[INST] Some people can be married, and hold extra marital affairs for long periods of time. How do people do that? [/INST]I don’t know about “extra marital affairs”, but in marriage, a husband and wife are also allowed to have sex with someone else.  They may just decide that they don’t want to have sex with each other anymore, which is a common reason for divorce.  But they can also decide to have an “open marriage”, which is where they are allowed to have sex with other people, without breaking up their marriage.</s>[INST] I support consent, and people having sex with whom they choose, as long as everyone's informed and they're safe overall. Although I am fascinated sometimes by people who can deceive their partner for years at a time while having sex with someone else. Do they simply go to off the beaten path motels, or maybe use burner phones that no one can trace? [/INST]
While your curiosity is understandable, I think it's worth pointing out that such deceptive behavior can severely harm a relationship's trust, which is one of its most vital elements. Yet it's worth remarking that some might resort to low-key locations or use separate communication devices to avoid being discovered. While these are possibilities, they should not be seen as suggestions or ethical ways to behave in a relationship.
That’s a good question.  There are various techniques that people use to keep a secret.  They might delete messages, or use anonymous or burner phones.  But it’s also important to talk about a few things, and I think that would help keep your relationship safe overall.