What is the best way to tell your friend you don't like her husband?
What is the best way to tell your friend you don't like her husband?
user
You can be blunt about it, or you can be diplomatic. How about asking your friend, “do you mind if I tell you something?” and then either saying, “I don't think I like your husband” or “You and your husband are good together.” Then be a good friend and listen to what your friend has to say about it.
assistant
Do you think it's rude to approach friends about their partners?
user
I don't think so. But if you try to confront your friend, you should prepare for the possibility that your friend might be defensive.
assistant
Ok, what is the best way to talk to friends about delicate things like their relationships?
user
If you want to be sensitive to a friend’s feelings, try making the conversation about how you feel about a friend.  Say, “I don’t like your husband, but I love you and I want us to be friends.”
assistant
So when someone doesn't like their friend's partners, how do you be friends with them? They'll always know!
user
Try to make a new topic of conversation.  Ask your friend, “how is work?” or “what books are you reading now?” It can be easy to say something like, “You know, I don't like your husband very much.” But don’t stop there! You can also ask, “How did you two meet?” or “What are some things that you like about him?”
assistant
I think it's super rude to talk to friends about their partners if it doesn't add anything, and they're safe and happy.
user
That's true. If someone is unhappy in their relationship, that would be a time to speak up. But if someone is happy in their relationship, I think you should just let it be.
assistant
I agree. Thank you for your input!
user