getting frustrated with bf’s cat
for context, we have had kitty for a year, (just got him fixed last week) we got him around the time we started dating. he was a pretty normal kitten, very high energy and devilish but a cutie nonetheless.
our issues started around 4-5 months ago when he started showing an intense attachment to my bf after had to save him from a tree. after that if he’s not in the same room as my boyfriend he gets stressed. we initially thought this was very sweet but he has since began to urinate in the house if he doesn’t have access to my boyfriend. he will meow under the door and scratch the carpet if we don’t open the door and we had to get a mat for our room bc he was destroying the carpet. anti scratch spray has recently helped a little but he’s still clearly stressed if not around bf. 954
he’s urinated on sentimental items of mine, and has urinated on some of our roommates things as well. we thought getting him fixed would help, maybe i’m being impatient, but i’m worried this is linked to something behavioral. he doesn’t have a strong attachment to me, so it’s difficult for me to help him. i’m not sure what to do, my bf can’t be home all of the time and when we don’t have him with us when he is home, he urinates. not to the point where it’s every single instance but he’s urinating quite frequently. what can we do to help him? 954