I am wondering if there is any way to wirelessly connect to a computer/server using python's socket library. The dir(socket) brought up a lot of stuff and I wanted help sorting it out.
but one question. Is the socket server specific to python, or can
  another language host and python connect or vise-versa?

As long as you are using sockets - you can connect to any socket-based server (made with any language). And vice-versa: any socket-based client will be able to connect to your server. Moreover it's cross-platform: socket-based client from any OS can connect to any socket-based server (from any OS).
How do I wirelessly connect to a computer using python