How do you think my hair got so curly Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you Seems we’ve found our perfect matches Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol You like wine btw? What’s your go to? That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it How have you been? Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like? No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it Potential romance* Messaged
They both met on Bumble, the girl texted first. Recipes were inconsistent and, on two occasions, she didn’t reply for long periods of time so the student had to prompt her to reply. The student needed to be persistent without being needy so he mirrored her interest level.
 Do you eat the crust on the pizza?
Her
 This is a lighthearted response. It’s a common story that eating the crusts gives you curly hair and the student had curly hair. He could have answered the question more logically but this was more fun and opened up another route of conversation as she also had curly hair.
How do you think my hair got so curly
assistant
 You have a point, however my hair isn’t curly and I rarely eat crust
Her
 This is a funny exaggeration of the joke because everyone knows that eating the crusts doesn’t make your hair curly but this message goes along with the joke that was established in the previous message.
Hmm, maybe you’re a medical marvel
assistant
 In that I survived so long while being this dumb, absolutely! But we definitely need more research on the crust curl situation
Her
 It is good to briefly mention the idea of a date when talking to a girl on a dating app as it is the only reason to be on there but so many men have conversations that are too long and lead nowhere.
I’m sure we can carry out some of that research on our date
assistant
 Strictly for data gathering purposes, correct?
Her
 This message turns around the idea that it is usually the man who wants to have sex as soon as possible and puts the girl into that frame instead, implying that she just wants to have sex. It can also be powerful, as the man, to deny sex up front as it is usually the girl who will do this.
Of course, I don’t want to see any funny stuff from you
assistant
 I can promise to put on my most serious face
Her
 The issue is the thought of that cracks me up
Her
 Data gathering or going on a date
Student
 Me being serious
Her
 Glad you don’t take yourself too seriously
Student
 appreciating the utter silliness of everything makes everything a lil better, for sure
Her
 Couldn’t avoid it anyway tbh
Her
 Couldn’t agree more
Student
 So give me the basics. Any kids? Tattoos? Fun kinks? Crazy hobbies?
Student
 No kids, no tattoos although I do wish I could be cannot, kinks are pretty chill as far as kinks go, and unluckily enough I could say the same about my hobbies!
Her
 Not really selling myself here, I can see that 😂
Her
 Also very sorry, I’m at work so reply times may be random, I apologise
Her
 But do give me your breakdown
Her
 What’s stopping you getting tattoos?
Student
 No kids, 6 tatts, kinks the usual spanking, hair pulling, choking etc, and I play guitar, read, write, gym and run
Student
 I studied acting and still somehow not given up on the idea, so it’s more or less for employability. We’ll see.
Her
 What’s the direction those go though?
Her
 The kinks, that is 😂
Her
 I respect you keeping the dream alive, I’m in a similar boat with music
Student
 They’re interchangeable, did you have a preference?
Student
 May they come true
Her
 I mean, you know, I’m as much of a switch as the next guy but that’s cause we’re adults, however I do prefer the other person or people to lead ngl
Her
 I don’t mind switching from time to time but I definitely prefer taking the lead
Student
 Oh lucky us
Her
 This message can be good when you find something you have in common with a girl and imply that you are perfect for each other. 
Seems we’ve found our perfect matches
assistant
 If only it were that easy huh
Her
 Had a good day?
Her
 Great thanks, had a mock interview in uni, went for a run, repotted a couple of plants and cooked dinner, you?
Student
 Sounds fab! Oddly enough, I’ve also repotted some plants because I had the day off, but chilled most of it
Her
 Sounds good, always enjoy meeting people who also like plants. How many you got?
Student
 Never actually counted them
Her
 Atm I’m struggling to not have them pass out cause of the cold
Her
 but wbu, how many leafy bois
Her
 It’s a hard but rewarding life being a plant parent. I’ve got 10 atm just got a Venus fly trap for my birthday last weekend 
Student
 Omg did you name it
Her
 Do you name all your plants?
Student
 My friends and flatmate name them for me but we immediately forget the names 😂
Her
 There’s a little chopstick that says Felix, that’s the only reliable one, and that chopstick is half buried in the soil of one of the pots. The issue is the pot has two plants in it, no one knows who tf Felix is
Her
 The conversation felt like it was getting too nice/ bland/ boring so this tease creates a small negative spike in her emotions, making the conversation a little more interesting.
Can’t believe you forget your plants names, bet they feel super neglected lol
assistant
 The conversation had been going on for a while at this point and, generally, you want to move the girl over to texting/ Whatsapp/ iMessage as soon as possible. This message is a good start to the process leading up to ask her on a date. 
You like wine btw?
assistant
 😢
Her
 Not my go to but I don’t dislike it
Her
 When you get this response to the wine close it is simpler to ask her what her favorite drink is. Don’t try to force wine on her and don’t overcomplicate things. 
What’s your go to?
assistant
 Ruuuuuum
Her
 I don’t really drink all that much though 
Her
 The aim of this message is to establish the idea of a date and create a man-to-woman frame. 
That’s okay, I’m not a big drinker either. We can still laugh, flirt and build chemistry while being sober
assistant
 Sorry for falling off the face of the earth, went home and it was mad
Her
 I hope you’ve been ok though
Her
 Since the girl hadn’t responded in a while, the aim of this message is to show that you are unaffected by her absence with a slight display of higher value that you have other things going on in your life.
No worries, I’ve been good. Busy but that’s how I like it
assistant
How have you been?
assistant
 I’m very glad
Her
 I wanna say I rested a bit while at home but that’s a big ol lie
Her
 I feel alright though, and got a few days off this week so I’m not being thrown straight back into the deep end of insanity and work and all
Her
 What have you been up to?
Her
 Fair enough lol where’s home? I’ve had a couple of gigs, started my 2nd placement at uni so that’s been pretty full on and still managed to have a social life as well
Student
 Home is Bucharest, in Romania. Sounds like you’ve been doing super well! I’m glad
Her
 wow how come you’re in manchester?
Student
 Yeah, I’ll tell you in more detail over drinks
Student
 Thinking hard about that I see
Student
 It’s been absolutely hysterical, sorry
Her
 good hysterical?
Student
 Busy and too much kinda hysterical
Her
 This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress
Sounds like you could use some stress relief” This message is a good way to move towards a date. Women usually agree with this statement so a good follow up to this would be “I hear drinks with a handsome, (something else about their physical appearance, hobbies, job) man does wonders for stress
assistant
 You’re not wrong
Her
 This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief
I hear drinks with a handsome curly-haired man does wonders for stress” This message is a good reply to “sounds like you could use some stress relief
assistant
 is this method peer-reviewed
Her
 Academia approved
Her
 Rated on tripadvisor?
Her
 This message continues her joke.
Researched, peer reviewed and widely accepted by the scientific community
assistant
 I’ll have to take your word for it, i suppose
Her
 You’re a rum girl if I remember correctly?
Student
 Am indeed
Her
 This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?
We should split a bottle sometime soon” This message moves forward with the idea of a date and meeting up in person. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ is good to use as it is ambiguous and open to interpretation. It is usually better than suggesting a specific day to meet up as that particular day may not work for her. The phrase ‘sometime soon’ allows for you to open the dialogue of when the date will happen and should often precede the message “What’s your schedule like?
assistant
 Most definitely, the only issue is I’m ont free for the next week or so
Her
 This message can come across as corny but is funny most of the time. It shows the girl that you aren’t overly eager to meet up and you have patience. 
No worries, I’m sure our potential romance can stand the test of time
assistant
 It is usually best to move a girl off the dating app and get her number.
Shoot me your number and we’ll sort it
assistant
 Romance HAH
Her
 This message shows that you are cool, collected and not sold on her yet by drawing attention to the fact that your previous message talked about potential romance, not romance.
Potential romance*
assistant
 Awful 😂
Her
 (phone number)
Her
 It can be useful to send this message on the dating app after messaging her number. Sometimes texts don’t go through, get lost among others or she exclusively uses WhatsApp when you sent her an iMessage. This message just lets her know you are still interested and that you have followed up after her giving you her number.
Messaged
assistant