Symptoms ] i have been with my boyfriend now for eight years and it seems like he would rather take care of him self [ Disease ] i am not sure what you mean by your vague question if your boyfriend is a responsible adult he should be taking care of himself living in his own place paying rentmortgage cooking his own meals working etc if you are referring to masturbation than you need to say so do not be jealous of a masturbating boyfriend he is not cheating on you by pleasuring himself if your sex life has suffered because he prefers masturbation over intimacy then you need to have a heart to heart talk to see how you might spice up your relationship this starts with open communication you have to talk about it