the description of the history indicates your son might be having some psychological stress disorder oppositional defiant disorder (behavior problems) or depression. you might consult with a pediatric psychiatrist for your son who might be able to examine him and provide proper counselling and specific treatment.
my 9 year old son has become distant distracted disobedient and agressive. at first i thought he was just acting out but now it's different. he constantly is lost in his own world. i have tried to talk to him but all i get is an ok or when i ask him what is wrong he says he doesn't know. his answer for everything is i don't know or i don't remember. he has started banging his off of the wall or table he is emotionally withdrawn. he doesn't care about his punishment. it's as if he has forgotten everything. i can tell him to do something and if=n five minutes he will ask what he was supposed to do. it's as if instead of progress with age he is going in reverse. he constantly asks if we love him and if we want him there. i am out of options i do not know what to do. discipline just doesn't seem right. it's as if he honestly doesn't remember things. but also if he watches a cartoon one time he can act it out from memory. help. i need answers