sex toys can spread stds so it would be wise to use new ones or ones that are carefully and thoroughly sanitized. herpes can remain viable on objects for many hours. the fact that you and your partner both have genital herpes would make me question if you are both "virgins". someone may not be telling the whole truth.
can you get an std like hiv/aids or genital herpes from anal sex toys? . both me and my partner were virgins and now we have genital herpes. my partner used a sex toy that they received from a friend that may have used it.