Does my shift lead (who has a crush on me) see me as his possession?
My coworker and I have had this unspoken attraction for each other for the past several months. We work at a coffee shop, and we're both college students, so we're not going to be working there forever. About two weeks into us working together, he shared a story about something traumatic that happened to him. I have a similar story, but I didn't tell him about it because I didn't want to cry in front of him. Later that day was the first time I ever saw him snap at me. When he gets mad, he usually rolls his eyes or sighs, then he's okay after. But it's over the most random things. Sometimes I don't even know what I did wrong and he gets upset.
He hit on me, but I'm kind of dense so I didn't realize he was flirting. About two weeks after, I invited him to my birthday party to hopefully get to know him better. He texted back saying he'd let me know if he could come or not. 951
About an hour later, on his Twitter (which I don't follow), he started saying stuff like "disloyal people annoy me". The next week, he would fluctuate between being normal and being avoidant. He told me he couldn't make it to my party. He also got promoted to shift lead that same week. The next several weeks, he was avoiding me. He seemed to really not want to be around me, and he was almost giving me the silent treatment. Things got better after a few weeks, and he's even started flirting with me again, sometimes in front of other shift leads.
I would like to emphasize that 95% of the time, our interactions are pretty good. He's respectful and nice, but it's just when he gets angry randomly that he gets this way. He's not in charge of my pay or scheduling. The most power he has over me is giving me directions and lecturing me as needed.
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