i would suggest that you contact alcoholics annoymous or alanon in your area for assistance. if you can get your husand to a meeting (i know this may be difficult) it would best. i've been in recovery for seven years. you can't get someone to stop no matter what you do. i am very sorry you are going through this. my husband resented me because he couldn't drink when i stopped. we split up. we finally divorced but still loved each other desperately. i never doubted that we would not got back together. we were divorced 4 months. then i got a call from the sheriff on december 16 2012 that bill died of a massive heart attack. a direct result of alcohol. no goodbyes not a last hug kiss or i love you. that man was my life for 26 years. it's been 18 months and i'm still in a fog. bill and i shared the same birthday december 5th so we got married on our birthdays december 5th 1988. i was asked to speak at an aa meeting two days after bill died. i made it all the way through and didn't break down until the end. when i was drinking i didn't think my drinking affected anyone but me. i didn't realize until after 2 years i was sober that it does more than anyone thinks. i have lost five of my closest friend in 6 years to alcohol. it does affect those around us. i wish your husband could see my pain my agony and my grief every time someone dies. especially my husband how i wish i had that on tape to help others with. remember if anyone really wants a new and easier life they will go to any lengths to get it. a lot of people are blessed with this gift. some people don't make it. please ask your husband to read my post. again sweetie if your husband chooses to continue drinking no matter how much it hurts you have to take care of you. you are both in my prayers. god bless you both and my the lord shine down and help you both.
what can i do to help my alcoholic spouse that doesn't want to stop drinking i feel like i'm losing my mind.