sperm washing is an option for you. that way it won't pose much of a risk to the mother. however the most important aspect of whether the fetus would contract hiv is the hiv status of the mother not the father. so as long as she is negative you can go ahead with sperm washing and really make sure both mother and fetus will be ok. many couples have healthy babies despite one or both parents being hiv positive. . no.
if i am hiv positive can i still be a sperm donor?