What are ways to help a child with performance anxiety, say like in sports?
What are ways to help a child with performance anxiety, say like in sports?
user
I don’t know about specific sport-related anxiety, so I can only tell you how I have helped myself in these situations.  Often my anxiety comes from a fear of disappointing other people in the audience.  So I can imagine a hypothetical scenario for you where you are in a big crowd of people at the event, and it starts to feel scary to think about you performing on stage.  Would you like me to offer some thoughts on how to feel less afraid?
assistant
Yes, how to feel less afraid when performing, sure.
user
I would say the key is to stay focused on what you have control over.   Focus on doing your best to give your best performance and not think about anything outside of that.  For example, if you feel like you will look stupid, say to yourself, “Well this is the best I can do, and that’s OK.  Even if I do look stupid, the worst that can happen is I won’t get a scholarship and won’t get into the college I want, but I will be OK.”
assistant
You know what, that's really good advice!
user
You’re very welcome!   I’m so glad that was helpful to you.  I’m happy to talk more about any other thing you want to ask about.
assistant
What about reinforcing things that went fine during performance. Like say someone is playing softball and they did a good job at catching the ball. Should one reinforce how they did a great at catching the ball in order to help lessen their anxiety for next time?
user
I think this is a great idea, but it’s also very important not to overdo it.  You’ll want to do your best to be sincere, as it can quickly sound insincere if you say something like “you did a great job at catching the ball” too many times.  I might suggest saying something simple like “Great job catching that ball” or “Thank you for being such a great team player”.
assistant
Right, right. What about telling the child to visualize themselves performing well?
user