I like my coworker but I don’t trust him. How should I treat him?
I have worked with a guy who sits in front of me for two years. The first week I started his work wife/BFF had it out for me and I overheard her talking about me to him. While he chuckled at what she said, he did say I do a good job. 1007
The fact that she felt comfortable telling him these things makes me know he doesn’t like me either.
He’s tried making conversation with me but I’m pretty cold to him. He’s well liked but I notice he’s pretty gossipy and I’m quiet and I think he resents me for it.
I did try one attempt to at making a bond with him by complimenting his art but he seemed to grow more distant after that. His work wife left the company but they still chat and I feel at the end of the day he will never fully like me because of her influence.
I notice now he’ll address everyone else in a conversation but me as if to dig at me. I like his personality aside from his gossiping nature.
He’s very hot and cold with me and I suppose I set the tone but I feel my original instinct is correct and maybe I should just let any hopes of us being friends go.
Thoughts? 659