Paradoxically, admitting your own powerlessness can free you from the need to fix everything and allow us to be truly present to the other person, and to listen. A cartoon in The New Yorker had one woman saying testily to her friend, 'There's no point in our being friends if you won't let me fix you.
James     Martin, The Jesuit Guide to (Almost) Everything: A Spirituality for Real Life
friendship-and-love, listening