why do you really care? the presence of an intact hymen (located at the vaginal opening) is not a definitive sign of virginity since the hymen can spontaneously rupture from riding a bike riding a horse or using a tampon. a male who is getting this close to your vagina does not likely have the medical skills to make any type of determination. at this point men are more interested in just having sex. you have the right to keep your secrets or share them. that is your decision.
how far in does your lover have to go inside your vaginal area in order to recognize that you have lost your vaginity?