 [ Symptoms ] should a person with herpes let their partner know even if protection is being used and there are no outbreaks [ Disease ] honesty is always the best policy i am sure you would want to know if your partner had herpes and your partner should know if you have herpes you may be surprises to find that you both have a history of herpes if not the uninfected partner can take measures to prevent transmission to them i know it can be embarrassing or even relationship threatening to disclose this but it is the right thing to do there have even been some successful lawsuits filed against a person who knowing gave another a sexually transmitted disease having a safe and healthy sexual relationship starts with honest communication including disclosure of a past herpetic infection and the importance of using condoms remember that herpes is not the only sexually transmitted disease out there