this is a common problem - far more common than most will acknowledge! i hear about this disconnect between men and women weekly in my vasectomy reversal practice where regular sex is important to conceive children. it seems that once the youth and passion are gone from an evolving relationship then add on children work family stresses fatigue financial stresses body changes etc women find sex to be pleasurable but not something they will seek out. they do not seem to have the drive that men have. for us it is clearly different. in fact many women describe sex as a chore and they even go out of their way to avoid intimacy until they hit a point when they feel an obligation. no doctor would prescribe medication just to kill your sex drive. if you are depressed or distraught then they might prescribe a ssri antidepressant which does in fact often reduce the sex drive for many men. but it can also reduce your ability to achieve orgasm when you do get the chance. it is a couple problem and i know no one wants to hear therapy but. talking this through and reaching a compromise is the best solution.
is there a way to reduce my sex drive?