I started dating my fianc two years ago. My first cousin is married to my fiancs sister. There has always been a communication issue between my uncle and aunt and my cousin and his wife. My uncle goes to my mom instead of talking to my cousin, and it upsets my mom.
Based on the information provided, this is an issue with boundaries. Sounds like your uncle goes to your mom and possibly your mothertakes the issuesto you. I do not like to assume so I will direct you to information regarding families dealing with enmeshment and triangulation. Enmeshment is the concept of diffused boundaries in families and other personal relationships. Triangulation istwo individuals relaying information to a third party what cannot be said directly to each other.From someone who has dealt withboththese issues ona personal level,being informed aboutfamily dynamics is beneficial and can helpyou develop healthy boundaries for yourselfwithin your family structure. You may need assistance with developing healthy boundaries. Although it is possible, it is not easy to change the way you have been operating for any extended amount of time. Hope this help!