text: Finding someone who cares about you can also affect the situation. If someone cares about you than they will think more about it and give you their best possible opinion. If you go up to someone you're not as close with or not fond of they won't put in any effort to make sure their option is safe or won't even give you their opinion. Years later and my friend that suggested that dreadful idea and I have drifted apart like a broken magnet and if we were close enough than maybe we wouldn't have gone our separate ways and she would've given me a less spine-chilling idea for my birthday party.