I just got married with my husband. I have four kids of my own, and he accepts me with my kids. I am thankful he loves my kids even though theyre not his. Now we are having problems in our relationship because of my past. I know all marriages have problems, but sometimes I feel its not going to work out if theres no trust. Its hard for me to let go because I love him, but I am getting tired.
Hi Louisiana,You say that the problems are with your "past", but my hunch is the problems are about his insecurity and his personal barriers to trust (unless you've recently revealed details of a sordid past?). You don't mention ever having hurt the trust in the relationship.Trust is the first stage in a relationship. Moving forward before they develop trust is a common mistake couples make, and now you two have involved children in a relationship that's missing a crucial element. But you didn't see this coming, did you? That's because only as we become emotionally intimate do our deeper fears and insecurities come to the surface.I give you credit for wanting it to work, and I believe you would benefit from the support of a therapist in working through the kinks related to trust. Good luck!