《礼记·杂记下》
作为君子，既不可强迫他人抛开丧亲之悲痛，也不可忘掉自己丧亲的哀痛。
君子不夺人之丧，亦不可夺丧也。
As a gentleman, one should neither force others to cast aside their grief over the loss of a loved one, nor forget one's own grief over the loss of a loved one.