get over your shyness my friend. you are in "high-demand" as a friend a dance partner or someone who can wine and dine these fine ladies that may share your loneliness for companionship. if sex happens it happens. an elderly friend of mine recently entered a large elder-care facility. a few days later two women approached him and asked if he was "available for sex"! he was shocked of course but i haven't heard from him in a while so i suspect he is busy. be proud and happy that you have sexual urges and needs. don't be afraid to start dating again. your need for companionships is just as high. have fun. you can re-discover masturbation again if you are sexually stressed. enjoy your senior years as much as you can. i know it may be difficult as a widower to get back in the game again. there are many many mixed feelings you may have and see a counselor if you must but life is too short to let a day go wasted. besides women may be attracted to your shyness. they will help you overcome it.
as widower & sr. citizen how can i relieve my sex stress. i feel shy asking women.