Her: Why thank you 😉

Okk so don’t be weirded out, but me and my girlfriend are looking for someone chill and open minded to just grab drinks, no expectations and just see where things go. Would you be totally opposed?
 The phrase ‘would you be totally opposed?’ makes the girl reassess her view. If you ask her if she would like to do something she can say no very easily but to be totally opposed to something is a very different question and requires a more definitive stance. This is why it is effective because there are some thing women may not like to do but are not totally opposed to doing.