How to Choose a Romantic Partner
I personally feel we are taught nothing about the right skills and competancies. To have a successful relationship, there are three important things needed.

Awareness of Self: This includes all past traumas, triggers and behavioral patterns. Learning what you enjoy and what you don’t. Most importantly knowing why you do things you do. Knowing how competent you are and what areas would you need assistance in.

Ability to Communicate: Partnerships are always functional and fulfilling if we know how to teach and learn. No one in the world is going to guess what upsets you exactly the way you want them to guess. A shorter, simpler and only logical route is to tell them. Communicate clearly. Developing an ability to communicate well without triggering emotionally charged responses is an art. You teach the other person how to treat you. And you communicate how you are learning from them. This aspect is very important.

Ability to Identify: Romantic relationship is innately supposed to be the closest long term investment of your whole personality. No matter if it is a healthy or an unhealthy relationship, it is going to have an impact on all human domains. Psychological, physical, emotional, mental and even financial. So choose wisely. But how to choose? We often choose our partners because they have something that we believe is attractive. It could be a fit for some time. But may not be forever. Or in situations of conflicts. We often tend to find a missing self in the other person. Once we attain that self within ourselves, we feel satisfied. But then the danger is incase we discover a further need of another part of our self. We might load the expectations on our partners. And incase they don’t fulfill it, we may look out for other partners. The good plan here can be improving the identification skills. Identify the person based on their romantic competancies. How are they in friendships? Are they hideous? Are they respectful? How do they behave during conflicts? How do they tackle an unfamiliar problem? Look out for red flags actively. Create an emotionally free outlook of their persona. Identifying a romantically competent person is the most important stage. Because this lays the foundation of that part of relationship which is going to be out of your control. The other person’s behaviour. The only thing you can control is to make a choice. If the foundation is strong, you know your investments won’t go wrong.
['Anmol Kohli']
['Relationships', 'Emotional Intelligence', 'Romantic Skills', 'Romantic Competancy', 'Equipped']