《论衡·卷十·非韩篇》
修养自己一生的品德，要是缺少给别人恩惠的品行，只有伤害别人的操行，那么结交亲戚朋友就会交情疏远、关系断绝，把耻辱带给自己。
治一身，省恩德之行，多伤害之操，则交党疏绝，耻辱至身。
To cultivate one's morality throughout one's life, if one lacks the virtue of being kind to others and only engages in conduct that harms others, then one's friendship with relatives and friends will become distant and relationships will be broken, bringing shame upon oneself.