She is a daughter of Margaret M. Hargraves and Gordon S. Hargraves of Lloyd Harbor , N.Y . Her father , who retired as a vice president of the private banking group of Manufacturers Hanover Trust Company in New York , is the president of the board of the St. Johnland Nursing Center in Kings Park , N.Y . Her mother is a real estate broker in the Cold Spring Harbor office of Daniel Gale Sotheby 's International Realty .