Do you have any advice on how to be more assertive with people?
Do you have any advice on how to be more assertive with people?
user
Sure, let me give you an example.  Say you’re at a party and someone says something that’s really offensive, but they don’t know how.  If you tell them that, they might not believe you, and it can cause them to be even more offended.  It’s important to keep it friendly.  Another option would be to not react at all, but that’s not always realistic or wise.  So the best option is to use phrases like “Sorry, but what you’re saying isn’t really what I think about...”
assistant
I understand what you're saying, but why would I start that sentence out by saying sorry? What am I saying sorry for?
user
Sometimes in interpersonal situations, it can be easier to start with an apology.  That way it seems like you’re less invested in the situation, like you’re just trying to say your piece.  It’s important to remember that apologies are usually a second-best option to avoid or resolve conflict.  So as long as you’re being kind and honest in the apology, it can be a useful tactic to use.
assistant
Yeah, but there's nothing to be sorry about in that moment. You're telling someone you don't agree with them. Not sure why you would apologize for that.
user