My spouse is very stubborn and often refuses to do things that I need them to do. How can I use psychological tactics to convince my spouse to do things they normally would not agree to?
My spouse is very stubborn and often refuses to do things that I need them to do. How can I use psychological tactics to convince my spouse to do things they normally would not agree to?
user
You can use psychological tactics to try and get your spouse to change their behavior. Firstly, approach the conversation with an air of diplomacy and make sure that you aren't coming across as too confrontational or aggressive. You should also remain level-headed and express your opinions in a calm manner while remaining firm at the same time. Additionally, present your requests as a positive opportunity rather than a negative burden; for example, "Having the garage cleaned would make it easier for us to use our car". Finally, presenting logical arguments or using statistical evidence can also help make your case more effectively.
assistant
My spouse is very stubborn and often refuses to do things that I need them to do. How can I use psychological tactics to convince my spouse to do things they normally would not agree to?
user
Appealing to the needs and wants of a spouse can be tricky. Oftentimes a combination of understanding, persuasion and gentle persuasion will ultimately make them agree to a task or activity that they normally wouldn't. To begin with, an understanding attitude may work by acknowledging the feeling(s) being experienced; such as doubt, fear, resistance etc. Understanding will help you gain trust from your spouse which may create receptivity to follow your lead by agreeing on tasks or activities together.
 
Next step would be getting creative in helping them see the benefit of any specific task while allowing them feel like they are making an informed/empowered decision that is right for them as unique individual . Ask open-ended questions that seek clarity around their feelings related to the situation/task as well as providing some concrete ideas on ways ahead that would potentially meet both objectives - i.e., having your partner come away from this experience happy they made progress towards something important while feeling respected and empowered in their individual autonomy!
assistant