text: If you are involved in a problem that means a lot to you, the stress and intensity of the issue can cloud your judgment. Trying to solve a problem when you can't think straight sets you up for making a poor choice, that's why you should ask people who are not involved. People who aren't involved with the problem you are dealing with can offer opinions that you could not think of before. When couples are having a hard time and can't work it out, they sometimes go to a couples therapist, the therapist can offer them help and advise the couple couldn't have found on their own. Being part of a fight or arguments can make people want to act without thinking, that is why asking the opinions of people who are not involved can give you an unbiased opinion.