i'm so sorry you lost your aunt. it's always difficult to lose a loved one. you have my sympathy. the good news is there's probably nothing seriously wrong with your ear or your hearing. everyone has those episodes you describe where your hearing suddenly goes out and is replaced by a loud ringing or pulsing sound. we don't know what causes that. could be a sudden shift in blood pressure; could be some impacted ear wax suddenly pulling away from the eardrum. who knows? if you're truly concerned i suggest you make a visit to your primary healthcare provider's office for a check-up. make sure your blood pressure is normal and that you don't have an ear infection or any impacted cerumen (wax). a regular physical exam will cover all these bases. wishing you well!
what's wrong with my ear? very concerned would just really love some direction. for as long as i can remember i have these sort of episodes where my hearing goes out in my right ear and a horrible loud ringing ensues for a few minutes. now i only occasionally get it and it's more of an almost constant pulse. . yesterday after a violent cry-session (i lost my aunt) i had a sudden headache and felt and heard the pulse not only in my ear but also in the top-back of my head. it lasted maybe 10 seconds. after it stopped i felt something fall out. it was a slightly bloody scab.