i'm sorry to hear you're going through this. it sounds to me like your loved one does have a problem with alcohol. i base this assessment not on the amount consumed but the fact that he seems to require alcohol consumption every day and also the fact he "sneaks" alcohol and tries to hide his consumption from you. of course the fact your family doctor believes your partner has a problem with alcohol is enough evidence for me. unfortunately you cannot control what your partner does or how he views his alcohol abuse. the only thing you can do is ensure the safety of yourself and your children. i suggest you look into al-anon which is the family group of alcoholics anonymous. this group can give you support and guidance in dealing with your loved one's presumed alcoholism. the fact your partner has not physically harmed you is irrelevant. the wide-ranging negative effects of alcoholism on children is well-documented. you should seek treatment in order to equip yourself to help your children. trust me they will feel the effects of their father's alcoholism later in life. again i'm sorry you're dealing with this. alcohol abuse is very common in society but that doesn't mean you have to accept it. you can seek help for yourself and your children. your partner may or may not choose to seek help at some point. wishing you all the best.
for a 6'5" male age 45 @ 210 lbs should the consumption of 5-7 beers per evening be cause for concern? . married. 3 boys ages 7 6 and 3;. . noticeable irritability in evenings. unreasonably impatient. he has never physically harmed any of us. our doctor believes he has a problem with alcohol. i believe he has a problem. he does not think he has a problem because he stays at home (not in bars) and doesn't ever drink and drive. he helps run the family-owned liquor store and brings home a 30-pack of beer each week and sneaks in other quantities when i am not around.