i'm sorry to hear you're going through this. it just goes to show how negatively pain can impact so many aspects of our lives. i commend you for being committed to your sexual health and marital relationship. you're a good wife for wanting to build that intimacy back up! i'd suggest you start by assessing what non-sexual positions are the most comfortable for you. for example if sitting in a chair provides relief try adapting that for a sexual purpose. have your husband sit on a chair and then sit on your husband if that makes sense. another suggestion is to try having sex in a water environment such as the shower or a bathtub. this may be especially helpful if warm water gives you pain relief. just be careful nobody slips! you may simply have to experiment to find positions that work for you. do not be shy about seeking out aids such as swings or slings that suspend from the ceiling if you need something like that to help take pressure off your back during sex. a less expensive and less permanent solution may involve plenty of pillows to prop and support body parts. again experimentation is going to be key here. if you feel shy about expressing your feelings or needs to your partner please don't hesitate to consult your doctor a nurse or a psychotherapist who's experienced in sexual health to help with communication and to help you find solutions. believe me they will understand your concerns and treat you with utmost respect. all the best to you! i lay on the edge of the bed on my back. hubby stands next to bed and pulls me towards him. if your husband is tall you can use pillows to adjust height. my husband has a bad back and this is a good position for him also. for oral sex i sit on the floor or pillow with my back against the bed. this supports my neck. hi ok try this but i do take laying on your back is ok lift your right leg up your hubby swings his right leg over and he can then enter you from here you rest your right leg on him from here he can have sex with you he can play with your breasts and nipples and why having sex he can massage your clitoris or you can orgasm city here you come. do hope this helps you. good luck
are there any sexual postion that you could suggest that are less painful for chronic neck and back pain? . i do not move around too well walking is even sometimes very difficult. we are not having sex too often because he can see the pain it causes me. i need to find a position that is comfortable for me that will not put pressure or weight on my neck or back. i cannot lean on my side because that also causes pain. please give me suggestions so we could have our sex life back again and build the intimacy back we once had. (i have fibromyalgia. )(i am a female. ). thank you!