ultimately she is responsible for her own mental health and life. bipolar doesn't go away ever and she will have to learn to monitor and control herself so that her moods don't run her life. there are 12-step programs for adult children of alcoholics (and other dysfunction such as perfectionism hyper-religiosity and any kind of abuse). she needs to know that her own out-of-control tendencies (anger indiscriminate sex any addiction including shopping among others) are not acceptable behaviors (learn to communicate without fighting) and start working on herself. you can be supportive but you can't do the work for her. she is not good mother material so i would avoid even thinking about it until she has proven she can get herself under control. a bipolar person is unstable and instability is not what a child needs to thrive in all ways including emotionally.
my girfriend is bipolar 2 she is going to see her therapist today i need question to ask him on how i can help her? . i feel that most of the time its me that puts her into an episode i dont know what it is that im doing i try so hard to be there for her but some of the things she says to me hurts so bad that i get mad or depressed like ive failed her somehow she drinks everyday she drinks gin or vodka and she will destroy a 1. 75 ml bottle in a week which alot by my standards i might have 2 or 3 beers all weekend sometimes she says things like i dont want to keep living or she would be better off dead. help me!