Should I use orbited or gevent for integrating comet functionality into a django app
Instead of Apache + X-Sendfile you could use Nginx + X-Accel-Redirect. That way you can run a gevent/wsgi/django server behind Nginx with views that provide long-polling. No need for a separate websockets server.
I've used both Apache + X-Sendfile and Nginx + X-Accel-Redirect to serve (access-protected) content on Webfaction without any problems.
I have been working with Django for some time now and have written several apps on a setup that uses Apache 2 mod_wsgi and a PostgreSQL database on ubuntu.
I have aa app that uses xsendfile to serve files from Apache via a Django view, and also allow users to upload files via a form as well.  All this working great, but I now want to ramp up the features (and the complexity I am sure) by allowing users to chat and to see when new files have been uploaded without refreshing their browser.
As I want this to be scale-able, I don't want to poll continually with AJAX as this is going to get very heavy with large numbers of users.
I have read more posts, sites and blogs then I can count on integrating comet functionality into a Django app but there are so many different opinions out there on how to do this that I am now completely confused.
Should I be using orbited, gevent, iosocket?
Where does Tornado fit into this debate?
I want the messages also be stored on the database, so do I need any special configuration 
to prevent my application blocking when writing to the database?
Will running a chat server with Django have any impact on my ability to serve files from Apache?