 Others question whether the virtues of the prospective parent are the same as those of an existing parent. For, although some hold that a desire to have a hand in the characteristics of one’s future children is part of a broader desire to parent and thus requires “committing oneself to acting and evaluating one’s actions and decisions in light of the project of parenthood” (Vehmas 2001: 439), others argue that a desire to select is not incompatible with such a commitment. Kamm argues, for example, that a distinction can be made between ‘caring to have’ a particular child and ‘caring about’ one’s future children once born and suggests that there is little reason to assume that the desire to seek out certain attributes in one’s children is incompatible with parental virtues or common conceptions of the good parent. She notes