My new manager is making me dread my job
Hey. So for context I’ve been working at my restaurant for a year and a half and I am one of the strongest servers there. We go through managers quickly but I’ve always really liked all of our managers. However a few months ago we got this new bar manager (who we will call <PERSON>). I had no problems with her for her first few months. Then the summer started and I noticed she was always making remarks about how much I specifically make as well as snarky comments about one of the hosts (who is amazing). She consistently micromanages me but when we actually need a manager on the floor she is nowhere to be found. Now this past week was my tipping point. I did a party of 14 people (I do larger events frequently with no problem). There was another party going on at the same time by another server. the tables so nice, they order the most expensive food items and only get expensive bottles of wine. For the bottle of wine, the manager had to open them bc laws in my state don’t let people under 21 open wine bottles. 329
Everything went well considering we had no support (what we call our busboys/food runners). the tip was around $430. At the end of the night she makes a comment to me as I’m leaving saying that I have to tip out the bar 40% of my total tip. Now I had a problem with this seeing as my table only got bottles of wine and we do not tip the bar out on bottles at my restaurant. She wanted me to tip the bartender $200 for doing nothing while I ran around all night taking care of that table. She also wanted me to tip out the other servers (which we don’t normally do) for helping run food but I was ok with that bc at least they did smth. When I told her I didn’t feel as thought I should be tipping out the bar, she said that I’d be tipping out her (<PERSON> the manager) instead since she opened the bottles for me. I had an even bigger issue with that but I just decided to leave for the night and talk to the higher manager another day (which I did and he said she was being unreasonable). Now, the other sever who did a big party said she just made him tip out the bar like normal for the drinks they made and that’s it. No extra tip out. This issue in addition to many others has been negatively impacting my work life. I love my job but it’s really getting to me how a woman twice my age seems out to get me. 201