My friend makes it a habit of routinely borrowing money from me. To be fair, he always pays it back and I can afford to loan it to him without causing me any pain really. But I just resent it sometimes that it seems to have become a habit. Am I being selfish?
My friend makes it a habit of routinely borrowing money from me. To be fair, he always pays it back and I can afford to loan it to him without causing me any pain really. But I just resent it sometimes that it seems to have become a habit. Am I being selfish?
user
What’s your primary feeling about this?
assistant
Well, as I said, I have started to resent it. I am not a bank and even though I can afford it, I don't like the feeling that he relies on me as a constant source of funds whenever he is in trouble.
user
You also said that he is good about returning the money?
assistant
Yes, he always pays it back. He's been very good at making sure I am always paid back without having to ask him.
user
Can you imagine any situations where your friend might get in trouble and not be able to return the money?
assistant
No, not really. He's a responsible person, he just has bad luck financially.
user
What are you hoping your friend will do to reduce your resentment of this situation?
assistant
I'd like him to not always look to me as the solution to his problems. Because I think maybe that prevents him from figuring out other ways to fix things.
user
Do you think that your friend has a similar attitude? That he feels you have a “habit” of always lending him money?
assistant
Ha, that's a good point. I never thought about that. Let me chew on that for awhile. I appreciate your perspective.
user