generally illustrated at 10 as will be described below the load distributing apparatus 10 can be used to set a tool in a way that prevents backlash the load distributing apparatus 10 includes a sleeve 14 that is radially expandable and a wedge 18 depicted herein as a tubular that is configured to radially expand the sleeve 14 in response to longitudinal movement of the wedge 18 in relation to the sleeve 14 the sleeve 14 abuts a first tool 22 shown herein as a seal element that is settable in response to longitudinal loading thereof by the sleeve 14 a second tool 26 shown herein as an anchor with slips 30 is settable in response to longitudinal loading thereof by the wedge 18 expansion of the sleeve 14 as the wedge 18 moves therethrough limits the load imparted on the first tool 22 by the sleeve 14 thereby preventing overloading of the first tool 22 and any damage that could result from such overloading in fig1 the first tool 22 is shown in an unset configuration as such seal 34 is not sealingly engaged with walls 38 of a structure 42 within which the first tool 22 is positioned loads imparted on a movable first end 46 of the first tool 22 by the sleeve 14 urges the first end 46 toward a second end 50 of the first tool 22 that is fixedly attached to a base tubular 54 in this embodiment by a c ring 58 movement of the first.