Look at any photo or film of people making love, really making love.  … there is usually sensuality and touch and warmth, an acceptance of bodies and nerve endings. … Now look at any depiction of sex in which there is clear force, or an unequal power that spells coercion. … The first is erotic: a mutually pleasurable, sexual expression between people who have enough power to be there by positive choice. … The second is pornographic: its message is violence, dominance, and conquest. (Steinem 1995: 31)