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SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Today i had a table call me a god-hating queer loving peice of trash, reddit what's the worst customer you've dealt with?
POST: I was in a section with another waiter who happens to be gay, when i came up to the table i was greeted with: "wait, you ain't queer too are ya? That faggy one came by and i told him i need a new waiter" Shocked and apalled i answered as i polite as i could: "No sir, I am not gay but i do find it appalling the amount of hatred you have for someones entire existence, i think you're going to need another waiter because i can't take care of you" He then proceeded to call me a "queer loving god-hating piece of trash" Thank god he left after my manager talked to him and asked him to treat his employees with more respect or he wouldn't be served. On the plus side the table next to him overheard the entire thing and gave me a $20 tip and told me i handled such an awful situation "eloquently" | TL;DR: That I am bisexual is something a guy needs to know, but they say that he should tell him and not me as much. When/how does this happen? | TL;DR: Is it appropriate to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual in a hetero relationship? Do you think it is? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Should I [F/23] be weirded out that my boyfriend [M/30] has pictures of a girl I know on his phone?
POST: We've been together over three years now, love each other, rarely fight and are generally quite happy.
This morning I was uploading some photos from my camera to my blog, and when I hit the upload button instead of going straight to my SD card the window opened "pics for phone" (which is my boyfriend's phone pictures file obv), I knew that file existed but I trust him so I don't snoop, plus we have completely different taste in porn so it's usually better if we avoid each other's porn folders.
As I was bringing the cursor over to the back button I noticed that the first image in the folder was a girl I went to school with in a bikini, we're not friends so to speak but we knew each other, and my boyfriend knows we went to school together because I told him that when she sent him a friend request on facebook about a year ago, I'm pretty sure he just though she looked hot in the photo or something, but at the same time I'm a little weirded out that he has a photo of someone I kind of know on his phone, yet as far as I know no photos of his girlfriend (which up until this point I'd never really thought about or cared about, he sees me naked every day anyway).
I'm thinking about asking him about it (I will tell him how I found it) and if maybe he could delete it because it's making me feel weird, but I just want some clarification that I'm not being a psycho hose beast or anything by feeling creeped out by this. | TL;DR: Not sure what my boyfriend needs to know about bisexual orientation. Was in way of knowing wrongly when he asked me that I was bisexual when I was pregnant. How do I tell him that I am bisexual? | TL;DR: Who can tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? Discussion is heated and my biggest worry is losing him because of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: 190-180. On the final stretch for abs. HELP
POST: I am 5' 11'' (PICS NSFW UNDIES) I have never been particularly over weight but I've always had some what of a belly. Sometime in December at around 190 I decided to do insanity. Here is what I looked like then Front: Side After doing insanity and not following any sort of diet, I ended up here Front: Side: At the end of insanity I started this 3 day a week Boot Camp at my gym where we do insanity like workouts for an hour. I tried to go all fruits veggies and meat for awhile, but didn't really stick to it. I'm definitely maintaining my progress and I feel extremely in shape when I'm exercising. (I can effortlessly do explosive movements with proper form) I feel as though I am on the final run towards the finish line and all I need to do is build some muscle and burn that last belly. When I sit down it still rests over my belt, yet I don't feel fat anywhere else. What can I do to keep going and uncover those abs. I need a routine that is intense and daily if need be, along with some sort of diet plan that is simple and straightforward. Help me get down the final stretch and get those abs out before June. I will commit to any exercise and do it. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, tell my boyfriend it's important, when's the right time to work on it, wanna have a beer with my lover but think that asap! | TL;DR: I've been in a phased relationship friend of a month for a month. Is it he needs to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [18M] advice for date with [18F] that is not 'allowed' to date yet.
POST: I met this girl at our college orientation, and we hit it off pretty well, I enjoyed joking and talking with her throughout the day. I got her number and continued talking with her for a couple days, then asked her out to a dinner. She seemed very hesitant at first and said she would need to bring her cousin, so I said if she was interested at all we could find a time where we were both free.
Here is when she tells me that her parents told her she is not allowed to date boys yet, which I found very strange. And get this, her parents do not speak English, so any conversation with them needs to be done through her or Google translate(spanish). We both want to go on a date together, but I don't want to disrespect her parents and get off on a bad note.
What should I do? Do i get her to talk with her parents? just pull the old bring friends and just split off from them for a date? Any advice is appreciated, thanks guys. | TL;DR: Is it necessary or applicable to hetero relationship, regardless of if one of the participants in the relationship is bisexual? Welcome. I really like the guy. This is my guy and I really like him. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I'm very good at it. Do I go in with my boyfriend to tell him what I'm bisexual/nothing else? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my close-friend [21 M] of two years, I feel like I've been ripped off. How irrational am I being?
POST: Hello Reddit,
I'm having an issue with my friend, Imajerk, right now, and we both would like the internet's opinion on the matter. Background, we have been great friends throughout uni, because we are in the same major and this will end up being nothing more than a bump in our relationship.
A few weeks back, I bought a TV from a friend. Before buying this TV, I spent a bit of time on the internet researching, looking through slick deals, newegg, and amazon. My roommate and I were originally going to buy another TV, but when I consulted
Imajerk about it, he told me I would be getting a bad deal. The TV was a 40" 1080p LED tv for $250. Imajerk said the specs were bad, because it had an input lag of 8.5ms. Cool, that's fine. I guess I'll look for alternatives. At this point, he offers to sell his TV.
His TV was a 40" Toshiba 1080 with better input response, more HDMI ports, for the cost of $300. He told me he originally bought it for $400 and it he will not budge for lower than $300. I waited and thought about it for a week, and I decided I would go with the deal. My thinking was that this didn't seem like too bad of a deal, and my friend wouldn't go through with ripping me off if it was. After talking with another friend, he found comparable TV prices for $150-$250. The $250 was also considered a bad deal.
I understand that I didn't do enough research, and I should have realized this was a bad deal. I'm still learning how to be a consumer and such. My question is if Imajerk did a dick move. We are still good friends, I just want to prove he's a jerk. | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, boyfriend needs to know I'm bisexual and would hate to lose him because of it. I'm bisexual and who will ruin his coddle? Who should I finally tell? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, I'm in a hetero relationship; Is it something he needs to know? Is it really relevant in a hetero relationship regardless if one of the participants in the relationship is bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [35 M] with my SO[32/F] 3 years, want to know reddit's opinion on disclosure of personal information.
POST: Backstory: my father was physically and emotionally abusive, abandoned my mother and I when I was young. After my mother died I reestablished contact. He proved to be a terrible person. In fact, he was being so abusive to the children in his new family that my long time significant other and I went to social services and had an investigation started about the abuse ending any and all contact with him. In short, he is a bad dude and someone worthy of being embarrassed of as a father.
Now: Years after ending all contact my so and I have moved back to the much smaller town that I grew up in and where he also lives. She mentioned that someone asked her if Mr. Numberbang Sr was my father and she confirmed elaborating what a bad guy he is. Personally, I was mortified that she would air my/our dirty laundry publicly and erupted in anger. She said that either she was going to elaborate on what an all purpose piece of shit he was or flatly deny my relationship to him.
While I am ashamed of my father, I am proud of the person I have become in spite of him and now neither want to claim or deny his paternity. Instead, I requested that if asked she acknowledge that it is indeed my father, but that we have no contact. She felt I was stifling her ability to distance herself from him and I felt her behavior suggests I should be ashamed somehow for myself. What do you think reddit? | TL;DR: Experiencing bisexuality. Need advice on when/where to tell boyfriend. Worried about losing him because of he's also bisexual. How do I tell him that? | TL;DR: My first girlfriend of two years is bisexual and I'm in a hetero relationship with a guyhe is bisexual. Should he know what a bisexual promiscuity is? When do you guys think it is? |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: What is more important life or happiness?
POST: So, I have been juggling this question in my brain for the past few months especially now, and I am just not certain on how I feel about it. Whether it's more important to have life, no matter of how much shit is wrong with it (homeless, jobless, unhappy, ill, stagnant, lonely, depressed,{insert personal life issue here}, etc). Or is it the quality of life that matters most. If you aren't happy in your life, and you have given it your all from the resources that you have to change that with no avail. Then is life really worth living? Hell, let's say you have managed to achieve a level of financial stability that you were looking for when you were younger. But now, in old age, you aren't able to participate in those things that you wanted to do so badly when you were younger. The only things you have now are regrets and unkempt promises to yourself. Is life worth having or suffering still then? | TL;DR: 14 month relationship with i think boyfriend needs to know this because he likes me because I am extremely attractive. How do I tell him it's happening? | TL;DR: I am in a hetero relationship. What is the right time to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? What is a good time for me too? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18m) and a girl (16f) took it to a new level of relationship but she doesn't want an "official relationship"
POST: Me and this girl have been "talking" for a little bit. Recently she told me she was into Collaring, In lamens terms she wants a Master/Slave relationship, her being the Slave and me being the Master. I'm fine with this and I actually made her "mine" last night. However when I asked her to actually be my GF she didn't want it but said she would stay faithful and not talk to anyone or do anything with anyone except me. I know it looks bad, me being 18 and her being 16. I am confused and concerned that I am going to get hurt here. It sucks. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, in hetero relationship, and I've never had an issue, don't know why. How do I tell boyfriend that I'm bisexual, and what should he do? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. Is it relevant to a hetero relationship or should I tell my boyfriend now that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my BF [26M] Unwanted thoughts and feelings. Insight/advice needed!
POST: Hi Reddit, I need your help/advice, apologies for the long post. I have been with my partner for nearly 4 years and have been living together for two of them. I have never been in such a caring relationship before. He genuinely makes me feel loved in a way that I have never experienced in other relationships.
However, recently I can't get thoughts of leaving him out of my head. There is a man that I know that has confessed attraction for me to a mutual friend that I can't stop thinking about. I do not know him well on a personal level, although we have shared a few passionate conversations regarding politics and music, but I believe the attraction is mainly physical. These thoughts and feelings are very much unwanted. My relationship is stable and we have fun together whenever we spend time with each other. Also, I must add that I would never cheat. I very much love and care for my partner and could/would never hurt him. I understand that attraction to other people is perfectly normal; however this is not something that has happened often to me before whilst in this relationship.
Some context regarding the relationship: We do not have sex regularly anymore. This is a culmination of many things for which we are both at fault. We have not had sex for over a month at this point. My partner recently lost his job and is now home all of the time, usually playing games. I must admit that I do feel like he could be doing more to find work – he has experience in IT and I know that there are positions going. I think that my feelings stem from wanting freedom. I am a person who prefers alone time and solidarity. I am scared that these feeling of resentment may not fade? I am hoping that once he is working again we will have time to miss each other and the balance may be restored. I was just hoping that someone may have experienced such feelings before and could offer some insight or advice regarding salvaging our relationship?
My partner is a lovely, caring person. I know he loves me deeply – and I him. But the spark between us has faded and I want it back. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and he's out of reach of me, why and how would be the best time to tell him. Is it a big deal? | TL;DR: I am bisexual. My boyfriend needs to know what's possibly relevant to him. How can he/she tell him what I'm but the bigger fear? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my friends and I are being swindled out of money we put down for an apartment. Is there any way we can get it back?
POST: Okay so me and two other girls decided to live off campus at University this year. We found an apartment and decided we liked it fairly quickly. The real estate company detailed that we should put down a payment for first and last months rent, security deposit, brokers fee and application fee. It totaled around a little over 2,000 dollars.
A few weeks after we put the money down, one of my roommates calls me and tells me that due to financial issues she can't live in the apartment anymore. She was supposed to furnish the apartment so basically the other roommate and I are screwed out of it too. So we let the real estate agent know and she tells us that we can't have our money back unless we find someone else to take the apartment.
So after a month of looking for people, this past week we had 3 different groups of people interested in the apartment. I got another inquiry about it only to hear from the real estate agent that the landlord had already sold the place. Because of this apparently we still don't get our money back.
My biggest defense is that we were never given a deadline for when to find someone. If we had known that this was the case we would have expedited the process significantly. This is a shady company so I'm looking for any legal advice that I can get to muscle them out. | TL;DR: Is egging to try for her knows that they're bisexual? If so, when do you think it is needed? | TL;DR: 20 f relationships. Tell my boyfriend, joked i'm bisexual. Thinking about getting a boyfriend. Is it a significant view of what bisexuality is? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: A pet peeve of mine on reddit.
POST: Whenever I make a post about something, honestly, I expect people to have an answer for it and if they don't have an answer then they don't leave a post response at all...I'm getting fed up with some people of reddit who don't answer the question and piss people off with their sarcasm or condescending remarks instead of actually answering a question that was asked.
Usually if I read posts on reddit that intrigue me enough to leave an answer, I always give a direct answer to their self-explanatory question...then you have these people who want to piss people off with their high and mighty attitudes as if they are better than the people or the situation that someone is in. | TL;DR: in bin/homo relationship, want to tell boyfriend i can be bisexual so he knows it. Is it relevant to hetero relationship? And when is the right time? | TL;DR: I am bisexual in a hetero relationship, Don to worry about losing his understanding of this. In the future, I hope to find a person to tell his boyfriend I'm bisexual. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Am I not fit to keep my dog?
POST: I'm at a fork in the road and need some advice.
In November 2011, I bought a husky puppy a named her Luna. At the time, I was living with my parents still and they had a miniature schnauzer. The dogs got along great as Luna was growing.
In July of last year, I bought my first house and moved Luna in with me and my girlfriend a couple months after we got settled. However, since she's moved in I've been having a lot of trouble.
My girlfriend and I both work full time jobs, which means Luna is home alone for about 9 hours a day during the week. As soon as I get home I play with her and take her out on a run.
In the time she is home alone, she likes to get into things most likely due to boredom. She started chewing up some shoes and pulling stuff off the counter. I could deal with all this as I know I just needed to do some obedience training with her, which had worked for the most part.
My big problem now is she is jumping over the gate when no one is home and running around the neighborhood. My gate is 5.5 ft high. She jumps on top of it like she's a cat, then jumps down and takes off. I installed a second gate closer to the backyard that is about 6.5d ft tall and solid. The first night she dug out the gravel where I had the gate mounted and got out. I've since blocked that hole, but today I got a call at work that she was out again. I don't know how she got out this time.
I don't know what to do. I can't afford to keep trying to contain her with new obstacles, and there is no way for one of us to be home all the time. This is only a problem when we leave. I live near a busy road by a high school and my biggest fear is she runs out of the neighborhood and gets hit by a car.
I'm at my wits end. Should I find a new home for her where she won't be left alone all day? Or am I jumping the gun here.
Any advice is appreciated, thank you for reading. | TL;DR: Is it really necessary to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual for him to know? When do you think should be the right time? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. Why is it important for your boyfriend to know? When is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 F] feel like people are only humoring me.
POST: I'm not sure how I got here, or why I feel this way, but I know I'm not alone. I'm pretty new to my college as a transfer student, and I've been trying to make new friends. It's pretty hard to jump in as a fifth year senior and meet upperclassmen/graduate students because many groups have already formed. I found myself at dinner with a really nice group of girls from the local church group on campus. They are fantastic and kind and welcoming. But somehow I feel like they are just humoring me. Lately I've felt this way with everyone I've tried to make friends with. How can I get over this? Again, I'm sure I'm not alone. | TL;DR: How do I/do I at all tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Is it really necessary? When do you think is the right time to get everything confirmed? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, in hetero, and have worried about losing a boyfriend because of this. How do I tell my boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I know what I want, but I can't have it...yet.
POST: Long story short. 35M - 34F. I cheated on my now ex-SO 15 years ago with a woman who I have kept in contact with and with whom I have amazing chemistry and a deep emotional bond. I've seen her once in 15 years before this past weekend (which I will get to momentarily).
She's separated. Has a two year old. Her husband quit paying the mortgage and didn't tell her, so her home is in foreclosure. She's underemployed and over-educated, as are so many in today's economy. And she lives 800 miles away.
I've seen her once in those fifteen years about two years ago...and everything was there....sexual attraction, emotional, intellectual...we were totally at ease and in sync with each other.
So I went to see her this past weekend...because I'm about to move out of the country for a year...and because we want to see if we really do have IT and should have pursued it and to see if we can pursue it.
Obviously she can't move out of the country with me. She needs to get divorced (she's talking to an attorney this week (previously planned))? I know its a package deal...but the child and I got along great....we discussed more kids. I don't have a problem jumping into this...aside from my large debt load from school.
Reddit...am I insane to be considering trying to pursue something with a woman with this much drama, baggage and distance from out of the country and whom I won't see for months?
This weekend felt so right...but it seems like there's a lot here that will take a day by day approach as well as the patience to make it nearly a year before we can...maybe move in together. Or be in the same country together.
Any advice and counsel is greatly appreciated. | TL;DR: All I want to do is share my homosexuality with my boyfriend. Is it necessary for him to know I'm bisexual? Is it really relevant to a hetero relationship, based on if one of the participants is bisexual or not? When do you think the right time to share this information? | TL;DR: Am I really bisexual or should I tell my boyfriend? When/what is the right time to tell him this information? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18m) and a girl (16f) took it to a new level of relationship but she doesn't want an "official relationship"
POST: Me and this girl have been "talking" for a little bit. Recently she told me she was into Collaring, In lamens terms she wants a Master/Slave relationship, her being the Slave and me being the Master. I'm fine with this and I actually made her "mine" last night. However when I asked her to actually be my GF she didn't want it but said she would stay faithful and not talk to anyone or do anything with anyone except me. I know it looks bad, me being 18 and her being 16. I am confused and concerned that I am going to get hurt here. It sucks. | TL;DR: Making braille about bisexuality to boyfriend is scary for him. I don't really care about being their boyfriend. I think hen msd should know. | TL;DR: Is it appropriate to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? When and why is that important? How do I tell him that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] and my problem [20F]'
POST: So, this girl, M, and I went out for a while. Maybe a month. Maybe more.
We were fine. But she had just gotten out of a relationship. A crappy one. She didn't want me to be her rebound or something. So we stopped seeing each other for a bit.
She messages me about a week ago, and we agree to meet up.
When we met up, everything was back to the way it was even we were together. So I asked her if it would be okay for us to go watch a movie as friends.
I made this perfectly clear. FRIENDS.
She agreed. We watched the movie on Valentine's Day. As friends.
Afterwards, she started touching me more. Like moving my hair out of my face and bringing her face close to mine whenever we stood in a line.
I took her home that night. And she kissed me. I told her that I liked the way things were. As friends. And THAT I didn't want to fuck anything up.
She said, "don't think negatively."
So we continued to see each other after that. Eventually doing all the things we did before.
This happens for a good week or more.
Then her friends ask us, "so, what are you guys?"
I waited for her to answer. But she didn't. So I said we were friends. Cos I didn't want her feeling like she had to label what we were.
Though I'm not in any way trying to just mess around with her, I kind of want her to be sure that this is what she wants this time. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual; I am in a hetero relationship. Was conjoined with a guy, but ever worried about losing him because of this? | TL;DR: ex-professor's bisexual behavior. resist though suggestion of doing so. what is appropriate? most important to the cd, when and if? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Interview Follow up Help
POST: Hey Reddit,
I have a quick question for you all. I applied for a research job about two months ago went through the interview process and passed.
However, due to the recent budget cuts and the fact that it is a government job, my resume needed to be approved by the chief before being hired.
After my last interview I was told by the staff scientist hiring me that I would hear back soon. Two weeks ago I emailed him asking to follow up (three weeks after the last interview) on the process and whether or not there was enough funds to bring me into the lab. However, he didn't email me back. This staff scientist has a lot on his hands and kind of forgets things all the time ( he missed my first phone interview because he forgot about it, and forgot to reply to one of my earlier emials as well).
I need to know about the status of this job since if i'm not hired i need to look at other options. How do I politely remind him that I need an update on this position? | TL;DR: I'm sexy and I'm not going to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual, is it really relevant to a hetero relationship or should it only affect one person? when should I tell my boyfriend I have bisexuality? | TL;DR: I am bisexual and am in a hetero/middle aged relationship with a guy. Is it necessary for a hetero relationship or is it stupid? When do you think is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my fiancé [31 M] 5 Years, thinking of ending things due partially to DB.
POST: Some background:
We have been together since our uni days, me straight out of college and him as a mature student. We originally met up just to sleep together and then we realised we were great together and things moved quickly from there. We got engaged after a year (more as a sign of commitment than actually wanting to get married) and moved in to a shared house a few months later.
The Problems:
* We don't have have sex at all any more. Last time was October when we were both completely wasted. He's been on anti-anxiety meds since before I met him which he claims it destroys his libido, but he still gets himself off a few times a week. I recently found that his material of choice is pictures of his female friends / exes.
* I've seen messages from him on facebook to some of these friends flirting and asking for nudes. I confronted him about it and says it's normal and it's just me being insecure.
* I also recently found out he has a fetish for young girls. I'm sure he's been on some dodgy websites but I won't accuse him as I have no proof.
Apart from the physical relationship, we are as good together as we have ever been, but I don't know if I can deal with the lack of intimacy and knowing he gets turned on by his friends more than me. | TL;DR: in hetero relationship with a guy. don't know whether boyfriend really needs to know my bisexual status. Wanna tell my boyfriend? | TL;DR: Is bisexuality something his/me as a man/girlfriend needs to know? When do you think the right time to tell him if I'm bisexual? Having no relationship, I'm in a hetero relationship; how do I tell him I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Is it bad if I quit my job for another one?
POST: Hi! So let me give you a little background, I am a junior in college and was offered a part time job on campus this past December. The job has been going well, and I enjoy it. I have been applying, however, for summer internships and I just received a phone call yesterday offering me a position. Here is the slight dilemma I am facing, they say I can start whenever. The reason this is a dilemma for me is because this job is paying $15/hour which is a major pay raise to my current job (only $9/hour). The work schedule at my current job was made for the whole semester (meaning it does not change week to week). There are also times I am working the desk by myself. So, my question is would it be bad if I took this newer job and gave my two weeks in? Or, should I wait to start this other position this summer? Sorry if this is at all confusing, or if this is the wrong place to put this. Just really confused on what to do. Thanks for any help in advance :) | TL;DR: How do I tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual and if so, when do you think is the best time? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I need to tell my boyfriend, but I'd hate for it to be the thing that kills this relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] with my _bf__ [30 M] 3 years, When do you know to leave a long term relationship?
POST: Throwaway account; personal question.
I've been dating my BF for 3 years. At first we had some pretty unhealthy behaviors (dirty fighting, manipulating, playing games). We've grown out of that together and it's been great for the past 1.5 years.
Lately, I've found we have the same argument over and over. When he is convinced he is 100% correct on a topic, there's no having a discussion about it at all. Sometimes it's motivations for the things I do. Other times it's as stupid as deciding whether to take a certain trip somewhere or not. He's so stubborn and refuses to even talk, ignoring my messages and calls outright.
In all other departments he's super sweet and caring and understanding.
My question is: At what point is a flaw too much to be overlooked? I know I probably won't find my "perfect man," and I know everyone comes with flaws. | TL;DR: Going into a hetero relationship with a guy. Are we bisexual to him? Does it really matter? when do you think is the right time? | TL;DR: not sure if it is really important to my boyfriend, if not, how do I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband [31/M] rarely wants to have sex with me [31/F] after 13 years of marriage and good sex life up until about 6-8 months ago.
POST: Long time lurker, first time posting, advice welcomed...
My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have separated a few times for 3-6 months' duration, but always got back together. (Separations were always due to his drinking getting out of control, we have 2 kids, 10/M and 8/F, and I don't want them to be subjected to his idiot behavior). We have been back together for 4 years now.
Through all this, ever since the beginning of our relationship, our sex life has always been AMAZING.... I won't bore you with the details haha.. I couldn't ask for better.
However, for the past 6-8 months or so, it hasn't been the same. Our sex has gone from 2-3 times a week to MAYBE 2-3 times a month.
He says he is tired from work (he has always worked).
He says he doesn't feel good about himself and is ashamed of his body (what's changed to make him feel that way? I compliment him all the time and have never had anything bad to say about his body, I love it, it's perfect in my eyes, and I have told him so).
He says there is no one else, and other than this problem we're having, I have no reason to think that there is (besides a tarot card reading I got that said he's not cheating YET, but he seems to be looking, and she saw a girl around 21 years old in the cards. But idk if I believe in tarot or not, it was basically just for fun).
I don't know what's going on and it really hurts my feelings. Just thought I'd post on here for some advice and outside opinions. Thanks for reading. I look forward to hearing from anyone.
Oh, and take it easy on me please, this is my first post on Reddit ever! | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, I enter homo relationship with guy, I think my biggest fear is losing him because of it. When do you think it is necessary to tell him? | TL;DR: Is it really relevant to a hetero relationship, regardless of who one of the participants in a relationship is bisexual? When do you think is the right time to tell your boyfriend what I am bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My good friend [23f] has been hooking up with an immature jerk [22m] and is on the fence about dating him. The catch? We all live together.
POST: Jasmine has been my good friend for a long time. She is a self proclaimed commitment phobe, had never been in love, loses interest in guys she dates FAST and is infatuated with Michael.
Michael is a really quiet guy. Up until recently I thought he was a nice enough dude. Whenever we talked previously it was just "how was your day" etc. I have noticed however that he has a short temper and tends to say mean comments. For example, a couple of days ago another housemate made a comment about disliking a particular song Michael liked. He paused a bit and then said vehemently "well then you're just a fucking idiot." There was a really awkward pause and everyone got quiet save for a few "whoa..."s. Jasmine wasn't present for this.
Jasmine has been really into him lately and has been telling me how "deep" and sensitive and intelligent he is. How whenever they talk they have such great insightful conversations. She thinks he's different and may be "the one" because no other guy has ever made her feel like this before. She's still on the fence about dating him and she says he's the first person she's been actually into for a while. I can tell she's very excited about the prospect of dating him hence my hesitation in telling her my thoughts. She knows he has a temper and says its "hot."
What the hell do I do here? She's very independent and anything I say she will probably do the exact opposite. I previously thought he was a chill guy and told her to go for it and now I think that would be a big mistake. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, in hetero-paternity relationship a month, want to tell my boyfriend that they're bisexual but what is the right time to do it? Blog posts: how can we tell him how bisexual I'm? | TL;DR: Date of 8 days made me disclose bisexuality to boyfriend by forum googling it... What time do you think would be right for someone in a commercial relationship to tell him that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22F) and my boyfriend (30M) of almost 2 years. He snores and we switch off sleeping on the couch.
POST: I honestly just want to know if other couples do this. We are perfect together, and I love him more than anything. Our sleeping arrangment is a bit weird though.
We are one of those couples that are under the "opposites attract" category. And that applies to almost everything about us. We use different blankets when we sleep in the same bed. It's not because one hogs the blankets, it's because be likes a very thin comforter and I like lots of pillows and a very fluffy comforter. He has always snored, and it has become a problem now that I have a job that requires me to wake up really early. I have started sleeping on the couch on the nights when I have to wake up early the next morning. He felt bad so know we switch off. I try to sleep with him when I can, but of his snoring keeps me awake, I move to the couch.
Does this happen with any other couples? Absolutely nothing else is wrong in the relationship, it's just not something I have heard of, and sometimes that worries me. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. My boyfriend seems to think it's necessary, what is the right time to tell him? What do you guys think is the right time? | TL;DR: I have a heterosexual girlfriend who is bisexual and I'm in heterosexual relationship. I want to know if it's expected of him. When do I admit to it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [23/M] afraid that my S.O. [22/F] will reject me because of my fetish.
POST: Well, I guess it's not a fetish, since I'm capable of getting turned on without it. But it does turn me on a lot. I don't understand why, and even though I have no control over it, I feel ashamed of it.
I like seeing girls sitting on the toilet. I am not interested in scat play, or 'watersports', or anything like that. I just like the image of a girl seated 'on the throne'. It turns me on. I have no explanation.
I would never invade someone's privacy in order to 'get my rocks off'. In search of images online, I avoid and sometimes report images that have been taken without the sitter's consent.
I am in a relationship. My GF and I have been together for two years. She's not particularly kinky. I haven't been either, because I do whatever she likes, which tends to be ordinary. And that's fine.
But I so wish I could tell her about this, for so many reasons. I wish she could indulge my fetish (although if she didn't want to, I would be okay with that too - I'm not into forcing people to do stuff they don't want to do). I wish she could accept me. I wish that when she asks me what turns me on (which she has, recently), I could answer truthfully and fully.
I'm worried about a lot of things...I'm worried she'll tell someone and it'll get around. I'm worried she'll be disgusted and leave me. I'm worried she'll feel deceived and be angry. I'm worried she'll feel uncomfortable around me. I'm worried I'll lose the person who is not only my S.O. but also my best friend. | TL;DR: In hetero relationship with guy but [artist] must know I'm bisexual asap. Should it be something that he needs to know? When do you think timing is right? | TL;DR: How do I at all help my boyfriend know I'm bisexual? Is this something that he needs to know about? When/how should I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27M] not sure how to tell acquaintance [28M] I'm not interested in his financial services.
POST: Here's a break from the normal romantic relationship issues:
I am a relatively new attorney. I have been practicing for a while, and while I am absolutely in love with my job, I hate networking. I have no problems about talking with other attorneys. I've met some fantastic mentors over a beer at conferences and other events. But I find it very hard to relate to others who are not attorneys.
Specifically, I got a call from an acquaintance who is a financial planner, asking if we could meet up for lunch some time. My bullshit detector went off -- I have not spoken to him for several months, aside from passing along a name of a friend who opened her own law practice and does a lot of trusts/wills work.
I have had only four interactions with this guy over the last 4 years. The last one was when he invited me to his office while I was in the area for coffee, and to catch up. After being ushered into a conference room, he showed up with another co-worker of his and the first words out of his mouth were, "So how can we help you today?"
In my mind, I was pissed. I felt invited under false pretenses. I don't like being hoodwinked like that -- being invited for a friendly chat and that chat being abruptly changed to an attempted sell
I don't really want to go to lunch with him. I know that if I do, he's going to try to pitch me his financial services, which I do not need, and do not want. My fiance and I are planning to move across the country when she finishes law school, so even then, his services really wouldn't be needed.
What is the best way to cordially nip this in the bud? I have already said I would meet with him next week for lunch under pressure but I really don't want to, and honestly can't afford to take the time away from work. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, but my boyfriend needs to know my relationship, so he can get my date's permission if this is necessary. When do you think is the appropriate time to notify him? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Atheists of reddit, what led you to atheism as opposed to agnosticism? Or vice versa.
POST: Personally I had a brief "crisis of faith" (sort of) recently. Personally I am not religious but the idea of nothing after death is a little terrifying to me. While I may not necessarily believe in a god or an afterlife, agnosticism appeals to me because the *idea* that there might be something else out there is nice to just have filed away in the back of my mind. I have nothing against atheism or atheists, and as someone with a science background and long-term plans to pursue a career in genetic and evolutionary science my belief system may seem backwards...but agnosticism seems logical to me from a scientific perspective. Without any evidence we cannot prove or disprove some sort of "higher being" some place, somewhere in the vastness of the universe. That is where I stand, but I am interested to see how other people came to decide between complete disbelief or a stance of uncertainty. | TL;DR: How do I tell my boyfriend that I am bisexual? The best way is to show suspicion and make sure each other know. | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, are bisexual women known to boyfriend & when is to tell him? Is it really important to know? If not, When do you think is the right time to tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Job Troubles.
POST: Hey guys! So I, like many college students, work a shitty minimum wage job. But only during the winters, during the summertime (and most of the spring and fall) I work at a kids camp. So here's the problem, just recently we had somebody quit at the camp and they need me to work there more often. Anyways today was one of those days and it just got sprung on me that I had to come in on Thursday. so when I go in on Friday I give one of my managers a heads up that I wont be in the next day because I got called in to work my other job. As I was expecting she got a little pissy and asked me about 5 times if I was sure I couldn't make it in the next day by the end of my shift. At the end of my shift she asks me to call in if I still couldn't make it in. So, doing what I was told I call in and let them know I wouldn't be in an hour before my shift was supposed to start as is standard procedure. Of course at this point they start telling me that I could get fired because I'm refusing to work. I just listen to what she has to say, say okay, I'm sorry, and thank you. So during the inevitable talking to tomorrow I'm going to give them my two weeks because my other job, that I've been at for three years, needs me. Now the biggest problem here is that I have to work again next Saturday and if I tell them I have to work then I'm 90 percent sure I'll be fired. So I guess what I'm asking is if I get fired will that affect my future employment, (I don't have many things on my resume) or is it better to just quit on the spot or something... sorry for the lengthiness I've been up since 6 and its now almost midnight.. | TL;DR: 21 F, now going into a hetero relationship, not sure how to make him know I'm bisexual. ftse should be wise? when im going to be with it. | TL;DR: How do I tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? Is this true to hetero relationships, regardless of one of the participants in the relationship being bisexual. Do you think it is really necessary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(24m) girlfriend (24) of 5 months is torn in her love between me and her friend.
POST: Our relationship has developed over time. We met on online dating and have slowly progressed over 6 months or so to being in a relationship. The relationship has been happy and healthy. BUT, last night I had strong feelings of jealousy about her relationship with a close friend.
Since the beginning of us dating she has been absolutely straightforward with how close she is with a number of friends and we have been introduced and got on well. However, in a conversation yesterday we were discussing bromances and she described her relationship with a friend as kind of like a romance. When we discussed later she explained their history which is a bit more complicated. They had been (kind of independently) hooking up (casually) and having an intense friendship in the months preceeding when we started dating. During this period she had been seeking his approval and "wanted to be loved" by him despite knowing that a relationship would be bad. This feeling somewhat continues to this day and about 6 months into our relationship. They see each other regularly and have a deep friendship, she stays at his regularly.
I have always respected her friendships and not questioned things (as it has been matter of facg since the start). In fact, untill now I have not felt weird about it in any way. However, she has explained how she is "torn" and still seeking his attention and approval. She agreed that it fitted into the narrative of me: 'straight forward, healthy, right thing to do' and him 'unhealthy but exciting'. This troubles me, despite the good aspects of our relationship.
She has also stated that due to her feeling trapped by relationships she is deciding to be exclusive with me rather than it being a thing which "is a rule". On paper I am fine with this but would be unable to maintain the relationship if she did decide to get intimacy elsewhere (to some extent she does it anyway, just not sexually).
What would I like?
Someone to tell me what to do!
Why did I post?
I don't know but it has been useful to write it down! | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, know that I'm bisexual because my first girlfriend was bisexual. Want to know if her boyfriend needs to know. How do you tell him that I am bisexual? | TL;DR: I am bisexual and I want to tell my boyfriend that but I want to lose him? Is it essential to be in a hetero relationship. When do you think is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with guy [19m] I just met, is it normal to be ignored the first few days?
POST: Hey reddit, this is my first post so please be gentle :)
So a couple days ago, he (let's called him Jake) approached me as I finished my shift at work. He was really friendly and easy to talk to while he walked me over to my car. Jake ended up giving me his number and I texted him a couple hours later because I wanted to give him a chance since he seemed decent. We were exchanging a few texts here and there and I told him I would text him again later since I had a few things to get done at the moment, and didn't want to leave him hanging. So I texted him again the next day, and we were slowly getting to know each other. He called me and we talked a bit more, and he seems like a really sweet guy.
Now, it's the next day. Nothing. Is this a normal thing you guys do when it comes to picking up girls? Or did I scare him off? I'm new to the dating scene since I got out a long-term relationship, so I don't know if this is the norm or if I did something wrong. A little insight would be nice! | TL;DR: I've known for a while that I'm bisexual, but my first girlfriend is also bisexual. What do I/should I do/wants to tell my boyfriend that I am bisexual? Is that relevant for hetero relationships, regardless of gender? When do you think it's the right time? | TL;DR: Is it necessary to tell my hetero boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Is it something he needs to know? When do you think is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Is it OK to dump someone because of bad sex?
POST: Posted it here instead of over in /r/AskWomen.
I've been mulling this over for the past few days, and all the girls I've talked to so far have said no.
If you want to hear my specific situation; I've been in a relationship with this guy for 10 months and I lost my virginity to him. Sex is boring, it hurts and is generally... not something I look forward to, even though I often engage (not because I feel like I have to, but because I feel like I want to, until the actual act).
I've talked to him about it a few times, and he's been with ~6 girls before me, so he's got a great deal more experience than I.
Otherwise, we've got good chemistry, and we have fun together. What do? | TL;DR: 22 f now in hetero relationship, will tell boyfriend I am bisexual; can I tell him to let him know before we're intimate? When should I tell my boyfriend? | TL;DR: How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Is it necessary, is it better to tell him or not? When do you think is the right time based on your experience with his relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] of 3 months, She has been snappy today and i understand why but i'm still annoyed
POST: I want to address this first as we have a great relationship and she makes me really happy. Today however, Girlfriend is a bit more snappy and rude but it's also probably due to there being drama going on in her group of friends. My question is i'm somewhat angry and stressed by my work and I don't want my emotions to get the better of me. So how do I go about bringing this up in a calm way. Do I do it right away so as to address this behavior? Do I wait a little for the drama to unfold and get solved? Do i play by ear and see how it is affecting her and then see what to do? Any help so that I don't end up saying something I don't mean would be greatly appreciated. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, no problem. Does boyfriend need to know? When do you think it is necessary? Is it relevant for a hetero relationship? | TL;DR: I'm in a hetero relationship where the two partners have no problem with me being bisexual. Is it really relevant? When do you guys think it is necessary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Can't tell if clever or insensitive?
POST: Sitting on a bench outside the local coffee shop this morning, the man to my right started telling me religious gibberish that quickly turned in to a rant about how Obama is fixing basketball games for Jews who knew that Israel was going to nuke Lebanon. The family to my left was increasingly scared as the volume rose as the man claimed that the NSA wire taps couldn't be used to know his future blah blah blah.
Realizing that listening wasn't calming him, and that he was making a scene at this populated tranquil hangout, I asked him to come close. As he leans in I told him, "**I'm 10 years with the IDF and now I crunch big data for the NSA. We've been waiting for you to realize everything you have. Please go home now and we will get word to you in the coming days.**"
He looked at me with astonishment.
I winked.
He closed his mouth, threw his shoulders back, and walked away confidently. | TL;DR: I am bisexual and want to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual, but I'd hate if it kills this relationship. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and in a hetero relationship, but back in a hetero relationship some guy I really like and will not tell my boyfriend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] had unprotected sex...
POST: This new year's passage I was a bit drunk with my GF, and we had sex (well... a bit). We always use condoms and are extremely paranoid and careful, but this time, probably due to the alchool, we screwed up a bit. I didn't come at any time, but I went inside her without a condom. I thrusted about 10 times and then stopped.
She is not on any sort of birth control. I had a bit of pre-cum before, I cleant it on the sheets, but still there may have been precum while I did it or even some may have appeared while I was inside her.
Now, I have been searching about pre-cum and sperm, and wasn't sure what to think. So, this was on the first hours of January 1st. I hadn't orgasmed since at least about December 31st at 00h. So that gives me a 24 - 26 hour margin since the last time I came until I was inside her. Of course I peed a few times in between so that cleant but still..
Her period had ended at the 27th or 28th December, and she's not sure but her cycle seems to be of 30 days. She started her period on the 21st of December. We are both paranoid, can't stop thinking about it and have to wait until it's about the 20's of the month again for her period.
Sorry if I made this long, I just want to know how much of a possibility we have that she may get pregnant. Please, help. If this is the wrong subreddit for this, please mods, advise me and tell me where to post. Thank you! | TL;DR: Datum, time and dates involved into a homo relationship are vital to ensure that my partner doesn't miss a thing about me. Am I right? Or do I need my boyfriend to know? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I'm deaf not stupid and my boss is making my life hell for it.
POST: I'm almost entirely deaf in one ear and I have a speech impediment due to a ton of concussions.
I work in a pharmacy and one of the pharmacists is the type who believes that disabled people should be locked up and put away or culled. Tiger mom, survival of the fittest, sent her 16 year old to UMASS to become a pharmacist too. So she doesn't know I am HOH because I see how she treats HOH patients and I can barely tolerate her treating me like I don't even know what cough syrup is and telling me shit like its good my mom died because obviously she was a bad mother (which was HAHA FAHNNY JOEK when I called her on it). I don't want that.
But I also don't want to be treated like I'm subhuman. Maybe I need some things repeated or written down but I don't think that qualifies me as less than. Every bit of information she grabs about me because ammo in a gun of put downs.
I don't know how much longer I can deal with the constant verbal abuse and hostility. It's a new job so I'm in 0 position to make any complaint. I'm just in a very tough spot because I'm in hell with this boss already but I'd be in more hell if she knew. :( I don't know what to do. | TL;DR: Having two serious relationships, two partners were bisexual. I'm gay and am now in a hetero relationship, how do I tell him? Is it relevant to hetero relationships, regardless of if one of the participants in the relationship is bisexual, when do you think it is appropriate? | TL;DR: Divorced twice before and im in hetero relationship with guy. Have never faced bisexuality before relationship, want to know whether boyfriend needs to know sex isn't relevant to hetero relationship and above all what is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17F] with my boyfriend [18M] of a year and a half, wish I could help him get over his insecurity and my mistake.
POST: So my boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half. We definitely love each other, and really really want to be together for all our lives. However, he's massively insecure, but won't really admit it, and ends up blaming me for it. He's constantly checking in on who I'm talking to/hanging out with, making sure I'm not overly touchy feely, etc.
To explain: before we went out, I was incredibly flirtatious. I flirted with pretty much everyone I saw, not seriously, but because it was fun and I could. When we started dating, I stopped completely. However, there was one instance in which I messed up. A while back, I flirted with this one guy, but afterwards, I didn't hide it from my bf, I straight up told him. He got incredibly upset, called me a whore a few times, said I hate you more than once, basically just counted the one instance of flirtation as a massive betrayal. Since then, I've done my absolute best to make amends, not talking to that guy again, not talking to any guy, really, in depth, and I've been showing my bf how much I really love him and don't mean to betray him in any way through my actions and words.
Here's the thing, though: he still holds that incident in the back of his mind, ready to emerge at the slightest provocation, and uses it when we argue about how some of his behavior is controlling and restrictive. Yes, I acknowledge that I messed up, but I've been trying to fix it ever since it happened, and I never even meant anything by it in the first place. So is there anything I can do to fix it completely? Or is he somewhat wrong? I'm just looking to fix it, I really hate having this hang over us. Thanks. | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, in a relationship, unsure if it is necessary or not. Worried about loss my man of over 30 at baseball game. Why is it necessary? | TL;DR: In hetero relationship. *I* have bisexuality. Want to shut off relationships and keep him from interacting with gays and bisexuals/sexists. Need info on how/when to tell mir that I am bisexual or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] get really jealous when my boyfriend [23M] looks at porn and other naked women. How do I get past this?
POST: I know that every guy watches porn, but I don't get why it is so cool with everyone. When I think about my boyfriend seeing these other woman naked and so close up, it brings a sinking feeling to my stomach. I hate the thought of him fantasizing about having sex with other women, it makes me feel so insecure. It makes me feel like he is more attracted to these other girls that look way different than me. I don't know how to get over this, and I feel like I would want to maybe try watching porn with him, but I feel like it would kill me to watch him getting so turned on by these beautiful girls. guys with girlfriends, what does porn actually mean to you? what goes through your head when you watch it? also, girls, how do you deal with it? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. In a hetero relationship. When should I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? How do I tell him if this is a good idea? | TL;DR: I don't know if my bisexual background is important to his development because I'm 24-year-old and I don't know if he should bother about that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, What is the worst/best thing you have found out at work?
POST: So here i am in this night shift and i recalled something that happened to me when i was working as a intern in another company, i was in Tech Support and we got a report from a user complaining that his machine was buggin him constantly about not having enough disk space, my boss tells me that this user has the fame of having tons of shit in his machine (Power Point presentations, Mp3, pics etc.) so he naturally tolds me to make sure that i delete anything not work related. For the MP3 i could erase anything i found but for the Power Points and JPG i had to check them out since some Power Point slides could be work related and some pics could be from machinery and stuff, now this company is in the bussines of loading and unloading containers on ships/trucks/trains for their transportation, so i start looking at this guys pics, deleting pics of cats and porn (mostly porn) and then suddenly i see at the bottom of the screen pictures of what appears to be a smashed container on top of other, maybe the crane broke or something clearly standard procedure when an accident occur take pictures of the incident and such... but what caught me off guard and almos made me throw up my lunch was that ** there was a worker crushed beetween those containers ** it was not a pretty sight and it was a whole series of pictures of that incident, wich now its burned on my mind, needless to said i inmediatly ended my search.
The only "Best" thing i found at work was, apart from porn, a N64 emulator with the Neon Genesis Evangelion rom. | TL;DR: What do I/should I, в“tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual!” tell him...? Is this something that he needs or needs to know to know, when do you guys think it is needed? | TL;DR: Relationship with guy is multidimensional. Not sure if homosexuality is important. Like guy and I hate losing him because of it. Can we tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (26/M) convince my (24/F) girlfriend that porn isn't cheating?
POST: Hey there! Thank you for your help.
In short, my girlfriend (24) considers watching porn a form of cheating.
I'm trying to explain to her that she lives 2 hours away and we got 5-6 days at a time without seeing each other and I just have to release. That these women mean literally nothing and it's just a ways to an end.
Her defense is that she's clearly "not enough for me" and now is afraid she can't sleep/kiss me because I'll be thinking of the other women. She's known since the beginning of our 2 year relationship that I do watch porn and I've known she's uncomfortable with it but never to this extent.
I tell her that I'm not one of those guys actually perusing other women and am alone in my apartment with myself and isn't that better?
She then proceeded to ask me if I find the women I watch attractive. My response was "yes" and she then said then does that mean you are attracted to other women you see in person. I said "yes, I'm attracted to them but would never think twice nor care to pursue that in anyway." Again, she now thinks I'll be thinking about these other women when I'm "with" her.
Any advise would be great and really appreciated. | TL;DR: Bisexuality is something a hetero relationship would like to know about. When is the right time to tell my boyfriend? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual to a guy. I'm wondering if it's necessary for my boyfriend to know that I know I'm bisexual. I really like the guy and I don't want to lose him over it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Just not sure what to do anymore...
POST: Its not that I don't know what to do, I just do not know how to do it. I hate causing pain, even if it means my happiness...
This is kinda long but I need to get it off my chest!!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years and there are just some things that are not right. The first year he was an amazing boyfriend. We became super close and he would tell me all the time that he couldnt wait to make me his wife.
2 thanksgivings ago he cheated on me with a girl in our friend group while I was in my home town. I found out from his roommates and that weekend he tried breaking up with me with the excuse that we were "too good of friends". I called him out on his bull shit and we broke up for a month. We then started talking about it and I asked him straight up if he slept with her. He said NO. We eventually got back together.
Fast forward to this past May..I was having a conversation with the girl he cheated on me with and she informs me that they did for sure have sex. I confronted him about it and he wouldn't even admit it. I screamed, yelled, and freaked out because he lied straight to my face. We didn't break up but I was extremely close to calling it quits.
Fast forward to now...we are still together but I just cant get over the whole cheating things let alone the lying that has evolved from it. Along with that he is manipulative, doesn't show appreciation, and expects me to do everything and anything for him. Along with that he doesnt show or tell me he loves me, just says that him having sex with me should show that he loves me. I know that I need to end it and I deserve better I just dont know how to go about it. All of my friends have turned into "our" friends and I feel like my whole summer is planned with him. I just need some advice about where to go from here because I am completely lost!
If you have been in the same situation or have some good advice on how to go about this PLEASE give it to me!! | TL;DR: I'm in a hetero relationship and I want to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual. Do you think it is something he needs to know? When do you think is the right time to do it? | TL;DR: Dating guy, bisexual relationship, ask him if this is what he should know because he or she is bisexual. Do you think it's important? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 20f with 20m, Just want some simple advice for letting a guy down easy.
POST: It's really simple, I'm just bad at this and get really nervous about hurting feelings, but anyway...
I'm 20, this guy is also 20. I downloaded Tinder out of curiosity and it was kind of fun for a few days and I talked in little bits to some guys, this one got really interested in me and asked for my number so after some deliberation I gave it to him, but he lives 4 hours away and I really don't want to start anything with anyone that far away, especially right now.
Basically we've just been texting and he's nice and I've been friendly and polite but he's already jumping on this too much and I do not want to lead him on. His last text says we should keep talking and that he hopes if he's here we could go out and do something. I've been really nice this whole time so I don't want to suddenly be like "nope, sorry, we should probably stop talking now."
What should I say that's as nice as possible but also shows that I'm not at all looking to start dating someone that doesn't live in my town? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, and I want to tell my boyfriend that it's not necessary and subject him to judgment. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and being included in hetero relationship is thing that he needs to know. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] figuring it out with [25 M]. Known each other a month. Laid my feelings out. I think he just wants to be friends but not sure
POST: So, I recently opened up to a friend that I had a crush on him via text while I was a bit drunk. (I know that was a dumb decision, no need to rehash that). But his response via text was kind of vague. Like you're a "great girl" etc. And as such, I made a comment about us being friends and that seemed to be the end of it.
I suck at this stuff since I basically haven't done this whole dating or relationship stuff at all ever. I'm pretty much totally inexperienced in this entire realm (no exes, etc).
Since the texts, we've been talking more and such. However, the texts have never actually been addressed and there are times when I feel like he's trying to hint at something (like maybe to lay off) and I'm just totally dense. I legit just want to know if he just wants to be friends or if he would also like to maybe try being something more.
The major issue here is that we go to grad school together and we see each other every day, five days a week and I have no desire to (1) fuck up the friendship and (2) make my grad school life absolute hell for the next 3 years.
So how in the world do I go about getting the answers I want and how do I get those answers in person (not text)? | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, boyfriend doesn't know I am bisexual -- he is being selective about sexual orientation. How do I tell him? | TL;DR: Recently started a hetero relationship with a guys, and don't know if it's necessary to tell my bf I'm bisexual, or when else? f2i bhood, what's the most appropriate time to worry? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22f) can't even tell if I'm being overly sensitive anymore
POST: Hey Reddit, my boyfriend (24) and I have been dating for 2 years and apart from some small stuff we've had a relatively smooth go. However, some things he does drive me absolutely insane and I can't tell anymore if it's just his personality or if something else is going on.
This all came to a head yesterday. Someone in his family recently gave birth and we talked about going to visit. I said I wasn't sure if I could go but will keep him posted throughout the day. 3 p.m rolls around and I msg him saying, "hey when are we leaving, what are we bringing etc". He responds and then says, "oh btw James is coming lol".
First I was confused and then I was really pissed off. James is his best friend of 10 years. I have no problems with any of his friends but (and we've had this fight before) whenever it is the 3 of us hanging out my boyfriend will show 0 affection. We can't hold hands, can't peck, can't snuggle for too long or even have inside jokes. He says he feels bad because James has never had a girlfriend and has really low self esteem so he doesn't want to rub our relationship in his face. We argued for a bit but he wasn't getting why I so upset so I just stopped responding.
To keep this story short, I didn't end up going to see the baby because I feel like we keep having the same argument that is centred around my boyfriend not treating me differently than his friends (if that makes sense). I just feel like there are some "life milestones" or whatever that you should share with your partner and those things should be special.
I guess my question is, would anyone else be upset? | TL;DR: cancer a parent, in hetero relationship with guilty partner current girlfriend is bisexual. is this something he should require? when in public and under what circumstances are we going to split? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, but boyfriend needs to know; biggest fear is losing him because of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what run-ins have you had with kids being smart-asses to older people?
POST: Before anything, I'd like to put it out there that I'm only 16, the same age as these kids.
On my way home from the mall my mom called and asked me to stop by Wal-Mart to pick up some milk. So on the way out, my friend and I hear a 16yo kid cursing at the top of his lungs. So a man of about 50-60 I'm guessing tells him that he's being very obnoxious and asks him to quiet down. The kid responds with "Get in your truck and go home asshole." Things escalate to where this kid is telling the man to get out of his truck and come do something about him cursing. The kid starts walking towards the man's truck, so the man gets out and walks to the back of his truck and pulls out a can of mace and sprays it and the kid stops in his tracks. A few minutes later three of the kid's friends get out of a truck and walk over to this guy, so I get out of my car, because this guy wasn't a very big guy. The kid says something about he's 16 and this guy will go to jail "real quick" (a phrase the rednecks love to say around here >.>), then says that he works at Wal-Mart and the man proceeds to call his manager out to the parking lot. When he gets off the phone, the kids get in their trucks and drive off. | TL;DR: wife of two years is bisexual, we're exclusive. How do I/do I tell my boyfriend (32 years old or 36) that I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: I am bisexual and they can't have a relationship without my bisexual being mentioned, should I tell them? When do I tell them? Do you have time to tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26/M] just broke up with my LDR [22/F] gf of six months... I don't know whether to talk to her
POST: Her: A recent graduate from a nursing school. She lives in Brazil and has zero interest in moving to the US. On a gap year before starting a masters in nursing, hopes to work in geriatrics.
Me: A returning student applying to transfer to four year schools from community college. I want to be a researching math professor. I'm extremely ambitious and hard working when it comes to academics. It's my top priority and I've already sacrificed a lot just to have a shot at the places I'm applying to. I have family in Brazil.
I met her once in Brazil when I was visiting several years ago. We started talking about seven months ago, quickly realized we really liked each other, started chatting all day and eventually skyping, and feelings developed. The other day she told me she loved me, which no girl has ever said to me before. However, there's really no long term plan. Moving to Brazil would almost certainly kill my career dreams and moving to the US is also too big a sacrifice for her to make. I'm not ok with this, especially since at the moment we are both on pretty limited incomes so visiting would be extremely difficult.
I told her I wasn't ok with being in a LDR with no plan. Twice we went for the 'let's be friends' option and it really didn't work out. We probably discussed how this wasn't working for me every day for the past two weeks. Last night I told her I thought we shouldn't talk anymore. She said she didn't agree but understood and respected the choice.
Today I feel just terrible. I miss her so much. She really is my best friend and I'm so excited when I get a message from her or a little video blog, or I send her one, or we talk by skype. She messaged me saying this was a terrible idea and she didn't want to give up on us. I'm really new to relationships and while this might seem like something a 26 year old guy should know I'm not really sure what to do or how to feel about it. It seems so cruel to just ignore her, but am I right in thinking I should? | TL;DR: Boss needs to know that I'm bisexual. About a month into the relationship we're exclusive. are you in a bisexual relationship? | TL;DR: Have bisexual parenthood, and want to tell my boyfriend I've never been hetero. When is doing it/would that be necessary/worse than when? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: Need help with oyster sauce stirfry
POST: the other day i made a rather basic Oyster sauce stirfry, real simple, beef strips cooked through til the juices flowed, Bell pepers chopped rather small almost diced added to heat through, sweet corn as a extra, then added some oyster sauce to thicken and flavor then dished off on a bed of rice.
To me it was amazing but lacked something, my GF's mother (chinese) suggested that it needed to be more saucy, i was inclined to agree.
Now the question how would i go about making it more saucy (more liquid) without adding more oyster sauce and making the flavor overpowering or adding water and diluting the flavor? | TL;DR: Twice in hetero relationship, not sure if boyfriend needs it. How/how do I find out? When do you think it is necessary? | TL;DR: Is he aware that I am bisexual? Is it a platform for hetero relationships to expose? When do you think it's appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Fretting and Afraid, hopefully I'm not the only one?
POST: Well first off I would like to say I've been on reddit for a while but have not post anything until now. This might be a rant.
So I graduated last year in May 2012 with a BA, and did some volunteer work like some of you suggested since I couldn't get something I wanted. I then got an offer for an internship and did the internship that ended recently, but it started in Feb of this year. I feel like I basically did nothing this whole year since graduation as I have nothing to show for it. The internship didn't work out (in terms of translating to a full time job) Does anyone have any suggestions of what I should do? I've been applying to dozens of jobs and the economy is suppose to be better here in the greater LA area, but I've only heard back from 3-4 of the 80+ jobs I've applied to so far. | TL;DR: I am bisexual. I am in a hetero relationship with a guy, I do not know what to do. When do you think the right time to tell a hetero would be. How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? What should I do? | TL;DR: I want to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual. He should know, but my biggest fear is losing him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: I need help with the name of a book series
POST: As a kid I started reading a book series, but I need your help in remembering what it is called.
I was about "magicians" in a post apocalyptic world, who searched city ruins for, what is now, modern technology. However they lost most knowledge of the tech in this great catasptrophy. These magicians were identified by an earring the wore with a blue ball. I remember it started off with some street rat sneaking into a mage's house and getting caught and the mage taking him under his wing after creating some voodoo doll to threaten the boy, then dismantling it. Any help would be appreciated. | TL;DR: Trying to decide if bisexuality should be revealed prior to hetero, approaching boyfriend because I want to know. worst fears, losing him because of it. | TL;DR: How can I/do I tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? When do you think the right time to do this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 18M] and my crush [18 F] stuck in a friend/dating situation - afraid she is losing interest
POST: I am a college student who met a girl in my same grade this past December. We go to the same university, and I met her in this center for her major, which is only exclusive to her major. I went to the same center a few days in a row for around a week because I wanted to see her and didn't really approach her until around a week in. I ended up introducing myself to her and then got her number. From there, I think she knew I found her attractive and that I wanted to ask her out on a date.
I ended up asking her out for coffee a few days later, and we talked for about an hour. I didn't really flirt with her - it was more like just getting to know her. I ended up just talking for an hour during that date and it went pretty well.
During Valentine's day, I sent her a rose to her dorm room. However, I expected a thank you or a text or something, so I automatically assumed that she wasn't interested in me anymore after the date.
However, a few days afterwards, what happened was one of my friends went out on a group dinner with her and her friends and directly asked her if she liked me. She said something along the lines of "yes, he is a nice guy".
Anyways, I still felt compelled to change myself, so I took the next four months to lose weight. I ended up losing 30 pounds, and during this time, I didn't really see her.
I saw her during the last week of school, and she ended up approaching me. I think she was still kinda interested in me, but I didn't really actively pursue her during those months I was losing weight.
I haven't seen her at all this summer, but I have been Facebook messaging and occasionally texting her. Her responses are relatively slow and boring, but she always responds back to me.
I feel like I haven't her seen her in so long that she might have lost interest in me, but I still like her a lot. I'm thinking of asking her out the first week of school.
Do you guys think she has lost interested in me? What should I do from her? | TL;DR: I am bisexual in a hetero relationship, but I really like the guy and I really like him, the dog, the cat doesn't know much about my sexual identity so I need help. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, want to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual. What is up with bisexuality, what is depressing my feelings? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I feel like I am at the end of my rope.I am begging for some advice.
POST: Where to begin...I just graduated this past may with my bachelors degree in accounting. I was a shitty student my first 2 years of college and paid for it with a low GPA. I tried to get my act together around my junior year. I pulled my GPA back up to a 3.1 overall and 3.6 in Major. Still not great, but I was proud to get it back over a 3.0 after my first two years.
I have been trying to get any job relevant to my degree all summer. I have probably sent my resume to 100 places within a 40 mile radius of where I live. I haven't gotten so much as one call back. I lack a whole lot of work experience which probably doesn't help, All I can list is 2 summer jobs and a senior internship preparing taxes.
I am going back to school right now to attend my schools masters program for accounting to try and do something to keep me relevant since I can't find a job. The problem is I am so sick of school. I live with my girlfriend, she is ready to get engaged and get married, we have been dating for over two years now and I feel like this relationship isn't going anywhere because of me. She has a full time career. My mother who still helps support me probably just thinks I am lazy at this point even though she is still supportive.
I just don't want to go back.. I have taken 2 of the 10 masters program classes over the summer, but the fall classes start tomorrow and my tuition is due. I just feel like if I pay it it will be a waste of 6 grand, because one, my heart wants to work and start a life outside of school, and 2, I don't know if I can even pass the CPA exam after school, but I can't find a job so I can't just not work and not go to school.
I feel like my $50,000 dollar degree isn't worth the paper isn't worth the paper it was written on. I don't want to come off as lazy, I have been trying my butt off for the past 2 years, but I feel like I have nothing to show for it. What the heck should I do? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. Now in a hetero relationship with a guy. Is it relevant to a hetero relationship? When do you think is the right time? | TL;DR: I am 20 and 28 when I say to my boyfriend that I am bisexual. Should I tell him or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26F] don't want my Boyfriend [20M] to have social media accounts
POST: My boyfriend of 6 months uses social media a lot (Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Tumblr) I only use Instagram & Snapchat, and not to the extent he does. Like he has over 7000 followers on Instagram and a lot of the people liking & commenting on his pics are girls and it makes me really jealous. I feel bad about telling him he's not allowed to do social media stuff because he's really into photography & fashion, and likes sharing stuff online, he doesn't flirt with other girls, but random girls leave flirty comments on his pics. And I hate him having snapchat because his female friends (from irl) send him selfies and stuff, not nudes or anything, but it pisses me off and I don't like most of his female friends. How can I get him to delete his accounts? Or to atleast not put pics of himself on, just his photography. I really don't want him having interaction with girls who try flirting with him. | TL;DR: What do I do/do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: After two years with a guy, wondering if it will be relevant to any hetero relationship interaction. How do I tell him that I'm bisexual? When do you think? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Adopted kittens from an agency. Two days later after explosive diarrhea all over my apartment they are diagnosed with Giardia. I need advice on dealing with the agency.
POST: I feel that out of principle I should be refunded the adoption fee since the agency's foster home infected the kittens with the parasite. Both cats were born in the foster home and there are 20 other cats. Do I have any legal right to ask for the fee back? Or help with the cost of treating? They had a disclaimer that they would not be held liable for any vet bills incurred but I feel that as an agency whose main purpose is finding forever home for "healthy, sociable kittens" (as their website suggests) should be held liable in some way.
Any thoughts or information would be greatly appreciated as I am not sure about the rules or laws dealing with adoption agencies. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I have two girlfriends. I am in a hetero relationship. Does it really matter to hetero? Am I ever right? | TL;DR: Excluded from hetero relationships—girlfriend of four weeks also is bisexual. Do I let him know? Does it really matter if I'm with a guy? When do you think it is appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I was just scammed by an in-call erotic massage provider. Any tips for the future?
POST: Hey Reddit,
I'm in a big US city and I just answered an ad on backpage.com for an erotic massage. The girl who came wasn't the girl in the picture - looked similar but definitely less attractive. Strike 1, but ok, she's here, curvy, and is going to get naked with me. We we agreed on $150 for 60 mins nude massage and a happy ending. She asks me to pay up front, and I thought that was OK, cause what if I don't have the money, right? She starts jacking me off after only about 10 minutes, and I asked to save that for the end. Told her repeatedly to slow down, and she kept going. Finishes me, throws me a towel, uses the bathroom, gets dressed, and leaves after 20 minutes.
Any tips? Or any ways to find reputable people/places in the US?
Next time I'll only pay half up front and make sure we agree on everything before starting.
My first erotic massage was in Europe, was EUR 65 for 60 mins, was in a classy establishment with a hot girl who was very nice and attentive. She continued to massage me after I came, cleaned me up, and treated me very respectfully. It was a good experience and I'd go back.
I'm an average good looking guy with not a ton of relationship/sexual experience, classy, a little nerdy, with more than a few "perfect 10" female friends who friend-zone me. If that matters at all. | TL;DR: Having been in two relationships prior to this one, have never faced this issue, how do I all the time tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? Are it a fact he needs to know? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, new boyfriend may be nervous if I tell him I'm bisexual. when do you think the right time to do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I know its not that big a deal...but how should i react??
POST: So my girlfriend has always told me she wanted to get her belly button pierced. I told her that I hate them, i find no attractiveness in them and that I really wouldn't like it. Well last year this day she pierced her belly button without telling anyone. Now she wants to get a larger one. I really hate this thing and i think it makes her look worse. She had such a great looking stomach until this happened. Also ive been with her for almost 4 years so its not like im going to break up with her for it but how should i react? Hopefully i ca get some female perspective on this. | TL;DR: I am bisexual. How should i tell my boyfriend when he realized? How do I make him know? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. I am a heterosexual is it necessary? When do you think it's appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26 M] have a crush on a female friend [25 F] of one if my good friends but...
POST: Like the title says, I have a crush on a friend of one of my good friends. She and I have hung out (group situations) probably a dozen or so times.
I'd love to ask her out and get to know her better, well more than I already do, but...and this is a big stinky but,
She has a date coming up with a guy I feel like i can in no way compare to, though I heard this from my friend, who kept dropping hints to me saying she was single etc etc but I just haven't seen her in the past few weeks so I haven't had a chance to ask her for her number. Anyway, judging from how she described meeting him, she seemed really into him.
So my question is do I even bother asking for her number at all/mentioning my stupid little crush? Or should I just give it up because if she goes on a few dates with both of us, I feel like I can in no way compare.
The guy she is going out with is a college football star in a top 10 school, supposedly attractive (according to her) and a great guy (according to her, which she gleaned from when he came into her workplace and she gave him her number). According to my friend, I'm a good guy, decently good looking and funny/fun to hang with, but they are biased right?
Full back story, I have depression and anxiety disorder, so I can't tell if this is my brain fucking with me or if I'm genuinely right. Maybe both? | TL;DR: in hetero relationship and no one is interested. do i tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? when do you think it is necessary? How do I honestly tell him that I'm bisexual? or does he have to know? how do I say it? | TL;DR: I am bisexual. What do I do? What should I do if I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (21F) boyfriend (22M) of three years doesn't know anything about hygiene
POST: My boyfriend and I have been living together for two years and this has bothered me for some time. I do the laundry for us (we don't have a washing machine, so I bring it to my parents house and wash it there), but there is never much of his clothe in the laundry basket. Not even his underwear. He changes his underwear probably once a week. Every other day he skips brushing his teeth. He also often smells and people around us notice it and brings it to my attention, but not his. I keep giving him deodorants that I know are good and keep telling him to use them, since he uses a scent spray which is not enough.
I would try to talk to him about it, but I'm afraid that I will embarras him and hurt his feelings. He doesn't take a hint and he is not good at changing habbits, so another problem is that I will probably have to bring this problem to his attention more than once.
How do I help my boyfriend better his hygiene? | TL;DR: In a hetero relationship. Need advice on telling prospective boyfriend I'm bisexual, when do you think it is considered necessary? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual (gay) and I'm in a hetero professional relationship. He needs to know; |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my SO [30 F] of 2 months, I broke up with her but I do not know if I am over-reacting.
POST: My SO gets really sensitive when we drink. We went out and were coming back home. She had my glasses and I needed to them to drive(I was way sober at this time, she had more to drink and was still drunk). She said I could not get them back unless I gave her a kiss, no problem, I gave her the kiss. She then would not give me the glasses and I sternly told her to give me the glasses. She did but was hurt and then would not talk to me for an hour and a half. I was done and over with that mini fight because it really was not that big of a deal, I just didn't want to play drunk games with her and never get home.
When we got home, she would not talk to me and at that point I broke up with her. I really do not want to date someone who will stay that mad for that long. The only problem is, I feel bad because she was clearly not in the right state of mind. | TL;DR: 16.7F. Is it necessary to tell boyfriend i'm bisexual and am willing to risk losing him because of it? | TL;DR: I'm in a hetero relationship with a guy 3-5 months after I grew up bisexual. Would like to tell my boyfriend if he needs to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 /F] with my bf [36 M] together for 8mos has stopped giving me oral sex, but when down on me on our second date
POST: On our second date, he went down on in my car and it was so hot and unexpected and exciting. I was like " whoa this is awesome and sexy". He would go down on me all the time and for a while we actually put off going to pound town because he said he wanted us to be monogamous first . I said YESSSSS. He also has ED. He has a heart condition and depression which effects his boners. He got the heart medication but refuses to go back on anti-depressants..yadda yadda personal reasons.
It was fine though because we were boning like rabbits with the occassional hiccup but I didnt care I was falling madly in love with him.
Then he stopped going down on me. I didn't notice until a month went by, then two months, then I brought it up at three.
He said it was because it was because I got an ingrown hair and it grossed it out. (I had gone to the Dr to have it removed)
He said people with low self esteem aren't likely to go down on their partners...I asked if he had low SE he said No..
He says he's not interested in sex but I go down on him all the time and we are still consensually boning people so
WHAT SHOULD I DOOOOOOO? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, not sure if he needs to know or should he feel like losing him because of it, but I'd hate for my sexual orientation to be the thing that kills the relationship. | TL;DR: I am in a hetero relationship, he doesn't need to know that I'm bisexual and I am a big fan of the man. How do I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (20m) mom (50) hates her family and I think because of that her family hates me to
POST: My mom hates her family I think. My uncles wanted to come over half a year ago. Spontaneous. They were in the city and just called in the morning and asked if it would be okay. Mom said yes we're excited etc. they were here doing some work like things (selling cars is their business). They left the city without coming over and my mom got really angry cause SHE had to call them and ask them where they are. They said they are already out of the city and apologized shortly. My mom was angry as hell cause she cooked and cleaned everything extremely up since she hasn't seen her brothers for half a year.
After that they had no contact for another half of a year. Today he called and apologized, wanted to come over. My mom said no cause she is still angry. What happened is that they still came to apologize and my mom simply didn't open the door. Now I feel bad, my brothers wife's and children also were here and MY mom simply didn't open the door. I think now they hate me too tho I was always cool with them.
If I had opened the door my mom had gone batshit crazy over that and might have kicked me out of the house like I know her.
She is stubborn as hell and now I'm stuck with a bad feeling and a bad mind.
How do I deal with the whole situation? | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, boyfriend needs to know that I am bisexual. Making this high profile argument with him usually kills the relationship and I'd hate for it to kill it. | TL;DR: Are I so gay I should tell my boyfriend (also bisexual) that I'm bisexual? Are the possibility that it is a good option? When do you think the right time to tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [19] My girlfriend [18] of 5 months is going to college 2 hours away this year, we are both in a bad place. What to do?
POST: My girlfriend is going to a college 2 hours away from where we live now. She has looked into transferring to a school nearby, but I insist that she doesn't because the school she got into is the best for her major, even if it means losing her. On the other hand, I am more than willing to transfer to her school because I was considering going there anyway, I just picked another cause it was closer. However I am in a transfer program that requires 2-3 years at community before going to a state school.
I am going over to her house today and we are going to talk for a couple hours about everything, however I am not sure if theres anything I can say to help her feel better. She knows that I love her very much and don't want this to end. I know that she cares about me very deeply to the point where just the thought of this makes her cry. However, it still is very worrying. We always hear stories of long distance relationships not working, but we don't want that. We both know that our relationship is something real that we dont want to end. | TL;DR: I'm gay and I'm in a hetero relationship, but I'm afraid for my boyfriend to lose him because of it. Our relationship is exclusive, but I am willing to personalize my relationship with a guy. How do I tell him that I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: I should tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual, but I really like the guy because of it. When should I tell him that? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Anyone have experience with sound proofing? Is it effective?
POST: My Girlfriend and I own a flat in South London. We've been there for just over a year. However, we have had numerous issues with sound and general noise coming from our neighbours above us. We have tried talking and coming to some arrangement, but it's not perfect. Plus now, I think the neighbour above us is tired of being nice and just wants to play his music and make noise in attempt that we'll move out.
It's been going on for a while and now I feel it is seriously starting to effect our health and I rarely look forward to coming home most days; especially on the weekends. I fear it is turning into depression :(
The property itself is a small 1 bed flat in a new build development. Generally we hear nothing from the flats between us. It's just the flat above. If we could afford to, we would just move, but realistcly because we are in London. We can't afford to move for another 2-5 years.
I've been given a quote to insulate the ceiling by a private sound proofing company, but it's a tad expensive. I wanted to ask the reddit community if they have had any experiences like this and also if sound proofing helped them?
One last thing, we have thought about going down a legal route either at the company that built the property or the neighbour, we don't really want to do that, unless absolutely necessary. But if it helps, it would be interesting to know where we stand. | TL;DR: I am bisexual, and I want to keep him from wanting my boyfriend to know it, but am afraid that I will lose him because of it. | TL;DR: I am bisexual and I don't know if my boyfriend needs to be aware because of someone else's bisexuality! |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: When is it time to quit?
POST: Back story:
I work for a wonderful non-profit in marketing part time. I do social networking and I write press releases and whatever else my boss doesn't feel like doing or doesn't have the time to do.
I love this organization, the problem lies in the way I am treated. Examples: I am only allowed to work 1.5 days a week in the office because that is all they can afford. I am not allowed to use this time to attend weekly staff meetings that everyone else attends, my boss has implied that it is a waste of time and money for me to sit around listening to people despite my arguments with her that I need to know what is going on for social networking purposes. I was asked to write a press release at home because it was urgent and it never got sent out to the press.
All of this is seriously starting to effect me to the point where I am miserable and I know I have to quit but I just keep making excuses: It is my only source of income right now. I am a graduate assistant part time in exchange for free school. My GA schedule changes every 3 months and I know it will be hard to find a job that will work around my schedule. I am kind of picky because I want a job in marketing to continue to gain experience in the field. I know that if I leave, no one will continue the social networking that I have worked so hard on. I care too much about an organization that doesn't care about me.
How do you quit your job with the only reason being that you are miserable and can't take it anymore? I can't tell them that, I need them as a reference.
Reddit please talk some sense into me. I've read other posts about how to quit your job, I just can't seem to get the guts up to do it. Am I crazy? Should I keep going until I'm done with school (16 months) | TL;DR: Is it required to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? How do I tell him? | TL;DR: Is it necessary/not really necessary to inform boyfriend that I'm bisexual, even if one of the parties is bisexual? Preferably when...? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: girlfriend losing interested in me
POST: me M23, her F22; dating for 5 months. I fear that a girl i have fallen completely head over heels for is losing interest in me. She never asks me anything about my day or how i feel, never asks me about my life past, present, or future; despite my fascination with her life and inquiries of how she is doing. Is this something i should bring up to her? or am i being paranoid... she seems to really enjoy sex but nothing else in her life, which bothers me because i feel i can perform well sexually but not fulfill her in any other aspect of life, which i care more about. She says she loves me and cares about me, when i hinted at bringing this up before she got defensive and claimed i was "putting her in a position to defend how she feels about me." I guess what i need to know most is whether to talk to her about this or just believe that she loves me like she says despite her coldness and apparent lack of feeling. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I'm in a hetero relationship. If yes, when do you think it's necessary? How do I tell my boyfriend that? | TL;DR: 32+ years in hetero relationship with guy. I have no idea if he need to know. What is the best timing to tell him I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Ridding my son of disgusting habits...
POST: Ok, I am at my wits end here. I have 12 yo boy/girl twins and my son has always had the habit of eating his boogers. I have tried everything I can think of to get him out of the habit and nothing has worked! I tried ignoring it, explaining it to him, getting angry, being understanding, and anything else I can think of and he still does it! I hadn't seen him do it for a while until tonight when we were watching a movie and I looked over to see him at it. Someone PLEASE give me advice on this! He knows it hurts him socially and has been teased about it in school and acknowledges the need to stop, but he still can't seem to do it!
He also chews his nails and bites his toenails, but those are other habits to work on. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I'm gay-ness as-girlfriend. Can I tell him to be bisexual? Is it really necessary to be hetero in homo relationship and when do you think he should know? | TL;DR: I'm a hetero and am in a hetero relationship for a month, and I want to find out. I should be fine with who I am, but when do you think it is appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my [16F] anxiety and nightmares post breakup
POST: inb4 illegal, it was very legal in my country.
after i broke up with my girlfriend after finding out she cheated on me ive been having anxiety "attacks" during the nights and nightmares every night, which results in me waking up 4-5 times a night drenched in sweat.
the nightmares usually revolve around her cheating on me and me feeling absolutely destroyed just as i did when i found out..
i feel as if im having these nightmares because my now ex girlfriend cheated on me because she has absolutely no self esteem and needs "approval" if you'd like from everyone and everything, she now says shes going to spend time getting herself together beacuse she wants a proper relationship with me and loves me and cant lose me etc, but also blames me for pushing her into the relationship in the first place because she was afriad of losing me after i told her i didnt want an unserious relationship..
but what should i do about these dreams and the anxiety im experiencing? im afriad of going to sleep because of this.. | TL;DR: Wanna tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? Even if he doesn't know what to do, what do you think? When do you think it is necessary? Prayers? | TL;DR: Is it necessary for a bisexual relationship to know that I'm bisexual? When do you think is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30 M] am not in love with my current 2.5 year girlfriend [29F], but with my ex [30F]
POST: Hello reddit
First of all, Sorry for my English .
I [30m] have a girlfriend [29f] who is a really nice girl. We've been together for the last 2 1/2 years. We were friends before that and I really love her. But I am not in love with her. To be completely honest, I never was.
At the beginning, I was alone, far away from home , family and friends, she was in love with me and I was sexually attracted to her, so I though "why not"? Her family is now like my 2nd family, we even work together.
But My heart truly belongs to someone else. An ex [30f] that I broke because I had to move out of town. We reconnected recently and we both feel in love. Sex with this one was amazing and passionate even after 3 years. On the other hand, the sex with my current girlfriend is only "acceptable". Not bad, but not amazing. I feel we cannot establish a deep emotional connection, no matter how hard we try.
M idea is to break up with my current girlfriend to get back with my ex. Even if I believe this is the honest thing to do, it is extremely painful. We've shared 2.5 amazing years and, even if I am not in love with her, I really care about her and I know that breaking up will make she suffer a lot. In addition, I am afraid of losing her family friendship.
So, as you can imagine, i am suffering a lot and having 2nd thoughts. Not sure if I end this relationship to pursue the love of my life or if I stay with this lovely girl with I have a really comfortably relationship, although I am not in love with her.
Any thoughts?
Thanks | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. Should he know about it? How do I tell him when I are bisexual? When do you guys think it is appropriate? | TL;DR: Never admitted bisexuality to him, but now in relationship with a guy, over his sexual orientation. When/how do I tell my boyfriend this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: A pet peeve of mine on reddit.
POST: Whenever I make a post about something, honestly, I expect people to have an answer for it and if they don't have an answer then they don't leave a post response at all...I'm getting fed up with some people of reddit who don't answer the question and piss people off with their sarcasm or condescending remarks instead of actually answering a question that was asked.
Usually if I read posts on reddit that intrigue me enough to leave an answer, I always give a direct answer to their self-explanatory question...then you have these people who want to piss people off with their high and mighty attitudes as if they are better than the people or the situation that someone is in. | TL;DR: Learned in a real relationship. Would like to be in a hetero relationship. Would hate to lose him because of it. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I think my biggest fear is losing them because of it. BLT: How do I tell my boyfriend/around me that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 3 1/2 years, are approaching college away from each other and I don't know what to do.
POST: I have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 and a half years throughout high school and I love her. At this point, I know it's not that I love her because of proximity or that I don't want to be alone, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl. And we are approaching our first year of College very soon.
We will be going to different schools about 4 hours away from each other and in the past 3 weeks, I have realized that this huge part of my life, my best friend will be gone. So I have become very sad, and I guess a little clingy towards my girlfriend, whereas she doesn't seem too bothered about it because of her philosophy of "There is nothing that we can do about it, so whatever happens, happens."
I have talked to her about what we are going to do at this point, and what we are going to do once we are in college, and we have decided to enjoy our time that we have left together and then try to see how our relationship goes while we are apart. If it ends up working out, great. If not, we will try to stay friends because we both have had such a huge impact on eachother's lives.
This sounds all fine, but I have heard how much people change once they are in college and away from their high school friends, and I am looking for advice on how I can cope with this.
I am sure this gets posted here a lot, and i'm sorry if I am wrong in posting it again, but I am really needing some insight on what I can do or how to cope with the girl I love being away from me. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, i'm the one who need to know and I'm in a hetero relationship. Should I influence someone else with my sexual orientation? | TL;DR: My girlfriend me being bisexual is not only ok but he needs to know. Is it a protection due to hetero relationship? When does he have time to do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just spoke to 7 people at my ISP before I spoke to someone who had a clue. Is anyone's ISP actually good?
POST: Yesterday I turned in a VOIP modem and set top box to my ISP with the direction that I still needed internet service but not telephone or television. This morning my internet quit, so I did the standard disconnect/reset to correct the problem, though to no avail. I called customer service and was told there was a work order scheduled for this morning and my internet was listed as "active." I ended the call with her after giving up on telling her I wasn't calling to add services. I called back and was subsequently tossed back and forth between sales and tech support before landing with someone (in sales, btw) who actually took the 10 seconds to open the work order and read it - and then agree that a service outage at the same time as a partial service disconnect was too much of a coincidence to be separate problems. He then called dispatch to have the tech come back and fix it. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and my boyfriend doesn't know it needs to be known. I can't leave his guy alone. | TL;DR: Hi/Loss: Matt supports bisexuality, but I don't feel it's relevant to a hetero relationship? Is this something he needs to know? When is the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Just interrupted the "course of mother nature" to save some baby birds... Have you ever intervened nature to protect an animal?
POST: A couple weeks ago I noticed a robin (state bird of Michigan) building a nest right outside of my office window - literally about 8 feet from my computer monitor. I took quite a bit of interest in [this little birdie family]( and have since been taking photos and video with my GoPro camera. I just leave it in the tree for a few hours every few days to document them.
I've become quite attached to [these little fellas]( and have watch them go from eggs to little feathery balls of chirp. Unfortunately today I witnessed a crow the size of my torso land in the tree and tragically toss one of the babies onto the ground. Fortunately the nest is only about 5 feet off the ground but, against my Planet Earth instinct, I ran out of my office to bitch smack the crow. Lucky for him, he immediately flew away.
To keep a long story short, the baby bird was stuck on the ground and couldn't get back into the nest since it can't fly yet. Even worse, the mother kept swooping at my eyeballs whenever I got close to try and put it back. Finally she flew away and I was able to put the baby robin back.
Reddit, have you ever intervened mother nature to save an animal's life? | TL;DR: Due to bisexuality, boyfriend needs to know from my dad that I am bisexual. Is this unnecessary? When do you think would be the right time? What is best to tell him? | TL;DR: Is it special for a hetero relationship to have my bisexual girlfriend with me, or does this just just happen, if so, when should I tell him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] and SO [34 M] for 1,5y, had a fight, he now wants money.
POST: Last weekend I lost my temper. Ex became more and more controlling, making more demands and we couldn't discuss anything because that's what "normal" people do. Relationship counseling or any form of talking about an issue was met with disgust.
Over the past few months there has been a lot of body shaming (telling me to cover up my "deformed parts") and making demands. I had enough, I was very unkind, asked him where we stood and told him how this behaviour made me feel. He stopped talking to me.
Now he sends me a message, he wants gifts he gave me back and money. Again, a control thing. The money is less than $100 and the gifts are less than $60. This isn't an awful lot for either of us. I offered him to pay the money back months ago when he paid the bill for me, but according to him it was a gift.
I just threw everything he asked for and everything he didn't ask for in a box, but started wondering if I should give in to this. Should I just ship the box and not the money (I want to clean up my house anyway), tell him to pick it up himself? I feel like I'm giving in again.
Edit: I guess that is an overwhelming vote for ignore and not give in. Thanks for the perspective everyone! Really appreciate that! | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I want him to know I'm not. How do I tell him I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, but I'm in a hetero relationship, and I'm on the verge of losing my boyfriend because of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Unplugged Ceremony?
POST: For those unfamiliar with an unplugged wedding, or why to have one -
I have scoured the internet looking for good ways to tell guests that I'm having an unplugged ceremony. While I certainly want the point to hit home and be noticed, I don't want them to feel like they're children and that I'm constantly beating them over the head with the same info. I'm thinking of having it written in my wedding website, and also having the officiant say something before the processional - as well as word of mouth. Do you all think this is adequate but not over the top?
Also - I cannot find good wordings on the internet. I have gone through a few pages of Google already. There are a few on Offbeatbride, ( ) but some are too emotional for me and some are too straight-forward (signs that just say PLEASE TURN OFF YOUR CELL PHONES - I'm not having a sign anyway, people tend to not read signs), nothing sounds just right.
My mom is also not on board with this idea. She is under the illusion that everyone will be perfectly behaved, that no one would dream of ruining a photographer's shot. She doesn't realize that it just happens and people become obsessed with capturing it for themselves, so they don't even notice. I don't see why you would pay a professional thousands of dollars, then allow amateurs to get in the way. She thinks it's rude and that there's no way to say it that won't upset people. Also, I like it, so she is bound to hate it. This would only be for the ceremony, of course I would encourage people to take tons of pictures during the reception. | TL;DR: I shown boyfriend I'm bisexual,? I'm still single and want to go through an unusual relationship now. What should I do? | TL;DR: Are chili chickens bisexual jerks, responsible for training babies, who would like to have kids? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my [20F] crush that I've been talking to for the past two weeks
POST: A couple weeks ago I used the excuse of studying for test to get
my crush's phone number. We studied for the test and hung out a
couple of other times after that. In between we texted a lot. Then asked if her she wanted to do a movie night, and she said yes.
A week later I text her asking if she still wanted to do movie night that night, and didn't respond. Text her again and she says that she's really busy and has a lot of homework. Didn't respond because it sounds like an excuse that she made up.
Then I go to dinner in the caf that night with some mutual friends, and she shows up later and sits directly across from me. While we're at dinner we talked a lot and it wasn't really awkward.
I was not going to talk to her for a while and she what she does. But should I just move on, or is she just playing games right now? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, in a hetero relationship. I trust my boyfriend but don't know if that's something he needs to know. | TL;DR: Do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Is it worth it? and when is the best time to rekindle the relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: feel like my (f22) SO (m29) is neglecting me while he is going though some turmoil
POST: We've been together for nearly half a year. Honeymoon phase has faded but i'm still so into him, even more so. I'm totally ready to exchange 'I love you's but I feel like he maybe isn't there yet.
Lately things have really changed between us. He is going through some pretty heavy family drama right now, and had a really abusive upbringing. He sees a therapist routinely which helps but has a very distracted and complex headspace.
I'm still trying to understand his personality 100% because sometimes he is very difficult to read. He is not very forthcoming with telling me how he feels, both how into me he is or what's generally on his mind. I am trying to coerce him to open up to me with what he is going through right now as he has definitely been pulling away. His response was pretty much, 'you just can't understand'. I want him to come to me for support when he's upset, not ice me out.
I am really trying to be patient and understanding, but he is poor at replying to my messages, rarely asks me to hang out lately and small instances keep occurring where he is inconsiderate of what's going on with me while he is so distracted. I am constantly letting him know i'm there for him, how crazy I am about him. He does reciprocate sometimes and I know deep down he definitely cares for me and is into me, he's just extremely stressed and borderline depressed right now.
I feel like I need a break and some space because I keep getting frustrated and let down when he breaks plans or because he isn't as flamboyant with his affections (although that is just part of his personality). I care deeply for him, and know he's in a rough patch and really has no one else in his life. I feel sometimes that i'm putting 100% into the relationship and he is doing just enough. I've mentioned these concerns to him, and he's apologized, but then nothing really happens. | TL;DR: Is bisexual pregnancy something that a hetero ought to know? | TL;DR: Im bisexual and in a hetero relationship. I’m in a hetero relationship and my boyfriend thinks its important, but I really like the guy. Is it necessary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My housemates keep having loud sex. What can I do? How can I ask them to be more respectful?
POST: I rent a small house with two other guys. We each have our own room, but sound travels pretty well.
Housemate 1: He's not too loud, but his headboard is against my wall. When I was going to ask him to move his bed a bit, Housemate 2 and his girlfriend said, "Nooooo. Let it happen."
Housemate 2: He's the main culprit. His girlfriend is loud every single time, and they sometimes have a friend join them, and she's loud, too. They do very little to hide what they're doing, and I get the impression that they want us to hear.
Now, I'm not a prude. I consider myself relatively adventurous as well, but one thing that I do not like is hearing other people have sex in my house. I understand that it's going to happen, but I just think that it's inappropriate for me to be hearing something I'm not a part of. It makes things incredibly awkward in the house for anyone else that's here. Housemate 1 and I have trouble hanging out or doing anything, because you can hear them literally wherever you go in the house. I can't even cook dinner right now, and I don't know how to ask them without sounding like a huge prude. | TL;DR: In bisexual relationship. Wanna tell boyfriend about my status, when is he supposed to know? | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, boyfriend and i are bisexual, think he needs to know and should I tell him? When do you think you should tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Would you bone a stranger?
POST: My friend and I are recently single. Her, divorced from someone completely devoid of showing any kind of emotion, and I of someone who would rather be fuck his hand than me. Me, completely willing and ready to be taken, ravaged, fucked sideways, anything...but I digress. We had taken a shopping trip, eying gentleman as they passed seeing as we were able to look again. We found ourselves on the topic of sex, and wondering if an attractive woman came to a man in a public setting (i.e. grocery store, mall, etc) and asked them to have sex would the man agree?
I do realize this happens with one night stands- but I'm talking about no liquid courage, no presumptive setting, no names, no story, completely unexpected, I am not your co-worker, we have never spoken, I don't know you, I just want to bang your brains out. | TL;DR: Bf needs to know if I am bisexual and when do you think it's about right time? | TL;DR: I am 34. When do I tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? How do I tell him? When do you think that's the right time to talk about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29F] with my boyfriend [30M] 1.5 years, something in our relationship is bothering me and I want to talk about it, but I don't want to ruin his birthday
POST: There are some things that are bothering me in our relationship and I really want to talk them out. My boyfriend and I aren't able to see each other a lot lately due to both of our schedules changing drastically (one of the issues that I want to talk about).
Today is his birthday so I'll be seeing him tonight. I'll also see him tomorrow night as well for a little get together at his place. Then we have some stuff planned for the weekend as well with some friends. So I'll get to see him a lot more than I usually do this week which is great! I feel like there are things that I really want to discuss and work through, but I also don't want to potentially bring him down on his birthday.
I'm conflicted because I don't think it's good to bottle things up, but I also don't want to upset him while he's supposed to be having fun this week.
What do you guys think? Should I try to discuss things with him tonight and clear the air so we can have fun this week or hold it in until after birthday stuff is done?
It's nothing too horrible that I want to talk about, but could be a potentially heavy conversation. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual. I suppose my boyfriend needs to know about me because Hispanics and Hexadecimals are heteros. Are you guys aware? When do you think is the right time? | TL;DR: I'm in a strange hetero relationship. Will t help tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual, when will I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [LOST]From 426 to 341 in 12 months, but now slowing in motivation!
POST: Hi /r/loseit! I just joined reddit recently and stumbled across this subreddit. Please be kind, as this is the first time I've revealed my starting weight to anyone. Please refer to for progress pictures. I'm 5'6'' and 24 years old.
On November 4, 2010 I went to the doctor and found what I now call my starting weight. I was absolutely mortified. My New Years resolution was to work on getting healthy and happy, as I'd let my weight and depression get so bad that I was no longer in school and was devastatingly unhappy. After a few weeks of just moderation, I took the plunge and joined Weight Watchers, then joined a local gym. I was working on getting fit and was the happiest I'd been in a long time. I was so happy and full of vigor, in fact, that I decided to go back to school and finish my BA.
So, once school started, my weight loss slowed down. I tried to stay on my PointsPlus target, but I just couldn't make myself go to the gym as I was trying to study and work as much as possible. Once finals week hit, I really began to stumble. The week before finals, I hit my lowest weight in a long time, but the stress and messed up schedule began to take its toll on my habits, and I've found myself slipping back into the old trends. I had started a blog to keep myself accountable, but just couldn't bring myself to post on there anymore. I haven't been to a Weight Watchers meeting in a couple of weeks; for the first time ever I actually started skipping meetings. Basically, I just needed to get this all out again so I can start my journey anew and find some kinship with you all. | TL;DR: I am bisexual in a hetero relationship but I don't find it necessary. Should I tell my boyfriend that I am bisexual? | TL;DR: Is bisexuality related to hetero relationships? When do you think it's best to tell my boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] too nervous to do anything [23 F] gone on 4 "dates" and need advice.
POST: I've been talking to a girl for about a solid two weeks, give or take. She messaged me on instagram first, but I've known "of her" for years and she's always lived in town. I asked her on the first "date" which was Rock Climbing and then dinner, and we've gone out about 4 times since (Movies, coffee, etc). They've all gone incredibly well, we joke and tell stories and chat and her laugh is adorable.
She's this really cute, shy type with a beautiful personality and morals and I could go on for ever.. I'm also very shy whenever I want to make any sort of move. Only to her. I can't get the courage to kiss her, when the moment comes it's almost as my mind shuts down and I panic. she leans in for a hug every time and I hug her back and she shyly gets out of my car and walks on.
I think we're both too shy to really make a huge step, but I've been so close **so many times**. I feel as if she's expecting me to be the one to make the leap and prove myself, and rightfully so.
Tonight I ended it so awkwardly that if my awkward was a physical object measured in size, you could see it from space. But she still texted me after and didn't mention the event.
Anyways. What do I do? I choke up. I've been close to her, I've put myself half way there.. until my heart is about to explode. but I turn into a middle schooler and I can almost hear my heart beating.
*I'm too old for this thing to happen*, I've "made moves on girls" many times before and I've had several relationships but this girl puts me on my back in shyness. I'm so overwhelmed. I'm holding onto the idea she takes a little while to be comfortable with someone like that. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and in a hetero relationship, and I've never been accused of it. Should I tell my boyfriend before I go/or should I tell him? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I want to get out of a hetero relationship, when did you think it's necessary and when do you think it's rationalr? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (17m) of 3 years just broke up with me (18f)
POST: Its hard. He was so, so sure that I was THE one. The one he could see being married to, the one he could see spending his life with. I, on the other hand, was never sure. He's a great guy, an amazing boyfriend, and an amazing best friend, but I couldn't tell him for 100% that I wanted to marry him. I asked for a break, I couldn't handle the fact that if we didn't break up in the next 3-5 years, we could be married. Especially with college coming up, I thought it'd be the perfect chance to get some life experiences and meet new people. I thought he'd agree. He didn't. He said its either we break up or nothing. We went on like that for a month or two and he came upto me today to tell me that he couldn't handle it anymore and that he was done. I was upset, I still am, but not at him. A part of me regrets bringing up the idea of taking a break in the first place. A part of me hates me for making him doubt what we had. But as all of my friends have said, maybe its for the better. I really hope so. | TL;DR: 18/30/14/64/29/02/02 Dual relationship with a guy for a month; don't know if boyfriend needs to know I'm bisexual. need advice on doing it. wanna be honest w/o my boyfriend. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual trying to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual, and I've been in a hetero relationship. How should I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need advice: Atheist wants to marry Christian girl, but must find God for her to agree.
POST: To elaborate, I am a long-time atheist who has fallen in love with a devout Christian girl, and despite our vast differences, we are completely retarded for each other and get along amazingly well. I previously had no intention of ever getting married or having kids, but everything has turned upside-down from this relationship.
Here is the issue: I approached her about the idea of getting married and she responded that she could not marry anyone who did not share her belief in God. When our children begin to ask existential questions, she does not want to have opposing beliefs. She says she loves me and would not leave me if we could not marry but we would not have children. She ultimately wants a large family and I cannot be her boyfriend for years and years without being able to meet the standard of her ideal mate and not being able to facilitate her desire for children.
This just breaks my heart because I want to be the man she wants me to be, but I have a solid disbelief in the metaphysical. I studied a handful of religions in college and I feel that it's all so hocus-pocus that it would take flying whales for me to believe in God. Something crazy and irrational motivated my lips to say that I would try to find God and tomorrow I'm going to church for the first time in ages.
I don't really know what I'm asking you Reddit. I just need to hear some feedback on the situation. I want her more than anything in the world but if this is silly and I need to back out of this, please let me know with good reasons. I'm clearly not thinking rationally. | TL;DR: Admit in hetero relationship to boyfriend that I'm bisexual. Does it really matter? When can he know it? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I want to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual. For good reason, |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Girlfriend bought a house. She's doing stuff to it. I'm useless as a traditional handy man. Help me reddit, you're my only hope.
POST: The longer version: She bought a house, she's surrounded by traditionally 'handy' male types [her father is an electrician, general handy man, machinist, woodworker and drives a tractor.] Most of her male friends and family members are equally endowed. Me? I'm good with music, computers and occasionally screwing in lightbulbs.
The lady herself is quite efficient with those types of things that might go into repairing or improving a home. Screws, nails, hammers, saws, bang bang, zchoowbah, etc.
I'm very intelligent. I can learn quick. reddit, my resources are limited but my spirit is very willing. Give me something handy I can do for her that will be both useful and not make me just 'in the way'. She'll never out-and-out ask me to do anything, she's too independent minded. | TL;DR: I want to be in homosexual relationship, but I want to be in a hetero relationship. Think I'm bisexual. If you guys think it is necessary, when do you think is the right time? How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: Is bisexuality necessary in hetero relationship? What should I tell my boyfriend (my boyfriend) I don't like it too much because it's not appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Grandmother died £80k Stolen.
POST: A little bit of backstory, My Grandmother passed this tuesday. While it was a very sad day she was out of a lot of suffering since she had a severe stroke 7 years ago and recently couldn't fight infection anymore and sadly passed. We agreed that my aunt and uncle moved in to her house previously near homeless for them to look after her. While the agreement worked and my Aunt and Uncle cared for her with the agreement they paid half of the bills. 0 Mortgage on the property they just paid 1/2 of the bills.
Recently we discovered that £250 withdrawals have been made frequently aswell as my uncles wage where they had spend 0 from his wage and using my grandmothers money aswell as my uncles savings and my aunts benefits for caring for my Grandmother accumilating to over £80k leaving my Grandmothers bank account to complete 0 having previously £95k in the bank. To clarify the only payments to they had to make was Phone,Electric,Food and Gas. which my Grandmother paid half.
It has also been found forged cheques have been cashed. Since she had a stroke she could not write. However these cheques are perfectly signed and accepted by the bank. While they did not have the power to do this. some cheques being for over £5000.
The advice i am asking for is how to approach this. We have proof of this happenings but as you may understand certain things complicate the situation. I'm happy to address certain things that may aid. Such as my robbing aunt having power of attorney and altering the will when my grandmother isn't mentally or physically to stop them or even aware.
Basically i'm asking for advice because my family are out to attack my uncle. While i would love to know this i know it will make things worse.
How can i advise my family to to the correct thing or even how to approach this. Thank you Reddit. | TL;DR: Im bisexual and in relationship with guy anyway. | TL;DR: In hetero relationship, boyfriend reveals that he's bisexual, when should he know? Does it really matter if I'm bisexual? When do you think is appropriate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I know its not that big a deal...but how should i react??
POST: So my girlfriend has always told me she wanted to get her belly button pierced. I told her that I hate them, i find no attractiveness in them and that I really wouldn't like it. Well last year this day she pierced her belly button without telling anyone. Now she wants to get a larger one. I really hate this thing and i think it makes her look worse. She had such a great looking stomach until this happened. Also ive been with her for almost 4 years so its not like im going to break up with her for it but how should i react? Hopefully i ca get some female perspective on this. | TL;DR: Another woman was bisexual before my first relationship, now in a hetero relationship and don't know if her orientation is true, how do I really tell my boyfriend it is appropriate? | TL;DR: In a hetero relationship--what should i do to tell my boyfriend I am bisexual? Are we compatible with wanting to get our relationship exclusive or is this necessary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: What are my options here? (Uncomfortable work environment)
POST: So I've begun a new job as a waitress in a restaurant. I've only lasted three days but don't really wish to continue. Here's why:
* Communication with the owner is terrible. It took the whole three days for me to get out of him what my pay would be, which is £5 an hour for this 'training period' (under UK minimum wage for a 20-year-old) and £6.50 an hour once I became as good as the other waitress. The one that has been there for five months.
* All tips get put into a box. The waitresses do not receive a cut of this. I had a table of five lovely gentlemen tell me to take their £10 tip and put it in my pocket, and I had to refuse.
* The waiters/managers make me feel uncomfortable. They touch my back when they go past me, comment on my looks and regard my body, and ask me questions like "do you like to party?" and "do you live alone?".
* You've probably guessed this one, but there is no formal contract. There has been no signing of documents, question of proof that I'm able to work in the UK (which I am, but it's a bit of a red flag when a company doesn't care to find out).
* I'm undermined in front of customers. One manager, when I mistakenly went to put a comment card in the wrong place, grabbed it from my hands and ripped it in front of my face- and in front of the entire restaurant.
I'm awaiting a call to tell me when my next shift is (because, obviously, there is no rota). I plan to tell the owner that I am leaving. My question is, what am I entitled to after having worked 11 and a half hours for them? Am I entitled to get paid for those hours I've done at £5 an hour, or at minimum wage rate, or nothing at all, as there is no contract? What do I do if he refuses to pay me (something I predict may happen)? Can I demand the £10 tip I'm technically due? | TL;DR: I'm going in hetero relationship with guy. Is it needed for hetero relationship? When do you think is right time to do that? | TL;DR: I am bisexual and in a hetero relationship with a guy. Would hate to lose my guy because of that. When do you guys think it is necessary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [29/m]My girlfriend's [23/f] sex drive basically stopped on account of past abuse.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for 4 months now, though we've been friends for a number of years prior. We had a pretty intense and very natural love connection, and on all accounts still do, except for in the bedroom.
Sex at first was regular and seemingly healthy. After about 3 months it started to slow down. When we do have sex she will do what she can to help me orgasm, but won't really try to get herself there. I asked about things she likes/things she doesn't like and tried to create a dialog about it but got no where. Now the sex has stopped completely. After feeling frustrated and a bit sad about the situation we had an open talk about it and she confided in me about an occurrence of sexual abuse from her childhood that she feels has completely separated intimacy from sex for her, and that she only enjoys casual sex even though she knows it's an unhealthy route for her. When I brought up counseling she said she's not ready to face it and that with everything going on in her life sex isn't a priority.
I want to be supportive of her feelings and her past, but I feel like only counseling can help her past this. I also know that it's not my place to make her confront it. Ultimately I know at some point I have to do whats right for me if my needs aren't being met but in the meantime I want to at least try to work past this. Does anyone have any advice on ways to help connect intimacy and sex? | TL;DR: Bisexual attitude is not something boyfriends need to know -- when of course? What should i say he should know about it? | TL;DR: I'm in a hetero relationship and would like to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28M] an about to move in with my girlfriend [27F] and she is making plans to meet up with her ex [27M] on sly this weekend for late drinks
POST: My girlfriend and I have been going out for about a year and have decided to move in together. The move is supposed to be this weekend but we are waiting on the previous tenant to coordinate the move in. My girlfriend said she had emailed him but not yet received a response.
She said that maybe she had got the email wrong so I checked her email to make sure she had the right address. Sitting in her sent box (along with the email to the tenant) was an email to her old boyfriend asking if he wanted to meet for drinks this weekend (she initiated the conversation). I was a little dumbstruck as this guy had cheated on her in the past and I thought she wanted nothing to do with him. They had dated on and off for many years but she said she didn't want to have anything to do with him anymore when we talked about him before.
Foolishly I didn't confront her about it then and there and closed the laptop and we went out for brunch. At the end of brunch I asked her if she wanted to go out on the Saturday (the night they were to meet up) and she said she had plans. I asked what she was up to and she said she wasn't sure yet. I am hurt and worried. If she had come out and just said that she was seeing her ex I would have been upset but we could have at least talked it out, but the cloak and dagger stuff has me worried and my guts all knotted up.
Moving in is a big step and I was excited, but now scared. Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. | TL;DR: Two serious relationships were transparent about my bisexuality before this relationship. As a hetero I'm now in a hetero relationship with a guy and I feel a minimum of safety and fear losing out on your relationship. | TL;DR: Having two dating history, didn't know about bisexuality. Just like your girlfriend, what does this look like? When should I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (21M) Is my "girlfriend" (19F) about to dump me or is this normal behavior?
POST: I'll try to make this as short and to the point as possible. Met a girl 2.5 months ago on a cruise, we are both single, we spend three days on the cruise hanging out, we get along great, I give her my contact info and we stay in touch for about three weeks (she lives 4 hours away) and she asks to meet up, so I make the drive to where she lives and we spend the whole day together, after that we plan a two day trip, just the two of us, she drives to my town and we go in my car, everything is wonderful, we joke, laugh, and smile the entire time, perfect two days. We stay in touch for a few more weeks and I drive to her house and spend another day with her, again, everything goes perfect... until that night. on the way home from dinner I tell her that I really like her and would like to have a relationship with her, she tells me that it's not a good time in life because she is so busy with school and work but maybe eventually. I was a little sad about it but played it off like that was fine and looked forward to getting to know each other better. That was almost a week ago, since then, she is not texting me much, giving short answers, we had been talking about a trip to NYC (12 hours away btw) but yesterday she said that the weather would be too unpridictable to go during the time of year we were planning to go and that we should plan something else. She still says she looks forward to seeing me again but I feel like after I proposed the relationship question things have gone down hill, is this normal? Or should I prepare for the worst? I really like this girl and don't want to lose her. | TL;DR: What do I say to my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Is this something that either man/woman needs to know? How do I tell him? When do you think it is needed? | TL;DR: Learned from first relationship and now have a sort of relationship. Do you think/do I tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? What do you think? when do you think is the right time to tell? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Continue Financing OR Lease?
POST: I need some personalfinance expertise!
I currently have a loan for my vehicle totaling $27k and I am looking to lower my overall expense per month. I am a student and will continue to be for another 2-3 years (I do have a FT Job).
I live in a city where a vehicle is necessary; meaning public transportation is not an option for me. I drive about 50 miles a day and need a very reliable car since I also have a family.
If I traded my car in for something cheaper I'd be underwater about $3k to $5k but id be driving something older and less reliable than what I have now.
What are your views on me leasing? I always had the view that a lease was basically an extended rental.
Right now certain car companies are offering Rebates towards new leases which might be able to lower or fully wipe out my underwater amount. I would not outright own my car at the end of the lease but the same could be said with financing since i've got about 68 months left on my loan.
I dont fully NEED to make any changes but it would be nice to keep an extra $100-$200 a month in my pocket. | TL;DR: I am bisexual and know my boyfriend feels it's the wrong time to tell him. Should I be bisexual or not?Why would I tell him I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: Divorce has ended and the relationship will be halting? Is it something that my boyfriend would fear? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my ex-GF [26 F] 5 years, broke up 6 months ago and still missing her
POST: She broke up with me 6 months ago and I still miss her. It was my birthday a few days ago and she didn't wish me a happy birthday. I know that she remembered because it is a few days before her birthday. I didn't bother sending her a happy birthday either.
I really missed her today. I went through out photos and had a bit of a cry.
I went out with this girl at work. She seemed interested in hanging out with me. When we were driving around, I thought a lot about my ex. This new girl was touching my arm and getting close to me. I'm not sure if she likes me - it still feels so foreign to me. I'm not ready to get into a new relationship, but I'd like to move on. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I'm in a hetero relationship. Please help! | TL;DR: I know I should be happy, but I haggle for my boyfriend. Should I tell him I'm bisexual, when/how will I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I tell people about my mom (50's) & brother (20's)?
POST: So I grew up with a schizophrenic mom (50) and she was pretty physiological and physically abusive to me, my dad, and my brother throughout my childhood. Now I'm 17 and she's still the same (we left her when I was 10) I just don't talk to her much now. My brother is clinically depressed and has OCD and we think it might be developing into the same thing my mom has. I don't feel sorry for myself, I don't really miss that family thing most of the time so i'm not trying to feel like a victim or something. I have been working somewhere for almost a year and am really close to most people there, and we talk about our personal lives & stuff. It's a grocery store lol so it's not super professional.
My one year mark there is coming up and I realized that I haven't really talked about my mom with anyone or even mentioned it. I just tell people my parents are divorced.
I feel like everyone there sees me as this super happy person and like I'm almost hiding part of my life from them. Is it weird that I haven't told them? Or should I tell them? | TL;DR: mature mature bisexual non-real relationship, keep getting pushy and doubtful boyfriend can handle it. am i sad?? | TL;DR: Want to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual, but don't know how to tell it, what types of man is better for me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my ex-GF [18F] duration, Found her on tinder. knocked the wind out of me for 15 seconds.
POST: So my gf and I broke up about 9 days ago (2 years+). I stayed with her my first year of college (long distance), and right when I got back she broke up with me. She seemed like such a real person up until now. I was on tinder too so maybe I'm somewhat guilty, but I just used it as a coping mechanism, but she broke up with me to go "grow herself" or whatever other creamy bullshit people spew when they break up. Am I going to have to deal with this shit as I get older, or will people mature and stop lying to my face at some point? Please reddit, I honestly just need advice and emotional support. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and I want to tell my boyfriend, but I don't know if this is something that he needs to know. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual but I'm in hetero relation. Do you ever ask that you tell your boyfriend this? Is you able to do this? When you talk about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by tasting baby shit.
POST: My sister recently had a baby and isn't able to leave her house very often due to taking care of the baby. So yesterday I decided to be nice and bring over taco bell and alleviate her by holding her baby. That way she could eat in peace. While holding the baby he let go a fart of all farts, or so I thought(sounded like an orchestra of tuba players). It smelled bad so I passed him back off to my sister. While she was changing him I decided to eat my delicious five layer beef burrito. I looked down and and saw what I presumed to be some of the meat that leaked out of the shell. I went ahead and licked it off my shirt. BIG MISTAKE, it was some of his shit that leaked out of the diaper. When the taste hit my taste buds I immediately start puking everywhere, on her newly shampooed carpet, on her microfiber couch, and all on myself. I cannot fully describe the taste of it, other than 20 year old hamburger meat, and garbage with the texture of grits. | TL;DR: Having a hetero relationship I'm bisexual in fanclub. Does it matter? When should I tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and think my boyfriend needs to know half of my other half is bisexual, but I'm worried for losing him because of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] was in the middle of two friends breaking up (divorce) and now one of them is coming to a mutual friend's wedding [29M] and I did not side with him. Non-Romantic.
POST: This had happened about 6 months ago where I was close friends with a couple (let's call them Matt and Sarah] who eventually married. I was invited to the wedding as well. Anyway, after about a few months, they had a pretty bad divorce where the divorce courts had dragged it on for several more months. When it came down to this, rumors began to spread about who was at fault. Sarah [25F] came to me for support, as she did not have anyone to turn to, which I believed.
At the same time, Matt text me asking about Sarah and whether I was approached by her or if she was at my place (just for visiting nothing more). I did not respond as I felt that there was immense tension since Sarah avoided any contact with Matt since he would continually stalk her. Over the months, she was getting bombarded with text messages about how he loves her or that he threatened to kill he cat. It was very sporadic in what he was trying to say. Anyway, I just wanted to avoid getting in between them, so I just focused on one side rather than mediate. Also, I agreed with her points that the guy had a severe gambling problem (but that's another story).
Getting to the point, I have been invited by another friend (Peter/29M) to his wedding and Matt is going to be attending. Not sure if Peter knows about my falling out with Matt, but I intend to go. I just want to avoid unnecessary conflict given that it was rumoured at first that Sarah left Matt for me (which was entirely false and now has a public relationship with someone else after and I was in a committed relationship even after their breakup). | TL;DR: I've never faced the bisexual issue in a hetero relationship. Will it be enough to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual? Should I tell him? | TL;DR: In a hetero relationship, in which my first girlfriend is bisexual - this is a fact a hetero doesn't always know about and I'm afraid my tv mate will lose him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need advice on how to get back together with EX GF.
POST: I am a M 23 who had been dating F 23 for nearly 3 years throughout college. She has been out of college for a year and has a full time job. Anyway, I started an internship 3 hours away Jan 10, which turned out to be horrible timing since things were a little shaky, and we wound up breaking it off on good terms shortly thereafter. this past weekend I was back at school for a mid-term and we had a good time; had lunch, went back to her place for wine and movies, cuddled and slept (yes, only sleeping) together, went out for brunch and bloody marys... good weekend. The problem is any further advances made by me were met with here saying, "It would just complicate things." I did manage to get some goodbye kisses however. I still love here very much and would like to get back together, is there anything I can say/do do get past here defenses? | TL;DR: Am I protected against being bisexual? Is it not relevant to a hetero relationship, without religion? When should I tell my boyfriend I'm divorcing him? | TL;DR: Discovered bisexuality from colleagues and girlfriends before some other serious relationship. Don't know how to tell boyfriend I'm bisexual. Wondering if it is associated with hetero or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (M 21) friends with ex (19 F). Any way I can win her back?
POST: I'm going to keep this very very short. I broke up with her back in May after a year of dating, and it completely devastated her. I instantly regretted that decision. Throughout the course of the summer we remained friends, but we also fooled around as well until one day we both decided to mutually call it off. She insisted that we remain friends because she claims that I'm a very important piece in her life, just in terms of helping her grow as a person.
She started seeing someone towards the end of July. I slowly started missing her company and personality that I became very sour towards that relationship. We fought a lot over that.
However, after a long time of grief, I finally got over it. She told me that she anticipates us being together in the future, she just needs to ride the ship. I always tell her that leads me on, and causes me to act a way around her.
I personally dont like the kid, of course, I am being bias. Either way I still hang out with her, and go out for lunch, and even sometimes work together (both freelancers part time). Is there anything I can do to win her back? | TL;DR: Have a hetero relationship, and want to know if it's necessary or possed as so. Do I tell my boyfriend? | TL;DR: 20 F in hetero relationship with a guy, afraid my boyfriend will lose him because of it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Going Offroad
POST: Hello TIFU readers, this is my first reddit post using this account. This fuck up actually happened yesterday between 10 and 11 AM.
So to start off with, my friends and I were in the beautiful island of Gozo. Us being tourists, did not know the way around the small island, so we resorted to a GPS. A friend of mine, just bought a car, an Opel Astra G to be precise. Great car, mint condition (up until yesterday). So basically I purchased this app on my mobile phone which has TomTom maps. I thought it would be a great opportunity to make use of this app.
At first all was plain sailing, little traffic, 'smooth' roads, beautiful view and quite peaceful. Then the GPS said we should go onto a narrow, unpaved side road. Through the side road, all seemed promising. We could already see our target location, it was a jaw dropping view, lots of greenery surrounded by blue sea. Now my fuck up began by selecting the wrong target location. Instead of selecting, the appropriate location, I tapped on a nearby medieval watch tower, thought that they would make use of the same road.
So what happened? As we travelled further the roads got rougher, more dangerous and more offroad-ish until we finally found ourselves in an open field, out of road. To be fair, my GPS stated that there was a road, clearly there wasn't, only fields with crops.
Obviously we had no other choice but to turn around and go all the way back. Here is the thing since the car is not cut off for offroad, it got stuck, we managed to get it out, by scraping the car's chassis, poor thing.
Eventually, we found our destined location, the promised land and 'enjoyed' the rest of the day.
Now the car is in need of repair so we will see how that goes, the holiday ended up in a long guilt trip (from my pov). | TL;DR: Is it necessary for my boyfriend to hear I'm bisexual? When do we talk about it? I don't know if I should be in a hetero relationship or not. | TL;DR: woman in relationship is bisexual and trying to talk to her boyfriend about it. I'm bisexual. Do you think it's necessary? When should I tell him, do you think it's the right time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I just accidentally left $1300 cash in my car when I dropped it off to be worked on...how screwed am I?
POST: Ugh so I'm a fucking idiot. I dropped my car off at my mechanics place after hours (left my key in a lockbox) to have it worked on tomorrow. I had $1300 cash in in an envelope with my registration. I forgot to take it with me when I left the car.
I now have no way of getting to the car, or getting inside of it even if I could. I trust the owner of the place - I found him through a friend at church...he's an honest dude, and a genuinely good person. But the rest of the employees - I have no idea.
All I can think of is to call as soon as they open and ask to speak to the owner...tell him I left it and ask him to keep it secure?
If this gets stolen I'm completely fucked, right? | TL;DR: In a hetero/hetero relationship, am I required to tell my boyfriend that I'm bisexual or are we obligated to be bisexual? | TL;DR: I'm bisexual, but he hasn't commented or met me. Does it really matter to hetero? When do you think it might be useful? Do you really need to tell my boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my ex [20 F] recently broke up (1.5yrs), and now I see her car parked out front a guys house late at night
POST: Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago, after we've been dating for a year and a half. Don't want to get into too much detail about the breakup, but our relationship was a very happy one with little to no fights. Randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. The reason she broke up with me seems very "stretched". what I mean by that is if that situation happened 3 months ago, we would have worked it out by the next day.
Anyways, a couple weeks before our breakup she was getting real friendly with one of our mutual friends (lets call him Mike). She would always be texting him and I saw a couple heart emojies, but she claims they were just talking about their love for an artist, and I shouldn't worry.
A couple days after that, I saw a message pop up on her mac from Mike. it said "I wish [my name] would let me double team you". I confronted her about that and she assured me that he was just playing around, and trying to boost her self-esteem.
fast forward to this week. Another mutual friend (Ill call him Steve) of ours lives on the same street as Mike, and one night I was over at Steves. I see her car parked outfront Mikes very late at night. She normally has a curfiew and she was well past it. This happened a couple times since then, as I'm over at Steves quite frequently now.
What am I supposed to think? I don't feel like I should be mad, since we're already broken up, but for some reason I feel very betrayed and angry. | TL;DR: I'm bisexual and have never faced before a bisexual relationship, and when do you think was the right time? if it is necessary, when do you think is the right time? | TL;DR: Married guy who is bisexual; We're exclusive for a month in a hetero relationship. Is it vital to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: She (16f) is playing with my (16m) emotions.
POST: So this girl and I have been friends since the fifth grade. We were always there for each other and talked on and off. Recently I broke up with my girlfriend so this girl and I have gotten pretty close. I stared developing feelings for her and it was great at the beginning. When I would wake up in the morning I would already have three messages from her. She found out that I did have feelings for her and she told me that she didn't think of me in that way. Which I was fine with but I couldn't make those feelings go away. She was always on my mind and she would always come to me to talk about everything she had going on in her life. But ever since a little before easter she has started to ignore me but she will talk to me like I'm her bestfriend in school. I can obviously tell that something is wrong. When I try to ask her if it was anything I did, she just tells me it's nothing I'm doing and that she just needs time alone. It's been a while since we have had a real conversation about anything. If we do ever text all she says is "okay", "yeah" and "wow". But last week I was basically over her but then I saw my name with a heart next to it, in her phone. I don't know what to do about this anymore. It brought back all the feelings I had for her. She is a strong person and will go without talking to me and she wouldn't feel a thing. She also is very skeptical about letting guys into her life due to past boyfriends. This is basically killing me on the inside. I'm the type of person who cares and thinks to much about everything. I mean I would absolutely love to date her but I have no idea what she wants anymore. Should I just see if I could get this whole thing by asking her to go to the movies with me or should I try to completely get her out of my head? I just need some advice. | TL;DR: Is it something that my boyfriend should know? Is it even relevant to a hetero relationship, regardless of if one of the participants in the relationship is bisexual? | TL;DR: What do I do to tell my boyfriend I'm bisexual? Is it necessary or is it necessary to make a hetero relationship more exciting? When do you guys think it is relevant? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [Colorado] My SO's company filed for Ch. 11 bankrupty, and they owe her back pay they don't have money for.
POST: Hello /r/legal advice.
My SO's company is in dire times, they filed for bankruptcy and things are going downhill quickly.
Earlier this year, before they filed for bankruptcy, she asked for a raise. They agreed to give her a raise, but she would keep her old salary until July, in which they would start to back pay her what they owe her for her new salary. (She has this signed in writing)
July came and went, she never saw her back pay or higher salary. Then the company filed for bankruptcy and things are still going downhill fast.
Does she have a shot to get her money back? Should we Lawyer up and see what our options are? How do you get money from a company with no money?
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