 Three years after returning to Calcutta, she wrote to her friend Mary Martin that "‘I have not been to one dinner party or any party at all since we left Europe," and that "If any friend of my grandmother happens to see me, the first question is, if I am married," both statements expressing a frustration with what she saw as a restrictive and conservative society.However, she also recognized that Europe could not replace India as her true home.She took consolation in reinvigorating her studies of Sanskrit with her father, and hearing her mother's stories and songs about India.