why are you cleaning his ears at all? earwax is not dirt and if you are trying to shove q-tips in his tiny ear canals you are just shoving wax deeper against his eardrum making it more difficult for him to hear. earwax is a beneficial protective coating for the ear canal. leave it alone and only clean (with a wash cloth) what comes out. assuming that you may have packed wax in already you may need to see his medical provider so that he can have his ears professionally cleaned either was a gentle lavage of warm water (ear wash) or by a medical provider using a special ear loop designed to pull out impacted wax. his hearing may miraculously improve but he still may choose not to listen (sometimes). your little boy was right. he did not want you to clean his ears. it hurts and it is not the right thing to do.
what to do with my 4 yr old son who don't want his ears to be cleaned? . it took months already. and now whenever i tried to explain something to him seemed to never understand & asked me what all the time?