After he got home from the hospital he was angry, then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again.
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?
Before I answer your question I want to cover some basics given that attempted suicide is very serious. I don't mean to scare you but I do want to be realistic with you. If a person attempts suicide once it is more likely they will try again. Men also succeed more often than women because they typically use a means that is more fatal. Here are some signs you can watch for:Threatening to hurt or kill himself, or talking of wanting to hurt or kill himself; and or,Looking for ways to kill himself by seeking access to firearms, available pills, or other means; and/or,Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide, when these actions are out of the ordinary.Some other signs are:Increasedsubstance(alcohol or drug)useNo reason for living; no sense ofpurposein lifeAnxiety, agitation, unable to sleep or sleeping all of the timeFeelingtrapped like theres no way outHopelessnessWithdrawalfrom friends, family and societyRage, uncontrolledanger, seeking revengeActingrecklessor engaging in risky activities, seemingly without thinkingDramaticmood changesGiving away prized possessions or seeking long-term care for petsNow, in terms of ways you can help:1. Ask if your husband is okay or if he is having thoughts of suicide2. Express your concern about what you are observing in his behavior3. Listen attentively and non-judgmentally4. Reflect what he shares and let him know that his is heard5. Tell him he is not alone6. Discuss treatments available that can help7. Guide them to additional professional help:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255).A mental health professionalA hospital emergency departmentIf you are interested, I have more information on my website under "Resources/Information" and "Suicide". www.bbcounseling.netI wish you both the best!