text: Secondly, you must think about the relation they have to you. Asking your family will probably get you a more conservative opinion thinking about safety. Asking someone who you have been in conflict with many times will likely give an answer that is worse than your current idea. So try asking people you know well and trust enough to give more helpful input. This isn't to say you should never ask your family or someone you fight with, just make sure you are getting helpful responses.