i'm sorry you're going through this distress. women do value relationships with others so it can be very upsetting to suddenly discover you don't have many friends. the first thing i want to emphasize is that there's nothing wrong with you that's causing you not to have many or any friends right now. you sound like a very nice person. consider that the other women in your office are missing out by not accepting your gestures of friendship. because this is bothering you so much i'd like to suggest two things. the first is to get some counseling so you can express your unhappiness in a safe environment. you need to vent this sadness in order to deal with it constructively. the second thing i'd like to suggest is that you look for other places to interact with people and find friends. volunteering for a charitable organization getting involved with church activities (if you attend church) and taking up a new hobby (such as taking a class at a community center or hobby store) are all ways to find people who share your interests and values. then all you have to do is make a friendly gesture to see if it is returned. if so you've made a new friend. age 60 should be a time of joy in life. i hope you're able to work through your unhappiness and take some positive steps to find friends. best wishes to you!
can a person have no friends? i have no one but my husband & 2 grown children. i was bullied as a teenager and i am 60. . i'm not a bad person. i don't get invited places and i have no best girlfriend to confide in. i'm not sure how i got to this place. i see women at work who talk go for walks have lunch but if i volunteer i am told they have enough. sometimes i cry and other times i just ask myself what have i done wrong. the last time i had a best friend was about 30 yrs ago. i try not to feel sorry for myself. i'm a normal 60 yr old who somehow ended up with no friends and it sucks! i'm not dirty either.