i have a ba in psychology and also suffer from bipolar disorder. i was a major control freak and to a much lesser degree still am. your future daughter-in-law needs to seek help immediately. she is suffering from bipolar disorder with psychosis (because she is hearing things that have not been said) and this is a very serious situation. she is out of control and needs help to get stabilized as soon as possible and stay on the meds even after she feels better. a lot of bipolar people stop taking their meds once they feel better and it is very dangerous because some meds need to be reduced slowly or a deadly rash can start or other various withdrawal symptoms. she will most likely balk at the idea at her having any kind of problem or seeking help so good luck and i sincerely hope she sees that what she needs is help from a professional. my epiphany came to me when i was having a fight with my former fiancé and as he is throwing me down on the gravel road and into the ditch i thought to myself: this is not how "normal" people behave. this can't be how "normal" people feel every day. so when i went back to my parent's house i told my mother that i was ready to go get help. it was like i was on the outside looking at myself doing all these things wanting to shake myself and scream "stop it" like an out of body experience sort of. i wish you and your son well. he must be prepared that even if she does get help it's hit and miss on the medications until they find the right one(s) for her but the road may always be bumpy.
is manipulation and trying to control someone else's life a part of bi polar? . my son's fiance is bipolar her mood swings are total caious. she constantly wants to argue she misinterpruts everything and she also hears things that haven't even been said. the worst part is she believes it to be true. my son will do anything for her. she cuts up his clothing and throws him out last week she made an sos call that she was going to hang herself. my son raced 20km on his bike as he was at a friends at the time to find her just fine and she threw him back out.