remember this: your first duty is not to him. it is to you. so don't worry about "offending" this man. if he's offended that you want to have safe sex then he is not a person you want to have sex with in the first place. but there's a larger issue here. why do you want to have sex with a man you know only from online exchanges? wouldn't it be better to develop something of an in-person relationship before hopping in the sack? people can say all sorts of lovely sexy things online but you can't see how they: interact with friends treat their mother speak to the waitress handle their liquor treat their pets. all things that speak volumes about a person's character. without having met in person and gone out together a few times you can't see if details this fellow told you about his life match up when you see it in reality. does he actually live in apartment 5 like he said? does he actually drive a mercedes? or does it turn out he actually drives an 1980 chrysler k car? how do you know this person is safe -- and i don't mean sexually? how do you know he will not lure you into a situation where he drugs rapes and robs you? i'm trying to exaggerate the possibilities here in order to help you see having sex with this man may not be the best thing for you to do. maybe you should slow down for a moment and consider getting to know this guy first. even if you're not interested in a "relationship " per se having casual sex with another man puts you into a high-risk category for contracting hiv and other stds. you should at least get to know this guy well enough to be able to discuss your sexual histories. if you're not comfortable enough to do that i would argue you have no business having sex with him. but if you choose to proceed anyway make sure you both wrap it up. used properly a condom offers protection from contracting hiv and certain other stds. however a condom does not necessarily protect you against herpes or genital warts. be careful my friend. wishing you well!
i am about to get intimate with a guy for the first time. really nervous about hiv and other nasties. what shd i do? . i am a male 25 years old. never had sex with a man before. i met this amazing guy online and we immediately connected. i am not aware of his sexual history. i am meeting him soon and i don't want to offend him in any way. but we have a mutual urge to have sex. kindly help.