People say it's not what happens in your life that matters, it's what you think happened. But this qualification, obviously, did not go far enough. It was quite possible that the central event of your life could be something that didn't happen, or something you thought didn't happen. Otherwise there'd be no need for fiction, there'd only be memoirs and histories...
Geoff Dyer, Jeff in Venice, Death in Varanasi
fiction, irony-of-life, life, missed-chances