《资治通鉴·汉纪·汉纪三十二》
这个人说： 她是别人的妻子，我希望她答应我；她是我的妻子，我希望她唾骂别人！ 
曰： 在人欲其报我，在我欲其骂人也！ 
The man said: When she was someone else's wife, I hoped that she would accept me; when she is my wife, I hope she would scold others!