《论语·阳货篇》
孔子说： 丧期不满三年你就吃大米饭，穿锦缎，对你来说心安吗？ 宰我说： 我心安。 
曰： 安！  女安则为之！
Confucius said: If, within the three years of mourning, you are able to eat your fill of rice and meat, and wear silk and embroidery, do you feel at ease in doing so? Zai Wo said: I feel at ease.