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<p>“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be
continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in
no-man's-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh.
To live is to be willing to die over and over again. ”</p>
</blockquote>
<p>― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times</p>

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2022-01-19T09:02:13.417Z
This is a nice quote, but it's not the one I was looking for. I was looking for one where Pema is talking to a Zen master. I actually found it a while back, I might post it a an answer later if I remember
Jojo
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user2426097
<p>Here is the quote I was looking for last year,</p>
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<p>I once asked the Zen master Kobun Chino Roshi how he related with fear, and he said, &quot;I agree. I agree.&quot;</p>
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<p>It is on page 9 of my copy, which is a 2005 edition printed on the Element imprint of HarperCollins.</p>

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Jojo
<p>I'm looking for a quote by Pema Chodron. In my memory, she's having a discussion with a Zen master, and the quote goes something like this;</p>
<p>Pema: &quot;what do you do when things fall apart?&quot;</p>
<p>Zen Master: &quot;I stay&quot;</p>
<p>I seem to remember it being in her book When Things Fall Apart, but I searched it for the word 'stay' and I couldn't find this anywhere.</p>
<p>Does anybody recognise where it comes from? Maybe it's from a video or an audio recording of an interview with her? Maybe it exists only in the recesses of my memory?</p>

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2021-02-25T14:55:06.007Z
Perhaps this reference may help: https://www.brainpickings.org/2017/07/17/when-things-fall-apart-pema-chodron/
OyaMist
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2021-02-25T15:05:16.673Z
Hi I searched 'stay' in that page but I couldn't find it, does it have the quote I'm looking for or is it just talking about related ideas? I'm hoping to find that exact quote if it exists
Jojo
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2022-02-19T12:34:20.747Z
@again_insane_buddhist, yes it's actually 'I agree', see my answer. In hindsight, 'Zen' may have been a more distinctive keyword to search than 'stay'.
Jojo
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Trying to find a quote by Pema Chodron
# Trying to find a quote by Pema Chodron

(Asked by: username_0 on 2021-02-25)

I'm looking for a quote by Pema Chodron. In my memory, she's having a discussion with a Zen master, and the quote goes something like this;

Pema: "what do you do when things fall apart?"

Zen Master: "I stay"

I seem to remember it being in her book When Things Fall Apart, but I searched it for the word 'stay' and I couldn't find this anywhere.

Does anybody recognise where it comes from? Maybe it's from a video or an audio recording of an interview with her? Maybe it exists only in the recesses of my memory?

**Tags:** reference-request, zen

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: Perhaps this reference may help: https://www.brainpickings.org/2017/07/17/when-things-fall-apart-pema-chodron/  
> **username_0**: Hi I searched 'stay' in that page but I couldn't find it, does it have the quote I'm looking for or is it just talking about related ideas? I'm hoping to find that exact quote if it exists  
> **username_0**: @again_insane_buddhist, yes it's actually 'I agree', see my answer. In hindsight, 'Zen' may have been a more distinctive keyword to search than 'stay'.  

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## 2 answers

### Answer by username_0 on 2022-02-19. Score: 1 | Accepted answer

Here is the quote I was looking for last year,

> I once asked the Zen master Kobun Chino Roshi how he related with fear, and he said, "I agree. I agree."

It is on page 9 of my copy, which is a 2005 edition printed on the Element imprint of HarperCollins.


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### Answer by username_2 on 2022-01-19. Score: 0

> “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be
> continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in
> no-man's-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh.
> To live is to be willing to die over and over again. ”

― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

> **Comments:**
> **username_0**: This is a nice quote, but it's not the one I was looking for. I was looking for one where Pema is talking to a Zen master. I actually found it a while back, I might post it a an answer later if I remember  

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