 [ Symptoms ] what are the treatments for benign rolandic epilepsy [ Disease ] most helpful answer having your husband or a trusted female friend would be great talk to you women friends too having someone with you will make you feel safer t may not be the exam but the examiner so consider getting a female nurse practitioner or pa or find a very kind and compassionate gynecologist to many unfortunately this intimate exam is so routine almost like a dentist looking in your mouth that they may not take the time and care to do it gently again ask your friends for a referral to someone they find to be helpful your primary care medical provider can give you a short acting anti anxiety medication if you ask something like xanax at a low dose may be helpful look deep inside yourself to see if there was a stressful event in the past that may be surfacing when you are having a gynecological exam if so a counselor may be able to help you deal with this very specific anxiety