Try not to judge. If you aren't crystal clear about any points, ask questions until you are. A long overdue honest, no-holds-barred conversation might be all you need. Have the conversation Keep it calm and talk about how you feel, rather than play the blame game. If not, a few sessions with a good therapist may be all it takes to put you back on track.
Judging is not a thing.
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