i sorry about your marriage but it seem to me that you love him more than he loves you. you can consult a marriage adviser and a lawyer. you can also ask for help from a psychologist or other mental health professional in order to air your feelings about the situation.
i had been with my husband for a total of almost 10 yrs but we were only married for almost 3 yrs. my husband recently had an affair. he had the affair with this women for only 1 mth b4 i found out and so i kicked him out. he has only been seeing this girl since feb. but yet moved in with her right away. he not only left me but also our 2 yr old son. he claims that he does not love me anymore. how can he just move on with someone else like that and throw away all our history? i feel deep down that he still loves me because i see it in his eyes. i just feel that he thinks the "grass is greener" with her. how do i cope since he's been gone now for 3 months and i feel its getting harder and harder. he just recently picked up the rest of his things on our 3rd year anniversary. i just cant help but feel he's made a mistake.