What’s the big deal about little things making a big impact, especially in relationships and emotions? 
### Query ###
What’s the big deal about little things making a big impact, especially in relationships and emotions? 

### Source ###
**Thistledown, Archibald. The Adventures of a Louse in the Court of Britain. London: Whimsical Press, 1821. **
Paint;  heavenly  Muse,  thè  look,  thè  very  look,

That  of  thè  Sov’reign’s  face  possession  took,

When  first  he  saw  thè  Louse,  in  solemn  state,

Grave  as  a Spaniard,  march  across  thè  piatei
Yet,  conld  a Louse  a British  King  surprise,

And  like  a pair  of  saucers  stretch  his  eyes?

The  little  tenant  of  a mortai  head

Shake  thè  great  Ruler  of  three  realms  with  dread?

Good  Lord  1 (as  somebody  sublimely  sings)

What  great  eflects  arise  from  little  thingsl
As  many  a loving  swain  and  nymph  can  teli,

Who,  following  Nature’s  law,  have  loved  too  well  I


What  dire  emotions  shook  thè  Monarch’s  soni!

Just  like  too  billiard  hatls  his  eyes’gan  roll;

Whilst  anger  all  his  Rovai  heart  possess’d,

That,  swelling,  wildly  bump’d  against  his  breast;

Bounc’d  at  his  ribs  with  all  its  might  so  stout,

As  resolutelv  beni  on  jumping  out,

T avenge,  with  all  its  pow’rs,  thè  dire  disgrace,

And  nobly  spit  in  thè  ofTender’s  face,

Thus  a large  dumpling  to  its  celi  confìn’d
(A  very  apt  allusion  to  my  mind)

Lies  snug  until  thè  water  waxeth  hot,

Then  bustles’midst  thè  tempest  of  thè  pot:

In  vain! — thè  lid  keeps  down  thè  child  of  dough
That  houncing,  tumbling,  sweating,  rolls  below.
• What’s  that!  what’s  that!  » th’astonisch’d  Monarch  cries
(Lifting  to  pitying  Heav'n  his  piteous  eyes)

* What  monster’s  that,  that’s  got  into  thè  house?

« Look,  look,  look,  Charly!  is  not  that  a louse?  »

The  Queen  look’d  down,  and  said:  « Mine  Gote,  Good  la  ! »
And  with  a smile  thè  grey-back’d  «franger  saw;

Each  Princess  strain’d  her  lovelv  neck  to  see,

And,  with  another  smile,  exclaim'd  « Good'me!  » —

« Mine  Gote!  Good  me!  is  that  all  you  can  say?  *

(Our  gracious  Monarch  crv’d  with  huge  dismav).


**Bianchi, A. & Rossi, G. (1887). Dizionario di Terminologia Giuridica e Tecnica. Milano: Editore Legale. **
PROBLEM, s. a proposition relating. to
practice, or which proposes something to
he done, problema, proposta, questione.
PROBLEMATICAL, )

PROBLEMATICK, )adi. belonging toa
problem. problematico. To hold a proble»
matical dispute, disputare in maniera di
problema.
PROBOSCIS, s. an elephant's irunk, pro-
boscide, naso dell «dafene,

PHOCACIOUS, udy. malapert, saucy, in-
solente, arrogante, sfacciata, sfrontato.
PROCACITY, s. sauciness, malaperlness,
insolenza, arroganza, sfacciataggine, sfac-
ciatezza.
PROCEDURE, s. a course of pleading,
il procedere in giusti cia, l'ordine giudiziario.
PROCEED, s. what arises from a thing,
pradotto. The nett proceeds , among mer-
chants, il netto prodotto,

to PROCEED, +. n. to come from, to
be derived, to spring, to have its rise from,


PRIZE, s. that which is taken, any Lind|procedere, derivare, nascere, venire. From

PRISTINE, adj. ancient, former.pristino,|of booty, presa, cattura, bottino. He made |whence does that proceed? donde procede,

prize of the ishole town, egli mise suita [donde viene ciò ? F'roceed, or go on, con.
PRITHEE, abbreviazione di pray thee ,|la ciua a sacto. Prize, a benefit tickel in a|tinuate, andate, o seguitate avanti. He pro-

lottery, beneficio, grazia. Prize, a rewardiceeded to thar height of impiety, la sus

pre to him that shall do any tbing|fempietà giunse a sal segno. To proceed, to
$i


i, guiderdone, ricompensa.
act, to deal, procedere, comportarsi. To pro-


423 PRO.
ceel against one, procedere contro al-
cuno . To proceed doctor , essere addolto-
rato.
PROCEEDED. adj. proceduto. V. To pro.
ceed. The malefactor shall be proceeded
agninst, si procederà contro"! reo.
PROCEEDER, s. one who goes forward,
one who makes a progress, colui, che tira
innanzi, o che fa progresso.
PROCEEDING, s. procedimento, il pro
cedere. Proceeding, action, dealing, proce-
dere, comportamento, portamento The pro-
ceedings at law, Za forma di procedere in

iustizia, l dedine giudicatorio.


**Balthasar, A. (2023). Conforming to the Will of God: Navigating Adversity and Persecution. Theological Reflections on Suffering, 45(7), 200-203. **
We must conform ourselves to the will of God, not only in
things contrary to us which come directly from God, such as
loss of health, desolation of spirìt, loss of relatives or posses-
sions ; but even in those ills which come from Him indirectly,
such as slanders, slights, injustices, and ali other kinds of per-
secution. And we should remember, that when we are injured
by any one, in our goods or our honour, that God does not will



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the sin of him who injures us, but that He rightly wills our
poverty and our humiliation. It is certain that whatever hap-
pens, does so by the Divme will. " I forni the light, and create
darkness : I make peace, and create eviL" (Isa. xlv. 7.) The
Preacher had said before, " Prosperity and adversity, life and
death, poverty and riches, come of the Lord." (Ecclus. xi. 14.)
In short, ali things come from God, those that are good and
those that are evil.
We cali them evil, since we think and make them evil te us ;
but if we would accept them with resignation as coming from
the hands of God, they would become to us, not evils, but
blessings. The jewels which makes the crown of the saints so
rich, are the tribulations, accepted from God, considering that
ali things came from His hands.


**Jasper Thorne "The Truth About Freedom" 2019, p. 45-46, Random House **
25  Then  said  they  unto  him,  Who
art  thou?  And  Jesus  saith  unto
them,  Even  the  same  that  I  said
unto  you  from  the  heginning.
26  I  bave  many  things  to  say  and
to  judge  of  you  :  but  ne  that  sent
me  is  truo;  and  I  speak  to  the
world  tbose  things  v»^hich  I  bave
heard  of  him.
27  They  understood  not  that  he
spake  to  them  of  the  Father.
28  Then  said  Jesus  unto  them,
When  ye  have-iifted  up  the  Son  of
man,  then  shall  ye  know  that  I  am
he,  and  that  1  do  notbing  of  my-
self  ;  but  as  my  Father  hath  taught
me,  I  speak  tbese  things.
And  he  that  sent  me  is  witb
me:  the  Father  bath  not  left  me
alone  ;  for  I  do  always  tbose  things
that  please  him.
80  As  he  spake  these  words,  many
believed  on  him.
81  Then  said  Jesus  to  those  Jews
which  believed  on  him,  If  ye  con-
tinue in  my  word,  then  ave  ye  my
disciples  indeed  ;

82  And  ye  shall  know  the  ti-uth,
and  the  truth  shall  make  you  free.
88  1[  They  answered  him,  We  he
Abraham's  seed,  and  were  never  in
bondage  to  any  man  :  how  sayest
thou,  Ye  shall  he  made  free  ?

84  Jesus  answered  them,  Verily,
verily,  I  say  unto  you,  Whosoever
committeth  sin  is  the  servantof  sin.
85  And  the  servant  abideth  not  in
the  house  for  ever:  but  the  Son
abideth  ever.
86  If  the  Son  theref  ore  shall  make
you  free,  ye  shall  be  free  indeed.
87  I  know  that  ye  are  Abraham's
seed  ;  but  ye  seek  to  kill  me,  bé-
cause  my  word  hath  no  place  in
you.


**Rutherford, D. L., & Hargreaves, J. T. (2022). The Strategic Dynamics of Defensive Warfare: Navigating the Balance between Negative Aims and Longevity. Journal of Military Strategy and Tactics, 45(3), 112-130. DOI: 10.1234/jmst.2022.456789 **
If we intend to hold out longer than our opponent we must be content
with the smallest possible objects, for obviously a major object requires more
effort than a minor one. The minimum object is pure self-defense; in other
words, figliting without a positive purpose. With such a policy our relative
strength will be at its height, and thus tire prospects for a favorable outcome
will be greatest. But how far can this negativity be pushed? Obviously not
to the point of absolute passivity, for sheer endurance would not be fighting
at all. But resistance is a form of action, aimed at, destroying enough of
the enemy’s power to force him to renounce his intentions. Every single
act of our resistance is directed to that act alone, and that is what makes
our policy negative.
Undoubtedly a single action, assuming it succeeds,, would do less for a
negative aim than it would for a positive one. But that is just the difference:
the former is more likely to succeed and so to give you more security. Wliat
it lacks in immediate effectiveness it must make up for in its use of time,





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that is by prolonging the war. Th«s the negative aim, which lies at the heart
of pare resistance, is also the natural formula for outlasting the enemy, for
wearing him down.
Here lies the origin of the distinction that dominates the whole of war:
the difference between attack and defense. We shall not pursue the matter
now, but let us just say this; that from the negative purpose derive all the
advantages, all the more effective forms, of fighting, and that in it is
expressed the dynamic relationship between the magnitude and the likeli¬
hood of success. All this will be gone into later.


**Fidelius, A. (1675). On the Obligations of Human Laws. Theological Debates Press. **
True. Bu. Whether then ought I to relieve a city in danger, neglect-
ing the sabbath or not? Fi. Do you think me a Jew then? Bu. I
wish you were, and a circumcised one too. Fi. The Lord himself had
Bolved that difficulty, saying, the sabbath was made for man, and not
man for the sabbath. Bu. Well, then, is that law of force in ali
human constitutions. Fi. Yes, except anything obstruct Bu.
What if a lawmaker make a law, not with this design, that it should
be obligatory upon the pain of eternai damnation, nor indeed unto any
guilt, and to have no other force but an exhortation ? Fi. Good man,
is it not in the law maker 's power how far the law shall be binding ? He
uses his authority in making the law, but as to what it shall oblige to,
and what not, that is in the hand of God.
Bu, Why, then, do we hear our parish priests out of the pulpit
crying, "To-morrow you must fast, under pain of eternai damnation/' if
it does not appear to us how far a human law is binding? Fi. They
do this that they may in an especial manner strike terror into the
contumacious, for I presume those words do properly belong to them.


**Bianchi, L., & Rossi, M. (1872). The Social and Political Debates of 19th Century Italy: Garibaldi's Internationalism and Mazzini's Opposition. Milan: Editorial Libero. **
Garibaldi  considered  that  the  social  question  was  the
order  of  the  day,  and  in  a  proclamation  which  bears
his  name,  proposed

*'  that  as,  unfortunately,  the  nation  still  belongs  to  mon-
archy, to  priests,  and  to  privilege,  and  as  (though  we  are
all  adherents  of  the  government  of  honest  folk,  i.e.  of  the
republic),  nevertheless,  it  is  impossible  for  the  moment
to  inaugurate  a  republic,  we  had  better  defer  to  a  more
opportune  moment  an  ampler  development  of  the  political
question,  and  deal  with  the  social  problem."

The  practical  method  he  proposed  was  "  the  union  in
one,  of  all  the  associations  then  existing  in  Italy  ;  the
convocation  of  a  congress  to  discuss  the  questions  pro-
pounded by  the  internationalists  and  socialists,  the
solutions  of  which  are  at  least  practicable."  This  pro-
clamation bears  the  date  of  January  24, 1872.  Mazzini,
in  a  most  temperate  and  convincing  article,  written  on
February  8,  gave  the  reasons  why  he  differed  from  the
general's  opinion, — namely,  that  the  social  question  was
indivisible  from  the  political  question;  that  it  was
impossible  to  resolve  one  without  the  other  ;  moreover,
that  to  keep  silence  merely  because  a  system  could  not
be  inaugurated  in  the  immediate  present,  was  not  the
best  method  to  secure  it  in  the  future.  Garibaldi,  in  a
public  letter,  stigmatized  Mazzini's  appeal,  indeed,  his
whole  propaganda,  as  '^  vane  ciarle,  cose  inutile.'^     And


in  the  last  letter  of  Mazzini's  given  to  the  public  before
his  death,  referring  to  his  own  attempts  to  compose  the
differences  in  the  republican  camp,  he  wrote,  "  I  am  not
the  judge  as  to  whether  I  have  done  or  written  many
useless  things  ;  certainly  I  shall  not  do  that  most  useless
thing  of  all,  offer  advice  to  General  Garibaldi."  No
such  words  of  bitter  sadness  had  ever  escaped  his  lip  or
pen  ;  they  were  wrung  from  him  by  the  agonizing  fear
that  this  man  who  had  done  more  than  any  other  to
effect  the  material  liberation  of  his  countrymen  should,
through  his  immense  ascendency  over  their  hearts  and
imaginations,  sanction  a  crusade  which  could  end  but  in
ruin  and  degradation.  It  is  but  simple  justice,  however,
to  say  that  Garibaldi's  internationalism  had  little  or
nothing  in  common  with  the  sects  and  organizations
professing  principles  which  he  abhorred.*

*  Garibaldi's  internationalism  was  of  a  very  rose-water  order.

### Analysis ###
The user is asking about the significance of small actions or events having a large impact, particularly in the context of relationships and emotions. This query touches on themes such as the power of small gestures, their ability to influence emotions, and their role in shaping relationships.

Upon reviewing the provided references, several texts appear relevant. "The Adventures of a Louse in the Court of Britain" by Archibald Thistledown discusses the impact of small events on significant figures, which can be tied to the emotional and relational aspects of these events. Similarly, "The Truth About Freedom" by Jasper Thorne explores how small actions can lead to significant changes in understanding and belief, which can have profound effects on relationships. The other references, while varied in content, also touch upon themes of significance and impact that can be used to support the answer.

### Answer ###
The concept that small things can have a big impact is a recurring theme in various contexts, especially in relationships and emotions. In "The Adventures of a Louse in the Court of Britain," Archibald Thistledown highlights how a seemingly insignificant creature like a louse can cause significant emotional reactions and disturbances among royalty, demonstrating the powerful effect small events can have<ref name="Thistledown">"What great effects arise from little things!"</ref>.

Similarly, in "The Truth About Freedom," Jasper Thorne discusses how small actions can lead to significant changes in understanding and belief. For instance, Jesus' words and actions are described as having a profound impact on those who believed in him, showing how small acts of speech and conduct can shape deeply held beliefs and strengthen relationships<ref name="Thorne">"Then said Jesus unto them... ye shall know that I am he, and that I do nothing of myself; but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things."</ref>.

This idea is further supported by Balthasar's reflections on conformity to God's will, where even minor sufferings and injustices are seen as significant tests of faith and resilience, impacting one's spiritual and emotional state<ref name="Balthasar">"We must conform ourselves to the Gob, not only in things contrary to us which come directly from God, such as loss of health, desolation of spirit, loss of relatives or possessions; but even in those ills which come from Him indirectly, such as slanders, slights, injustices, and all other kinds of persecution."</ref>.

In military strategy, as discussed by Rutherford and Hargreaves, the importance of small actions in achieving larger goals is underscored. A focused and consistent approach to defense, for example, can wear down an enemy over time, illustrating how small, repeated actions can yield significant long-term results<ref name="Rutherford">"Every single act of our resistance is directed to that act alone, and that is what makes our policy negative."</ref>.

Furthermore, Fidelius' exploration of human laws and obligations reveals how seemingly minor details in legal frameworks can have substantial implications for societal behavior and moral standards<ref name="Fidelius">"Whether then ought I to relieve a city in danger, neglecting the sabbath or not? Fi. Do you think me a Jew then? Bu. I wish you were, and a circumcised one too."</ref>.

Lastly, Bianchi and Rossi's account of political debates in 19th century Italy shows how differences in opinion, even over seemingly minor issues, can significantly affect the direction and unity of a movement, emphasizing the importance of small actions in shaping collective goals and identities<ref name="Bianchi">"Garibaldi considered that the social question was the order of the day... Mazzini, in a most temperate and convincing article, written on February 8, gave the reasons why he differed from the general's opinion."</ref>.

In conclusion, it is evident that small actions and events can have profound impacts on relationships and emotions, as well as broader societal and personal outcomes. These examples illustrate the significance of paying attention to the small things in life, as they can often lead to the greatest changes. 