Indeed, for such a dynamic to work, the woman must recalibrate her expectations of her spouse. If she wants to build a family with a man, she must not become caught up in traditional perceptions of masculinity.
但抗拒性别角色是双向的。事实上，这样的机制要想发挥作用，女性必须调整她对配偶的期望。如果她想与男性建立家庭，她不能让传统观念中阳刚局限她的思想。如果她对挣得比配偶多感到不适应，那么她就局限了男女双方。