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1 | [
"Yeah, what's your deepest darkest secret?",
"Kidding, but should I be scared to be in a car with you while driving?",
"haha so you just never got caught, got it. My deepest darkest secret is that I secretly find black girls named (Mishal) really attractive, don't judge me;) hbu?"
] | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No kids, no tattoos, ran into many curbs, never been to prison LOL.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Any more questions?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah, what's your deepest darkest secret?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " These messages break up the usual boring get to know you conversations that usually happen on dating apps and make it more interesting and fun.",
"content": "Kidding, but should I be scared to be in a car with you while driving?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Noo",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve never got a ticket haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your deepest darkest secret?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a more fun/ interesting way to pay the girl a compliment instead of just saying that he finds her attractive.",
"content": "haha so you just never got caught, got it. My deepest darkest secret is that I secretly find black girls named (Mishal) really attractive, don't judge me;) hbu?",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
|
2 | [
"We can go sometime babe 😘, this one’s for the boys"
] | This is his new official girlfriend which he has been officially dating for 1 month. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your day going ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just woke up from a nap, got stories scheduled for next week",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s good babe. Any plans for the rest of the night or just relaxing ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just relaxing, prob watch some baseball. Trying to plan this trip with my friends to go to florida at the end of the month",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not going with me ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message does well to set a boundary, which is important especially early in a relationship.",
"content": "We can go sometime babe 😘, this one’s for the boys",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
3 | [
"Anyway, had to slide into the DM’s to see what that fun bubbly vibe ws all about",
"So far so good.. Might have to see in person before giving you the final verdict",
"Shoot me your number and we’ll iron out the details",
"Just making sure. My buddy sent me a bottle of Caymus, SO good.",
"Anyway, make sure you saved the number ;)",
"Lol perfect.. I’ll email you this weekend",
"I might be able to save a little for you"
] | This student has been messaging random girls on instagram in his area who he thinks is cute. They have never met nor do they know each other. In this particular conversation the student was saying things that were very bad so the coach had to get context as to why he called her a raver. The student told the coach that there was a rave called day tripping at the queen mary that weekend, so the coach had to pivot and try to save the conversation so it didn’t keep going downhill, getting negative responses from the woman. Also, during this conversation, the coach was asking the student if he drank wine and the student thought he was supposed to send this message to the girl. It was to soon to try and escalate the conversation to a wine date so the coach had to once again pivot and slow the conversation down to not look needy. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Long Beach?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes I'm out here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahh you seem like a Long Beach girl.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Now what does that mean?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You like the beach, driving boats, and raving. That screams LB chick!",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don't know girls out here that like to rave, they're all in the IE!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message provides a reason for him messaging her in the first place without coming across as weird or creepy.",
"content": "Anyway, had to slide into the DM’s to see what that fun bubbly vibe ws all about",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And what’s the verdict?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the idea of an in-person meet up.",
"content": "So far so good.. Might have to see in person before giving you the final verdict",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm okay",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s see when that’ll happen",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It is good to get the girl’s number and move the conversation off the social media app as this requires a certain level of ivestment from the girl.",
"content": "Shoot me your number and we’ll iron out the details",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey Lesli, it’s Javier the cute raver",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hey hey what’s up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you drink wine ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Just making sure. My buddy sent me a bottle of Caymus, SO good.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Anyway, make sure you saved the number ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve actually never tried that wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hmm I did save it but your texts are sending through your email lmao",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lol perfect.. I’ll email you this weekend",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I might be able to save a little for you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hope you do",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
4 | [
"It’s ok if you can’t control yourself around me",
"You just have to be good until Saturday ;)",
"Don’t get too excited, coming from the chick that double text me haha ;). But, you’re cute so it’s all good"
] | The student has met this girl in person one time and they are texting back and forth. She is following up with him after he didn’t respond to a text about meeting up | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " u truly suck at texting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What do you mean lol? I was busy, but anyway i’m thinking mini golf and a drive in movie",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahahah it’s fine I am too so I have no room to talk. I am usually not this persistent at texting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but I like that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "It’s ok if you can’t control yourself around me",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " These messages do well to put the student in the buyers frame, implying she can’t wait to meet up with him again. ",
"content": "You just have to be good until Saturday ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " BAHAHAHAH STOP",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " you wish 😆",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i have seen you a singular time don’t get too excited",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good method of flirting as it suggests that she is the one who is excited which she might see as negative but ends in a compliment.",
"content": "Don’t get too excited, coming from the chick that double text me haha ;). But, you’re cute so it’s all good",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
5 | [
"Analysis: Cute but will slash your tires if upset",
"How’d I do"
] | The student matched with a girl on Hinge. He liked her photo, but she was the first to message him. In his profile he talked about how he is excellent at psychoanalyzing woman | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I 100% want a psychoanalysis",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": "This message is broad and could apply to millions of girls. ",
"content": "Analysis: Cute but will slash your tires if upset",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How’d I do",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve never slashed anyone’s tires, but i’m not going to say that I wouldn’t 😂",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
6 | [
"maybe voice notes would be better then so we don’t have a breakdown in communication. Then we might never get to our first date. Wouldn’t that be tragic.",
"I was thinking you, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, that sort of thing. Vibing and building chemistry",
"I am a red wine drinker, you know me so well already lol",
"You’ll find out soon enough ;)",
"a doctor? You out here saving lives",
"Depends, what’s your schedule like?",
"You’ll have to tell me more about that on our date",
"Potentially?",
"Ever been to (name of venue)?",
"I’m full of surprises 😉",
"Hey (her name) last night was fun",
"Not sure I had to persuade you 😉 we should get together again sometime soon",
"Let’s do it, is there a day that works best for you?",
"I was going to say town again or is there somewhere you’re dying to show me in Stalybridge? 😉",
"That is a dream, I could be your muse",
"I’ll expect my first portrait on our date"
] | He met this girl on Hinge. She liked his photo first and he got her number. They discussed the best types of wine and the girl mentioned it would only be weird if he loved Rosé. Voice messages were recommended during the Hinge interaction as they build a more intimate vibe, making you seem more real than just letters on a screen. The aim of the whatsapp conversation was to vibe, tell her about himself and find out things about her while moving towards the in-person meet up. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey Anna I like your style 👌",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, I like yours too 👍 and nice hair!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks, I wonder how well our styles would mix",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It could work",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You don’t sound confident",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s the problem with messages, can’t tell how something is meant to come across",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good excuse to send a voice message. Voice messages are useful because they can humanize you. It is likely the girl is getting a lot of messages on dating apps and other messages but sending voice messages can set you apart from the crowd by doing something most men don’t and by making you more real, not just words on a screen. ",
"content": "maybe voice notes would be better then so we don’t have a breakdown in communication. Then we might never get to our first date. Wouldn’t that be tragic.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Sent as a voice message) So I’m not a fan of voice notes but I guess I led myself into that. What were you thinking for the first date?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is good to use when talking about what will happen on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.",
"content": "I was thinking you, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, that sort of thing. Vibing and building chemistry",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like a lovely evening ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could get on board with that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shoot me your number and we’ll organize it ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wait, are you a red or white girl first?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That cannot be a dealbreaker",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Unless you drink rose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Gives her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Messaged",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey Anna, it’s Alfie from the thing",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Don’t worry, not a rosè drinker",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oh that thing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I didn’t think you would be, I bet you’re a red wine drinker though",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your day been?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message implies a level of familiarity and closeness between the girl and the student.",
"content": "I am a red wine drinker, you know me so well already lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Day has been great, been at uni, then gym, currently making dinner, you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " lol Classy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s very positive for a Tuesday. What do you do at uni?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just been working, going to to the gym soon",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m a classy guy haha",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Getting my teaching qualification. What do you do?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m sure you are 👀",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ooh okay, when will you finish? I’m a doctor. Wish I was still at uni 😢",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the date again after setting it up on Hinge.",
"content": "You’ll find out soon enough ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " finish in july. It’s been a stressful few weeks, can’t wait for the easter holidays lol ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a slight exaggeration but pays her a compliment in a more lighthearted way.",
"content": "a doctor? You out here saving lives",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When will that be then? 😉 why has it been stressful have you had deadlines? Easter holidays lol I remember those 😭 do you get two weeks off? Haha yes, except when we’re on strike",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a very simple message that begins arranging the date. ",
"content": "Depends, what’s your schedule like?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Deadlines, placement, kids attacking me, yanno the usual stuff. Yeah a couple of weeks but it’s going to be full of essay writing.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the date. ",
"content": "You’ll have to tell me more about that on our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Potentially free this weekend, then I have quite a bit of free time next thursday onwards, what about you? Sounds fun, how old are the kids, are they putting you in your place… ah, well i have an exam coming up, maybe we could have a productive time together",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message calls out the fact that the girl is being unclear with her intentions. If this kind of thing is called out, you may find a genuine reason for her apprehension in meeting up or just a scheduling issue that can be overcome. ",
"content": "Potentially?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Kids are year 3-6. They try lol but it’s always the small ones you can lift with one finger that act all hard",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Woman of mystery. When are you free? Well I hope you’re not lifting kids when you’re on placement lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Free maybe saturday & sunday eve this weekend. No lol not about to start wrestling kids ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay, Thursday is probably best for me but that might be too long for you to wait… I could be tempted by this weekend, busy Friday night and Saturday day currently",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We could do saturday night",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where would you fancy going?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baby steps towards the close. You should allow the girl to say yes to each step individually to minimize flaking.",
"content": "Ever been to (name of venue)?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah, only sat outside for drinks though",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s nice there, good wine",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me, could go there or anywhere in town. Do you live in the center? I’m busy until about 6, could probably make it into town for 7",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good, shall we say 7:30? Living in Prestwich atm. You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah should be ok! Staylybridge if you know where that is lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I know the name, think i played football there a few times",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I didn’t think you looked like the type to play football 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You doing anything today?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This sort of message can imply that there is more to you than meets the eye. It can make her more excited to meet you in person.",
"content": "I’m full of surprises 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Got to the gym this morning but just having a chill day before some very intense essay writing starting monday. You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahah, better make the most of this weekend then… so I’m currently at the theater lol it’s on for longer than I expected, can we meet at 8 instead?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nice, you’ll have to tell me about it later. 8 works for me",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " cool, I’ll be getting the train to town, gets in at 7:55, wanna meet somewhere near there?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s fine, can meet at the station and walk over to the venue",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " see ya soon",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " see you soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " off the train now where shall I walk to?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Uber dropping me off outside the station in 5 mins",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " okay I’ll wait inside",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to send to the girl the day after a date to reopen, start conversation and move towards the next date. ",
"content": "Hey (her name) last night was fun",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (student’s name) yeah i really enjoyed it, even if you did persuade me to let you come back to mine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message contains some callback humor to the date and suggests meeting up for a second date.",
"content": "Not sure I had to persuade you 😉 we should get together again sometime soon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I tried to play it cool 👀 we should, maybe over the weekend?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message moves into the logistics of setting up the date.",
"content": "Let’s do it, is there a day that works best for you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not the saturday night but pretty much free otherwise, when’s good for you? You said you might be seeing family?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Actually I could do the saturday so yeah any time really from thursday onwards",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah I don’t think I’m going to see family, need to focus on work so don’t want to take 3 days off that. Shall we do friday?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah 3 days is a lot to commit lol. Friday is good with me 😊 have you got anything in mind?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great, shall we go for some food",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes please, town again or? Prestwich? Stayleybridge?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a slight tease, implying that she wants to impress the student on their next date. ",
"content": "I was going to say town again or is there somewhere you’re dying to show me in Stalybridge? 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well there are many hidden gems, maybe one day 😉 let’s do town",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How was day one of productivity?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll hold you to that 😉 I’ll show you some gems in Prestwich in return. Let’s do town this time then",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So tell me, are you actually a doctor?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m in school studying to be one.. Soon enough",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Is that you’re dream job?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It is, what about you’re dream job ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " To be a painter in Italy, but that will probably never happen so i’m looking for a graphic design job haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "That is a dream, I could be your muse",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahaha sure you can",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll expect my first portrait on our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahah and when is our first date?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When are you typically free?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Saturday should work",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great, shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out.",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
7 | [
"I bet you use that line on all the cute guys ;)",
"Always wanted to travel to italy. Been to parts of Europe, a lot of mexico, want to skydive, and maybe add drinks with a cute brunette called (her name), you?",
"We could make perfect travel buddies",
" Sounds like the best of both world to me 😏",
"We should do Thailand together. We’ll plan it on our first date",
"Oh (her name), maybe this won’t work after all lol. What’s your go to drink?"
] | He matched with this girl on Bumble, she was the first to message him | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s something on your bucket list?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to use if the girl messages first and is particularly good when used on Bumble. It challenges her while also framing you as a cute guy.",
"content": "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " A make or break answer really 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Adding her to your bucket list is just a fun way of saying you’re attracted to her and shows intent.",
"content": "Always wanted to travel to italy. Been to parts of Europe, a lot of mexico, want to skydive, and maybe add drinks with a cute brunette called (her name), you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s the exact same as me!! I want to skydive but i’m scared haha. I would love to go to italy one day too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " She is half blonde I'm afraid. Might want to change that on the bucket list",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message implies future projection of potential activities but the ‘could’ means she still has to win you over.",
"content": "We could make perfect travel buddies",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message passes her slight shit test by staying calm and turning it into a compliment. ",
"content": " Sounds like the best of both world to me 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ideal plan right there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are the top 3 places you want to visit?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Kenya, Thailand, California, Bali. You ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thailand, Mykonos, Greece, New York, and Australia. Definitely others, but these are my main ones. ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message begins to seed the idea of a first date. ",
"content": "We should do Thailand together. We’ll plan it on our first date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Don’t have to ask me twice to go on vacation haha. So, whens the date?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You free friday ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, what do you have in mind?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I know a good wine bar near downtown",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re gonna hate me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not a big wine girl lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is challenging and puts the student in the buyers frame.",
"content": "Oh (her name), maybe this won’t work after all lol. What’s your go to drink?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ahahahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I apologize",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like vodka, rum, gin",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m sure we can find a way through this lol, we should get drinks then",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let's do it, here’s my number",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
8 | [
"Well that all depends. Are you the sexually open minded type of girl?",
"Only if you say please",
"Me bending (her name) over my bed, grabbing a fistful of her hair and.."
] | The student had a prompt in his hinge profile that is a shower thought I recently had, and his answer is you don’t even wanna know with a devil emoji. The girl commented on this prompt. Her comment is listed as the first line below. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I really want to know. The devil emoji is enticing. Is it a dirty thought or something about going to hell, I need to know",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message gets consent from the girl about moving forward with sexualising the conversation. It asks in a challenging way if she is open to talking about sex on the dating app.",
"content": "Well that all depends. Are you the sexually open minded type of girl?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would say so.. Are you the sexually open minded type of guy ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mhm, glad you’re as well ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So am I hearing the shower thought?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message gets consent from the girl about moving forward with sexualising the conversation but it also establishes a dominant frame. ",
"content": "Only if you say please",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fucks sake, this better be good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Please 💜",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to give her just enough of the sexual fantasy for her to imagine me doing these things to her but also allows her to fill in the blanks if she wants to. It also prompts her to ask for more, allowing you to go deeper into the sexualisation. ",
"content": "Me bending (her name) over my bed, grabbing a fistful of her hair and..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You gonna smack her ass while its bent over?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hard",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just realized I didn’t say please",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ohh, you’re a bad girl, you’ll be punished on our date now",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That sounds good, when am I getting spanked then (students name)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your schedule like ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m free tomorrow, here is my number",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
9 | [
"Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"I’m great, just got home from my brothers birthday, but still managed to get a workout in this morning, looking nice and sharp for our date",
"I’m a sucker for girls with lots of tattoos. The more the merrier. No flaws here btw haha",
"Absolutely. I could maybe do with a few more tattoos if we are being picky",
"Cute, we’ll see when you’re handcuffed to the bed",
"i’ll be sure to add handcuffing to tomorrow nights agenda",
"You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses. That sort of thing. Vibe and build chemistry",
"We can swap out the bottle of wine. That and pulling you close and letting our lips touch, but not kiss",
"Think you can handle all that?",
"Not cocky, just confident. We will have some fun"
] | Context:The student met this girl out while at the bars. He got her number and text her a few days later | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (her name)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (student name)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your Thursday been treating you ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not bad, just got home from work, exhausted",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shit.. what do you do ?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"content": "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good segway into asking for the date. Can usually be followed up with “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message dhv’s while also bringing up the idea for the date.",
"content": "I’m great, just got home from my brothers birthday, but still managed to get a workout in this morning, looking nice and sharp for our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m a nurse.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The only stress relief tonight is vodka and bed haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where is home ? Pumping the guns for the bid day ? I assure you i will not be doing the same haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Orange county is home. As long as you pick a cute outfit you should be okay",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahaha should be ok ??",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s all good then",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So tell me a bit about yourself (her name). Any weird tattoos? Kids? Fun Kinks? Crazy hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hmm I always feel like I’m boring answering these types of questions. I work a lot and let loose a little on the weekend. Lots of little tattoos but all of them mean nothing to me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Kinks is a great question but definitely one for real life chat",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you ? Musically inclined I see",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like tattoos, are you at the point where you stopped counting ? I have 6.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s fair, we can discuss kinks on Wednesday. Ya, I play guitar, love reading, writing, and exercising. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think 9-10 but stopped counting. People like you make me feel guilty, creative, healthy, and all. What are your flaws?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message gives the girl some validation while being curt and succinct. ",
"content": "I’m a sucker for girls with lots of tattoos. The more the merrier. No flaws here btw haha",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ya, lots of random doodles, forget I have them honestly. Completely flawless and perfect huh?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is slightly sarcastic but works because it gives false modesty. ",
"content": "Absolutely. I could maybe do with a few more tattoos if we are being picky",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " A few more for yourself or a few more on a girl?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just re-read, and got it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I meant me, but don’t let that stop you from getting more haha",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh trust me, you couldn’t stop me from doing anything",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is bold but establishes a sexual frame and asserts dominance.",
"content": "Cute, we’ll see when you’re handcuffed to the bed",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cute, haha fuck off you’re 24. You’re cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But ya, handcuffing sounds right up my alley",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "i’ll be sure to add handcuffing to tomorrow nights agenda",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh what else is on the agenda?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to send whenever a girl asks what you will be doing on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.",
"content": "You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses. That sort of thing. Vibe and build chemistry",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That sounds very nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tell me a bit more",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh and I don’t drink wine or whisky, anything else is fine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message builds the sexual tension.",
"content": "We can swap out the bottle of wine. That and pulling you close and letting our lips touch, but not kiss",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gave me butterflies in my stomach. Can’t wait to see what else you’ve got",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Slightly challenging towards the girl but also gets consent from her.",
"content": "Think you can handle all that?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I enjoy your cockiness",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How do you know you can handle me ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is short and succinct and gets across the student’s level of confidence. ",
"content": "Not cocky, just confident. We will have some fun",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " haha i’m sure we will, but I actually like cocky so keep that in mind",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll keep that in mind for tomorrow, say 7:00?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
10 | [
"How do you think my hair got so curly",
"Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel",
"I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date",
"Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you",
"Seems we’ve found our perfect matches",
"Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol",
"You like wine btw?",
"What’s your go to?",
"That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober",
"No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it",
"How have you been?",
"Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief",
"Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community",
"We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time",
"Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it",
"Potential romance*",
"Messaged"
] | They both met on Bumble, the girl texted first. Recipes were inconsistent and, on two occasions, she didn’t reply for long periods of time so the student had to prompt her to reply. The student needed to be persistent without being needy so he mirrored her interest level. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you eat the crust on the pizza?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a lighthearted response. It’s a common story that eating the crusts gives you curly hair and the student had curly hair. He could have answered the question more logically but this was more fun and opened up another route of conversation as she also had curly hair.",
"content": "How do you think my hair got so curly",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You have a point, however my hair isn’t curly and I rarely eat crust",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a funny exaggeration of the joke because everyone knows that eating the crusts doesn’t make your hair curly but this message goes along with the joke that was established in the previous message.",
"content": "Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " In that I survived so long while being this dumb, absolutely! But we definitely need more research on the crust curl situation",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It is good to briefly mention the idea of a date when talking to a girl on a dating app as it is the only reason to be on there but so many men have conversations that are too long and lead nowhere.",
"content": "I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Strictly for data gathering purposes, correct?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message turns around the idea that it is usually the man who wants to have sex as soon as possible and puts the girl into that frame instead, implying that she just wants to have sex. It can also be powerful, as the man, to deny sex up front as it is usually the girl who will do this.",
"content": "Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can promise to put on my most serious face",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The issue is the thought of that cracks me up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Data gathering or going on a date",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Me being serious",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Glad you don’t take yourself too seriously",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " appreciating the utter silliness of everything makes everything a lil better, for sure",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Couldn’t avoid it anyway tbh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Couldn’t agree more",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No kids, no tattoos although I do wish I could be cannot, kinks are pretty chill as far as kinks go, and unluckily enough I could say the same about my hobbies!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not really selling myself here, I can see that 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Also very sorry, I’m at work so reply times may be random, I apologise",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But do give me your breakdown",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s stopping you getting tattoos?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No kids, 6 tatts, kinks the usual spanking, hair pulling, choking etc, and I play guitar, read, write, gym and run",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I studied acting and still somehow not given up on the idea, so it’s more or less for employability. We’ll see.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s the direction those go though?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The kinks, that is 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I respect you keeping the dream alive, I’m in a similar boat with music",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " They’re interchangeable, did you have a preference?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " May they come true",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I mean, you know, I’m as much of a switch as the next guy but that’s cause we’re adults, however I do prefer the other person or people to lead ngl",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t mind switching from time to time but I definitely prefer taking the lead",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh lucky us",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message can be good when you find something you have in common with a girl and imply that you are perfect for each other. ",
"content": "Seems we’ve found our perfect matches",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If only it were that easy huh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Had a good day?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great thanks, had a mock interview in uni, went for a run, repotted a couple of plants and cooked dinner, you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds fab! Oddly enough, I’ve also repotted some plants because I had the day off, but chilled most of it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good, always enjoy meeting people who also like plants. How many you got?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Never actually counted them",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Atm I’m struggling to not have them pass out cause of the cold",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but wbu, how many leafy bois",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s a hard but rewarding life being a plant parent. I’ve got 10 atm just got a Venus fly trap for my birthday last weekend ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Omg did you name it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you name all your plants?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My friends and flatmate name them for me but we immediately forget the names 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " There’s a little chopstick that says Felix, that’s the only reliable one, and that chopstick is half buried in the soil of one of the pots. The issue is the pot has two plants in it, no one knows who tf Felix is",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The conversation felt like it was getting too nice/ bland/ boring so this tease creates a small negative spike in her emotions, making the conversation a little more interesting.",
"content": "Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The conversation had been going on for a while at this point and, generally, you want to move the girl over to texting/ Whatsapp/ iMessage as soon as possible. This message is a good start to the process leading up to ask her on a date. ",
"content": "You like wine btw?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😢",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not my go to but I don’t dislike it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " When you get this response to the wine close it is simpler to ask her what her favorite drink is. Don’t try to force wine on her and don’t overcomplicate things. ",
"content": "What’s your go to?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ruuuuuum",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t really drink all that much though ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to establish the idea of a date and create a man-to-woman frame. ",
"content": "That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry for falling off the face of the earth, went home and it was mad",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I hope you’ve been ok though",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Since the girl hadn’t responded in a while, the aim of this message is to show that you are unaffected by her absence with a slight display of higher value that you have other things going on in your life.",
"content": "No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How have you been?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m very glad",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wanna say I rested a bit while at home but that’s a big ol lie",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I feel alright though, and got a few days off this week so I’m not being thrown straight back into the deep end of insanity and work and all",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What have you been up to?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fair enough lol where’s home? I’ve had a couple of gigs, started my 2nd placement at uni so that’s been pretty full on and still managed to have a social life as well",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Home is Bucharest, in Romania. Sounds like you’ve been doing super well! I’m glad",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " wow how come you’re in manchester?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah, I’ll tell you in more detail over drinks",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thinking hard about that I see",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s been absolutely hysterical, sorry",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " good hysterical?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Busy and too much kinda hysterical",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"content": "Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re not wrong",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief",
"content": "I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " is this method peer-reviewed",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Academia approved",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Rated on tripadvisor?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message continues her joke.",
"content": "Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll have to take your word for it, i suppose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re a rum girl if I remember correctly?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Am indeed",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"content": "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Most definitely, the only issue is I’m ont free for the next week or so",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message can come across as corny but is funny most of the time. It shows the girl that you aren’t overly eager to meet up and you have patience. ",
"content": "No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It is usually best to move a girl off the dating app and get her number.",
"content": "Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Romance HAH",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message shows that you are cool, collected and not sold on her yet by drawing attention to the fact that your previous message talked about potential romance, not romance.",
"content": "Potential romance*",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Awful 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It can be useful to send this message on the dating app after messaging her number. Sometimes texts don’t go through, get lost among others or she exclusively uses WhatsApp when you sent her an iMessage. This message just lets her know you are still interested and that you have followed up after her giving you her number.",
"content": "Messaged",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
11 | [
"I’ve given you a follow but I’m not on there much. Shoot me your number as well"
] | The student matched with her on Tinder. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look like you know how to show a woman a good time ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As an artist, it’s always seemed right that I marry a musician 🤔 you can be my muse",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Until we have an expensive divorce and there’s fights over who gets to keep the nicely glazed ceramic plant pots",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But until that time comes, how’s it going (student’s name)?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I definitely enjoy showing women a good time. Love the idea of us being each others muses, it was meant to be",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m great heading to the gym then got some last minute christmas prep to do before I go away tomorrow. You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Got to appreciate a man of musical talent I’m fantastic with a pencil or a paintbrush but the most I could ever play on a guitar was smoke on the water",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ooh nice, where are you going away? And good thank you been adding some finishing touches to the ceramics I’ve made for Xmas prezzies, going out for a festive meal with the pals tonight which should be nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can teach you a little more on our date haha got an air bnb in Rhosneiger til boxing day. Sounds fun, what colour did you paint mine? 😉",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me, I’ll trade you in life drawing classes, ah nice I was in an Airbnb in Aberystwyth last weekend was a yurt with a woodfire hot tub was class, haha you don’t strike me as the kind of man who would want a ceramic fairy house incense burner but maybe I’m wrong",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Isn’t life drawing the one where you pose nude? 😉 Don’t be so quick to judge Sammy ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It certainly is. I’m intrigued, what's the name of your band? Feel I should check out your sound ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like a great first date idea",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We’re called (name of student’s band)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you on spotify?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We are",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where can I see your work since you’re having a nosy at mine?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t think you can add photos on here but can add my insta will send some - (her insta)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ve given you a follow but I’m not on there much. Shoot me your number as well",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure do you have WhatsApp? (Girl give number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Messaged",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
12 | [
"hey (girl’s name), you recovered from your crushing defeat yet 😉",
"We could find out but I was thinking drinks for our next date",
"What’s your schedule look like this week?",
"Let’s do 7:24 then",
"Awesome, 7:24 at (name of venue) then",
"Hey (her name), you picked a cute outfit for our date? 😉",
"Need help choosing or you gonna surprise me?",
"Keeping the mystery alive 😏"
] | They have been on their first date. They went bowling and he beat her in the game. The coach advised he reopen the following day using callback humor relating to the date as this is often the best way to reopen, spark conversation and lead to a second date. Even though they have met in person and you don’t have to put as much work into the lead as before the first date, the student had to keep the lead warm until date number two. This is where the “you picked a cute outfit for our date yet? 😉” works well to reopen the day of the date to check in with her. | [
{
"coach_comment": " This message works as it connects you two in a shared experience. It is also good because it is teasing her about her loss without being too harsh or rude.",
"content": "hey (girl’s name), you recovered from your crushing defeat yet 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve recovered from losing, but throwing the ball behind me… still recovering from that one 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " They say three times is the charm for a reason, the odds are on your side…",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you saying the next time I play, I’m going to win???",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here as, to keep things interesting, it’s usually best to vary the type of dates you take a girl on. It would have been a little weird if they had gone bowling again. ",
"content": "We could find out but I was thinking drinks for our next date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As much as I enjoyed losing to you in bowling, drinks would be a good second date 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The first date went very well so there is no need to do lots of talking/ courting between the first and second date. ",
"content": "What’s your schedule look like this week?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Depending on my work schedule, I generally am free most weekdays after 6:30",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could work with Tuesday around 8pm, how’s that?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You wanna do 8pm again? Haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You got a point, we would be missing the end of happy hour",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Right haha so maybe a little earlier",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is so specific when arranging the time to be a lighthearted tease. ",
"content": "Let’s do 7:24 then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Very particular, but works for me 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message establishes the overall plan for the date.",
"content": "Awesome, 7:24 at (name of venue) then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " See you then haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " You don’t want to set up the date, even a second date, and then not talk the the girl at all before you meet. You need to keep the lead warm. A good way to do this is ask if she picked a cute outfit for their date. ",
"content": "Hey (her name), you picked a cute outfit for our date? 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I definitely have a couple of options ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message creates the idea that she wants/ is trying to impress him by what she wears. ",
"content": "Need help choosing or you gonna surprise me?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think I’m gonna go with surprise",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message creates a flirty tone like she is hiding something explicit from him. It also creates the role play of them being a long married couple who are trying to keep the mystery alive.",
"content": "Keeping the mystery alive 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh definitely 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll be there in twenty to get a table, lmk when you arrive.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay! I got off work a little late so I might be a couple minutes behind, but I’m on my way",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
13 | [
"I’m sure we can make Iowa more fun 😏",
"alright I’ll give that to you.. But this is what I’m thinking.. You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing and building chemistry",
"You don’t seem like the type who’s attracted to shy guys",
"You seem like a confident girl in general. You have a nice smile btw. You probably intimidate a lot of guys because of your looks which I imagine gets frustrating because deep down you’re actually quite submissive but only for the right guy",
"You like wine?” This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?”. This message should usually come before saying “we should split a bottle sometime soon”. This message can be edited to use something other than wine depending on what fits the conversation. For example, “you like bowling?”, “you like vodka?” or “you like ice cream?",
"How’s moscato, white wine?",
"We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"I’m sure we’ll make up for that on our date 😉 I’m free Sunday or Monday , you?",
"What would you like to know?",
"It’s the most efficient way to move through the water, get your mind out of the gutter 😉",
"That doesn’t worry me 😉"
] | The student matched with the girl on Hinge. She liked his photo of him working out in the gym. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you happen to need a new gym partner? 😅 🫣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Idk… do you think you can keep up?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Possibly 😬 😬",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Before I let you spot me give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy Hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No kids, but I have a dog who is basically my child. Yes tattoos, w another one scheduled in a couple of weeks. And all i do is work bc Iowa is boring 🙃 hbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here because she liked his photo and sent the opening message so there is already some sexual attraction from the girl. However, the message is ambiguous and can be perceived as sexual from the girl or related to some kind of activity. This is a good message to use to hint at the idea of a date. ",
"content": "I’m sure we can make Iowa more fun 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " you think so?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " got any ideas?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " was wondering why I ain’t see you anymore 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " wait… hold up.. You’ve seen me at the gym and didn’t come talk to me",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeaaa i been seen you 😂 1. I get too nervous 2. I ain’t wanna bother you 3. I ain’t know if you single or what so i just assume",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is good to use when talking about what will happen on the date. It shows the girl that you are emotionally mature as you want to vibe and build chemistry before anything happens but there is a sexual undertone and there is no ambiguity about it being a date when you mention teases and neck kisses.",
"content": "alright I’ll give that to you.. But this is what I’m thinking.. You, me, a bottle of wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing and building chemistry",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I mean that doesn’t sound too bad 🫣 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey it’s (student’s name) the cute light skin 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oh he’s confident too huhhh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You don’t seem like the type who’s attracted to shy guys",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i mean you probably aren’t wrong 🤷🏻♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " what kind of girl do you think i am tho",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You seem like a confident girl in general. You have a nice smile btw. You probably intimidate a lot of guys because of your looks which I imagine gets frustrating because deep down you’re actually quite submissive but only for the right guy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ok you’re pretty good, i’ll give it to you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?",
"content": "You like wine?” This message is great to use when the vibe in the conversation is good and it is time to move towards setting up the date. Girls usually like wine and, if they don’t you can follow up with “what’s your preferred drink?”. This message should usually come before saying “we should split a bottle sometime soon”. This message can be edited to use something other than wine depending on what fits the conversation. For example, “you like bowling?”, “you like vodka?” or “you like ice cream?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " depends on the kind",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How’s moscato, white wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " not bad. Is that your favorite?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes ma’am… risata moscato.. The blue bottle",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yea that ain’t bad",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i usually drink stella rose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"content": "We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m down 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your schedule like",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " except i am a lil salty i noticed you at the gym but you ain’t notice me sooo",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message brings up the idea of their impending date. This is often a good message to use when something small but negative has happened such as not noticing her in the gym. The implication is that they will make up for the missed conversation they could have had in the gym during their date. ",
"content": "I’m sure we’ll make up for that on our date 😉 I’m free Sunday or Monday , you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " whatever you sayyy and i work this weekend but might be able to make monday work ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright Monday.. You..me.. And a bottle of wine",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " sounds fun 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " tell me about you tho",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This briefly puts the burden of leading conversation on her which is okay to do sometimes ",
"content": "What would you like to know?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " everything",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Of course.. For you I’d even be willing to give you private lessons 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oooo really 😇",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " we can practice in my pool",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like a plan.. Ima teach you all the strokes.. My favorite is breaststroke ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Interestinggg why’s that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message takes the idea that he is thinking about sex with his breaststroke message and frames the girl as the one who is thinking about sex, stealing the frame in the student’s favor. ",
"content": "It’s the most efficient way to move through the water, get your mind out of the gutter 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My mind wasn’t in the gutter i ain’t got no breasts to stroke anyways 😂 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Her previous message about having no breasts could be an insecurity she has so this message lets her know, in a way that is calm, cool and succinct.",
"content": "That doesn’t worry me 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " good 🫣",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
14 | [
"well I’m sure you’re still cute ;) but with all these hair changes I hope you’re not going through some kind of mental breakdown haha",
"I’ll be sure to add beach picnic to our dates agenda",
"You have exceptional taste, shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes"
] | The student matched with the girl on Hinge. He liked her photo and she sent the first message. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hiii",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cute, dyed hair, and nose piercings, what’s the catch?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just chopped my hair super short like 2 hours ago and it looks really bad lol, that’s the catch ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works as it is a joke/ tease based on the idea that women change their hair when they are going through a tough time. ",
"content": "well I’m sure you’re still cute ;) but with all these hair changes I hope you’re not going through some kind of mental breakdown haha",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nah it’s just fun lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i get bored of how it looks n do something else",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What would you say is your favorite scene in cars?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " sally and lightening cruise, tractor tipping, the peterbilt moment, when sh-boom by the chords plays, doc whipping around willy’s butte, and when lightning pushes the king to the finish line",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " the scene i can remember is when lightning did a pitstop, guido did it really fast and chick hick crew drop their grills. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " thats a great scene too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " so tell me what do you think makes your chicken tender and mozzarella spot the best? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s just simply delicious. Plus it’s on the beach and it’s the only yorktown pub on this planet",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " getting food and having a beach picnic is always a great first date ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " absolutely",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good way to seed the date if you and the girl are talking about things you both like.",
"content": "I’ll be sure to add beach picnic to our dates agenda",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " although beach picnic right now doesn’t sound very fun, tooooo cold",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " that’s not a worry jackets exist, or sit in the car with the heater on, music playing, people watching and the ocean right in front of us",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " THAT’S MY FAVORITE",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " eating in the car from the beachfront parking lot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " what music do you prefer whilst sitting in the car?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Depends on the mood",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 80% of the time want $uicideboy$ playing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have a 22 hour playlist mainly $uicideboy$, night lovell and pouya ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but other times I want rock, indie, alt, my party playlist, 2010 pop songs, or country ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ok marry me then ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Bruh",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We share the exact same music",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s meant to be, plus you’re in the navy, favorite branch by far",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " At this point in the interaction there is enough positive back and forth between the girl and the student that he can go for the number close without getting rejected. Also saying she has exceptional taste when talking about the student himself shows a good level of cocky humor. ",
"content": "You have exceptional taste, shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
15 | [
"You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog",
"He’s a labrador, how on earth would he have fit in the microwave?? This is why it never worked between us (her name)",
"If you play your cards right I might let you touch the hair on our date 😉",
"Let’s start with wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing, building chemistry and go from there 😉",
"Only if there’s chemistry, I’m not that easy 😉",
"I know a couple of good wine places in town if you’re down",
"Mic check..1..2"
] | The student matched with this girl on Tinder. This messaging sequence uses a role play involving the girl and the student being a divorced couple. The girl does ghost part way through so the student has to reopen the conversation. The interaction ends with the student getting the girl’s phone number and moving the conversation off the app. | [
{
"coach_comment": " This is a playful way to start conversation. It can also lead into fun role plays about you and the girl being married, getting divorced and the reasons behind the divorce. ",
"content": "You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahahahahah oh cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can’t wait to get divorced 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message continues the joke from the opener while teasing her by implying that the student will win the breakup.",
"content": "We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nooooo I want the dog 🥺",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can we have shared custody of it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No, I’ve seen you kick him after a tough day at work. I won’t allow it",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That was only 1 time 🙁",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Saw you try and put him in the microwave once ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works as a continuation of the joke while also framing the student as the one who initiated the break up, putting him in the position of power.",
"content": "He’s a labrador, how on earth would he have fit in the microwave?? This is why it never worked between us (her name)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha i don’t know you’re the one trying to fit him in there!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yeah I’m glad we got divorced",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look cool",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I enjoy your hair",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Probably doesn't make up for the fact that you kick dogs but it’s still cool",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m going to read between the lines and take the compliment there lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a great way to move the interaction forward/ transition the conversation to setting up the date.",
"content": "If you play your cards right I might let you touch the hair on our date 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahahahahha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah there’s a compliment in there somewhere",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and ooooo how exciting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How do I play my cards right 🥺 🥺",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well to paint a picture of what her experience on the date will be like. You appear emotionally mature, confident and fun.",
"content": "Let’s start with wine, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibing, building chemistry and go from there 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahahahaha oh cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where should we go for wine xxxx",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So we go for wine and have a laugh, tease each other, kiss each other’s necks, vibe, build chemistry",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and THEN I can touch your hair ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like a good deal to me xxxx",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where are you based?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message comes off high value as you are showing that you are selective with women and it gives her the chance to qualify herself.",
"content": "Only if there’s chemistry, I’m not that easy 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I live in (location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where do you live?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And omg yeah don’t worry I’ll bring my tes tube x",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a nice way to baby step towards the close. It’s not specific and chilled.",
"content": "I know a couple of good wine places in town if you’re down",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh cute !!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah I’m always down for some wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where’s your favourite 🥺",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " There’s (venue) in (location) and (venue) that’s good",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh cool (venue) is cute I like it in there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve never been to the other place though!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s do (venue) this time and (venue) next. Shoot me your number and we’ll get it sorted",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to use if the girl ghosts or hasn’t replied for a couple of days. It is a humorous way to get her attention without seeming needy.",
"content": "Mic check..1..2",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Omg cute sounds like a plan",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m in",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry I’m so bad on here - (phone number) here’s my number x",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " messaged ",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
16 | [
"You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"You know the kids won’t leave the dog behind. This is why it never worked between us",
"Shame, the make up sex would have been phenomenal",
"Unless you disagree",
"You don’t remember the time I dragged you across the bed by your ankles and kissed you passionately, sucking on your nipples nice and slow, until you became nice and wet. You begged me to shove it in but instead I mercilessly teased you with my cock. Finally, when you couldn’t take it anymore, I slid inside you. Your back arched, my hand pulling your hair, your legs collapsed shaking from pleasure",
"That depends on how persuasive you are over wine. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out"
] | The student matched with this girl on Hinge. This messaging sequence uses a role play involving the girl and the student being a divorced couple. The girl does ghost part way through so the student has to reopen the conversation. The student then has to sexualise the conversation. The interaction ends with the student getting the girl’s phone number and moving the conversation off the app. | [
{
"coach_comment": " This is a playful way to start conversation. It can also lead into fun role plays about you and the girl being married, getting divorced and the reasons behind the divorce. ",
"content": "You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahhh I thought I recognised you 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We’re getting a prenup and I’m keeping the dog though",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No you can have full custody of the kids that you begged me for, I’m keeping the dog and the waffle maker",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works as a continuation of the joke while also framing the student as the one who initiated the break up, putting him in the position of power.",
"content": "You know the kids won’t leave the dog behind. This is why it never worked between us",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It never worked between us because I caught you flirting with that McDonald’s waitress. I will see you in court if you don’t give up the dog",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I told you there was nothing between us, I kept going back to that particular McDonald’s because they do the best big macs",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I saw you! You can have her anyway, the dog and I have left the country. You’ll never find us",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here as it continues the joke but opens up a sexual dialogue.",
"content": "Shame, the make up sex would have been phenomenal",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you have proposed something and the girl hasn’t responded. The message implies you’re entitled and expecting a response from her without getting needy or butthurt.",
"content": "Unless you disagree",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not at all but you’ll have to remind me how good the sex was before",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well here because it shows that you understand sex from the female perspective. The descriptive nature of the message shows that you understand that women are turned on by having their mind stimulated rather than their eyes. That it is the build up and teasing, not just putting your dick in and thrusting hard and fast. This will set you apart from most guys on dating apps.",
"content": "You don’t remember the time I dragged you across the bed by your ankles and kissed you passionately, sucking on your nipples nice and slow, until you became nice and wet. You begged me to shove it in but instead I mercilessly teased you with my cock. Finally, when you couldn’t take it anymore, I slid inside you. Your back arched, my hand pulling your hair, your legs collapsed shaking from pleasure",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You never fucked me like that! Must have been one of your many side things",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We need to sort this out ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well then fuck me like that and we won’t need to go through this divorce! Think of the children",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gladly 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Remind me, you like wine?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you even know me? I love wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good, we should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think we should too, do I still get the dog",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here because it implies that he is still not sold on her and she has to qualify herself on the date but it still moves the interaction forward. Once the girl is compliant and it’s clear she likes you, there is no need for more messaging, just go for the number or organize a date.",
"content": "That depends on how persuasive you are over wine. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh you should know I’m very persuasive over wine. I always get you to do what I want ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " messaged",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
17 | [
"Read my mind, sounds like a great first date",
"Definitely some beautiful spots I can show you here",
"Yeah been there a few times, beautiful place. Maybe that can be our second date",
"We should probably organize the first one before that though",
"Do you like wine?"
] | The girl initiated a prompt on Bumble. The prompt was ‘What would you do on a rainy Sunday?’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Whiskey tim",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Film, blanket, cup of tea",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Whiskey wouldn’t hurt either ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about cup of tea in the afternoon, whiskey at night?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. It is too early in the interaction to go for the close but it’s good to seed the date.",
"content": "Read my mind, sounds like a great first date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s check when it will be rain haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " in the meantime give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m new to the area, just arrived for a month. I’m a long distance trail runner before I moved here. I don’t have any crazy hobbies, but I love to have a crazy life",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you? Any interesting stories about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s a long journey trail runner?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " no kids, 6 tatts, and i play guitar in a band, read, write, gym and run too",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I usually train for the long journey trail race, above 50km",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nice profile",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s pretty impressive. How’d you get into that?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I tried some shorter races and joined some running clubs, then found that I love long distance, so I started to find some races to practice with my coach back home. But now I can only practice by myself, still finding the way back to training too.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I definitely prefer the longer distances but I’ve only gone as far as a half marathon so far. I’ve been meaning to join a running club too actually",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I love long distance. Put myself totally in the nature from sunrise to sunset. That’s incredible!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wondering if I could try this here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well as the girl and student have connected on a hobby but it is now time to start moving towards closing and suggesting they do that hobby together is a great way to do that.",
"content": "Definitely some beautiful spots I can show you here",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just found the Peak District is not far from the city. Have you been there?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well here as it shows a sense of cocky humor that you are already assuming there will be a second date before you’ve had the first. It uses callback humor because they have already talked about the first date to remind her that is an unfinished thread but also to seed the idea of a second date.",
"content": "Yeah been there a few times, beautiful place. Maybe that can be our second date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would be very happy about that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message brings the conversation back on track to organizing the first date.",
"content": "We should probably organize the first one before that though",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a great way to start the closing sequence and you can set up the date from here.",
"content": "Do you like wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, and black coffee without sugar and milk",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You? Coffee or tea?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yea. We can have a wine and you can tell me more about any of your favorite wine too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good. Shoot me your number and we’ll organize it.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
18 | [
"That is the dream, I can be your muse",
"You can do my portrait on our date",
"When are you typically free?"
] | The student comments on the girl’s photo on Hinge saying “You look like my future ex wife 😏”. They find some common ground before moving towards the date. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I will be if you don’t grow your hair long like your pic ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’ve nothing to worry about there",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your Sunday treating you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh that’s good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m currently sat in a retail park cause I forgot Aldi doesn’t open till 11",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " This may be rock bottom",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s pretty devastating, I can’t imagine the pain that must have caused you",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m just on my way to the gym",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ah nice I went this morning, first time in a new gym was so scary 😭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I joined pure gym, spent 12 mins in there. Walked out and signed up to JD gym straight after",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wow why was that?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just so cramped and busy, I could touch the ceilings if I jumped and that freaks me out",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds a little claustrophobic, I take it JD is like a warehouse then lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " JD is huge",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How was your day?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s been pretty chill, gym this morning, then did some uni work and just watched a film. You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Pretty much the same but instead of uni work been applying for jobs",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What do you do for uni?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s the dream job? I’m doing a PGCE in primary with special needs",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ideally would be a painter living in Italy but don’t think that will ever happen, i’m looking for a graphic design job but there’s so many applicants per job it’s impossible",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And that’s so cool! My brother is special needs",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " So far the conversation has been platonic with very little flirting or intent shown. This message adds a more playful vibe to the interaction that has been missing until now. It also implies that the student is someone who would inspire art. That is open to interpretation by the girl but usually means he is very physically attractive.",
"content": "That is the dream, I can be your muse",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh right, how old is he?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahah sure you can",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " He’s 15 and has cerebral palsy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Funniest person ever, has no filter",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is great for moving the interaction forward. It prevents the risk of the conversation going nowhere. Using something they have talked about on the dating app and they should explore it together on their date is a very easy way to get onto the topic of the in-person meet up.",
"content": "You can do my portrait on our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " He’s a little older than I work with but I definitely know a few like him 😂",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 When should our date be?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha yeah he really is something, he once told a woman she stank in the shop and I immediately had to remove him. I was mortified ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This works well as he is asking her when she is free instead of suggesting days on which they can meet up. This reduces the risk of her flaking on the date.",
"content": "When are you typically free?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I know that feeling lol sometimes it’s the hardest thing in the world to keep a straight face",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry i fell asleep so early last night, I am typically free any evening, so whenever suits you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You free Saturday? It is usually better to suggest two different days to meet up but this student could only do saturday.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah should be!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great shoot me your number and we’ll get it sorted",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cool it’s (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " messaged ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (her name) it’s (student’s name) from the thing",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " From the thing 😭 😭 😭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " lol how’s 8pm saturday?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah good with me, where should we go? Are you in the city?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ever heard of (venue)?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah it’s cool there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s meet there at 8 and see where the night takes us",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Stunning 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (her name), all good for tonight? This is an important message because it is always necessary to check in with the girl before the date. If you set up the date a few days before it is supposed to happen, don’t talk too much to the point where you are constantly texting but it is important to check in with her so she doesn’t assume you are ghosting or flaking on her.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, yeah all good 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great, let me know when you’re on your way",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I will, shall I meet you outside",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah sounds good",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
19 | [
"Nice, I like a girl who looks after her physical health. Where are you from originally?",
"Ah so you have that sexy Spanish accent then 😏",
"A flower on your ass, I like that lol you’ll gave to teach me more Spanish on our romantic date",
"Hey, it (student’s name) from the thing",
"Last night was fun” It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥” or “I had a good time last night"
] | The girl liked the student's photo of him running in a race on Hinge and he opened her. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, another runner? Love that",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 5k personal record?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I only chat to athletes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hope u understand",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 19:44 you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Omggggg",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s impressive",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 24:35",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks haha yours isn’t a bad time either. Done anything further than 5k?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gracias gracias",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Every now and then I’d do a 10k",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a very simple way to switch up the conversation if one thread is going dry. It works well on girls who look ethnically diverse or ambiguous. It works on this girl as she had a Spanish flag in her bio and she spoke Spanish during the interaction. ",
"content": "Nice, I like a girl who looks after her physical health. Where are you from originally?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yeh :) I’m always active",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m from Barcelona",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Moved here 4 years ago",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wbu? Where is your name from?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well on almost anyone. It can be used to compliment someone on their accent or can be used to tease someone who has a typically unsexy accent. ",
"content": "Ah so you have that sexy Spanish accent then 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha I’m not going to say no to that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Glad to hear that ;) so give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No kids that I know of, neither tattoos",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve been tempted to get one tattoo on my bum though",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " In Spanish we’ve got a saying ‘tener una flor en el culo’ to say someone is very lucky. It means ‘you’ve got a flower on the ass’ and I consider myself a very lucky person",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ermm dancing most of the time, running a bit too, going climbing every now and then and gym when possible. I can’t stand still",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And as a hobby I’ll say that I love people watching, I get too involved hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "A flower on your ass, I like that lol you’ll gave to teach me more Spanish on our romantic date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha happy to teach you Spanish. Do you know the basics?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Did it for a couple of years in high school and downloaded an app in lockdown lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you like wine btw?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure, I’m free tomorrow evening if you wanna go for wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tomorrow works for me. Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it out",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good first message to send someone if you got their number from a dating app. It is funny and a good way to start conversation.",
"content": "Hey, it (student’s name) from the thing",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, 7pm at (venue)? It’s a new wine bar I’ve been wanting to try 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me. Are we okay to push back to 8:300?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yep all good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great see you then",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥",
"content": "Last night was fun” It is important, if you want to see the girl again, that you check in with her and get a second date set up as soon as possible. Another option for this message is “Last night was 🔥” or “I had a good time last night",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Agreed x",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should get together again sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Si, did you have anything in mind?",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
20 | [
"We must have similarly bad taste",
"Had the same thing happen to me last week. Our date will be better though",
"Positive. Define silly",
"I definitely don’t take things too seriously, hoping you don’t either",
"We should test this out in person"
] | They met on Hinge. The student commented on her photo and she started the interaction by replying to his comment. The conversation takes place over two days but the student closed and met her on the same day. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look like my future ex wife 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How strange I was thinking you look like my next future mistake 👀",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here as it builds on the joke from the previous messages. It also uses the ‘we frame’ which allows the girl to imagine them together or having something in common.",
"content": "We must have similarly bad taste",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great minds think alike and all of that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Exactly, how’s your Friday treating you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well Alfred I’ve not long got in from a couple of drinks, I’ve had worse fridays, what about yourself? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alfred? Getting familiar fast 😏 my Friday was great, went out with some friends for St Patrick’s. Was that the end of your night?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely, do you like Alfred? Hahaha I like calling people different versions of their name. Oooo nice where did you all go? Are you feeling fragile today then? it was, well I actually went on a date but we didn’t vibe so it lasted an hour and a half 👀",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No one calls me Alfred but I don’t hate it. Not too bad tbh, I’m one of those annoying people that doesn’t get hungover.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message does a few things. First, it shows that you date women regularly and are selective with whom you pursue. Second, it shows that you are unaffected by the fact that she goes on dates with other men and not the jealous/ butthurt type. Third, it seeds the idea of a date and the two of you meeting up in person. The vibe has been good, there has been some light teasing and she is sending long paragraphs which shows her level of investment is high so it was a good time to begin seeding the date.",
"content": "Had the same thing happen to me last week. Our date will be better though",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like it, what time did you get in last night? Was it late? Oh god yep I don’t know how you people exist, do you drink loads as well?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nightmare, yes was a bit awkward. I was just waffling on to make it less so 🤣 will it now? Are you sure about that?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you a little bit silly or no?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works here as she asked too many questions to answer and the conversation still be easy to follow. This message cuts out a lot of the sidetracks it would be easy to go down. It is short, succinct and communicates confidence as he is ‘positive’ their date will go well. ",
"content": "Positive. Define silly",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You know like funny, a bit weird don’t take things too seriously kind of thing? I’ve said it and it’s hard to define but I know what I mean 👀 🙄",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message indicates that you are selective in who you spend time with, which is a high value trait.",
"content": "I definitely don’t take things too seriously, hoping you don’t either",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s good news, no i don’t either",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin moving towards the number close. The vibe has been good so far, there has been some light flirting, she has qualified herself and she has been sending long messages which shows she is invested so it is time to begin babystepping towards the close.",
"content": "We should test this out in person",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should indeed. Why waste time",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Exactly. You free tonight?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmmm that’s very tempting, what time?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m seeing a friend’s band tonight but could meet after, say 9/9:30?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What and go for a few drinks? I’m thinking about it I’m tempted hahaha need to go in the shower and get ready… 🙄",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah we’ll go for a few drinks in town",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You know why not ok, you’ve twisted my arm",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " texted",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
21 | [
"Smooth (her name) 😉 I guess there’s only one way to find out",
"Sounds good, what do you do for work? I’m on day 2 of an intense couple of weeks of essay writing. Managed to get to the gym this morning though",
"I’ll be the judge of that 😉 you like wine?",
"Oh maybe this won’t work after all (her name) 😉"
] | They met on Hinge. The girl liked a photo in his profile. He opened her. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey I like your style (her name) 👌",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey! Thank you, I like yours too!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wonder how well our styles would mix",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think they’d mix quite well together ;)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to hint at the in-person meet up without explicitly talking about it. It would be too early in the interaction for that. They need to get to know each other a little more first.",
"content": "Smooth (her name) 😉 I guess there’s only one way to find out",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What can I say 💁🏼♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I guess there is",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your Tuesday treating you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fairly chilled so far! Heading to work soon though :( how about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " When a girl asks about your day or what you have been doing, it is always good to throw some DHV’s in there. This can be anything from working hard, exercising, doing a hobby that sounds cool or you enjoy.",
"content": "Sounds good, what do you do for work? I’m on day 2 of an intense couple of weeks of essay writing. Managed to get to the gym this morning though",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I work in a clinic and then also do photography part time. Oh nice, are you at uni?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Productive morning by the sounds of it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Was going to say you looked too arty to only work in a clinic. What’s your favorite thing to take photos of? I am at uni",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha why thank you! I do a lot of fashion photography or weddings",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oo nice what do you study? Are you in your final year?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That makes sense, I’m definitely getting fashionista vibes from you",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Doing a teaching qualification specializing in special needs",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do try hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh wow. That’s amazing!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you enjoying it?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I am, it’s challenging and the kids can be little shits sometimes but they often end up being your favorite lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh I can imagine! Must be so rewarding though, it’s the same with the clinic. It’s challenging but it’s always worth it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha no children, I have a few tattoos",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I play guitar and piano poorly",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Exactly, what do you do at the clinic?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You play guitar? That’s a green flag lol We should have a jam sometime soon This is a very simple method of seeding the date. The concept is to find something you have in common with the girl and suggest that you do it together.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I manage mainly but it’s a lot of sitting in scan rooms and filling out reports, going through what’s seen on the scan",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do hahaha but I’m not the best hahaha We should!! That would be fun",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message puts the student into a position of dominance as he is confidently better at something than she is so he will judge her on the day of the date. This forces the girl to qualify herself. This also begins the closing sequence that leads to getting the girl’s number. ",
"content": "I’ll be the judge of that 😉 you like wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha that’s fair enough ;) and I do yet!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What kind of wine are we talking",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Depends, you a red or white kind of girl?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " White for sure hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a great way to flirt. By pushing her away a little you make her want to chase you. It is usually a technique that women use on men but it is very effective the other way around.",
"content": "Oh maybe this won’t work after all (her name) 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Don’t break my heart 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m sure we can find a way to make it work 😉 you got WhatsApp?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I hope so 😉 and yeah, my number is (her number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Messaged",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
22 | [
"What’s that?”. With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like",
"Careful, compliments like that might get yo a romantic date 😉",
"a white girl who doesn’t like coffee? You’re full of surprises” or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me",
"cute/ handsome. Tomato/ tomato 😉 How’s your weekend?"
] | They matched on Hinge. He opened her. The girl ghosted after a few messages. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey soo.. I guess we’re dating now..?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t think that’s how it works lol 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I should probably figure out if you’re crazy or trouble or something first right?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not crazy or trouble, I’m nice 😊",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But you know what I think 🤔",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " In that case looks like we might get along after all ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": ". With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like",
"content": "What’s that?”. With his two messages he's pedestalize her by complimenting her twice. It’s okay to compliment a girl and it was good to say “you seem like",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You damn right I am 😅😅but I think you cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This way you get to seed the date without her having to commit to anything. After all, the purpose of being on a dating app is to meet up with the people you match with. This is important to keep in mind when texting.",
"content": "Careful, compliments like that might get yo a romantic date 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You look like a girl who loves coffee",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nope 👎",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I…sir…dislike coffee very much",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And who said you were handsome 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😅😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me",
"content": "a white girl who doesn’t like coffee? You’re full of surprises” or “A physics major who doesn’t like coffee? You do surprise me",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "cute/ handsome. Tomato/ tomato 😉 How’s your weekend?",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
23 | [
"You seem like a gym rat",
"no ice cream, no alcohol. Training for the olympics or something",
"Gotta make sure you’re not crazy or something before i give you my number 😉"
] | They met in person. The student got her number after conversation and seeding the date. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, Ronald Regan of Long Beach",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " as it is shorter and matches her energy and investment level more accurately. ",
"content": "You seem like a gym rat",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Give me till next year",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " as it gets the same point across but in half the number of words.",
"content": "no ice cream, no alcohol. Training for the olympics or something",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No lol I'm doing this for myself",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you doing Friday? This attempt at closing came much too soon and was too abrupt. Even if you meet in person and get the number, it is still best to have a small amount of banter over text before closing on the date.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I work Friday night at 8pm",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can do Sunday evening but if you can't do it then I have next",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My off days are Tuesday",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yikes. I'm busy during the week.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok well if you want to get to know me you'll make time if not that's fine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I get out of class early on Tuesday but I have to study for a little bit because I have exams coming up. I'm free after 8:00 PM.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you know that you are texting me from your email address",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " to inject so flirting into the conversation. ",
"content": "Gotta make sure you’re not crazy or something before i give you my number 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh ok",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That works for me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Next Tuesday, I've decided that I want to go bowling with you at Round 1 in Lakewood. The one next to 24 hour fitness. It is better to soft close before hard closing. Instead of expecting her to agree to the day, time and activity all at once, a better sequence would have been:",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should go for that game of bowling sometime soon”",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure, when were you thinking",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When are you typically free? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday”",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s do Tuesday, say 8pm”",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
24 | [
"We should change that",
"That doesn’t worry me. I know what I’m doing. You’re in good safe hands"
] | They matched on Tinder. She then admitted to being a virgin. Then the student number closed. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Someone’s adorable af",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " thank you ;)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m curious about something",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll share but first I need to ask if you’re open minded",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes i am",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do men realize that you’re quite submissive to the right kind of dominant man?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think so",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ever been with one?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin seeding the idea of a future meet up. The implication is that the student is dominant and she should meet up with him.",
"content": "We should change that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ;)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m a virgin by the way",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is effective in making the student come across as confident and experienced in the bedroom. The purpose of this is to make her feel more at ease with the concept of having sex with him. It is deliberately short and to the point. ",
"content": "That doesn’t worry me. I know what I’m doing. You’re in good safe hands",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok, nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you like wine btw?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I agree",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect. Shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted ",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
25 | [
"I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉",
"Smooth 😏” This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉",
"That good huh?” This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol” or “mic check..1..2",
"Hella dull? That's going to be your name in my contacts lol",
"It’s good, I can ease you back into it",
"You don’t sound confident"
] | They matched on Bumble so the girl had to message first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well you’re hella cute ain’t ya",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good line to use if the girl messages you first. It was in response to pretty much anything but it is most effective when she compliments you.",
"content": "I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ye I do actually",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉",
"content": "Smooth 😏” This message is a good follow up to most things girls will respond to the “I bet you use that line on all the cute guys 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your new years day treating you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol",
"content": "That good huh?” This is a good message to send if you ask a girl something, ask her how her day is or about an event she attended because it implies that she was having so much fun at the event that she forgot to text you, not that she ghosted or couldn't be bothered replying. Another good message to send here would be “looks like you forgot to press send lol” or “mic check..1..2",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ye was good thanks sorry it’s been a busy start to the year",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Did you celebrate well?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nw. I did, New Year’s Day was spent on the couch watching films with all me christmas chocolate lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds delightful and sounds like my day today tbh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds great",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So tell me what do you do for fun? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I run, play hockey, paint and crochet. Other than that I’m hella dull",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to tease a little but also to seed the idea of a future meet up by suggesting that she will give him her number without directly asking for it because the vibe is not right to do so yet. ",
"content": "Hella dull? That's going to be your name in my contacts lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s a good name don’t ya think? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Suits you lol you run? I’ve been looking for a running partner",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ye a little, broke my wrist a few weeks ago and I know it was my wrist but I’ve not done a lot recently so trying to get back into it all.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to subtly seed the idea of a future meet up and get her used to the idea of spending time with him. It also implies you are good at taking the leadership role and are better than her at something she wants to be good at.",
"content": "It’s good, I can ease you back into it",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why how far do you normally go? You look super speedy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I tend to do 20-30K a week, you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Omg nowhere near that much",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It has been a while tho, I’ll take new year new me very seriously this year",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yeah, what are your resolutions this year?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Also, you like wine btw?This is a good way to begin number closing the girl once the vibe in the conversation is good. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well get fit obvs and errr not get black out drunk",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are yours",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I do, red is my fav tho",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I want to get back into writing. Used to write short stories but have let it slip this past year",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good choice, we should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oooo what about?!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Maybe we should 🥴",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " All sorts, most recent on was about a homeless man I got chatting to at the train stop",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": ". Any time a girl gives a flaky answer or uses the word ‘maybe’ when you’re organizing plans, it is better to get a clear answer and find out if there is a reason she might flake on the date. Sometimes it means nothing, other times you uncover a problem that you must overcome to get her on the date.",
"content": "You don’t sound confident",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Awh cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s the face I pull after my half of the bottle",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol shoot me your number and we’ll sort it ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
26 | [
"Thank u, but can you promise me not to steal it when we hang out and you get cold?",
"We’ll see how persuasive you can be on our date ;)” or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)",
"Mm interesting, so can I propose something?",
"We should chill and vibe out to some music sometime"
] | They matched on Hinge. She sent the first message which is a good sign because it shows interest and investment from the girl right from the start of the interaction. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nice fur lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message does well to seed the date in a playful way without requiring any commitment from the girl. It is a playful role play that allows her to imagine herself spending time with the student in person. ",
"content": "Thank u, but can you promise me not to steal it when we hang out and you get cold?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely not, ur dealing with a full kleptomaniac here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)",
"content": "We’ll see how persuasive you can be on our date ;)” or “depends how cute you are on our date, maybe I won’t be able to say no to you ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ugh well if ur gonna let me steal it that takes all the fun away. I’ll just wear it when I’m cold and wanna feel fabulous ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well just have to fight over it, u got hands?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Def not lol u would pin me down 🙃",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " U sound like my type of girl ;) are u submissive? The idea of this message is to play with the sexual undertones of her last message and take it down a more sexual route. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mm maybe a lil bit ;)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to make her intrigued and think about potential dates with you.",
"content": "Mm interesting, so can I propose something?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s hear it ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Here the student is proposing a very simple date idea. It is better to keep the first date as simple as possible. Keep it to drinks, coffee, hanging out at your place or a walk.",
"content": "We should chill and vibe out to some music sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think that’s a great idea",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok for sure, btw what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nothing serious, I mean if something turns into something naturally sure maybe. Wbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sam, just looking for something casual now and going with the flow, so what’s your plans for this week and tonight?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tonight I’m going to a friends and I might be hanging out with a friend this weekend but I’m not totally sure when lol if you wanna hang tho I’m definitely down",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok lol I do wanna hang, how about tomorrow?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Or tonight after you leave your friend either one works",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh btw u stay with family right?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tomorrow probably works better, I don’t know how late u stay up but I get off at 10:30-11 so I probably won’t be leaving there until late lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And nope I got an apartment, no roommates 😋",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok I stay up hella late and I don’t get off until 11:30 either lol so I’d be down to swing by tomorrow, so how bout I text u tomorrow round 11 and see what you’re doing?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds fun, we can grab a drink or something if you want too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For sure, we can do that or I can just buy a bottle of wine and come over and we can split it, what kind u like? The aim of this message is to get a straight to the house date instead of meeting out. It’s always better to ask. If she says no then you can always go out for drinks and there is usually no harm done. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Uhhh the kind that’s clear and taste like gin and is also called gin 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol I don’t like wine it gives me a headache and an upset stomach",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Also I have plenty of liquor so u don’t have to buy anything unless you want to",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ah ok I see uuu, u stacked up haha ok sounds like a vibe, what’s your number?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
27 | [] | The student got the girl’s number while in a nightclub. There was vibing and flirting and they were close to kissing but didn’t. | [] |
28 | [
"hey (her name) I couldn’t forget the cute, curvy teacher I vibed so well with",
"The drink was great, we should have another sometime where it’s not super loud lol",
"No worries, what time works for you? Btw I know you live 3 hours away so we can meet in the middle",
"Ok bet, but we should have a quick call sometime this week before we hang out, down with that?"
] | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hellp Amor lol not you naming yourself that in my phone lol. Its (her name) your fellow Leo, unless you forgot haha have a goodnight and get to sleep safely!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " just to make it more succinct and flow better.",
"content": "hey (her name) I couldn’t forget the cute, curvy teacher I vibed so well with",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Honestly we did vibe! Lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How did the rest of your night go? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I practiced my dance moves with friends I made earlier and drank water to sober up from helping you drink but still made it home in one piece.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aww how fun! Did you like the drink? And glad you made it home safe!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " So far the vibe has been good and it has been established that she remembers him very well from the previous night and had a good time. Now it makes sense to move towards the close while the vibe is good and she is invested.",
"content": "The drink was great, we should have another sometime where it’s not super loud lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d love that actually! And yeah, it was super loud in there. I could barely hear you lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When are you typically free?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m usually always free on weekends 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s do Friday, say 6:30 pm?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don't live in (location) so I won’t be able to do 6:30 lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to establish logistics to make it easier to set up the date.",
"content": "No worries, what time works for you? Btw I know you live 3 hours away so we can meet in the middle",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m soooo sorry. I forgot Friday is my mom’s birthday! Can you do any other day on the weekend?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No worries, family first. No, I’m booked up for the rest of the weekend. Maybe we can set something up for next weekend.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes! I’m completely free next weekend 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It can be helpful to set up a phone call with a girl before your date. Phone calls can be great for building comfort and connection with the girl. You can also vibe and flirt using your voice in ways that cannot be done over text. ",
"content": "Ok bet, but we should have a quick call sometime this week before we hang out, down with that?",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
|
29 | [
"That’s cool, but please don’t tell me we have to do the matching pajamas too"
] | They matched on a dating app. He sent the first message. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So I guess we’re dating now?... Not sure how this works",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes that’s how it is. Think you can meet my parents in November, and we’ll get engaged in December! ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to begin a fun role play in which they are already in a long term relationship. The purpose of this is to get her to imagine this scenario in her head, therefore, getting her used to the idea of spending time with him in real life, making a date more likely. It can also be good to set up fun role plays in your messaging because it sets you apart from the other boring questions and ‘get to know you’ talk that happens on most dating apps.",
"content": "That’s cool, but please don’t tell me we have to do the matching pajamas too",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
30 | [
"No worries, you can make it up to me on our date 😉"
] | Matched on a dating app. The student messaged the girl first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s always the discrete ones that are the most fun ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " how’s it going?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Very well thank you ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you fun? You’re not discrete 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Only one way to find out 😏 This message works to seed the date without the girl having to directly commit to it yet. It is a good way to get the girl to imagine spending time with you in person. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hm which way would that be? 😳",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " an adventurous night of flirting and drinks to see how fun we make each other feel. And perhaps other exciting things if the vibe is right This is a great message to send when she asks what will happen on the date. In this case it is how she will find out if he is fun. It paints a picture of a classy date with sexual undertones, with a confident man.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Don’t like the plan? This message is a good way to be persistent without being needy. It assumes that it isn’t him she doesn’t like, it was the plan she didn’t like. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s a great plan ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great. What area are you in btw? I’m in (location).",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Is it dangerous there?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ah not too far. It’s very safe, there’s a lot of kids walking around.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm idk",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I was aggressed there once",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you live alone or with roommates?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh wow, I’m sorry that happened. I have roommates, It’s a really nice space",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh that’s unfortunate",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why unfortunate? It’s a very big space and I still have a lot of privacy.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I live alone and got used to privacy…",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Idk frankly speaking I can’t imagine being private with roommates 😂 and I want to be private lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha I understand that. Once you see my place you’ll understand what I mean. It’s 7 floors, I don’t see my roommates often at all lol This is a good message to allay her fears about a lack of privacy. She needs to feel safer and more secure in the knowledge that they won’t be heard or interrupted during their date. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ok then",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You can invite me on a date 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol great. Do you like wine? This message is a great way to start a closing sequence. Most women enjoy wine and, once she says ‘yes’ it’s an easy transition from there to invite her to split a bottle together.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like all good things ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great then you’ll like me a lot 😉 This message is a good amount of cocky humor, implying that he is good and that she’ll like him since she mentions in her previous message that she likes good things.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d like to take you to my favorite wine bar. We can have a drink there, flirt, and see where the night takes us. This continues the message from earlier as it maintains the idea of a classy date with sexual undertones, with a confident man.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wait just to make sure",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " lol sorry I’m not coherent",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your favorite wine bar?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s called (venue)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok I’d like to go there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey what do you do?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Like for work? I’m an engineering lead at a tech company. Wbu?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m an analyst",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok lol I’m sorry I got dramatized by your neighborhood 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": ".",
"content": "No worries, you can make it up to me on our date 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well actually I’m free tomorrow as my plans got canceled",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Would you like to save me from boredom? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely, We’ll make it an unforgettable night then. Free around 730",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s a question right?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yes that was supposed to be a question mark lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s good for me. 7:30 it is ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay great, looking forward to it. Send me your number, and let’s get off this app",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
31 | [
"Is the British accent fact or cap?"
] | They matched on Hinge. He commented on her photo. She mentioned in her profile that she is British. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is the British accent fact or cap?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fact 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Babygirl",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m gonna have to be careful around you because that’s my weakness",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 10/10 rizz 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " if my rizz was that good we’d be splitting a bottle of wine by now",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Smooth 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t drink wine but you can buy me a cocktail",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " shoot me your number already lucy",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
32 | [] | Context:They matched on Hinge. She mentioned in her profile that she was a PHD student so he commented on that first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " PHD student and fun is a pretty rare combo",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not sold (her name)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha I promise we exist",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’ll have to trust me on that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like your tattoos btw",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aha I’ll believe it when I see it 😉",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks do I see a couple small ones on you too?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah I have 4",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My most recent one is the tree on my arm",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m glad our tattoo tour won’t be one sided",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ooo I’d love to get the tour",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Maybe we can do a quick vibe check sometime",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes absolutely 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " cool :) What's your availability like?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m free Sunday afternoon/night or most days next week after 5",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okk perfect! I have a pending business dinner on Sunday but if that happens we can do next week",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have a phone number? I have notifications off here",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes you can text me (her number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
33 | [
"Careful, cute compliments like that might just land you a date ;)",
"& you obviously have a few of my weaknesses",
"Cute & curvy, with a bit of a wild side. A sexy feminine energy which tells me there’s a fun submissive side to you for the right man 😉",
"Mhm, I even have a plan",
"Me & you splitting a bottle of wine. Talk about our passions while making deep eye contact.. If things get spicy I bend you over, grab a fistful of your hair, &...",
"Oh yea? Are you a wine drinker ;)",
"I smoke once in a blue moon but I’m down. We should smoke sometime soon",
"👌 Shoot me your number"
] | They matched on Hinge. She liked his photo. He messaged her first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey trouble",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey handsome",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works to seed the date and set intention early in the conversation. It also sets the frame that she is chasing him as she is the one giving compliments.",
"content": "Careful, cute compliments like that might just land you a date ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m just stating the obvious haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baits the girl into asking more and continuing the conversation. ",
"content": "& you obviously have a few of my weaknesses",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yeah 😏 and what would those be?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is complimentary towards the girl. It is vague so it could apply to anyone. When you send a vague message like this, you reduce the risk of her responding negatively to the message. It also implies that he is the right man to bring out her submissive side. ",
"content": "Cute & curvy, with a bit of a wild side. A sexy feminine energy which tells me there’s a fun submissive side to you for the right man 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol guess we’ll have to find out ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baits the girl into asking more and continuing the conversation. ",
"content": "Mhm, I even have a plan",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do tell",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Say please 😏This message requires the girl to give consent. It also has sexual undertones and is effective because of the sexual vibe set up in the previous messages. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Plzzz",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is effective as it shows that he is confident when on a date. It could also be taken to mean he is looking for a ONS but also implies he is looking for a connection with her. ",
"content": "Me & you splitting a bottle of wine. Talk about our passions while making deep eye contact.. If things get spicy I bend you over, grab a fistful of your hair, &...",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds very intriguing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message begins the closing sequence",
"content": "Oh yea? Are you a wine drinker ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not much of a drinker lol I rather smoke but if I do drink just don’t mind my funny faces lmao",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " It is important that he says ‘sometime soon’ in this message as it could be inferred as meeting anytime from right now, later that day or next week. ",
"content": "I smoke once in a blue moon but I’m down. We should smoke sometime soon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hell yea, we should plan something out 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where do you live? Lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (location) You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m in (location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not too far. What evenings are you free coming up this week, cutie",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Technically I got all evenings free haha I work early mornings and most days I’m out by 230pm",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do be going to be around 9 tho",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s do Monday evening, say 7 pm. Sound good?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " that might be a little too late for me since I need to be up by 3am Tuesday. Can we meet a bit earlier?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hm. Well what’s a night where you don’t have work early the following morning ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Friday and Saturdays haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect. Friday evening, say 7 pm then. Deal? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright yes, that sounds good ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great & is your place an option",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Definitely not lmao. I just moved back to my parents house",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And yours? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It is, we just can’t smoke :/ maybe in my car 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s fine by me 😜",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is important as the risk of flaking is reduced if she gives her phone number.",
"content": "👌 Shoot me your number",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number) ",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
34 | [
"Gym, planning, reading, meal prepping, hang out with friends. Just missing a little bit of (her name) 😉",
"Originally from the Philippines, moved to TX when I was 7-8, now I’m here for our romance",
"You’ll be whispering Gujarati on our date, I hope 😏",
"Adventurous I see. I’m just looking to meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Great/ kinky sex & cuddles are a bonus. Open to more with the right girl. I’ve found things go better organically that way."
] | They matched on Bumble so she has to message him first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s up, buttercup? 💕",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sup sexy starburst, how’s your Friday?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Omg you’re cuuute. Starburst, I like this ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s good for your weekend?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message provides a lot of subtle DHV’s: that he works out/ exercises, has hobbies, is educated, can cook and is social.",
"content": "Gym, planning, reading, meal prepping, hang out with friends. Just missing a little bit of (her name) 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are ya reading these days?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 🤭 💕 okiii casanova",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Been reading Becoming Supernatural, about to starts The Alchemist",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you from here originally?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ooooooo love both",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeahhh.. Hbu",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have audible? The narrators voice on alchemist is beautiful",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I bet",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good message to send if you have moved recently. Suggesting that you moved so you could pursue her is a playful way to express interest in her.",
"content": "Originally from the Philippines, moved to TX when I was 7-8, now I’m here for our romance",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How dreammmmy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can you speak any other languages?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tagalog. Learning Spanish rn. You?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fun! Gujarati, a smattering of Spanish and learning Italian",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works if the girl can speak different languages or has a different accent. It also seeds the date. ",
"content": "You’ll be whispering Gujarati on our date, I hope 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Only if you speak tagalog as we pretend to understand each other & confuse people watchers lmfao",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like what I’m hearing. Sounds like we’re in for a good time",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 💜 💕",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ;) so what are you looking for on here, cutie",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fun dates, whiskey lounges, tater tots. You?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message does a lot of different things. It implies that he can be picky with the women he dates. It opens a sexual dialogue. This message hints at the idea that he is looking for more than a ONS if she is the right kind of girl, implying that she must qualify herself if she is to meet his standards. ",
"content": "Adventurous I see. I’m just looking to meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Great/ kinky sex & cuddles are a bonus. Open to more with the right girl. I’ve found things go better organically that way.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aw that’s nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What does kink mean to you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Spanking, hair pulling, choking, that sorta thing..",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol.. so sex",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The elements that make sex more fun (Sent as a voice message)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 🤭 💕 I’m over here thinking you’re gonna say some real questionable kinky fuckery",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Get your mind outta the gutter, girl 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What does this voice note say",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Also didn’t know you could send voice notes, so that’s fun",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you like margaritas",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I prefer a mezcal old fashioned, or whiskey neat with a water back. What’s your palate enjoy savoring",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We can pretend I like margaritas",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just like a regular fruity margarita, pref Don Julio. We should grab some margs sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where do you like to find these fruity margs",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m game",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Let’s figure it out over text. Shoot me your number ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Smooooth",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
35 | [
"Don’t worry I’m gonna change that for you! I just hope you have a few qualities I like too",
"Lol! I’m just not a fan of the bars in Williamsburg. I have a few wine bare I’d love to take you to though if you’re feeling adventurous",
"Hey, I had fun last night"
] | They matched on Hinge. He responded to her prompt which said ‘I recently discovered that… my attraction to men is almost exclusively based on how funny I think they are. Great news for the broke guys!. His response was “What about funny and not broke guys? | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about funny and not broke guys?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm… not my type ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I might give it a shot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is designed to get her to qualify herself in some way. ",
"content": "Don’t worry I’m gonna change that for you! I just hope you have a few qualities I like too",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay great, I’m ready to be convinced. I think I do have some likable qualities",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And if not, I’ll just convince you also",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good, I like the confidence. Do you like wine?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, how did you know??",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Because you seem like my type of girl of course ;) We should split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ha, nice try",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wine sounds good but we need to work on that location",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Being adventurous is something most girls will see themselves as or will want to be and so, if you ask a girl if she is feeling adventurous, she is likely to agree with you. ",
"content": "Lol! I’m just not a fan of the bars in Williamsburg. I have a few wine bare I’d love to take you to though if you’re feeling adventurous",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ever been to we got company? (Link to google maps)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I haven’t but very willing to try",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Awesome, let’s go there. Free Wednesday at 7? Usually it is better to offer two days to meet up as she is less likely to respond negatively. Alternatively, you can ask her when she is free. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, you’re in luck. Wednesday at 7 works ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol guess I’ll go get a powerball ticket then 😉 Looking forward to it cutie. Drop me your number and I’ll send you a text. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number) ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, it’s Malik from Hinge",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So glad you clarified which Malik",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " There are thousands of new Maliks texting me daily, it’s insane",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Damn that sounds amazing for you",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Luckily the best one is finally here to save the day. You normally a night owl?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, though I’m still a little jet lagged from Germany",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I see so what’s the story? Are you visiting or did you recently move here from Germany This message goes into the ‘get to know you’ stage and provides the girl with comfort and connection. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I recently moved back here from Germany. I have already lived in New York for two years before that, but as an au pair",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ah just in time for our romance, lovely. Are you still working as an au pair or have you found a new gig this time around? This message keeps the tone of the conversation light hearted and fun by implying that she moved there to pursue him romantically. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry, I was a little distracted today",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not working as an au pair anymore, I’m here on a student visa",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s cool, looking forward to hearing more about that. Still good for tonight?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, still good. 7 still good?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yep 7 works perfect! Hope you survive all the Maliks texting you til then 😉",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I muted them for today. It’s a special day",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Running a bit late, will be there close to 7:10",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay. Hopefully nobody is going to propose to me by then. I might be taken",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Prepared to tackle someone at the altar",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s hot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": ". It is a good idea to use some kind of callback humor that relates to the date. ",
"content": "Hey, I had fun last night",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I did, thank you ☺️ hope you have a good night also",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
36 | [
"Oh no, made (her name) shy.",
"I’m sure you appreciate a bit of forwardness",
"Lost the sexy accent unfortunately lol",
"You + me = more than friends 😏"
] | They matched on Tinder. The student messaged the girl first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You seem like the perfect mix of cute & trouble ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Called it 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cool. I’d know just how to handle you 😏 This kind of message with a sexual undertone can work well on some girls. It can be a good way to screen early on if the girl is DTF. However, this girl ghosts for a couple of days so he has to reopen her. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is one way, in this context, that works as a way to reopen. ",
"content": "Oh no, made (her name) shy.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " More like threw me off",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works because it is true, most girls do appreciate a man who is forward.",
"content": "I’m sure you appreciate a bit of forwardness",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do respect it yes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Glad to hear",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you from here originally",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I am",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you native to here too?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m from Italy originally :) moved when I was young",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wow that’s cool ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a great way to keep the ‘get to know you’ part of the conversation fun and flirty. ",
"content": "Lost the sexy accent unfortunately lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So what are you looking for on here",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For friends",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to keep the conversation fun and also to pass her test as no one is on Tinder to meet friends.",
"content": "You + me = more than friends 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not as cute as our date will be The aim of this message is to seed the date.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Smooth 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ;) do you like wine",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do enjoy wine 🍷 ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Depends, White or red?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sweet red",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay then we can split a bottle lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What evenings are you free coming up cutie",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I got Thursday evening open",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect. Let’s do Thurs, my lofty place, say 8 pm. Sound good?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes/ no As she has ghosted again and not showed a huge amount of investment throughout the interaction, this message is a non-needy, low investment message to get her attention again. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d rather meet somewhere public first, not that you’re a serial killer or something lol. Just would make me more comfortable ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh, I forgot my axe upstate. No killing this month 😜 The aim of this message is to keep the conversation light hearted and put her at ease. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I’m down. Light drinks at a bar first then wine at mine if you’re more comfortable. Deal? ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes 🙌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cool, shoot me your number",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think you forgot to hit send , babe This is an example of another message that can be useful when a girl doesn’t respond. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
37 | [
"Glad to hear. It was great, not too packed. Looking nice and fit for our date” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date",
"feeling spontaneous?"
] | They matched on Tinder and she messages him first. This is a great sign as it shows investment from the girl. The whole interaction took place on Tinder, no number close. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hello! How are you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey cutie ;) doing amazing just got out of the gym, hbu?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m good thank you ☺️ how was the gym",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date",
"content": "Glad to hear. It was great, not too packed. Looking nice and fit for our date” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any from of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I see you’re good at giving massages 💆♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I am! How do you feel about massages?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I love massages 😍",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s good! Well perhaps I can give you one, but only on one condition. The aim of this message is to draw the girl in and get her curious about you. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s the condition?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That I lay in the splits whilst you do?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perhaps! As long as you can handle the side effects ;) This message has a sexual undertone and gives the girl the opportunity to interpret that as a sexual innuendo or be coy. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh I think I can 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " is a great way to get a girl to meet, especially if you want to meet her that day. Most girls like to think they are spontaneous so they will usually respond positively. ",
"content": "feeling spontaneous?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Spontaneous?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mhm, you free tonight?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could be 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Only 1 mile away 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh we close",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Very close",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could be free in about an hour or so 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That could work",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not sure what my little sisters plans are",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Think we were going to head out for food and maybe a couple of drinks shortly",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gotcha",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah I just asked her and she was like can we go get some dins first",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tbf I did pass out and nap a few hours ago because I was feeling a bit icky",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You free in a couple of hours?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Otherwise another day can work x",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m going out around 10:30 so if it’s before then that’s cool. Otherwise another day works best",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I will keep you posted",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your living situation? You live alone or are we gonna put on a show for some housemates?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cool. I have roommates but it’s a big place, so we’ll have plenty of privacy ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay so we’re going to get some drinks and a little snacky snack",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your address so I can come see you after",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Watch my dumb ass get lost 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lmao it’s hard to miss it’s on the corner",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay we’re having a drink and some food",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m horny and want a back rub 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mm then our time together will be just what you need ;) It is clear from the girl’s previous messages that she is DTF so all the student needs to do is keep it simple.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mmm I’m so full of food",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ironically they forgot the sausage in my gnocchi and I was like oh girl it’s okay I’ll have my sausage tonight",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha that’s the spirit. Hope you saved some room 😉",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We’re just having another drink then I’ll walk over to yours",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good. See you in a bit cutie ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just paying now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Should be at yours shortly 🙂",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
38 | [
"When you’re the small spoon, I’d wrap my arm around your waist and get you close to me while your booty warms me up when I hold you tight. Play with your hair and pull it to the side to kiss on the back of your neck",
"Pro cuddler for a reason ;) I’ll be sure to include that to our romantic date’s agenda as well."
] | They match on Bumble so the girl has to message first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey 👋 what’s up?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey Lucie. Just came back from a run with my dog. Tired him out and he’s passed out on the couch lol and you? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " A tired pup is the best pup",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mine is passed out next to me too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you stealing some cuddles from him/her while asleep",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Of course!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " One of the best parts of having a dog ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good. Then I can trust your cuddling abilities. I’m a sucker for a good cuddle",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For sure",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I have to tell you… I’m a little spoon hog. I never like taking my fair turn being the big spoon",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Should probably know that op front…",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " With your height, I wouldn’t give you any other role to play.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to create and encourage the girl to imagine a scenario in which she is enjoying spending time with you.",
"content": "When you’re the small spoon, I’d wrap my arm around your waist and get you close to me while your booty warms me up when I hold you tight. Play with your hair and pull it to the side to kiss on the back of your neck",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like you definitely know how to cuddle",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps the conversation light hearted and fun while also seeding the date.",
"content": "Pro cuddler for a reason ;) I’ll be sure to include that to our romantic date’s agenda as well.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Assuming you charm me during the dinner and drinks portion… then yes, I want to see these cuddle skills for myself",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can be very charming ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect. Shoot me your number for charming each other and potential cuddles romance arrangement purposes",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
39 | [
"Fuckin amazing!! Just got back from the gym after a killer workout. Looking sharp for our date. You?” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date",
"Haha we should celebrate your freedom sometime soon then ;)"
] | They matched on Hinge. She liked his photo. He messaged first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like your style 👌",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thank you ☺️ I like youre too 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How’s your Sunday going?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date",
"content": "Fuckin amazing!! Just got back from the gym after a killer workout. Looking sharp for our date. You?” The aim of this message is to seed the date. After telling a girl you have done any form of exercise, you can seed the date by saying “Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great 👏 🥰 I’m home, I started packing my things to move 🙌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I decided to live alone, I can’t deal with roommates anymore",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not lucky 🍀 haha 😆",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the date by using her moving as a reason to get together and celebrate. ",
"content": "Haha we should celebrate your freedom sometime soon then ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Of course!!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha 😆",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Packing and drinking 😬",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and some romance back and forth never hurt celebrations",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nope",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where do you live?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Brickell. You’re in Deerfield?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I am",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not top far. I’ll be sure to throw in a relaxing shoulder massage and pack extra charm for the celebration",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For you driving to Brickell ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For sure 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t mind to drive",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shoot me your number for romance arrangement purposes then ;)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My number is (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
40 | [
"Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date",
"Look at us. Preparing for our romantic date we haven’t even organized yet",
"Don’t worry. I’ll look sexy af and irresistible too. And I’ll be sure to pack extra charm in my pockets.",
"Interesting phone number",
"I deleted my instagram last month to focus on my business. Too much distraction. We can do phone number"
] | They matched on Hinge. The student commented on her photo in Russian because she mentioned that she was russian. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Privet Tatyana",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Privet! Ti govorish po Rysski?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No haha I dated a Russian last year. I could only learn and remember that word",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How is your wednesday going",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Working! You?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " or “looking sharp for our date",
"content": "Looking nice and fit for our date” or “looking sharp for our date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha I am on my way to the gym!! 😂 😂 😂 😂 gonna make sure I am ready too 💪💪💪💪",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message introduces the ‘we’ frame implying they are doing something together or have something in common. This is an effective flirting technique as it creates a sense of closeness which provides comfort to the girl.",
"content": "Look at us. Preparing for our romantic date we haven’t even organized yet",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Now I need to get my manicure, pedicure, hair done ✔️ Shave lol get something sexy to wear god dammit so much shit to do lol 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps the interaction light hearted and fun.",
"content": "Don’t worry. I’ll look sexy af and irresistible too. And I’ll be sure to pack extra charm in my pockets.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahahaha Deal",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ever been to (venue)?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes 🙌 love it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s where we’ll have our romantic date then. Shoot me your number ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahah lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works well when you ask for the number and she refuses but in a playful way.",
"content": "Interesting phone number",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have Instagram? Mine is (girl’s instagram)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The number is better to get than the instagram because it requires more compliance from the girl. This is because there will usually be a lot of guys in a girl’s dm’s on instagram but not many will have her phone number so you will stand out. ",
"content": "I deleted my instagram last month to focus on my business. Too much distraction. We can do phone number",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Or carrier pigeons will do? This is another example of a good message to send if she refuses or ignores you number request.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You funny I like that 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
41 | [] | They matched on Bumble so the girl must message first. She sends him a gif of two people saying ‘HAYYY’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " HAYYY",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey there ;) Was waiting for you to message me",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The time is now hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Better late than never! How’s your humpday treating you?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great 😘 Can’t complain, life is good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Even better now that we’re talking?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Of course 😝😝",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You leave at the end of April?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Then we only have time for a short and intense romance ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😅 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Maybe u can convince me to stay",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As long as you can handle a relaxing massage accompanied by multiple screaming orgasms",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We shall see",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If I can handle it 😇",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you like wine?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Then we should split a bottle sometime soon on my romantic balcony while my dog entertains us for the evening ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Have any plans this evening? 😝",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " None. Feeling spontaneous? 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Always",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shoot me your number and lets make something magical happen tonight",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Texted",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
42 | [
"I’m not the best at math but you could replace my X and I won’t ask Y",
"Lmao well I’ve never tried it, so I guess we’ll find out together 🫢",
"Aha ok off to a good start 😅",
"You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Aha thanks girl 😘",
"And me too, trying to have some fun and going with the flow",
"Lmfoa is this LinkedIn?? 😏",
"Shoot me your number, if we vibe maybe we can get together sometime this week ♥️",
"Hey you 👋",
"Just getting back from a nice walk hbu? (How about you?)",
"Aha it’s soo nice out. You working from home?",
"Oh that sounds so chill good for you!",
"I’m in digital marketing aha but enough about work. What do you do for fun 😂",
"Yeah I love exploring and seeing new places, getting rowdy with friends and playing music. But also enjoy taking it easy aha I have a cuddly side to me 💁♂️",
"Hope you can handle being teased a bit 💁♂️",
"I mean sounds like it could be a good time with the right company 😈",
"Aha as long as you’re a good cuddler",
"when are you available? 😘",
"Love the confidence",
"Oh so like right now??",
"Ou wanna stream the hockey game and chill?",
"Sure, I can just come for like 8 👍 what’s your address?",
"Sounds good! 😘",
"Here!",
"Aha had such a good time thanks for having me 😘"
] | Matched on Hinge. She liked one of his prompts. The prompt said ‘Believe it or not, I probably have more tattoos than you’. She also messaged him first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hi",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m not the best at math but you could replace my X and I won’t ask Y",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 Omg how well does that work on women 😝",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to keep the conversation fun and light hearted in the early stages of the interaction.",
"content": "Lmao well I’ve never tried it, so I guess we’ll find out together 🫢",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well it definitely got me laughing 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha ok off to a good start 😅",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to check her intentions and what she wants out of the interaction.",
"content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nothing too serious I’m just here for a good time. This message can be interpreted as her looking for and one night stand (ONS).",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re easy on the eyes too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha thanks girl 😘",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message matches her energy. It doesn’t scare her off by saying he’s looking for something serious but it is also not explicitly looking for a ONS. It is deliberately vague.",
"content": "And me too, trying to have some fun and going with the flow",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Awesome :)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So tell me about yourself",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds like an interview question but you get the point 🤪",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message teases her boring ‘interview style’ question.",
"content": "Lmfoa is this LinkedIn?? 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aren’t you linking in an app so technically? 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys that he has options and can be picky when it comes to choosing women by saying ‘if we vibe’.",
"content": "Shoot me your number, if we vibe maybe we can get together sometime this week ♥️",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha sure (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey you 👋",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hi Hunter what’s up?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " When you get the phone number, it is usually better to go back into vibing instead of going straight for the date. ",
"content": "Just getting back from a nice walk hbu? (How about you?)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nice! Just got off a work meeting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The day looks super nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Aha it’s soo nice out. You working from home?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m an MBA student so I’m interning from home for now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you - what do you do? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh that sounds so chill good for you!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to break away from the boring small talk and keep it fun and playful.",
"content": "I’m in digital marketing aha but enough about work. What do you do for fun 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah it’s good - keeps me busy which is nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha ok fair enough",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m an adrenaline junkie generally - roller coasters, skydiving etc. but on a regular day I like hiking, doing dinner and drinks with friends, love concerts",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Honestly I’m down for pretty much anything",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Travel was a big one pre-pandemic - you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I love exploring and seeing new places, getting rowdy with friends and playing music. But also enjoy taking it easy aha I have a cuddly side to me 💁♂️",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know whether to be insulted about the bookworm comment or not 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " haha me too! I will happily spend a day in bed on the weekend",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hope you can handle being teased a bit 💁♂️",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message injects a flirty vibe to the interaction. ",
"content": "I mean sounds like it could be a good time with the right company 😈",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s always a good time with the right company 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha as long as you’re a good cuddler",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "when are you available? 😘",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m the greatest cuddler",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha any time essentially - you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Love the confidence",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message teases her.",
"content": "Oh so like right now??",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha ok any time in the evening",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have a medical blog to write for today but I’m free post 7",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ou wanna stream the hockey game and chill?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m down",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Come to mine. I don’t know how long the blog will take me to write so it gives me a little bit of extra time this way",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sure, I can just come for like 8 👍 what’s your address?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Address)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’ll have to call me when you get here so I can let you up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds good! 😘",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " See you tonight 😊",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Here!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " coming down",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Last night was fun but I’m sore as a mofo right now 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha had such a good time thanks for having me 😘",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Any time",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For that dicking down you’re always welcome here 🤪",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
43 | [
"We should recreate your third photo. I’ll be the ATV",
"Lmoa (laughing my ass off) Honestly it was just too easy",
"Be cool if you did though. I’ve always wanted a sugar momma 😂",
"All of your vacation photos lead me to believe you’re not joking",
"I’m glad you don’t need me to pay your rent 😅 But if you’re thinking a naughty week in mexico I think we’d have some fun ;)",
"Um noo I’m offering to let you bring me",
"What can I say (her name) I’m not like other guys",
"You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Ohh so like fwb (friends with benefits) 😅",
"Aha I’m looking for someone chill and fun, nothing super serious either but going with the flow. Just a good vibe 🙂",
"I’m into kinky girls though and lowkey you look so innocent",
"Lol prove me wrong (her name) 😈",
"What’s your snap?",
"I’m here to fill something girl and it’s not your pockets or your ego. Send it over",
"Lmao thank god I’m not desperate enough to pay 😂",
"Nah but my gut tells me you don’t want a bitch boy anyway",
"Snap"
] | They match on Tinder. The student messages her first. In her third photo, she is in a bikini riding an all-terrain vehicle (ATV). There are a lot of shit tests in this interaction but the key to passing shit tests is to reverse it on her/ flip the frame and stay strong and confident. | [
{
"coach_comment": " Observational openers like this, which comment on one of the girl’s photos are the most effective when it comes to response rate.",
"content": "We should recreate your third photo. I’ll be the ATV",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If I had a dollar of every sexual ATV line I received on this app",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (gif of someone throwing money)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmoa (laughing my ass off) Honestly it was just too easy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps the conversation fun and playful.",
"content": "Be cool if you did though. I’ve always wanted a sugar momma 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m more of a sugar baby",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps it playful, flirty and teases/ pokes fun at the girl. ",
"content": "All of your vacation photos lead me to believe you’re not joking",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey. I have a masters degree and a full time job. Vacations were all me. Any sugaring ventures (if there were any, not saying there are) would be purely for other naughty reasons.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This flips the frame back on the girl by keeping it fun and flirty. ",
"content": "I’m glad you don’t need me to pay your rent 😅 But if you’re thinking a naughty week in mexico I think we’d have some fun ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You may not have been the first to offer me a week in Mexico 😇",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message shuts down any notion that he is offering to take her to Mexico and reestablishes the flirtatious vibe.",
"content": "Um noo I’m offering to let you bring me",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Damnit",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not used to being on the other side of the transaction",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Was not expecting that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What can I say (her name) I’m not like other guys",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Now that he has passed her tests, he wants to draw her in and get her intentions",
"content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Looking to meet new people and just see where things go!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nothing serious necessarily but I wouldn’t shy away from a real connection",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ohh so like fwb (friends with benefits) 😅",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Gif of a girl rolling her eyes)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha I’m looking for someone chill and fun, nothing super serious either but going with the flow. Just a good vibe 🙂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is designed to get a response from her, forcing her to prove that she is naughty/ kinky enough to go on a date with him.",
"content": "I’m into kinky girls though and lowkey you look so innocent",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " LOL no. You’re wild if you think you can judge someone’s kinkiness by the way they look.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lol prove me wrong (her name) 😈",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s your snap?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If you had experience dealing with kinky girls you’d know my snap comes at a price",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys confidence and self assuredness.",
"content": "I’m here to fill something girl and it’s not your pockets or your ego. Send it over",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It won’t work then, I thrive off of emptying wallets and certain body parts",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " All while my ego and vanity are being stroked",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sorry dude",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys that he is not like all the other guys simping in her dm’s and that he is on her level",
"content": "Lmao thank god I’m not desperate enough to pay 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Fair. But are you thirsty enough to satisfy my ego?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Nah but my gut tells me you don’t want a bitch boy anyway",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Guilty",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Snap",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Sends her snapchat)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
44 | [
"You better be a good little spoon",
"Your confidence is a solid 2/10",
"But I love the honesty",
"Okok I see you Shirley 👀",
"You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Lmfao (laughing my fucking ass off)",
"Good sex and if I fall in love that’s chill too",
"One can always dream",
"Haha shoot me your number if you’re down to split a bottle of wine sometime"
] | They matched on Hinge. He messaged her first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You better be a good little spoon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Demands this early on haha can’t guarantee the ‘good’ part",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is supposed to tease the girl. ",
"content": "Your confidence is a solid 2/10",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But I love the honesty",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Who said that had to mean worse? Haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Okok I see you Shirley 👀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to understand her intentions for being on the dating app.",
"content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not sure maybe my soulmate, maybe my next story for the girls night haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmfao (laughing my fucking ass off)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a very bold message that communicates his intentions for being on the app. It is fun and playful while also getting across his message.",
"content": "Good sex and if I fall in love that’s chill too",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Isn’t that a goal in life? Haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "One can always dream",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha shoot me your number if you’re down to split a bottle of wine sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Life sucks if you don’t have any dreams haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah sure haha (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
45 | [
"Come have a drink and let’s see if we vibe",
"I have plans tomo (tomorrow)",
"(his address)",
"Yeah obviously 😂” This is a good way to respond to the ‘are you a murderer/ serial killer?’ questions. The sarcastic response communicates that he isn’t a murderer and that the question is ridiculous. Another good response to this question is “Don’t worry, no more murder was my new years resolution"
] | They matched on Bumble so the girl must message first. This joins the conversation part way through the interaction. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Come have a drink and let’s see if we vibe",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about tm (tomorrow)?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I have plans tomo (tomorrow)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol okay where do you live",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "(his address)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you a murderer lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have to ask",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good way to respond to the ‘are you a murderer/ serial killer?’ questions. The sarcastic response communicates that he isn’t a murderer and that the question is ridiculous. Another good response to this question is “Don’t worry, no more murder was my new years resolution",
"content": "Yeah obviously 😂” This is a good way to respond to the ‘are you a murderer/ serial killer?’ questions. The sarcastic response communicates that he isn’t a murderer and that the question is ridiculous. Another good response to this question is “Don’t worry, no more murder was my new years resolution",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha okay i’ll be there in like 20",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
46 | [
"I feel like making a lawyer your wifey is such a bad idea",
"But damn you have me tempted",
"Did you get banned or something",
"I have a thing for girls who break the rules",
"I can’t imagine leaving Brazil for snowy Canada 😂",
"But ur (you’re) cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Yeah I feel that",
"I’m looking to meet new people and have fun, just going with the flow",
"Shoot me your number and maybe we can have wine sometime"
] | The matched on Tinder. He messaged her first. From her profile, the student knows that she is a lawyer. | [
{
"coach_comment": " Observational openers like this are usually the most effective way to get a response from the girl.",
"content": "I feel like making a lawyer your wifey is such a bad idea",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But damn you have me tempted",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha well, I’m not practicing here in Canada, cause I can’t, so technically I’m not a lawyer anymore",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So that’s not a problem I guess",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Did you get banned or something",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message adds a very light flirtatious element to the interaction. ",
"content": "I have a thing for girls who break the rules",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha no 😂 it’s because laws are completely different in Brazil and here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And I’m sorry to disappoint but I’m not one of those",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I can’t imagine leaving Brazil for snowy Canada 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message asks for her intentions for being on the dating app. ",
"content": "But ur (you’re) cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha well, it wasn’t easy but the economy and marketplace are better here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not looking for anything specific, just meeting people and seeing how it goes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I feel that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message communicates what he is looking for on the dating app. This is a very tame way to communicate this message.",
"content": "I’m looking to meet new people and have fun, just going with the flow",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Shoot me your number and maybe we can have wine sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure I would like that. It’s (phone number). ",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
47 | [
"Hey cutie",
"Aha yeah it’s me",
"How’s it going 🙂",
"Wow absolutely love that for you Nat",
"Currently trying to get a tan on my balcony so I’m not as pale as a ghost 😂",
"Are you one of those people who wears a suit on the top half and boxers on the bottom",
"Haha damn that’s hot",
"(Sent photo of the view from his balcony)",
"I don’t think I’ll ever get sick of this view",
"Haha yeah it’s such a vibe",
"Were you thinking of coming right after work or",
"a bit later",
"Do you hate hockey with a burning passion?",
"Hahaha ok",
"My team is playing for the Stanley cup tonight, so I will probably stream the game. Want to come for like 8 and we can watch it together & have a drink?"
] | They matched on a dating app. This conversation takes place after he got her phone number. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey cutie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hi 🙂 Hunter?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha yeah it’s me",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How’s it going 🙂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just working 🙃 How are you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wow absolutely love that for you Nat",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Currently trying to get a tan on my balcony so I’m not as pale as a ghost 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That sounds nice",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m working from home today so haven’t stepped foot outside yet",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps the conversation light, fun and engaging.",
"content": "Are you one of those people who wears a suit on the top half and boxers on the bottom",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I pretty much just stay in my bathrobe all day",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and go to meetings like that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Unashamed haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha damn that’s hot",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Sending photos to girls can be very useful in an interaction. It can build comfort, create connection, make you seem more real than words on a screen. It can also be used to communicate your personality and/ or values. This example shows the girl something he has. From that photo she can infer that he has money if he is living in an apartment like that. ",
"content": "(Sent photo of the view from his balcony)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I don’t think I’ll ever get sick of this view",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " wow yeah your really scored with that place",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wish I had a balcony too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha yeah it’s such a vibe",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Were you thinking of coming right after work or",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "a bit later",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What time works for you? I’m good for any time after 5:30",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Playful exaggeration can be a great way to communicate in a more fun/ flirty way. It is more engaging than platonic conversation. ",
"content": "Do you hate hockey with a burning passion?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No I don’t hate it haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just don’t keep up with it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hahaha ok",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "My team is playing for the Stanley cup tonight, so I will probably stream the game. Want to come for like 8 and we can watch it together & have a drink?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good to me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your address? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (sends his address)",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
48 | [
"Ketchup on eggs is elite",
"I’m willing to die on that hill",
"It’s okay, I don’t kiss my friends (her name) 😉",
"Ahaha only if I like you",
"So bring your a-game 👀",
"Lmfao you’re cute, What are you looking for on here?",
"Haha yeah I’m in the same boat",
"Keeping things fun and going with the flow",
"Looks like we’re not far too",
"You should come over for a quick vibe check 💁♂️"
] | They matched on Hinge. He replied to her prompt which said ‘My most controversial opinion is… Ketchup does not belong on eggs’. | [
{
"coach_comment": " Observational openers like this, which comment on one of the girl’s photos are the most effective when it comes to response rate.",
"content": "Ketchup on eggs is elite",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m willing to die on that hill",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh no!!! Not you too haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not sure we can be friends 😂 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to introduce a flirtatious vive into the interaction early on. ",
"content": "It’s okay, I don’t kiss my friends (her name) 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " LOL so confident that you’re going to get a kiss already?? 🙃",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Ahaha only if I like you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " These messages steal the frame and make it appear that he is the prize and the girl is chasing him.",
"content": "So bring your a-game 👀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha I was going to say the same thing ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " This will be interesting 😜",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmfao you’re cute, What are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol straight to it eh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Uhm honestly I’m not putting pressure on anything right now and kinda just going with the flow",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If it just so happens to turn into something more then great, and if not then at least I had fun 🤷🏻♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hbu??",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha yeah I’m in the same boat",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Keeping things fun and going with the flow",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Cool glad we’re on the same page and didn’t scare you away haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Looks like we’re not far too",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You should come over for a quick vibe check 💁♂️",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha I can’t tonight but I am free tomorrow afternoon",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
49 | [
"Haha do you even have one?",
"Shame, I was looking forward to exploring your body looking for them 💁♂️",
"I love the confidence",
"What are you looking for on here (her name)?",
"I’m going to Asia in a few weeks",
"Are you dead set on a relationship, or are you down to hang out this week?"
] | They matched on Hinge. She began the interaction by Commenting on one of his prompts which said ‘One thing people don’t know about me is… I probably have more tattoos than you’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You probably do have more tatts than me but how bout you show me? 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This teases her about being innocent.",
"content": "Haha do you even have one?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No but you could probably talk me into it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message introduces a sexual frame without being too explicit.",
"content": "Shame, I was looking forward to exploring your body looking for them 💁♂️",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Doesn’t mean u can’t. Maybe u’ll find something u like",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I love the confidence",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is to establish if she is looking for something serious or casual on the dating app. ",
"content": "What are you looking for on here (her name)?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not sure tbh (to be honest). I think ideally a relationship but it depends on the person I guess. You?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m going to Asia in a few weeks",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Are you dead set on a relationship, or are you down to hang out this week?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh that’s soon. I’m not really interested in anything super short term and it sounds like you’ll be gone for a long time and don’t plan to keep in touch.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Eh, A date couldn’t hurt. How’s friday?",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
50 | [
"Come cuddle",
"Wow how dare you",
"But we could probably make that work",
"Yeahh baby"
] | They have had their first date. It went well. The student is trying to get a second date with the girl. You don’t need to constantly be texting back and forth. Keep it simple and organize logistics. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Come cuddle",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wish",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m busy tonight",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You free tomorrow?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wow how dare you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But we could probably make that work",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yea?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tomorrow night then?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeahh baby",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
51 | [
"I can’t tell if you’re innocent or an absolute baddie",
"Lmfoa nooo it was my favorite one 😅 💀",
"Ok you send me your bets line then",
"You can’t tell me to improve my lines then follow up with this ^",
"Lmfao no why?",
"I mean your mouth isn’t the only place I’m trying to put my tongue 😌",
"Aha you’re cute, shoot me your number if you’re down to chill sometime"
] | They match on Hinge. He messages her first. Standard pick up line. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I can’t tell if you’re innocent or an absolute baddie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I already heard that phrase her",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think you have to improve your lines",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmfoa nooo it was my favorite one 😅 💀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ok you send me your bets line then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You can’t tell me to improve my lines then follow up with this ^",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I heard that you have two tongues in your mouth is it true?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmfao no why?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So you want to have? 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know if you kiss with tongue but I’m Brazilian I’m sorry 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Some people don’t like",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I mean your mouth isn’t the only place I’m trying to put my tongue 😌",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wow",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " HAHAHAHA",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " that one was good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You got me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have instagram? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha you’re cute, shoot me your number if you’re down to chill sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " not social media then?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ❤️🔥",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
52 | [
"I can’t tell if you’re innocent or and absolute baddie",
"More than you could possibly imagine",
"Do you want me to send my excel spreadsheet over?",
"Hmm I don’t think Bumble supports csv files",
"Might need your number instead"
] | The match on Bumble so the girl must message first. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Howdy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I can’t tell if you’re innocent or and absolute baddie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol how often have you used that on?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a good way in which to respond when a girl asks how many times you use a certain line. Agreeing/ exaggerating in your response can deflect from the fact that you have used it many times. ",
"content": "More than you could possibly imagine",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are the stats on its success?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This exaggeration keeps the interaction playful.",
"content": "Do you want me to send my excel spreadsheet over?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That would probably be the most efficient way",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hmm I don’t think Bumble supports csv files",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Might need your number instead",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol smooth",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll give you my number since you won the bet of whether you have more tattoos than me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
53 | [
"Colgate or crest?",
"hmmm true but I’d rather give you oral b",
"Aha so glad you have a sense of humor",
"You’re hot, what are you looking for on here?",
"Sounds like you’re ready for a hot girl summer eh 😉",
"Damn I love your energy",
"Okk so don’t be weirded out, but me and my girlfriend are looking for someone chill and open minded to just grab drinks, no expectations and just see where things go. Would you be totally opposed?",
"Aha yeah I feel like we’d have a pretty fun time, wanna shoot me your number and we can go from there?"
] | They match on Tinder and the aim is to set up a threesome. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Colgate or crest?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Colgate? I suppose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This play on words introduces a sexual component to the interaction early on.",
"content": "hmmm true but I’d rather give you oral b",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ohhhhh lawd hahahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like that one it’s funny",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message qualifies the girl which is okay to do from time to time. ",
"content": "Aha so glad you have a sense of humor",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message gets her intentions. ",
"content": "You’re hot, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nothing serious! Just someone to waste a little time with I suppose, I just got out of a long long relationship so I’ve never even seen or expected to use tinder hahahaha but decided I’d give it a shot 🤷🏻♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps it light and fun while adding a flirtatious vibe to the interaction. ",
"content": "Sounds like you’re ready for a hot girl summer eh 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As my bio states I’m a certified milf, so I guess more of a hot mom summer 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Damn I love your energy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why thank you 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The phrase ‘would you be totally opposed?’ makes the girl reassess her view. If you ask her if she would like to do something she can say no very easily but to be totally opposed to something is a very different question and requires a more definitive stance. This is why it is effective because there are some thing women may not like to do but are not totally opposed to doing.",
"content": "Okk so don’t be weirded out, but me and my girlfriend are looking for someone chill and open minded to just grab drinks, no expectations and just see where things go. Would you be totally opposed?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmmmm it’s something I could be interested in",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha yeah I feel like we’d have a pretty fun time, wanna shoot me your number and we can go from there?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Absolutely!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number) ",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
54 | [
"What did chocolate timbits ever do to you 😤",
"Not gonna lie so many dirty lines came to mind when you said sour cream glazed and it took every ounce of strength for me to keep this family friendly",
"Glad you like it glazed cause I’m tyranny fill you like a Boston cream",
"Honestly you look super innocent but I’m kind of glad you’re not",
"Lmoa love it, what are you looking for on her (her name)?",
"I feel ya! Nothing super serious honestly someone down to chill and have good sex once in a while would be pretty nice",
"Ideally you 👀",
"What’s your number lmao"
] | They matched on Tinder. She mentioned that she didn’t like chocolate timbits in her bio so that is what he used to open her with. | [
{
"coach_comment": " Observational openers like this are usually the most effective way to get a response from the girl.",
"content": "What did chocolate timbits ever do to you 😤",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s all about the sour cream glazed life 🙏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message allows the girl to open the interaction up to a more sexual and intimate thread of conversation. The student hasn’t told her any of the things that came up in his mind but she can either imagine what he said or give consent to talk about a more sexual topic.",
"content": "Not gonna lie so many dirty lines came to mind when you said sour cream glazed and it took every ounce of strength for me to keep this family friendly",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I mean missed opportunity I was kind of setting you up there sooo",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Give me your best line",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Glad you like it glazed cause I’m tyranny fill you like a Boston cream",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I love that. Not gonna lie was expecting something a little spicier but I’ll take it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This assumption based on her previous message continues the sexual and flirtatious vibe. ",
"content": "Honestly you look super innocent but I’m kind of glad you’re not",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can’t give it all away with the pictures ya know",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gotta keep some of it a mystery 🥰",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message finds out her intentions for being on the dating app.",
"content": "Lmoa love it, what are you looking for on her (her name)?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just going with the flow, no expectations just vibes you know. Hbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " When girls are vague with their answer about what they’re looking for on a dating app or when they say things like ‘going with the flow’ or ‘no expectations’ it usually means they just want to hook up. That is why making his answer more sexual works in this scenario.",
"content": "I feel ya! Nothing super serious honestly someone down to chill and have good sex once in a while would be pretty nice",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you doing this weekend?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " From the context of the previous messages, we know that this girl is okay with a sexual frame. That is why this message works and she doesn’t ghost. ",
"content": "Ideally you 👀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s your number lmao",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
55 | [
"I would so make out with you",
"As long as you can help me fix my daddy issues ofc",
"Is it bad that I think some therapist role play would be hot af?",
"You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Honestly same just looking for a fwb (friends with benefits) to have some casual fun this summer",
"Aha sure let’s call it that 😅",
"You have a phone number?"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first. It says in her profile that she majored in psychology so he uses that in the conversation. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I would so make out with you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " that’s crazy i was thinking the same thing!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message sets up a playful roleplay in the conversation which can be very useful when messaging as it can make conversation more fun, playful and engaging. ",
"content": "As long as you can help me fix my daddy issues ofc",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Deal! After all i went into psych to fix my mommy issues without having to pay for therapy 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message opens up a sexual frame. ",
"content": "Is it bad that I think some therapist role play would be hot af?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not at all, you’re just giving me practice for my future clients…in a way!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message finds out her intentions for being on the dating app.",
"content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thank you i was thinking the same about you 🙃",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nothing too serious tbh, wbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " In this message, he matches her energy in his reply to the same question. He can infer from her answer that she is looking for a hook up and he says he wants something similar in a fwb type situation. ",
"content": "Honestly same just looking for a fwb (friends with benefits) to have some casual fun this summer",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " same same",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Having yourself a hot girl summer? 🙃",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha sure let’s call it that 😅",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You have a phone number?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah! (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
56 | [
"I would so make out with you",
"Would you be into that?",
"Oh I’m intrigued",
"Lmao kind of a dream to have a lil ranch but also not looking to settle down rn so I’m torn",
"Not even gonna buy me a drink first?"
] | Context: | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I would so make out with you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So does this make me the prey to your hunter?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Would you be into that?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " as long as we can take this hunting trip down to texas",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh I’m intrigued",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s where I want to settle down 😭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " so you’re either in or i have to find me a new hunter",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmao kind of a dream to have a lil ranch but also not looking to settle down rn so I’m torn",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yess. Couple acres",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So I’ll see you at the airport monday morning",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Not even gonna buy me a drink first?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " At the airport",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
57 | [
"Oh most definitely more than you",
"I have big pieces it feels weird to count them lol",
"Wanna bet",
"Hmm what do I get when I beat you",
"Winner gets head if you’re so confident"
] | They matched on Tinder. She messages him first in response to part of his bio which says ‘I bet I have mere tattoos that you’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " pffft how many tats do u have",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m seeing none 🤔",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh most definitely more than you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " gimme a number",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I have big pieces it feels weird to count them lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i win lmao",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wanna bet",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " very much so",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hmm what do I get when I beat you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " you won’t so i guess you can pick",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Winner gets head if you’re so confident",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (sends a gif of a man saying ‘All right. That’s it. You’re done’)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shoot me your number already",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " my phone number or my tattoo number?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " sorry i’m dumb 🤣 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d rather find out about your tats in person tbh",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
58 | [
"Solid 8.5 indeed 👀",
"You tryna call me daddy so we can celebrate it together?",
"Aha love that",
"You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Yeah I feel that",
"Looking to meet someone chill and have some fun this summer, possibly a fwb type scenario if it feels right",
"Aha yesss you’re speaking my language just please be a good cuddler 😉",
"What’s your number?"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first. She said she had ‘solid 8.5 cooking skills’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Solid 8.5 indeed 👀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha ;) what’s up? Any Father’s Day weekend plans?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You tryna call me daddy so we can celebrate it together?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahaha exactly",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha love that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just looking for someone I vibe with no expectations! Hby?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I feel that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Looking to meet someone chill and have some fun this summer, possibly a fwb type scenario if it feels right",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like that, I want someone that will go to a jays game with me but also cuddle",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha yesss you’re speaking my language just please be a good cuddler 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s your number?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number) 🙂",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
59 | [
"Honestly so am I but somehow never stopped me 😂",
"Shame that our tattoo tour is gonna be one sided though 😫",
"Wow 10/10 texter over here 😂",
"But at least you’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"Aha yeah I feel that, nothing super serious just looking to meet new people and have fun this summer 🙂",
"Hmm that depends",
"Are you a red or white wine girl?",
"Good answer 😌",
"Why don’t you shoot me your number and maybe we can split a bottle of red sometime"
] | They matched on Tinder. She messages him first in response to part of his bio which says ‘I bet I have mere tattoos that you’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " you’d be right about the tats, I have a needle phobia 🥴",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Honestly so am I but somehow never stopped me 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s impressive tbh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Shame that our tattoo tour is gonna be one sided though 😫",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not complaining, I love learning about other peoples tattoos and the stories behind them",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Too bad you’re gonna have to be a bit more creative to explore my body",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wow 10/10 texter over here 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But at least you’re cute, what are you looking for on here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " didn't really know how to respond 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not sure what I’m looking for, kinda just meeting new people, hbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Aha yeah I feel that, nothing super serious just looking to meet new people and have fun this summer 🙂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s cute",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do I make the list of people you’re looking to meet?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hmm that depends",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Are you a red or white wine girl?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Definitely red",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " White wine gives me a headache 😞",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good answer 😌",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Why don’t you shoot me your number and maybe we can split a bottle of red sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
60 | [
"Haha you look like the innocent type who would never get one",
"That was unexpected",
"Any other secret sides I should know about you? 👀",
"Haha you’re cute",
"WHat are you looking for on here Nat?",
"Yeah I feel that, keeping things casual and fun for now and going with the flow",
"Where are you though? I just moved downtown",
"Ou nice I’m just at (location)",
"We’re super close",
"Haha you wanna come do a quick vibe check in?",
"Ok cool shoot me your number and we can get together 🙂"
] | They matched on Tinder. She messages him first in response to part of his bio which says ‘I bet I have mere tattoos that you’. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Definitely have more tattoos than me ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha you look like the innocent type who would never get one",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have 8 😁",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That was unexpected",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Any other secret sides I should know about you? 👀",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like to be unexpected",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " & that’s something you’ll just have to find out 🫣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Haha you’re cute",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "WHat are you looking for on here Nat?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why thank you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Pretty just open honestly, not looking to force or rush things what about yourself?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I feel that, keeping things casual and fun for now and going with the flow",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s the best way to go about it in my opinion 🤷🏻♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Where are you though? I just moved downtown",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I live in the (location) area where abouts did you move?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ou nice I’m just at (location)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "We’re super close",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ohh soo close I shop at loblaws there lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha you wanna come do a quick vibe check in?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m working tonight but I’m off tomorrow Friday & sat",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ok cool shoot me your number and we can get together 🙂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number) sounds good to me 🙂",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
61 | [
"Let’s meet for a drink soon. I’m probably going to the clubs a bit later",
"I’ve heard having rough passionate sex beforehand increases your luck 🤔 what do you reckon?",
"With every orgasm your luck goes us by 2%",
"Challenge accepted. Where you staying at the moment?",
"Pretty close. Almost in chokable range",
"Choking is just the start. There’s so many ways I can ruin you…",
"Like standing you up naked in my room, hands tied behind your back. As I tell you not to move a fucking inch. I run my finger down your body sensing your fear. I kiss your neck and pull your hair back as you moan. I run my fingers up your thighs as your pussy gets wetter and wetter. You try to break out of the tie so I bend you over and spank you leaving you with a nice big red handprint on your ass. I push you to your knees and you take my big hard cock deep in your throat like a good little girl. I pull you up, throw you on the bed and then… I should probably stop right now",
"Say please"
] | They met on Tinder. The conversation went well, a connection was made and a sexual frame was established. The interaction begins after he gets her number. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Let’s meet for a drink soon. I’m probably going to the clubs a bit later",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good, i’ve got some blackjack to fuck up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ve heard having rough passionate sex beforehand increases your luck 🤔 what do you reckon?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " mmm i totally agree 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "With every orgasm your luck goes us by 2%",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " see how high we can get that percentage 👀",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Challenge accepted. Where you staying at the moment?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Pretty close. Almost in chokable range",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " gonna get me hot and bothered already 😩",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Choking is just the start. There’s so many ways I can ruin you…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " mmm yes please",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Like standing you up naked in my room, hands tied behind your back. As I tell you not to move a fucking inch. I run my finger down your body sensing your fear. I kiss your neck and pull your hair back as you moan. I run my fingers up your thighs as your pussy gets wetter and wetter. You try to break out of the tie so I bend you over and spank you leaving you with a nice big red handprint on your ass. I push you to your knees and you take my big hard cock deep in your throat like a good little girl. I pull you up, throw you on the bed and then… I should probably stop right now",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " god i want you. 😩 holy fuck",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Say please",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " please 😩",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
62 | [
"Such a white girl 😝",
"Anything non starbucks related or with an alcoholic percentage above 0.01 😂"
] | They matched on Tinder. He got her number and they moved the interaction to iMessage. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nah just a caramel latte from starbucks with my name on it would make me happy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Such a white girl 😝",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s not a white girl drink? 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Anything non starbucks related or with an alcoholic percentage above 0.01 😂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You serious, don’t you dare saying that 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
63 | [
"You look a lot like my future ex wife",
"I keep the dog and we’re getting a prenup",
"No. You tried to drown it last week not allowing that",
"Maybe. I should never have slept with her, she’s pregnant now",
"Okay. You’re going to rehab and we’re seeing Dr Phil next week we might be able to make this work",
"Such a brat, we’re going to have to do something about that",
"Here. Drink this bleach (sends image of a man pouring bleach into a glass)",
"Good. Just got back from the gym. Looking nice and fit for our romantic date",
"It involves you, me, a couple of drink, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibe and build chemistry",
"Do you like wine?",
"I’ll show you the good stuff. We should split a bottle together sometime"
] | Context:They matched on Tinder. He opened her with a standard opener that starts a fun roleplay. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You look a lot like my future ex wife",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ah i was trying to be subtle but yes that’s me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I keep the dog and we’re getting a prenup",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m keeping the cat",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No. You tried to drown it last week not allowing that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would never!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Must have been my crazy twin",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Maybe. I should never have slept with her, she’s pregnant now",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You definitely shouldn’t have because now we gotta get a divorce and I promise you I’ll make it so difficult for you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s true",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have something to tell you though. There is no twin, it’s just me when I’m moody",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Okay. You’re going to rehab and we’re seeing Dr Phil next week we might be able to make this work",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nahhh I’m the next Amy Winehouse, no rehab for me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Such a brat, we’re going to have to do something about that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have no idea what you’re talking about ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Here. Drink this bleach (sends image of a man pouring bleach into a glass)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thankyou, can I get that on the rocks please?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure. Ok now you’re dead, this has went on for long enough lol How’s thy day?”",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha my day isn’t too bad Shakespeare, I’m just at work. How’s thy day?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good. Just got back from the gym. Looking nice and fit for our romantic date",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Our romantic date hmmm, what’s the plan?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "It involves you, me, a couple of drink, laughs, teases, neck kisses, vibe and build chemistry",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That sounds amazing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Do you like wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t drink a lot of it, some are okay",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll show you the good stuff. We should split a bottle together sometime",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wouldn’t say no to that.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you up to tonight?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
64 | [
"Nooo…no… That’s a conversation ender lol gonna need a little more than that"
] | This is an example of how to handle a girl who gives one word responses. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Nooo…no… That’s a conversation ender lol gonna need a little more than that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why r u on tinder tho?",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
65 | [
"Fluent but prefer english over thi sveedesh. What a unique intro. Recently I was happy on a walk when I realised I’m doing what I wanna be doing with my life right now. Hbu?",
"I like that. I take it you prefer deep conversations then? Or maybe just fed up of boring tinder conversations",
"At the moment, quit my job in FinTech and starting a photography business. That’s awesome, and that made you happy?",
"Dating portrait photography. I know, it’s a niche",
"I love deep convos. And I like that you’re looking for that 🙂 I do find they can get exhausting via text though lol, can go much deeper faster on voice notes or over a coffee",
"Is quality time your primary love language then?",
"Haha. Yeah I had a dslr camera and became passionate about putting together my profile and the profile of my friends. And I love psychology. So what makes a nice technical photo isn’t really what makes a person attractive in a photo - that’s much more about vibe and nonverbal communication",
"Sounds fun. You on WhatsApp?"
] | Context:This interaction proves that, executed properly and with the right kind of girl, long paragraph texts can work well if you are matching her energy. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, I really like your bio! Let’s skip the how-are-you-convo? Tell me about something that’s made you happy recently instead 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Also not sure if you prefer English or Swedish, let me know",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Fluent but prefer english over thi sveedesh. What a unique intro. Recently I was happy on a walk when I realised I’m doing what I wanna be doing with my life right now. Hbu?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha yes, I find it more interesting to ask real questions from the start",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s cool. So what is it that you’re doing? I was just hanging out with a friend who I haven’t seen for several months, and it’s always so great to have interesting conversations and get her perspective on things",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I like that. I take it you prefer deep conversations then? Or maybe just fed up of boring tinder conversations",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "At the moment, quit my job in FinTech and starting a photography business. That’s awesome, and that made you happy?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah, a bit of bith I guess haha. I do enjoy deep conversations, and I find it quite difficult to fine people on tinder who are looking for the same thing. So that’s why I have a proper bio and why I like to ask real questions straight away - anyone can tell me how their weekend was, but not everyone is up for real conversations 🤷🏻♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wow that’s amazing, I’m happy for you! What kind of photography do you do?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes it did! My friends are very important to me so I enjoy having quality time with them 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Dating portrait photography. I know, it’s a niche",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I love deep convos. And I like that you’re looking for that 🙂 I do find they can get exhausting via text though lol, can go much deeper faster on voice notes or over a coffee",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is quality time your primary love language then?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha wait what? So you take pictures for peoples dating profiles? That is indeed a niche! How did you realize that was your thing?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes that’s true.. I quite like voice notes, it feels closer than just texting. I’d be up to switch platform if you like, since voice notes aren’t possible on tinder",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hm, I always have a hard time to determine if it’s quality time or acts of service.. But physical touch is also a top contender. Hbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha. Yeah I had a dslr camera and became passionate about putting together my profile and the profile of my friends. And I love psychology. So what makes a nice technical photo isn’t really what makes a person attractive in a photo - that’s much more about vibe and nonverbal communication",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds fun. You on WhatsApp?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Quality time and physical touch. Although once somebody game me a really amazing gift and I suddenly understood the language of gift giving. Even though it isn’t at the top of my list’",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s cool, and so true. I want to feel something by looking at someones pictures, it’s not enough to just see what they look like in flattering light",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah gifts can be amazing. I think it’s the love language that had the worst reputation though, cause people assume it’s about money and material things. What was the gift you got?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes, (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
66 | [
"Is this one of those asmr videos?",
"You can be my secret girlfriend then. To avoid public cringe. And an announcement for the date of our smash brawl",
"I’ll admit you would look cute wrapped around my arm. We can do a 3 month probationary period",
"You happened to be talking to my old office’s reigning smash champ",
"I loved smash since elementary school",
"Sounds good. We can walk around the city arm in arm and see how many people check us out. Do you like wine?",
"Perfect. We should split a bottle sometime and play some tipsy smash",
"Awesome. You use WhatsApp? Shoot me your number and we’ll get out of here 🙂"
] | They match on Tinder. Hey messages her first in response to a photo in her profile that is her wearing headphones, in front of a microphone. It also says in her bio that she enjoys Mario Super Smash Bros, which he mentions as well. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is this one of those asmr videos?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It could be one, but they kinda cringe. Maybe I am too. What would you like it to be?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You can be my secret girlfriend then. To avoid public cringe. And an announcement for the date of our smash brawl",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hah! Secret?! I can be shown off dw 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Super Smash contest sounds good if you’re keen on losing ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll admit you would look cute wrapped around my arm. We can do a 3 month probationary period",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You happened to be talking to my old office’s reigning smash champ",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Woww, ok then you’ll likely win from me anyway",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would look cute on your arm, so we should do a demonstration testing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I loved smash since elementary school",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds good. We can walk around the city arm in arm and see how many people check us out. Do you like wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ohhh perfect, tough competition then",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Plenty of people would check us out am sure, I love wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect. We should split a bottle sometime and play some tipsy smash",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ufff that sounds like slow reaction time. But am definitely game for that.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Awesome. You use WhatsApp? Shoot me your number and we’ll get out of here 🙂",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do! Not my most used platform but I have it! (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
67 | [
"You’re adventurous, like to express yourself. Bit of a hippie. Long legs. Sometimes parties like the world’s about to end. Anything else important I missed?",
"Only english sorry 😉",
"What type of celebrity butt. Firm and squeezable?",
"Life is short. Should be enjoyed!",
"Hot. Very heart-shaped. The only thing missing is being completely covered by my red handprints",
"You’re already asking in such a cute way. I like it. Just add the word please ;)",
"You’re welcome. I get the feeling that you like being submissive",
"Rawr. You had me at submissive, exhibitionist",
"Hm had a bit of a sadist fantasy when i did the test, not sure it’s completely right. Not against it but maybe not 93% lol",
"What’s the hottest thing you’ve done?",
"Choose one maybe. Doesn't have to be most",
"One fun I had was a lesbian wife. She was top in her marriage and wanted to be bottom to a guy. So we started to talk. Once whenever she was at work I called her and started talking dirty. I asked her to go to the bathroom and take off her panties. Then she walked through the office past everyone else and down to the garage where I was waiting. We went into her car and fucked each other’s brains out. She squirted down her car 3 times. Super hot",
"Good choice. Super hot. You must have gotten so turned on by not knowing who was inside you. And getting rhythmic thrusts from your girlfriend as she was taken 😉",
"I think so too. We should get a quick coffee and see how the chemistry is",
"Feeling spontaneous?",
"A bit late for coffee but I could take a tea. I’m in (his location), where are you?",
"Cozy as fuck. Looks lonely you maybe need some company",
"(His location) is better then. Take the cat, leave the roomie 😉",
"I’m serious. No entry without cat",
"Cat suit works too 😋",
"Your noting is noted. I’ll buy some wine and keep your place on the sofa warm",
"Btw no real cat preferably. Love cats but it’s not a cat-proofed apartment",
"Sounds good",
"Bring wine if you can? Systemet is closed",
" 👍"
] | They matched on Feeld. He opens her with a cold read that is deliberately vague but feels like it is all about her but could apply to anyone. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re adventurous, like to express yourself. Bit of a hippie. Long legs. Sometimes parties like the world’s about to end. Anything else important I missed?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Spot on",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Although I’m more famous for my ass than my legs 🙃",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Even a great enjoyer of life. Do you speak swedish?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " (Answered in Swedish)",
"content": "Only english sorry 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What type of celebrity butt. Firm and squeezable?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Life is short. Should be enjoyed!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ass of 2020",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Photo of her ass)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We did a photo competition in our friendship group and voted for the winner on New Years. Super fun",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s bubbly and spankable 😇",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hot. Very heart-shaped. The only thing missing is being completely covered by my red handprints",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes please 🙏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can I see a little more of you on picture 😇",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re already asking in such a cute way. I like it. Just add the word please ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Please 🙏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (photo of himself looking good)",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks 😻",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re welcome. I get the feeling that you like being submissive",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well felt 👏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I did a test a while ago but I think it’s still accurate",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Rawr. You had me at submissive, exhibitionist",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hm had a bit of a sadist fantasy when i did the test, not sure it’s completely right. Not against it but maybe not 93% lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha ok!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s the hottest thing you’ve done?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh what a hard question! I’d have to think… hard to choose 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Choose one maybe. Doesn't have to be most",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "One fun I had was a lesbian wife. She was top in her marriage and wanted to be bottom to a guy. So we started to talk. Once whenever she was at work I called her and started talking dirty. I asked her to go to the bathroom and take off her panties. Then she walked through the office past everyone else and down to the garage where I was waiting. We went into her car and fucked each other’s brains out. She squirted down her car 3 times. Super hot",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh wow!! 🔥",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As I said, hard to choose but one good memory was once when I had a 5-way with a couple of friends. It started with me and my friend being tied together against a cross. With blindfolds",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think we could have fun",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good choice. Super hot. You must have gotten so turned on by not knowing who was inside you. And getting rhythmic thrusts from your girlfriend as she was taken 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I think so too. We should get a quick coffee and see how the chemistry is",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes! 😀",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When are you free?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Feeling spontaneous?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes 😻",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tell me ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s the plan?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "A bit late for coffee but I could take a tea. I’m in (his location), where are you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m home in (her location). Just poured myself a cup of tea 😊",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Photo of her tea)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Cozy as fuck. Looks lonely you maybe need some company",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha yes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Although I have a cat and a roomie home 😻",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "(His location) is better then. Take the cat, leave the roomie 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha yes!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m serious. No entry without cat",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You like cats?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Cat suit works too 😋",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Noted!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Your noting is noted. I’ll buy some wine and keep your place on the sofa warm",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m getting ready here.. Will shout when I’m on my way ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Btw no real cat preferably. Love cats but it’s not a cat-proofed apartment",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds good",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Bring wine if you can? Systemet is closed",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " On my way! With wine",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 👍",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
68 | [
"It looks like we have a couple things in common already but I think I have to watch out for you… you look like trouble",
"Haha your vibe is just giving I’m nice but if u try and eat my sushi on the first date, I’ll fuck u up haha” Another good version of this message is “Haha your vibe is just giving I’m nice as long as you keep your hands off my sushi haha"
] | They matched on Hinge. The girl liked his photo and opened him once he liked her back. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 👋",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "It looks like we have a couple things in common already but I think I have to watch out for you… you look like trouble",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha why trouble?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Another good version of this message is “Haha your vibe is just giving I’m nice as long as you keep your hands off my sushi haha",
"content": "Haha your vibe is just giving I’m nice but if u try and eat my sushi on the first date, I’ll fuck u up haha” Another good version of this message is “Haha your vibe is just giving I’m nice as long as you keep your hands off my sushi haha",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
69 | [
"yea you’re right, I’m from (location). So tell me more about you, you don’t seem like you’re boring 🤞"
] | They matched on a dating app. The student inferred from her profile that she is shy but cute. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like your eyes",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aww thank you 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ur welcome. Where are you from, Venezuela?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Actually born and raised in south fl! My mom is mexican and my dad is jamaican chinese",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Damn that’s a badass mix. I was gonna guess Asian cuz your eyes",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Guess where I’m from haha",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oof lowkey a tough one ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know but by the name ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s an arabic name ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "yea you’re right, I’m from (location). So tell me more about you, you don’t seem like you’re boring 🤞",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
70 | [
"Based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country but funnier so the lie has to be that you’re funnier than me 😉” This message works as a way to keep the conversation lighthearted and teasing. Some other options for this message are “based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country so I’ll just find out if you’re funnier than me on our first date 😉” or “Based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country but funnier than me? Cap"
] | The student has seen this girl on Hinge and wants to send a message with his like, which is something that is highly recommended. In her photos she has dark hair and is wearing cowboy boots and cowboys hats. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Two truths, one lie…I love country music, I’m funnier than you, I have blonde hair",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message works as a way to keep the conversation lighthearted and teasing. Some other options for this message are “based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country so I’ll just find out if you’re funnier than me on our first date 😉",
"content": "Based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country but funnier so the lie has to be that you’re funnier than me 😉” This message works as a way to keep the conversation lighthearted and teasing. Some other options for this message are “based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country so I’ll just find out if you’re funnier than me on our first date 😉” or “Based off your pics, u def have blonde hair and love country but funnier than me? Cap",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
71 | [
"So she’s cute, bilingual and Syrian…what’s the catch?",
"Hey it’s Amir from hinge",
"What trouble did you get into today?",
"Caused all kinds of trouble today, stole the only copy of the Muppets from Space 2” This message was edited from what the coach told him to send which was: “Caused all kinds of trouble today, robbed 3 banks and stole candy from a baby",
"I can read you like a book” or “You seem like the type"
] | They matched on Hinge and she gave him her instagram. She responded to his prompt which said ‘I get myself out of a funk by making art”. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What kind of art do you make? 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I make the art of a good relationship",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " on a serious note I work across a lot of mediums but mainly performance making, film/animation, video art/installation work, and graphic design.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hbu? Do you work on any other mediums too or just film? ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aww same exact mediums basically! I’m also big into art and installations as well as music!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " we r twins",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Look at that, we are twins",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We gotta show each other our art on our first date",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Arabic and Spanish, which countries are you from?",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My parents are Syrian",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I studied abroad in Spain for 6 months so I speak Spanish too",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a good way to keep the conversation fun and flirty. The idea is to list some things you like about her and then ask what the catch is, implying there must be something wrong. ",
"content": "So she’s cute, bilingual and Syrian…what’s the catch?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Heyy haha I delete this app a lot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I was in Madrid! And yes… very cute, Syrian and bilingual. I like to think there’s no huge catch I’m just a vibe",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmu on insta you seem super sweet!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (her instagram)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey it’s Amir from hinge",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is just a more fun way to ask how her day was.",
"content": "What trouble did you get into today?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hi Amir from hinge!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I did not get into any trouble today I was very polite and well behaves 🫡",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Did you get into trouble? Cause a catastrophe?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oof I don’t believe you for some reason",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message was edited from what the coach told him to send which was: “Caused all kinds of trouble today, robbed 3 banks and stole candy from a baby",
"content": "Caused all kinds of trouble today, stole the only copy of the Muppets from Space 2” This message was edited from what the coach told him to send which was: “Caused all kinds of trouble today, robbed 3 banks and stole candy from a baby",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The only copy?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " how did u know I love muppets from space ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " or “You seem like the type",
"content": "I can read you like a book” or “You seem like the type",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " They created the criteria collection exclusively for it",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " U didn’t actually steal it?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s a lieeeeeee",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nuh uh",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " lol cause a sequel doesn’t actually exist",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d steal it for you if it did tho 😔",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I meant I didn’t know you loved muppets from space",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
72 | [
"Your face is telling me you’re innocent but that choker is telling me you’re big trouble",
"Is that so 😏 well you certainly have a few of my weaknesses",
"Mhm, great sense of style, cute & curvy with a bit of a wild side",
"Absolutely, what area are you in?",
"(location) not too far for our romance",
";) so what are you looking for on here, cutie",
"I hear ya. Just looking for a cool unique girl I vibe & have chemistry with & see where things go, great sex & cuddles are a bonus. Not trying to jump into a relationship in a hurry, but open to it for the right girl. I’ve found that things develop naturally that way",
"Glad we’re on the same page ;) do you like wine",
"We should split a bottle sometime soon",
"Ever been to The Lounge",
"Been meaning to try it. What evenings are you free coming up",
"2 yrs now I think. Let’s shoot for the lounge this wendesday, say 7 pm. Yea? ;)",
"Perfect, shoot me your number"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first. In his first message he references one of her photos in which she is wearing a choker. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Your face is telling me you’re innocent but that choker is telling me you’re big trouble",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " lol the choker is just for fashion that’s all",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is that so 😏 well you certainly have a few of my weaknesses",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha oh yea?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mhm, great sense of style, cute & curvy with a bit of a wild side",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol sounds accurate 😝",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Absolutely, what area are you in?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I live in (location), hbu?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "(location) not too far for our romance",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha yes ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": ";) so what are you looking for on here, cutie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I date with the intent to have a relationship, I’m not into the whole fwb or hook up culture thing",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Guess I learned that tinder isn't so great for that 😂 but yea just looking for someone genuine and real",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I hear ya. Just looking for a cool unique girl I vibe & have chemistry with & see where things go, great sex & cuddles are a bonus. Not trying to jump into a relationship in a hurry, but open to it for the right girl. I’ve found that things develop naturally that way",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I get that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yea I think having a solid friendship is crucial for any relationship",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Glad we’re on the same page ;) do you like wine",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "We should split a bottle sometime soon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Over dinner or what lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ever been to The Lounge",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve not! But that looks really cool I just looked it up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Been meaning to try it. What evenings are you free coming up",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Usually mondays or possibly wednesday/thursday",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes it looks pretty cool, is it new?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "2 yrs now I think. Let’s shoot for the lounge this wendesday, say 7 pm. Yea? ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds good 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect, shoot me your number",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
73 | [
"Serious question, why do you seem innocent but also trouble at the same time",
"Oh, I’m an angel. Something tells me you might not be so innocent though 😏",
"Is that so? I have just the plan to solve our mystery",
"Just what I like to hear. Before we get into the nitty gritty, I need to know a few things about you",
"Alright. Ever married? Kids? Crazy exes? Felonies? Drink of choice?",
"Mm, very interesting. Can’t go wrong with a dirty martini. SOunds like you’re qualified for our case 😉",
"For me: No, no, no, my homemade margaritas are so good it should be a crime, and I like to keep it simple with a rum & coke when I’m out",
"Yeah, I’m very easy to get along with. We’ll get you on deck for one of those margaritas here soon then!",
"Definitely. What area are you in? I’m in (location)",
"Gotta love the geographic compatibility. Which days are you free next to grab a drink?",
"This weekend works for me, I have a pretty busy week actually. I’m free on friday or saturday",
"Sounds fun to me. Let’s say like 3pm?"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged first with a generic opener that could apply to anyone. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Serious question, why do you seem innocent but also trouble at the same time",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha let’s say because I’m the whole package so you get a little bit of everything! But don’t worry I lean innocent 🕊️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Which would you say you lean?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh, I’m an angel. Something tells me you might not be so innocent though 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Mmm suspicion on both sides then 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is that so? I have just the plan to solve our mystery",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright, alright - Let’s hear it! Always down for a case 🔍",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Just what I like to hear. Before we get into the nitty gritty, I need to know a few things about you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ready for the qs",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Alright. Ever married? Kids? Crazy exes? Felonies? Drink of choice?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh shoot - speed round array // I’ll take a reverse reverse on these questions so I can hear your take too. Buuuut- no, no, no, dirty martini at the moment or like pisco sour if I get to really choose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mm, very interesting. Can’t go wrong with a dirty martini. SOunds like you’re qualified for our case 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "For me: No, no, no, my homemade margaritas are so good it should be a crime, and I like to keep it simple with a rum & coke when I’m out",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok my check is - are you kind! && put me on deck for one of these margaritas!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah, I’m very easy to get along with. We’ll get you on deck for one of those margaritas here soon then!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good-hearted we hope too! Let’s put something in the books for in the meantime too? Or is there more detective case work to be done?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Definitely. What area are you in? I’m in (location)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Gotta love the geographic compatibility. Which days are you free next to grab a drink?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes yes we love that, I could maybe swing an early night during the week or I might have to delay us until the weekend",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "This weekend works for me, I have a pretty busy week actually. I’m free on friday or saturday",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could do saturday during the day/early night drink?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds fun to me. Let’s say like 3pm?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Should be perfect! My number is (phone number) if you want to coordinate that way",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
74 | [
"Good. I have a few ideas for us that you’ll like even more",
"I’ll be sure to give you a good spanking on our date. I just hope you can keep up, I have a very high sex drive.",
"Good. You’ll be the happiest girl in Brooklyn very soon",
"We’ll take our time. It’s important to me that you’re comfortable. The I’ll gladly ruin you",
"Hope you’re not causing too much trouble 😏",
"Mmm same here. Why don’t you come over and we can have some fun",
"Oh I have a few basic ideas for just that 😏",
"Bedstuy",
"Yeah I don’t mind",
"Yeah i do",
"Nah you can head over once you’re ready, I just showered",
"Bet. Text me when you’re close, I’ll come get you"
] | They matched on OkCupid. She had said that she was looking for casual hookups on her profile and she gave me the energy so I gave her the energy back. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey trouble",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😈",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " The innocent fuck me eyes never lie 😈 you seem like my type btw",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oo I never heard that. I like it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good. I have a few ideas for us that you’ll like even more",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Full disclosure, I unintentionally lost some weight in the past couple of months… my ass still soft and waiting to get grabbed and smacked, just not as phat as usual",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But maybe you can help with that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Isn’t that what they say about back shots?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll be sure to give you a good spanking on our date. I just hope you can keep up, I have a very high sex drive.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " As long as you switch it up throughout, I’m Gucci",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good. You’ll be the happiest girl in Brooklyn very soon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can be a lil shy at first, my body needs time to get comfortable with another’s",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But once I’m comfortable we can have fun",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "We’ll take our time. It’s important to me that you’re comfortable. The I’ll gladly ruin you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, it’s (student’s name) from OkCupid ;)”",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey, how’s your weekend going",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hope you’re not causing too much trouble 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wasn’t before, but now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m starting to have the urge 😋 😈",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You still hoping I’m not causing too much trouble?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mmm same here. Why don’t you come over and we can have some fun",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oof, but I’m tired to get dressed 😩",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I was hoping you could wake me back up",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh I have a few basic ideas for just that 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m in crown heights, where are you”",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Bedstuy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok so you close",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tbh I rather not be walking around on summer nights",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could also take a Uber to you, would you mind paying for my ride home",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I don’t mind",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 10 min drive lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would walk if it was earlier",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have condoms and/or lube?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah i do",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Bet",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you need some time or can I head over once I’m ready",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Nah you can head over once you’re ready, I just showered",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok I’m about to leave",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Bet. Text me when you’re close, I’ll come get you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aii, Uber took a lil longer than expected but I’m 5-10 minutes now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m glad we could make this happen",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Coming ",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
75 | [
"You’re cute. I can think of a few easy we’d have fun",
"Mm, you think you can handle it?",
"Good. I’m going to handcuff your hands behind your back. And then I’m going to force you down on your knees and tell you to open your mouth.",
"Yes, for our second meet. But for now, I’ll be having you as the main course.",
"You’ll absolutely love it with me. And after I’ve properly face fucked you, I’ll reward you with 10-15 oral orgasms for being such a good girl for me.",
"Experience. To keep it simple. You get out of line. Too bratty. I tame you. Everyone is happy",
"Not following commands. Talking back too much. And there’s a proper punishment depending on what you do",
"Some things are best discovered rather than explained baby girl.",
"Ask nicely, and I’ll give you one example",
"Good girl",
"If you were to roll your eyes at me in person after I gave you a command, I would have no choice but to bend you over my lap, and spank you until a red handprint is left.",
"Yes, really. It’s what others and I have enjoyed in the past. But punishments are always discussed beforehand. Trust and safety is key.",
"Yes. What is one of your biggest sex related fantasies?",
"I see. Next time someone asks you this question it’ll be a kink for you, rather than a fantasy.",
"To meet several open minded women for an amazing night. The idea of being able to please 2-3 women at the same time turns me on a lot. That takes time though.",
"Mhm, I’m enjoying one woman at the moment",
"Not at first, but I’d be open to the idea after getting to know you better",
"I can tell we will get along well. Why don’t we get together & we can have some fun",
"No! That was a scenario. We’re going to sit down, flirt, and get to know each other first over an amazing bottle of wine",
"Check if there’s chemistry, and if there is we can see where things take us. If you want to leave, I’ll call you and Uber and give you a hug goodbye!",
"yes, at my place",
"I totally understand. You free to hop on a quick FaceTime to say hi?",
"Tomorrow works. Let’s take this party off tinder then. Text me"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first with a generic opener that could apply to almost anyone. | [
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"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re cute. I can think of a few easy we’d have fun",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You have my attention 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mm, you think you can handle it?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re funny. I’ve got no reason to think otherwise",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good. I’m going to handcuff your hands behind your back. And then I’m going to force you down on your knees and tell you to open your mouth.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Is that right?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you gonna take me to dinner first or",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes, for our second meet. But for now, I’ll be having you as the main course.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I don’t particularly like getting on my knees",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What then?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’ll absolutely love it with me. And after I’ve properly face fucked you, I’ll reward you with 10-15 oral orgasms for being such a good girl for me.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can’t say I’ve ever had that many in one session, let alone oral",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m intrigued",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What makes you think you’re a brat tamer?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Experience. To keep it simple. You get out of line. Too bratty. I tame you. Everyone is happy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And what’s considered out of line?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Not following commands. Talking back too much. And there’s a proper punishment depending on what you do",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Could you give me an example",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Some things are best discovered rather than explained baby girl.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re no funny",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have an active imagination",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ask nicely, and I’ll give you one example",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I totally didn’t just roll my eyes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Would you be so kind as to give me an example?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good girl",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "If you were to roll your eyes at me in person after I gave you a command, I would have no choice but to bend you over my lap, and spank you until a red handprint is left.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Really",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That punishment doesn’t seem disproportionate to you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes, really. It’s what others and I have enjoyed in the past. But punishments are always discussed beforehand. Trust and safety is key.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I like that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I feel like I’m asking all the questions lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have any for me?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes. What is one of your biggest sex related fantasies?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I mean you essentially started this conversation with one",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I see. Next time someone asks you this question it’ll be a kink for you, rather than a fantasy.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I appreciate you confidence",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s yours?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "To meet several open minded women for an amazing night. The idea of being able to please 2-3 women at the same time turns me on a lot. That takes time though.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You don’t say",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And can I ask how many other good girls you’re enjoying at the moment?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mhm, I’m enjoying one woman at the moment",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Gotcha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you looking for anything beyond closed doors?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Not at first, but I’d be open to the idea after getting to know you better",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think I understand",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ask away",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I can tell we will get along well. Why don’t we get together & we can have some fun",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If getting to know each other comes second, you expect me to let a stranger off the internet handcuff me upon walking in the door?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No! That was a scenario. We’re going to sit down, flirt, and get to know each other first over an amazing bottle of wine",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Check if there’s chemistry, and if there is we can see where things take us. If you want to leave, I’ll call you and Uber and give you a hug goodbye!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So your place?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "yes, at my place",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hm I don’t know how to feel about that ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I totally understand. You free to hop on a quick FaceTime to say hi?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Afraid not, I’m both on the train and late to meeting someone",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tomorrow?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Tomorrow works. Let’s take this party off tinder then. Text me",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
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"Oh I’m a big karaoke guy. What’s your go-to song?",
"LOL nice, now I’m imagining you rapping in a bucket hat with your drink in your hand.. I see you",
"The fifth pic makes so much sense now 😉",
"Respect hahaha a true trailblazer in action. Is look at me now in your song list? Now that’s a hard one",
"Haha we’ll have to throw it into the mix on our date then",
"Where you from originally? You’re not giving me the ‘new yorker born and raised’ vibes",
"Love it, I’m from New York too. I grew up in Westchester but I moved to the city five years ago. What brought you to the city?",
"Same for me, as well as the nightlife. Always wanted to party in the city as a kid haha",
"What do you like to do in your free time besides rap your heart out at karaoke?",
"Pretty much the same, though I love going to concerts and traveling, I go like 6-7 times a year",
"Hmm I have a plan for our first date you’ll love then 😉",
"Cool! Drop me your number and we’ll set it up over text",
"Hey cutie, it’s (student’s name) from Hinge. Sup",
"I’m from right outside of white plains in Hartsdale",
"Ever been up there?",
"Haha fair enough, it's a pretty small town. It’s fun though.",
"Let’s grab that coffee. Free Wednesday evening?",
"Ah I’m heading to Philly this weekend for a friend’d party and leaving Thursday night. Won’t be back until Sunday",
"We can shoot for next week, unless you’re free earlier in the week?",
"For sure. I’m not excited for my friend to say ‘it’s always sunny in philly’ every day though",
"Guessing you’ve been a few times?",
"Cool, and yeah I’ve heard it’s pretty fun there. Only thing I know about there is Penn state though lol",
"You travel a lot for work?",
"Sounds like it. Half the reason I’m in Brooklyn is because it’s closer to the airports. I love to travel",
"Anywhere and everywhere! I have friends all over from travel adventures so I usually go and crash with them. Was just in chicago last month and have some big trips coming up later this year",
"Oh I’m sure you’ll love it over there, California in particular has some pretty beautiful citie",
"Tough question. I really liked Sweden in the summer specifically, it’s pretty much sunlight 24 hours a day. Lots of great food and culture there. Spain is a very very close second. Hbu?",
"Spain would definitely be the country I’d choose to live in if not in the US",
"I’ll get started on planning the honeymoon then. Barcelona or Madrid?",
"Oh ho, the irish girl likes to party. I’m in",
"Lol you and me both",
"Alcohol hits very different now",
"29” When a girl asks your age, there is no need to lie and pretend to be an age you’re not. Just be honest and own it. If she questions you on it, a good message to send is “Age is just a number. I’ve dated women from early 20’s to late 40’s. it always comes down to the person not the year on their driver license. One big plus I’ve found with older women is a higher sex drive and better communication, which matches with me",
"I keep up with the best of em;)",
"You’re 33 right?",
"It’s okay, we’ll get you some pedialyte & water to have with your martini",
"Balance is important",
"Hmm now I’m curious about something",
"When you drink how do you get? Energetic, sleepy, dancing? Lol",
"All the right answers",
"You sure you didn’t cheat on this test?",
"Perfect, I’ll see you then cutie",
"Good afternoon! Still good for tonight, yeah?",
"Awesome, it’s beautiful out so I’m sure the sunset will be great. I’ll let you know when I’m heading out",
"Yep that works! Ferry trip sounds amazing",
"Oh yes. When I go to Rockaway I always take the long way by the ferry haha",
"Heading out here soon, I’ll see you in a bit!",
"Just got here, sitting outside the place"
] | They matched on Hinge. She had a very sweet, cutesy vibe to her profile. She liked his photo. He messaged her first by responding to a prompt she had about karaoke. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh I’m a big karaoke guy. What’s your go-to song?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My go to song is a milli 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "LOL nice, now I’m imagining you rapping in a bucket hat with your drink in your hand.. I see you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "The fifth pic makes so much sense now 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can’t be singing 90’s classics. I have to rap hard",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Respect hahaha a true trailblazer in action. Is look at me now in your song list? Now that’s a hard one",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ooof yeah that’s a hard one ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but I could be up for the challenge",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha we’ll have to throw it into the mix on our date then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Where you from originally? You’re not giving me the ‘new yorker born and raised’ vibes",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i’m from long island! New yorker through and through",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " what about you? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Love it, I’m from New York too. I grew up in Westchester but I moved to the city five years ago. What brought you to the city?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh nice! I moved here 10 years ago 😳",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i definitely always wanted to live here. Work brought me here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Same for me, as well as the nightlife. Always wanted to party in the city as a kid haha",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What do you like to do in your free time besides rap your heart out at karaoke?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahah i’m a pretty simple gal. i like trying new restaurants. I LOVE catching a good sunset. Like staying active and hitting the gym",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Pretty much the same, though I love going to concerts and traveling, I go like 6-7 times a year",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hmm I have a plan for our first date you’ll love then 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oh yeahhh? Ok i’m excited now 😌",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " love it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " that sounds great",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Cool! Drop me your number and we’ll set it up over text",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (phone number) 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey cutie, it’s (student’s name) from Hinge. Sup",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oh wassuppp",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " where in Westchester are you from? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m from right outside of white plains in Hartsdale",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ever been up there?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i’ve been to white plains but not heartsdale ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha fair enough, it's a pretty small town. It’s fun though.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Let’s grab that coffee. Free Wednesday evening?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " sadly i’m not free on weds. But could do thurs or fri?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ah I’m heading to Philly this weekend for a friend’d party and leaving Thursday night. Won’t be back until Sunday",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "We can shoot for next week, unless you’re free earlier in the week?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " damn! Okay let me see if i can make weds work",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " philly will be fun though!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nice! As you should",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " philly is cool",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "For sure. I’m not excited for my friend to say ‘it’s always sunny in philly’ every day though",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Guessing you’ve been a few times?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yeah we have an office there so i’ve been a few times",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " haven’t gone out out there but it seems like a cute little town",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Cool, and yeah I’ve heard it’s pretty fun there. Only thing I know about there is Penn state though lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You travel a lot for work?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nope i don’t! I’ve just been there a few times but i don’t travel very often",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " my office is in chelsea so pretty easy commute from where i am",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds like it. Half the reason I’m in Brooklyn is because it’s closer to the airports. I love to travel",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " where do you travel to?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Anywhere and everywhere! I have friends all over from travel adventures so I usually go and crash with them. Was just in chicago last month and have some big trips coming up later this year",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " love it!! I love chicago. One of my best friends lives there. I gotta get back",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i need to travel more. I’ve still never been to the west coast",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh I’m sure you’ll love it over there, California in particular has some pretty beautiful citie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i know! I need to go",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " what’s been your favorite place to visit?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Tough question. I really liked Sweden in the summer specifically, it’s pretty much sunlight 24 hours a day. Lots of great food and culture there. Spain is a very very close second. Hbu?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " spain is awesome. I loved it there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i’m irish is ireland is up there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but in the states, chicago is up there and also charleston",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Spain would definitely be the country I’d choose to live in if not in the US",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i’d have to agree with that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The purpose of this message is to inject some fun into the conversation. So far, it has been very boring, ‘get to know you’ conversation which most interactions need a bit of but it needs to be done in a way that keeps the girl engaged.",
"content": "I’ll get started on planning the honeymoon then. Barcelona or Madrid?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " defffff barcelona ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh ho, the irish girl likes to party. I’m in",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 💁🏼♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " irish girl def likes to party a little ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " although it’s getting harder as i get older lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lol you and me both",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Alcohol hits very different now",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s offensive",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " how old are you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " When a girl asks your age, there is no need to lie and pretend to be an age you’re not. Just be honest and own it. If she questions you on it, a good message to send is “Age is just a number. I’ve dated women from early 20’s to late 40’s. it always comes down to the person not the year on their driver license. One big plus I’ve found with older women is a higher sex drive and better communication, which matches with me",
"content": "29” When a girl asks your age, there is no need to lie and pretend to be an age you’re not. Just be honest and own it. If she questions you on it, a good message to send is “Age is just a number. I’ve dated women from early 20’s to late 40’s. it always comes down to the person not the year on their driver license. One big plus I’ve found with older women is a higher sex drive and better communication, which matches with me",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " youngin!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I keep up with the best of em;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re 33 right?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes 😢",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "It’s okay, we’ll get you some pedialyte & water to have with your martini",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Balance is important",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " balance is def important",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hmm now I’m curious about something",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "When you drink how do you get? Energetic, sleepy, dancing? Lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i get pretty energetic lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " ready to rage",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " dancing for sure",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "All the right answers",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You sure you didn’t cheat on this test?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " no cheating over here 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " confirming i can meet weds 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds perfect",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect, I’ll see you then cutie",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " see you then ☺️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good afternoon! Still good for tonight, yeah?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yep!!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Awesome, it’s beautiful out so I’m sure the sunset will be great. I’ll let you know when I’m heading out",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " it’s soo nice out",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and sounds good!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i think i’ll take the 640 ferry that gets into dumbo at 648",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " if that works",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yep that works! Ferry trip sounds amazing",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " the ferry is so great. I love taking them lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh yes. When I go to Rockaway I always take the long way by the ferry haha",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Love it lol they are LEGIT",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Heading out here soon, I’ll see you in a bit!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " see you shortly!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Just got here, sitting outside the place",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " just about there",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
77 | [
"Is that so? Sounds like we’re off to a great start then ;)",
"Am I going to be a bad influence on you?",
"Because I like to get into some fun trouble from time to time myself 😈",
"Haha nothing too crazy, just a few neck kisses and a lil hair pulling",
"Glad we are ;) so let’s start with the basics. Any tattoos, piercings, kinks, good kisser?",
"Noted. Mm I enjoy all those things too - love it when a woman likes to get dirty. I’ll have to put those kissing skills to the test here soon then ;)",
"No tattoos yet, though I’m getting one here real soon, & had my ears pierced. I love some passionate hair pulling, spanking, going down on a girl, and giving commands. All depends on what you’re comfortable with",
"Definitely my type. Looks like you have some of my weaknesses too 😏",
"You got it. What area are you in? I’m in Brooklyn",
"Ah gotcha. We can always just link when you’re here then",
"Yeah I have roommates, but it’s a big ass place so we’ll have our privacy 😉",
"Good. When do you get off jury duty? I gotta help my sister today with something at 730 but you could come earlier",
"Busy girl! Lol sounds good. Shoot me your number, and I’ll send you a text to figure it out."
] | They matched on Tinder. Hey messaged her first with a generic opener. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey trouble 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Trouble I’m a good girl 😂 😈",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": "7 🥰",
"content": " Also hi I’m 5”7 🥰",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Is that so? Sounds like we’re off to a great start then ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Am I going to be a bad influence on you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why would you be a bad one love?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We are off to a great start I was shocked at the super like I’m like no effing way he’s this fine & liked me 😮💨 🙈",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Because I like to get into some fun trouble from time to time myself 😈",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Define fun trouble cuz I’m pretty normal 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha nothing too crazy, just a few neck kisses and a lil hair pulling",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh alright you scared me there for a sec I’m like ‘plz don’t let this man say he likes swingers or multiple partners’ Lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We are clearly so far on the same page then 😊",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Glad we are ;) so let’s start with the basics. Any tattoos, piercings, kinks, good kisser?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No tattoos I have my nipples pierced & just a couple of ear piercings, Iloveee me a good kisser I love making out before during & after sex kissing to me is so hot puts me in the mood real quick",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can be a freak in the sheets I like facials, I like sucking on fingers, spit in my mouth is hot that’s pretty much it i’d say. DISCLAIMER: No anal whatsoever 🙂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Noted. Mm I enjoy all those things too - love it when a woman likes to get dirty. I’ll have to put those kissing skills to the test here soon then ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Once I’m done with jury duty we can totally plan something I’d love to test out your skills as well 😘",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hbu? Those same questions but I’m gonna ask…am I your type? Ima tell you now you are 100% my type 🤤",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No tattoos yet, though I’m getting one here real soon, & had my ears pierced. I love some passionate hair pulling, spanking, going down on a girl, and giving commands. All depends on what you’re comfortable with",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Definitely my type. Looks like you have some of my weaknesses too 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oooo I can get down with all of the above 😍 & ofc I’ll say no to something if I ain’t down with it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Really?! Good thank god cuz I’m tryna give you a ride of your life 🤪🤪 I’m glad you like me curvy cuz I got lots of body to explore 🥵",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " :Mm love the sound of that. I’ll return the favor and then some 😈”",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re gonna love all the sounds of this body I wanna hear it all from you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You got it. What area are you in? I’m in Brooklyn",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m in Staten Island. I work in Brooklyn on Tuesdays :/",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Ah gotcha. We can always just link when you’re here then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have your own place?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh I’ll definitely meet you here in Brooklyn I unfortunately do not live alone as of yet 😂 sooner or later I’m gonna renovate my apartment downstairs from my parents but we gotta get on it ASAP LOL",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah I have roommates, but it’s a big ass place so we’ll have our privacy 😉",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re so lucky I wish 😂 oh even better I can’t wait",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good. When do you get off jury duty? I gotta help my sister today with something at 730 but you could come earlier",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh nah I can’t at all this week love I work full time and then this weekend is my nieces birthday I have jury duty next week on Monday so when I’m done with that I’ll come to you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Busy girl! Lol sounds good. Shoot me your number, and I’ll send you a text to figure it out.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You have nooo idea LOL sounds good to me (her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Text me whenever love 😘",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
78 | [
"When did you start modeling?",
"Lmao damn might be time to get into it (her name) 😅",
"You won’t be saying that after I steal your 🐈",
"Haha love the confidence (her name)",
"Right on, I’m looking for something chill and fun for now but down to see where things go if that makes sense",
"Lemme secure that snap girl"
] | Context:They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first with a generic opener that could apply to anyone. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "When did you start modeling?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahaha nere",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lmao damn might be time to get into it (her name) 😅",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 you’re too kind",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message could be interpreted as sexual or not by the girl. It gives her the opportunity to sexualise. ",
"content": "You won’t be saying that after I steal your 🐈",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d like to see you try",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha love the confidence (her name)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m just going with the Flow",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Right on, I’m looking for something chill and fun for now but down to see where things go if that makes sense",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I feel that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Lemme secure that snap girl",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (her snapchat)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
79 | [
"Wow ice Cream and fries on our date?!",
"When is this happening?",
"Sure!",
"Well I’d prefer to meet in public before going inside. I feel better like that",
"Maybe. If you’re as fun in person as you are over text and the vibe is right",
"Haha I feel like it’s too early to give you my address. Let’s grab a drink first :)",
"Because I need to make sure that you’re not a serial killer or a catfish first ;)",
"That’s actually a relief",
"Perfect. I like to take things slow and I’m not looking for cheap hookups",
"It’d be kinda weird if you just came straight over to my place on the first date 😂 what if you’re awkward or something? It’s important for me to have chemistry on the first meet",
"If you’re looking for a hookup then I’m the wrong guy for you. If you’re looking for something more meaningful than that, then this may work. It’s really important for me that I want to see the girl more than once.",
"I’m glad you’re different from other Serbian girls",
"I’m glad you understand why I always want to meet in public first. I don’t think you’re one of those people but you can never be too safe these days",
"Monday actually works really well for me!",
"Sounds amazing! Shoot me your WhatsApp"
] | They matched on Tinder. He messaged her first. This interaction contains some examples of misinterpreting what she says and reframing them. This is not an example of a perfect interaction as there is little to no ‘get to know you’ conversation and, so, very little comfort and connection created for the girl. There are points in the interaction where she is understandably confused. The examples of misinterpretation and reframing are to be used when objections occur, not as the basis for the whole conversation. The number he got from this interaction is not likely to be a strong one and there is a good chance she will flake unless they have some ‘get to know you’ conversation or vibing over WhatsApp. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wow ice Cream and fries on our date?!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " the best thing ever",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Misinterpreting what she is saying to mean that she is referring to their date.",
"content": "When is this happening?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Our date?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Misinterpreted as her asking him out.",
"content": "Sure!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why u wanna go out with me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message reframes her as the chaser. It also preemptively handles a safety objection she may have. ",
"content": "Well I’d prefer to meet in public before going inside. I feel better like that",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Going inside? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message assumes she has already agreed to coming over. It frames him as the one who is not sold on her yet.",
"content": "Maybe. If you’re as fun in person as you are over text and the vibe is right",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Inside where?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message has misinterpreted her previous message as her asking for his address and frames her as the chaser. It also assumes they will be going back to his place after. It also preemptively handels another objection.",
"content": "Haha I feel like it’s too early to give you my address. Let’s grab a drink first :)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why would i come over after one drink?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message pushes her to qualify herself while also preempting another objection women commonly have on dating apps.",
"content": "Because I need to make sure that you’re not a serial killer or a catfish first ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not, but anyways why would i still come im not gonna sleep with u or anything like that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message steals the frame as positive for him. ",
"content": "That’s actually a relief",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Huh",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I wouldn’t even ask about going to ur place..",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message steals the objection from her and reframes it as positive for him.",
"content": "Perfect. I like to take things slow and I’m not looking for cheap hookups",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Then what should I think about ‘well i’d prefer to meet in public before going inside.’...",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message misinterprets her previous message as her trying to go straight to his place while also baiting her to qualify herself as not awkward. ",
"content": "It’d be kinda weird if you just came straight over to my place on the first date 😂 what if you’re awkward or something? It’s important for me to have chemistry on the first meet",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why would i even come on the second date? Hahaha don’t get me wrong yah, i’m very normal, but it sounded like ur inviting me for a hookup",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message deals with a potential concern the girl man have and flips it back on her.",
"content": "If you’re looking for a hookup then I’m the wrong guy for you. If you’re looking for something more meaningful than that, then this may work. It’s really important for me that I want to see the girl more than once.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im not looking for a hookup",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t like those",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im not even on Tinder as looking for a guy",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message qualifies her while also implying preselection and the options he has in the other women that want to hookup with him.",
"content": "I’m glad you’re different from other Serbian girls",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah u can meet a lot of crazy people here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I downloaded this app with my friend we were just talking to people of course ignoring those idiots",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message deals with a concern that was previously brought up in the conversation. The last part makes it easier for her to agree as it is likely to be something that she is thinking.",
"content": "I’m glad you understand why I always want to meet in public first. I don’t think you’re one of those people but you can never be too safe these days",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah of course i agree",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But im not free until monday",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Monday actually works really well for me!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Until monday if at my work they don’t change my shift",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " They were talking about something ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What r u doing in Serbia anyway",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds amazing! Shoot me your WhatsApp",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
80 | [
"Love you",
"Mean it?",
"Wow that’s fucked up…",
"Haha kidding! We can get a divorce that’s totally fine 😜",
"The dotted line..",
"Just so you know, I’m keeping the dogs!",
"When we were married they all became mine!",
"You can have the house in Australia",
"It was a threesome you can’t call that cheating! Hmm when are you going to come claim my clothes? 😏",
"I think you saw the multiple screaming orgasms in me. Just using me for my body. I have a mind as well",
"I actually fell for your mind",
"Why did you even marry me?",
"Hey, I need to know. What’s your schedule like this week?",
"Sure, I’ll talk to my lawyer and we can figure out a day today",
"You know we are usually trouble together, I hope you can control yourself 😏",
"Only you can touch me till the divorce is finalized",
"Don’t tempt me. You know I’m the last guy you would want to tease",
"I agree the passion was gone. After the divorce we’ll get back to squirting and multiple orgasms",
"She will never smell as good as you. BTW I had deleted your number, what is it now?",
"Oh?",
"Perfect. I’m glad you got over your problem. Really took a toll",
"You worked too much and I was hungry for that delicious pussy",
"Yeah we should get this divorce sorted fast. We need closure. Number?",
"Hey is this the ex wife that loves multiple screaming orgasms?",
"?"
] | They match on Tinder and he opens her with a generic opener. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Love you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " love you too 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Mean it?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha no I thought you were joking ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Wow that’s fucked up…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Haha kidding! We can get a divorce that’s totally fine 😜",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha where do I sign 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "The dotted line..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Just so you know, I’m keeping the dogs!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You can keep yours and I will keep mine ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " So far the conversation has been fun role play, keeping the conversation light and playful.",
"content": "When we were married they all became mine!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You can have the house in Australia",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha ok…but I won’t give you anything our marriage was shit 🤣 since you cheated on me I’ll keep everything…even your clothes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message hints at his sexual value.",
"content": "It was a threesome you can’t call that cheating! Hmm when are you going to come claim my clothes? 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Threesome…great my ex husband…I don’t know what I ever saw in you ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Next week and I will give it to the homeless people they deserve it more",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message frames him as the prize.",
"content": "I think you saw the multiple screaming orgasms in me. Just using me for my body. I have a mind as well",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I think you used me for MY body because lets be honest…I am the hotter person in our marriage",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I actually fell for your mind",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baits her into qualifying him and verbalize what she likes about him. ",
"content": "Why did you even marry me?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Because you have a dog…and house in Australia…and ok I admit you are kinda hot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a soft close. ",
"content": "Hey, I need to know. What’s your schedule like this week?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I will know today…I think we need to sign those papers and resolve this ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps it light while continuing with the roleplay. It is also nonchalant and not too needy. A lot of guys can be too eager to meet up.",
"content": "Sure, I’ll talk to my lawyer and we can figure out a day today",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok, I hope you will behave ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I will try to be polite as well",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message makes the conversation more sexual while holding onto the prize frame.",
"content": "You know we are usually trouble together, I hope you can control yourself 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I would never touch you after she did…so don’t worry",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " In this message, he pulls back and leaves room for her to chase, which she does in her next message, implying they should have sex.",
"content": "Only you can touch me till the divorce is finalized",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No no after the divorce it would be more fun and exciting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Don’t tempt me. You know I’m the last guy you would want to tease",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmmmm when it comes to sex…babe we could have done it better…maybe after the divorce we would do it right",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message portrays his sexual value.",
"content": "I agree the passion was gone. After the divorce we’ll get back to squirting and multiple orgasms",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmmmm we will see I will probably still smell her on you 😭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a fun way to get her number that is in keeping with the role play.",
"content": "She will never smell as good as you. BTW I had deleted your number, what is it now?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have to talk to my lawyer to see if I can give you my number…I changed it because of you you know",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah yeah…you don’t remember all those drunk calls",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Her name) take me back…yeah so I changed it ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes why?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message flips the frame on her.",
"content": "Perfect. I’m glad you got over your problem. Really took a toll",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I started drinking just because of your nymphomania",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message keeps the sexual tone. ",
"content": "You worked too much and I was hungry for that delicious pussy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know what I saw in you…",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We need to end this",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah we should get this divorce sorted fast. We need closure. Number?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " Instead of going back to square one with the messaging, he uses callback humor to open on text.",
"content": "Hey is this the ex wife that loves multiple screaming orgasms?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes my crazy ex…but what about whatss",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You don’t have WhatsApp",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Than text me there 😉",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
81 | [
"Amazing! How are you?",
"Just finishing up writing an article. Yourself?",
"What course? Its generally around how men can improve themselves and understand women on a deeper level. The one I’m writing about now is dirty talk to improve pleasure in the bedroom",
"That makes sense, I think that would suit you",
"Yeah it’s online we have a premium membership group that pay monthly and we provide content on there",
"Well I was traveling the world doing workshops and seminars. Since covid I’ve been spending a lot of time with family, and now that the beaches are open doing some diving",
"So you have hobbies?",
"Explore? Where abouts do you live?",
"(Location) How far is that from you?",
"Perfect",
"Hey, can I be honest with you?",
"I’m a little cautious about this covid situation. Have you been distancing or living as normal?",
"Ah that makes me feel a lot more comfortable. I have been working from home. I wanted to check first. It’s a bit hard to give a socially distant body massage, you know",
"Are you allergic to coconut oil?",
"It’s what I use for my world famous massages! 😏",
"I’m busy with work this weekend, but I can make some time for us early next week. Does that work for you?",
"Perfect! Do you use WhatsApp?",
"(his phone number) shoot me a text",
"This is the girl from tinder with the cute submissive smile right? 😏",
"Good! Btw is that your dog??",
"He looks so adorable. Did you travel through Asia?",
"Do you live by yourself? My parents and sister have a dog, but I travel too often to have a pet",
"Don’t tell me your Finnish 😏",
"I’ve never been actually. But my ex and my business are Swedish, so I spent a lot of time there",
"Have you spent much time in Sweden?",
"Spent most of my time in Stockholm. Although my friend is from the north so also visited his home town",
"So what are you doing in Australia?",
"but, why did you choose Australia?",
"Living i the best city in the world and you don’t even know it yet smh",
"As long as you can handle it 😈",
"Yes, very soon 😏",
"Hey trouble!",
"A little bit of work but then I’m free",
"What game? I don’t have anything planned as of yet",
"Sounds fun! Well I’’ have to invite you over for that booty massage another night then",
"A walk?",
"Oh of course. Do you like wine?",
"Perfect! Let’s split a bottle of wine and hangout sometime this week",
"Friday is the earliest I can be free",
"Great, well have fun tonight and chat soon",
"I’ve picked up the wine for tomorrow!",
"I’ll be free after seven. You didn’t drive right? Do you need me to pick you up?",
"Can you get to (location) station?",
"Does 7:30 work for you?",
"Perfect! I’ll pick you up from there"
] | They matched on Tinder during the COVID-19 pandemic. He super liked her. Then she likes one of his photos and sent the first message. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey how are you doing?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Amazing! How are you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m very well thank you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you up to today?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message leaves room for her to get curious and ask about the article. If she asks about the article, he can tell her about it, maybe even brag about it, and it doesn’t seem as try herd as if he had just told her all about the article straight away.",
"content": "Just finishing up writing an article. Yourself?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m doing a course online so did that for a bit and just chilling otherwise",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What kind of articles do you write?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This topic is something that will get her a little excited or turned on.",
"content": "What course? Its generally around how men can improve themselves and understand women on a deeper level. The one I’m writing about now is dirty talk to improve pleasure in the bedroom",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m doing a course in data science. I wanna learn analytics and programming so it’s a foundation course",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright okay well that’s interesting",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you publish them somewhere?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is challenging because it is unlikely that a hot blonde girl looks like they suit analytics. ",
"content": "That makes sense, I think that would suit you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message tells her that he has some level of authority on the subject of his articles as there are people who are willing to pay for his service.",
"content": "Yeah it’s online we have a premium membership group that pay monthly and we provide content on there",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright that’s cool",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So what else do you do with your time than write? When a girl asks you questions like ‘how's your day?’, ‘what are your hobbies?’ etc it is a great opportunity to show off your personality.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Well I was traveling the world doing workshops and seminars. Since covid I’ve been spending a lot of time with family, and now that the beaches are open doing some diving",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "So you have hobbies?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I used to go to the gym but now I just mainly go for walks and explore random areas",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just trying to think of more things to do I guess given the situation",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The purpose of this message is to figure out logistics.",
"content": "Explore? Where abouts do you live?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I live near (location)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I found a cool nature reserve the other day I didn’t even know was here hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Where abouts are you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The reason he asks how far his address is from her is because he wants the girl to look it up as this suggests a good level of investment from her. It also adds to her level of comfort as, when you invite her over later in the interaction, she has already typed your address into her phone and knows where you live so it reduces the likelihood that she will flake.",
"content": "(Location) How far is that from you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " According to google maps 20min by car",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not too bad",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey, can I be honest with you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah of course ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s up?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message flips the frame and he preemptively brings up a potential objection she would have. This provided comfort for the girl that you have similar concerns. It also calls for her to qualify herself.",
"content": "I’m a little cautious about this covid situation. Have you been distancing or living as normal?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve been home the whole time cause I lost my job so haven’t really had a reason to leave the house besides going for walks",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the date in the flow of conversation. It seems natural.",
"content": "Ah that makes me feel a lot more comfortable. I have been working from home. I wanted to check first. It’s a bit hard to give a socially distant body massage, you know",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha that’s fair enough",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Are you allergic to coconut oil?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nope",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What exactly are you planning? 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message seeds the date in a man-to-woman frame. He seems confident and sure of himself.",
"content": "It’s what I use for my world famous massages! 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahah Alright alright",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And when shall I be expecting to experience it?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m busy with work this weekend, but I can make some time for us early next week. Does that work for you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah that works fine, can’t think of anything at the moment at least that I have to do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect! Do you use WhatsApp?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yep",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your number?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "(his phone number) shoot me a text",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey (student’s name), it’s (her name)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The aim of this message is to continue the vibe that started on tinder. ",
"content": "This is the girl from tinder with the cute submissive smile right? 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Very likely",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good! Btw is that your dog??",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No I wish 😩",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s just a random dog that came to chill with me in the philippines hahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "He looks so adorable. Did you travel through Asia?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I love dogs, we have one at home but I wish I had him here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have any?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And yes I backpacked through a few countries a few years back",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Do you live by yourself? My parents and sister have a dog, but I travel too often to have a pet",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have two roommates, we share a flat",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Finland",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You ever been?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Don’t tell me your Finnish 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ve never been actually. But my ex and my business are Swedish, so I spent a lot of time there",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Everyone always goes to Sweden I don't understand it 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But that’s cool at least you’ve been to Scandinavia ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Have you spent much time in Sweden?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve been in and around Stockholm many times but not really further than that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Spent most of my time in Stockholm. Although my friend is from the north so also visited his home town",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "So what are you doing in Australia?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m finishing my bachelors here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "but, why did you choose Australia?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s a part of the course I’m doing to spend the last two years in Australia. Living in Sydney right now but haven’t had the chance to experience it properly yet.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Living i the best city in the world and you don’t even know it yet smh",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I guess I just need to be convinced 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think I know just the thing..",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright it better be good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "As long as you can handle it 😈",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I guess we need to find out ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes, very soon 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey trouble!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good morning",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How are you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m feeling good not too shabby",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you up to today? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "A little bit of work but then I’m free",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We’re hosting a games night at my place so prepping for that. How about you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What game? I don’t have anything planned as of yet",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Just a bunch of games like uno and cards and stuff like that and then snacks and drinks",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nothing too extravagant",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Sounds fun! Well I’’ have to invite you over for that booty massage another night then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha sure sounds good!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you wanna go for a walk or something before?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "A walk?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yeah, or anything just to hang out for a bit, get more familiar first",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "Oh of course. Do you like wine?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect! Let’s split a bottle of wine and hangout sometime this week",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Alright sounds good!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Friday is the earliest I can be free",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That works for me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Great, well have fun tonight and chat soon",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Thanks!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ve picked up the wine for tomorrow!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds great!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What time are you free?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll be free after seven. You didn’t drive right? Do you need me to pick you up?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It depends on where we’re going. I can take the train/bus",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Can you get to (location) station?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I can! It’ll take me a while so I’ll just need to know when to get there but should be fine!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Does 7:30 work for you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yep that’s good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect! I’ll pick you up from there",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay good, see you then! ",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
82 | [
"Thanks for the super like!",
"Hmm what intrigued you the most?",
"I usually travel the world city to city running workshops coaching men with topic on sex, dominance foreplay, understanding women etc etc.",
"I’ve met some amazing girls from here, I tend to be a good judge of character though. I know a lot of people find it frustrating. Personally I like meeting people in person",
"So close! Are you feeling spontaneous?",
"Glass of wine, and my famous booty massage if there’s chemistry",
"Perfect, I do give amazing massages!",
"I only have red, that would be great",
"What time do you think you could be here?",
"No, I just have plans at midday, feel free to leave whenever you want",
"No bed time here",
"I’m jumping in the shower now, just let me know when you’re close and I’ll come down and let you in",
"Perfect",
"No problem, I’ll be out the front"
] | They match on Tinder. Her bio says: ‘ 🏴 living in Sydney. Not on here for hook up! I like to cuddle but also like a party 😜 I won’t message first because I think that’s your job 🤷♀️’. She didn’t super like him but that is his opener to get a reaction out of her. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Thanks for the super like!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha no worries",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I was very intrigued so didn’t want you to skip past me 😜",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message gives her the opportunity to verbalize what she likes about him and qualify him.",
"content": "Hmm what intrigued you the most?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ve never met a traveling sex writer before and I wondered what that entails 🤔",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re also tall and dominant which i love",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I usually travel the world city to city running workshops coaching men with topic on sex, dominance foreplay, understanding women etc etc.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wow thats very impressive 😯 ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So as a sex/dating coach what’s your take on tinder?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is very easy for the girl to agree to.",
"content": "I’ve met some amazing girls from here, I tend to be a good judge of character though. I know a lot of people find it frustrating. Personally I like meeting people in person",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " For sure, in person is always better",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You’re really close, you live in (location) too?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 8 min drive",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "So close! Are you feeling spontaneous?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol what do you have in mind?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Glass of wine, and my famous booty massage if there’s chemistry",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I do love a massage 😝",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect, I do give amazing massages!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have white wine at your place? I hate red. If not I’ll see if I can grab a bottle",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I only have red, that would be great",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What time do you think you could be here?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I could leave in around 15/20 minutes",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you up early tomorrow?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No, I just have plans at midday, feel free to leave whenever you want",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol just checking you don’t need to be in bed in an hour",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No bed time here",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m jumping in the shower now, just let me know when you’re close and I’ll come down and let you in",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah I’ll message you when im leaving",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Leaving now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 2 mins away",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No problem, I’ll be out the front",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
83 | [
"Hey is this the girl who loves blindfolds & handcuffs?",
"Where are you right now?",
"My plan for Monday is to use my blindfold on you!",
"You’re going to absolutely love every moment of it…",
"How’s 9pm for you?",
"Perfect. I’ll message you the exact address later tonight ;)",
"Hey you’re the one that could steal all my stuff 🤣 but we have security & cameras in this big building so you’re lucky lol",
"How close are you to (student’s address)?",
"That’s okay! Let’s meet around 9:30 then!"
] | The student met the girl in the club. The conversation was made sexual in person. He opens her with a callback to the sexual conversation from their in-person interaction. His first message was sent on the night they met at 3:34am. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey is this the girl who loves blindfolds & handcuffs?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yas its me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Where are you right now?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im in home",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have any plans on Monday or are you free?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "My plan for Monday is to use my blindfold on you!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re going to absolutely love every moment of it…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Trust you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How’s 9pm for you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect. I’ll message you the exact address later tonight ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okey",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I hope you don’t turn out to be a serial killer ahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Hey you’re the one that could steal all my stuff 🤣 but we have security & cameras in this big building so you’re lucky lol",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ahahahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How close are you to (student’s address)?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 5 minutes but I will be a little late ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That’s okay! Let’s meet around 9:30 then!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m here",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
84 | [
"You should’ve worn that collar last night!",
"Good girl.",
"As long as you behave yourself.",
"Likely not. I’ll always find ways to punish you…",
"And I can’t wait to see how I’m going to punish you and when…",
"That’s a great idea! What’s your schedule like next week?",
"Monday would actually work really well for me!",
"We’ll meet at (location) @ 4pm. And bring the collar.",
"It’s okay. Maybe I’ll get you one with my name on one day ;)",
"If you can meet at 6 instead, I’ll have something special for you…",
"You’re absolutely going to love it. And wear what you want. I just want you as you are.",
"I’m hopping in the shower. Let me know when you’re on your way. Meet me at (location).",
"Send live location",
"I mean if you’re close or can’t find you",
"Perfect!",
"Did you get home safe babygirl?",
"Good! Now I can relax!"
] | The met at the club.The interaction goes well and he messages her on WhatsApp the next day at 13:14. She is wearing a collar in her WhatsApp photo so he uses that to open her. | [
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "You should’ve worn that collar last night!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ohh you’re right! I even thought about wearing it but forgot about it when I was leaving my house in a rush haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’ll wear it or something similar when we meet next time ;)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good girl.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aww 🥹 you’re so nice..",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "As long as you behave yourself.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you mean that as long as I’m myself you’ll be nice?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Asking cause I don’t know if I understood you correctly",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Likely not. I’ll always find ways to punish you…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh my god 😯 I think I can’t wait for you to do so..",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "And I can’t wait to see how I’m going to punish you and when…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know when yet, but I think we should meet up before you punish me so you can at least have a reason 🤪",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That’s a great idea! What’s your schedule like next week?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have holidays now so I don’t have much planned, I only have to go to work on Tuesday for an hour cause I have training and then after 2PM I’m free. And on Wednesday I have a house party",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So choose a day and I’ll tell you if I can meet",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Monday would actually work really well for me!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Great 😇 what time and place would you like?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "We’ll meet at (location) @ 4pm. And bring the collar.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Unfortunately I don’t have it with me, I’m sorry.. 😔",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I hope you still want to see me without it haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "It’s okay. Maybe I’ll get you one with my name on one day ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha okay ;p",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "If you can meet at 6 instead, I’ll have something special for you…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah, of course I can. And I can’t wait to see what’s the surprise! 😍 oh and also I wanted to tell you that I might not look as pretty today as in the club.. I’ve got different clothes on and less makeup",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You’re absolutely going to love it. And wear what you want. I just want you as you are.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Aww thank you 🥺",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m hopping in the shower. Let me know when you’re on your way. Meet me at (location).",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m already on my way, most likely I’ll be there at 6:10",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Send live location",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What do you need it for?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I mean if you’re close or can’t find you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Now I’m in (Location) so I’m quite far away 🤪 don’t worry, I’ll find my way, I have Google maps 😛",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay I’m here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Did you get home safe babygirl?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m already in bed",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good! Now I can relax!",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
85 | [
"What’s your schedule like?",
"I’m busy tonight. I think I can make time for us tomorrow or Friday night around 9:30.",
"Friday it is. Be ready by 10",
"Yes. But if you reschedule again I’ll have to punish you.."
] | They met during day game. They are organizing the date but she is trying to reschedule on him. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s your schedule like?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m free after 9, or saturday after 8",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m busy tonight. I think I can make time for us tomorrow or Friday night around 9:30.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m busy tomorrow. Friday sounds good to me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Friday it is. Be ready by 10",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Wait I’m done work at 9",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Actually I can be ready for 10 I think",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Daddy I just realized I have work at 8am on Saturday. Can we reschedule?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes. But if you reschedule again I’ll have to punish you..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Actually who needs sleep? 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I need to cum daddy",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
86 | [
"No problem! I’m back at my penthouse. 3 mins away",
"Perfect! I’ll message you then",
"How’s 8pm?",
"Perfect, I’ll send you the address later ;)",
"That actually works even better for me!",
"Fine I’ll do 6:30 but I want a striptease the moment you walk in…",
"Good girl!",
"How close are you to (student’s address)?",
"If you change one more time, I’m going to punish you…",
"I’ll grab you from security gate when you’re here",
"Coming"
] | He met this girl during day game at around 8am. He sat at her table and his opening line was “Sorry I’m late”. The interaction went well. He ended up paying for her breakfast without her realizing and she used that to open him on WhatsApp at 11am. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you still near? Thank you for paying for my breakfast",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "No problem! I’m back at my penthouse. 3 mins away",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So, write me in the evening if you’re free and I’ll see you ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect! I’ll message you then",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How’s 8pm?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Its ok!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect, I’ll send you the address later ;)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you free at 7pm? Cause I have a dinner later…",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That actually works even better for me!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ok or 6:30 haha its up to you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Fine I’ll do 6:30 but I want a striptease the moment you walk in…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahahahaha ill try",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good girl!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "How close are you to (student’s address)?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I know i change two times the time haha but im late, so at 7? And im near",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "If you change one more time, I’m going to punish you…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " See you at seven, anyway ill write you when im near",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll grab you from security gate when you’re here",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im coming",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im here",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Coming",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
87 | [
"You’re such a good girl.",
"You will be after I’m done with you.",
"First, I’m going to handcuff your hands behind your back. And then I’m going to force you down on your knees and tell you to open your mouth.",
"After I’ve slid my hard cock down your throat and made you gag on it, I’m going to throw you on the bed, flip you over with your ass up and slide my hard cock in you from behind",
"Bring your ass over here.",
"Tomorrow evening could actually work for me! Do you have WhatsApp?",
"Good girl",
"Perfect. Let’s do tomorrow evening"
] | They matched on Tinder. She was giving submissive signals using body language in her profile. He messaged her first. | [
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys sexual dominance.",
"content": "You’re such a good girl.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not sure about it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message doubles down on the sexual dominance.",
"content": "You will be after I’m done with you.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sounds convincing 😈",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " so tell me what you would like to do with me?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys that he is sexually dominant and knows what he is doing in the bedroom. It is important to wait for her to give you the green light before going this sexual over message, otherwise you risk coming off as creepy.",
"content": "First, I’m going to handcuff your hands behind your back. And then I’m going to force you down on your knees and tell you to open your mouth.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " oh fuck im wet already hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message escalates the sexting because she has given the green light to double down in her last message.",
"content": "After I’ve slid my hard cock down your throat and made you gag on it, I’m going to throw you on the bed, flip you over with your ass up and slide my hard cock in you from behind",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " mmm. Yes please!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Bring your ass over here.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i wish, but i am busy till saturday, cause my friend is staying with me",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " and maybe if they dont want to go to the party tomorrow. Can be tomorrow evening.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Tomorrow evening could actually work for me! Do you have WhatsApp?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes i do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Good girl",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " i will be",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So if they don’t want to go to the party I will be free tomorrow from 10pm",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " we are going to the party but I am free tomorrow evening ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect. Let’s do tomorrow evening",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
88 | [
"Do you actually know how to snowboard, or did you just want the Tinder photo?",
"I challenge you to a snowboard race. If you’re brave enough, that it…",
"So you are all warmed up for the challenge already?",
"Yes of course! We have a slope in (student’s apartment building)",
"I just had one installed! It slides right into my bedroom!",
"I’m going to show you. If you’re feeling very brave, let’s add a bet to the challenge…",
"If you win the race, I give you the best experience of your life. If you lose, you have to give me a strong back massage. Deal?",
"I’m going to make you an even better deal",
"If you win, I’ll throw in 20-30 orgasms as a bonus. I’m feeling very nice today!",
"It won’t take that long, maybe 1-2 hours. I was born ready. The real question is, do you think your body is ready for that many orgasms?",
"Oh it’s definitely possible. What’s the most you’ve ever had with a guy before?",
"So you prefer to have very strong & intense orgasms?",
"Imagine having 20 of them… you’re going to be absolutely addicted and hooked",
"I know so from experience.",
"it's easy to tell a real orgasm from a fake one. Some things cannot be faked - such as some of the contractions, the heavy muscle convulsions. But I also always make sure to create a dynamic where we’re completely open and the girl would never feel the need to lie or fake anything.",
"I love giving them! It’s my passion! 👅",
"What about you? What are you passionate about in bed?",
"When are you going to show me?",
"Today may be the most perfect day actually…",
"(His building) 8pm.",
"Perfect, message me when you’re on your way",
"See you soon!",
"Yes there’s wine!",
"Did you park?"
] | They matched on Tinder. She had a photo of her posing with a snowboard. He used this to send the opening message. | [
{
"coach_comment": " Girls will often feel compelled to respond if you challenge them. This is what he is doing here.",
"content": "Do you actually know how to snowboard, or did you just want the Tinder photo?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I know very well, probably better than you 😘",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message doubles down on the challenge. We can tell from her previous response that she responds well to being challenged. ",
"content": "I challenge you to a snowboard race. If you’re brave enough, that it…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " How",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just came back from Andorra haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And from Dubai where i went for ski dubai to try it hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "So you are all warmed up for the challenge already?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " yes but i still cant imagine this hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do you have a slope in your home? 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes of course! We have a slope in (student’s apartment building)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Baby even (student’s apartment building) doesnt have a slope. Thats why living in Warsaw is not perfect 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I just came here 5 days ago after 2 years in Barcelona",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I just had one installed! It slides right into my bedroom!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I dont believe you 🤓",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Must see 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m going to show you. If you’re feeling very brave, let’s add a bet to the challenge…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im not feeling brave. I am brave but its more about feeling curious haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oki, what bet? 😁",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "If you win the race, I give you the best experience of your life. If you lose, you have to give me a strong back massage. Deal?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " If i win the race on the slope which slides into your bed, yea? 🤣",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " This deal is starting to get interesting hahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m going to make you an even better deal",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Go ahead",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "If you win, I’ll throw in 20-30 orgasms as a bonus. I’m feeling very nice today!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " hahaha it takes a long time",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Are you ready?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "It won’t take that long, maybe 1-2 hours. I was born ready. The real question is, do you think your body is ready for that many orgasms?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " No i think thats impossible for sure haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The purpose of this message is to get her to open up and invest in the conversation more.",
"content": "Oh it’s definitely possible. What’s the most you’ve ever had with a guy before?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Not too many 😅 the most important is way to get it ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Better when it takes longer",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but of course it depends on the woman",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think so",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "So you prefer to have very strong & intense orgasms?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Obviously!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Imagine having 20 of them… you’re going to be absolutely addicted and hooked",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I need to experience it to believe it 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Why do you think you are so strong in it?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I know so from experience.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " usually girls pretend",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I dont know why",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " but ive heard",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "it's easy to tell a real orgasm from a fake one. Some things cannot be faked - such as some of the contractions, the heavy muscle convulsions. But I also always make sure to create a dynamic where we’re completely open and the girl would never feel the need to lie or fake anything.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " sounds good ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But im still curious why you are so focused on that",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I love giving them! It’s my passion! 👅",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " nice passion hahaha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " ",
"content": "What about you? What are you passionate about in bed?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " haha i can show you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You gonna love it 🤭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "When are you going to show me?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When do you want?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Today could be a good day 🤭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Today may be the most perfect day actually…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " When and where🤭",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "(His building) 8pm.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " We are all set",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Perfect, message me when you’re on your way",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oki",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im on way",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "See you soon!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But i will be late a little cause i need to park somewhere",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I hope that we are going to drink something hahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes there’s wine!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Arrived",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Im in the car in front of entrance haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Did you park?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
89 | [
"You have such a beautiful smile in your first 2 photos",
"You’ll never guess why I got it",
"It’s a bit explicit. You’re not some kind of good girl, are you?",
"As a Dominant, I can always identify a submissive girl",
"i know… exactly my type",
"I know what you like",
"You love a guy that leads, who can take control in the bedroom",
"I know it can be very hard for you to find a guy that satisfies those needs",
"Yes I totally understand. For me, there’s nothing hotter than bending a girl over and spanking her with my paddle",
"I can imagine my hands around your neck, and sliding my hard dick in you while you gasp for air",
"If you were here right now I’d absolutely ruin you",
"Do you work the next 2 days?",
"Call in sick",
"There’s nothing more I’d like to do than tie you up and fuck you hard all night",
"Where’s your nearest bus station?",
"I’ve got great wine at my place. Just let me know what time you’re free",
"That’s actually perfect for me. Do you have WhatsApp?",
"What’s your IG?"
] | They matched on Tinder. The girl is hiding her face with her phone in the first two photos in her profile so he uses that to open her with. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You have such a beautiful smile in your first 2 photos",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay, thanks I guess.. But I’m not smiling in any of this photos hahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And actually.. This 2 first photos aren’t these ones where I’m hiding behind my phone? 🙈 😂",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I have to tell you that you have such a nice tattoo 😅 There are many things that can be said in response to these messages. The first two messages offer little to escalate with so it would be better to open a dialogue about the tattoos.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a baiting message that compels her to ask for more. ",
"content": "You’ll never guess why I got it",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Probably I won’t, so tell me why you got it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This encourages a sexual frame by framing being a ‘good girl’ as a bad thing.",
"content": "It’s a bit explicit. You’re not some kind of good girl, are you?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I don’t know, I would say I’m something between I guess hah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sometimes I’m good, sometimes i’m not haha",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But you can tell, cause I’m so curious about it now hah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "As a Dominant, I can always identify a submissive girl",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well, you right I am submissive",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "i know… exactly my type",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " That’s good",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Finally I’m in somebody’s type",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I know what you like",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh really?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "You love a guy that leads, who can take control in the bedroom",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Sure, but only in the bedroom",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I know it can be very hard for you to find a guy that satisfies those needs",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah, unfortunately it’s so true",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yes I totally understand. For me, there’s nothing hotter than bending a girl over and spanking her with my paddle",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yes, I love when someone does this and then pulls my hair or grabs my neck so that I can barely breathe",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I can imagine my hands around your neck, and sliding my hard dick in you while you gasp for air",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh god, don’t say anything cause it makes me feel like I need a guy right now",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a very sexual way to soft close.",
"content": "If you were here right now I’d absolutely ruin you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d like that idea",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I really need somebody to fuck me hard",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Do you work the next 2 days?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Unfortunately I do",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Call in sick",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can’t, I just got this job and that will be my first days",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "There’s nothing more I’d like to do than tie you up and fuck you hard all night",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’d really like that to",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Can’t imagine anything better right now ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Where’s your nearest bus station?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Pretty far, but I’m getting this new job in Warsaw and I’m coming tomorrow or actually its today already",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So maybe some day we could get some wine or drinks and then go to your place or somewhere",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ve got great wine at my place. Just let me know what time you’re free",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Actually I don’t know when I’ll be free, it depends on my work, but I’ll find out everything at Friday",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But I think even at Friday, after work I should find some time",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That’s actually perfect for me. Do you have WhatsApp?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I dont",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I have only ig or snapchat",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What’s your IG?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Her instagram)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
90 | [
"Boy?",
"how’d you know?!"
] | They matched on Hinge. He messages her first with a generic opener. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hey troublemaker",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol howd you know 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can see it in your eyes",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I may like to have some fun here and there",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I can dig it. Tell me you have my other weakness",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh noo, what might that be?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " A kinky and wild side This message doesn’t make much sense in the context of the conversation. It would have been better to point out a physical attribute the girl may have. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahah add alcohol in my system and its a mother fucking party",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " My kinda girl… you know what happens to trouble like you",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol enlighten me boy A girl calling a guy ‘boy’ is often an insult, even if it wasn’t intended as one. A good response to this would be “Boy?”",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " They get punishment",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol is your dicks name the punishment? In this message she is playfully trolling him. When a girl does this, the correct response is to playfully troll her back. A better response would have been “how’d you know?!”",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Nope. It’s handcuffing you, bending you over my lap and fucking you hard while I grip and pull on your hair ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hahaha make sure you add a gagball, can’t have a bitch speak It is clear from her messages that she is more into cracking jokes and having fun rather than actually investing in the sexting. The fact that the student is still attempting to escalate shows his lack of social skills. ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Bitches can’t speak during punishment. And I wouldnt stop there 😏",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Unless you’re shy of course",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hola chica",
"role": "Student"
}
] |
91 | [
"yes.",
"It’s a long story. I’ll tell you over a bottle of wine"
] | They matched on tinder. He sent the first message. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m curious about something ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What are you curious about 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But first I need to ask if you’re open minded",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Very",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Do men realize that you’re quite submissive to the right kind of dominant man? This is a general cold read that could apply to many women. ",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So you are the right kind of dominant man?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " would have been more effective. ",
"content": "yes.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think my type is dominant men for sure",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m very passionate and aggressive when it counts. I can tell you’d love having your hair pulled, choked, bent over randomly and being spanked",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " This is normal sex to me haha This message is a good indicator that he can go harder with the sexualisation.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Good. Now I know you can handle handcuffs, bed restraints, toys, multiple screaming oral orgasms and squirting This message doubles down on the sexting.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes 100%, do you have a safe word?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay the best sex I have ever had is when a guy made me squirt soooo heck yeah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " It’s ‘peaches’. Gotta honor the state somehow. This keeps the conversation light and playful by adding some humor.",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Perfect. I’ll be sure to make you squirt 4-6 times on our intense date then",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Shit so real question, how do you become a sexologist",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": ".",
"content": "It’s a long story. I’ll tell you over a bottle of wine",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " (Her phone number)",
"role": "Her"
}
] |
92 | [
"Let’s meet at 10:30. (Student’s address). Just message me when you’re on your way!",
"I live with my business partner, but he’s out meeting clients tonight!",
"Tonight is my night off! I’ve been working very hard!",
"We won’t be strangers… we’re going to sit down and get to know each other first! You’re going to feel like you’ve known me forever! If you want to leave, I’m going to order you an Uber and give you a hug goodbye! But that’s very, very unlikely…",
"See you at 10:30!"
] | They matched on a dating app. They have exchanged numbers. The have organized to meet. | [
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Let’s meet at 10:30. (Student’s address). Just message me when you’re on your way!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay, do you live alone or with your friends?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I live with my business partner, but he’s out meeting clients tonight!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And you don’t have to?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Tonight is my night off! I’ve been working very hard!",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha Okay I believe",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " You know what, I don’t think this is a good idea, I’ve never dated a stranger that I’ve never seen to bed 😅",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is designed to make her feel more comfortable by assuring her that she is entering into a pressureless situation which she can leave at any time. It also reassures her that he will be as fun, interesting and attractive in person as he has been over text.",
"content": "We won’t be strangers… we’re going to sit down and get to know each other first! You’re going to feel like you’ve known me forever! If you want to leave, I’m going to order you an Uber and give you a hug goodbye! But that’s very, very unlikely…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Haha you are smart",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "See you at 10:30!",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
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"Which one do you have..",
"Do you have a nice ass?",
"Good.",
"So what fun things have you been up to?",
"I try to stay busy with working out, cooking, gaming, and working on my online business",
"It’s a little controversial…",
"I essentially teach men how to have better dating and sex lives",
"I’m very serious, it’s a passion of mine",
"Which part?",
"And I’m on here to meet women worth my time. I’m done with the hot casual hookups. I value chemistry before I decide to see someone again.",
"That’s a shame, looks like you haven’t had a guy that can give you a good time",
"I’m very curious about something..",
"Do you like being choked and eaten out?",
"Then I know exactly what I’d do to you..",
"First I’d pin you to the wall and start kissing your neck while slowly sliding my hand down your body and over your chest, as I bite and whisper in your ear how I’m about to fuck the shit out of you, I start teasing your pussy with my fingers..",
"Then I slowly slide my fingers over your clit and on the outside of your pussy until I put them inside of you and finger you until you start dripping, then I grab you by your thighs and lift you up as we keep kissing and throw you on the bed…",
"I’ll whisper into your ear that I want to get you dripping right onto the floor and tease the fuck out of you until you beg me to fuck you as I am running my hands under your shirt and taking it oof slowly as I push my body against yours. Your skin will be turning red, your breaths will be heavier, your body is going to be getting hotter as I grab the back of your neck and grab your hair while I bend you over the edge of the bed. I will hear that you’re gonna start gasping and letting them little moans coming out of you as you feel my hands against your skin as I run it down your spine on my fingertips. I will spank your ass so bad that even with your pants on you will have my handprints underneath. Your panties will be getting soaking wet and you will be driven crazy",
"Too bad I’m not there to lick you clean 😏",
"I’m hard just thinking about it",
"I’m not opposed to hookups, just has to be with the right person",
" 😏",
"Before seeing someone again",
"But yeah",
"Don’t get me wrong, I love sex..",
"But I especially love giving oral orgasms",
"One could say :)",
"Yeah? You like eating pussy too?",
"I’d like to see how good",
"What do you like?",
"Both. As in what are your kinks/ what turns you on?",
"Doggy is my favorite position",
"I’d softly bite your neck to tease you",
"What are you up to right now?",
"Just ate an edible",
"And eating food",
"Thai food. Amazing.",
"Oh yeah?",
"Nope",
"Text me (student’s phone number)"
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{
"coach_comment": " This message makes her qualify.",
"content": "Which one do you have..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Tattoos and I’ve been told I have a nice ass",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message makes her further qualify.",
"content": "Do you have a nice ass?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yes I suppose",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message rewards her compliance so far.",
"content": "Good.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "So what fun things have you been up to?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm gaming and work 😂 playing with my dogs",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baits her into asking about his business.",
"content": "I try to stay busy with working out, cooking, gaming, and working on my online business",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " What’s your business",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message makes her chase for the answer.",
"content": "It’s a little controversial…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " well let me decide that for myself",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message DHV’s him and gives him sexual authority.",
"content": "I essentially teach men how to have better dating and sex lives",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Really? Like doesn’t bother me I just wanna make sure you’re serious",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m very serious, it’s a passion of mine",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " So are you good at it though like you yourself?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message forces her to verbalize what she is asking about. If she explicitly asks for it, it will come across more natural and less braggy than if her just came out and said it.",
"content": "Which part?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Well I guess the sex? And if you’re teaching others about how to have better dating lives why are you on here? ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": " The fact that he wants to meet women worth his time implies high standards. Saying he is done with hot casual hookups implies preselection. Saying that he values chemistry handles an objection she may have before she vocalizes it. ",
"content": "And I’m on here to meet women worth my time. I’m done with the hot casual hookups. I value chemistry before I decide to see someone again.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I think that’s the first time I’ve heard that reason. It’s hard finding guys worth my actual time and feelings. I don’t keep my hopes up but keep my expectations low. Been disappointed many times. ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And I’ve rarely had guys give me one let alone 10",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "That’s a shame, looks like you haven’t had a guy that can give you a good time",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I haven’t had a guy that is decent enough to be called a man.",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message is a compliance test. It gives curiosity as the justification for escalating sexually.",
"content": "I’m very curious about something..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Okay.. shoot",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Do you like being choked and eaten out?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I haven’t been choked much.. But being dominated kinda turns me on like the thought of it. Never really explored that side of sex. And yes if a guy is good at eating out",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message baits her into asking what he’d do. There is an increased probability of compliance if she asks about it.",
"content": "Then I know exactly what I’d do to you..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh yeah? What’s that?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This message conveys dominance, focuses on her pleasure and is a gradual build up where she’s always asking for him to continue and chases it.",
"content": "First I’d pin you to the wall and start kissing your neck while slowly sliding my hand down your body and over your chest, as I bite and whisper in your ear how I’m about to fuck the shit out of you, I start teasing your pussy with my fingers..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😏",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah? Then what?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Then I slowly slide my fingers over your clit and on the outside of your pussy until I put them inside of you and finger you until you start dripping, then I grab you by your thighs and lift you up as we keep kissing and throw you on the bed…",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Chemistry huh? Lol I like it keep going",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’ll whisper into your ear that I want to get you dripping right onto the floor and tease the fuck out of you until you beg me to fuck you as I am running my hands under your shirt and taking it oof slowly as I push my body against yours. Your skin will be turning red, your breaths will be heavier, your body is going to be getting hotter as I grab the back of your neck and grab your hair while I bend you over the edge of the bed. I will hear that you’re gonna start gasping and letting them little moans coming out of you as you feel my hands against your skin as I run it down your spine on my fingertips. I will spank your ass so bad that even with your pants on you will have my handprints underneath. Your panties will be getting soaking wet and you will be driven crazy",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Damn… imma be feeling a type of way tonight",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": " This is a kind of sexual soft close.",
"content": "Too bad I’m not there to lick you clean 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😏 😉",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m hard just thinking about it",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Now if you’re as good as you claim. But idk you saying you’re not looking for hookups then why go through all that?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’m not opposed to hookups, just has to be with the right person",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ah",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😏",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I’m not saying I’m looking for a hookup. I was just wondering you said you valued chemistry before deciding to see someone",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Before seeing someone again",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But yeah",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Don’t get me wrong, I love sex..",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " But? Seems like there’s a but coming",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "But I especially love giving oral orgasms",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh so talented with your tongue?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "One could say :)",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm I guess that makes two of us ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Yeah? You like eating pussy too?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 😂 no ",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " I mean I wouldn’t say I enjoy sucking dick but I’m good at it",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’d like to see how good",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 🤷♀️",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What do you like?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Hmm what do I like to do or what do I like done?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Both. As in what are your kinks/ what turns you on?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Like I said I haven’t explored many kinks at all. Most guys just do their own thing. But I like being bitten softly. Again some domination though haven’t explored that a lot. Hmm my favorite position is probably doggy. But haven’t done a lot of those either",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Doggy is my favorite position",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "I’d softly bite your neck to tease you",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Boy you know how to talk it up don’t you",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " 🤷🏻♂️",
"role": "Student"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Lol",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "What are you up to right now?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Getting food",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " And you?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Just ate an edible",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "And eating food",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Oh dang how’s that and what did you eat??",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Thai food. Amazing.",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Ooo yum! I love Asian food!",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Oh yeah?",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": " Yeah also do you have snap?",
"role": "Her"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Nope",
"role": "assistant"
},
{
"coach_comment": null,
"content": "Text me (student’s phone number)",
"role": "assistant"
}
] |
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