Why was my coworker distant and is friendly now?
I have a coworker who is from India. She is older than me by 20 years. We are both females. I first met her in January when she started. I saw her three times in the break room first and smiled at her. Then we worked together. 659
She talked to me about herself and gave me a hug and that was it.
The months went by, and we never worked together again. If we saw each other at work, she was still polite and said briefly, "Hi, how are you?" Then she would go about her day. I also noticed that she stopped hugging me.
Lately, about 3 weeks ago, she gave me a hug after a long time and said, "It has been a long time that I didn't work with you." She never knew my name and finally asked me. She talked to me and spent time with me for a few minutes. She also said, "What is that eyeliner you're using? I noticed that you always wear it and it stays on all day."
I thought she needed space at first, because I thought she was new and needed time to sort things out. I gave her space. She was distant before, why is she friendly now? 659