i'm sorry you're going through this and haven't received a timely answer. with luck the immediate crisis has resolved itself. some things to consider: if your brother is single has he designated a person to be his power-of-attorney (poa)? this crucial document designates someone to make decisions on his behalf should he become physically or mentally incapacitated. perhaps you could become his poa. if your brother becomes increasingly irrational or delusional be aware you can call the police to try to have him committed to a mental health facility against his will. if he represents a threat to himself or others he can be committed to a treatment facility. if you have not already set him up with a primary care provider perhaps you could do so. this would be a great first step in getting his physical and mental health evaluated. you may wish to consult a lawyer to find out what if any your legal responsibilities are to your brother. some states place legal and financial responsibilities on relatives of an individual who can't or won't care for himself. you may want to investigate what the law is in the state of california. while it's great you are helping care for your brother you need to know if you could be held legally liable for anything irrational he might do. if you can't afford an attorney you may be able to avail yourself of free or low-cost legal aid. try doing an internet search for "free legal aid" and your city name. if your brother simply will not accept your help he is free to do so as long as he's not a danger to himself or others. this can be difficult to accept. feel free to seek help and psychotherapy for yourself to help in dealing with your feelings toward your brother. acquaint yourself with local crisis hotline phone numbers. that way if something happens suddenly you're prepared. you're a wonderful sibling to help your brother. i wish you both the best.
my brother is dilusional and paranoid. what can i do to help him. my brother (age 60) has a history of alcohol and drug abuse. he's smart but doesn't act smart. he moved from the east coast to the west coast just recently. he's disabled due to some neurological issues and is in pain most of the time. i set him up in a small apt and now he's convinced some guy threatened his life and has packed his belonging and is ready to leave. no money no gas and refuses my help. what should/can i do?