The bride , 38 , and bridegroom , 46 , met in 2002 while performing in '' Mrs. Satan '' by Victoria Bond at Guild Hall in East Hampton , N.Y . They have sung together since then , most recently in July at the Liederkranz in New York , in the premiere of an opera written by the bridegroom , '' Leithian , '' based on J. R. R. Tolkien 's '' Silmarillion . ''