we can't pick out our biological mothers any more than mothers can pick out their biological kids. many statements that insensitive people make can hurt but whether this emotional trauma will cause lasting or permanent damage is unpredictable. love is really unconditional and to say those hurtful words to a daughter is really bad. she could really say "and. i would love you more mom if you loved me unconditionally. "
if a mom says to her 12 year old girl "i love u more if u were skinny" will it mentally damage her? . will the child also develop abnormal behavior and think abnormally. i have a friend who is always depressed and she asked me why i would hang out with her. i said becuz u are nice and clean and a good person and u love god. she didn't believe me saying that she was too fat for that and explained to me that her mom didn't love her becuz she said "i love u more if u were skinny". she said she thinks her mom doesn't care if she was rude or disrespectful as long as she is skinny