Other way around, as I said our genes haven't caught up with what we can do because of memes so we've used the latter to solve the problem. Society is a shared fiction which increases communal fitness over the long term Grug the pussy slayer's genes may do well for a few generations but a more organised group will eventually crush and assimilate his descendants. To say that society doesn't arise from and isn't in response to our urges is idiotic, it's self-awareness and restraint written on a group scale.