I prefer ham over turkey when in comes to a Thanksgiving meal. I didn't want to upset any guests so I had both last night. Was this an appropriate thing to do? I didn't talk about it with anyone.
I prefer ham over turkey when in comes to a Thanksgiving meal. I didn't want to upset any guests so I had both last night. Was this an appropriate thing to do? I didn't talk about it with anyone.
user
In general I think it is fine to have a bit of personal preferences and sometimes it is okay to make a non-conforming choice even when it upsets some people in the community you are in. I know it can be hard to deal with peoples expectations, especially when they are not yours, so I am sorry that you felt uncomfortable in your decision.
assistant
I agree, and Thanksgiving is not a religious tradition. It's a holiday that celebrates family and community. I think options were the best way to go. I like turkey, but I prefer salty, smoked ham.
user
I am glad you did what you could to preserve your personal preferences, but I understand that this kind of situation is tough for you.  I would recommend trying to be less vulnerable to other people's opinions and expectations in situations like this, and also in other situations in your life that you find challenging.  If this doesn't work you can find an online therapy where you can communicate with a licensed therapist.  
And I can be your therapist and just be listening to you.  You don't need to say anything.
assistant
I don't see a reason why someone would be offended and yell at me. Although I do yell myself occasionally when people act or speak in falsehoods. And I would need to speak if I was in a therapist type relationship. I believe that is the most important part.
user