"That is what a protector does. They sometime have to go without to make sure those they care about are safe. The pain that their loved ones would bare you takes it on yourself to spare them.  It sounds like you have done this a lot for them. You shouldn't feel upset or angry for this, be proud, be proud that you do so much to protect those you care for so deeply, that you would suffer so much for them."  Winona looked me dead in the eyes the whole time she was talking; she was doing her best to drive her point home to me.