title: Kisa Gotami
text: # Kisa Gotami
  
  Kisa Gotami was the wife of a wealthy man of Savatthi. Her story is one of the most famous ones in Buddhism. After losing her only child, Kisa Gotami became desperate and asked if anyone could help her. Her sorrow was so great that many thought she had lost her mind. An old man told her to see the Buddha. The Buddha told her that he could bring the child back to life if she could find white mustard seeds from a family where no one had died. She desperately went from house to house, but to her disappointment, she could not find a house that had not suffered the death of a family member. Finally the realization struck her that there is no house free from mortality. She returned to the Buddha, who comforted her and preached to her the truth. She was awakened and entered the first stage of enlightenment. Eventually, she became an Arahat.
  
  The following Dhammapada verse (in Pali and English) is associated with her story:
  
  In the "Gotami Sutta" (SN 5.3), Bhikkhuni Kisa Gotami declares:
  
      I've gotten past the killing of [my] sons,
      have made that the end
      to [my search for] men.
      I don't grieve,
      I don't weep....
      It's everywhere destroyed — delight.
      The mass of darkness is shattered.
      Having defeated the army of death,
      free of fermentations I dwell.
  
  Happy indeed is the mother
  
  Happy indeed is the father
  
  Happy indeed is the wife
  
  Who is a lord so glorious
  
  The story is the source of the popular aphorism: "The living are few, but the dead are many".
  
  A literary tradition has evolved round the story of Kisa Gotami, much of it in oral form and in local plays in much of Asia. The Therigatha (or "Verses of the Elder Nuns") in the Pali Canon recounts a version of the story. A number of popular similar alternative versions also exist. A similar story is told about the Greek philosopher Demonax, who promised a person he can summon his deceased son's shadow if provided with three names of people who never had to mourn in their lives.
  
  ## In popular culture
  
  The story of Kisa Gotami is recited by Australian musician Nick Cave in the song "Hollywood" by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds from their seventeenth studio album, Ghosteen (2019).
  
  The kids animated television series Bluey retells the story in the season 1 episode "Bumpy and the Wise Old Wolf Hound".
  
  The story of Kisa Gotami is recited in the eponymous episode 5, "The Parable of Kisa Gotami", of Thai Cave Rescue.
  
  