As a woman who’s married to a man who’s a little more “OCD”/ type A than I am, there are things he cares about that I just… do not think are that important. At all.      In the beginning of our marriage I really did think “this is stupid and doesn’t matter”. But it became obvious to me that I was refusing to do a very simple thing that would make my husband less stressed because …why? I was convinced I  was “right” and he was “wrong” about whether or not it mattered? How stupid is that?   So yes, I would and do advise the woman (me) to do the little things that their partner has expressly communicated are important to them.