Nosy coworker or something more?
I have been attracted to my coworker for two years. He’s unavailable and I’ve kept my distance but I sometimes feel he may be attracted to me. 750
ie staring and looking away, fidgeting. I’m very quiet in the office and don’t talk to many people so it’s possible he just thinks I’m weird/aloof and is responding in kind.
I am currently seeing someone who lives out of state so he hears that I’m going out of town a lot…I don’t talk about my personal life at work.
I’m attracted to him and part of me wants him to be jealous that I have someone but he’s also very gossipy so maybe he’s just looking for info and is not interested.
At any rate he has been asking me more lately why I go to this state and I notice him looking over at my phone which has a picture of my BF on it.
Today he walked by and then stopped when he saw my phone and then asked me about my holiday plans and if I have friends in that state. I came THIS close to telling him to see his reaction but instead I said I have loved ones there.
I did this because I don’t want him to know and then tell everyone in the office.
Also because I like being a mystery to him and keeping him guessing.
But most of all I kinda regret not telling him because I wanted to see his reaction that I am taken.
I love my BF but yes I have a crush and no, I would never do anything and neither would he.
Any thoughts or advise would be appreciated.
And yes, I already know I’m a weirdo who is probably overthinking all of this.
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