leave it alone. there are natural adhesions attaching the head of the penis to the foreskin at this age. forcibly retracting the foreskin can be very painful so just clean what you can see. it may be red because you are causing very tiny micro-tears in his foreskin. some children do have very tight foreskins so please allow the pediatrician to make that determination during an examination. most of the men/boys in the world are uncircumcised just the way nature made them. as he ages those natural adhesions will resolve and his foreskin will completely retract. if not there are prescription steroid creams that can be used to help it along. in my pediatric practice i rarely intervene medically until age 7 or 8 (unless the foreskin is super-tight and it "balloons" when he urinates). if this is the case a pediatric urologist should be consulted.
is it normal for my 3yr old son to hate when i try and wash his uncircumcised penis? . i have heard that you cannot pull the foreskin back fully until they are alittle older. just want to make sure that he is okay. it does not seem red (his foreskin) but if i manage to get it back a little it almost seems like his penis head becomes a little red. i thought it might be because the foreskin is too tight.