How to be the most badass version of yourself
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Caution! This might change your beliefs about who you are.

Let me tell you a story of someone I know very well. He is now the badass he should be. But he was not born this way.

This guy was lazy af, was a smoker and a drinker, completely narcissistic. He wanted a getaway from his humble beginnings, wanted to make it big in the rock and roll. Obviously, this was an overwhelming dream. So what’s the next best thing?

Any guesses?

He starts drugs. Ecstasy, Xanax, Weed, you name it. He was all into it.

He was high 24x7. As is usually the case with someone trying to escape their prison of the mind, he had developed a very artificial world where he was a badass, he could get the job done and he was admired and he was respected.

Yes, deep down, all he ever wanted is to feel loved and admired.

So, when it was time for him to choose a career, he was confused. “I don’t want to slave like a pathetic loser all day, I wanna sing” He would exclaim. Yet, he never practiced or trained.

This lack of passion soon got a hold of him and he was asked to leave his office, a basic pay job referred by a friend. He was asked to leave on multiple times. Each time, it got worse. He dreaded every moment he stepped into that building, he struggled to work, he struggled to understand, he was pretty screwed up.

Then, miraculously, he found a girl. Man, that was one of the most beautiful face he had ever seen.

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This guy went from being a total loser to one in love. He used to dream about her, all night alone, never had the courage to talk. It was just too scary to face rejection.

But, he had to act, and act fast. “Girls like that don’t stay single for long”, he exclaimed!

So wearing a crisp white shirt and jeans, he approached her with a smile, in the cafeteria. She was just sitting there, playing with Instagram on her phone.

Boy : Hi, my name is Ryan. If you don’t mind, can I join you?

Girl : Why?

Boy : Nothing, I was just thinking maybe…….we could be friends (feeble voice)

Girl : well, I got a boyfriend.

Boy : Okay, so?

Girl : So that means that I don’t want to be friends with you.

Boy : What?

Girl : Yes, and could you please excuse me now? He is coming soon.

Man, he was broken. His heart was pounding like a Gorilla, he just stood there, watching her ignore his crisp white shirt. He left the cafe.

As expected, he went straight to the bar, he ordered whiskey and drank the heck out of it. He was so hurt, so misunderstood his whole life. “Freaking end this show already” he cried.

He went home at 3 AM that night.

The next day was dreading. He had to look for a job again. The hangover wasn’t helping either. He sighed, gulped a huge glass of water and got ready for the interview.

Rejected!

Suddenly, everything looked so small. He felt worthless, penniless, shameless and gutless. “Why?” He screamed. Not open enough to receive answers.

THE DAY IT ALL CHANGED

He was out for another interview, it was hot, humid, probably not the best day to travel in a crowded city bus. A small homely girl was watching him struggle with his bag when she finally gave him a seat. The thankless man didn’t even thank her. He just sat. Something was wrong, he stood up and realized that he just sat on a banana. Embarrassing moment!

The small girl had a little giggle. Then she reached out in her purse and gave him a tissue to wipe the stain. He thanked her this time.

They started chatting. The girl lived next to where the boy was staying. They became good friends. The girl helped him to changed his diet, his habits, his dresses, his speech, everything worth changing.

But, I think she loved him.

Today, they are happily married for 5 years. The guy works as an IT consultant, as a Director of Sales. And now, when he speaks, people listen. He is clean for 5 years. And you know what, people look up to him, they admire him, his passion, his courage, his personality.

HOW TO BE THE MOST BADASS VERSION OF YOURSELF?

Take responsibility — Your life is a series of choices. The end result is always a sum of good and bad choices you’ve made. Your waistline, your career, your influence is all a result of choices you have made. So be very careful when you make them as you rarely get a second chance. Be nicer to people — Perhaps the most important thing that she taught him is how to be nicer to people. Its so common, when we are down and out, we don’t give a damn about people’s feelings. We are caught in out little circus of life that we never realize that our success and our failure are a result of how many people are behind us. There is no easy way out — Drugs, alcohol, cheap sex all help you to forget your real issues but they never last long. And would always give you a hangover and a regret. Run on the treadmill, there is no easy way out brother. Patience — we have all heard about Pablo Picasso drawing that portrait of a lady in 30 seconds and when she asks her how the hell did you do that Picasso? He said, My good lady, it took me 30 years to do that painting in 30 seconds. Everything worthwhile in life takes time.

I know these things because I was the guy.
['Rock Legends']
['Fiction', 'Responsibility', 'Success', 'Lovestory']