《明史·志·卷三十一》
开始在公主面前照顾膳食，公主在上饮食，驸马在一穷侍立，经过此仪，纔议论成婚。
始视膳于公主前，公主饮食于上，驸马侍立于旁，过此，方议成婚。
He began by looking after the food in front of the Princess. The Princess ate while the son-in-law stood by and served her. Only after this ceremony could they discuss marriage.