《礼记·曲礼上》
赠人物品，不要叫人来取，而要派人送去，给人东西，不要问人想要与否。
赐人者不曰来取。与人者不问其所欲。
When giving gifts, do not ask people to come and get them; send them by a messenger instead. When giving things to people, do not ask if they want them.