《论衡·卷八·儒增篇》
他是该说的时候才说，人们不讨厌他说话；有了高兴的事然后才笑，人们不讨厌他笑；合乎礼义之后才接受财物，人们不厌恶他接受财物。 
夫子时然後言，人不厌其言也；乐然後笑，人不厌其笑也；义然後取，人不厌其取也。 
He speaks when he should, people do not hate him for speaking; he laughs only when something good happens, people do not hate him for laughing; he accepts money only after it is in accordance with propriety and righteousness, people do not hate him for accepting money.