most helpful answer having your husband or a trusted female friend would be great. talk to you women friends too. having someone with you will make you feel safer. t may not be the exam. but the examiner so consider getting a female nurse practitioner or pa or find a very kind and compassionate gynecologist. to many unfortunately this intimate exam is so routine. almost like a dentist looking in your mouth. that they may not take the time and care to do it gently. again ask your friends for a referral to someone they find to be helpful. your primary care medical provider can give you a short-acting anti-anxiety medication if you ask. something like xanax at a low-dose may be helpful. look deep inside yourself to see if there was a stressful event in the past that may be surfacing when you are having a gynecological exam. if so a counselor may be able to help you deal with this very specific anxiety.
what can help anxiety caused by going to the gynecologist? . i have only been to the gynecologist once for examining purposes and it was very traumatic for me. i experienced a lot of pain during the exam to the point that the doctor had to stop. i felt very violated but i know i have to confront this fear and go back especially since i want to have children one day. how can this be dealt with? is this normal? i was thinking that maybe having my husband go with me next time would be helpful but i'm not sure.