《礼记·丧大记》
主人在迎接国君派来吊丧的使者时要暂时丢开丧杖，在迎接其他大夫派来吊丧的使者时要辑杖。卿大夫之妻在迎接国君夫人派来吊丧 的使者时要暂时丢开丧杖，在迎接世妇派来吊丧的使者时要把丧杖让别人拿住。
大夫有君命则去杖，大夫之命则辑杖；内子为夫人之命去杖，为世妇之命授人杖。
The host should temporarily put aside his mourning cane when welcoming the envoy sent by the king to offer condolences, and he should gather his mourning cane when welcoming the envoy sent by other officials to offer condolences. The wife of the high-ranking official should temporarily put aside her mourning cane when welcoming the envoy sent by the king's wife to offer condolences, and she should let others hold her mourning cane when welcoming the envoy sent by the wife of the eldest son to offer condolences.