I'm always told I'm not good enough or trying hard enough. I put 100% in to every thing. I'm worn out, I've worked on all of my family relationships, I'm doing great in school, I'm kind to those in need and otherwise. I stick to my religious beliefs and leave room for mistakes and learn from others so I don't have to make as many and the ones I do I learn from. Somehow it's still not good enough and nothing I do works. Nothing has changed, and I feel hopeless. Any suggestions or ideas?
How do I cope with "never being good enough?"
It sounds like you are aware of your positive traits but youare struggling with someone who does not acknowledge nor celebrate your efforts or achievements. It seems like that is affecting your inner voice, which allows you to accept yourself for who you are.My suggestion is to explore that relationshipand decide if that persons opinion should determine how you feel about yourself. If this is an important relationship, you could communicate to this person how the lack of positive feedback is affecting you. Then, work on spending more time with those who value you, and can give you praise, encouragement, and constructive criticism. Also, explore your religious beliefs, and what is they say about who you are as a person. Finally, explore with a Counselor your inner voice and try to figure out if the negative message is settling in and harming your self-esteem. Through therapy, you could learn to self-compassion and acceptance wich will help your self esteem.Cmo manejo el sentirme que no soy suficiente bueno?Siempre me dicen que no soy suficientemente bueno o no trato lo suficiente. Yo pongo el 100% en todo. Estoy agotado, he trabajado en todas mis relaciones, estoy muy bien en la escuela, trato bien a las personas que lo necesitan. Me aferro a mis creencias religiosas y dejo espacio para los errores, y aprendo de otros para no tener que cometer los mismos. Aun as no soy suficiente y nada de lo que hago funciona, me siento desesperanzado. Alguna idea o sugerencia?Al parecer estas consiente de tus caractersticas positivas, pero ests teniendo dificultad con alguien que no reconoce tus esfuerzos, ni logros, y eso est afectando esa voz interior que te permite aceptar quien eres.Mi sugerencia es que explores esa relacin y analices si la opinin de esta persona va a determinar cmo te valoras a ti mismo. Si es una relacin valiosa, puedes comunicarle a la persona en cuestin como te afecta la falta de comentarios y opiniones positivas. Luego enfcate en pasar ms tiempo con personas que te valoran, te dan halagos, te motivan y te aconsejan. Tambin explora que dice tu religin sobre quin eres como persona y cul es tu valor. Y por ltimo, explora con tu Consejero si ese mensaje negativo esta afectando tu autoestima. A travs de la terapia puedes aprender tecnicas auto compasin y aceptacin que ayudaran a fortalecerte.