  Persons want to belong to themselves insofar as they identify themselves as subjects of their idiosyncratic desires.  They do this because they have forgotten or are unaware of their true identity as disembodied intellects.  If persons recognize their true identity, they would not be oriented to the objects of their embodied desire but to the objects of intellect.  They would be able to look upon the subject of those embodied desires as alien to their true selves.