Born in Tulsa , Oklahoma , she graduated Goucher College , then joined the Navy during World War II where she attained the rank of Lt. J.G . She married Allen Krulwich , who died in 1980 and she is survived by her children Robert and Sara , and grandchildren Jesse , Nora , Allen , and Samantha , her sisters Rita Rand and Josephine Stayman , her daughters-in-law , Tamar Lewin and Lynn Paltrow and many , many admiring nieces , nephews , cousins and friends .