some clinicians are just more gentle than others. for women i would suggest a female provider (md pa or nurse practitioner). not that men cannot be gentle (i am a man) but a woman provider should be much more sympathetic to your concerns. make the appointment and then call them personally a day or so before your exam to discuss your concerns. knowing that you have had a bad experience in the past should make them more understanding take their time and make this important exam less-stressful for you. a small amount of bleeding can be expected with a pap sometimes but certainly the clinician can be a bit more gentle with the bimanual examination when feeling your uterus cervix and ovarian areas.
pap smear test painful. i have fear of going to the gynecologist because the pap smear test always hurt i can't open my legs as much due to problems with my hip and as a result i am not totally relaxed during this test and when the doctor puts the hand inside to touch my cervix it hurts and i bleed afterwards. what should the doctor do to make the exam much better?