i wish that i had better news for you. it is a certainty that you did everything you could to help your son before he passed away. and now you are facing the same scary situation again. unfortunately sometimes despite our most valiant efforts to help a sick family member they seem to be on a self-destruct mission and will implode. at 21 years old your grandson is all grown-up and considered a man. you cannot force him to change his reckless lifestyle or to seek professional help. to be honest he seems to heading for either death or prison. here are my recommendations to help with the challenges that he presents to you: do not enable his behavior by giving him money or by helping him to circumvent his personal responsibilities keep yourself physically and emotionally safe. if you feel that danger is in the air by way of your grandson then detach yourself from his life. that may mean having him legally removed from your home having locks changed on your residence calling the police for help or by obtaining a restraining order. sometimes mentally sick individuals (along with their friends) are capable of causing their well meaning family members physical emotional and legal harm. do not blame yourself for his negative life-style. it is not your fault. your grandson will exploit any guilt that you may display. he is most likely morally bankrupt and will rob you of your physical property and health as well as your love for him. i wish you well during this time of uncertainty.
grandson has bopolar disorder and diabetic 1 patient. he smokes bud (cocaine? marijuana? ) and drinks excessively. help. family has history of mental illness. our son passed away from excessive drugs prescribed to him by navy hospital. his son who is 21 also has same symptoms and has diabetes one. he smokes bud (marijuana? cocaine? ) and drinks heavily. we couldn't help our son although we did everything we possibly could. is there anything we can possibly do to save our grandson?