hi seems your a sexual mismatch and if is never going to change and you want sex then sorry it would be best to walk away i know your married and perhaps love him deeply but i don't think from what you saying its that deep if your having thought of sex with another. sit down with him and put your cards on the table like you wont a better sex life our your out of there. i cant see any other way for you. good luck
my husband doesn't want sex but doesn't want me to masturbate. we've been married 10 months. what do i do? . he doesn't pursue me often maybe once every week and a half. i will not cheat on him physically but have i mentally by thinking about sex with someone else? yes i have and thats just as bad. i don't know what to do with this burning desire for sex this natural god given desire that shouldn't be unfulfilled in marriage. he doesn't want me to masturbate so i don't because i know it hurts him but he also doesn't want me. so here i am stuck with this unquenched desire for sex. what do i do?