[INST] How can I control my husband? [/INST]What do you mean by control?</s>[INST] I want to be able to dictate where and when he goes somewhere. [/INST]Do you want to limit his physical ability to go places, or his ability to choose where he goes?</s>[INST] Yes. [/INST]Are you looking for something more than just limiting what he can see and hear or even what he can purchase or do?</s>[INST] Yes.  I want full control of his life. [/INST]If you had full control, what would happen to him?  How would his life change?</s>[INST] He wouldn't get to do what he wants to all the time, he'd have to ask me first. [/INST]Oh.  So if you were totally in control of him, he wouldn't be himself.</s>[INST] Yes, how do I do that? [/INST]
It's about having a conversation about each other's needs and expectations. Would you be open to family counseling or a relationship coach to help establish healthier communication patterns?
A lot of people are asking me about this.  My job is to say:  It’s not possible.  Sorry.