《围炉夜话·第一一七则》
遇到突发的事情，一定要仔细地思考，慎重地处理，以免事后反悔；家中不幸起了瑕隙，必须尽量忍让，委曲求全，不要使过去的情感破坏无遗。
凡遇事物突来，必熟思审处，恐贻后悔；不幸家庭衅起，须忍让曲全，勿失旧欢。
When encountering unexpected events, one must think carefully and handle them with caution, so as not to regret it afterwards; if there is a rift in the family, one must try to be tolerant and accommodating, and not let the past damage emotions.