If any pilgrim monk come from distant parts  with wish as a guest to dwell in the monastery  and will be content with the customs which he finds in the place  and does not perchance by his lavishness disturb the monastery  but is simply content with what he finds  he shall be received for as long as he desires. If  indeed  he find fault with anything  or expose it  reasonably  and with the humility of charity  the Abbott shall discuss it prudently lest perchance God had sent him for this very thing. But  if he have been found gossipy and contumacious in the time of his sojourn as guest  not only ought he not be joined to the body of the monastery  but also  it shall be said to him  honestly  that he must depart. If he does not go  let two stout monks  in the name of God  explain the matter to him.
Saint Benedict
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