according to your description your husband doesnât seem to me to be a pathological liar but more like a real cheater. a pathological liar lies and then believes in his/her own lies as truth with no calculated benefit from his lies. it seems that your husband did experience a benefit from his lies because he succeeded in marrying you. no matter if he likes to discuss it or not you can ask for a divorce.
i got married about 2 months ago. my husband's behavior prior to the wedding was a bit odd. dancing around signing a pre-nup. secretive about his business and business ventures. being adversarial. i thought much of it was jitters. two days after the honeymoon i found out (from a family friend) that my husband lied to me about his college education--he never graduated--although he told me he was an honors grad from columbia. at first he denied it and tried to convince me that i was crazy and he never told me he graduated. when i showed him a copy of the wedding announcement he typed up for himself stating he graduated "magna cum laude" from columbia he verbally assaulted me and refused to speak to me interact etc. i just feel that his credibility is shot. he is an "entrepreneur" who was rarely employed by others so checking his history is difficult. we went to a couples counselor who felt that my request to see written proof of his financial status and prior businesses was reasonable. but my husband does not feel compelled to come clean or make any attempt to help rebuild the broken trust. is there anything else i can do? i fear there may be some real pathology here.