text: If you are having a problem, and you are stressed out; it can lead you to do things in ways that are more problematic then they are helpful. Everyone's brain processes things in a different way that helps them, although sometimes the things that seem like good ideas in the moment, may only make things worse. Sometimes when we ask someone that is calm, then we can find other ways to deal with the situation in a way that will actually help. It may even give you some time to calm down. One irrational decision or action could ruin everything, so it is important to ask someone else what they would do.