all dysparunia means is "pain with sex" and you already knew that. the real issue is the cause. i would strongly suggest that you make an appointment with a good gynecologist for an examination; the er is not the best place to do a comprehehsive work-up for this complex problem.
i had severe pain 4 hours after having sex went to the er and was diagnosed with dyspareunia. is this really what i have. the pain isn't so much during sex but afterwards and its moderate to severe.