 [ Symptoms ] whenever i masturbate or have sex i am in lots of pain i am a sexually active female what is wrong with me  there are times when i bleed slightly and then after everything is all done my vagina burns if i try to use the bathroom this happens also even when i masturbate i use protection when i have sex but the burning only happens right after everything is done it never goes longer than a few hours so i just do not know what it all means i have been sexually active for almost five years now and this problem keeps occurring whenever i want to do something [ Disease ] you do not mention how much weight you have to lose if you do not carry that much weight you might be at the place your body wants to be your blood pressure is good but how about other health indicators like cholesterol if you weight is too high you need to closely look at how much and what you are eating do you eat mindfully by sitting down to meals and stopping when comfortably full do you skip meals how is your diet quality research shows that exercise does not aid weight loss as much as diet another factor is stress as you mention which can affect appetite getting a handle on stress management can go a long way here is more reading that can help do you really need to lose weight why can not i lose weight hi for me if you was doing everything you say then you would be losing weight but your not so your cheating its the only answer you need to as strict with what your doing as you say above do that and you will lose weight but get on to some of these new ways of losing weight like the caveman get out walking but brisk walking take a weighted back pack and when doing that find some hills to climb get up early go swimming these last two are some of the best ways to lose weight you just keep away from fast foods and junk foods and no sodas drink lots of water all ways think of these self discipline self control breaking bad habits in grain these in your mind good luck