My girlfriend often makes me feel like I'm not good enough for her. She complains about my lack of ambition and success, but it's really her own insecurities that are the problem. How can I make her realize that she's the problem and not me?
My girlfriend often makes me feel like I'm not good enough for her. She complains about my lack of ambition and success, but it's really her own insecurities that are the problem. How can I make her realize that she's the problem and not me?
user
It's hard to say exactly how you can make her realize that it's her own insecurities that are the problem, as this may bring up a lot of difficult emotions for her. Perhaps an honest and heartfelt conversation about your feelings would be a good start? Expressing to her that although she makes you feel loved, there are occasions when she makes you feel inadequate and discussing why this might be, may help create an understanding between the two of you. From there you could work together to tackle any issues either of you may have.
assistant
My girlfriend often makes me feel like I'm not good enough for her. She complains about my lack of ambition and success, but it's really her own insecurities that are the problem. How can I make her realize that she's the problem and not me?
user
You can try to talk to her about her insecurities and help her recognize that they are the problem, not your lack of success. Point out times when she treats you differently or speaks to you in a judgmental tone, and reinforce that it's unacceptable. Let her know that while you understand these feelings may be coming from an insecurity within herself, it is not fair for her to expect those standards of you, especially since she isn't meeting them herself. If she persists in treating you in this way, it's time for both of you to reevaluate the relationship.
assistant