《礼记·少仪》
夜晚的宴会，宾主之礼就不十分讲究了：不必过多谦让，不必更相辞谢，不必交替歌诗。
凡饮酒为献主者，执烛抱燋，客作而辞，然后以授人。执烛不让，不辞，不歌。
At evening banquets, table manners are less strict: no need to be overly modest, no need to exchange thanks, no need to alternate singing poems.