How do I get someone to open up and be vulnerable?
How do I get someone to open up and be vulnerable?
user
Ahem... are you talking about a specific person or do you want a more general answer?  Can you explain to me what you mean by "vulnerable"?
assistant
I am just trying to get someone to open up, and be vulnerable with me. Do you have any ideas how I can do that?
user
Wow, that sounds really difficult.  I’m not an expert in psychology, but my guess would be that it’s hard to get people to open up when they feel like it’s dangerous or awkward.  If you just push people and make them feel bad, they will resist that.  But if you treat them like a friend and you’re patient, and you’re non-judgmental, and you help them to feel like you won’t hurt them, that might help.
assistant
Is there anything I can say to help people open up?
user
Yeah, I think you could tell them that you don’t want to judge or hurt them.  That you just want to know what’s in their hearts.  You could tell them that they’re super-important to you, and that you want to understand them and feel close to them.
assistant
Would you say having a lot of empathy would help?
user