《资治通鉴·汉纪·汉纪四十二》
女子和小人，接近他们便高兴，疏远他们便怨恨，委实难以豢养。
夫女子、小人，近之喜，远之怨，实为难养。
When you are close to women and petty men they become complacent, and when you distance yourself from them they become resentful; they can really be hard to deal with.