i think it is tough in that you want to balance your child's autonomy and also make sure they get the care they need. i would ask your child to sign a release of information where their counselor at college is free to contact you and disclose information. then have a discussion with therapist that you would like to be notified of future appointments (so you can push your kid to attend) and also of missed appointments. some campuses may have a support group -- the student counseling service at college might be able to direct [you to] -- they may even run the groups.
our child in college is being treated for depression. we feel more support is needed but live far away. what can we do?