Instead of playing to win, I was playing not to lose. It reminds me of the story I once heard about two friends being chased by a bear, when one turned to the other and said, "I just realized that I don't need to outrun the bear; I only need to outrun you.
Sean Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: The Ultimate Teenage Success Guide
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