3 Important Lessons I Wish I Had Learned Sooner in Life
#1. Choose your circle wisely

The wrong people will drag you down and some of them deliberately so. Have you heard the saying that you are the sum of the 5 closest people to you? Well, it's true.

“Choose your friends wisely. They will either make or break you.” ____ J. Willard Marriott

The people you surround yourself with will eventually either make or break you. Many of us fail to recognize that the people we have chosen as friends or life partners may not necessarily be the best for us and can actually influence us negatively.

Sadly some of those ‘friends’ can turn out to be nothing more than frenemies. People that you think have got your back but are secretly gunning to see you fail.

You’ll only realize this though when the hard times hit and you happen to see the narcissistic smirk creep across their face as they relish in delight at your failures. That wry evil smile of delight that a narcissist displays when they see you hurting over something.

It can be devastating to realize that those people you considered dear friends were really only ever down for the good times and waiting for your downfall. Narcissists are masters at pretending to be best your best friend whilst simultaneously stabbing you in the back.

They target people who can provide them something; money, sex, status, etc. They seek to extract at all times and will never waste a second on someone who can’t benefit them in some way. If you are a giving person you will naturally attract these types.

When we’re young we don't yet have the life experience to see where our poor choices will lead us. However, as the saying goes: ‘when you know better you do better’.

If I’d had the knowledge then that I have now I would have been a lot pickier about the people I chose to let into my life. The wrong people will wreak havoc in your life and then sit back with popcorn to enjoy the shit show they created.
['C On S C I O U S', 'C H A N G E']
['Self Improvement', 'Narcissistic Abuse', 'Relationships', 'Narcissism', 'Women']